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00:00and even within the family.
00:02Today, we are joined by a woman
00:04who is helping drive growth in Cebu's business landscape.
00:09And beyond business, she is also part of a broader conversation
00:13about women, leadership, and changing roles in society.
00:17Joining us today is Bridget Carmel Lim.
00:20Hi, Bridget. Welcome to Beyond the Headlines.
00:22Hi, DJ. Good afternoon.
00:24And good afternoon to all your viewers as well.
00:26I hope you have a lot of questions.
00:27While they're having their lunch, we are their entertainment.
00:32We are their music.
00:34So you are now part of the leadership,
00:40the executive team that's leading an organization
00:45that's specializing on energy,
00:49which is traditionally dominated by men.
00:53So how did you or what were the experiences
00:57that shaped you to be where you are today?
01:01Thank you, Moises, for that very astounding first question.
01:06So anyways, afternoon, everyone.
01:08So my name is Bridget Lim,
01:10and I'm part of Topline Business Development Corporation.
01:12So we specialize in fuel.
01:15So I think when I started,
01:18I wasn't really interested in the fuel industry.
01:20But my brother, Eric Lim,
01:23who happens to be the CEO of Topline,
01:25a few years back,
01:26I think this was over many years ago,
01:29he invited me to join Topline.
01:30And so we started,
01:32basically, it was buy and sell.
01:34And then eventually, through vertical integration,
01:36we acquired our own tankers.
01:38And then now we have retail stations.
01:40So I think to answer your question lang,
01:42although it is a predominantly male industry,
01:45there are also things that women can bring to the table also.
01:48So it's not just being a gender role situation.
01:52It's actually being how women and men can work together
01:56for the success of the company.
01:57And I like your point about how men and women can work together.
02:02But for us to just help the viewers understand also,
02:06just in case they have questions around this,
02:08because this is among the frequently asked questions,
02:12especially in National Women's Month.
02:16So what experiences or traits that women actually bring into leadership
02:22that men, unfortunately, underestimate in general?
02:27In general.
02:29Actually, I think biologically and physiologically,
02:33both genders are predispositioned to certain roles, right?
02:36So women, we're more nurturing,
02:38whereas men are more steadfast and firm.
02:41So I think it's not just,
02:44it's not how men,
02:46what do you call this?
02:47What were you saying?
02:48Men.
02:51I'm sorry.
02:52Oh my God.
02:53It's like men underestimate women, right?
02:56Yes, men in general.
02:58Correct.
02:58I think it's not underestimating per se,
03:01but I think men overlook the many roles that women play in society.
03:07Mainly, women's role in the family, in the household.
03:10So women, for me,
03:13we try to also play a role in our family,
03:15be moms to our kids,
03:16at the same time,
03:17also help our partners,
03:19our husbands,
03:20in the professional field.
03:22So we juggle so much.
03:23And I think it's not necessarily that men underestimate this,
03:26but somehow,
03:27parang there needs to be an understanding lang,
03:30di ba?
03:31Na when we give birth,
03:32the maternity leave,
03:33the postpartum depression,
03:34it's something I think men don't underestimate.
03:37It's just something not understood.
03:39Because,
03:39syempre,
03:40di man ma-experience na lalaki,
03:41di ba?
03:41So I think there needs to be just a little bit of empathy na lang on that side.
03:46On both sides.
03:47On both sides.
03:48Correct, correct.
03:48Correct.
03:49Because we also have questions on that other side.
03:52Okay.
03:52Later.
03:52Sige, go.
03:53So what are the leadership principles,
03:55man,
03:55that guides your decision on a day-to-day basis?
04:00Okay.
04:00For me personally,
04:04kindness at the workplace.
04:06I think growing up before Mangud,
04:07I belong to the older generation.
04:10So there's a gap between,
04:11you know,
04:12like the company leadership roles
04:13and the rank and file workers.
04:15But now I see,
04:16especially in our company,
04:18there's that fusion na.
04:19So there's that direct communication
04:20that happens between us
04:22in the leadership role
04:23and also the employees that work under us.
04:26So because of that,
04:27we tend to be more compassionate.
04:29So we don't just stay in the ivory tower
04:31making decisions na.
04:32We're actually involving people on the ground,
04:34actually talking to our customers,
04:36talking to,
04:37you know,
04:38our market
04:38so that we better understand them.
04:40So how do you respond to impressions?
04:45or questions
04:46whether the success
04:48that you are in
04:49was achieved,
04:50and I'm sorry,
04:51but I have to ask you,
04:52was achieved through merit
04:53or privilege?
04:55Yeah.
04:55Oh, very good question.
04:56And I think that happens a lot,
04:57especially with family-run businesses.
05:00Correct.
05:00Right?
05:00Because a lot of people think na,
05:03okay,
05:03this is a family business,
05:04so it's generally just passed on
05:06to the children,
05:06even though they don't deserve it,
05:08for lack of a better term.
05:10So for us particularly,
05:11I can't speak for other corporations,
05:13but for us,
05:14we have to earn our place
05:15in the company.
05:17So like for me,
05:18when I first started,
05:20I didn't know anything
05:20about the fuel industry,
05:21but I had to learn,
05:23especially now
05:23that I'm handling operations.
05:25So now,
05:26we have about 50 retail stations
05:28na all over Cebu.
05:30So I've had to dabble a little bit
05:33sa construction side,
05:34sa compliance side,
05:35sa operation side,
05:36sa sales and marketing.
05:37So I think,
05:38to answer your question,
05:41it can start with privilege,
05:43but to be sustainable,
05:45you have to earn your right there,
05:47your place there.
05:47So it gets you to the door,
05:49but it's up to you
05:50how you will continue.
05:51Correct.
05:52And if you want to last,
05:53if you want it to be
05:54a legacy company,
05:55a legacy business,
05:56you have to keep growing.
05:58You have to keep learning
05:59and evolving.
05:59Otherwise,
06:00it'll just be
06:01your foot in the door
06:02and then how do you grow the company?
06:04How do you expand?
06:05So we're very lucky
06:06that we're being led
06:07by a visionary leader.
06:09So Eric Lim,
06:10my brother,
06:10and who's the president
06:11of Topline,
06:11he always keeps growing
06:13and expanding the company
06:14and he always takes
06:15all of us with us.
06:16And whenever people see
06:18people like you
06:19or like Eric,
06:20but like you,
06:21in this context,
06:22they see a success.
06:24But obviously,
06:25there's also a lot of work
06:28that you did
06:29to get you here.
06:31So what were the sacrifices
06:34or the work
06:36that you invested?
06:38Some,
06:39I know there's a lot,
06:40but just the three
06:41or the two
06:42or the one
06:42that you remember the most
06:43that got you
06:45to this level of success.
06:47Okay.
06:49One would be
06:52prioritization,
06:53right?
06:54So I had to prioritize
06:57what mattered most to me
06:58in the beginning,
06:59right?
06:59Because it was something new,
07:01so I had to learn.
07:02And so I had to devour
07:03everything that was there
07:05about the fuel industry
07:06to learn more about that.
07:07And that's the only way also
07:09that I can teach others
07:10if I know more.
07:11Otherwise,
07:12how will I share
07:12and so aside
07:16from that side,
07:17I think an important thing
07:18also is to be aware
07:20of trends,
07:21right?
07:22To be aware,
07:22to be on the ground,
07:23to not just sit
07:24and make decisions
07:25in the four corners
07:26of your office,
07:27but to actually go out there
07:28and explore.
07:29And that's the only way
07:30you learn about the market
07:31that you're inside.
07:32And one question
07:34that,
07:35and speaking of going
07:36out there also
07:37and understanding
07:40the context
07:41of the situation,
07:43but this one is something
07:44a little bit more personal
07:46about how you balance
07:47career and family
07:48because unfortunately,
07:50I noticed that women
07:51are normally asked
07:52these questions
07:53more than men.
07:56So do you think
07:57that type of question,
07:59oh Bridget,
08:00how do you balance
08:00career and family?
08:02Do you think
08:02that's also a reflection
08:03of the outdated
08:07understanding
08:07of society in general
08:09about the roles
08:10men and women
08:12actually play?
08:13Oh, that's a very
08:14insightful question.
08:16Because men
08:17were not really
08:18asked that question.
08:19Correct, yeah.
08:20We're not asked
08:20how you balance
08:21at all.
08:22Career and family.
08:23Correct, yeah.
08:24I think
08:25not necessarily
08:26because again,
08:27going back to
08:28underestimating
08:29the roles of women,
08:30but it's because
08:31generally speaking,
08:32women are supposed
08:33to man the household,
08:35right?
08:35Now, as we transition
08:36into more leadership roles
08:38in the professional industry,
08:39there's more
08:40a curiosity.
08:41So it's not
08:42to say that,
08:43I think it's not
08:44It's not a judgment.
08:45Yeah, I don't think
08:45it's a judgment.
08:46It's like learning,
08:48right?
08:48And that's also
08:49how we bridge
08:50the gap between
08:51what people
08:52don't know yet
08:53because I think
08:53there's a general
08:54curiosity that,
08:55you're a leader
08:56in your company,
08:57you do a leadership role,
08:58but at the same time
08:59you're also a mom.
09:00How do you do that?
09:01And I think
09:02the question more or less
09:02comes from other women
09:04more so than men,
09:05right?
09:06Because other women,
09:06I think there's also
09:07that desire
09:09and the wanting
09:13to learn as well,
09:14right?
09:15So because you've
09:17already mentioned
09:18also about
09:18the positive culture
09:21that Topline
09:22is creating,
09:23but in general,
09:25so that means
09:25outside Topline
09:27and companies
09:28in general,
09:29do you still see
09:30this trend
09:31of women
09:33having to prove
09:35themselves
09:36for them
09:37to earn
09:38their space
09:39in leadership?
09:41Especially
09:42executive roles.
09:43Okay.
09:44I can't speak
09:45for other companies,
09:47but I can speak
09:47for our company,
09:49Topline,
09:49and the companies
09:50that we know.
