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Destiny shares her side of the breakup with Amberlynn and covers the events that took place in the month of January. She talks about the DVD collection, the soups, Trisha Paytas, Destiny being called an it, date nights and Sharla’s cheeseball. Destiny says it was November of 2016 when she started to think she did not want to be with Amberlynn anymore, especially by the end of November, when Amberlynn quit her job. We find out the real reason Destiny ended up in the ER around the time of the breakup and how Amberlynn quit her job. We get more details about the first breakup that happened in November 2016. Not only do we get Destiny’s version of the breakup, but we get Amberlynn’s rebuttal to Destiny’s version of the breakup. Destiny explains how she started talking to Dana after breaking up with Amberlynn. Dana pops in to tell us about the first date with Destiny that took place the same night Amberlynn went out with Sharla and met Mary.
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00:00Let's see. Talked about, in January, Redbox movies. We were getting them too often.
00:07Destiny and I are like the queens of renting movies from Redbox.
00:11Okay, so there's quite a few movies we want to see.
00:14We're certainly at Walmart and we're getting a movie.
00:17Redbox, like, we have been obsessed.
00:19We just rented a movie.
00:21We got a Redbox movie.
00:28We got Jurassic Park from Redbox.
00:30Yay, I'm so excited and I just can't hide it.
00:33And paying outrageously for them.
00:36Destiny and I had four Redbox movies that we completely forgot about.
00:40Usually they're downstairs, but they were upstairs.
00:42We found them today.
00:44They were literally right by our TV.
00:45We just didn't even think about it.
00:47She went to return them.
00:50I just can't even believe this.
00:51Oh my god, they were so late that we had to pay $22 on two of them and $52 each
00:58on the other two.
00:59I'm seriously not complaining completely our fault, but it's like, f**k.
01:04Amberlynn, I need to become more responsible.
01:05I'm just letting you know right now, girl.
01:08More response.
01:09She talked a lot about us watching DVDs.
01:11I know this stuff is boring, but it's just what I wrote down.
01:14She did a DVD haul.
01:15I don't even have any of those DVDs.
01:18I didn't even, I don't think, keep any of them.
01:20She did show the Married with Children collection.
01:22I want to say we got that so cheap.
01:24We got it at Ollie's for literally a dollar a season.
01:27So I really love having a big selection of movies to watch.
01:31Let's go.
01:31All the seasons of Married with Children.
01:34Uh, excuse me, but doesn't anybody know this is against the law?
01:37So is dressing up a chicken and calling it your wife.
01:38I am not a chicken.
01:39Why does he keep calling me a chicken?
01:41Now, Marcy.
01:41Don't get your feathers ruffle.
01:42You stink, Al.
01:43Why isn't Kelly pushing?
01:45Drop dead, you little doody.
01:47Shut up, Aladia.
01:48Now, this is Monday, Sunday, fun day.
01:50I'll not have you ruin it for me.
01:51Pumpkin, you put the car in park, honey.
01:52Oh, I already did that before you started pushing.
01:56All right, all right.
01:58I'm fine.
02:01Holy crap.
02:02There's 10 seasons.
02:03No, wait.
02:04There's 11.
02:05I was like so confused.
02:06I was like, wait a minute.
02:06There is 11.
02:07Oh my gosh.
02:08Slimey.
02:09Averlin shows a lot of soups.
02:11Like I said, I never ate those.
02:13Baby, can you have any peanut butter?
02:15Yes.
02:16Where'd it be at?
02:17Somewhere in there.
02:18I didn't know we had.
02:19Oh, yeah, this is for the chicken.
02:21Okay.
02:22I'm going to add some minced garlic.
02:24About that much.
02:28Okay, baby.
02:29Okay.
02:32I know some of you will say in the comments there's an easier way to do this,
02:35and if there really is, let me know.
02:37I would just use a knife instead of a big old ladle.
02:44That's it.
02:45Good idea.
02:46That's food that you used for the garlic.
02:49True.
02:50Once it starts cooking and stuff, like the broth gets evaporated by all the potatoes and just
02:56the deliciousness.
02:57Absorbs.
02:59Absorbs.
03:01Thank you, Destiny.
03:03Sorry.
03:04Sorry.
03:05Smells delicious.
03:06Destiny even said it smelled good, but she's about to head off to work, so I wish she was
03:10here to enjoy this with me.
03:12And then Amberlynn also makes a video about Trisha Paytas, like her wanting to see her.
03:17Hi.
03:18I feel like you're never going to see this, Trisha, but hi.
03:21My name is Amberlynn.
03:22Hello.
03:23Hi.
03:24I don't want to bore you to tears.
03:26I started talking about YouTube, blah, blah, blah, and they mentioned you, and I'm like,
03:31you watch Trisha too?
03:32Like, no.
03:33And then we start bonding.
03:34I'm not some crazy person.
03:35Don't worry.
03:36I'm not.
03:36I just want to let you know that I am proud of you.
03:38You inspire, and I love you.
03:41Bye.
03:45She was obsessed with Trisha Paytas.
03:46I don't know when that obsession started, but she talked about her all the time, and
03:50I know she watched her a lot.
03:52She mentions the thing where I got called an it at a restaurant again.
03:55I already addressed this before, but that did not happen.
03:58I did not get called an it.
04:00And when she's explaining it in this part, she makes an excuse that I wasn't there to
04:03hear it.
04:04You clearly say multiple times the waitress referred to Destiny as he.
04:08In a past video, we were at the Cheesecake Factory, and the waitress called Destiny a he.
04:14The waitress kept calling Destiny a sir.
04:16I wrote, P.S.
04:19She's a girl.
04:20That is a completely different day.
04:22In the 16 things I did in 2016, I stated that we were at a buffet.
