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Ready To Love 2018 Season 11 Episode 6
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00:00Previously on Ready to Love.
00:02I am hosting a throwback, 70s Motown dance party.
00:06We're never back!
00:09Ladies, one of you will be going home tonight.
00:13Oh!
00:14You look so pretty.
00:16It's a little distracting, actually.
00:18My connection with Devon has blossomed.
00:20I like it.
00:21Sometimes I just look at you and I'm like, she look good.
00:24Really?
00:24And that's not a game.
00:25You know what that is?
00:26What?
00:28That's gospel.
00:30I believe our misalignment is Jesus.
00:33There's a stalemate when it comes to religion.
00:36We may not be on one accord with that.
00:39Donna's a no-go.
00:40If you can't take care of me as well as my daddy take care of my mom for 39 years,
00:45I don't want it.
00:46Christina, all you trying to do is get paid.
00:49The person who will be going home is...
00:57I know it took me some time to get to the place that you wanted me to be.
01:04Oh, but now I'm ready.
01:08I'm ready to love.
01:19Donna, the guys think you are intelligent.
01:24You have a great energy, but some have concerns that you're not religious.
01:32People just don't know who I am, and they're making assumptions.
01:35So, it could be my time to go home.
01:37I don't know.
01:39Christina, you have a great personality, but some have concerns about the expectations that you have for the men that
01:48you date.
01:49Donna was in the last elimination, and knowing that I have connections with at least two of the men, I
01:55don't think I'll be going anywhere.
01:59So, the fellas have decided the person who will be going home is...
02:09Christina.
02:14Christina, please say your goodbyes.
02:16I really appreciate getting to know everyone.
02:18And I honestly feel like if my expectations are too much for someone, then they're not ready to take care
02:23of a woman.
02:24It is a little bit shocking, but if I got to chase you, I don't want you.
02:30If you don't want to provide for me, God don't want you for me.
02:32Because if I have to do it on my own, why do I need you?
02:35Y'all have a great night.
02:40It is unfortunate because there was a lot of different experiences that we got to enjoy.
02:45Take care, y'all.
02:48But at the same time, I'm just really grateful that I'm not wasting your time and no one's wasting mine.
02:53All right, we are halfway through this journey.
02:56And if feelings deepen, it's time to get real.
03:00If there's anything that you haven't shared yet, whether it's your past, your fears,
03:05this is the week to lay it all out and clear those skeletons from the closet.
03:10Ladies, the power is shifting back to you.
03:14At the end of the week, we will meet to discuss everything you found out and determine which of these
03:19guys is simply not ready to love.
03:22I had a blast at the Motown party.
03:25And knowing that I'm still in the process, it will give me the opportunity to have more conversations with the
03:32men who are left.
03:32I appreciate every one of y'all for showing up and showing out.
03:36I'll see y'all soon.
03:37This is where you clap when I leave.
03:39That's what happens.
03:53This week, Tommy's assignment was to dig deep.
03:56So I set up a group date with myself, Donna, Ashley, Vince, Steve, and Chris.
04:02To do hot yoga.
04:04Got stockings.
04:05Wait, wait, wait.
04:06Why would you call them stockings?
04:07These are compression pants.
04:10I am most looking forward to seeing Vince.
04:12I know I'm going to laugh, and I know he's going to make any activity feel like a good time.
04:18You're going to draw the first inhale through your nose as you fill up completely.
04:22Exhale it out with a sigh.
04:25Good.
04:26From there, we're going to the lumbar area.
04:28Bring the hands to the low back.
04:29I feel like I'm tearing up.
04:31Oh, I'm sorry.
04:32I'm sorry.
04:33Yeah, then exhale, send your butt backwards.
04:35Donna and Nicole, you can tell they do this every week.
04:38It helps if you pull on a breathe out, y'all.
04:40But everyone else, we couldn't get a move down.
04:44You're going to send the feet up.
04:45Bring the hands to the low back.
04:46It's like a Diddy pose.
04:49Chris over here is shaking like a stripper.
04:53Let's take one final inhale together as we fill up.
04:56Exhale it out.
04:59Good job.
05:02All right.
05:03So, what you think?
05:05I broke a little sweat.
05:07Broke a little sweat.
05:08You know what I'm saying?
05:10Chris is not a romantic connection for me.
05:12I think the last time we had a conversation was at the mixer.
05:15So, look.
05:16How?
05:17What?
05:17Are you spilling the beans?
05:19Or are you going to spill the beans?
05:21What beans I got?
05:22He kind of overpowered the conversation, but I'm still willing to get to know him a little
05:26bit better.
05:27I grew up being extremely romantic.
05:29And when you're being overly romantic, really young, that's really off-putting the girls.
05:34I had, like, keloid skin.
05:36I had a great gap in my teeth.
05:38I had really bad self-esteem issues, so I worked on being a conversationalist to get
05:43an edge on the prettier-looking dudes until I got handsome.
05:49Now it's clicking.
05:50Chris has created speaking as a form of healing.
05:55So, this has been very interesting for me to see myself in this life.