09:51I think
09:52women don't necessarily
09:54have to prove
09:55themselves
09:56that much
09:57as compared
09:58to before.
09:59When you look
10:00at the general
10:01landscape,
10:02the Philippines
10:03is one of the few
10:04countries in the world
10:04where we've had
10:05two women presidents.
10:07Even America,
10:08who's the democratic
10:10leader in the whole
10:11world,
10:12they've never had
10:12a woman president
10:13before,
10:14right?
10:14And more women
10:15in the Philippines
10:16are actually taking
10:16leadership roles
10:17in their own companies.
10:18So I think
10:20it's time for us
10:21to take
10:2210 steps forward
10:23and not move back
10:25and stay stuck
10:25in that place
10:26where,
10:27oh,
10:27we have to elbow
10:27our way up
10:28to the top.
10:29I think we have
10:30to think of it
10:31as like,
10:32how do we
10:32complement each
10:33other?
10:34How do we
10:34complement the
10:35men in our
10:35company where
10:36we actually
10:37strengthen their
10:38position?
10:39And how do
10:39the men in the
10:40company strengthen
10:41the women?
10:42Right?
10:42Because at the end
10:43of the day,
10:43we're all one
10:44team.
10:44Right?
10:45So I think
10:46a good analogy
10:46I'm thinking of
10:47right now,
10:48it's like a bird.
10:49Be careful about
10:49the analogy.
10:52It's like a bird,
10:54right?
10:55Very,
10:55very,
10:56very,
10:56simple analogy.
11:00Okay,
11:00not a bird,
11:01human.
11:03So humans,
11:04we have both
11:04the left eye,
11:05right eye,
11:05right hand,
11:06left hand,
11:06right foot,
11:07left foot.
11:08So if you
11:08break us into
11:10half,
11:10we can't
11:10function.
11:11And the only
11:12way we function
11:12as a whole
11:13unit,
11:13a whole person,
11:14is if we have
11:15the left side
11:16and the right
11:16side working
11:17together towards
11:18the same goal.
11:19So I'm revising
11:20my next question
11:21because I'm
11:22getting already
11:23the pattern
11:24based on how
11:25you also view
11:27gender roles
11:27and I'm
11:28liking
11:29what I'm
11:30hearing because
11:31Hillary Clinton
11:32once said
11:33in 2008,
11:35so this is like
11:3518 years ago.
11:37That long,
11:38no?
11:38Yes,
11:38that's the same
11:39reaction.
11:40She said that
11:41although the
11:41glass ceiling
11:42has cracks
11:43in it,
11:44it still
11:45hasn't been
11:46shattered.
11:48So in your
11:48case,
11:49you're telling
11:50me,
11:50and correct
11:50me if I'm
11:51wrong,
11:51that we have
11:52gone so far
11:53already since
11:542008 about
11:56the glass
11:56ceiling.
11:57I believe
11:58so.
11:58And I think
12:00like some of
12:01the alpha
12:01women that
12:02I've met
12:03Mangud,
12:04some of
12:05them are
12:05angry alpha
12:06women.
12:07Because they
12:07also want to
12:08be equal
12:10to men.
12:11I have to
12:11be a man,
12:12but in fact,
12:13we're built
12:14differently,
12:14not just
12:15physiologically,
12:16but psychologically.
12:17So a strong
12:19woman for me
12:20personally,
12:21and maybe
12:21some alpha
12:22women will
12:22disagree with
12:23me on this,
12:23is a strong
12:24woman actually
12:25shows her
12:25vulnerability.
12:26A strong
12:27woman actually
12:28shows and
12:29knows where
12:30her limitations
12:31lie.
12:31And I think
12:32that strength
12:33is in itself
12:34realizing that
12:35limitation.
12:36I'm not going
12:37to compete
12:37with you.
12:37I also work
12:38out with my
12:39partner,
12:39my fiance.
12:40So he lifts
12:41like 300
12:41pound weights.
12:42I can't lift
12:43right?
12:43I'm not
12:43so I lift
12:45like 90
12:46pounds,
12:46100 pounds.
12:47So I know
12:48my limitations,
12:48but I don't
12:49resent him
12:50for being able
12:51to do that.
12:51In fact,
12:52I appreciate
12:52it.
12:53But when it
12:54comes to yoga,
12:55I'm more
12:56flexible than
12:56he is.
12:57And he doesn't
12:57resent me for
12:58that.
12:58In fact,
12:59he supports
12:59me.
13:00So I think
13:00there's just
13:01that mutual
13:02understanding
13:02and respect
13:03that we all
13:05have our
13:06strengths and
13:06weaknesses.
13:07We should
13:07stop using
13:08this as an
13:09excuse to
13:10judge each
13:11other.
13:12And I
13:13like the
13:14analogy that
13:14you use
13:15about the
13:15left hand
13:16and the
13:16right hand
13:16because when
13:17I was younger
13:18and I know
13:18that I'm way
13:19older than
13:19you are.
13:20You're
13:21younger?
13:23That ends
13:24this episode.
13:25Okay,
13:25bye everybody.
13:26See you
13:27next time.
13:29No,
13:29because I
13:30remember there
13:31was once a
13:32story about
13:32a huge
13:33argument of
13:34the human
13:34body,
13:34which is
13:35more,
13:35which part
13:36is,
13:36which body
13:37part was
13:37more important.
13:38Okay,
13:38why?
13:39No,
13:39because they
13:40thought that,
13:41because it's
13:41always the
13:42mind who
13:42would say,
13:43I'm the
13:43most important
13:44body part.
13:45And then the
13:45heart would
13:46say,
13:46I'm the
13:46most important
13:47body part.
13:48And then the
13:48digestive system
13:49also said,
13:50I'm the
13:50most important
13:50body part.
13:51And I will
13:52not say the
13:52ending because
13:53they're having
13:53lunch.
13:54But it
13:55proves the
13:55point that at
13:56the end of
13:56the day,
13:57there's really
13:57no hierarchy.
13:59Each body
13:59part has a
14:00function.
14:01And if that
14:02function is not
14:03performed,
14:04then the rest
14:05of the body
14:05will have to
14:06feel it.
14:06Exactly.
14:07And going into
14:07the macro
14:08perspective,
14:09it's also,
14:09if we keep
14:10competing with
14:11each other,
14:12then nothing
14:13will get
14:13accomplished.
14:14And I think
14:15that's a
14:16microcosm of
14:17everything in
14:18society because
14:18we keep
14:19competing with
14:20each other.
14:21When in fact,
14:22we should be
14:22helping each
14:23other grow and
14:23become better
14:24versions of
14:24ourselves.
14:25this one,
14:26I'd like to
14:27challenge that
14:28a little bit
14:28and not
14:29necessarily
14:29because I
14:30disagree with
14:31you,
14:31but maybe to
14:32shed more
14:32light also to
14:33me and
14:34some of our
14:34viewers because
14:35there are still
14:36industries like
14:37the movie
14:38industry,
14:38for example,
14:39in which
14:42actors would
14:43do the same
14:43level of
14:45difficulty in
14:46the role,
14:46if we call it
14:47that way,
14:47and it's also
14:48like a lead
14:48role, for
14:49example.
14:49But there are
14:50still cases in
14:51which women
14:52actors are
14:53paid significantly
14:55lower than
14:56men.
14:57So this is
14:59now the world,
15:00not necessarily
15:01the Philippines.
15:02Do you also
15:03think that we
15:04still are at
15:06that stage in
15:08which women
15:09unfortunately in
15:11some parts are
15:12still measured
15:14using a
15:15different
15:16standard?
15:17Definitely.
15:19There are
15:20billions of
15:21people in the
15:21world, so as
15:22much as we
15:23would like to
15:23impose our
15:25beliefs and
15:26our thought
15:26processes, it's
15:27just different.
15:28We're all built
15:28differently.
15:29So I think the
15:30key there is
15:32just education
15:33and sharing
15:34and growing
15:35because we're a
15:37third world
15:38country.
15:39The States is an
15:39American.
15:40It's a first world
15:40country and yet
15:41they have their
15:42own problems.
15:42They still have
15:43women claiming
15:44that we haven't
15:46broken the glass
15:46ceiling yet.
15:47We're still being
15:48looked down on.
15:49There's free the
15:49nipple programs.
15:50So I think it's
15:52case-to-case
15:52by country, but I
15:53think macro, it's
15:55hard for us to
15:56control.
15:57But if we focus
15:58more on the
16:00microcosm, for
16:00example, we can't
16:01even control the
16:02whole Philippines.
16:03So why don't we
16:04do Cebu?
16:04Why don't we
16:05educate the
16:05Cebuano market?
16:07This is how it's
16:08supposed to be.
16:08Maybe you might
16:09disagree with us,
16:10but this is what
16:11we think.
16:12So you're welcome
16:13to join us in this
16:14too.
16:14And then if you
16:15will ask me, the
16:16pattern that I'm
16:17seeing with your
16:17answers is you
16:18are advocating for
16:20a respectful
16:20conversation.
16:21Correct, yes.
16:22Whether it's
16:23gender roles or
16:24even gender
16:25practices from
16:26one country to
16:26the next.
16:27Correct, exactly.
16:28Because for me
16:28personally, you
16:29can't achieve
16:30anything by
16:31violence, right?
16:32Because automatically
16:32we shut down,
16:33right?
16:34And so the only
16:34way for us to
16:35have good
16:37conversations that
16:38actually have
16:38results is to
16:39have respectful
16:40dialogue with each
16:41other, right?
16:41And seriously, that's
16:42how you learn.
16:43like your
16:44program, right?
16:45That's how you
16:45learn like this.
16:46I hope people are
16:47learning about our
16:47different thought
16:48processes and
16:48saying, wow,
16:49I'm thinking a
16:51thought that I
16:51haven't thought of
16:52before and now
16:53I'm entertaining
16:53this and maybe
16:54I'll read more
16:55about this so I
16:55can learn more
16:56about this.
