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00:00:01Do you see me as the mother-father of your children?
00:00:03Yes, I do see you as the father of my children.
00:00:06After seven weeks of marriage,
00:00:09Feedback Week brought some couples closer together.
00:00:12Only the best for my wife.
00:00:14Thank you for setting tasks that really understand Stephen and I
00:00:18and what we needed.
00:00:20But for others...
00:00:21Sure, I'll take that on board.
00:00:23Even now, I feel like you're getting defensive.
00:00:24I'm not getting defensive of having a conversation.
00:00:26Tensions were at an all-time high.
00:00:29I'm not doing it.
00:00:30No thanks.
00:00:33Um...
00:00:34It was just, um...
00:00:36As Scott avoided any critical feedback,
00:00:39opting to keep the peace in his marriage.
00:00:42I knew if I went too deep,
00:00:44I'd be over the balcony.
00:00:47You're absolutely pissing me off.
00:00:49Danny struggled to give Beck a straight answer.
00:00:52Do you think you will fall in love with me and why?
00:00:56Um...
00:00:57At the dinner party...
00:00:58After weeks of being caught in the crossfire...
00:01:01Oh, God.
00:01:03Alyssa tried to put a full stop to the feud between Gia and Beck.
00:01:07Stop using me!
00:01:09Stop using me as a pawn.
00:01:11And Beck and Danny spiralled.
00:01:14I want you to be wary about what you text people.
00:01:16Two months ago, Daniel.
00:01:17Okay, that was ten years ago.
00:01:18I want out now.
00:01:20I'm wasting my time at a dinner party talking about abusive text messages.
00:01:25I'm here for a wife and a relationship. I'm not here for drama.
00:01:28Do not sit there in front of everyone and not show solidarity to me.
00:01:32Just pretend for two minutes.
00:01:37Tonight, it's the second last commitment ceremony.
00:01:40You ask the question of like, alright, if we go outside the experiment, how quick would you expect like a
00:01:45proposal?
00:01:46I say the sooner the better.
00:01:48Wow.
00:01:48And some are already locking in plans for married life outside of the experiment.
00:01:53My man is leaving and he is actually starting to show me what my life here in Sydney could look
00:01:59like.
00:02:00And then...
00:02:01So last week you said that the noise from the group and around Gia doesn't affect your relationship.
00:02:08Do you still believe that?
00:02:10Will Scott speak up and confess how he feels in front of Gia?
00:02:15I will admit like...
00:02:19The question, what was it like?
00:02:22It was a bit...
00:02:22Could you see yourself falling in love with me?
00:02:24Yeah.
00:02:25Why is Danny dodging the question?
00:02:30Um...
00:02:34In one of the most confronting couch sessions ever seen.
00:02:39It's a pretty black and white question.
00:02:44Before the blind side...
00:02:49That will leave the room speechless.
00:02:52I just can't believe it.
00:03:08It's the morning of the second last commitment ceremony of the experiment.
00:03:12And despite a tense ending to last night's dinner party, one couple continued to shine bright.
00:03:23Good morning.
00:03:24Morning.
00:03:26It's the long black.
00:03:28Hopefully you don't burn the roof of your mouth.
00:03:29No, she'll be fine.
00:03:30You know.
00:03:31Last night for Stella and I, yeah it was great.
00:03:34We were just sitting there, united, chilling out, smooching whilst the drama's happening.
00:03:39We tend to do that when people are kicking off, we're just kissing each other.
00:03:43And then, yeah, we're staying out of it for the most part.
00:03:45I think we are out of the trenches with the drama.
00:03:49I doubt it but I'm very, very hopeful.
00:03:52I'm very hopeful.
00:03:52Some people cannot help themselves.
00:03:55I've seen the blokes like Danny and Scott and they're just ready to not talk about high school shit.
00:04:03Like, Scott is not his usual self.
00:04:05He was just...
00:04:07His light was dimmed.
00:04:08He was just not there.
00:04:09He's dimmed, yeah he's dimmed at the moment.
00:04:11He's just not there.
00:04:12Danny as well, definitely.
00:04:13Yeah.
00:04:14I always look at him and he's just so withdrawn and just...
00:04:16They dissociate.
00:04:17They just dissociate and they just go to another realm.
00:04:20They just leave the place.
00:04:21They're just like this.
00:04:22Yeah.
00:04:25I just wish that people like Becca and Gia can stop saying sorry and just don't do it from now
00:04:32on.
00:04:33Don't be sorry and go I take accountability and just don't do it.
00:04:37How about we try that and then we don't have to keep talking about this BS.
00:04:47While our couples are putting on the final touches for tonight's commitment ceremony,
00:04:52one participant who is not looking forward to seeing the experts is Gia.
00:04:58Last one I walked out.
00:04:59I don't like commitment ceremonies one bit because I hate being vulnerable and talking about my feelings and commitment ceremonies
00:05:07don't go great for me all the time.
00:05:09Last week I feel like I was getting in so much trouble for the screenshots.
00:05:12They didn't at all question back.
00:05:15It was just me for sending them.
00:05:16I just felt like I was just attacked and it was unfair last week.
00:05:19It's not fair that I'm always taking the heat for that sort of stuff.
00:05:23I admit I was wrong for sending them but I'm not the one who said the vulgar things in those
00:05:28screenshots.
00:05:28Bec was.
00:05:29I think it's just going to be more of a rehash of like what you're saying.
00:05:32Feedback week.
00:05:33Feedback week.
00:05:33Also why'd you walk out which it would just be a discussion of that.
00:05:37Yeah.
00:05:38I adore and I really am falling for Gia but like this whole experiment has been very tough in regards
00:05:45to the drama side of things.
00:05:47There was so many days where there was just so much heat and heaviness.
00:05:52Tonight like I'm nervous seeing the experts because this is something that I find is a problem and I'm going
00:05:57to address it.
00:05:59I'm not looking forward to how she's going to feel about it but I can only be honest.
00:06:09One couple that everyone will have their eyes on tonight is Bec and Danny who had a tense argument at
00:06:15the end of last night's dinner party.
00:06:18Don't sit here and say I want us to have a good relationship but we don't because of drama identified
00:06:25it.
00:06:26I just want you to be wary about what you say.
00:06:30I'm very wary. I want you to be wary about what you text people.
