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00:05so my family we grew up very very sheltered very wholesome very simple but then things really
00:11changed i really don't like change you've told me you can't accept how our values don't align
00:17then i don't see the future with us together you know my older brother my parents we are moving
00:23forward with a divorce no family's perfect we've all just changed one way or another for better or
00:30worse it's the first serious relationship i've had since olivia i most definitely am in love with tegan
00:36he's it he's the one how can you explain falling in love with someone you know what i mean
00:41my name is zach great to meet you i can't wait to just be hopefully engaged by the end of
00:48the day
00:48will you marry me please say no yes my whole family feels uncomfortable nobody is really happy
00:58other than my dad i got the memo be the dad that lydia wants you to be i feel like
01:05barry wants
01:06everybody to like him i think that's why he signed off on the marriage so quickly
01:10what was going on with veronica and micah that was really not good you're not emotionally
01:18intelligent grow a pair you're talking so far down to me veronica sees a headline and she says
01:25your brother's girlfriend has an only fancy he wants to see it i was concerned about the wedding
01:31itself and then veronica just kind of pushed me over the edge
01:37nobody really knows the full extent of how crazy it was i think we need to leave
01:42go back to boca and i i we are done ethan couldn't get over the fact that he thinks zach
01:48is gay
01:49talk about lack of any respect for someone's wedding especially your sisters and we need to
01:55have a conversation with with them at some point we just felt very very disrespected
02:17growing up as an only child i always wanted a large family
02:22healthy fresh air lots of music and lots of love and i wanted to share that with people
02:27it was beautiful the farm was the perfect place for all of those things to come together
02:39and the farm has always been the place we all come back to
02:52which is why after years away i've finally returned
02:59i've moved back here with the girls we have two dogs three kittens and we're finally settled
03:05i didn't want to live at the farm during the divorce because it was hard to be so close to
03:11barry knowing that if i had to go run errands i might see him but now the divorce is done
03:18and i'm back home and i'm reclaiming my life have you ever seen anything cuter than this
03:24yes this he's so cute look at this one he's cuter
03:32i'm here with the girls half the time and the other half the time they're with barry
03:38and somebody else lives here with us too
03:41who's that
03:45ken
03:49for the first couple years after barry and i separated
03:53i just wasn't sure exactly what i wanted and i couldn't be serious about somebody when i was
04:00legally still married to somebody else so ken and i broke up a few months before lydia's wedding
04:06but then when the divorce was finalized like we realized that we did want to be with each other
04:17when ken moved in we wanted it to feel like it's his home too and so we let him decorate
04:23it however
04:23he wanted and he even brought a jukebox
04:29mercy has learned the synthesizer part to jump by van halen from listening to the jukebox
04:36and it's definitely different than when we lived at the farm years ago we didn't have a jukebox playing
04:4280s classic rock
04:45come here lexi
04:46i'm definitely happy i'm back
04:49it isn't perfect and i've made lots of mistakes but lucky me i've got lots of people willing to tell
04:55me
04:55when i mess something up
05:01anywhere we go there we go there we go yeah it feels like feels like home
05:07what did you think of church this morning oh it was so good yeah
05:12just a little laundry to do i think the rest of the house is pretty much in order
05:16okay sides for this stuff okay
05:21what was that it was just the phone case
05:25so we've known each other over a year now
05:29made it
05:31these are just all your shirts right
05:33i think you have a few few years
05:36oh that one's mine
05:37that someone's different here what's going on
05:39yeah so i i have decided to go with contacts because
05:45because after he got married i just kept smudging them up so he smudged up his glasses
05:50how did you smudge up his glasses
05:52i wonder
05:56anyway
05:58this is our apartment
06:01it's everything we need
06:02we're able to host people
06:04play games and hang out
06:06because that's what we've always wanted to do
06:08just have people over and have a good time
06:12now what is it like for you going from living
06:14in a bachelor pad to with a wife
06:17it's nice to come home to a home that has been created by my wife
06:22i love having a reason to clean the home
06:24moving in together was
06:27so much easier than people made it out to be
06:29i don't think there are any things that like he does that annoys me
06:33he knows not to leave the toilet seat up