16:59And you, I
17:01also agree when
17:02you said that the
17:03fastest way for
17:05the person to
17:06shut down is
17:07when we tell
17:08them that you
17:09are wrong and I
17:10am correct.
17:11Yes, yes,
17:11exactly.
17:13And that's
17:13when the
17:14conversation would
17:15end at the
17:16very beginning.
17:17Exactly.
17:18So now let's
17:19talk about
17:19modern relationships.
17:22So do you
17:22believe leadership
17:23and decision
17:24making in
17:25families and
17:26businesses should
17:28be shared
17:29equally?
17:31So we're
17:31already,
17:32we're already
17:34moving towards
17:36the stereotype
17:37also that men
17:39experience.
17:40but before we
17:40get into that,
17:42yes, are we
17:43at the point
17:43already that
17:44responsibilities are
17:45actually shared
17:46equally?
17:47You know what?
17:48The word
17:49equally is very
17:50subjective, right?
17:51It aims to be
17:53objective but it's
17:54very subjective
17:54because what is
17:55equally?
17:56So no, I
17:59don't think that
18:00responsibilities are
18:01shared equally.
18:02I think responsibilities
18:02are shared according
18:04to the delegation
18:06of rules.
18:07So for example,
18:08we can't expect
18:09that the husband
18:10and the wife
18:11share 50-50 of
18:12the responsibilities
18:13because there are
18:14times that the
18:15woman might be
18:15the breadwinner,
18:16the husband may
18:16stay at home,
18:17or the husband's
18:18the breadwinner,
18:19the women stay at
18:20home with the
18:20kids.
18:21But then the
18:22roles stay the
18:23same in the sense
18:23that they have to
18:24earn, the kids
18:25have to eat,
18:26they have to pay
18:26the bills,
18:27they have to make
18:28sure that the kids
18:28grow up to be
18:29responsible human
18:30beings.
18:31And then how do
18:32you divide the roles?
18:33And it's a
18:33discovery process.
18:34There's no one
18:35manifesto that says
18:37these are the
18:38things, it's
18:39always evolving
18:39because we're
18:40human beings.
18:41And at the same
18:41time, we're
18:41always evolving
18:42as well as we
18:43grow.
18:44And then it's
18:45two different
18:45people coming
18:46together.
18:48It's understanding
18:49the value that
18:51the person can
18:52bring to advance
18:54a relationship
18:55regardless of
18:57the type of
18:58roles or the
18:59gender.
19:00It's the value
19:02however that
19:03works for both
19:04of them or for
19:05the family.
19:06So to advocate
19:08more of that
19:10kind of mindset,
19:11I'll start with
19:12the men.
19:13What should we
19:15be learning so
19:16that we would be
19:17supportive of
19:18such a setup?
19:20We say men who
19:21are open about
19:22it because you
19:24have a better
19:25earning capacity,
19:27you earn for the
19:28family, and I'll
19:29take care of the
19:30babies.
19:31My triplets.
19:32I'll take care of
19:33the babies.
19:36But there are
19:37also men
19:39who are
19:40uncomfortable
19:40with the
19:42setup.
19:43So I'm
19:44going to
19:44stick with that.
19:45So how can
19:45women support
19:46men also in
19:47that situation?
19:48So basically,
19:50for me,
19:51whatever the
19:52situation,
19:53the only way
19:54we support
19:54each other is
19:55to be
19:57empathetic
19:57towards each
19:57other and
19:58to be able
19:59to understand
19:59and not
20:00judge.
20:01So
20:01for me,
20:03there's a lot
20:04of expectation
20:05from society.
20:06Men have to
20:07earn more,
20:08men can't
20:08stay home,
20:09women have to
20:10stay home.
20:11So sometimes
20:12at a certain
20:13point, we just
20:13have to stop
20:14listening to all
20:15the noise that
20:16society tries
20:16to implode
20:17on us and
20:18try to find
20:19our own
20:20opinion and
20:20our own
20:21thought
20:21processes on
20:22what will
20:22make us
20:23secure in
20:23our own
20:24family.
20:24At the end
20:25of the day,
20:25if you're
20:26one unit,
20:26one family,
20:27you work
20:28together for
20:28the good of
20:29your family.
20:30There's no
20:30outside noise
20:31but our
20:32outside voices,
20:34social media,
20:35there's so much
20:36expectation to
20:37play a certain
20:38role.
20:38So at the end
20:39of the day,
20:39for me,
20:40how I do it
20:41with my
20:41partner,
20:41he's a judge.
20:43So we play,
20:43so my business
20:45is legal.
20:46So at one
20:47point,
20:48you're a lot
20:48of legal and
20:49business,
20:49but when we
20:50come together
20:50for our kids,
20:51our family,
20:52we share our
20:53roles and the
20:53wonderful thing
20:54about us is
20:55we support each
20:56other.
20:57So he doesn't
20:58hold me back
20:58from pursuing my
20:59dreams and I
21:00don't hold him
21:00back from pursuing
21:01his dreams,
21:02right?
21:02And there are
21:02times to
21:02understand that
21:03I have to be
21:05home,
21:05I have to spend
21:06more time at
21:06home.
21:07Sometimes I
21:07have to be
21:08home and he
21:08comes home and
21:09takes care of
21:09the kids more.
21:10So there's a
21:11balance.
21:11And when you
21:12have a healthy
21:12balance in your
21:13family mismo,
21:14it spreads out
21:15to your
21:15community.
21:17And the kids
21:18will also notice
21:19that.
21:19Yes, they
21:19notice that
21:20this is how
21:22I'm supposed to
21:23treat my
21:24friends,
21:24my teachers,
21:25my partners.
21:28Now, we've
21:28been hearing also
21:30phrases like
21:31strong,
21:32independent
21:33women.
21:37So let's
21:39dissect this.
21:40What does
21:41strong,
21:42independent
21:42women mean
21:43as a leader?
21:45Let's start
21:46with as a leader.
21:47Okay.
21:48As a leader
21:48for me,
21:49a strong,
21:49independent
21:50woman means
21:51being able to
21:52also make
21:53other women
21:54strong.
21:55because strength
21:56isn't just
21:56limited to you
21:57yourself.
21:58So if I want
22:00to be a strong
22:01woman, my
22:01gauge for that
22:02is how do I
22:03support the
22:04women in our
22:05company?
22:05How do I
22:06empower them?
22:07How do I teach
22:08them?
22:08How do I make
22:08them learn?
22:09And then when
22:10they grow also,
22:11it's a ripple
22:11effect.
22:12Good.
22:12So the more
22:13independent
22:13women, the more
22:14strong women
22:15there are around
22:15us, they also
22:16are able to
22:17share that
22:17because the
22:17value as a
22:18human being,
22:19we want to
22:21share the best
22:21of ourselves.
22:22But for us
22:23to also share,
22:24we also have
22:24to learn.
22:25So you fill
22:27yourself up and
22:28then you also
22:28give to other
22:29cups also.
22:30So the trickle
22:32effect is
22:33And this one
22:34is slightly
22:35related, but
22:37how about also
22:38as a person
22:39this time?
22:40So what you
22:40do on a day
22:41to day when
22:42you're not at
22:43work to also
22:45live,
22:46the praise,
22:48strong,
22:48independent
22:48woman?
22:50I start
22:52and end
22:52my day
22:52with prayer
22:53that guides
22:54me.
22:55And funny
22:55because before
22:56I used to
22:57be a cynic,
22:58but then
22:59God has shown
23:00me so many
23:00wonderful things
23:01in my life
23:02and He's
23:03blessed a lot
23:04of us.
23:05So despite
23:05the challenging
23:06times,
23:07He's shown
23:07again and
23:08again how
23:08His presence
23:09can help.
23:10So I always
23:11start and end
23:11my day with
23:11prayer and
23:12then I
23:12start and
23:13end my
23:13day with
23:13my family.
23:14So even
23:14if I'm
23:15away,
23:15I always
23:16call them,
23:17I start
23:17and end
23:18with them.
23:18And then
23:19for me sad,
23:20I enjoy
23:20working out
23:21with my
23:21fiance.
23:22So other
23:24people go
23:24on date
23:25nights.
23:25We go
23:26work out
23:26for an
23:26hour and
23:27that's
23:27how we
23:27bond
23:28together.
23:28I love
23:29food.
23:29I love
23:30singing
23:31in the
23:31shower.
23:33I love
23:34doing that.
23:35I was
23:35about to
23:36segue to
23:37that.
23:37No,
23:37no.
23:38Actually
23:38guys,
23:39DJ
23:39did a karaoke
23:40session
23:41later.
23:41So if
23:42you're
23:42still there,
23:43you'll
23:44To
23:45you.
23:48spend
23:49time
23:49with
23:50my
23:50friends.
23:50So
23:50basically,
23:51it's
23:52ordinary
23:53things
23:53that
23:54actually
23:54fills
23:55my
23:55cup.
23:56And then
23:57I go
23:57back
23:57after a
23:58weekend
23:58with
23:58just
23:59staying
23:59home
23:59with
23:59my
23:59family,
24:00working
24:00out.
24:01And
24:01then
24:01when I
24:01go
24:01back
24:02Monday
24:02to
24:02Friday,
24:03I
24:03feel
24:03recharged.
24:05So I
24:05always
24:06try to
24:06fill
24:06my
24:06cup.
24:06And
24:06there
24:07are
24:07times
24:07that
24:07I'm
24:07busy
24:07good.
24:09Especially
24:09today.
24:10Times
24:10are
24:10very
24:11volatile.
24:11So there
24:12are
24:12moments
24:12that
24:13some
24:14people
24:14say,
24:14how do
24:15you
24:15balance?
24:15Actually,
24:15there
24:15is
24:16no
24:16balance.
24:16Sometimes
24:17you
24:17have
24:17to
24:17compromise.
24:18Sometimes
24:18it's
24:19more
24:19family.
24:19Sometimes
24:20it's
24:20more
24:20work.
24:20Sometimes
24:21it's
24:21more
24:21work.
