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00:00In the name of God
00:01What's wrong, my love?
00:03God, you're going to put a microphone in my mouth?
00:05What's needed to hear a good sound?
00:07I understand, so the reflection doesn't show up in the camera and reveal that we're filming.
00:10Your basic situation is possible, but the one who's been through it, I'm just asking.
00:13Sumaya and I have been married for 25 years.
00:17A quiet and beautiful passport
00:20It's a marriage that's a complete disaster for him.
00:22Honestly, we share all the household chores.
00:25That's right, he makes a mess and I clean up after him.
00:28No, wait a second, I'm listening. Why, wait a second?
00:30I swear to God, once I remembered
00:32I swear I opened the fridge to get a drink of water
00:35I locked the refrigerator door behind me.
00:37And of course, I must be a part of the upbringing.
00:40Of course, it definitely has to be part of it.
00:42I'm not raising them
00:43The poison says about me that
00:45yeah
00:46I'm telling him, "I'm not going to be scared, am I?"
00:48I can't believe she could say something like that.
00:50He will pretend to be a slave at first
00:52Listen to what I know.
00:55To be honest, I mean
00:55Sometimes I'm away from home
00:58Why are you absent?
01:00And the Prophet does not say
01:01Don't say "Oh, by God,"
01:04I know her
01:06He'll tell you about work
01:07A lot of work, extra overtime
01:10By God, if he doesn't tell me, I'll tell you.
01:12The house has been there for three years
01:15I'm married, I'm actually married.
01:17I am already married
01:18Do you know who he's married to?
01:20You won't believe it, it's classic.
01:22My dearest friends
01:23By the way, she's not her closest friend or anything.
01:25They were in school together
01:27Dusty with some
01:29It means they were like sisters.
01:31That's why I loved her, be careful
01:32Work reminds me of her
01:34He said that
01:36They are thinking about her
01:40Everything I've described about her face
01:41I remember Sumaya
01:43I consider my passport to be in it
01:45an opportunity
01:47If I fix what's past
01:50He actually said that
01:51This is a terrible marriage, a complete mess.
01:54Do you know who they're marrying?
01:56Telesk
02:05You won't believe the blessings of Azan
02:06Welcome to a new episode
02:07From the Al-Daheeh program
02:08This episode is precious, not just for married people.
02:10But it's also still postponed
02:12To eradicate emotional illiteracy
02:14and the controversy
02:15With the wives, God willing
02:17That's all I want from you, God willing.
02:18On your wedding night
02:19They used to stay up all night watching this episode, it was really good
02:21So that this marriage may be completed, God willing.
02:23Get rid of them, get rid of them
02:24They were grateful
02:25A sunny morning in Seattle, USA
02:27We find the couple Mark and Jans Gordon
02:29Those who haven't been married for a few months
02:31Two people eat breakfast like two birds
02:33Happy canaries with a view in front of them
02:35A beautiful natural landscape for a clear view
02:37Mark, as usual, puts Jenner next to him at breakfast.
02:39He then plays a match to read it.
02:41He was happy so that he could enjoy himself, but Jans
02:43We finish our breakfast and a long phone call begins.
02:45Morning routine with her mother
02:47Natural for a couple
02:49And in their laboratory, their age is such that you are in the cattle.
02:51For Mustafa Fahmy, spell it again
02:53If you look closely, my dear, you'll notice that something is not right.
02:55What I've seen is that they are happy, Abu Ahmed.
02:57No, dear, there's still something much more important.
03:00If you look, my dear, you'll need three video cameras.
03:02Fixed on the walls
03:03If you look at the hems of their shirts, you'll find
03:05Microphones are installed, Abu Ahmed.
03:07They came out with something that was two jobs with the support
03:09My dear, your smile is like a spy in this world.
03:11He remains wearing his Holter monitor on his chest
03:14Heart palpitations
03:14We support Abu Ahmed, sorry, I don't understand.
03:16My dear, stay with me and focus on the natural scenery.
03:19The thing in the background behind you is actually a painting, not real life.
03:21This is a painting, not really a landscape
03:23This, my dear Gotman Love Lab
03:25Founded by the scientist John Gottman
03:27Robert Levinson at the University of Washington
03:29In Seattle in 1986
03:31For the purpose of a scientific study of passports
03:33Specifically, the reasons for the happiness of those who transgress or their rise
03:36The two countries insisted that the laboratory should remain like any ordinary apartment.
03:39The couple are of average temperament
03:41Kitchen, sofa, TV, and a basic mattress
03:43It's exactly like being in your own home
03:44Mohammad, I have an air fryer, why don't they have one?