00:06:35I'm done. I'm not going back in. I'm done.
00:06:38He says oh we're ride or die, we're ride or die, we're not.
00:06:42Just pretend for two minutes.
00:06:44And this morning there has been yet another unexpected development in their relationship.
00:06:51How are things with you and Danny after last night's dinner party?
00:06:55Really good.
00:06:58There's so much love and adoration within this relationship.
00:07:03We had like a tiny little bit of crosswords last night.
00:07:06Danny sort of had a little wibble wobble.
00:07:08He was like I'm so good at the drama.
00:07:10And at the end of the day we've actually come out on top, you know.
00:07:13Even though it's kind of crappy for a little while, we always come back together, talk about it and end
00:07:23up with a better understanding of each other and in a stronger place in our relationship.
00:07:27Do you agree?
00:07:28Hmm.
00:07:29I became a girlfriend as well.
00:07:31Still happy with that decision boo?
00:07:33Still happy with the decision.
00:07:35I feel great.
00:07:36I feel absolutely fantastic.
00:07:37Like I'm not only a wife, I'm a girlfriend and I know that everything's hunky-dory.
00:07:41Me telling you at the commitment ceremony that I love you and obviously I'm in my own head as well
00:07:48because it's like shit, like that's a lot for me to do, ever.
00:07:54Like you're the first man I've ever told that I love first, ever.
00:07:58Feedback week, Danny, how's it been?
00:08:01Been an alright week to be honest, like alright is how I'd describe it, not amazing, just alright.
00:08:07Obviously the question task, Bec was just overreacting a little bit there, we know that, that's a fact.
00:08:14Do you think you will fall in love with me and why?
00:08:18Probably.
00:08:20I'd assume I will, yeah.
00:08:22Am I there yet? No.
00:08:27So it has sort of scared me that she's got stronger feelings to me than I have to her.
00:08:34Up until last week when she told me she loved me, I didn't realise she was feeling that strongly towards
00:08:38me.
00:08:39She'd never even told me like little soft things to like soften it.
00:08:43It was just like, that come out of nowhere.
00:08:46That's why when she told me on the sofa on the couch I was a bit like shocked.
00:08:50My feelings are extremely, extremely strong for Daniel.
00:09:00F*** it.
00:09:01I love you.
00:09:03CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:09:07CHEERING AND APPLAUSE
00:09:09Seriously.
00:09:12Do you think that you will get there or are you still not sure?
00:09:15It's hard to tell, to be honest, it's very hard to tell.
00:09:19In regards to intimacy, it's not like I don't want to do it, but it's not like I'm craving to
00:09:28do it as well, like I'm United Mean.
00:09:31Because of constant drama with Bec.
00:09:34So yeah, that's probably one of the things, the main reason that's holding me back.
00:09:40MUSIC
00:09:59Greetings gents.
00:10:01Hello, come on in.
00:10:03Good to see you all.
00:10:04Good evening.
00:10:05Good evening.
00:10:06Hi guys.
00:10:20Hi.
00:10:21Hello, welcome.
00:10:25Settling.
00:10:30Well, greetings everyone to the second last commitment ceremony.
00:10:35We are very much nearing the pointy end where you have to size up your relationship and really drill down
00:10:44on whether or not you can see a future outside of this experiment with the person that you've been matched
00:10:52with.
00:10:52Now it gets real.
00:10:55Now it gets real.
00:10:56Now in saying that, next week, it is home stays.
00:11:00This is done so that all of you can have a look at your partner's life as it exists outside
00:11:06of the experiment.
00:11:07And it gives you an understanding, a glimpse of whether you can fit into it.
00:11:14This is really a reality check.
00:11:17In fact, it is absolutely pivotal for you when it comes to your final decision.
00:11:25Take it very seriously.
00:11:27Now the past week of course has been feedback week.
00:11:31It's been a real test of how each and every one of you responds to feedback, but also how each
00:11:37of you gives feedback.
00:11:39So we'll be really interested to drill down into how that's gone for each of you and to see what's
00:11:44been the impact on your relationships.
00:11:47And of course, we saw some of that last night at the dinner party.
00:11:52It was actually quite shocking to see some of the behaviours that occurred at last night's dinner party.
00:11:58And we certainly want to get into all of that.
00:12:03Well, let's get our first couple up.
00:12:06Jira and Scott.
00:12:10Good to see you both.
00:12:12Yes, John, I'm still here. Are you happy about it?
00:12:15I'm very happy.
00:12:16Oh, I thought you wouldn't be.
00:12:18Yeah, particularly because last time you actually walked off.
00:12:22I did.
00:12:25So, let's go back to what actually happened there.
00:12:29Because we didn't get a chance to talk to you about that.
00:12:33Because we were talking about your relationship and where you're at and what a good place you're in.
00:12:38And it was positive.
00:12:40But then something happened.
00:12:42What was it?
00:12:47I was getting in trouble for the screenshots involving Alyssa.
00:12:51But the other person wasn't getting in trouble for what was written in the screenshots.
00:12:55It felt very against me.
00:12:59And I just felt like attacked.
00:13:05And I just felt like it was a bit unfair, to be honest.
00:13:09I just felt like, what about the screen? What was she was saying?
00:13:12Like, just me, me, me.
00:13:13I just cannot.
00:13:15So, I had to remove myself.
00:13:17I didn't want to have another argument.
00:13:19I didn't want any more volatile situations.
00:13:22I just, I had to remove myself.
00:13:26All right, so let's break it down.
00:13:28There are two parts to this.
00:13:31One part is what was said in the text.
00:13:36Which came out at the dinner party last night.
00:13:39The specifics of it.
00:13:43And there's no getting around that.
00:13:45It's abhorrent.
00:13:47Those words, those phrases, towards another member in this experiment, was appalling.
00:13:59I mean, Bec, the hits keep coming.
00:14:16I mean, Bec, the hits keep coming.
00:14:17What was said in the text, which came out at the dinner party last night.
00:14:22The specifics of it.
00:14:26And there's no getting around that.
00:14:28It's abhorrent.
00:14:30Those words, those phrases, towards another member in this experiment, was appalling.
00:14:42I mean, Bec, the hits keep coming.
00:14:51Regardless of what bad place you were in, the way in which you did that was malicious and extremely hurtful.
00:15:00And we don't condone it.