04:27We were at Golden Corral.
04:28Okay.
04:29This one.
04:30Ooh, this is sh**.
04:30Destiny and I went out to eat, and we went to a buffet.
04:35The Chinese buffets, they're...
04:37What?
04:38What?
04:39It's a buffet.
04:40Baby, I know.
04:42Buffet.
04:42Okay, but anyways.
04:43Went out to eat, and it was a buffet.
04:45Today, I am going to a buffet.
04:47I am going to Golden Corral.
04:49So, I thought, instead of making a generic, oh, what I eat in a day, I'm just going to show
04:54you guys what I usually eat at a buffet.
04:56Oh, crap.
05:00Y'all ate it?
05:03Oh.
05:04Oh, crap.
05:08Oh, crap.
05:10Oh, crap.
05:16.
05:17Oh, crap.
05:24Lala.
05:24Oh, crap.
05:26There it is.
05:28S denture
05:30.
05:54and destiny was uh getting something the waitress was super sweet all of a sudden
05:59she started calling destiny an it not a girl not a female not a she not even a fee which
06:06happens
06:06sometimes an it and she was being serious she kept saying when is it gonna come back what is it
06:12drinking and i was like so i left her this much as a tip zero i left her a zero
06:19tip because she was
06:20calling another human being an it destiny was up destiny was go getting go getting grammar i know
06:28i know i'm so good at it she was going to get another plate of food and that is when
06:32the
06:32waitress thought she could take it into her own hands by calling destiny an it it was just very
06:38rude and how she was acting was extremely rude that is not a lie whatsoever this happens a lot
06:45no one's ever called destiny an it but people do call destiny sir he stuff like that eating at
06:51oh charlie's so the waiter just came up to us and said and for you sir does she look like
06:59a sir
07:00that was two separate times i just wanted to let people know about that so
07:06who's to say that actually happened she talked about how we do a lot of date nights and stuff
07:13what do you guys like to do for date night oh i love you too thank you for the question
07:17okay so
07:17for date night we usually go out to eat it's pretty ridiculous but i also really like when we stay
07:22home and we just cuddle in bed and watch movies like i love that so much like just a simple
07:29life
07:29you know what i'm saying
07:34i really want to like go bowling one day
07:39what is happening
08:05or do some like glow-in-the-dark mini golf
08:13not shabby
08:15yes i wouldn't really call it date nights i would call it amberlynn making a plan for the day and
08:20doing it she said that her favorite date night though was to stay in bed and cuddle we like
08:2598% of the time never did that we were always i'm gonna go somewhere like we never stayed home
08:30really
08:31girl date night could be anything in my opinion that's just me though she said something about us
08:36paying for the u-haul when we moved to kentucky i stated that before we did not pay for that
08:41u-haul
08:41her foster mom did so some of the process from moving it was really hard we had to get rid
08:46of a
08:47lot of stuff we had to spend quite a bit of money on a u-haul foster care foster homes
08:52group homes you
08:53went through several and several and several strangers and family they act as if they didn't
08:58even care you turned 18 and you wanted to be with family that sometimes blood isn't there for you
09:04blood is not safer than water there's a video of me trying to knock down the icicles in the video
09:09that i watched of it it is pr positive by the way i will try to remember to mention them
09:15in the
09:15description it like zooms in on me missing every time i try to hit an icicle i'm only five foot
09:22so yeah the snow's melting there's salt everywhere
09:32she's trying so hard she's like oh did you whoa this one's thick that's the one i hit look at
09:40it
09:40see i knocked the tip off got a little offended not really but that's why i couldn't reach the icicle
09:48that's when i had started to make a couple friends myself at work
09:51there was a few times that it got like paused when i'd make funny faces at the camera
09:54i made funny faces at the camera because it's awkward you know like you can just be like
10:10minding your own business and then boom camera in the face does it annoy you when i like whoop out
10:14my
10:14camera and i'm like what's up yo it doesn't that's part of me that's part of you she showed
10:21us eating at olive garden with charla and jalissa charla making her cheese ball
10:25what are you doing oh you needed something like that sorry charla's making a cheese ball
10:32i'm so excited so this is the cheese ball
10:41so it is a lot of ham i'll probably pick some off because i'm not really like a ham person
10:47baby are you okay yeah what are you doing oh fuzz cheese ball so good we all read our fortune
10:56cookies and mine said new changes coming soon and i put ie dumping amberlynn
11:02what is yours
11:04i said it already but it says uh what do you think it means i don't know it's just welcome
11:09the good change coming into your life soon
11:16maybe it's just like you know new beginnings
11:19i don't know you don't know
11:22at this point in time things had been rocky for a little while as y'all know at what point
11:27did you
11:27realize you didn't want to be with amberlynn probably like right after she quit her job
11:31no i did not heard oh my gosh no that cracks me up honestly because currently i work right now
11:37i'm
11:37near a lunch or a break whatever the hell it is and i'm here because i decided to stay home
11:42because i'm thinking about my decision it's hard because i don't know what to do i don't want to do
11:47what they want me to do at work i don't when i went in for the interview they specifically told
11:51me like what are you applying for and i told them and that's what i got and now all of
11:56a sudden like
11:56i literally have just this one option or nothing and now i don't know what to do i honestly i
12:02think
12:02about these youtubers who make one video a week and that's it at least if i chose youtube i would
12:08do
12:08daily videos for you guys i would put up a video every single day sometimes i would even upload two
12:14that's my whole thing you know getting a little side job that's definitely something i've thought
12:19about just to like get me out of the house destiny keeps saying i should work in a library she
12:23started
12:24talking about having anxiety attacks at work my anxiety was really bad my anxiety was through the
12:30roof at work i was getting anxiety attacks i would have to run to the bathroom i would just sit
12:34in a
12:35stall and cry sometimes if you got up to go to the bathroom trainers and supervisors would run in
12:40after you and be like come on you have to meet your production i only ever remember her having
12:45an anxiety attack at work like i don't know like a couple times it was not like an everyday thing