03:46But, Ola
03:47The important thing is that this ordinary house will require the couple during this experience
03:50If they bring the groceries they usually buy with them
03:53And the newspapers that they usually read
03:54Tell me anything you do in your daily life.
03:56And also the things they use on weekends or holidays
03:59They will also be required to
04:01They act naturally as much as possible.
04:03Under supervision, it will remain operational from
04:059 AM to 9 PM
04:06Monitoring all areas of the apartment except the bathroom before you get upset
04:09Abu Ahmed isn't a big problem, I mean
04:11This will only last two days.
04:13That means the matter is over.
04:14My dear, two or three days, what?
04:15This study takes many years.
04:17Gottman Headers Married Couples' Behaviors
04:20And their actions, even expressions of sorrow
04:22Over many years
04:23Abu Ahmed's insurance policy proved beneficial in this experience.
04:25Let me give you a resounding kiss, my dear.
04:27And suddenly, in a big surprise, the Gutmen team
04:29The ability to predict the continuation of the passport
04:31Or divorce between spouses, meaning those who studied them
04:32Accuracy reaches ninety-one percent
04:35From three different studies, that means nine
04:37Out of every ten passports, the team estimates
04:39Are these two going to get divorced, or are they both?
04:41They'll complete the new medical school, Abu Ahmed, along with the marriage statistics.
04:43Divorce exists in any society, if we say
04:45The divorce rate exceeds 50% in America.
04:47For example, this is true information, but it is subject to comparison.
04:49On the harms of humanity, but the Gottman experience
04:51She predicts divorce within seven years
04:53A very short period of time
04:55Abu Ahmed said, "We can't go because I'm Emirati."
04:57We'll see if we get a divorce or not because of someone
04:59Are you getting married or not? No! But, Abu Ahmed
05:01This level of accuracy can come from a little monitoring
05:02Measurement of verbs and counters
05:04I mean, there is no scientific talk! Make another surprise
05:06And I'm telling you that Gottman won't just focus on behavior.
05:08If the behavior involves lying and deception, then the body itself...
05:10And his age is increasing! Remember the Holter monitor?
05:12The one that measures pen activity
05:14Gutman will measure pen drawing, blood pressure, and hormones.
05:17For husbands and wives who are being experimented on
05:19We said it! And this is Abu Ahmed's connection to divorce.
05:20In a study at Ohio State University, they measured
05:22Levels of stress hormones such as adrenaline
05:24ACTH hormone
05:26For newlyweds
05:27They compared this physiological condition
05:30Their condition ten years after their marriage
05:32Azin Zain type! These hormone levels are higher
05:3434% during discussions
05:39Compared to people whose marriages lasted and continued
05:41It means if you find people in her marriage
05:44Her hormones are so high
05:46You could say these people are probably going to get divorced
05:48Hormonal levels during discussions
05:50It could be an indicator
05:52Will these people get divorced or will they continue their marriages?
05:54This is a clear connection
05:55Between physiological results and the likelihood of divorce
05:57Within a certain period of time
05:59This, my dear, is what he meant by the scientific study of the passport
06:02Gotma and the lab didn't miss a single detail.
06:04So they can monitor the couples
06:05Don't take it personally, I just feel this guy is a bit off.
06:08He came with an apartment, furniture, cameras, and a heart monitor.
06:10So that he can study for marriage
06:11Uncle, you study diseases, then treat people for diseases.
06:14The one who divorces divorces, and the one who marries marries.
06:16We're in the thick of it, my dear, if you're young.
06:18But you should know that marriage
06:20It could kill you, just like any other disease.
06:21It's also possible that the countries that will save you from the disease
06:24My dear, this is not emotional talk and I'm not under any threat.
06:28According to a study at the University of Michigan
06:30Your chances of getting the disease in general
06:32It will be 35% higher
06:34If your passport was miserable
06:35Only the happy couples remained, the average
06:38Their lives are long, it's a fair cycle after
06:40For years, this is simple because
06:41A person who lives in a marriage is a person who suffers
06:44From chronic stress and tension
06:45On a physical level and on an emotional level
06:47This stress makes him prone to heart problems.
06:50Ali has high blood pressure.
06:51This is in addition to psychological problems such as depression, for example.
06:53On the other hand, you'll find someone who cares about you.
06:55It reminds you to take care of yourself
06:57You should go to the doctor as soon as you feel unwell.
06:59I feel responsible for my mood.
07:01Your mood, your health, and your body
07:03In his book
07:05He would say, "If you dedicated just 10% of your time to the gym every week..."
07:09To improve your relationship with your wife, my dear girl
07:11And listen, this will triple the health benefits.
07:15What you'll get if you cum at the gym
07:17No, Abu Ahmed, I mean I'll pay a subscription.
07:19I won't pay for gym memberships according to this study.