00:15:06That's the first part.
00:15:08The second issue is how they were used.
00:15:13And that's where you come into this, Gia.
00:15:15Yep.
00:15:17It was very high school.
00:15:21Trying to really get at somebody while hurting another person in the process.
00:15:30It's about choices.
00:15:32It's about choices in terms of what you write in the text.
00:15:36Then it's choices about what you want to do with that in terms of sending it on or not.
00:15:43I know I was wrong.
00:15:45Looking back now, I wish I never sent the screenshots to Juliet.
00:15:48I was doing the wrong thing.
00:15:50I mean, it was like something happened to me, like, that affected me and to defend myself.
00:15:56I was like, well, let me send some screenshots to do something to that person.
00:16:00And it was just like childish behavior, to be honest.
00:16:02So it was an eye for an eye.
00:16:03Yeah.
00:16:04Yeah.
00:16:05Okay, we do not want to revisit this ever again.
00:16:10And I'm sure Alyssa doesn't want to either.
00:16:13It is being put to bed as of right now.
00:16:20But, Gia, one of the things I wanted to ask you was, when you left last week, Scott was sitting
00:16:26here, kind of not really knowing what was going on.
00:16:30And I just wondered whether he was featured in your thinking in that moment.
00:16:37I told him before I ran out, I said, I feel sick, I'm going to leave.
00:16:42Scott, how did you feel when you realized Gia had left?
00:16:50Well, at the time, I was sitting there and going to myself, she's not left me.
00:16:54I just, because I know how close we are.
00:16:56So I'm like, there's no excuse for her to just bail.
00:16:57But then obviously, the only thing I was just a little bit annoyed was just not being told what was
00:17:02going on.
00:17:04Just communication, that's all.
00:17:07But deep down, I knew she didn't run away from me.
00:17:11So, yeah.
00:17:14So last week, you said that the noise around your relationship from the group and around Gia doesn't affect your
00:17:22relationship.
00:17:23Do you still believe that?
00:17:28Last week was probably one of the most heaviest weeks we've had in this whole experiment.
00:17:32More so for Gia.
00:17:33She's had a lot to take on herself, not wanting to be here for a few reasons.
00:17:41There's only so much, you know, I'm here to protect her and cater for her and make sure she's okay
00:17:45and give her reassurance.
00:17:46But there was a lot that happened pretty much every day and I will admit, like, it does make me
00:17:53not be myself.
00:17:58What do you mean?
00:18:00My energy dropped and I just...
00:18:03So I'm just trying to be positive.
00:18:05And it's hard sometimes.
00:18:08But feedback week, yeah, it was pretty hard.
00:18:11What was hard about feedback week?
00:18:13Obviously the commitment ceremony was, you know, I walked out and I wasn't good.
00:18:17You know, that and I just, I was just feeling off, right?
00:18:21So then I get told I have a feedback date and I'm like, oh my God, I can't do this.
00:18:27I cannot put myself in a situation like this again, where I'm arguing with somebody and I'm like, you know
00:18:33what, I don't want to go on the date.
00:18:35So what did you choose to do?
00:18:36I didn't go on the date.
00:18:40With these challenges that we set, you are certainly taken out of your comfort zone, but they're done for a
00:18:47reason.
00:18:49Here we go.
00:18:50It's alright, it's not.
00:18:52It's always about everything but our relationship.
00:18:57God, like how many more times am I going to get, like, attacked?
00:19:02It's not, it's not.
00:19:03That's what the vibe I'm getting.
00:19:04It's not.
00:19:06I've been apologising, I've been accountable, I've been changing my behaviour.
00:19:10I just feel like the feedback letter, I felt like it was an attack on me.
00:19:17The tasks that we received to do, I just found were just like, like not nice.
00:19:23Number one is Gia, remove yourself from any group chats that you're in.
00:19:29Number two, detox from all social media till final vows.
00:19:33Number three, no physical touch for 10 days.
00:19:37And I was like, I took it, this is how I took it, he took it different.
00:19:41I took it as an attack of like, oh my God, like another thing against me.
00:19:50Why do you feel like people are attacking you?
00:19:52I don't know.
00:19:54You have no idea.
00:19:55Well, that was Stella and Phillip, so I'm not sure why.
00:20:00There's just one thing I like to outlay is like, whether something's negative or bad,
00:20:05or like something you don't want to hear or see, we don't need to hold on to it.
00:20:10Because sometimes I feel it does hurt you in a way, deep down, where it's got to be said out
00:20:16loud,
00:20:17or people need to know I hate it, or like, sometimes I feel like you hold on to it for,
00:20:20with a bit of power behind you and you want to deliver it back to someone.
00:20:25And I feel if we can let go of things a lot easier, we can move past that,
00:20:30and then just focus on the other stuff.
00:20:33Because I see the light in everything, all the time.
00:20:35Like these things that are said, letters, it doesn't matter how bad it is,
00:20:38it's not like we're bad people, people just see what, they have an opinion for it.
00:20:42Right, this is your perception though.
00:20:43For me, for my own personal reasons and what I've been through in life, I felt attacked.
00:20:56I walked into this experiment, I said even my audition, I don't like negative stuff,
00:21:00I don't like drama, I don't like any of that, I don't want it in my life.
00:21:03And I know G has been involved in some of it and we had an agreement.
00:21:06Can you make a promise to me not involve yourself in drama for the rest of this experiment?
00:21:11There's been a few difficult things inside the experiment and I have to know whether it's the pressure in here,
00:21:17or whether this is outside as well.
00:21:21Nothing has really affected me in this experiment, the only thing is just the drama stuff.
00:21:24I just, I don't like it.
00:21:26And I just want to make sure and be reassured there's not going to be that shit outside of this,
00:21:29because I won't tolerate it, that's it.
00:21:32For me, I don't want someone who's going to retaliate in really bad behaviour, that's what I mean.
00:21:37It's about how you carry yourself as well.
00:21:38Just common knowledge, I would never do that.
00:21:40That's what I'm saying, from the stuff that's happening in the experiment,
00:21:42I don't want to see that outside the experiment.
00:21:44That's all it is, I'm not saying anything bad, it's just what I've seen.
00:21:46Yeah, just, you don't know me well enough then.
00:21:49Babe, I'm only helping.