05:58It doesn't change that overpowering a conversation can be confusing and irritating.
06:04But at least I have the why for Chris now.
06:07It's ingrained.
06:08It's ingrained.
06:08Right.
06:09All right, give me a little bit more.
06:11Okay, that's about it.
06:12That's about it.
06:12Go again.
06:13I like this.
06:14I like this.
06:14Is this the stuff we supposed to be prepping?
06:16Y'all doing good.
06:18All right, don't go.
06:18This is a good connection.
06:19Oh!
06:21Oh, I like Vince.
06:24We held hands during this date, and it might be something sparking between us.
06:29Our assignment from Tommy this week is to reveal something to the other person.
06:35Hmm.
06:37So, do you want to go first?
06:39Okay, I can go first.
06:40So, I would say so far in this experience, I have always told people that I didn't want
06:45kids, and I am not going to cry here.
06:50I think I do want kids.
06:53I just am scared of being a bad parent, or a bad mother, or falling at something.
07:00I will share this with you.
07:02Okay.
07:03Right?
07:03I, of course, have two children.
07:05Yes.
07:06Fourth grade.
07:07I was driving them to school.
07:08I was like, you know how you guys don't know stuff, and you're learning stuff as you're
07:13growing?
07:14Yeah.
07:14I want to let you guys know that I've never been a parent before.
07:18Yeah.
07:18That's why I'm wrong a lot.
07:21What my daughter said, she said, so, we're like raising you too.
07:27Mmm.
07:28That's deep.
07:29And I said, yes.
07:30Yeah.
07:30You are.
07:31Yeah.
07:31I had to drop them off before I broke out into tears.
07:34And I just say all that to say, as long as you do everything that you can do, you should
07:40be able to sleep at night and be happy with whatever result you get.
07:47I knew me and Vince could have fun.
07:49But this is the first time that I'm starting to see Vince in a more, like, romantic light.
07:54I know that Ed has been my top connection this entire experience, but Vince has been
07:59moving up and up and up for me.
08:00So, I would just advise you to just be you, which is obviously wonderful, and let go.
08:08We're about to catch a vibe now.
08:13Now, it's like, hey, it's the time.
08:14We got to share a little more.
08:16Yeah.
08:16We got to.
08:17So.
08:18I mean, I think we had to kind of say it's about, like, the gap that you had of being
08:21single.
08:22Seven years or something.
08:23I'm like, yo.
08:24So, like, how did that occur?
08:26Or, like, why?
08:27Or why did you feel it was necessary?
08:28End of 20s, beginning of 30s, I was in two back-to-back, really poor relationships.
08:35So, when I got out of that, I said, all right, nope.
08:37We're not doing that again.
08:38Let's get to know myself.
08:40Maybe even create a new version of myself.
08:42Because the last one kept up.
08:45So, that was when I started my PhD.
08:47Oh.
08:48So, that was six years ago.
08:49Then I got a time where I was like, okay, I can start dating again.
08:51Start dating again, yeah.
08:52Talking with Donna, she's someone who is serious about her love life, which makes me really focused.
08:58Like, hey, if you want her, like, you can't play games.
09:00So, I'm interested in knowing if the relationship with your mom and dad has impacted you making romantic decisions.
09:08My mom has passed.
09:10So, I think that, number one, has made a big impact.
09:13I'm like, if my mom was still alive, I would have somebody to bounce ideas off of.
09:18I missed out on that tremendously.
09:19Like, I seek out under women now probably more than under men in my family for, like, those conversations.
09:25So, like, I think now in my relationships, like, going forward, I'll be able to just be more willing to
09:32be more, like, wide open.
09:34He got real with me for a second, and I really appreciated that.
09:37So, I'm leaving this date wanting to spend a little bit more time with Steven.
09:41I think that's probably the deepest conversation we've had, so I'm glad to, like, kind of be in that space
09:46with you.
09:47It was very good. Now I know Donna. I know Donna a lot better than I knew before.
09:52Hi.
09:53How'd you like everything?
09:54It was hot.
09:55It was very hot.
09:55It felt just like me.
09:57Ashley is super fine. We talked a few times over phone calls, a lot of texts.
10:02So, being able to have one-on-one time with her was really cool.
10:05How's everything been going for you this week?
10:07I'm hanging in there, but it's definitely becoming a little challenging.
10:11I actually was really struggling.
10:13The party?
10:14Yeah, I was like, I'm not having a good time.
10:17It's been really heavy on me that, like, what if I don't find my person here?
10:21You know, I went through a situation, um, probably about four or five months ago where I actually fell in
10:26love with somebody really, really fast.
10:28Mm-hmm.
10:29And they just ghosted me.
10:32It was like...
10:32But you felt like that was love at first sight.
10:34Oh, yeah. And when that happened, it was just like, damn.
10:37When Chris told me he fell in love with that woman, I definitely listened, but I cannot stand a man
10:43with a bruised ego.
10:44At the end of the day, this whole thing, you're forced to have to communicate and have these relationships with
10:49people that are not interested in you, right?