07:22Gutman's lab will be for his work
07:23How did you get the passport? Was it good or bad?
07:25But perhaps this question depends
07:27Another important question is that we need to
07:29Our first question is, how does the marriage process begin?
07:32The passport, my dear
07:33It is a partnership relationship
07:35Most often between two people
07:37The foundation of this partnership lies in your ideas.
07:39And your prior readings on the other side
07:41For a long period, my dear, of our history
07:43The breadth of the relationship and the breadth of the partnership were
07:45Based on the idea that I see a way
07:47A specific scientific framework outlines the paths of these relationships.
07:49He's trying to figure out if it will end or not.
07:51And how can something that ends end and its door be closed?
07:54And its results are like what was happening in Gutman's lab.
07:56But according to the writer John Michensen
07:58Books like this will start appearing in the nineties
07:59Men are from Mars, women are from Venus
08:01Best seller since the day he released Mustafa Mahmoud's books in Ataba
08:04This book is a self-help book.
08:0515 million copies will be printed.
08:07It is translated into more than 40 languages worldwide.
08:09This book will establish only one idea
08:11Each party in the marriage comes from a different planet with different characteristics than the other.
08:14This book will be followed by a series of books.
08:16The idea itself confirms that, guys
08:18Men have their own catalog and women have their own catalog
08:20But if anyone finds anything, tell us, like
08:22From Ar Klems, Woman Ar Kraubers
08:26Although many of these things have no scientific basis
08:28However, it will become ingrained in the consciousness of both genders.
08:30Even children will be able to control their choices.
08:32Some expectations of each gender from the other
08:35Dear Gutman, change takes years.
08:36To calculate the divorce rate
08:38A non-scientific book can change an entire culture
08:40The passport specifies the basis on which it begins.
08:42And it ends on what basis
08:43I'm trying to send you the episode, my friend.
08:45And allow me, my dear, to analyze this claim and see if it is true or not.
08:47Let's take the most important preliminary idea
08:49Taken from men and women
08:51What's the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word "woman"?
08:53Or the word "rajel" (men) is used to describe men who are hiding and are considered weak.
08:55And the women are miserable and don't eat dinner.
08:58We'll see
09:00If we analyze, my dear, the idea that says
09:02Men are by nature like women
09:04She leans towards freedom and celibacy
09:05And then she went on to discuss the restrictions of married life.
09:07And they are naturally inclined towards treachery, deceit, and backstabbing.
09:11We will find Dr. Arisha Okrah
09:12In her book
09:13Matarda Al-Zakoura
09:15Light suggests that the first feeling that drives a man to cheat is not
09:17Biological programming, but
09:19Their sense of emotional detachment
09:20Their sense of insecurity and lack of safety
09:23It could be because it attracts attention
09:25Or a sufficient estimate, but according to the samples
09:27Why did I collect so many things?
09:29Betrayal is seen as an attempt to compensate
09:31These feelings are from the outside instead of reaching his desired goal that is still to come.
09:33He loves her completely through fluency.
09:35The Zakra, my dear, is when they stop eating out.
09:36My dear friend, the studies will reveal something contrary to what is expected, my dear friend.
09:38You always find in the media that it's the six who
09:41She wants to get married, and therefore assumes that women
09:43She becomes happier in marriage.
09:45Married men are happier than married women.
09:49Day Pain in studies and unmarried men
09:51Single men are more unhappy
09:53And more violent in society
09:54As much as the doctor's words may seem a bit toxic
09:57Yasmine is a bit of a character, but he confirms
09:59Betrayal is not an environmental phenomenon.
10:01Or, to cut a long story short, you're continuing your doctoral studies.
10:03Regarding the talk I found, something like
10:05Treason, in our populist sense
10:07It doesn't depend heavily on gender, I mean
10:09It doesn't depend on whether it's male or female.
10:10Or, as it happens, when a man cheats, he cheats with a young lady.
10:13And when a woman cheats, she cheats with a man.
10:14Of course, it means different recipes, but they're announced.
10:16According to her, the most precious betrayal depends on the opportunity.
10:19Accessibility context
10:21We find that there is a significant increase in the rates of wife infidelity.
10:23This parallels the increasing rates of women in the personal market.
10:26Betrayal means an opportunity that presents itself to someone
10:28He has an emotional problem and feels unwell.
10:30Feeling bored, hungry for management
10:33And the interest, according to studies
10:3480% of wives and husbands
10:36They said that the betrayal itself was not the reason for the wedding day.
10:39And if it was a result of this decline
10:41The marriage didn't end because of the infidelity.
10:43But the betrayal happened because of the marriage.
10:45Bebos
10:46Just a second, Muhammad
10:47What is this, my dear? Please tell me.