00:21:50It's just not who I am, I just do not do that in life.
00:21:54I do nursing, like, I'm a kind person, I would never, but anyway.
00:21:58I'm not saying you're like that, I'm trying to just say what I'm feeling.
00:22:06She's not going to be happy with you playing that, I guarantee you.
00:22:12Scott's just talking about his experience with you, what he's seen.
00:22:17He can only work with what he's seen.
00:22:20And he has seen you rise to the drama.
00:22:22So he's not saying he knows that that's what you're going to do on the outside.
00:22:27He's saying he knows that that's what you have done within the experiment.
00:22:31So surely that's reasonable.
00:22:33Yeah.
00:22:38Oh no, we're getting slammed, Chris.
00:22:40Yeah.
00:22:41You're not getting slammed, babe, it's nothing.
00:22:45No, I'm all good.
00:22:46I'm sorry, I'm all good, all good.
00:22:47I don't like to cry, you know, just, I'm fine.
00:22:51Let's just finish this, please, yep.
00:23:08You're all right?
00:23:09Sorry, I'm here.
00:23:11Gia, do you feel secure in this relationship?
00:23:14Yeah.
00:23:16What makes you say that?
00:23:18Um, because even when I say I'm going to leave, he's like, no, you can't leave.
00:23:24Like, when I, like, lose my mind and, like, spiral, he's always there to, like, be positive
00:23:31and try and turn my mood around, and I feel like he's got me.
00:23:35Yeah.
00:23:36And I can feel like, yeah, I feel secure in this relationship.
00:23:39What about you, Scott?
00:23:43Well, the thing is, like, yes, we face these hard things, and we're not perfect people.
00:23:49But I see so many good things about you, and that's why I'm here.
00:23:54Like, you're such a beautiful person.
00:23:56Like, we've had a rough week, but we always come back to each other.
00:23:58So you feel secure in this relationship?
00:24:01100%, yeah, I feel secure.
00:24:03We just have these little hurdles to get through, understand one another, you know, and keep pursuing our life together.
00:24:12All right, well, let's go to the decision.
00:24:15Let's go with you first, Scott.
00:24:18I'm grateful that we're still here together, and then we got through, and we're still smiling, and I cannot wait
00:24:23for home stays.
00:24:24It's all right to stay, and happy two months to my beautiful wife.
00:24:27Aw. That's cute.
00:24:29Gia, stay or leave?
00:24:31Um, I know I need to work on some things, and I'm committed to doing that because, like, he's worth
00:24:36it, and I need to, like, grow as a person.
00:24:38I can't keep doing these behaviours that I've been doing, and I know I'm wrong for that.
00:24:42So, um, I'm just going to be positive this week and move forward, and we're going to be in our
00:24:47swimsuits at the beach on the Gold Coast.
00:24:50Little 40s.
00:24:52I've got square boobs, I don't know why, but that's a bikini.
00:24:55That's a bikini.
00:24:56Okay, well, I know that that was a very intense session, and it's so important for you guys to not
00:25:03brush things under the carpet.
00:25:06I know, Scott, you've mentioned that you like to look on the bright side of life, move forward as fast
00:25:12as you can, leave the past behind.
00:25:14Problem is, if you do that all the time, you don't address the issues that are there.
00:25:20And rather than saying, it's just going to be okay, forget about it, actually instead go, well, tell me more.
00:25:27And for you, Gia, what's really important is that if there's an issue that comes up from Scott, that you
00:25:33stay with it.
00:25:34Rather than look at it as a personal attack, this is just feedback about a behaviour.
00:25:40And I can sit here and talk about that behaviour, and then as a team, we can do something different
00:25:46moving forward.
00:25:47That'll help us a lot, to be honest.
00:25:49Because sometimes I want to bring things up, and then I get a bit scared because I don't want you
00:25:54to get the wrong ideas if I'm trying to attack you.
00:25:57It's because I genuinely care, and I just want to fix a few little things that'll help both of us.
00:26:02So I really love what you just said.
00:26:05Now with that, have a great week, and we'll see you next time.
00:26:07Thanks, guys. Appreciate it.
00:26:08Well done, guys.
00:26:09Cheers.
00:26:09Have a great week.
00:26:19I'm sick again.
00:26:27Still to come, what has Sam in tears?
00:26:35And later...
00:26:36Did you see yourself falling in love with me?
00:26:39Danny is put in the hot seat.
00:26:42I think I misinterpreted the question.
00:26:45Because it's a pretty black and white question.
00:27:02Next up, Rachel and Steven.
00:27:09Hello.
00:27:10Welcome.
00:27:11Welcome, welcome.
00:27:13It's nice to see you.
00:27:14Oh, yeah.
00:27:15Feedback Week.
00:27:17Tell us about Feedback Week.
00:27:19Um, I actually think Feedback Week was great for Steven and I.
00:27:23We started off with the first tasks of questions.
00:27:26The question of, you know, saying,
00:27:29can you see yourself falling in love with me at some point?
00:27:33We both had a big resounding yes.
00:27:36And so that was really nice, because in terms of the way we view our lives in the future,
00:27:43they're very much aligned.
00:27:45And so, yeah, it was really good.
00:27:48It was just a really great task.
00:27:51Feedback Week has been, you know, amazing.
00:27:55I got some really good advice from Alyssa of trying to be a bit more of a leader.
00:28:01Which we saw.
00:28:02We saw.
00:28:03We were very impressed.
00:28:04Oh, you saw that?
00:28:05Yes.
00:28:06At the dinner party.
00:28:07You did have a moment at the dinner party where you stood up to the group and you spoke on
00:28:13behalf of the relationship in such a mature, such a take charge, such a masculine, such a all there kind
00:28:22of way.
00:28:25We were very impressed and we were literally cheering that on.
00:28:29It was a really, really good moment to see Rachel beaming, because you were beaming, you were so proud of
00:28:36your man speaking up to the group.
00:28:41Setting those boundaries for the group and for the two of you.
00:28:44Well, I'm going to implement that not just for one day, it's going to be just in the relationship, going
00:28:48to put my captain's socks, undies and hat on.
00:28:52And, yeah, take a bit of charge and leadership.
00:28:57Captain, I like it.
00:28:59Captain Stevo.
00:29:00I'm going to get a hat for him.