10:52Mm-hmm.
10:52But then the whole perspective is, was you should be trying to deal with people that you typically don't deal
10:57with.
10:58So...
10:58Yes.
10:59It's like, I don't know what to do with my hands.
11:01I can see why, and maybe there's a wall up.
11:03But if you can be vulnerable and do all those things with that woman outside of this, just give us
11:09the same grace.
11:10I feel like I only have a certain amount of time.
11:13Why would I waste time with individuals that I'm not interested in?
11:17I can't deal with that.
11:24Living the life of luxury.
11:26Are you here to keep up with me?
11:29You look great.
11:31I invited Bello out to tour the Detroit River with me on this tiki boat.
11:39I've always been like, wow, he's super attractive.
11:42I like this outfit.
11:44So what I hope to establish by the end of this date is whether we're going to be a romantic
11:49connection or if he's just better off in the friend zone.
11:53Maybe I should get like a bartender name or something.
11:55Luscious Lauren.
11:57Luscious?
11:58Luscious Lauren.
11:59Ooh, I was checking her out.
12:01Lauren, her hair is on point, her outfit.
12:05I like your nails.
12:07That's nice.
12:08Lauren is somebody that I have interest in because I like her energy.
12:12She's down to earth.
12:13So I'm excited to uncover what we got going on.
12:25Well, look at the Detroit skyline.
12:26Yeah, that is beautiful.
12:29And we should definitely take a photo.
12:31Absolutely.
12:32I'll give you a hug.
12:33Okay.
12:34Cute.
12:35Oh, gorgeous.
12:37This is nice.
12:39So obviously you're a good looking guy.
12:41You just seem like every time I'm in person with you, it seems very like gentleman, good guy.
12:48What's really going on, you know?
12:50Are you secretly married or?
12:52No, no, no rings.
12:54I'm not secretly married.
12:55Okay.
12:56But I have a one-year-old daughter.
12:58Oh, wow.
12:59I would never guess.
13:01She's in Miami.
13:01I'm out here, so.
13:02Mm.
13:03And it's so new.
13:04I have one child.
13:06Her name's Nava.
13:07It was a surprise.
13:08I found out like four or five months ago, but I'm in my daughter's life to try and see
13:12her as frequent as possible.
13:14I had my first child at 37.
13:18Was that intentional?
13:19It was an accident.
13:20I had a one-night stand.
13:22Then she calls me in May, and then she's like, I'm pregnant.
13:25Really?
13:27Oh, my God.
13:28You're not going to run away now to ask her, you what?
13:30No, I'm just processing.
13:32Have you physically?
13:33Yes.
13:33Oh, my God.
13:34Yeah, I've seen her twice.
13:35Was that like the first time you, did you look at her and say, that's my, oh, my God.
13:40Ah, you know what?
13:41It was weird because I went there to do the paternity test.
13:44Oh.
13:45So when I went there, I'm touching her, I'm grabbing her, I'm looking at her, I'm like, is
13:48this mine?
13:49Is she mine?
13:50And then I didn't get the paternity test until after I left.
13:53Would you work things out with the mother?
13:55It's a strict co-parenting.
13:56Strict co-parenting.
13:57This was something that wasn't part of the game plan, but I got to step up because I
14:03want to be involved in my child's life, period, full stop.
14:06And I feel like parenting is very important.
14:10I'm glad that they're so open about things.
14:13Like if you ask him, he's going to tell you.
14:16100%.
14:16It's not a secret and I'm glad we were able to kind of clear some things up about having
14:22a child and just how you found out and everything.
14:24Yeah.
14:28Speaking on Bello's situation with the baby, like he is mature enough to understand you just
14:34want to speak and get some stuff off.
14:36You want clarification and I can give that to you.
14:38And that, that was big for me.
14:40So this date, I believe, has drawn us closer.
14:43You see that ship?
14:44What is it?
14:44It says La Bello.
14:45Ain't that cool?
14:46You need a boat.
14:51What's up?
14:53What up?
14:54What up?
14:54What up?
14:55Looking amazing.
14:57You look nice.
14:58You smell good.
14:59Yeah, you always smell great.
15:00This week, I've decided to take Cardi out on a date and we're doing trivia.
15:06Give you some trivia slips here.
15:08Just need your team name across the top.
15:09My connection with Dello at this point is fabulous.
15:13But Cardi, we talked when we went into the second mixer.
15:16It's, um...
15:17Oh, you put your arm around me, you know?
15:19I like you.
15:20Oh, it's all good.
15:20We good.
15:21We good.
15:21We outside.
15:22We inside.
15:24So, I was interested in spending some time with him, just some one-on-one.
15:27What's our name going to be?
15:29Well, we want to do like...
15:30Cardam.
15:31Cardam is actually dope.
15:32Cardam.
15:33That Dominique, she looks beautiful.
15:35With a smiley face with a fro.
15:37The women are in power this week.
15:39I know I have to make an impression.
15:41So, it's time to show up for the glow up.
15:43All right.
15:43The next game of trivia.