10:50We see stereotypical ideas
10:51There is some truth in it, of course, but not all of it is true.
10:55Just wait for now
10:56Because it's your turn and your next stereotype
10:58The whole world is calling you a niqadi
11:00Let's look at this claim as well.
11:01According to Dr. Catherine McKinley, we will find
11:03Men and women experience the exact same walks
11:06Like anger, misery, and sadness
11:08The difference is that, according to what the women said
11:10They are allowed to express this, but men
11:12They are allowed to, and this, my dear, is not a biological matter.
11:14But according to Dr. Catherine
11:16There is something called Gender Rhodes
11:18Gender roles in society are imposed on us
11:21It's like we're actors in a play or a TV series.
11:23The men say, "You men are strong."
11:25You have no emotions
11:27No man cries and then goes to women and tells them
11:29You are free to express yourselves as you please.
11:31So naturally, women will be braver here.
11:33In that it opens the doors of the companions
11:34Without being afraid to show her feelings to anyone
11:36This happens 80% more often than in men.
11:39Those who usually avoid discussing these topics
11:41You meet, my dear, at a coffee shop and ask him, "What's wrong, my friend?"
11:43Then he said to you, "Makhnoun, pray for me."
11:44Oh Lord, just do it
11:46The strange thing is that she contacted her
11:48These are, according to her, societal roles.
11:50So you find that it is common for couples
11:52They accuse the wives of being lenient, and on the other hand
11:55Women say about men that they are cold, insensitive, and have no blood.
11:58My dear, the idea is that when a man suppresses his feelings
12:01These feelings don't go anywhere else, but rather
12:03According to sources, it reacts in his body
12:04Marital discussions that evoke strong emotions
12:07The husband's blood pressure is higher than the wife's.
12:09His heartbeats also become faster and more violent.
12:11And he stays in this state for a much longer time, keeping his relationship with his wife.
12:14But I say to you, dear husband
12:15If your heart beats 100 times per minute
12:17You won't be able to understand your wife's words no matter how hard you try.
12:20Because you'll be in a state that Gutman calls
12:22Flooding has pushed you to your limit and you're feeling extremely stressed.
12:24To the point that it will prevent you from even focusing on what is being said.
12:27Or, after all this, you might still respond to it rationally.
12:30And this isn't the only tax imposed by gender roles on society.
12:33Gottman noticed that when a husband adopts his masculine persona like that
12:36He believes the gender role that dictates it and remains repressed towards his feelings.
12:39Effective when someone is involved in a discussion, they tend to think in terms of winning or taking what is rightfully theirs.
12:43This is a lot of pressure
12:44However, according to him, the wife is more adept at calming herself down than her husband.
12:48Because she is very accepting of her feelings and talks and discusses them a lot.
12:53She is able, in one way or another, to control it.
12:55She's not afraid of taking it out.
12:57If a wife is upset, she will often be inclined to challenge him or take a less severe reaction.
13:01The opposite does not necessarily happen.
13:02Because often, if the wife's voice is loud, the husband will raise his voice even more.
13:07I believe that women are inherently more adept at understanding and dealing with emotions compared to men.
13:12Even if they are women, it doesn't necessarily mean they are men.
13:15The topic is not biological programming.
13:17This comes from childhood and a long head of experience.
13:19If we look at how boys and girls play together
13:22That was the street back when we were kids.
13:23You'll find that the players focus on winning and achieving victory in the game.
13:26The men came and played football, then they started fighting and insulting each other.
13:30And you don't get angry, and you don't get angry, and you don't do I don't know what.
13:33You can play with your lifelong friend if they're playing in front of you to win the match.
13:35At a time when girls focus on emotions in their games
13:39For example, if two girls are playing and one of them says to the other, "We're not going to be friends anymore,"
13:43In this game, it will stop until it is at least fixed.
13:46Now imagine the man and woman entering into the marriage process, the partnership process.
13:48Their expectations of each other are all stereotypes
13:51We treat each other like we're from completely different planets.
13:54They also live out the roles that society has placed them in.
13:56They considered that you were their ally and that they had to act accordingly.
13:58Without considering that these might very well be roles they are forced to play
14:03Sometimes society doesn't just impose its roles on men and women.
14:05Rather, it is based on his economic and social circumstances.
14:08On the luck of journalist Lita Honk Venture
14:10Those who studied something like marriage and gender in societies like China
14:13Lita found that the idea of marriage was summed up in one sentence by a girl from Shanghai.
14:18Passports there are not limited to just two people.
14:20But the whole society is getting married
14:22People, sons, ancestors, and state
14:25One year, Joe Habib
14:25This is marriage in China, not just any marriage in the West.
14:27We're just talking about China.