24:22So
24:22basically,
24:22at the
24:23end
24:23of
24:23the
24:23day,
24:23you
24:24always
24:24have
24:24to
24:24balance
24:24your
24:25priorities
24:26and
24:26life.
24:27By
24:27the
24:28way,
24:28I
24:29did
24:29not
24:29have
24:30this
24:30in
24:30a
24:30set
24:31of
24:31questions.
24:32And
24:32this
24:33is
24:33slightly
24:33related
24:34to
24:34the
24:34topic.
24:34But
24:34I'm
24:35also
24:35curious.
24:35You
24:36mentioned
24:36about
24:36working
24:37out.
24:37You
24:38also
24:38mentioned
24:39about
24:39spending
24:40time
24:40with
24:40your
24:40loved
24:41ones.
24:41You
24:41also
24:42mentioned
24:43about
24:43the
24:43importance
24:43of
24:44having
24:44faith.
24:44But
24:45I
24:45would
24:45still
24:46ask
24:46the
24:46question,
24:47how
24:47do
24:47you
24:48feel
24:48your
24:48cup?
24:50Yes.
24:51I
24:52feel
24:52my
24:52cup
24:52by
24:55introspection.
24:56You
24:56know,
24:57after
24:58a
24:59long
24:59day,
25:00what
25:00I
25:00do
25:00is
25:00I
25:01listen
25:01to
25:02music.
25:02So
25:03if
25:03I
25:03feel
25:04what
25:04music?
25:05My
25:06Spotify
25:06is
25:06so
25:07diverse.
25:09So I
25:09have
25:09praise
25:10and
25:10worship.
25:11I
25:11have
25:11pop.
25:11I
25:12have
25:12mellow
25:12music.
25:13And I
25:14also
25:14have
25:14Miss
25:15Rachel
25:16because
25:16of
25:16our
25:16toddlers.
25:20So
25:21I
25:21feel
25:22my
25:22cup
25:22through
25:22quiet
25:22sessions
25:23because
25:24I'm
25:24a
25:24little
25:24older.
25:25And
25:25for
25:26me
25:27I
25:27need
25:27peace.
25:28And
25:28sometimes
25:29I
25:29read,
25:30sometimes
25:30I
25:30journal.
25:31And
25:31then I
25:31talk
25:31to
25:31my
25:32fiancee.
25:32So
25:33I
25:33have
25:33him
25:33as
25:33a
25:34sounding
25:34board.
25:34And
25:35also
25:35my
25:35brother
25:35and
25:35my
25:35sister
25:36Eric
25:36and
25:36attorney
25:37Mikey.
25:38And
25:40because of
25:41conversations
25:41like this
25:42also,
25:43there's
25:44one
25:44reality
25:45that I
25:46have to
25:46admit
25:47that I
25:47was able
25:48to
25:49understand,
25:50although not
25:50completely understand,
25:51but at least capture
25:52the context.
25:53That there
25:54are cycles
25:54also that
25:55women go
25:56through
25:56that we
25:58don't.
25:58So
25:59one of
26:00the
26:01what's
26:02the
26:02other
26:02term
26:03of
26:03aha
26:03moment?
26:04Epiphany.
26:07Or
26:07Einstein.
26:08Like
26:08light bulb
26:09moment.
26:10Apple.
26:11Yes.
26:13Was
26:14when
26:14I
26:17understood
26:17that
26:18there are
26:20some
26:20women
26:20who will
26:22have to
26:22sacrifice
26:23for the
26:24lack of
26:24better
26:25word,
26:25their
26:25career
26:26because
26:27of
26:28the
26:28three-month
26:29maternity
26:30leave.
26:31Or
26:31I've
26:31also
26:32seen
26:32women
26:33that
26:33they
26:33could
26:33have
26:33been
26:34on
26:34the
26:34brink
26:34of
26:34an
26:35important
26:35promotion
26:36and
26:36then
26:37they
26:37got
26:37pregnant.
26:38And
26:39so
26:39some
26:40organizations
26:41or some
26:42of them
26:42would
26:42interpret
26:43that,
26:43oh no.
26:44So
26:44we have
26:45to
26:45postpone
26:45the
26:46break.
26:46And
26:46that's
26:46not
26:47exactly
26:47a
26:47cycle
26:48that
26:48men
26:48go
26:49through
26:49because
26:49we
26:50don't
26:50do
26:50three-month
26:51interruption
26:52in the
26:54job
26:54that
26:54we
26:54do.
26:55So
26:55if
26:55we
26:55have
26:55women
26:57in
26:58the
26:58audience
26:58who
26:58are
26:58watching
26:59and
27:00then
27:00maybe
27:01it's
27:01just
27:01inside
27:02their
27:02head
27:02but
27:03if
27:03they
27:04think
27:04and
27:04they
27:05feel
27:05like
27:06they
27:06have
27:07to
27:07make
27:07career
27:08sacrifices
27:10for
27:10them
27:11to be
27:11able
27:11to
27:12fulfill
27:12their
27:13rules
27:13what
27:14would
27:14you
27:15tell
27:15them?
27:16I
27:16would
27:17tell
27:17them
27:17that
27:17being
27:18a
27:19mom
27:19is
27:19one
27:19of
27:19the
27:20most
27:20amazing
27:20things
27:21you
27:21will
27:21ever
27:21experience
27:21in
27:22your
27:22life
27:22and
27:24it's
27:24not
27:24considered
27:25a
27:25sacrifice
27:26because
27:26the
27:27greatest
27:27gift
27:27you
27:28can
27:28give
27:28to
27:28this
27:28world
27:29is
27:29to
27:29be
27:29able
27:29to
27:30rear
27:30a
27:31child
27:31that
27:31would
27:31be
27:31able
27:32to
27:32contribute
27:32and
27:33making
27:33the
27:34world
27:34a
27:34better
27:34place
27:35and
27:35so
27:35that
27:36maternity
27:37leave
27:37three
27:37months
27:37actually
27:38personally
27:38is
27:38too
27:39short
27:39right
27:40and
27:40so
27:40that's
27:41when
27:41the
27:41companies
27:41were
27:42like
27:42what
27:42we're
27:42doing
27:42at
27:43top
27:43line
27:43we have
27:43a
27:43business
27:44continuity
27:44plan
27:45because
27:45I
27:45think
27:45over
27:4680%
27:47of our
27:47employees
27:48are
27:48female
27:49and
27:49so
27:49of
27:50course
27:50a lot
27:50of
27:50them
27:51have
27:51kids
27:51so
27:52what
27:52we've
27:52done
27:52to
27:53the
27:53company
27:53is
27:53we
27:53have
27:54a
27:54business
27:54continuity
27:54plan
27:55where
27:55they're
27:56assigned
27:56buddies
27:57right
27:57and
27:57so
28:05their
28:05position
28:05is
28:06still
28:06there
28:06for
28:06them
28:06waiting
28:07for
28:07them
28:07and
28:08then
28:08I
28:08think
28:08it's
28:09also
28:09helpful
28:09because
28:10now
28:10women
28:10can
28:11go
28:12and
28:12have
28:13kids
28:13have
28:14families
28:14with
28:15their
28:15partners
28:15and
28:15not
28:15worry
28:16about
28:16coming
28:16back
28:16to
28:17the
28:17workforce
28:17and
28:17being
28:18eased out
28:19or left
28:20behind
28:20already
28:21which is
28:24actually
28:24I'm glad
28:25also
28:25that you
28:26shared
28:26that
28:26because
28:26it's
28:27a good
28:28practice
28:28that's
28:29not
28:30common
28:31just yet
28:32in a
28:33lot
28:33of
28:34organization
28:35so
28:36that's
28:36why
28:36I
28:37would
28:38also
28:38see
28:38that
28:39some
28:39women
28:39are
28:39also
28:40put
28:40in a
28:40situation
28:41like
28:41oh
28:41my
28:42gosh
28:42but
28:42there's
28:43a point
28:43now
28:43I
28:44remember
28:44there's
28:44also
28:44a point
28:45that
28:45you
28:45said
28:45which is
28:45also
28:46another
28:46light bulb
28:46moment
28:47for me
28:47because
28:47it depends
28:49on how
28:49the person
28:50looks at
28:50it
28:50because
28:51some
28:51women
28:52might
28:52also
28:53look at
28:53it
28:53as
28:53an
28:53interruption
28:54although
28:54it's
28:55good
28:55that
28:55there
28:56are
28:56companies
28:56like
28:56you
28:57that
28:57it
28:57does
28:57not
28:57necessarily
28:58mean
28:58interruption
28:59but
28:59I
28:59also
29:00agree
29:00with
29:00you
29:00those
29:02three
29:02months
29:02also
29:03is
29:03not
29:04an
29:04experience
29:05that
29:06men
29:07are
29:07also
29:07blessed
29:08to see
29:08because
29:09after
29:10seven
29:10days
29:10we're
29:11off
29:12women
29:13are
29:13not
29:13on
29:14vacation
29:15so
29:16it's
29:17how
29:17we
29:17look
29:18at
29:18it
29:18so
29:19the
29:19other
29:20thing
29:20now
29:20then
29:20is
29:21for
29:21women
29:21also
29:22who
29:22are
29:23at
29:24an
29:24age
29:25in
29:25which
29:25they're
29:25already
29:26discerning
29:26for
29:27a
29:27life
29:27partner
29:28what
29:28could
29:28be
29:29the
29:29good
29:31filters
29:32or
29:32the
29:32filter
29:33now
29:33appears
29:33to be
29:34negative
29:34but
29:34good
29:35guidelines
29:36or
29:37wisdom
29:38insights
29:38that
29:39you
29:39can
29:39also
29:40tell
29:40them
29:40in
29:40terms
29:41of
29:41their
29:41choice
29:41of
29:41life
29:42partners
29:43you
29:44mean
29:44like
29:44partner
29:45boyfriend
29:46or
29:46partner
29:46husband
29:47potential
29:48life
29:48partner
29:48potential
29:49life
29:49partner
29:50okay
29:51because