06:35he knows not to crowd the counter space because that's for me to do
06:40i'm truly surprised how well we adjusted to living together and just building a home together
06:46so be honest
06:48what is life like living with me as your wife
06:54amazing of course
06:55but after 10 p.m. you are on a different level
07:05is the honeymoon phase over yet
07:08nope
07:10zach sees a sign of me that no one else will ever see ever know about
07:14that's that
07:14i think i've uh
07:17not only introduced her but also
07:20watered the seed of of curiosity for her in this realm and so i think uh
07:27it's fun to see her and and me just like interact in those ways
07:34lydia zach just said you're naughty
07:38it's true
07:44dear lord thank you for this food thank you for this time together
07:47a wonderful day at church in your name amen
07:55so good
07:56the best part of marriage has just been being fully known and fully loved
08:03the best part of married life is definitely learning
08:05whether it's learning about lydia or learning about myself
08:11take your time
08:13and be who she needs
08:16in times of need so
08:20we have two empty chairs
08:22i am excited to have start a family and everything with you and
08:28i like feel like i'm ready to be a mother
08:33i can agree
08:35yeah traveling's really fun with you though
08:37we still have a lot of places we want to go
08:40it's not that we're going to stop traveling when we have kids
08:43there'll just be fewer and far between and more special
08:46because there'll be more people to share with
08:49yeah so we got married in february
08:51it's been eight months and so we're planning to wait a year
08:54before we start a family
08:56four months left
08:57four months left
08:58who's counting
09:00apparently you
09:02i love the idea of starting a family with you
09:05i'm ready
09:06we're just preparing our lives for another human being
09:10we don't want to you
09:11and we don't want to me
09:25i know mariah and micah are only in town for a limited time but
09:30we were hoping to have that conversation for the whole family and everything
09:36it's been eight months of zach and i praying sorting through everything and what happened
09:42leading up to the wedding
09:44i feel like you've been mistreated and lied about and that first year has been hard
09:52we just want to have one conversation with the whole family in one place
09:55there are so many assumptions made about both of us
09:58it did some damage and we've had to deal with that for the months that we've been married
10:03you're saving your first kiss for your wedding
10:05yeah
10:06how do you do that
10:08i gotta ask you
10:09yeah
10:11are you gay
10:14i know i'm i'm straight but we had to iron out those assumptions
10:19and then show each other that we actually cared for each other more than anything that anyone said
10:24about us
10:26i gotta learn what how to move forward in that so obviously want to be there to support you
10:30if you gotta teach your some stuff out in that so
10:33i don't think i have to figure anything out i think i just need to say a few things
10:38okay
10:40let's go
10:40let's go
10:47out of the kitchen
10:56i was living up in minnesota and then i moved down here to georgia in july
11:02i just wanted to have a change of scenery and be closer to family and everything
11:07so i've been down here getting the farm in shape building this barn and you know lots of land
11:13work cutting down trees mowing staying at the farm or at my dad's house depending on what i'm doing
11:20just seeing what it's like to live back down here
11:25are you divorced yet no she olivia will not call or respond do anything she's purposely trying to hold me
11:34up trying to make my life hell
11:38i believe olivia won't let me go um because she doesn't want to let me move on to anybody else
11:48i think that's what i think that's what's going on with tegan
12:18and i'll never do anything that's what i'll tell you 강
12:48Ignored him, said, you know, I'm out of the country, I'll get back to you when I'm home.
12:53And then weeks later, when she comes back, she never does anything.
12:56So he has to start over, get him trying, and nothing ever has happened.
13:06Sometimes in life, you're lucky enough to meet somebody that you actually truly connect with.
13:14Like, not just on a physical level, but like a spiritual, emotional level.
13:22And that was very much true with me and Tegan.
13:27It's hard to move on.
13:30I feel like I can't walk away and spend the rest of my life wondering if I could have saved
13:37it.
13:37I really, truly feel like there's unfinished business.
13:45I think you'll save me.
13:49No one's gonna hit my car if I go crazy.
14:01Hi!
14:02Hello!
14:03Hello!
14:04Lydia and Zach want to sit down and talk to everybody.
14:08I feel like they're coming here wanting an apology.
14:11Mom pretty much accused Zach of being controlling and taking over desires I wanted for the wedding.
14:17Let's go.
14:19Know your daughter before you make accusations like that.
14:23Hug your brother, Mom.