15:45Here's your first question on the Backstreet Boys.
15:50Which two Backstreet Boys members are first cousins?
15:55I'm gonna just say Jake and Josh.
15:57I don't even know if they in there.
15:59I don't even either.
16:01The Backstreet Boys were named after the open-air Backstreet Market in what city?
16:06I don't know what Backstreet Boys is from.
16:09I have no idea.
16:11Child.
16:14They asked us all about Backstreet.
16:16I don't know no facts.
16:17I don't even know the lyrics.
16:18Name the two albums that followed Backstreet's back.
16:21I don't know.
16:22They're gonna ask me some questions about Michael Jackson.
16:26I feel we got set up.
16:27Should've been some Motown flair, personally.
16:29But, I mean, you can't win them all, right?
16:31Cardown sucks right now.
16:33Yeah.
16:33But anyway, I wanted us to have some one-on-one time.
16:36I appreciate it.
16:37I appreciate it.
16:38I wanted to dive a little deeper.
16:40I know that you have a daughter.
16:42Mm-hmm.
16:43She'll be three.
16:43And what does that look like with the mother?
16:46We co-parent.
16:47I think it's important to make sure that we do right for our daughter.
16:50And we've kind of done it since, like, since she was born.
16:52Okay.
16:53So, your last relationship was how long ago?
16:56About 18 months ago.
16:57You see yourself, like, being married again?
17:00Absolutely.
17:01When I first got divorced, I didn't want to be a wife again because I was afraid of something breaking.
17:06And it's like, sometimes things are meant to be broken and put back together.
17:09Mm.
17:10I have wife qualities.
17:13You're playing.
17:13You live.
17:13That's who I know.
17:14I can kind of, like, from looking in your eyes, I can see, you know, there we go.
17:18Like, you can get lost in your eyes, you know?
17:21Mine?
17:21Yeah, yours.
17:24In that moment, I was anticipating and hoping for a kiss.
17:28I didn't got lost in this moment.
17:30Lost in love.
17:31But that's just nothing that I personally want to rush.
17:36So, there's always next time.
17:38Cardam did not win.
17:39Cardam did not win.
17:41But we did win tonight.
17:42We did.
17:44I had a great time with Cardi.
17:45I had lots of laughs, and he was intentional getting to know me on a deeper level.
17:50These boots.
17:51Oh, look at them bad boots.
17:53Do I think that Cardam is gonna go past trivia?
17:58Hmm.
17:59I guess we'll all have to watch and see.
18:01I like Bella a lot.
18:03But, you know, may the best man win.
18:06You've been in the wrong place.
18:13We have your table right here for you.
18:19Okay, thank you.
18:20The ladies are in power this week.
18:22So, I invited Shannon, Devon, and Darius to a really cool little speak-easy spot.
18:28Wow.
18:29Got it good for you.
18:30Check it out.
18:31Really?
18:34How did you know?
18:35My favorite.
18:36I remember you explained it to me.
18:37Oh, my God.
18:39With Darius, I am a fan of his fashion sense, but I'm really trying to figure out what's
18:44real, what's not.
18:46How y'all doing, babe?
18:47Good to see you.
18:47Good to see you, too.
18:49Devon, he's super consistent.
18:51But our connection started kind of further along in the process.
18:55You look cute.
18:56Look at those shoes.
18:56Hey, how you doing?
18:57So, I'm just curious to see how this is gonna go.
19:00Wow, you're always so put together.
19:02Am I?
19:03Yeah, all the little detail.
19:04I'm looking at y'all like...
19:06We want to serve.
19:08So, you know, one of the things Tommy wanted us to do this week was to get rid of the
19:14surface
19:14level.
19:15Let's go deep.
19:16So, is there something that you're willing to share?
19:19When I was in my most recent grad program, I ended up fainting and smacking the whole left
19:25side of my head on the wall.
19:27Oh, no.
19:28I had post-concussive syndrome, and still, even now, it impacts me today.
19:33Wow.
19:34I admire Shannon because she's not afraid to be vulnerable.
19:38It speaks to her ability to communicate in a healthy way.
19:41And that's a trait that I want in my future wife.
19:44So, as a kid, when my mother used to drop me off at school in the morning, all the little
19:49girls was lined up, and they would kiss my hand and say, King Darius.
19:53Oh, bye.
19:54My mother said, that's what my mother did.
19:56My mother was like, uh-uh, stop.
19:58This has to stop.
19:59Explains a lot.
20:01Nice.
20:02Yummy.
20:03Good story, but I don't know if it was super deep.
20:07My mom and dad had a very terrible relationship.
20:12Right.
20:12And that just led me down a whole path of that's not what love looks like.
20:17Right.
20:17But now, you know.
20:18Plus, I have son.
20:19And so, when I look at them, I'm like, guys are good.
20:23Yeah.
20:23Until you show me, like, otherwise.
20:26I just seen Lauren as an untouchable individual.
20:29She kind of comes off as perfect to me.
20:32And to learn that she had some experiences that she'd been through, wow.
20:38That was very touching.
