00:00So apart from things like taking a social media break and taking a vacation, what are other ways that we can do to safely tend to our mental health and wellness?
00:10Yeah, that's a really good question. I think one huge thing is boundaries, setting boundaries, because if you're saying no to saying yes to other people, you're saying no to yourself.
00:21And when you do that, what are you what are you losing? Right. You're adding other things onto your plate or you're taking on the stress of someone else or you're carrying baggage that's not yours to carry.
00:35Right. Because I'm trying to help my friend or I'm trying to do this. Oh, she asked me to go to this event.
00:39I really don't want to go, but I'm going to just go. OK, I do need to do this homework or she asked me to do this.
00:47And you just keep taking, taking on, taking on. And you are saying no to yourself when you do that.
00:51So I think that's one that's super, super important is when you take a break, you have to look at those.
00:56Like, how am I setting boundaries and how am I enforcing those boundaries?
01:00And I know it's really, really hard, especially for people who are people pleasers to say no.
01:06But you have to start small. Look, she said not me. I feel like you're yelling at me when you said people pleasers.
01:11But you have to start small, even though it's the smallest thing of saying no, but understanding, not worrying about what the other person think.
01:20But how did that make you feel and what did that give you time to do?
01:24Did that give you time back to, like you say, go for a walk?
01:27Because if I was helping my friend, I wouldn't be able to take this walk or maybe I wouldn't be able to journal or maybe I wouldn't be able to take a bubble bath or go get my nails done or whatever that is that you need to do for yourself.
01:39Because you said no to you and you said yes to someone else.
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