29:52that's
29:52also
29:52important
29:53especially
29:54in
29:54cases
29:54yes
29:55yes
29:55yes
29:55I
29:56think
29:56for
29:57me
29:58personally
29:58and
29:58the
29:59women
29:59friends
29:59that
29:59I
30:00have
30:01for
30:02us
30:02to
30:02find
30:02a
30:03life
30:03partner
30:04I
30:05think
30:05it's
30:05not
30:05there
30:06are
30:07no
30:07shortcuts
30:07and
30:08you
30:09have
30:09to
30:09go
30:09through
30:10the
30:10wrong
30:11partners
30:11for
30:11you
30:12to
30:12appreciate
30:13what
30:14qualities
30:14that
30:15you
30:15want
30:15in
30:15the
30:16right
30:16partner
30:16like
30:17for
30:17me
30:17mismo
30:18my
30:19partner
30:19right
30:19now
30:20is
30:20the
30:20best
30:20partner
30:21I've
30:21ever
30:21had
30:21because
30:22I
30:23already
30:23know
30:24what
30:24qualities
30:25I
30:25don't
30:25want
30:25and
30:26so
30:26now
30:26I
30:26know
30:27what
30:27qualities
30:27I
30:27do
30:27want
30:28in
30:28a
30:28person
30:28so
30:29for
30:29women
30:29I
30:30think
30:30we
30:30have
30:31to
30:31be
30:31able
30:31to
30:31go
30:32beyond
30:33the
30:33facade
30:34of
30:34the
30:35superficialities
30:35that
30:36life
30:36has
30:37through the
30:37lens
30:37of
30:37social
30:38media
30:38so
30:39before
30:40when you
30:40would
30:41ask
30:41women
30:41what
30:41do
30:41you
30:41want
30:43called
30:43dark
30:44handsome
30:45there's
30:46rarely
30:47anything
30:47about
30:47character
30:48all
30:49dark
30:49handsome
30:52but
30:52beyond
30:53that
30:53I
30:53think
30:54to
30:54answer
30:54your
30:55question
30:55in
30:55more
30:55serious
30:55tone
30:56for
30:56women
30:56to
30:56be
30:56able
30:57to
30:57find
30:57a
30:58potentially
30:58good
30:58partner
30:59you
30:59also
31:00have
31:00to
31:00be
31:00able
31:00to
31:00develop
31:01yourself
31:02into
31:02becoming
31:03the
31:03best
31:03partner
31:04possible
31:04side
31:04good
31:05draws
31:06good
31:06in
31:06if
31:07you
31:08also
31:08want
31:08a
31:08good
31:08partner
31:09you
31:09also
31:10have
31:10to
31:10introspect
31:10am I
31:12being
31:12a
31:12good
31:12partner
31:12how
31:12can I
31:13be
31:13a
31:13good
31:13partner
31:13to
31:14be
31:14a
31:14good
31:15partner
31:15to
31:16grow
31:19find
31:19your
31:20passions
31:20find
31:20things
31:21that
31:21you
31:21love
31:21be
31:22the
31:22best
31:22version
31:23of
31:23yourself
31:23and
31:24when
31:24God
31:25says
31:25the
31:25time
31:25is
31:26right
31:26he
31:26will
31:27show
31:27you
31:27that
31:27partner
31:27that
31:28you
31:28deserve
31:28in
31:29your
31:29life
31:29which
31:29is
31:30what
31:30funny
31:31happened
31:31to
31:32me
31:32I
31:33took
31:33a
31:33year
31:33he
31:34ate
31:34this
31:34I
31:35said
31:35to
31:35God
31:35after
31:36failed
31:36relationships
31:36God
31:37I
31:38will
31:38take
31:38a
31:38year
31:38off
31:39relationships
31:39and
31:43months
31:43into
31:43that
31:44I
31:44was
31:45praying
31:45and
31:46then
31:46praying
31:47surrendering
31:48I was
31:49lonely
31:4911
31:50months
31:50so
31:51anyways
31:52I
31:54prayed
31:57I
31:57poured
31:58my
31:58heart
31:58out
31:58to
31:58God
31:59and
31:59then
31:59I
31:59opened
32:00my
32:00eyes
32:00and
32:00my
32:00phone
32:01rang
32:01it
32:01was
32:02my
32:02sister
32:02then
32:03she
32:03asked
32:03me
32:04do
32:04you
32:04want
32:05to
32:05meet
32:05a
32:05judge
32:05and
32:06I
32:06said
32:07is
32:07he
32:0860
32:08no
32:09he's
32:0938
32:09and
32:10so
32:11that
32:11was
32:12four
32:12years
32:12ago
32:12and
32:13now
32:13we're
32:13engaged
32:14so
32:14some
32:15people
32:15doubt
32:16the
32:16existence
32:16of
32:16God
32:17just
32:17because
32:17they
32:17don't
32:17have
32:18the
32:18blessings
32:18that
32:18they
32:18want
32:18right
32:19now
32:19but
32:20sometimes
32:20God
32:21says
32:21wait
32:21because
32:22I
32:22have
32:22something
32:22even
32:23better
32:23for
32:23you
32:23and
32:24when
32:24you're
32:24ready
32:24I
32:25will
32:25shower
32:25you
32:26just
32:26be
32:26patient
32:27there's
32:28there's
32:28a line
32:28for
32:28that
32:29when
32:29it's
32:29time
32:30I
32:30the
32:30Lord
32:30will
32:30make
32:31it
32:31happen
32:31correct
32:32because
32:32I
32:32also
32:33have
32:33a
32:33similar
32:34experience
32:34but
32:34not
32:34in
32:35a
32:35context
32:35of
32:35relationship
32:36but
32:36in
32:36context
32:36of
32:37a
32:37career
32:37move
32:38because
32:38I
32:39also
32:39went
32:39through
32:39that
32:40situation
32:40and
32:41then
32:41just
32:41when
32:42I
32:42surrendered
32:42my phone
32:43rang
32:43also
32:44so
32:44I
32:45remembered
32:46clearly
32:46so
32:46it
32:47must
32:47be
32:47quite
32:47similar
32:48but
32:48this
32:48time
32:48it's
32:49on
32:49a
32:49life
32:49partner
32:50context
32:51and
32:51it's
32:52funny
32:52because
32:52when
32:52you
32:53think
32:53you
32:53have
32:53all
32:53the
32:54control
32:54in
32:54the
32:54world
32:54it's
32:55actually
32:55when
32:55you
32:55surrender
32:56that's
32:57when
32:57your cup
32:58gets
32:59filled
32:59when you
32:59surrender
33:01speaking
33:02of
33:03surrendering
33:04but
33:04this time
33:04in the
33:05context
33:05also
33:05of
33:06roles
33:06so
33:07I
33:08think
33:08this
33:08is
33:08related
33:09to
33:09the
33:09question
33:10earlier
33:10but
33:10on
33:11a
33:11different
33:11perspective
33:12this
33:13time
33:13because
33:13we
33:14hear
33:15a lot
33:15of
33:16talks
33:17about
33:17empowering
33:17women
33:18which
33:18is
33:18good
33:19but
33:20what
33:21would
33:21be
33:22the
33:25insights
33:26that you
33:27can also
33:27share
33:28to
33:28women
33:29who
33:30struggle
33:30with
33:31the
33:31idea
33:32that
33:32they
33:33found
33:33a
33:34life
33:34partner
33:35who
33:36is
33:37a
33:38stay-at-home
33:39husband
33:40so
33:41what
33:41would
33:42you
33:42tell
33:42them
33:43also
33:43because
33:43there are
33:44also
33:44women
33:44who
33:44struggle
33:45to
33:45that
33:45reality
33:45that
33:46why
33:46do
33:46I
33:46have
33:46to
33:46be
33:47the
33:47one
33:47who
33:47will
33:47be
33:48working
33:48and
33:49then
33:49he
33:49is
33:49just
33:51capital
33:51bold
33:52quote
33:53at
33:54home
33:55okay
33:59not
34:00all
34:01women
34:01also
34:01welcome
34:02that
34:02in
34:02fact
34:02with
34:03some
34:04of
34:04my
34:04friends
34:04who
34:04are
34:05also
34:05advocating
34:06for
34:07women
34:07empowerment
34:08I
34:08would
34:08always
34:08ask
34:09them
34:09but
34:09how
34:11open
34:11are
34:12you
34:12to
34:12also
34:12see
34:12your
34:13husband
34:13the
34:14one
34:14attending
34:14PTA
34:15meetings
34:15and
34:16if
34:16you
34:16happen
34:17to
34:17be
34:17on
34:17a
34:17PTA
34:17meeting
34:18and
34:18there's
34:18a
34:18husband
34:18there
34:19are
34:20you
34:20not
34:20questioning
34:21also
34:21them
34:21so
34:22anyway
34:23that's
34:23the
34:23context
34:24of
34:24the
34:24question
34:24actually
34:25you know
34:25I've
34:26interviewed
34:27a lot
34:27of
34:27women
34:28in this
34:29company
34:29and then
34:30when I
34:31asked them
34:32what made
34:32you decide
34:33to come
34:33back to
34:34work
34:34so
34:34number
34:34one
34:35they would
34:35always
34:35say
34:35well
34:35I quit
34:36work
34:36ma'am
34:37I
34:37have
34:37to
34:37I
34:40have
34:41women
34:41like that
34:46actually
34:46accept
34:46that
34:47and I
34:48think
34:48again
34:48it
34:49all boils
34:49down to
34:50the
34:50family
34:51and the
34:51roles
34:51there's
34:53some
34:53job
34:53positions
34:54that
34:55just revolve
34:56around
34:56women
34:57there are
34:58job
34:58positions
34:58and
34:58opportunities
34:59that
34:59revolve
34:59around
35:00men
35:00so
35:01family
35:01is good
35:02DJ
35:02they actually
35:03will
35:03stop
35:04communication
35:05still
35:06and then
35:07for me
35:07if I see
35:08a father
35:10at a
35:10PTA meeting
35:11I'm in awe