14:25I'm a little bit concerned about Ethan because he can be pretty hot-headed.
14:31I could tell with Zach that he's found something really good.
14:34Let me just polish my halo, you know?
14:38I want you all to know the night before our wedding, it was actually the hardest night of my life.
15:01How you been?
15:03Oh, I'm pretty good.
15:05Good to see you.
15:08How have you been?
15:09Pretty good.
15:10I'm coming up here to see all my family.
15:13I haven't seen them in a while.
15:14Been really busy.
15:15Oh, I got a new go-kart.
15:17You got it running?
15:18No, not yet.
15:19I'm also coming to take a whole bunch of my stuff back down to Florida because I finally have my
15:24own place.
15:25Your spare doesn't look any good, Ethan.
15:27I'm gonna drive to Mexico in this.
15:29Do you want to push me?
15:30No.
15:31After I broke up with Veronica, I knew I needed to make a change.
15:35I met a pretty incredible girl, and we are doing great, and we are happy, keeping things somewhat private.
15:46You know, kind of evaluating everything that's happened over the last couple of years.
15:51I don't think I was on the path for what I wanted, and I'm gonna switch things up a little
15:55bit and just chase a peaceful life.
16:02Looks like Isaac made it.
16:06Have fun.
16:07Yeah, I will.
16:09Thanks for dropping me off.
16:13Kaelin dropped me off today.
16:15Everything's good between us still.
16:16We've been together for just over a year now.
16:19All right, well, I'll see you soon.
16:21It's been a while since the wedding.
16:23There were a few factors that led to things just being tense.
16:27Part of it was them rushing the wedding and us not really knowing Zach well enough.
16:33I didn't want to sit around and just let somebody walk into my family that wasn't going to treat my
16:37sister right,
16:38because I've seen that happen before with my brother's ancestors, and I've had it, and I wasn't going to have
16:45it again.
16:49Hi.
16:50Hello.
16:52Hello.
16:53You see?
16:54I almost called you Mercy.
16:56Mercy.
16:57Mercy.
16:57Lord, have mercy.
16:59A long time ago.
17:02How's Montana?
17:03Amazing.
17:04Montana has been treating me very well, very peaceful, very happy.
17:11You guys, I'm so happy to be home.
17:14You see what I've done?
17:15This looks great.
17:18Isn't it crazy?
17:19Oh, my gosh.
17:20I love that it's open.
17:22It feels really good to be back here.
17:24For a while, the farm just kind of felt like, not abandoned, but there was nothing really, you know, going
17:31on.
17:32It was a rental property, and it just had a different vibe to it.
17:39Now, having Mom living there, it feels a lot more like home.
17:44It's just a difference, kind of special, being able to come home now.
17:51Oh, Ethan.
17:52Mm-hmm.
17:54Do you like it?
17:54I like it.
17:55Yeah?
17:55Looks good on you.
17:56Yeah?
17:57It fits you well.
17:57It, like, complements the shape of your head nicely.
18:01Unlike yours.
18:03Yeah.
18:04What's going on here?
18:05I don't know.
18:08Oh.
18:09I'm wearing a wig right now.
18:12I have alopecia, an autoimmune condition that causes hair loss.
18:18It started when I was little, when it's really bad.
18:22I have no eyebrows, eyelashes, no hair on my head.
18:26That's what I'm dealing with right now.
18:29These are just stickers.
18:31No, they're not.
18:32Yeah.
18:32They're just literally cheap stickers that I got online.
18:38And then I have four wigs that I kind of can play around with.
18:42I'm working on making a collection of a lot of them.
18:45Let me see your nose.
18:47Pretty good, isn't it?
18:48Yeah.
18:49I can't even do it.
18:50Yeah.
18:50Did you actually get plastic surgery?
18:52No.
18:53Oh, okay.
18:53I thought you did.
18:54No, I just got, I literally, I went to the emergency room that one night, got the stitches.
18:58I pulled the stitches out myself, and I'm fine.
19:00My gosh, that was quite a night.
19:02Lord.
19:04Yeah.
19:05So what are we doing?
19:06I'm on three hours of sleep.
19:07I drove overnight.
19:08Lydia and Zach are coming up here?
19:10Yeah, Lydia and Zach want to have a meeting with us about our feelings, or maybe, I don't
19:16know.