00:29:04How did it feel in the moment to speak to the group the way that you did and to ascertain
00:29:09those boundaries and make yourself be heard so clearly?
00:29:14I know I'm pretty quiet in the dinner parties and I sort of like to keep things to myself because
00:29:19I feel like it's just a little bit easier to keep your mouth closed.
00:29:23In some situations, I guess it was good to, you know, finally be heard.
00:29:30I can imagine so.
00:29:34You guys have really been a bit of a slow burn, but every week we start to see something emerge,
00:29:42the intimacy, the speaking up.
00:29:44There's a lot of change in the two of you that I see, and it's on a week by week
00:29:49basis.
00:29:51What's it doing to you, Stevo, in terms of how you're feeling about this lovely woman?
00:29:59I feel really connected to Rachel.
00:30:01We're getting closer.
00:30:02I feel like, as well, saying to Rachel, I feel like I've come such a long way from the wedding
00:30:07and the ups and downs that we've had.
00:30:09So, feeling, yeah, really good.
00:30:11Rachel, for you towards him, what's going on inside of you?
00:30:16So, I really like Steven.
00:30:19I've been very clear about that.
00:30:21I'm very connected with Steven.
00:30:23It's just so comfortable to be ourselves and have fun and, you know, it's just amazing.
00:30:29And so, I'm at the point now where my man is leaving and he is actually starting to show me
00:30:35what my life here in Sydney could look like.
00:30:41That really shows through your body language is just how close and comfortable you are with one another and loving,
00:30:53dare I say it.
00:30:55Are we reading this correctly?
00:30:57Does it feel comfortable to be sitting like that?
00:30:59This is all, this is common, you know, in the apartment.
00:31:02You know, it's...
00:31:03Now you're showing off.
00:31:09So, with that in mind, we're going to go to a decision.
00:31:12Let's kick it off with you, Rachel.
00:31:17This is a huge shock, I know, but I've written stay and I put, like, the sun and, like, that's
00:31:23water from our little beach days.
00:31:26Cute.
00:31:27And Steve-O.
00:31:28I like where this is going, so why would I do anything else besides stay?
00:31:38Good on you guys.
00:31:39Thank you so much.
00:31:40Well done.
00:31:41Great.
00:31:42Thank you so much.
00:31:50High fives.
00:31:51It's a nice one.
00:32:06Our next couple on the couch.
00:32:11Chris and Sam.
00:32:17Hello, you two.
00:32:18Howdy, how are you?
00:32:19Hello, guys.
00:32:21How are we doing?
00:32:23Well, I've got to say, this is a very different energy from the two of you.
00:32:28Not what we're used to at all.
00:32:31So you're like a very different couple right now.
00:32:33Yeah.
00:32:36Do you want to let us in?
00:32:40Chris, you don't look very happy.
00:32:42No, I'm just like, um, like, first of all, you asked me a question last week.
00:32:48Are you starting to envision a life outside of the experiment?
00:32:51I thought it was admirable that I was actually thinking after the experiment and I said,
00:32:55perhaps, potentially, Sam based himself in Sydney.
00:32:57It came from a really good place.
00:33:00But Sam was upset that I didn't consult him before answering the question that you asked me.
00:33:05And then he said to me, ten minutes prior to the dinner party, your three apologies weren't genuine enough.
00:33:10I'm going to bring it up in front of the group.
00:33:13We could have facilitated that in the apartment in a more private, controlled environment.
00:33:19I feel like I've, um, you know, been dragged through the coals.
00:33:22I'm just going to go to Sam because there's something I just want to clarify here.
00:33:26Why was it that you felt the need to bring this up in that group context?
00:33:31I wanted feedback from the group. I can go talk to my friends.
00:33:35You can go talk to your friends and we can try and, like, see if we can move past this.
00:33:40Because I just couldn't see getting to a conclusion with just the two of us because I was just getting
00:33:44shut down.
00:33:46That's why.
00:33:49There are some pretty big lifestyle changes ahead of the two of you.
00:33:55Chris has got children coming.
00:33:56Yeah.
00:33:56You know, Chris has the farm.
00:33:58Yeah.
00:33:59And, you know, clearly, life's going to be very much rooted around Chris's existing world.
00:34:05Yeah.
00:34:06And a lot of movement and compromise on your part, Sam.
00:34:10Is this the elephant in the room here for the two of you?
00:34:16Does it feel like it'll be you making all of the sacrifice?
00:34:22I'll be making big moves.
00:34:24Yeah.
00:34:24So 90% of the sacrifice would be on me to, like, fit into Chris's life, which is fine.
00:34:29Like, I know that.
00:34:31I'm prepared to do that if we fall for each other.
00:34:33But I just didn't want to feel like I had no say in even how that would look.
00:34:39I just feel like there could be a bit more empathy around the fact that there's a lot that I
00:34:43have to change.
00:34:44And I would have really liked if you discussed that with me before.
00:34:49How does that sit with you, Chris?
00:34:51Yeah.
00:34:54My answer to you was coming from a good place.
00:34:58That question that you asked me, are you thinking about life outside of this experiment?
00:35:01Which I thought was such a cute question.
00:35:04That question has now, like, spiraled into something so much bigger than what we had anticipated.
00:35:11And it's, um, put a huge rift between us, obviously.
00:35:13And, um, yeah.
00:35:15Sam.
00:35:17I've been watching you and you look a bit withdrawn.
00:35:22What has all this, do you feel, Sam, done to your relationship?
00:35:27To be honest, like, it's, it's really sad.
00:35:30Because you guys saw me at the last commitment ceremony.
00:35:32And I even wrote in my journal afterwards that a life with Chris could be magical and amazing.
00:35:37Um, and it's just, like, taking the feet out from underneath me.
00:35:41Um, yeah.
00:35:44It sucks.
00:35:47Chris, one of the things I said to you, very curious, because essentially you were in a great place a
00:35:54week ago.
00:35:55And then Sam has brought something up gently to just say, you know, I felt a little bit excluded.
00:36:00I thought that would have brought you closer.
00:36:04But in fact, the reaction he got pushes him away rather than brings him close.
00:36:11Yeah.
00:36:13And one of the things I went to is, did you take Sam's reaction as some, something of a rejection?
00:36:24Because what I'm thinking is that your anger was coming from hurt and fear, and it often does.