20:40My parents got divorced when I was six.
20:43They were, a lot of times, fighting.
20:45My father didn't get along with my mother.
20:47And it taught me a lot.
20:49Making sure that I'm healed.
20:51Breaking generational curses.
20:53I'm bringing peace into my life.
20:54Any partner that I have is coming into something that's already whole.
20:58You know what I mean?
20:59Yeah.
20:59I feel like Devon understood the assignment.
21:02That probably has totally impact how he interacts with partners and relationships.
21:07I'm glad that he felt comfortable sharing that with us.
21:10Well, um, guys, this has been really fun.
21:12Yeah, most definitely.
21:14I actually have an event I'm gonna have to cut out.
21:16Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed sharing deep moments with Devon and Shannon.
21:23Oh, you smell good.
21:24However, I'm still up in the air about how I feel about Darius.
21:28Bye, Shannon.
21:30Bye.
21:30Okay, see you guys.
21:31Bye, bro.
21:45Hi.
21:50That was so extra.
21:52Going into this date with Ed.
21:55I feel all of the things.
21:57What am I gonna say?
21:57What is he gonna say?
21:59Is he gonna fall in love with me?
22:00It's so good to see you.
22:02You smell good.
22:03I took a bath.
22:03I feel like a little kid who has a crush.
22:06I hope he feels the same.
22:07I don't really know, but I am hoping that I find that out during this date.
22:11How you doing?
22:12Good.
22:13You soft hands?
22:14I ain't been hitting people like you've been hitting people with the boxing gloves.
22:17So I'm going into the date.
22:18I see Nicole.
22:19She looks gorgeous.
22:20I guess this is the salad.
22:22My boy.
22:24It looks good.
22:25You know, I'm already starting to learn more about Nicole.
22:28I'm starting to see a softer side, but haven't really had any one-on-one time.
22:32So I'm excited to see where this goes.
22:37It's crazy.
22:37We've known each other for almost 15 years.
22:39I know.
22:40And we've never been on a date.
22:41You know, we've known each other since undergrad.
22:44And I'm glad we're getting a chance now.
22:45Yeah, me too.
22:46I can usually meet somebody, and I see what type of relationship we can have, like how
22:53I can navigate this.
22:54They're like, what?
22:55But you and I don't got a clue.
22:57What's something that you feel like you should know about your person that you don't know
23:02about me?
23:03How you show up in relationships today.
23:05Like how has past pain and hurt affected who you are as a person today?
23:09Sure.
23:10I would say...
23:12Or like the most pain you've ever been in that wasn't physical.
23:16The most pain that I've ever been in that wasn't physical...
23:23Uh...
23:25Was...
23:28I'm a high tolerance for pain.
23:32All around.
23:35Ed is someone who has been married before.
23:37So I think that there is some fear.
23:39There is some trust issues he might have.
23:41Like I like to feel like closeness with people.
23:45If we're doing good, if we're doing bad.
23:46I don't know anything about you.
23:48So do we actually work?
23:50Could I see myself dating him?
23:52I have no clue.
23:53So what am I ultimate deal breaker in a relationship?
23:57Mm-hmm.
23:58I absolutely cannot date somebody that will not open up to me.
24:12Ring, ring.
24:13Call him up.
24:14I'm what you're looking for.
24:16Hey, what's up?
24:17Ring, ring.
24:18Hit the dial.
24:19Walk this way and flash that smile.
24:21Darius is my top connection.
24:23But Bello is somebody that I could be interested in.
24:26So I invited Bello out on a date just to pick his brain and get to know him more.
24:31Guess who?
24:33Hey.
24:34He makes everything so calm and comfortable.
24:37So I knew it would be easy for me to just let loose and talk to him.
24:41You know, I was actually thinking about wearing a jean jacket this morning.
24:44Really?
24:45Yeah.
24:45But I still like that fit.
24:47I like it.
24:48Ashley looking cute.
24:49She had the jeans with the black on.
24:52Yeah.
24:53Yeah.
24:54Guys, how you been?
24:55I've been good.
24:56How was the party?
24:56I got rhythm, but I didn't know any of the words.
24:59So you can do the hustle?
25:00Yeah, I can do the hustle.
25:02I don't know Ashley yet, but I'm excited to see what kind of vibe we have together.
25:07So when we were speaking on the phone, I remember you said you were part native.
25:11I'm Indian Cherokee, so.
25:13How many siblings you got?
25:14I have a big brother, a big sister, me, and then three little brothers.
25:17So I'm like the black sheep, you know?
25:19I'm the middle child too.
25:20Then you're like pretty kind of different from everyone?
25:22Hell yeah.
25:22My sister did med school.
25:24She did her masters.
25:25My mom did accounting.
25:27Did they want you to like go a certain way?
25:29And you kind of.
25:29Oh, I was supposed to go into law.
25:30But I've always been like into entrepreneurship, selling stuff.
25:34You kind of wanted to just do what you wanted to do.
25:36Yes.
25:37Absolutely.
25:39Bello, he literally follows his own dreams.