35:12wow
35:12you're taking
35:13a more active
35:13role in the
35:14family life
35:14you're taking
35:15an interest
35:15in your
35:15kids life
35:16because
35:16you know
35:17what
35:17mother
35:18figure
35:18in the
35:18family
35:19it's so
35:19strong
35:19but kids
35:20also need
35:21an equally
35:21strong
35:21father
35:22figure
35:22and so
35:23my
35:23fiance
35:23he actually
35:24tutors our
35:25kids
35:25he plays
35:25with them
35:26and then
35:27sometimes
35:27he advises
35:29them
35:29so
35:30when I see
35:30him take
35:31that role
35:31also
35:32it just
35:32makes me
35:33love him
35:33more
35:33because
35:33now
35:34I know
35:34wow
35:35you can
35:35be the
35:35provider
35:36of our
35:36family
35:36and also
35:37the father
35:37that our
35:38kids need
35:38and
35:40maybe
35:41at the
35:41risk
35:41of
35:42oversharing
35:42also
35:43and that's
35:43why
35:44I mentioned
35:44earlier
35:45about
35:45kids
35:46are also
35:46observing
35:48because
35:51on a
35:52personal
35:52note
35:52I also
35:53saw
35:54the
35:54dynamics
35:55shift
35:55in the
35:56family
35:56when I
35:57was young
35:57because
35:58both of
35:58my
35:59parents
35:59were
35:59successful
36:00in their
36:01career
36:01but
36:02my father
36:03also went
36:03through
36:03bankruptcy
36:04for a
36:07certain
36:07period
36:07I think
36:07that was
36:08about
36:08four years
36:09and I
36:09was too
36:09young
36:10to understand
36:10it but
36:11I could
36:11observe
36:12them
36:13and the
36:13dynamics
36:14and if
36:14there's
36:14any
36:15takeaway
36:15that I
36:16got from
36:16that experience
36:17when I look
36:18back
36:18it's because
36:19of course
36:20my mom
36:20became the
36:21provider
36:21for the
36:21next
36:22four years
36:22but if
36:23there's
36:23anything
36:24that I
36:25appreciate
36:25about
36:26my mom
36:26it's
36:27because
36:28she
36:28did
36:29not
36:29make
36:30us
36:30feel
36:31the
36:31kids
36:31know
36:32that
36:32she's
36:33already
36:33dad
36:33and
36:35what
36:35I
36:35also
36:35appreciate
36:36about
36:37dad
36:37at
36:37that
36:38time
36:38it's
36:39because
36:39he
36:39also
36:40allowed
36:41mom
36:42to be
36:42successful
36:43he did
36:44not
36:44hold her
36:45back
36:45so
36:45that's
36:46when
36:46I
36:46understood
36:46the
36:47dynamics
36:47of
36:47communication
36:48and
36:49partnership
36:50yes
36:50exactly
36:51being a
36:51team
36:52and
36:53by the
36:53way
36:54for
36:54the
36:54kids
36:54who
36:54are
36:54watching
36:55also
36:55that's
36:55why
36:55my
36:56gauge
36:56put
36:56if
36:57a
36:57person
36:57including
36:57myself
36:58is
36:58in
36:59a
36:59healthy
36:59relationship
37:00is
37:00also
37:01when
37:01I
37:01see
37:01both
37:01of
37:02them
37:02thrive
37:03both
37:03the
37:04guy
37:04and
37:04the
37:04girl
37:05or
37:05regardless
37:06of
37:06whatever
37:06is
37:06the
37:07composition
37:07of
37:07the
37:07relationship
37:08but
37:08both
37:08of
37:09them
37:09I
37:09think
37:10that's
37:10why
37:10it's
37:10called
37:10partners
37:11exactly
37:12you
37:12bring
37:12out
37:12the
37:12best
37:13in
37:13each
37:13other
37:13not
37:13hold
37:14each
37:14other
37:14back
37:14thank
37:15for
37:15sharing
37:16so
37:16for
37:17some
37:17men
37:17identity
37:18has
37:18also
37:19long
37:19been
37:19tied
37:20about
37:20being
37:20a
37:21provider
37:22and
37:23then
37:23this
37:24is
37:24also
37:24for
37:24the
37:24men
37:25who
37:25are
37:26forced
37:26just
37:27like
37:27my
37:27dad
37:27by
37:28circumstance
37:28to
37:29transition
37:30from
37:30the
37:30bread
37:31winner
37:31into
37:34the
37:34household
37:35manager
37:36so
37:37for
37:37those
37:38men
37:38who
37:38are
37:38watching
37:39also
37:39go
37:39or
37:40of
37:40who
37:41just
37:42came
37:42home
37:42so
37:43they
37:43transition
37:43also
37:44because
37:44their
37:44wives
37:45already
37:45have
37:45a
37:45career
37:45here
37:46so
37:46what
37:47would
37:47you
37:47tell
37:47them
37:47also
37:48as
37:48they
37:48transition
37:49from
37:49being
37:49the
37:49provider
37:50into
37:51the
37:52manager
37:52of
37:52the
37:52house
37:53that
37:53transition
37:54period
37:57I'm
37:57trying to
37:57think
37:58like a
37:58guy
38:01you're
38:02putting
38:02yourself
38:02in
38:03a
38:03guy's
38:03shoes
38:04I'm
38:04trying
38:04to
38:04empathize
38:05with
38:05a
38:05guy
38:06who's
38:06transitioned
38:07from
38:07for
38:07example
38:08a
38:08professional
38:08role
38:09into
38:09the
38:09family
38:09role
38:10just
38:10like
38:10my
38:10dad
38:11in
38:11beginning
38:11he
38:11was
38:12the
38:12provider
38:13yes
38:13yes
38:13and
38:13then
38:14it
38:14could
38:14be
38:14there are
38:15two
38:15things
38:15to look
38:16at it
38:16you can
38:17look at
38:17it
38:17as an
38:17opportunity
38:18to be
38:19with your
38:19family
38:20stay at
38:20home
38:20with your
38:21kids
38:21because
38:21if you
38:23work hard
38:23you will
38:24always find
38:24an
38:25opportunity
38:25there will
38:26always be
38:27a job
38:28waiting for
38:29you
38:29if you
38:29have
38:29new
38:30skills
38:30it's
38:30not
38:31forever
38:31right
38:32so
38:32that
38:33transition
38:33could be
38:34a learning
38:35process
38:35on how
38:36to
38:36build
38:37a
38:37relationship
38:38with your
38:38kids
38:38and not
38:39as
38:39a
38:39failure
38:40what
38:41when guys
38:43happen to be
38:44in that
38:44role
38:44I'm a
38:45failure
38:46I become
38:46insecure
38:47because
38:47now
38:47what
38:48do
38:48I do
38:48because
38:49our
38:49roles
38:49our
38:50definition
38:50of
38:51roles
38:51a guy
38:51always
38:52has to
38:52work
38:53and
38:53excel
38:53in the
38:53workplace
38:54right
38:55so
38:55when they
38:55go home
38:56they feel
38:56I'm a
38:57failure
38:57but
38:58no
38:58no
38:58no
38:58that
38:58should
38:58not
38:59be
38:59the
38:59case
38:59because
38:59now
39:00you
39:00can
39:00be
39:00a
39:01father
39:01to
39:01your
39:01kids
39:01now
39:02you
39:02can
39:02give
39:03your
39:03wife
39:03the
39:03spotlight
39:04to
39:04shine
39:04and
39:04provide
39:05for
39:05the
39:05family
39:05right
39:06and
39:07the
39:07best
39:07thing
39:07DJ
39:08when
39:09she
39:09appreciates
39:10a
39:10wife
39:10on
39:11the
39:11working
39:11side
39:11of
39:12things
39:12if
39:12she
39:12doesn't
39:13work
39:13so
39:14now
39:14she
39:14knows
39:14what
39:15it's
39:15like
39:15to
39:15work
39:15to
39:15go
39:16every
39:16day
39:16to
39:16the
39:16office
39:17and
39:17work
39:18and
39:18now
39:18the
39:19husband
39:19and
39:19father
39:20knows
39:20what
39:20it's
39:21like
39:21exactly
39:24and
39:24now
39:24they
39:25appreciate
39:25each
39:25other's
39:26roles
39:26and
39:26now
39:27when
39:27they
39:27interchange
39:27those
39:28roles
39:28they
39:29have
39:29equal
39:29and
39:29mutual
39:29appreciation
39:30for
39:31the
39:31things
39:32that
39:32they
39:32bring
39:32to
39:33the
39:33table
39:33for
39:34each
39:34other
39:34and
39:34their
39:34family
39:35the
39:35other
39:36pattern
39:36also
39:36which
39:37is
39:37a
39:37positive
39:37one
39:37that
39:38I'm
39:38getting
39:38from
39:38this
39:38conversation
39:39is
39:39perspective
39:41how
39:42we
39:43look at
39:43things
39:43and
39:43that's
39:44where
39:44your
39:44introspection
39:46usually
39:47comes in
39:48because
39:48the
39:48other
39:48thing
39:49also
39:49that
39:49I
39:49just
39:50realized
39:50when
39:50you
39:50were
39:51telling
39:51me
39:51that
39:52it's
39:52also
39:52because
39:52when
39:53my
39:53dad
39:54at
39:54that
39:54time
39:54was
39:55very
39:55successful
39:56on
39:57the
39:57first
39:57job
39:58he
39:59also
39:59did
39:59not
40:00have
40:00as
40:00much
40:00time
40:01to
40:01spend
40:01with
40:02us
40:02but
40:02on
40:03those
40:03four
40:03years
40:03that
40:04was
40:04also
40:04the
40:04time
40:04that
40:05we
40:05were
40:05able
