00:00Alam niyo po ba na hindi biro ang masaktan?
00:03Uy, hugot ah!
00:05May mga pagkakataon talagang darating ang tindi ng heartbreak, rejection sa ating buhay
00:10na talagang nakaka-apekto po sa ating mental at emotional well-being.
00:15Kaya naman ngayong Feb, ibig ayaw natin hayaan na manatili kayong nasa dilim
00:19upang gabayan tayo kung paano nga ba bumangon, maghilom.
00:23At muling mahalin ang ating sarili, makakasama po natin muli
00:26si Dr. Catherine Taan, isang psychiatrist.
00:30Morning, Doc, at welcome back dito sa Rise and Shine, Pilipinas.
00:34Hello, good morning sa ating groupers ng Rise and Shine, Pilipinas.
00:39Hello!
00:40Parang pagkausap mo si Doc, parang gaganda na agad yung araw mo.
00:43Nakangiti agad sa iyo eh.
00:45Ayan, gusto natin gumanda yung araw ng mga broken-hearted niyo.
00:50So ito, pag-uusapan natin, yung pag-move on, Doc.
00:52O, Kath, marami sa atin yung nahihirapang tanggapin yung rejection o heartbreak.
00:58Ano po ba yung unang-unang dapat gawin ng isang tao kapag nararamdaman niya
01:04na parang may nadudurug ang kanyang puso, parang kumikirot mula sa pagkasawi o heartbreak?
01:11Oh, Odria, yung pinaka-importante sa ating mga kababayan na pinagdadaanan ay heartbreak.
01:21Kailangan maging honest tayo sa sarili natin na ito yung nararamdaman natin.
01:26So hindi naman kailangan mag-rush na completely healed na tayo, over na tayo sa rejection or sa heartbreak natin.
01:34So we have to be honest with ourselves na at this point in time, allow ourselves to feel ito yung emotions natin.
01:44Kasi appropriate naman na we would feel hurt because of yun, yung pinagdadaanan natin na rejection or heartbreak.
01:53Yes, normal lang po ba yun, Dok, na magkaroon po ng physical pain o yung pakiramdam na parang hindi ka makahinga kapag broken-hearted?
02:01Paano po ba natin maha-handle ng hindi tayo nababalisa or nag-worry?
02:06Kasi minsan parang to the point na parang feeling mo ina-atake ka na sa puso eh. Parang ganun yung sakit.
02:12Yes, Leslie, actually, it's very normal na makaranas tayo ng even physical manifestations ng heartbreak.
02:23Yung iba pa nga, ano eh, they can unfortunately die of a broken heart.
02:29That's to the extremes already naman.
02:32Pero definitely makakaranas tayo ng sadness, anxiety.
02:37So, very important din na, well, recognize, ito yung nararanasan natin.
02:43It's part of yung sa loss natin sa heartbreak.
02:47And then, kailangan din na we have to take care of ourselves.
02:51Perhaps, ano, breathing exercises, grounding techniques.
02:56And then, yun nga, reminding ourselves mentally, emotionally, that, ano, we have to be kind and understanding even to ourselves.
03:08Well, doktora, madalas kapag na-reject, ang unang nasisira ay yung self-esteem ng tao.
03:14Oo, bababa talaga.
03:15So, paano po natin may hiwalay yung value natin bilang tao mula sa rejection?
03:24Well, Audrey, ano ha, we have to remind ourselves then, lahat tayo,
03:29itong rejection, it's an experience, hindi siya definition.
03:32So, hindi yung, ano, yung rejection ay yung pinaka-meaning sa mga sarili natin.
03:41Or, magbibigay ng halaga sa sarili natin.
03:45So, we know this is a point in time sa life natin.
03:49So, aside from being kind to yourself, pero also remind yourself na at some point in time naman,
03:58we would allow to heal and to move forward.
04:01So, this is a temporary matter that is happening right now for this particular individual.
04:08Ayun, ako sa palahon po ngayon kasi, mas mahirap nang mag-move on because of social media.
04:14Paano niyo po ba, ano, alam mo yun, paano niyo po ba yung mag-unfollow, block?
04:19Oo, mag-stalker ka na lang.
04:20Hai!
04:21Wag!
04:22Oo, para masabilis ang pag-hilang o mas lalo maging masakit ito.
04:26Kasi, personally ako, pag ganyan, kunyari, bin-block ko talaga agad.
04:30Tapos, wala nang unblock-unblock yun.
04:32Kailangan talaga, tapos iisipin ko na agad lahat ng pangit sa kanya para hindi ko na siya maisip.
04:39Yes, totally, Leslie.
04:42Okay na okay na pagka-recognize natin na nakaka-trigger or nakaka-affect yung social media na sa atin.
04:50Yes, we can put a distance naman sa pag-use ng social media natin.
04:56Pero isale din natin yung meaningful coping, katulad ng reaching out to friends, perhaps investing in yourself, like exercising or taking care of yourself.
05:13So, yes, nakakatulong pag nakaka-identify tayo ng mga triggers natin lalo na sa social media.
05:20For now, it's okay to set some boundaries.
05:24Ito ah, Doc, importante yung tanong to.
05:27Maraming dumadaan sa rebound o yung revenge, yung pag-ihiganti-ira pagkatapos ng breakup.
05:33Nako.
05:34Ano po ba yung healthy coping mechanisms na may papayo nyo para hindi tayo mauwi sa unhealthy habits?
05:40Kasi may mga narinig na akong storyan ito eh.
05:43Kapag broken-hearted, naghiganti, gumagamit ng ibang tao.
05:46Oo, nasasaktan pa yung ibang tao.
05:48Oo.
05:49Oo.
05:50Yeah.
05:51Papa-aawa, no?
05:52Yung nagdamay pa yung ibang tao.
05:54Pero, yes, Audrey, na, ano, kailangan din na recognize natin paano tayo mag-move forward at mag-heal.
06:05So, like for everyone else, ayaw natin magdamay ng ibang tao.
06:10So, ano, dapat, ano, we would like to have meaningful relationships naman, pero more of friends.
06:20Somebody na we can talk to, to express ourselves.
06:23So, the idea is, yung coping natin is more of to understand ano yung pinagdadaanan natin rather than a distraction.
06:32So, reach out to friends whom you can talk to.
06:36Perhaps there are things that you would like to manage when it comes to yung mga physical symptoms natin.
06:43Be kind to yourself.
06:45Take care of yourself physically and mentally.
06:47So, pwede tayo dumaan sa mga meditation, mga regular exercise, be mindful with your, ano, mga food choices natin.
06:56So, all in all, ano, ah, the summary of it is understand yourself, be kind to yourself, respect yourself.
07:07Ayun.
07:08Ayun.
07:08Number one, respect talaga.
07:09Iiyak mo kung kailangan niiyak.
07:11Yes.
07:11Nang mauubos din yan.
07:13I'm telling you, lalo na sa mga kabataan, ano, mga brokenhearted, iiyak nyo yan, mauubos din yan.
07:17Hopefully, everything will be alright.
07:18Tatawanan nyo na lang yan balang araw.
07:20Correct.
07:22Pag ano, pag binalikan mo, ay, nakakatawa.
07:24Iniyakan ko talaga ito.
07:26Parang gano'n lang.
07:27Di ba, maraming salamat po, Dr. Catherine Tanz, pagpabahagi mo ng kaalaman sa aming programa.
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