25:42And that's kind of like what I did.
25:43I didn't listen to my mom or dad about being a doctor.
25:47I wanted to be a personal trainer.
25:49Well, that looks great.
25:50All right.
25:50And I just like that he's confident in what he wants to do.
25:53So what made you feel that you're ready to get married?
25:59I feel like I did the work.
26:01I went to therapy for three years.
26:03I'm still in therapy now.
26:04I'm actually going on Wednesday to go talk to her.
26:06She helped me grow so much and see so many things about myself that I didn't know.
26:10What did you learn about yourself?
26:13I learned that I am a very, very strong person.
26:17But sometimes I feel like I'm not.
26:20Sometimes I feel like I am so defeated.
26:22I am so weak right now.
26:24Like I'm tearing up because it's real.
26:27Wow.
26:28I'm so sorry.
26:28Give me a hat.
26:33Wow.
26:38I want to be Ashley, funny, happy.
26:40I want to just be me.
26:41But I literally went through the darkest things, seeing somebody look like they was possessed,
26:46mental illness, schizophrenic, bipolar.
26:50When you see that stuff firsthand with somebody you love, you're going to look at life totally different.
26:58It was like a real dark time.
27:00Every time I talk about it, I get emotional still to this day because that's something that I hold dear
27:05to my heart.
27:06And bellow support meant so much to me in that moment that was really touching.
27:10So that's what, that's just, I'm sorry to not me to cry.
27:14I got you.
27:15I got you.
27:15I got you.
27:16A lot of people will just try and tough it out.
27:20And for you to seek that out, that's brave and it's strong.
27:23You know what I mean?
27:25This is amazing because I feel like what takes six months, we just did it in like a couple minutes.
27:36With Ashley, she allowed herself to be vulnerable and I feel like she was authentic.
27:41I feel like she has a lot of layers and I want to uncover more of those layers.
27:45Look at me.
27:46Touch me and I forgive my pain.
27:51I was with Bellow today and we just basically impact everything.
27:56Let's go.
27:57I cried.
27:58We talked about mental illness.
27:59It was just a wonderful day and I love that he was so attentive and understood where I was coming
28:04from.
28:05It was just wonderful.
28:06And Bella, you did it with that one.
28:07Like definitely husband material.
28:31Hey, Donna.
28:32Hey, girl.
28:33Hey.
28:33So it's time to go back into Tommy's Lounge.
28:36We're about halfway through the process and deliberations are getting more intense.
28:41I'm gonna pour a little extra today.
28:42The tea gonna be hot.
28:44I'm ready.
28:44Motions are high and the stakes are higher.
28:47So this will be interesting to say the least.
28:49Hey, hey.
28:50Hey.
28:50Hey.
28:51How y'all doing?
28:52Good.
28:53How are you?
28:54All right.
28:54May I have a seat?
28:55Absolutely.
28:57Okay.
28:58Did y'all like Motown Tommy or this time?
29:00Which one?
29:00Which one?
29:01Little different.
29:02Both.
29:02Both.
29:03The hair was doing his thing.
29:05That was crazy.
29:06All right.
29:07Welcome back to our lounge.
29:09Now, this week's assignment was to do a little grave digger.
29:12Discuss any skeletons you or your partner have been keeping behind those closet doors.
29:18So, let's talk about the fellas that you are connecting with.
29:22We're gonna start with Dominique.
29:26From the second mixer, me and Cardi had like a little connection.
29:30So, I took him on a trivia date.
29:32We called it Cardam.
29:33Oh, I like that.
29:34That was our name.
29:35Ooh.
29:36And we lost.
29:37How you on that ?
29:38But did you at least see a different side of him?
29:40Oh, yeah.
29:41He opened up.
29:42Like, we had a good time.
29:43It was a good day.
29:43All right.
29:44Miss Nicole.
29:44I love Vince.
29:46I just think he's such a great person.
29:48We did the hot yoga date.
29:49We were holding hands.
29:51And that kind of made me like snap out of the it cloud.
29:55All right.
29:56Yeah.
29:56I was on the date, the yoga date as well.
29:59Vince is still my top connection.
30:01And then Steve and I connected.
30:03And that's when he shared his mother has passed already.
30:05And that he really leans on the other women in his life.
30:09I like it.
30:09Devon is a wonderful person.
30:12He's funny.
30:13He's kind.
30:15He and I can talk for a long, long time.
30:17Like, I hopped in the shower and kept talking.
30:19Not with the earbud.
30:21Yeah.
30:21You're going to get electrocuted.
30:25Lauren, let me hear it.
30:27Fellow, we had a date.
30:28Little tiki boat.
30:29And he just found out he had a child.
30:31Oh, wow.
30:32I was kind of shocked.
30:33So I wanted clarification on how he's going to navigate that.
30:37And his response.
30:38He was very open about everything.
30:41He's not scared of a challenge.
30:43I think his heart is in the right place.
30:46I like Bello.
30:47And I ain't judging him for having a kid.
30:48I have a child.
30:49It's just his situation is a bit rocky right now.