40:05to
40:05bond
40:06so
40:06it's
40:06another
40:06way
40:07of
40:07looking
40:07at
40:08the
40:09situation
40:09not
40:11necessarily
40:12the
40:12importance
40:13or the
40:13lack
40:13of
40:14importance
40:14of
40:15or
40:15perceived
40:16importance
40:17or lack
40:17of
40:17importance
40:18of
40:18the
40:18role
40:19so
40:19now
40:19because
40:20I
40:20can
40:20see
40:20that
40:21I
40:21hope
40:21also
40:21our
40:22viewers
40:22are
40:22capturing
40:23this
40:27roles
40:27do
40:28you
40:28think
40:29we
40:30are
40:30at
40:31a
40:31point
40:32but
40:33if
40:33we
40:34are
40:34not
40:34what
40:34should
40:35we
40:35do
40:35to
40:35get
40:35there
40:36in
40:37which
40:37we
40:38no
40:38longer
40:39stereotype
40:40both
40:41the role
40:41of
40:42a
40:42woman
40:43and
40:44the role
40:44of
40:45a
40:45man
40:45if
40:46you
40:46this
40:46is
40:47this
40:47and
40:47if
40:48are
40:48this
40:49is
40:49this
40:49otherwise
40:50you're
40:51strange
40:51you're
40:52different
40:52okay
40:57let's
40:58do it
40:58on a
40:59macro
41:00perspective
41:01it's
41:02difficult
41:02because
41:03billions
41:04of
41:04people
41:04in the
41:05world
41:05billions
41:05of
41:06opinions
41:06expectations
41:06you bring
41:08it down
41:08to the
41:09micro
41:09level
41:10which
41:10is
41:10the
41:10family
41:11basic
41:12unit
41:13the
41:13family
41:14your
41:14community
41:15and
41:16then
41:16having
41:16thoughtful
41:17conversations
41:18and
41:18dialogues
41:19and
41:19then
41:20because
41:20I
41:21met
41:22you
41:22earlier
41:23I
41:23met
41:23you
41:23earlier
41:23like
41:24an
41:24hour
41:24ago
41:24but
41:24now
41:25after
41:25having
41:25talked
41:26to
41:26you
41:26for
41:26almost
41:26an
41:26hour
41:26I
41:27know
41:27more
41:27about
41:28your
41:28thought
41:28process
41:29and
41:29I
41:29hope
41:29you
41:29know
41:29more
41:30about
41:30mine
41:30so
41:31can
41:31you
41:31imagine
41:31little
41:32micro
41:32conversations
41:33on a
41:33daily
41:33basis
41:34that
41:34actually
41:35shape
41:36community
41:36and
41:37how
41:37we
41:37think
41:38as
41:38a
41:38city
41:39as
41:39a
41:39country
41:39and
41:39everything
41:40so
41:40for
41:41me
41:41you
41:41can't
41:42fix
41:42a
41:43problem
41:43by
41:43looking
41:44at
41:44it
41:44in a
41:53to
41:53learn
41:54more
41:54about
41:54how
41:54the
41:54world
41:55works
41:55and
41:55though
41:56it's
41:56not
41:56the
41:56best
41:56for
41:57everyone
41:57it's
41:57not
41:58the
41:58same
41:58for
41:58everyone
41:58because
41:59some
41:59people
41:59would
41:59just
41:59want
41:59to
42:00absorb
42:00whatever
42:01the
42:01world
42:01gives
42:01them
42:02but
42:02there
42:02are
42:02some
42:03who
42:03are
42:04curious
42:04critical
42:05thinkers
42:05and
42:06who
42:06also
42:06want
42:06to
42:06shape
42:07the
42:07world
42:07that's
42:07why
42:07I
42:07appreciate
42:08your
42:08show
42:08because
42:09it
42:09gives
42:09your
42:10viewers
42:10a
42:12platform
42:12to
42:13learn
42:13more
42:13so
42:14I
42:15think
42:15it
42:23celebrate
42:23the
42:23National
42:24Women's
42:24Month
42:25and
42:25I
42:26think
42:26yesterday
42:27is it
42:27International
42:27Women's
42:28Day
42:28yesterday
42:29so
42:31many
42:31young
42:32Filipinas
42:33or
42:33young
42:33women
42:34in
42:34general
42:34are
42:34watching
42:35leaders
42:36like
42:37you
42:37so
42:38what
42:38the
42:39three
42:39advice
42:40that
42:41you
42:41can
42:41give
42:42them
42:42if
42:43they
42:44wish
42:44to
42:45pursue
42:45rules
42:46that
42:47are
42:47currently
42:48dominated
42:49by
42:50men
42:50okay
42:54I
42:54think
42:54my
42:54number
42:55one
42:55advice
42:55would
42:55be
42:56don't
42:57be
42:57intimidated
42:58learn
42:59about
42:59the
42:59process
42:59because
43:00the
43:00only
43:00way
43:00you
43:01can
43:01empower
43:01yourself
43:02is
43:02through
43:03knowledge
43:03and
43:03experience
43:04so
43:05even
43:05if
43:05you
43:05know
43:05zero
43:06about
43:06a
43:06certain
43:06thing
43:07but
43:07you
43:07want
43:07to
43:07know
43:08more
43:08that's
43:08a
43:08great
43:09first
43:09step
43:09right
43:10so
43:10after
43:10you
43:11learn
43:11you
43:11know
43:12more
43:12about
43:12it
43:12then
43:13you
43:13test
43:14it
43:14out
43:14right
43:14are
43:15you
43:15going
43:16to
43:16apply
43:16for
43:16this
43:16job
43:17that
43:17even
43:17though
43:17it's
43:18challenging
43:18maybe
43:19you
43:19learn
43:19something
43:19about
43:20it
43:20maybe
43:20you
43:20grow
43:20into
43:21a
43:21better
43:21person
43:21so
43:22test
43:22the
43:23waters
43:23you
43:24know
43:24and
43:24for
43:25me
43:26going
43:26after
43:26your
43:27dreams
43:27and
43:27your
43:27passion
43:27should
43:28always
43:28be
43:28at
43:28the
43:29forefront
43:29of
43:29your
43:29mind
43:30right
43:30so
43:31it's
43:31not
43:31about
43:32I
43:32have to
43:34do
43:34this
43:34there's
43:35no
43:35way
43:35back
43:35you
43:36also
43:36have
43:37to
43:37be
43:37flexible
43:37right
43:38this
43:38is
43:39my
43:39passion
43:39this
43:39is
43:39what
43:39I
43:40want
43:40for
43:40my
43:40life
43:40how
43:40do
43:41I
43:41get
43:41there
43:41and
43:42I
43:42think
43:42number
43:43three
43:43for
43:43me
43:43the
43:44most
43:44important
43:44one
43:45is
43:45pray
43:46some
43:47people
43:47will
43:48just
43:48underestimate
43:49the
43:49power
43:49of
43:49prayer
43:50but
43:50at
43:50the
43:50very
43:50least
43:51prayer
43:51helps
43:52you
43:53introspect
43:53and see
43:55where you
43:55are
43:55in your
43:56life
43:56and
43:56where
43:57you
43:57want
43:57to
43:57go
43:57and
43:58then
43:58God
43:58helps
43:59you
43:59and
43:59the
43:59funny
43:59thing
43:59is
43:59when
44:00people
44:00pray
44:00they
44:01always
44:01pray
44:01expecting
44:02answers
44:02from
44:02God
44:03but
44:03then
44:04we
44:06don't
44:06realize
44:07that
44:07God
44:07gives
44:08us
44:08people
44:08around
44:08us
44:09to
44:09be
44:09answered
44:10prayers
44:10as
44:10well
44:11and
44:11for
44:11us
44:11to
44:12be
44:12other
44:12people's
44:12answered
44:13prayer
44:13so
44:14the
44:14best
44:14way
44:15to
44:15be
44:15able
44:15to
44:16live
44:16a
44:16full
44:16life
44:16is
44:17to
44:17surround
44:17yourself
44:17with
44:17people
44:18who
44:19love
44:19you
44:19who
44:21lift
44:21you
44:21up
44:21and
44:22who
44:22bring
44:22out
44:22the
44:22best
44:23in
44:23you
44:23but
44:24your
44:25responsibility
44:26is
44:26to
44:26also
44:26be
44:27that
44:27kind
44:27of
44:27person
44:28in
44:28other
44:28people's
44:29lives
44:34my
44:34favorite
44:34lines
44:34the
44:35yardstick
44:36we
44:36measure
44:37others
44:37is
44:37the
44:37same
44:38yardstick
44:38we
44:38measure
44:39ourselves
44:39so
44:40as you
44:41move
44:42forward
44:42as the
44:42world
44:42will
44:43move
44:43forward
44:43if
44:44there's
44:44one
44:45barrier
44:45that
44:46women
44:47face
44:48if
44:49there's
44:49one
44:50barrier
44:50you
44:51wish
44:51would
44:51disappear
44:52what
44:53would
44:53that
44:54be
44:56self
44:57scrutiny
44:58and
44:58insecurity
44:59that
45:00women
45:00have
45:00because
45:01I
45:02think
45:02women
45:02have
45:03a
45:03lot
45:03of
45:03insecurities
45:04that
45:04are
45:05unfounded
45:06most
45:07of
45:07it
45:07is
45:08just
45:08in
45:09my
45:09head
45:09before
45:10when
45:10I
45:10was
45:11younger
45:11I
45:11had
45:11all
45:11these
45:12insecurities
45:12physically
45:13am I
45:13good
45:13enough
45:14am I
45:14worthy
45:15and
45:15then
45:15after
45:16I
45:16grew
45:16up
45:17I
45:17grew
45:17older
45:18and
45:18now
45:18I
45:18realize
45:19wherever
45:19I
45:20am
45:20at
45:20this
45:20point
45:20in
45:20my
45:21life
45:21I
45:22should
45:22be
45:22enough
45:23if
45:23not
45:23for
45:23someone
45:24else
45:24enough
45:25for
45:25me
45:26and
45:26then
45:26the
45:27funny
45:27thing
45:27is