12:50towards when she was quitting i didn't understand why she was quitting the job we went to the new
12:54building and she just was not having it i don't know what it was i think really she just didn't
12:59want
12:59to work i think she just wanted to do the youtube and that's just what she decided to do i
13:04said i thought
13:05the job would be perfect for her it didn't require a lot of anything and it was really easy money
13:09because she wasn't good at it i was very good at what i did i always met the leaderboard i
13:13was above
13:13and beyond quality and quantity so i was good at what i did it wasn't hard work and it made
13:19good
13:19money and you were just sitting like it wasn't strenuous it wasn't nothing you know like i don't
13:23know she made up a lot of excuses of why she wanted to quit her job and she stated i
13:28said that i that i was
13:29like yeah you need to quit you know just you do to do youtube and stay home dusty and i
13:34talked about
13:34it a lot she really wanted me to quit because she knows that i can do youtube she knows i
13:39make money from youtube i did not tell her that straight up i told her that she's an adult and
13:44it's clearly her choice she's grown it's her choice i shouldn't have a say in if she wants to keep
13:50her
13:50job or not i went to the er
13:56they told me it was probably stress induced they're saying it's heartburn but they're not sure
13:59so they refer destiny to some people to do ultrasounds endoscopies and this whole thing so
14:04destiny's gonna get that figured out and taken care of and she's trying to take medicine
14:07medicine and they told her to eat different types of foods and whatnot her pain is a lot worse than
14:12like a heartburn would be so she's definitely gonna refer to those doctors and whatnot or at least i
14:16hope she does i mean it's up to her but i'm gonna egg her on to do the right thing
14:19because i really
14:20want her to figure out what's wrong i hate seeing her sick i don't know why she doesn't mention that
14:25because it was literally in the paperwork that i got back she starts talking about i had referrals and
14:29stuff to follow up with people i didn't have health insurance all the time i literally just lost my
14:33health insurance because my dad was going through a divorce so i didn't have it please tell them did
14:38i get fired or did i quit you can quit destiny was there charlotte was there she was there ashley
14:44was
14:44there all my friends were there at work when i got up and i physically in front of everyone i
14:49said i
14:49quit i can't do this anymore abrilyn was not fired from her job she just never went back that's literally
14:55it she literally had me take her home we stayed home for a day and then she literally just never
14:59came
14:59back i know that our boss did call her and try to talk to her about like oh you know
15:03like what's
15:04wrong why don't you want to stay and she just she gave her a chance to like make up her
15:08mind but she
15:08obviously made up her mind after she quit during lunch she wanted me to sit in my car and call
15:14her
15:14and just talk to her on my 30 minutes which wouldn't have been a big deal but i don't know
15:18like it was
15:18like i had to you know there wasn't i didn't have a choice like i couldn't be like oh you
15:23know actually
15:24i wanted to hang out with so and so during lunch you know whatever no that was not an option
15:28can you go into detail on amber's manipulative behaviors during your relationship especially
15:33with food i mean she got angry about food sometimes but that would only be like if i didn't want
15:37to go
15:37somewhere and then it would turn into a little then let's order a pizza or whatever it may be i
15:42had
15:42friends that i wanted to hang out with but abrilyn only really wanted me to sit either with charla or
15:48be in my car and talk to her that was literally it i could go on lunch with charla me
15:52and her could talk
15:52or we would end up calling abrilyn whatever anyway at this point in time dana and i hadn't spoken
15:57since like before thanksgiving hey guys happy thanksgiving i wanted to say happy thanksgiving
16:03to everyone and i'm very thankful for all of you i don't say it enough happy thanksgiving and i love
16:08you guys so much and thank you for just being a part of my life
16:14did destiny ever break up with you before the official breakup yes she did as you guys remember
16:18like the official breakup was january she actually broke up with me a couple months before that in
16:21november the breakup lasted maybe 24 hours it was so random because like everything was totally fine and
16:27then all of a sudden she just broke up with me i think i had quit work by then i
16:30don't remember
16:31when i quit work but i remember that i was at home i was just like devastated because she ended
16:34up going
16:34to work and i just felt like lost like i lost my favorite person i lost my best friend what
16:38am i
16:38gonna do with my life hey guys today is the 11th of november and i just wanted to say i'm
16:43not really
16:44gonna vlog today but i just wanted to pop in and say hey i'm just not doing the greatest right
16:47now
16:47i'm going through some stuff that i don't feel like sharing and i don't know if i will i mean
16:51if i do end up
16:52sharing i don't know when i'm just hoping for the best because i don't think i felt so much pain
16:56in
16:56my life but i'm just gonna hope for the best i'm just hopeful that's it i just wanted to say
17:01hi and
17:01hope you guys are doing good hopefully i vlog tomorrow because i have tomorrow off of work
17:04usually we work saturdays and i'm super excited that we have the saturday off it was very random
17:09spur of the moment i guess i mean for us it was my bosses said that we've been doing an
17:14amazing job
17:15at work so we deserve the day off i'm very happy about that i have saturday and sunday off yeah
17:19so i will
17:20see you guys tomorrow hey guys so today's number over 12 and i just feel so much better i'm really
17:25happy about that a new leaf yes i'm sorry we're listening to music and we are coloring that's
17:32destiny's beautiful beautiful picture happened we're slowly getting ready because we are taking my
17:40friend out two of my friends to the cheesecake factory they have never been there before and i'm
17:46just like girl it was so funny it's charla you guys have met her before charla's like is it just
17:50such a dessert place and i'm like girl girl no that was fun so i'm super excited for that what
17:55is
17:56yours i said it already but it says what do you think it means i don't know it's just welcome
18:02the good change coming into your life soon maybe it's just like you know new beginning
18:08i don't know you don't know i don't know she ended up coming home late and i was so confused
18:12and i was
18:12like oh my god where is she like i was worried i was like oh my god like is she