19:17Yeah.
19:19Lydia and Zach want to sit down and talk to everybody, but.
19:24I have a lot on my heart and my mind.
19:27Me and Tegan are broken up.
19:29It's very hard to shake my focus off of that for anything.
19:34I just feel like there was way too many emotions.
19:37People got carried away.
19:39Yes, to say the least.
19:52How long has it been since we've been to the farm?
19:54It's been a minute.
19:56I think it'll be good to have the whole family there to talk with everyone.
20:02We're going to the farm.
20:05We figured it was a good time because if the whole family's in town, pretty last minute,
20:09but we just wanted to address stuff around our wedding.
20:14We had some pretty surprising things come our way.
20:19When Ethan asked if I was gay, it was just very, it didn't make sense.
20:22I had proposed, and you're asking if I'm even attracted to her.
20:26Like, this is ridiculous.
20:29I wanted to bring it to their attention that, you know, what they did, did hurt us, and,
20:38you know, they could have gone about it quite differently.
20:41No.
20:42When we were engaged, I know there was a lot of people talking about Zach and I and their
20:47concerns about us.
20:49They said they were doing everything because they care.
20:53In that care, all I felt was hurt.
20:56Well, I want you to know, I want you to be happy, and I'm very happy to see that you're
20:59happy, but I just have to say it.
21:02You've only known him for three months, and you get married in two months, so you're sure
21:05you're good with that.
21:06Well, four months, if that matters.
21:09It's too fast.
21:10It's too much.
21:11I feel like they're rushing into it.
21:14We all feel pressured into having to accept somebody that we don't know.
21:17How can Lydia really know, like, how much of a provider you could be, or if he's going
21:22to be able to take care of Lydia?
21:23I just, I can't take, like, much more.
21:24I'm just going to lose it.
21:26Yeah, that guy really does pop in blue.
21:32It's like, hey, this is something you did that affected us.
21:35We want to move forward.
21:37And this is something that we feel is holding us back in our relationship with you because
21:43of how it hurt.
21:45Yeah.
21:49Zach and Lydia are coming.
21:52I'm a little bit dreading it because I know that things were crazy at their wedding, and
22:00I feel like they're coming here wanting an apology.
22:04And I have mixed feelings about that because I am sorry that a lot of things happened the
22:11way they did.
22:11But at the same time, I'm not sorry that we really cared.
22:49Last night, Lydia called us.
22:50And with that timeline, it's completely normal for us to have questions.
22:56I mean, just, you know, all of us have moved on, moved forward, and accepted Zach as a brother-in
23:04-law,
23:05a son-in-law, whatever, as part of the family, including Ethan and Isaac and Micah.
23:10But I feel like Zach and Lydia haven't been able to move on.
23:18I've been angry.
23:19I've been really upset at my family for what they did.
23:23There were nights on end that I would fall asleep crying, and Zach was just there to come
23:27for me because I was just hurt, and I was just upset.
23:30It took us a while to kind of approach this conversation.
23:34We were frustrated.
23:36We were scared of maybe not being accepted or loved.
23:42Dealing with all of that at once took a long time.
23:47I also wanted to be able to talk knowing what I wanted to say and not just getting all emotional
23:53and not having a direction.
23:56It took eight months.
23:58I'm not ashamed of that.
24:02I've really been wrestling with it a lot.
24:07What I would say, how I would say it.
24:11I think some of the things they said just made me realize, like, they don't really know me,
24:19and that hurts because you want to be known by your family.
24:25I don't know if it's just me or if most of the family feels this way, if it's just the
24:30middle child, but I've always felt, like, overlooked, second thought, and I just felt
24:36that on my wedding day, and that's just not what it's supposed to be.
24:42I know I need this to move forward, and whatever happens from it, I need to be okay with that.
24:48I just know this is a step I need to take.
25:00What are some things that you might want to address with your mom?
25:04I mean, definitely with what she had said about you being controlling.
25:08I have no idea how this family meeting is going to go.
25:12I need to address with mom just how she went about a few things.
25:19Like, she pretty much accused Zach of being controlling and taking over the desires I wanted
25:24for the wedding, yet she didn't even know what I had thought of.