14:28According to the Huku System, which is a housing system in China.
14:31So, in 2012, for a girl to own a residence in Shanghai, she would have to be married.
14:35Many Chinese women are now refusing marriage as a reaction to societal pressure.
14:39To the point that the legal age for marriage for a girl was 2024 and nine out of ten years old.
14:42Age in 2022 to 27.95
14:45It's about three years.
14:47According to a study by Basem
14:51Marriage is a basic necessity in the Middle East and in Egypt.
14:54Passport is a criterion for puberty
14:56This is the way society will be able to take you seriously.
14:58Are you a father? Or a mother?
14:59Get married if you are mature
15:01But as a result of economic pressures on the man
15:03On the basis that he is himself and is able to get married, he reaches the age of 31.
15:06The average passport for a girl is currently 23
15:07Of course, my dear, the economic pressures will increase, and the social pressures will increase; they don't end after marriage.
15:12In fact, it increases
15:14The pressure on married couples increases to such an extent that the following percentage reaches 65%, my dear.
15:18What's this about? 65% in the first year
15:21The third means only passports that will be completed after the first year.
15:24We are dealing here with societal circumstances that have nothing to do with the individuals themselves.
15:27But these pressures make marriage, and more importantly maintaining it, a much more difficult process.
15:31My dear, perhaps the passport isn't affected by the planet you come from.
15:34It's not about Mars and Venus, but rather that marriage might be influenced by the country you come from.
15:39Our expectations of others and society aren't just a problem with marriage.
15:42Sometimes our expectations regarding the project itself are the biggest problem.
15:46Specifically, the expected fantasies of a happy marriage
15:50There's absolutely no problem with it, just like we see on Instagram, and they're always doing that all day long.
15:56She does this for him and he does that for her, according to a study published in 2016 that followed 135 couples over four years.
16:02And they paired
16:03Their expectations before marriage about the idea of marriage, their opinion on marriage after they got married
16:07The study found that couples whose expectations were realistic from the beginning were the ones who were able to continue their relationship.
16:13While all the expectations that the marriage would include everything they hoped for ended up being more disappointed and with more problems.
16:19Aref Azizi is the best investor in the world, and when you ask if I could choose just one quality in my life, it would be that quality.
16:25One of them knows what he said?
16:26If I want to live in a happy marriage, I need to have low expectations of my partner, and they need to have low expectations of me.
16:33When we do our usual thing, they are surprised and pleased, and when they do their usual thing, we are surprised and pleased, so we are both surprised and pleased.
16:40If we were to divide marriage problems into two types, my dear, we would find one type before the solution, and this is usually linked to a specific situation, which we will discuss in terms of blessings and length.
16:47The couple's expectations of each other were based on mutual warnings after the first incident, and they resolved the issue.
16:50My dear father, the second type is difficult to solve and it recurs constantly. This issue usually has an apparent cause.
16:56There are other hidden reasons behind this.
16:58As a result of these numbering issues, a problem arose, and the argument became: "You didn't take out the trash," but in reality, the argument was about "You didn't forget."
17:04She helps me as if the house is solely my responsibility.
17:06Unfortunately, my dear, 69% of marital problems are of this second type because the couple directed their energy towards idealistic expectations about the idea.
17:13The passport itself is more important than their focus on each individual. Who are they even going to pass? Each of us has more than just qualities and characteristics.
17:18But we also have problems stemming from the formation of our personalities before we even had a partner. As the specialist Danwell says in his book After Honeymoon
17:24When you choose your life partner, you are choosing along with a host of problems.
17:27So, my dear, it's best if you choose the type of problems you can live with.
17:31A happy marriage is one where the couple is able to deal with solvable problems before they become permanent issues.
17:39They might even be joking about it, joking about their own problems, and not about other people's problems, because they didn't expect this mistake.
17:43The important thing is that they don't reach what Gottama calls stagnation.
17:47This is the situation a couple reaches when one or both of them constantly feel wronged or victimized.
17:52Meanwhile, listen to this and write it on your Twitter: the sad partner is a victim of his expectations, not of the check that bleakened his life.
17:59Sis, my father Ahmed, you're exaggerating a bit.
18:01And I don't need to take her for a psychological analysis with Dr. Carligan in order to get married.
18:04And I won't go back to the two names in the Gottma lab that are being watched.
18:06What do you mean by "general"?
18:07He told him, "Leave him alone for marriage, then he can go to the therapists."
18:10And before Serapisto Life Coaches
18:12I'm sorry, I don't want to surprise you.
18:13But in the customer satisfaction survey, the specialty that received the worst reviews ever
18:17They are the psychotherapists for husbands and wives.
18:20This is the job you left most dissatisfied with.