18:14gonna come home
18:15she came home with a balloon an ipod flowers and a card and she wanted me back again oh i
18:19forgot to
18:20tell you guys this whole thing okay see this balloon says i love you there's another balloon
18:26right there destiny came home one day she had a gift bag and two balloons and i was like what
18:34are
18:34you doing she bought me a card and just sandwich she loves me and stuff it was the sweetest thing
18:39she got me the two balloons and she got me a gift i have been wanting an ipod for the
18:43longest
18:43time depending on what it is like i don't want to spend like a huge chunk of money on myself
18:48that's
18:49just how i've always been i'd rather spend it on other people and that's just what i do she
18:53taught me an ipod i thought it was the sweetest thing in the world i was like thank you because
18:58i
18:58really want to listen to work i want to listen to work at music that's what i was gonna say
19:01i want
19:02to listen to music at work because you're allowed to it'll it like helps just keep your mind focused
19:06you know it's like now that i am thinking back about this she broke up with me after dana stopped
19:12talking to her everything is so like out in the open and i'm seeing things more like crystal clear
19:16putting all the pieces together i feel like destiny because she was emotionally cheating on me as you
19:19guys know it feels to me now that all the pieces are coming together destiny was so hurt by dana
19:24not talking to her that she broke up with me because everything was fine in our relationship
19:28like she could sit here and say all this stuff whatever it may be but everything was fine in our
19:32relationship like we were happy of course there were things not every relationship is perfect or
19:35anything like that but like the big problems started when she started talking to dana and then
19:39dana started talking to her she was like i'm gonna break up there berlin so she so i can be
19:42with
19:42dana but dana i think got a boyfriend so then she tried to get back with me like destiny gross
19:48and
19:49then we still weren't talking at this point had not spoken since thanksgiving so this is where it's
19:54going to get interesting for y'all because y'all have thought different for so long charla started
19:59calling out a lot and hanging out with amber lynn when she would call out i went out to eat
20:03charlotte invited me to go out to eat when was it a couple nights ago
20:13i put amber lynn is probably 68 percent soup because she's recorded so much soup destiny actually
20:18found these for me they are new they are by campbell's i guess it's called well yes it's like
20:23their new soups or whatever she started watching a video to herself and got emotional blamed her
20:29weight gain on mental illnesses which i mean it is mental but you know like i don't know she has
20:35the power to do so and she's just still not done it you know like obviously she's done it before
20:39she
20:39just can't do it now i don't understand i counted calories for years i'm very good when i'm trying to
20:45lose weight not when i'm not trying but when i am trying to lose weight i'm very good at knowing
20:49like
20:49how many calories are in certain things i'm very good at portions obviously she started talking about
20:54her childhood and living in a trailer and that she broke her ankle i didn't remember this story
20:58like i remember her talking about wearing her mom's high heels all the time but i don't remember the
21:03broken ankle part i guess that would make a lot of sense but she said she broke her ankle tripping
21:07over her bike because she didn't want to listen to her mom and take off the heels before she went
21:10and
21:10got her brother i had a pink bike with the pink little basket in the front little horn on the
21:16side
21:16so my mom's like you know go hit your brother and i'm like okay and she's like take off my
21:20heels
21:20put on your shoes and i was like no so i got on my bike
21:29pedaling pedaling with my heels i got to the dumpsters i put my bike down got off my bike
21:36with my heels come on let's go inside and my brother's like no like totally not listening to
21:41me embarrassing the crap out of me i like throw a tantrum and i was like you know i did
21:45that whole
21:45i tripped over my bike literally tripped over my bike with the heels on i did not let out a
21:52single
21:53cry i hopped back onto my bicycle and i drove back home but halfway through the loop to get back
22:02home
22:02i will never forget this i saw the two managers they're these old people the two managers of the
22:07trailer park that's all that matters isn't it the princess has to be paid attention to look at me
22:11i'm this spoiled rich girl whose family owns the trailer park they're just like hey amber and i
22:15didn't say a word and as soon as they said that i started crying i'm pedaling with one foot please
22:23tell me how that's possible i am pedaling with one foot as soon as i get in front of our
22:27trailer i drop
22:28my bike and i drop my body and i scream and i'm falling i'm like i fell
22:36and i'm only wearing one shoe when i add my grandma goes and gets her cadillac car my dad comes
22:41down and
22:42they all end up taking me to the emergency room she had a cast but refused to use crutches so
22:47she just
22:47stayed out of school and her parents basically just helped her walk around i couldn't use the
22:51crunches the crutches crutches the crunches i couldn't use the crutches this little girl i couldn't
22:56hold myself up to hop on one leg with crutches they didn't offer me a wheelchair because we lived in
23:02a trailer and i wouldn't have been able to maneuver anywhere like i physically wouldn't be able to
23:06you know my parents did help me walk here and there she starts explaining that we broke up because
23:12we broke up 13 days into january so on january 13th ironically enough it was actually friday the 13th
23:22um destiny broke up with me
23:26oh the breaking up story oh my god i was gonna get off of here but i forgot all about
23:31that her ass
23:32lied in that like hard that's where she lied oh my god i'm just gonna make this short sweet and
23:36to
23:36the point because it's just too much so the night that we broke up i went on lunch but i
23:41wanted to
23:41eat lunch with my friends literally just sit in the building of work at a table and sit with the
23:47friends i had made it was literally two people and dana was not one of them the whole breaking up
23:51thing when destiny would go to work she would work 12 hour shifts it was a lot the driving the
23:55commuting etc etc she was like never home ever and she worked six days a week that's the job that
23:59i did
23:59too but like i said i did quit because there was a lot of anxiety and it doesn't matter why
24:03i quit