00:36:32You've taken it very personally, and I want to put that to you.
00:36:36If that's the case, what might that be about?
00:36:42Maybe just unsuccessful relationships, um, in the past, you know, like, yeah, and I have been hurt a lot.
00:36:51But here's the thing, he's bringing this conversation up in front of the group.
00:36:58Not because he wants to throw you under the bus, but because he wants to be able to talk to
00:37:02you, and he feels like he can't.
00:37:04To the point where he's too scared to bring up a conversation with you, and he needs to take it
00:37:09to a larger group.
00:37:11That has got to get you starting to look at yourself and how you're talking.
00:37:18This is a real moment of truth for you.
00:37:22Because a communication style has contributed to the real crisis that you're in now.
00:37:31That doesn't mean that you can't recover.
00:37:34And tonight is one of those absolute key crossroads for you, Chris.
00:37:39Mm-hmm.
00:37:40Yep.
00:37:45All right, let's go to the decision.
00:37:48Let's go with you first, Chris. Stay or leave?
00:37:51I've been going back and forth the last couple of days, um, and I've actually decided that I need and
00:37:57I want to go put my dad hat on, and I would like to leave.
00:38:21I've been going back and forth the last couple of days, um, and I've actually decided that I need and
00:38:27I want to go put my dad hat on, and I would like to leave.
00:38:44Baby, no. No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:38:52it's a huge turnaround from last week yeah I just think that I need to
00:39:00concentrate on this next thing that's coming and he's gonna be as an amazing
00:39:05guy and he'll be amazing for someone I just don't think it's me for the moment
00:39:22Sam what's going on for you right now
00:39:30I just didn't see that coming I thought
00:39:36I thought you know this is the first hiccup we've had and we'd both come into this ready
00:39:42to take on feedback and then try and implement that and see if that could help
00:39:49and it just hurts to be like you've just given up because it got tough for a few
00:39:56days so yeah I just can't believe it let's go to your decision then Sam what
00:40:07have you got as much as Chris gave up a lot to be here I gave up a lot and
00:40:10I was I
00:40:12wanted to leave here with absolutely no regrets either way like 100% knowing if
00:40:16Chris was the guy for me right now I feel like I would have regrets and I
00:40:21wouldn't know completely if we could have made it work like I was prepared to take
00:40:26on anything you guys had to say and try and put it into work
00:40:38well as you know in this experiment the rules are if one person says stay and the other person says
00:40:43leave the
00:40:44couple stays for another week and they work on the relationship it might seem like a lost cause but
00:40:52frankly we see couples absolutely turn things around in one week
00:41:01but it will require some heavy lifting from the both of you
00:41:10I mean the one thing about you two right now is that it's not friendly so when you think about
00:41:16how
00:41:16you're going to take on this week to start talking to one another yeah in a respectful way and acting
00:41:22in a considerate way and from there you can start to see how it changes your relationship let me remind
00:41:31you it was only a week ago that you were loved up on that couch excited about the future
00:41:40but with awareness can come change and all you've got to do is treat each other in a friendly way
00:41:52all right thank you both thank you good work tonight well done that was hard
00:42:09well done guys
00:42:20okay our next couple on the couch alissa and david
00:42:29hello you two hello hello welcome how was feedback week for you guys so obviously feedback
00:42:38week started with some receipts from juliette um from last couch session that we had that was
00:42:45the start of our feedback week which was kind of negative you hear about oh just the messages but
00:42:51they were actually really vicious yeah it wasn't okay it was it definitely was a fresh it was fresh
00:42:58hurt for david and i yeah look um seeing those text messages just oh reopened wounds that were
00:43:05obviously closing over obviously it was a negative vibe to feedback week we didn't want to see that but
00:43:12it came to us so yeah um yeah moving on from that feedback week actually went really well because we
00:43:21managed to talk about um something yeah we talked about a plan for when we left the experiment what
00:43:27that was going to look like you know a bit of long distance maybe and then uh figure out like
00:43:32if we're
00:43:32moving to maybe adelaide
00:43:36it's obviously you know getting to an age and the next couple of years i want to have a family
00:43:41and i
00:43:43want to be in adelaide for that and that was something that i hadn't talked to david about but
00:43:48he was amazing he was like i understand if you need to be with your family and you need extra
00:43:52support then we're going to move to adelaide and i understand raising kids is not an easy task so you
00:43:57know she's obviously got her family there her mom and her mom's a legend alissa would be a fantastic
00:44:04mother she notices everything about me you know what i'm saying like she she helps me a lot
00:44:10i did say though i did say you did say though she reminds me of my mother she might be
00:44:16like don't
00:44:17wear that shirt it doesn't like it doesn't look good on you like just straight direct that's what
00:44:23my mother would do so that's what makes me know that she's got deep feelings and she cares because
00:44:27like she tells me things that challenge me you know and she doesn't just settle like she's always
00:44:33looking to grow she brings out the best in me as well and i think that's someone i need in
00:44:37my life
00:44:38someone who's always going to push me to be better hmm so you're in a good place guys i feel
00:44:44like
00:44:44we're we're the strongest we've ever been yeah like right now yeah yeah that's great yeah brilliant
00:44:52let's go to the decision alissa what'll it be well obviously got exciting week coming up home stay
00:45:00i'm about to convince you that you might like adelaide so stay fabulous show you around
00:45:08it so i wrote stay i go to little planes oh you're getting adventurous take me home baby
00:45:18yeah i love it ready to go yeah there has been some really tough times for you guys and you've
00:45:26just turned toward each other back to each other and supported each other like a real team thanks guys
00:45:43coming up frankly when i watch you on the couch you seem uncomfortable the experts apply the pressure
00:45:51to danny if you could do it over again how would you answer it i'd just say yes yes what
00:45:58i could see
00:46:00yourself in love with you yeah that's as simple as that and would that be the truth
00:46:18our next couple up on the couch philip and stella hello hello hello hi welcome
00:46:32hi last week was a little bit tough for you two on the couch i see such a different energy
00:46:40just
00:46:41walking up to the couch um i really want to thank mel for her advice to focus on the emotional
00:46:48safety
00:46:48that he's providing and giving me and it's such a simple thing when you think but i i didn't think
00:46:55about it and that was just like a penny drop moment for me i really i really want to thank