25:29I've seen a usurping of Lydia's desires, where Lydia wants something for the wedding,
25:36and he just shoots it down because he has another plan in mind.
25:39She said, I wanted a hunter green for my wedding, which is a color I would never think of.
25:42Blue has always been both our favorite colors.
25:45It's blue.
25:47Imagine that.
25:48And I gave my opinion, but then said after, I was like, you know, I think blue looks best,
25:54but I want you to make the decision because you're the bride, and, you know, I think, you know,
26:00you have a better eye for those sorts of things.
26:03And so, if anything, I was completely letting her make the decision.
26:09It was just, yeah, it's like, know your daughter before you make accusations like that.
26:30Oh, I'm king of the world.
26:34I'm king of the world.
26:43What are you doing?
26:46Oh, hello.
26:47I'm just envisioning myself out on the golf, clipping at 20 knots.
26:52Nothing but the wind in my hair and the spray on my skin.
27:00Okay.
27:01No, I mean, so, yeah, I was just checking it out.
27:05That's all.
27:07So, uh, have you found any, uh, prospective buyers?
27:11Micah bought it.
27:12Micah bought this?
27:14Yes.
27:14I made him quite a deal on it.
27:16I think he's going to fix it up and sell it.
27:18Wow.
27:19He sometimes pops up in random places, like on the boat in the middle of the field.
27:24I was giving myself a self-guided tour.
27:27Since, you know, years past, I missed out on the tour that you've given others.
27:32Okay.
27:33We're generally on good terms, but I like him to call first before he shows up.
27:38I mean, that's something that I've kind of asked him to do.
27:42I don't want to be in the house and look out the window and just see him there.
27:47I want to know if I look out, I'm going to see woods and birds, maybe a deer.
27:52I'm not going to see Barry.
27:55And he might see something he doesn't want to see.
28:01I think Lydia and Zach are going to be here soon, so do you want them to find you on
28:05the
28:05boat or do you want to come up closer to the house?
28:08I'll get down and I'll be over in a little bit.
28:12Okay.
28:12Well, I'm going to go see the kids.
28:15This is the first time all the family are going to be able to be together since the wedding.
28:19I mean, I became aware of Zach and Lydia's challenges once they got back from Europe,
28:25how they were feeling during the wedding, the night before, the rehearsal, all that.
28:30I began to understand, you know, just how deeply Lydia was feeling the hurt and the pain.
28:36My role as father is to be Lydia's validation.
28:40And I know that I did that more so than any of the boys or Kim.
28:46All right.
28:48Main event.
28:53All right.
28:54Here we are.
29:14We got this.
29:16We got this.
29:19Let's go.
29:30We got this.
29:31We got this.
29:35Let's go.
29:41Hi, guys.
29:42Oh, my goodness, Mariah.
29:43Oh, my God.
29:45Hey, everyone, too.
29:46I haven't seen you in forever.
29:47No, Mariah first.
29:49Sorry.
29:51Hi, Mariah.
29:52Hi, Mariah.
29:54Hi, Mariah.
29:54Hi, Mariah.
29:55How are you?
29:55You look so good.
29:56Although I've hardly seen you.
29:58Hi, Mariah.
29:58Today, we're going to talk about some of the things that happened around the wedding and
30:03kind of Lydia and Zach's feelings about all of the wedding drama.
30:12And Ken is inside working on his jukebox.
30:16He asked me, do you want me to sit in on this?
30:19And I said, well, I think this is just going to be family.
30:27I'm more of a quiet person.
30:29I've heard both sides of the story.
30:31I would rather be in the house watching the dogs.
30:35I try to avoid drama as much as possible.
30:45It is weird that, you know, Ken's now at the house that I used to be head of the household
30:53over.
30:54But, you know, it's like, what do you say?
30:56Weird is the new norm.
30:58So I'm just, what do you do?
31:00I'm used to weird.
31:04Hi.
31:06Hi.
31:06Hi.
31:07Hi.
31:10Go hug your brother-in-law.
31:13Hey.
31:14How's it going?
31:16Doing good.
31:16How are you doing?
31:17Good to see you.
31:18I think we're all here.
31:19This is the first time we've all...
31:20This is all the siblings.
31:21I know.
31:23Wow, everybody's here.
31:24This is a big conversation.