24:04but i quit oh and i love that she confirmed that i quit because there was a whole scandal at
24:07the time
24:07where supposedly someone i worked with said that i got fired and they were there to see it but i'm
24:10glad
24:10that she was able to clarify that that's not what happened because that's not what happened i've never
24:13been fired from a job every lunch i wanted becky i wanted destiny to call me for literally it could
24:21have been 30 seconds it could have been 10 seconds it could have been 15 could have been 10 minutes
24:25i
24:26didn't care how long i wanted either like a text or like a call just to be like i love
24:29you my day's
24:30been good that's all that's all because i was home alone 24 7 you know from your partner a real
24:34quick
24:34i love you text message or a real quick call i had a lot of anxiety like i said i
24:39was being doxxed
24:39around that time i was super anxious home alone all the time i was just going through a hard time
24:44my abandonment issues mixed with destiny cheating on me emotionally where i did see text messages where
24:49she was flirting with dana wow you lied about destiny cheating on you i did not lie about destiny cheating
24:55on me the whole time i did not think that she physically cheated on me i did not think that
25:00she emotionally cheated on me it wasn't until recently she finally was like yeah i did emotionally
25:05cheat and that's when i had to be like oh wow okay she did that's not a lie she finally
25:11told me that
25:12she did so okay next i am brother my question is how do you know if someone likes you or
25:21not
25:21thank you love you boo whoa i almost dropped my phone the best thing i can say is someone likes
25:28you
25:29when they always want to talk to you
25:34when they make the initiative to talk to your ass or they send emojis like all the time like
25:40heart eyes kissy faces and hearts so we're just hanging out chilling
25:55or when they want to hang out or they compliment you a lot like complimenting you is good your hair
26:05smells like strawberries that is why dana stopped talking to destiny because dana knew that was
26:10wrong amberlynn wanted me to call her and i did lie to her okay so i'll admit to that i
26:14lied to her
26:15and said that they're they were doing announcements at lunch that were important so i couldn't call her
26:20like i had to stay in the building but i only lied to her because if i told her no
26:23i'm gonna sit with
26:24them she would have would have been like this whole argument it would have been this whole big deal
26:28and i just didn't see the point like why couldn't i just hang out with my friends but to her
26:32that was just
26:32such an issue she was just very controlling and wouldn't let me do what i wanted to do it was
26:38always what she wanted to do around that time that is when destiny started getting distant from me i
26:42started feeling it it's because she was upset that the person that she was emotionally cheating on me
26:46with was now no longer communicating destiny worked together but destiny was now emotionally cheating on
26:51me with someone j because i'm not gonna say their real name i'm not gonna get them involved i was
26:55feeling like okay i have a partner who is emotionally cheating on me with two females that is making me
27:00uncomfortable they work together it was a fucking lot she was hiding a lot from me it was making me
27:05scared i was in love with destiny i thought she was like going to be my wife like hi just
27:09knowing
27:09that like i was so loyal to her and i did everything for her that she needed and that she
27:13was doing that
27:13behind my back like was hard when she was at work and she lied to me she lied to me
27:18because she was
27:18hanging out with the girl that she was cheating on me with so when i found out of course i'm
27:24gonna feel
27:24some type of way like my girlfriend is emotionally cheating on me and lied to me about being around the
27:29person that she was cheating on me with i ended up getting really really really upset because i was
27:34like hiding all of this pain inside i was just letting her do the emotional cheating like it
27:37was hurting i knew she was doing it but it's like i didn't want to lose her so i finally
27:41spoke upon it
27:41and i said destiny you're literally lying to me you're spending time with this person that you're
27:45emotionally cheating on me with so everland texted charla about these announcements and of course charla
27:49didn't know what she was talking about so she said we didn't have any and everland was going off
27:53on me but this was towards the end of lunch and at that job we had like a cafeteria type
27:58area with lockers and then you went into like the locked side of the building we couldn't bring
28:03our phones into that lock side like they had to stay in our lockers so she was going off i
28:06didn't
28:06have time to argue with her i had to put my stuff up and i had to go to work
28:08i don't really remember
28:09talking to her on my last 15 of the night i know it was a friday
28:14i said the drive home was about 30 minutes and you know she called me we were going off on
28:20each other
28:20just screaming back and forth and i was just tired of arguing with her and her trying to be so
28:25controlling and i literally broke up with her and then i hung up i just refused to answer the phone
28:31and she kept calling to the point i just turned it off destiny i guess flipped a lid she ended
28:35up
28:35turning off her phone i couldn't contact her she ended up hanging out with a friend that she had at
28:39the time she came home super late it was like 4 a.m i was bawling my eyes out because
28:43i thought she
28:43was like maybe hooking up with this person i had no idea like we are in a relationship we had
28:47boundaries completely lost respect for her it was the whole nine in my head i was like okay so she
28:50emotionally was cheating is she now physically cheating i must have turned my phone back on at some
28:54point because i ended up meeting charla but walmart though and then one of my friends that i had
28:58ate lunch with we went somewhere to eat and just we hung out like for the majority of the night
29:03i just
29:03didn't want to go home i didn't want to deal with her which was kind of i think charla was
29:08trying to be
29:08sneaky on that end like you'll see in the upcoming months why i say that that night it was the
29:13girl one
29:14of the girls that i ate lunch with that i lied to amber went about we hung out that night
29:17like i said that
29:18we broke up and charla and i don't know like i was like oh maybe i thought about just like
29:23messing around
29:23with this girl basically not anything coming out of it i just was like i don't know kind of like
29:29a
29:29rebound type thing i was like maybe that would happen literally the day after she broke up with