45:27the
45:27more
45:28I
45:28feel
45:29that
45:29I
45:29enough
45:29the
45:30more
45:30I
45:31am
45:31able
45:31to
45:31allow
45:32other
45:32women
45:33to
45:33also
45:34know
45:34and
45:34accept
45:35that
45:35they
45:35are
45:35enough
45:36at
45:36whatever
45:36point
45:37they're
45:37in
45:37their
45:37life
45:38we
45:38keep
45:39raising
45:39the
45:39bar
45:39I
45:40won't
45:41be
45:41happy
45:41until
45:41I'm
45:41this
45:42I'm
45:42that
45:42I'm
45:42that
45:42be
45:43happy
45:43here
45:44be
45:44happy
45:45there
45:45and
45:45in
45:45your
45:46happiness
45:46keep
45:47chasing
45:47the
45:48next
45:48step
45:48and
45:49the
45:49next
45:49level
45:49of
45:49your
45:50life
45:50and
45:50at
45:51risk
45:51of
45:51you
45:52telling
45:52me
45:52that
45:52I
45:52still
45:53have
45:53the
45:53same
45:53answer
45:53I
45:54would
45:54still
45:54ask
45:54the
45:54question
45:55and
45:55about
45:56on
45:56the
45:56men
45:57side
45:57what
45:59barriers
45:59you
46:00think
46:00also
46:01or
46:01you
46:01hope
46:02that
46:02will
46:03disappear
46:04for
46:04men
46:05I
46:06think
46:06the
46:06macho
46:06image
46:07for
46:08me
46:08I
46:09think
46:09men
46:09have
46:09this
46:10I
46:11don't
46:11know
46:11sometimes
46:12that's
46:13what I
46:13love
46:13about
46:14my
46:14fiance
46:14he's
46:15very
46:15macho
46:15but at
46:16the
46:16same
46:16time
46:16he's
46:16so
46:17supportive
46:17of
46:18women
46:18of
46:18me
46:19and
46:19of
46:19our
46:19kids
46:20so
46:20the
46:20macho
46:21image
46:21doesn't
46:21necessarily
46:22mean
46:22oh
46:23I'm
46:23this
46:24I'm
46:24powerful
46:24being
46:25macho
46:25actually
46:26means
46:27being able
46:27to
46:27support
46:28other
46:28people
46:28in your
46:29life
46:29as well
46:29not
46:30just
46:30the
46:30men
46:31that
46:31you
46:31work
46:31with
46:32but
46:32also
46:32the
46:32women
46:33that
46:33you
46:33work
46:33with
46:33and
46:34I
46:34think
46:34it's
46:34not
46:35macho
46:35it's
46:35probably
46:36strength
46:37from
46:37both
46:38women
46:38and
46:38men
46:39coming
46:39together
46:39and
46:40I
46:40just
46:41while
46:41you
46:41were
46:41saying
46:41that
46:41I
46:42just
46:42felt
46:42and
46:42hope
46:43this
46:43will
46:43add
46:43value
46:44to
46:44your
46:44answer
46:44but
46:45this
46:45because
46:46I
46:46also
46:47went
46:48through
46:48a
46:48journey
46:49in
46:49terms
46:49of
46:50humility
46:51because
46:52I
46:52think
46:52what
46:53I
46:53captured
46:53from
46:54what
46:54you
46:54said
46:54is
46:54the
46:55macho
46:56but
46:56that
46:57comes
46:58also
46:58with
46:58humility
46:58and
46:59then
46:59one
47:00of
47:00the
47:00mentors
47:01that
47:01I
47:01have
47:02and
47:02maybe
47:03he's
47:03watching
47:04he
47:04told
47:04me
47:04something
47:05like
47:05actually
47:06when
47:06you
47:06are
47:07humble
47:07it
47:08doesn't
47:08necessarily
47:09mean
47:09that
47:10you
47:10have
47:10to
47:11downplay
47:11your
47:11strengths
47:12being
47:13humble
47:14is
47:15appreciating
47:16the
47:16strengths
47:17of
47:17others
47:18and
47:20that
47:20perspective
47:21to me
47:21was like
47:22so I
47:23think
47:23that
47:23also
47:24applies
47:24with
47:24men
47:25who
47:25think
47:25that
47:25this
47:26is
47:26macho
47:27but
47:28it's
47:28not
47:28like
47:29they
47:30have
47:30to
47:31downplay
47:31our
47:32being
47:32macho
47:33it's
47:33actually
47:33acknowledging
47:34also
47:35of
47:36the
47:36strengths
47:36of
47:36people
47:37around
47:37them
47:37now
47:39down
47:40to
47:40the
47:40last
47:40two
47:41questions
47:41because
47:42you
47:43obviously
47:43grew up
47:44in
47:44a
47:44very
47:45healthy
47:45environment
47:45for you
47:46to
47:46have
47:46that
47:47kind
47:48of
47:48perspective
47:49insights
47:49and
47:50mindset
47:50so
47:50for
47:51the
47:51parents
47:51also
47:52who
47:52are
47:52watching
47:53what
47:53would
47:54be
47:54your
47:54thoughts
47:54also
47:55so
47:55that
47:55like
47:56your
47:57experience
47:57because
47:58some
47:58of
47:58the
47:58mistakes
47:59that
47:59we
47:59also
48:00coin
48:00are
48:00also
48:00innocent
48:01mistakes
48:01it's
48:01not
48:02really
48:02intentional
48:02so
48:03that
48:03their
48:04kids
48:04will
48:04also
48:05grow
48:05up
48:05in
48:05a
48:06balanced
48:06understanding
48:08about
48:08gender
48:09and
48:09rules
48:12I think
48:14the
48:14misconception
48:14is
48:15that
48:15parents
48:16know
48:16it
48:16all
48:16we
48:17know
48:17it
48:18all
48:18we
48:18know
48:18all
48:18the
48:19answers
48:19we
48:19have
48:19everything
48:20down
48:20to
48:20a
48:20T
48:21but
48:21we're
48:22also
48:22learning
48:22as we
48:22go
48:22along
48:23and
48:23so
48:23for
48:24this
48:24question
48:24for us
48:25to be
48:25able
48:25to
48:25teach
48:26our
48:26kids
48:27our
48:27values
48:27is
48:28we
48:28also
48:28have
48:28to
48:28live
48:28our
48:28values
48:29we
48:30cannot
48:30do
48:30it
48:30by
48:30lip
48:30service
48:31alone
48:31we
48:32can
48:33say
48:33it
48:35so
48:36we
48:37have
48:37to
48:37go
48:38beyond
48:38lip
48:38service
48:39and
48:39actually
48:39live
48:39the
48:39life
48:40and
48:41live
48:41the
48:41values
48:42that
48:42we
48:42want
48:43our
48:43kids
48:43to
48:43also
48:44embody
48:45right
48:45and
48:46so
48:46again
48:46it's
48:47case
48:48to
48:48case
48:48it's
48:48per
48:49family
48:49it's
48:49per
48:49individual
48:50but
48:50what
48:51are
48:51the
48:51values
48:51that
48:52you
48:52want
48:52your
48:53family
48:53to
48:53prioritize
48:54and
48:55then
48:55what
48:55are
48:55the
48:56lessons
48:56you
48:56want
48:56your
48:56kids
48:59day-to-day
49:00on a
49:00day-to-day
49:00basis
49:01and
49:02which
49:02brings
49:03me
49:03back
49:04to
49:04the
49:04question
49:04about
49:05leadership
49:05and
49:05it
49:05applies
49:06to
49:06gender
49:10roles
49:10because
49:12they
49:12I don't
49:13know
49:13who
49:13said
49:14this
49:14but
49:14somebody
49:14said
49:14that
49:15leadership
49:15is
49:16caught
49:17rather
49:17than
49:18taught
49:18at the
49:19end
49:19of
49:19the
49:19day
49:19I
49:20think
49:20it's
49:20also
49:20the
49:21same
49:21about
49:21the
49:21kind
49:22of
49:22children
49:23that
49:23we
49:24are
49:24also
49:24raising
49:25in
49:25this
49:25world
49:26the
49:27values
49:27that
49:27we
49:28want
49:28them
49:28to
49:29live
49:30are
49:31most
49:32of
49:32the
49:32time
49:32caught
49:33rather
49:34than
49:35taught
49:36exactly
49:36even
49:36us
49:37right
49:37now
49:37as
49:37adults
49:38we
49:38remember
49:38moments
49:39and
49:39memories
49:39from
49:39our
49:39childhood
49:40not
49:41in
49:41the
49:41teaching
49:42moments
49:42of our
49:42parents
49:43but
49:43in
49:43the
49:43actions
49:44that
49:44they
49:44did
49:44that's
49:45what
49:45stays
49:45with
49:45us
49:46right?
49:46yeah
49:47and
49:47we
49:48will
49:48have
49:48that
49:49conversation
49:49offline
49:50but
49:50for
49:50now
49:50thank
49:51you
49:51thank
49:51you
49:52thank
49:52you
49:52so
49:52much
49:52for
49:53this
49:53conversation
49:54beyond
49:55the
49:55headlines
49:56so
49:56beyond
49:57the
49:57headlines
49:58are
49:58the
49:58daily
49:59choices
49:59to
50:00lead
50:00to
50:01persevere
50:02and
50:02to
50:02challenge
50:03expectations
50:04that
50:04once
50:05limited
50:05what
50:06women
50:06could
50:07achieve
50:07the
50:08national
50:08women's
50:09month
50:09invites
50:10us
50:10to
50:10recognize
50:11the
50:11deeper
50:12impact
50:12of
50:13women
50:13who
50:13lead
50:14serve
50:15inspire
50:16and
50:16I
50:17will
50:17have
50:17to
50:17add
50:18discern
50:18I'm
50:20DJ
50:20Moises
50:20this
50:21has
50:21been
50:21beyond
50:22the
50:22headlines
50:22and
50:22see
50:23you
50:23again
50:23tomorrow
50:42and
51:00I
51:10will
51:11see
51:11next
51:11time
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