31:27Going into it, I'm like, you know, Lydia knows exactly what she's going to say, how we
31:33felt about things.
31:33We're going to control what we can control, and whatever their reactions are, we can't
31:39control.
31:41You've been traveling?
31:43Yeah.
31:43Lydia and Zach have been upset with me and Ethan and really everyone, because of everyone
31:50except Barry, because of how things played out at their wedding.
31:57I mean, I think they're wanting apologies.
32:00Do I think it's fair?
32:01I mean...
32:03Are you going to apologize?
32:04I don't know.
32:07I'm a little bit concerned about Ethan, because he can be pretty hot-headed, and I'm hoping
32:15that that will be calm and under control today.
32:28So, thank you guys for making this happen.
32:32Been wanting to have this conversation for a while, and I'm glad you guys could all make
32:35it.
32:35I guess I'll start with owning whatever I can.
32:38I know it was quick when we got married, and I know that did kind of pressure you guys
32:46to have to get to know Zach in a certain amount of time, and I'm sorry if that pressured you
32:52in any way.
32:53But with that, like, some people chose to get to know him, and some people just made their
33:01judgments, and that was that.
33:05I know you guys care.
33:07It would be amazing if there was a way to show Zach care, especially to Zach.
33:17And some of you have done really well at that.
33:19But if you do approve, if you do see that it's good, it would be nice to see that effort
33:27a little bit.
33:33If there are any concerns that still are lasting now, or any questions that you guys have in
33:40general, I'm also open to those conversations.
33:44I don't have a lot of pain from what they did to me.
33:47It's more that they would do it to me, and that they're hurting her in the process.
33:52That hurt me more.
33:54I'm trying to lift Lydia up because I know what she's doing is right.
33:58We want to figure it out.
33:59We want to move forward.
34:01And obviously, like, we're open books, and we want to figure things out if there's anything
34:06that you guys don't see fit.
34:08I'd love to be a part of this family in that, and so, yeah, just kind of voicing what she
34:13was.
34:18I want you all to know, sorry, I did not want to cry.
34:29The way we were treated the night before our wedding.
34:32It was supposed to be a joyful time celebrating the last night as a lap.
34:37It was actually the hardest night of my life.
35:13It was actually the hardest night of my life.
35:30Lydia, I felt awful after, I, I don't know, hindsight.
35:42I guess I can't speak for everyone here, but I'm, I'm assuming most of what was done, even
35:47though it wasn't done in the right way, or everything happened so fast, or whatever the
35:52excuse is, it was out looking out for your best interest, because we all care about you
35:56a lot.
35:59There's been, obviously, tension.
36:01There was a lot of tension between my brothers, some me.
36:04We do need to make sure he's the one for Lydia.
36:06He needs a test to see his true colors.
36:10I say we just let it happen today, and then we just try to give him a s**t.
36:15I was so wrapped up in a lot.
36:17It's not an excuse.
36:18I should have been there for you even more than I was.
36:23You still danced with me?
36:25I know I did, and that means a lot.
36:30I can only imagine how difficult that was for Lydia and Zach, Zach especially.
36:36You know, hindsight, I'm like, Zach, you're a great guy.
36:39You two seem fit for each other.
36:41But when you're, you know, I meet you two hours before you propose to my sister, there's
36:48a lot of stuff that goes on.
36:51Yeah, I mean, you know, people do act different under pressure, and that's mainly what I was
36:56feeling was a lot of pressure with it being rushed, and then seeing, you know, past relationships,
37:02people have come into the family really fast and just turned out bad, and that's the only
37:07thing that was stuck in my head.
37:08And looking back, I see that I, certain times I acted, you know, like an idiot.
37:16I'm going to apologize to both of you for certain things that I've done.
37:20It may have been good intentions or thought it was good, but just went about a completely
37:25wrong way.
37:26That's all I see from my end, so.
37:28Appreciate it.
37:29You know, you both were saying, if we still have things or whatever, I don't have, I don't
37:35think any of us do.
37:36For me, from the time that you two said I do, it was done, and I'm 100% supportive of
37:43both
37:43of you, and I see you as a son, son-in-law, part of the family.
37:52So far, I'm seeing more healing with Micah and Isaac than there is with Kim.
37:56I think there's a conversation that just needs to happen between Lydia and Kim.