29:34me she tried to hook up with this girl she tried to hook up with jay so i hadn't talked
29:39to dana yet
29:40though i went home super late when she came home like i was crying i was like distraught because i
29:45very
29:45much have like hardcore trauma like being abandoned i was afraid she wasn't gonna come home like it was
29:49just like a mess because i was in love with her i was loyal to her so when she finally
29:52came home
29:52like i said i was crying all the stuff and i remember i looked at her she was just acting
29:56so
29:56weird i looked at her and i said are you breaking up with me and i remember this verbatim she
30:00says
30:02i guess i am we tried she tried just arguing with me some more trying to figure everything out and
30:08i
30:08basically just explained to her that she wasn't changing we weren't clicking no more like it was
30:13becoming more of a hassle than a relationship i was like you need to work on you and i need
30:17to work
30:18on me so i didn't want any kind of relationship any kind of nothing i really just didn't i didn't
30:22know what i was gonna do but i knew it wasn't being with her and that is literally how she
30:26broke up with
30:27me because i was calling her out on her while she was at work she was emotionally cheating on me
30:31she
30:31was lying to me she was hanging out with the person that she was emotionally cheating on me with her
30:35loyalty left the window her respect for me left left the window left the room she did not care
30:40that was hurting me that was breaking me i was being gaslit so hard by her like before i even
30:45knew what
30:45that word meant now everyone uses that word but looking back now it's like i was being gaslit i
30:49was disrespected i was being mentally and emotionally like abused with like it was not okay so i finally
30:54stood my ground and she broke up with me for that finally just went to sleep did have to sleep
30:58in the
30:58same bed as her because that was a whole thing like i said she did still make me sleep in
31:02the bed with
31:02her she blames it on her attachment issues and anxiety because she was cheating on me because my anxiety
31:08was so bad yes i wanted her to contact me during her lunch i did i did for one second
31:15you're a lie
31:16literally one second last tell me you love me i'll admit it a hundred times over i was codependent i
31:22was
31:22in my early 20s so was she it is what it is but i have grown so much since then
31:27i wasn't obsessed with
31:28destiny i was in a committed relationship where i was in love with her that's not an obsession i literally
31:33just gave in the sleeping on the bed with her just to not hear it and i think i had
31:37been reorganizing
31:38some of the shelves in that guest room and the bed had stuff on it and i just hadn't had
31:42the time
31:42to get the stuff off of it yes i was very codependent with destiny and i can admit that i
31:46can absolutely
31:47admit that i will admit that 100 i went to my mom's the next day and just tried to stay
31:51gone for the
31:51day and then sunday it was charla and i just hung out oh i think we had already had that
31:56plan but it
31:56was just her and i we just went to like a sandwich place and then i think i went home
32:00and then i went to
32:00like goodwill or something i just stayed gone the majority of the day on this day is when i changed
32:04all my social media like i changed it all to single i changed like took her out of my bio
32:09changed my profile picture how's destiny she's good that robots r2d2 and i got that for destiny
32:15for christmas this is my absolute still number one favorite she said i might change her all this stuff
32:20but this is my favorite it is my phone will control him through bluetooth remote control r2d2 this was
32:27a hundred dollars is what she said yes it was a hundred it was a hundred dollars for a robot
32:32please tell me
32:33why and how he lights up and makes sounds um let me open this little thing he's controlled by the
32:38app
32:39you can send him on different missions like you can send him to go to certain places and he'll go
32:43he talks and explores on his own like he will roam on his own if you're not doing it too
32:47and if you play musical dance to it and he'll guard your room that's awesome that is the coolest
32:52it's my favorite that's what is on her twitter it's r2d2 she's obsessed with star wars i really
32:57was just done i didn't want to fix it and i knew she wouldn't change it wasn't the day after
33:02me and
33:03amberlynn broke up but like the second day so i was like it was the day after i changed all
33:07my social
33:08media dana actually texted me and she just said hey and then i just said hey back we hadn't talked
33:14since thanksgiving like i said at this point in time dana had a boyfriend and she just asked if i
33:19was
33:19okay because she saw my picture change and i just explained to her what happened that was that
33:24you know like she had a boyfriend that was that i actually started trying to hang out with that
33:29other girl a lot and just um basically trying to hook up with her i wasn't sure what was going
33:36to happen with that but it was just like also keeping me away from amberlynn i was just like
33:42i also just talked to her kind of like confided in her just talked about stuff with her you know
33:47like we ended up still being friends after all this by the way like it didn't go like sour or
33:52anything just when me and dana started dating i ended up asking her out on a date though just to
33:56see like where things would go and she basically just told me she didn't want any sort of relationship
34:03because she like she had just some personal stuff going on that she wanted to work on another thing
34:08is she said that in her original video she said that she was trying to hook up with the girl
34:11that
34:12she was hanging out with at work when i was scared that she was like emotionally cheating on me like
34:16i knew
34:16she was that's why i wanted her to contact me during lunch it was just like this anxiety slash
34:19i don't trust her slash you know she was trying to hook up with that girl that night that she
34:23broke
34:23up with me and the next day which she admits in the video but then in her last live stream
34:27she said
34:27that didn't happen it wasn't true that you slept with amber while you were dating dana no literally
34:32me and amberlynn broke up the weekend that we broke up and she said i tried to hook up with
34:36someone the
34:37very next day i did not i got away from her the next day i literally said it in the
34:41video
34:42of the breakup video that i just wanted to be away from her i literally went to my mom's the
34:47next day
34:47i went to like goodwill and stuff the next day and then on sunday i hung out with charla like
34:52friday
34:53broke up saturday my mom's sunday with charla like i don't know what more um like after me and