30:53So it'll be interesting to see how his story plays out.
30:55I actually had a date with Bello.
30:57He really went deep about his family.
30:59He was very intentional.
31:01And I also got emotional on the day I cried
31:03because we were talking about mental illness and things.
31:05That's really important to me.
31:06What made you cry?
31:09Um...
31:09I don't want to cry now, but...
31:13That's okay.
31:14When you see somebody go through mental illness
31:17or bipolar, schizophrenic,
31:19it's...
31:19It's hard to see somebody you love go through that
31:22and you can't do anything.
31:24So I just appreciate him listening to me.
31:26I understand.
31:29Ashley starts to get emotional and I'm feeling her.
31:33I can relate with what she's going through
31:35and I sympathize with her 100%.
31:37I appreciate you being open.
31:39If you're here to find love,
31:41these are the parts of our lives that you share with people.
31:44And you start touching on those things
31:46that really, really mean something to you.
31:48Mm-hmm.
31:50All right.
31:50We're gonna keep it moving.
31:52Now, who is missing the mark
31:54and may not be ready to love?
31:57Oh my goodness.
31:58Chris, it's not a connection and it won't be.
32:01He will overpower a conversation.
32:04Nothing has changed with that.
32:05He just seems a bit insecure about the journey.
32:08The guys are just...
32:09The women are just...
32:10It's just too sobby for me.
32:12Like, man up a little bit.
32:14You know?
32:14Chris, either you're gonna rise to the occasion
32:17or you gonna fade away.
32:19Mm.
32:20All right.
32:21Anybody else?
32:22Darius.
32:22I literally feel like I just called my pastor.
32:24Yeah.
32:25I can't imagine sleeping with the pastor.
32:27Amen.
32:30Vince, we're gonna be butting heads about financials.
32:34Well, you're gonna be working, though.
32:35You okay?
32:36All the way up to nine months pregnant,
32:38you're gonna be working.
32:39And you burst.
32:41Who else?
32:43Ed, he's just not attentive.
32:46You are interested, right?
32:48I like for the dialogue to be, like, both ways.
32:52It seemed like he would not speak worse affirmation
32:54until his woman.
32:55I agree.
32:56Ed, he is a charmer.
32:58Like, he's emotionally unavailable.
33:00I'm so sad, y'all.
33:02Tell me what's wrong.
33:03I finally had a date with Ed.
33:05I like him. Everybody know I like him.
33:07Does he like you?
33:08Maybe.
33:09She is crushing on this man since 15 years,
33:12and you still ain't seen it?
33:13Do you agree what Ashante just said,
33:15that he's emotionally unavailable?
33:17Because you notice you don't have Ed as your top.
33:20Right.
33:21Exactly.
33:21I'm not ready to let him go,
33:22and it will crush me.
33:25So let me say this.
33:26Yeah.
33:27Over this 15-plus years,
33:29I think you've painted this picture.
33:33And that picture might not really exist the way you think.
33:36Does that make sense?
33:37It does.
33:38I do understand where the women are coming from.
33:40I could be a little fairytale with my hopes,
33:42and there's still a lot I need to get to know about Ed.
33:44So I am just stuck in my own head to try to figure it out.
33:48All right.
33:49Sound like some of y'all couldn't pick the lock on that closet door
33:52with them skeletons inside.
33:53So I want you to take these guys out on a date
33:56and let them know if they are just not ready to love.
33:59Thanks.
34:00All right, ladies.
34:01I'm going to leave, let y'all talk about this,
34:04and call my wine.
34:08She talking to me in the shower with her earbud on.
34:11You know what I'm saying?
34:12Yeah.
34:25Hello, Chris.
34:27How are you?
34:28The lovely Ashante, who is someone that I've been wanting
34:31to go out on a date with for a while now,
34:33invited me out.
34:34So I was excited.
34:36Finally getting my one-on-one date.
34:37OK, both times.
34:38You feel?
34:39Both times.
34:39However, it is elimination week, so I was kind of like,
34:42all right, well, we're going to see how this rolls.
34:45How's your day been going?
34:46My day's been good.
34:47You know, it's been just, you know, usual grind,
34:49trying to not lose my job, so.
34:51Right.
34:52Please don't do that.
34:53I'm on a new wave.
34:55Nothing else to say.
34:58Baby, it's too late.
34:59Today, I have the task of taking Ed out to let him know
35:05how the women are feeling about him.
35:07I am a super emotional girl, and I have trouble keeping it together.
35:10So I don't want to have this conversation, but I know
35:14that it is something that I have to do.
35:18Nick.
35:21What's the matter?
35:22Well, I get a call from Nicole.
35:24We got a second date.
35:25But as soon as I see Nicole, I'm puzzled.
35:28I'm like, what's going on?
35:32Hi.
35:32Hey.
35:34So do you feel like you've been connecting
35:36with a lot of the ladies?
35:37Have you been reaching out?
35:39I'm going to give you my top five.
35:41Top five is crazy.
35:43When it ain't but six people, six sevens.