18:24The problem with marriage, as I explained to you, is that each gender has expectations of the other.
18:27and their expectations of the project itself
18:28Many specialists have fallen into the same problem
18:30They expected that the passport could be measured against their pattern.
18:33Doctor-patient relationship
18:34In a way
18:36The one that brings no good
18:38You, me, and Captain Khaled Bebo all know this very well.
18:40The most common method for treating couples
18:44It was invented by the psychologist Carl Roger
18:46In the 1960s, its primary function was to train psychiatrists.
18:49They respond to what they hear from their patients.
18:51Without issuing any judgments against them
18:53In order to make the patient feel as much empathy as possible
18:56With what he's going through
18:57And it is assumed that the happy marriage
18:58Each party is capable of acting according to their nature.
19:00And the other party makes him feel and drives him crazy.
19:02With its advantages and disadvantages, and the sounds it makes all the time
19:05It was only natural that specialists would train couples
19:07In the same way
19:08The one called active listening
19:10How does this happen?
19:11This happens through advice
19:13If you, for example, pronounce your words with the first-person pronoun
19:15Not the one being addressed
19:16Don't say things like, "You annoyed me."
19:17Why did you leave me alone on a day like this?
19:19But she tells her, "I'm upset that I felt alone on a day like this."
19:22Here, the other party will rephrase what they heard.
19:24In a way that shows appreciation for the person's feelings
19:27The one who said this
19:27It's not that I'm defending myself.
19:29The initial reaction will not be
19:31Yeah, I wasn't free and I was tired.
19:33And what are you doing?
19:34Because what was directed was not an accusation
19:36A calm, sad person approached me
19:38My first reaction will most likely be...
19:41Poor thing
19:41So, Abu Hamad, that's art in itself.
19:43The problem remains
19:44That's not how it works, my friend. The success rate of this logical method is...
19:46Even in the presence of a psychologist
19:48From 35% to 50% means a drop
19:51And I'm not giving you any example of a psychologist, my dear.
19:53I'm talking to you about someone like Neil Jacobson, for example.
19:55The one who wrote important books on marital relationships
19:57The text didn't succeed, it was thin
19:59Not just that
19:59This is at least half of the couples who have been treated by him.
20:02And then they relapsed and their relationship with Bozit again
20:04According to John Gottmund, simply put
20:06There is a difference in blood pressure between the doctor's discussion and the patient.
20:08In a psychologically comfortable environment free from accumulated problems
20:10Or previous fights whose effects are evident on each side
20:13And discussing with your life partner who has studied self-knowledge
20:15He is not even a neutral party in the problem.
20:17It's difficult to listen to complaints, some of which are valid, and remain accepting of a normal situation.
20:20Saldouk is his wife, not his therapist.
20:23So let me tell you that even in regular psychotherapy
20:25The doctor tries not to develop a personal relationship with the patient.
20:27Even if the discussion between them takes a personal form
20:29The therapist is supposed to move the topic to a neutral discussion.
20:32This does not mean that active listening and communication skills have no role in marriage.
20:36But it's certainly not enough on its own to save the marriage.
20:39When Abu Ahmed takes it, it means each gender's expectations of the other are a trap for the other.
20:42Our expectations regarding the passport are a trap for us.
20:44This is a trap that could come our way in harsh social and economic circumstances.
20:47And this is also a trap that will come to us in the doctor's office.
20:49Or at the cerabist who paid me 800 pounds an hour to treat me
20:53So what should I do? Who should I go to?
20:54Abu Ahmed told me he doesn't want a rebellious mood, or single, or Ziksh, or a farstrati.
20:58What's wrong? Who are you looking at, boy?
20:59My dear, please don't worry, it will all work out in the end anyway, so don't worry.
21:02My dear, do you think I'm going to leave you like this?
21:04Oh, how he locked you up from every side so you'd stay there until the end of the episode!
21:08And you will have seen all the media
21:09I'll solve it for you.
21:11After they have earned their living
21:11The truth is, men aren't from Mars.
21:13It could be a normal dammit
21:14Women are not from Venus.
21:15It could be the Kingdom of Shablanja
21:17The explanation is obviously complex.
21:18But I say it's simpler than that, let's go and talk to each other.
21:20Sean Kent was the one who said the password was in the even hour.
21:23It is a common need, present in everyone to the same degree.
21:2670% is just one sentence.
21:29Quality of friendship between the two parties
21:31What is meant by friendship here
21:32Mutual respect and enjoyment
21:41His hopes and dreams
21:42In the friendship of Zed
21:42Your wife might leave you a chicken leg as a gift.
21:45Because I know you love him more than the dam
21:46The husband might spend a lot of time with his wife's story.