35:01amberlynn broke up it was literally like that night it was the girl one of the girls that i ate
35:05lunch with
35:05i lied to amberlynn about we hung out that night like i said that we broke up and charla and
35:10i don't know
35:10like i was like oh maybe i thought about just like messing around with this girl basically
35:15not anything coming out of it i just was like i don't know kind of like a rebound type thing
35:20i was
35:20like maybe that would happen i hadn't talked to dana yet though but the following weekend i can say
35:27that we did hook up me and amberlynn did but this was still before me and dana had started talking
35:34crazy night no not really say bye destiny bye again another lie so she's lying a lot it's just tons
35:41of inconsistencies i need to call her out because it's not okay and then i saw on facebook that dana
35:47and her boyfriend had broke up and i just casually texted her and we just were talking we ended up
35:53talking all that night and the next day i texted her and just said like how do you feel about
36:01me like
36:01what are your feelings towards me basically i just wanted to know i have admitted to emotionally
36:06cheating on amberlynn oh my god i didn't have like full-on feelings for dana in the time before we
36:13when we were talking it wasn't like flirting or anything like amberlynn even says like she read
36:17our text messages there was nothing there i did see text messages where she was flirting with dana
36:21they send emojis like all the time like heart eyes kissy faces and heart but i don't know like i
36:29just
36:29wanted to know her more like we just clicked really well it's really what it was coming down to so
36:34i
36:34didn't know if it was like real feelings or if it was just i needed a friend feelings because i
36:40would
36:40talk to her about stuff i asked her that though and then she didn't text me back for three days
36:44so i just took that as she didn't i just went about my business though those three days i didn't
36:51like
36:51bother her a whole lot or anything and she said yeah um i don't want to be with anyone i
36:55don't want to
36:55hook up with anyone i just i just want to work on myself i want you to work on you
36:58and like we could
36:58possibly get back together and it was like five days later her and dana are now talking flirting
37:03this and that and me and destiny ended up having sex together i just woke up yes i slept with
37:07my
37:07makeup on like it is what it is things happen i also slept with my bow on
37:13crazy night no not really say bye destiny bye while she was talking to dana she just got done
37:19talking with jay i thought about just like messing around with this girl basically
37:23not anything coming out of it and then she texted me back finally on like that third day
37:28she said that she had feelings for me and had had feelings for me since november when her and i
37:33were just friends true story this is the first place destiny and i ever hung out
37:40that's just friends that's just friends just friends
37:52so we were at the laundromat and that's why she quit talking to me because like i said before
37:58she literally just quit talking like after thanksgiving i could just be like hey nothing
38:05like she would not talk to me hey guys happy thanksgiving so destiny and i did some black
38:10friday shopping and i wanted to show you what we got got a tv for upstairs because what we have
38:17upstairs
38:17is like this big i think it's like 18 inches so we got a 43 inch for upstairs it's 4k
38:23ultra hd
38:24smart tv by element destiny got guitar hero for the ps4 and i'm just gonna lay out this stuff so
38:30it's easier destiny got doctor who for dimensions destiny it's like a collection of the destiny games
38:37you got no man's sky okay show them your like some of your favorite gifts that i got you okay
38:43because i know they're totally curious like look at all this stuff guys destiny's about to leave me
38:53leave without me because she's gonna go get me a couple christmas gifts i told her she doesn't
38:58have to give me anything like i'm that person literally who just wants to give give give give
39:02everybody everything and not take anything for myself because i feel like christmas is very much
39:06about giving and i just don't care if i get anything that's just like how i am i haven't always
39:11been like that i will admit that when i was like younger i just wanted all the gifts in the
39:15world but
39:15that's just how little kids usually are right yeah she's gonna go get me some gifts super sweet
39:19to her so i just left her alone i wasn't gonna do anything so i told her i felt the
39:23same way though
39:24i told her how i felt kind of in november how like i really just wanted to get to know
39:28her better
39:29then it was dana's turn again and destiny said i can't wait to wear your skin
39:36i knew right that in the accent something ain't adding up
39:41as a friend and then like now we had the opportunity to be more than that and i said i
39:47kind of had thought about that before but i was with amber lynn it wasn't true that you slept with
39:51amber while you were dating dana no like after me and amber lynn broke up it was literally like that
39:57night it was the girl one of the girls that i ate lunch with that i lied to amber lynn
40:00about i was
40:01like oh maybe i thought about just like messing around with this girl basically but the following
40:06weekend i can say that we did hook up crazy night no not really me and amber lynn did but
40:14this was
40:14still before me and dana had started talking like i said she's a known gaslighter cheater liar it is what
40:22it is i never gaslit amber lynn that's another thing like she called me a gaslighting cheater
40:26and that is not what i am i think she might have had a boyfriend and you know like it
40:32just wasn't the
40:33right time clearly and november was when it started getting really rocky for me and amber lynn and
40:37that's when i think i had tried to talk to her a couple times but like i said she didn't
40:41respond
40:41but that was when i just really needed like some kind of a friend because i needed someone to talk
40:45to about all this stuff and i know i had said i was secretly talking to my ex whatever it
40:50was spooky
40:51but they weren't responding to me i just needed someone to talk to that's why i ended up hanging out
40:55with my mom a lot around this time and i was just talking to my mom about everything i said
41:00so yes i did
41:00sort of emotionally cheat but i didn't act on it like there wasn't any flirting or anything like
41:05that that was just kind of like in the back of my mind kind of thing
41:09you did it don't lie so after we admitted to having some kind of feelings towards each other
41:13we just started talking and we went on our first date on the 27th of january after work it was