35:45No, listen.
35:45Currently, right now, you're at my top.
35:47Dominique's still in there.
35:48It's a toss-off between Nicole and Shannon.
35:50So you do feel like you're building romantic connections,
35:53because with the ladies' lounge with Tommy,
35:57a lot of women did not feel that romantic connection being made.
36:02So we had a ladies' lounge today.
36:05We think you're a great guy.
36:07We think you're a fun guy.
36:09But we wanted you to open up a little bit more,
36:11and we wanted to know a little bit more about who you are as a person.
36:14I mean, this is me being open with limited access.
36:18We just felt like we needed more from you.
36:20I came on this journey looking for love.
36:22But, like, are you ready for a girlfriend, ready for a wife?
36:25That was, like, the question mark that a lot of the girls had.
36:29Everybody thinks you're extremely smart, but some of the women still feel like you're not listening enough.
36:36You're just a bit detached.
36:38I don't really know what that means exactly.
36:41They don't necessarily want to put in more effort unless they feel more effort coming from you.
36:48It was mentioned that they couldn't tell, like, who you are or what you wanted.
36:54You move at a slower pace.
36:56And that's kind of how I felt about it.
36:59Um, I felt like we had great conversations.
37:02We were getting closer.
37:05It's not like I'm intentionally trying not to talk to people.
37:08I'm genuinely trying to get to know so many people in a short amount of time.
37:12It's giving a friend vibe.
37:15So, with that being said,
37:17the ladies in the lounge today, we had a talk.
37:20And today, in the lounge, we came to the conclusion that
37:25this is really hard for me.
37:28You are not ready to love.
37:34Okay, understood, understood.
37:36I'm not surprised at all.
37:37I think that their feedback was extremely accurate.
37:40I was just spent from, like, the emotional connection with so many women all at the same time.
37:45Moving forward, I'ma definitely, uh, change up the approach a little bit.
37:49Yeah, bring a little romance.
37:50It's been a once-in-a-lifetime experience that I would never trade for a million dollars.
37:56Like, well, I mean, you gave me a million. I would trade it for a million dollars.
38:00But, um, it was such a wonderful experience.
38:03I hope you find love.
38:05I hope so too, child.
38:09Um...
38:11We didn't get to see, like, who you were on the inside.
38:14And, you know, how you feel.
38:16So, it's really hard for me to say.
38:19But, um, the ladies have decided that...
38:25You are not ready to love.
38:33It's definitely unexpected.
38:35It's pretty hurtful.
38:36So, I became open. I became transparent.
38:39But, some of the women feel as if I'm not.
38:45I'm so kind of devastated a little bit because...
38:49Like, I was so happy that you were here.
38:51Mm-hmm.
38:52Is this what it feels like?
38:55Lost in the grave.
38:57I can't see clear in your eyes.
39:00Well, I mean, the journey...
39:02It did what it was supposed to do, right?
39:04It connected us.
39:06It allowed us to have some great conversations.
39:07It allowed us to get to know each other better.
39:11I'm sorry.
39:12Oh, it's okay. No, no.
39:13Don't ever apologize. It's okay.
39:15It's a part of the night.
39:19It's okay.
39:19I'm not doing this.
39:25Seeing Nicole become so emotional, it was heartbreaking.
39:30The expectations of spending more time with each other
39:33has just been ripped away.
39:35I'm so sorry.
39:37Don't apologize.
39:42It's okay.
39:43I think that my connection to him was the most emotional connection
39:47that I had here, but even in this moment,
39:51I have no idea if he is interested in me,
39:54and I don't want to spend another 15 years, like,
39:59wondering, like, if something could happen between us.
40:03So what do you want?
40:04I'm sorry. I got...
40:06I'm sorry. I'm putting...
40:07I hope this ain't a good new shirt.
40:10That's right.
40:10This is where my journey ends, and it's devastating,
40:14but I can take this as a learning lesson,
40:17continuing looking for love,
40:18and see how I move forward from this point.
40:32Next time on Ready to Love.
40:34This week, the women are meeting your exes.
40:37Oh, okay.
40:39You all right?
40:40I don't know how this feels for you,
40:42but I know how it feels for me.
40:43It's fine.
40:44Oh, at least one of us does.
40:46What attracted you to him?
40:48I feel like we by ourself all the time.
40:50He feels like he's gonna be my favorite person ever.
40:53You heard that? She said ever.
40:54I know. Forever, ever.
40:56I feel like I have strong connections,
40:59but not as strong as him.
41:01Oh, wow. I got a kiss.
41:03That was, like, eternal and, like, skyrocket for me.
41:06I hate every single time
41:07I see you talking to another girl.
41:08Ooh.
41:09I hate it.
41:10You do know we sitting here.
41:11You want that sexual connection.
41:13Oh, okay.
41:14That is very important to him.
41:16I'm not gonna sit up here
41:17and talk about my coochie with other people.
41:19You won't have to talk about your coochie, but...
41:21Is that cardiac freak or something?
41:22No, no, no, no, no.
41:23How did this happen?
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