21:49Although he doesn't prefer family gatherings
21:51And he doesn't prefer his wife's story.
21:53All of this happens because one day you're up, the next you're down.
21:55Without a doubt, they feel that it is a graveyard for something.
21:57Abu Ahmed, honestly, I mean honestly, Abu Ahmed
21:58I feel like what you're saying is just Facebook talk.
22:00Sweet writing on Twitter; writing in books.
22:02People say it as poetry, but not in reality.
22:05In reality, we need
22:06People from the Red Cross come and dismantle
22:08Armed conflicts, we are in a cold war
22:10On the brink of nuclear conflict, all these are just tips.
22:12Even the bird after the honeymoon
22:14Honestly, my dear, let's agree that when you watch the program
22:16Omar is talking about football on this program.
22:18The app teaches you how to play football.
22:20This is your time to learn and implement.
22:22But you still need
22:24So that you can maintain the friendship
22:26The one Mr. Gottman is talking about is supposed to
22:28The beginning of the relationship is not its end.
22:30We'll never become friends.
22:31No, if we have friends, we can become a company.
22:34Because it leads to what Robert Wise calls
22:36The triumph of positive torches
22:37Simply put, in a relationship like this, the first thing that happens is a fight.
22:39Those who are easily swayed assume good faith.
22:41They see us as an obstacle and a stumbling block in a strong relationship.
22:44Captain's playing field
22:45Expect both sides even when problems arise.
22:47Here, the feelings are positive, unlike if they were negative.
22:49She's the one who's winning, so we'll sit down now.
22:51Scientists deciphering the code of some of the bases
22:53What did he mean when he left? What did she mean when she walked away?
22:55Every small mistake will be interpreted as a very big problem.
22:58And every attempt at reconciliation during the fight
23:00The person who initiated the reconciliation wasn't skilled in communication skills.
23:03He hears well, so his attempts won't even be heard, unless they're going to misinterpret them.
23:08She says, "I'm sorry, you're taking us too seriously."
23:09Why are you saying that? Does she think I'm crazy for pulling my hair out?
23:11This is one of the reasons why traditional couples therapy isn't very effective.
23:15As cases of the triumph of negative emotions
23:17This is very important, my dear, if there is no trust that our intentions are good
23:22End the relationship now
23:23Makka, the situation isn't that the relationship is going to end now, quickly.
23:26Because there won't be a gear
23:27So we won't be able to take anything positive from this person.
23:30And we won't be able to build on something positive and grow the relationship.
23:33Make sure your intentions are good
23:35And that you have good feelings towards each other
23:37That's right, my dear, feelings are like money, they don't last.
23:40And it's impossible for a relationship to succeed on its own because of our sweet feelings
23:43That doesn't stop us from asking for or offering support.
23:45Jotma believes that feelings are renewed according to each party's response.
23:48Because of something he calls pizza
23:50BIDZ
23:51And it means the attempts that each party makes
23:53To tell the other party that he needs him
23:55Germans, my dear, in marriage, each party supports the other.
23:58In 86% of cases
24:00Buhamad, my number was 83%
24:02Is it at a high level?
24:03Isn't this blood-lightening worthwhile?
24:04She is the reason for your failure in relationships
24:05So you left, O year
24:06The important thing is if we compare the happy passports
24:08Passports that ended in divorce
24:09The response rate to support requests was 33%.
24:12The percentage of support from the people of many happy passports
24:15Look at something that's 80% and something that's 30%
24:17This support can be in simple ways.
24:19Like, maybe a glass of water while you're in the kitchen
24:22You can take your plate as you leave
24:24Could you please put my phone on charge?
24:26simple things
24:26This is also included
24:27It's also possible with a large need
24:28Like participating in the care of one of the wife's relatives
24:31Or one of the wife's relatives
24:32According to Gutman
24:33The most important aspect of romance
24:34Not an expensive trip to a luxurious beachfront location
24:37And there's no date in a fancy restaurant with a violin playing behind you.
24:40But
24:40The most important aspect of romance
24:41It is responding to simple support requests.
24:44The one who talked in the Suhannah
24:44What happens throughout the day
24:46Which accumulates a balance of positivity
24:47It allows the relationship to withstand problems when they arise.
24:50Everything you know how to charge, my dear, is now charged.
24:52Find someone, my dear
24:53No, the women he follows
24:54They saw that the man who helps them with housework
25:04Her daily routine helps her
25:06And she can see it too
25:07Because he's trying to comfort her
25:08He's not helping her because she's sick or in an emergency situation.
25:10But it's because he's trying to simplify it.
25:12According to Gutman
25:13This shifts the focus
25:14How will each one make the other comfortable?
25:16Instead of excessive focus
25:17What did he do?