41:20basically the 28th because i think we got off at like 2 in the morning so it was basically the
41:2428th
41:24we had already planned on hanging out saturday night so this was a friday that we went on this
41:29little date or whatever we had planned on hanging out saturday night but i was like hey would you
41:33want to go to the truck stop with me and just get some food and talk and stuff friday night
41:37so we did
41:38that and we were at the truck stop till like 4 a.m just like talking told me her friend
41:42was coming
41:42together but it was getting on so late i was like do you want me to just take you home
41:45because this is
41:46getting it's getting late she called her friend and her friend had accidentally fallen asleep and they
41:50had to go get her siblings from somewhere and she was like oh no i'm late for that so then
41:55she finally
41:55left we had planned on hanging out the next night like i said just at her house just having like
41:59a
41:59little movie night whatever she had had a crazy day that day i know because like i said we were
42:04out till
42:04like 4 in the morning then she was out with her friend and then she had to make up hours
42:08at work
42:08because at this point in time at our work if you missed any during the week you could make up
42:12hours
42:12and go work on saturday and work off however many hours you owed and she had to do that but
42:17she had to
42:17be there i think it's seven or eight so she got there then she got off at like i think
42:22one or so
42:23and then she had to get her best friend ready for winter ball so she had to take her to
42:28get her nails
42:29done had to do her hair and all that and then i finally went over there to hang out with
42:32her and
42:32she was like i literally haven't been asleep since basically thursday night so she was super tired all
42:37we did was watching movies and then i ended up staying the night with her because she fell asleep i
42:41think it was after we had went and picked her friends up from winter ball then we just she finally
42:47just was like ready to crash and i was like f it you know like i'll just stay the night
42:50why not as long as
42:51she was okay with it our first date was we got off work just gotten off work i rode with
42:56destiny to
42:57the truck stop we ate and we talked for what like three hours it was a long time it wasn't
43:01supposed
43:01to really be that long but my friend maggie okay this is maggie say hi hi she was supposed to
43:07come
43:08pick me up but she like fell asleep and by the time i texted her got her awake she was
43:12like crap
43:12she was like i fell asleep it was fine though i was gonna take her home but her and maggie
43:16had to go
43:16get her maggie's brother yeah and her and his little friends so the next day i came over came
43:22over and we watched movies together and i ended up staying the night nothing happened
43:29no i said the night just because it got super late and we drank some wine and stuff so didn't
43:34really want to drive amberlynn kept texting me asking me when i was gonna be home and i was like
43:38just not responding no she has not seen anyone
43:49hey guys okay so last night i hung out with charla and her cousin i had such an amazing time
43:54like
43:54charla if you're watching this which i like 100% know that you are just thank you for being such
43:59an
43:59awesome friend and for being there for me me and destiny are about to go hang out and i just
44:03stayed
44:04the night i know i remember waking up right when the sun was coming out because her neighbor had
44:09chickens and they started like cock doodling and i was like dana there's chickens outside she was like
44:15yes there's chickens outside you know i was like oh i don't know it just kind of scared me i
44:19went home
44:20probably like after lunch time on sunday and amberlynn had me run her all around lexington doing what
44:26she wanted to do and then we went to the movies i know a lot of people are very confused
44:31about the
44:31dynamic that me and destiny have like i get it but destiny and i mean a lot to each other
44:36just
44:36because we aren't girlfriends anymore doesn't mean i guess the connection and like the friendship or
44:41whatever just kind of shuts off like that's just not how it works i know it's weird for you guys
44:45it's weird for me i'm trying to get the hang of being around her but knowing i can't kiss her
44:49or
44:49whatever but i don't really want to talk about the breakup right now we're gonna go get something to
44:53eat i have been craving mexican food for a while now so i'm gonna uh do that things just progressed
44:58from there with dana and i you guys know how that went not too long after this me and dana
45:04had
45:04talked about a couple things and i didn't know it but her and charla had been best friends at some
45:11point she was just telling me that when you're friends with charla that's got to be like your
45:15only friend and charla won't want you to hang out with anybody else and i was like well that's how
45:19amberlynn is maybe that's why they get along so well and she was like me and her like i did
45:22everything
45:23with her we did all kinds of stuff together and then i think she said something about she either got
45:27like a boyfriend or something i don't know this is before we knew charla so this was before i think
45:32we even started working there and she said that charla just started like picking fights with her
45:36about stuff and she just ended up not being friends with her anymore after me and dana started like
45:40you know hanging out a lot more because i started eating lunch with her obviously after we went on the
45:45date or whatever charla started trying to start some drama between me and amberlynn with dana like she
45:51was just like spying on me basically she would just like text amberlynn and be like oh this is what
45:55she's doing but it literally like we were broke up it wasn't her business it was whatever you know
46:01like i wasn't in amberlynn's business asking her anything because we were broke up like what's the
46:07point that is just january of 2017 i hope this clears some stuff up about y'all calling me a
46:14cheater
46:15and all this and like i explained before even though i was secretly talking to my ex it was spooky
46:19it wasn't
46:20in a way like that it was like as friends talking the only thing i'll admit to with amberlynn is
46:25that
46:26i emotionally almost cheated on her emotionally like it was in the back of my mind but i didn't
46:31even try to act on it because i was with her like after me and amberlynn broke up it was
46:35literally like
46:35that night i thought about just like messing around with this girl basically sort of thing you know like
46:42so there so there you go that is that
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