00:47:00you guys
00:47:00because um i think if not the confinements of the experiment probably would be different story at the
00:47:05end of the day uh so yeah thank you it's these uncomfortable chats that need to happen it's not
00:47:11you having a go it's just yeah yeah it helps it helped us this week tremendously so yeah yeah great
00:47:17to
00:47:17hear we ended up having a good week like she was she was a lot more gentler like you know
00:47:21coming
00:47:22leading with kindness she's just been a little bit more gentle just with her delivery i can see
00:47:26sometimes she just as she sometimes starts talking she'll just stop and then she'll just go a little
00:47:31bit softer just things like that you know i can just little subtle differences that you can tell
00:47:35like yeah don't get me wrong stella's still stellar but you know but she's a little bit yeah
00:47:40a little bit different energy and uh we actually had a really really good week
00:47:45go ask the question of like all right if we go outside the experiment how quick would you expect
00:47:49like a proposal or something like that just to like fully escalate things you know you're just
00:47:54asking randomly just throw it out there it's a free question that's it six to 12 months and stella
00:48:00was just like asap so it's just kind of like i said the sooner the better wow
00:48:07sometimes i thought that like i was fully over invested and i was showing too much because that's
00:48:11a general trade of mine i just go all in you know i show all my cards here they are
00:48:15you know
00:48:16i never really hold back that's kind of like a trade of mine uh but it was good to get
00:48:20the
00:48:20reassurance uh but yeah we point out something that yeah that's quite stark for you stella
00:48:27last week you were essentially pushing him away and creating that space and this week you're saying
00:48:34you want a real life proposal well let's put it that way i didn't say i would like a proposal
00:48:40that was
00:48:40a free question let's clarify and i got really shy i got really uncomfortable and i said the sooner the
00:48:46better you know sooner the better yeah so still the stark contrast i guess from last week how does
00:48:51that feel from your perspective uh i'm trying to make sense of it it's gonna be confusing
00:48:58but it's just it's extreme it's extreme and it has an emotional impact so i'm just wondering how that
00:49:04like no it's good it's it shows that she's forward thinking she sees me in her future and that she's
00:49:10like the real deal you know when you think about the future is this something that you can see for
00:49:15the two of you yeah yeah definitely most definitely so yeah uh pretty pretty confident
00:49:20i guess it's interesting tonight that the first thing i noticed was the way you looked at him again
00:49:26uh yeah you're back into that you're back into that sort of starry-eyed interaction where you
00:49:33gaze at him in extended ways oh you're gonna make me cry we just we lost that last week yeah
00:49:43i would say i just fell back into my feelings into my body into showing up for myself and then
00:49:49showing
00:49:49up for him because if i don't show up for myself i can't show up for him and that's the
00:49:53main difference
00:49:53and ultimately i think you had to get out of your head and into your heart which is ultimately what
00:50:00we were trying to get you to do all right well with that being the case let's go to the
00:50:06decision
00:50:06stay or leave the decision is very simple and being back into my heart another beautiful stay
00:50:14excellent look at that hey perfect love it and philip it's uh it's a stay strong strong stay
00:50:24well thank you we really i personally really appreciate the advices that you guys give good
00:50:30work thank you will do thank you thanks again
00:50:41and our final couple up on the couch beck and danny oh i'm scared
00:50:56right feedback week how was it do you want to you talk i'll talk it's been good it was
00:51:01challenging to begin with but it ended really really well why was it challenging
00:51:10so i obviously like i told danny that i'm in love with him the last commitment ceremony you certainly
00:51:17did it's how i feel so i'm gonna say it
00:51:24and i meant it but when we sort of did the questions there was one question that came up was
00:51:31can you see yourself falling in love with me and danny didn't say no but he sort of um denied
00:51:38a little
00:51:38bit and i just spiraled so what was his exact answer uh potentially yes i assume so
00:51:51so how did that feel um i was upset i was hurt and i was kind of embarrassed
00:52:01i thought that he would have said no i'm not there yet but yes i just thought that it that
00:52:10he would
00:52:11be a little bit further along than potentially yes i assume so but i need to allow daniel to
00:52:18be on his journey in this relationship and i'll be on mine and don't regret it be me
00:52:27i'm in love he's not there yet don't allow that fact to ruin how good it feels for me
00:52:39so sorry sorry danny
00:52:48let's go to that discussion shall we and when the question got asked tell us again what you said
00:52:54and then why you said it well the the questions are sometimes i struggle with to be honest
00:53:02i think i misinterpreted the the question
00:53:07but the question what was it like it was a bit you see yourself falling in love with me
00:53:13because it's a pretty black and white question
00:53:26if you want to know what i looked like 12 months ago this is it this is the last time
00:53:31i went surfing
00:53:31basically it was overhead height but i realized the surf's a bit beyond my level
00:53:35i tried pulling off the wave i could see a sandbank and i went straight down head first onto my
00:53:43fin
00:53:44i was surprised i came out alive to be honest surfing is a beautiful thing but honestly i've
00:53:50just been too scared to get back out there i remember you were walking up and i don't know
00:53:54if it was that you could see the blood or something but you started running well i got closer and
00:53:58the
00:53:59dude said to me i was like what'd she do and he's like dude she has the most gnarly thin
00:54:02chop i've ever
00:54:03seen 19 stitches honestly i looked like harry potter the doctors in hospital said you cannot have a
00:54:10knock like this again the concussion you had next time it won't be okay
00:54:18fear for me in gymnastics actually ended up stopping me i would pull out of skills but you
00:54:22like think you're going to commit you say to yourself like i can do this and in the middle you're
00:54:29like
00:54:29i'm too scared and you literally land on your head like you're actually hurting yourself but you're not
00:54:34trying to hurt yourself and i was getting severely injured daily i saw sports psychologists and no
00:54:40matter what they said i couldn't stop that was a mental challenge i couldn't overcome because i knew
00:54:45gymnastics was going to be taken away from me i learned to accept it in gymnastics but like i'm not
00:54:50accepting this in surf i have a background in fitness coaching counseling i'm always trying to show
00:54:54to people you can do anything and so it's a little bit like your imposter because there's one part of
00:55:01you but you can't get past but you'd expect that from others i'm a go-getter i don't let anything