38:03There's a lot there to unpack.
38:05It goes deeper than the wedding.
38:07It goes into the realm of when the divorce happened and things like that.
38:12There's healing that's needed there, I think, relationally between those two.
38:17All the concerns that everyone voiced, whether to you or in private, whether you go about it
38:24in the proper way or the wrong way, there is a time for that, and that time has passed.
38:29You guys are both part of the family now, and I'm very happy to see you both doing well.
38:37And I'm sorry if anything that I did, you know, hurt you, which I know it did, so I apologize
38:42for that.
38:43Yep.
38:46Before their wedding, I was just saying what I saw and what I felt.
38:51Just like Isaac and Micah, we were just encouraging Lydia to not rush into something, especially with not knowing really
39:02what their physical attraction is.
39:04I think there's nothing wrong with checking yourself and being like, do you see what I see, or am I
39:08just delusional, you know?
39:12But I certainly could have been nicer, you know, gone about things maybe in a better way.
39:19It's awesome to have you back here, being able to have more time with you because it's a lot closer
39:25than Minnesota, so.
39:28It's encouraging to hear Ethan apologize.
39:30He definitely had quite a big piece in just the pain and hurt caused.
39:36I wouldn't call it water under the bridge.
39:39I would just call it free ofness of just him owning up to the things he did wrong.
39:46I mean, this could be clear to you, man.
39:49And, Dad, I don't know if I've said it enough, but thank you so much for all your support.
39:55I feel like it's almost like a little jab at me, like, at least my dad was supportive, you know?
40:03My mom wasn't, but she was feeling all of that support because Barry just rubber-stamped the Zach relationship
40:11and didn't even ask questions about anything.
40:16When you're just getting to know somebody, you just, you can tell, you know?
40:21And I could tell with Zach, you know, Lydia's found something really good.
40:26I just wish I could have exported that to everyone.
40:33Well, I just had a piece from the beginning, and I supported him the whole time.
40:38Let me just polish my halo, you know?
40:43He's gloating a little bit, and I feel like I don't get any credit for really caring about who she
40:50spends the rest of her life with.
40:51In the process of getting to know him, seeing him for who he is, gave me the peace that, yeah,
40:58they're meant for each other, right?
41:01Barry, from the beginning, was a very trusting person in me, and I really appreciated that.
41:08But I just don't think Kim has really done that.
41:11I think there's a lot still to figure out, and I think I've seen too many tears from Lydia to
41:18think that everything's okay.
41:26Today we're trying to find Bigfoot.
41:35One of my favorite things in the world is being high.
41:39I'm high as a kite.
41:41You're on a dating app?
41:43Hello, I'm Barry.
41:45Barry has a nickname.
41:47He's called Plath Daddy.
41:51Me and Tegan, we haven't talked in a while.
41:53Really?
41:55So, you're running after her?
41:57Mm-hmm.
41:58The weight that I've put on in the last four and a half years, it's been hard, but I'm turning
42:03that around.
42:04I can tell that you're not attracted to me like I am.
42:09Tegan doesn't know that I'm here.
42:11The worst thing that can happen is she finds out.
42:15Ethan Plath!
42:18I'm starting to think that maybe, you know, it's going too fast.
42:21Was Kalen putting pressure on you?
42:23She wants to get married soon.
42:25I never pressured you about really anything.
42:30That was her.
42:32Are you serious?
42:33I think he's here.
42:36Oh, my God.
42:38I heard you talk about Joshua, but the way that you called me out, that hurt.
42:44We lost a son in 2008.
42:48It was an accident.
42:50Mom has been the target with people in the past, but looking at it now from a different perspective, she
42:55was never in the wrong.
42:56I've heard things about the way you pursued Tegan, and you giving a lot, and her not giving in return.
43:03I wasn't looking for your opinion.
43:05If people don't want our opinions, we won't give our opinions.
43:08It actually makes me angry.
43:11I'm not perfect.
43:13I know I very well could have judged them wrongly.
43:17I know I very well could have judged them wrongly.
43:29I have seen it.
43:29You never demean the deal for us.
43:29I'm not good at all.
43:29It's impossible.
43:29You are perfectly endless to find the way, but I've had to 100% and do it within the past.
43:30So again, wait a minute.
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