25:18And that's what Gutmen sees.
25:19Evidence of a problem between the spouses
25:21Because no one is supposed to count for anyone else
25:23As much as daily routine activities are important activities
25:26However, sometimes breaking the routine is important and enjoyable.
25:29According to the researcher Arthur Aron
25:31One way to renew the blood of any marriage
25:33he
25:33New activities where couples discover each other
25:37According to the book Normal Bar
25:38Sometimes renewal is called "Geshers".
25:41You don't necessarily have to go there to do skydiving in Dubai.
25:43And don't try to escape from Skipperon in the corners
25:46much simpler initiatives
25:48Like a kiss on the cheek
25:48Or watch a massage
25:49Or watching a movie or an episode of a TV series
25:52Simple activities
25:53It doesn't require effort or exhaustion
25:55Or even time
25:55My brother, have some blood in your veins and send it to her.
25:57Text message
25:58No emojis
25:59enough
25:59Sa'ba
25:59Will it be finished?
26:00In short, friendship will find its drowning.
26:02Regardless of your economic or social status
26:05Through it, you can express your love and appreciation for the second chassis.
26:07Muhammad Takhlees, here is the question for you.
26:08Why did you ask, girl?
26:09She was honest at university
26:10Do women and men actually hit on best friends?
26:13According to a study from Stanford University, my friend
26:15This university is very expensive for her.
26:17Boys and girls in childhood
26:18They might actually be best friends
26:2035% of cases are up to 7 years old
26:22But then this percentage drops to almost zero.
26:26Puberty
26:26I'm sure these friendships are nonexistent between the sexes.
26:29Because at that time, girls were more receptive to influence from boys.
26:33The girls are all the same
26:33Boys are more receptive to influence than boys their own age.
26:36I'm thankful I'm like a thug
26:37The impact here refers to the form of consultation or participation.
26:40And the impact of my second opinion on the decision
26:42Respecting feelings and readers
26:43That's why girls aged 5 to 7 years old are proud of this condition.
26:46And they stop playing with the boys.
26:47According to what you're saying, Hamad
26:49It's not appropriate for boys and girls to have friendships.
26:51You're now reading your episode based on a fragile foundation.
26:53Let me tell you, my dear, despite everything I've told you
26:55However, friendship with positive feelings
26:57He requested support and clarity between the two parties.
27:00It regains the influence it had long ago in childhood.
27:03Gradually, the two genders have different roles they were raised to play.
27:06According to Gutman, in the fights in captivity
27:08Which involves a mutual influence between the spouses
27:10It means they are influenced by each other's words, they listen to each other's words, they understand each other's words.
27:13Their fights are less intense than other fights.
27:15The likelihood of a successful marriage is higher.
27:17In mourning, my dear, marriage is a relationship between two people with different personalities.
27:21And their ideas are definitely different from each other.
27:23Two people are imposed certain roles on them by society
27:25Despite all the problems, they chose to commit to life, whether
27:28And the length of time they need to make
27:29Compromise here is understood in its positive sense.
27:31Not in its negative sense
27:32Reaching compromises, not giving in
27:34And what's more important than communication skills in this case
27:36The couple prefers companions
27:45You can recognize it and explore it even as it changes.
27:48In marriage, my dear, the marriage can last for years.
27:51It's natural that the people we got to know at some point in time
27:53They won't stay the same.
27:54We won't stay the same.
27:55That's why, my dear, a successful marriage from the beginning is ongoing.
27:58Don't think that you've finished anything already.
28:00We understood each other as friends
28:02No, we change, we transform
28:03Therefore, we need to prefer following ourselves.
28:06and followers of the second party
28:07So that we can preserve this marriage
28:09Let's see what the other party wishes for.
28:10What can I help him with?
28:11What's bothering you about me?
28:12And how can I reduce this?
28:14Ultimately, my dear, there is no mathematical equation.
28:16The success of all this ensures
28:17Let me hit you with a screwdriver in the ring
28:18And in humanity
28:19And in civilization
28:20In the institution of marriage
28:21And in every need
28:22Our reference is Gutman
28:23The one who keeps going all the way
28:24Overcome by several times
28:25and divorced twice
28:26Meaning Egyptian peas
28:27The carpenter's door is broken
28:28That's all, my dear
28:29My brother, I swear to God, I will be the last.
28:30Let's look at the previous limit
28:30See the next one
28:31Look at the sources
28:32We subscribe to YouTube.
28:33Helena, my dear, at the end of the episode
28:34Let me give you a serious analogy about marriage.
28:36He's a big barrel-like worker
28:37First, five cents of honey
28:39The rest isn't honey.
28:40What is this?
28:40Sania Wahid Abu Hamid
28:41The barrel was opened with information