00:55:06stop
00:55:06me and this is the one thing that's stopping me so if i can do this today i can get
00:55:13back on that path
00:55:14but yeah i am a bit nervous
00:55:20i feel incredibly apprehensive the fluttering chest is not stopping and i'm just hoping that today's going to
00:55:29be okay the worst thing that can happen is a redo of last year and that better not happen today
00:55:37my confidence can't my confidence can't handle it i can't have another crash like that like
00:55:44it really really impacted my confidence and that's not like me like i'm known as a person that's a
00:55:52go-getter and doesn't stop and doesn't let fear stop them so i can't have a knock like that again
00:55:59i'm really scared i just don't want to be new people because people see me as this confident
00:56:05person they don't get i am petrified i think i misinterpreted the question
00:56:24but the question what was it like it was a bit you see yourself falling in love with me because
00:56:29it's a pretty black and white question
00:56:39from my point of view i don't feel as a man like if i if i give back my word
00:56:46on something i'm always
00:56:47going to stand to that and i don't think saying yes i can 100 fall in love with you
00:56:55would be the right thing to say because it's almost making a promise
00:56:59which i don't think you can promise that before you're in love with someone
00:57:04but let's just remind ourselves the question wasn't
00:57:08what do you promise that you will fall in love with me yeah i know john 100 it was can
00:57:13you see
00:57:14yourself falling in love with me yeah and do you know what like i can't sit here and make excuses
00:57:22i just answered the question shockingly you know what i mean
00:57:28it was a mistake i made a mistake i'm only human
00:57:32like i didn't i didn't mean to make beck feel like that it wasn't my intention
00:57:38when when we revisited it i um we talked about it talked about it and we patched up you know
00:57:50um yeah i just i made a mistake it's all right baby
00:57:58daddy i've got a question because i'm curious
00:58:02frankly when i watch you on the couch do you seem uncomfortable
00:58:09i do find this uncomfortable to be honest it's not something what's uncomfortable about it
00:58:14just sitting here talking about your feelings
00:58:17i turn up and do it because obviously it's more for back
00:58:21if i had it my way i wouldn't be here no chance but we need this baby is it more
00:58:25for beck
00:58:29a hundred percent
00:58:33like a lot of blokes do things they don't want to do because hold on a second darl one second
00:58:38babe
00:58:39adore you so much i love you actually but this is not all for me darl no i know that
00:58:46they're like
00:58:47you're being you're they're helping you too trust me
00:58:52these couch sessions are not just for beck you signed up to the experiment on your own
00:58:58saying that you wanted to break some patterns so this is the chance for you to do that and that's
00:59:03your part where you have to rise to the occasion and choose to do that with enthusiasm enthusiasm thank
00:59:11you thanks alessandra you're welcome no but it's true you want your partner to want to
00:59:17and that's the game changer when somebody really wants to be there for you and chooses to make your
00:59:23priority day in and day out wow that's the game changer it would be for you it certainly will be
00:59:29for beck
00:59:32and what you know now is when you're particularly talking about commitment future feelings you do have
00:59:42to choose your words very carefully
00:59:46you do indeed if you could do it over again how would you answer it i'd just say yes
00:59:56yes yes what i could see myself on the other view yeah that's as simple as that and would that
01:00:02be the
01:00:03truth of course i wouldn't say if it wasn't the truth so yeah i just answered it wrong that was
01:00:14my answer
01:00:16i think the best thing with daniel and i and i've learned is that you know we always come out
01:00:22better and stronger because now moving forward we're in this together and that makes me feel
01:00:29like i'm not gonna get hurt it means so much and like for example he planned this date and i
01:00:38walked
01:00:39into our apartment and there was candles lit everywhere and all over the apartment was post-it notes
01:00:46telling me how he felt about me
01:00:50so he's learning guys i'm not all bad am i and then we went up and he asked me to
01:00:57be his girlfriend
01:01:02i know you're married but what inspired you to ask beck that question uh i'm trying to think
01:01:10like it was in but it was important to beck you know because like why was it important to you
01:01:19um
01:01:22well because it because it gives back security but why is it important to you danny
01:01:30what do you mean so it's like but but like i think it it was more
01:01:40um
01:01:41um yeah i think beck just wanted that added security that lied to you but why was it important
01:01:46to you to ask her that
01:02:06um
01:02:07um yeah i think beck just wanted that added security that lied to you why was it important to you
01:02:12to
01:02:13ask her that
01:02:23because i know it'd be special to back
01:02:27but why was it important to you
01:02:41because i wanted to be my girlfriend like you know um yeah that's that's why i'd done it
01:02:49cute
01:02:57how did it feel so good
01:03:03it's really special to me
01:03:08all right well on that note we're going to go to a decision beck i wrote stay and then i
01:03:14wrote boyfriend
01:03:14hee hee hee oh
01:03:18cheer boyfriend
01:03:22danny leave can you imagine
01:03:26so i've just done a cheeky stay
01:03:30that's lovely where's the love part this week was in a rush oh okay
01:03:36this week i think for you danny
01:03:40clearly and plainly let her know how you feel about her
01:03:46everything that you wrote on those post-it notes translate that into your verbal communication with
01:03:51her this week because it worked it should be the best week of my life
01:03:58you got a big thumbs up for that so do more of that make her that priority
01:04:08thank you both thank you thank you so much appreciate you
01:04:30tomorrow night
01:04:33the experiment goes across the country welcome home
01:04:39homestays week has arrived over two big nights our couples get a glimpse of what married life will
01:04:46look like beyond the experiment
01:04:52stephen sets sail on an exciting new future with rachel
01:04:56this is such a special place for him how lucky am i for him to have welcomed me into this
01:05:01i kind of
01:05:01like holding a rod and getting kissed oh hang on
01:05:07my vibes on the wedding day weren't really positive and i'm here to protect her
01:05:12stella's outspoken guests from her wedding day are back so like i've all i'm getting excited
01:05:18to draft you i'm getting some not so confident vibes from over here and then welcome scott shows off to
01:05:27gia his waterside home oh it's a bit messy so random weird this wouldn't be big enough be better if
01:05:34that
01:05:34wasn't there is gia the most high maintenance house guest scott's ever seen um my house is way cleaner
01:05:42uh yeah i couldn't i couldn't live here if the roles were reversed and i was at g's house i
01:05:46wouldn't say
01:05:47anything but nice things
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