00:00It's really difficult, you know, where we are in our careers to meet a nice guy.
00:05We got tired of kissing frogs and they don't turn into prints.
00:16I'm excited to talk with you guys. Congratulations on the new series.
00:20I wanted to chat with you first and foremost. I know you all have been on reality TV in the past,
00:24but the focus has been on like family, on your careers, on your friendships.
00:28I wanted to ask you, what made you interested in doing a series that's centered more so now on your dating life?
00:35Well, we got tired of kissing frogs and they don't turn into prints.
00:42And also, you know, it's really difficult, you know, where we are in our careers to meet a nice guy.
00:49You know, like where are we going to meet them at?
00:51You know, because I felt like, you know, that was a part of my problem.
00:55Like I just wasn't meeting anybody.
00:58And I think that when this opportunity presented itself, when I knew that Will Packer was involved
01:05and Holly Robertson Pete and Rodney Pete was involved, I felt like they were going to vet some distinguished gentlemen
01:11and people who are supposed to be, you know, in our lives and who are sensitive to the fact that we're single mothers
01:18and that we have boys and that we really, truly want to meet the right person.
01:24And we were tired of meeting scallywags and wanksters.
01:28It's about that time.
01:29It was time.
01:30It was time.
01:30It was time to meet a gentleman.
01:32Yes.
01:33Right on.
01:34Okay.
01:34It's funny you guys say that because I was wondering if you were nervous at all about having to worry if the men would be disingenuine or not.
01:41Yes.
01:42Yes.
01:42And listen, we did find out that.
01:44Still worried.
01:45Yes.
01:48What?
01:49We did.
01:49Yeah.
01:50We did find out along the way, you know, as you get to talking to these guys, you, you know, you, you find out a lot of things.
01:56We share stories.
01:57We find out that they were on other shows and they're trying to promote this.
02:00So meanwhile, for us, it was a little hurtful because we all came with an open mind, open heart.
02:06We're like, we want to do this.
02:07We have everything else figured out, but we don't have this love thing figured out.
02:11So why not do this?
02:13And yeah, some of the guys were not there for the right reasons.
02:16Some of them were.
02:18And, you know, you guys will see for yourselves who were the ones that were there.
02:22And why.
02:23And why.
02:24And why they were out of elimination.
02:26Okay.
02:27And you mentioned earlier, you know, being single mothers.
02:29I was wondering, how does your, is your dating life impacted by, you know, the responsibility that you have as a mother and focus that you put on your children and who you want them to be exposed to?
02:41Well, mine started off a little rocky.
02:43I very much, um, when my kids were younger, I've had quite a few relationships in their face, like, but not necessarily for in their lives.
02:55I was like this for me, this for mama.
02:57And, um, and one particular relationship was the only other man outside of their fathers that were hands on in their lives.
03:04And, um, that lasted for some years.
03:06So this time around, even though, of course, you're going to have to be able to fit into my family and my children are my world.
03:13I have four.
03:14And if that doesn't match, then we want, we can't match.
03:17However, I will say, I kind of like reverted back to, I need this to work for me first.
03:25Then we can bring that into my kids' lives.
03:29Whereas first, they would, they would experience this as I'm experiencing it.
03:33And that wasn't necessarily the most safest or healthiest position to be in.
03:38So I've learned that lesson.
03:40Yeah.
03:40I definitely think it should take at least six or seven months.
03:43Six, seven months?
03:43You know, I feel like you don't really know somebody until at least that time.
03:50That's true.
03:50You know, most people are not themselves in the beginning.
03:53Especially how we met these guys.
03:56You know, they're putting their best foot forward, right?
03:58So it's like, who are you outside of these cameras?
04:01For real.
04:02You know, that's the person that I want to know.
04:05And are you going to get there?
04:06We don't know.
04:08And I did also want to ask, because you mentioned it, you weren't meeting guys necessarily.
04:13So outside of the show, like, how does a person approach you?
04:16Can they, like, what kind of man can approach you?
04:19Like, what's the best way?
04:21If you're serious about your business, you feel like you're serious about your business,
04:24what's the best way to kind of come at you ladies?
04:26If you're interested, because you are established, you are, you know, you're not everyday folks.
04:31So what's the best way to kind of come at you guys?
04:33I don't know.
04:34I feel like, for me, just be yourself.
04:35First of all, unless you're on a baseball field or, like, I don't know where I'm meeting this person.
04:40You know, outside from this dating show, I'm usually, you know, at home with my kids.
04:45I'm on mommy mode a lot.
04:46So, you know, unless you're, like, one of the coaches coaching the team, you know, I don't know.
04:51But I don't peep the few of them out.
04:53But yeah, so it's like, you know,
04:55I just feel like just be yourself.
04:57You know, some of the guys on the show were, they were trying so hard to say,
05:00oh, I can do this for you.
05:02I can, you know, I own this.
05:04We don't give a f***.
05:05Like, we've seen it all.
05:06You know, we've been on private jets.
05:08We've seen it all.
05:09We've got families.
05:10We, all of that.
05:11Like, we just want you to be a good person.
05:14And we want you to be an amazing, you know, stepfather to my kids.
05:18So, yeah.
05:20So, I don't know.
05:21I don't know where to be comfortable, you know.
05:23Be confident.
05:24Yeah.
05:25I like confidence.
05:26And I like a little aggression.
05:28We know you do.
05:30Like, walk up on me.
05:32You know, like, show that you're not afraid.
05:35Like, I deal with a lot of intimidation.
05:36And I'm a bold female.
05:38Like, I'll approach you normally.
05:39I'm just saying, hey.
05:41You know.
05:42So, I want that.
05:43I would want a man to be that way to me.
05:45Yeah.
05:46That's a check.
05:47Got you.
05:48Okay, nice.
05:48And what have you guys learned from, I know, Evelyn, you said in the trailer, like, you've
05:52been in public.
05:52You all have been in public relationships.
05:54What have you learned from relationships in your past that informs what you don't want
05:58moving forward?
06:00For me, it is do not ignore the red flag.
06:04You know, sometimes you make excuses.
06:06I was in a 10-year relationship.
06:07And I will tell you, what I knew after 10 years.
06:10I knew it, too.
06:11Yeah.
06:11You know, when I was, you know, the end of my marriage, after that whole incident in
06:17the bottle, I knew that two incidences prior.
06:19Yeah.
06:20You know, but you make excuses and you try to, you know, fix the relationship.
06:24And you want it to work so bad.
06:26Now, for me, it's like my relationships are always public.
06:29So, you know, you don't want to look like you failed again.
06:31And most of the time, I don't know about y'all, but you get the blame.
06:35You know, well, what did you do?
06:36You know, I got the blame.
06:37What's wrong with you?
06:38You 40 years old.
06:39You know, what's wrong with you?
06:41That is the stigma.
06:43So, you know, it's been, you know, it's been really difficult.
06:47You know, but for me, it's just don't ignore the red flags.
06:50And if you feel something funny, you need to listen to that inner voice that you have
06:54because that is real.
06:56And I think I've always made excuses, but, you know, I'm older and I'm wiser.
07:00Thank God.
07:01What about you, Timor?
07:02I think for me is that I will hold off as long as I can to become public.
07:10I think that once you become public, then the relationship is ready for all the stigmas,
07:16all the conversations, all of unsolicited advice that you're going to get, you know, in the relationship.
07:22You've got to have time to have your relationship be built on something.
07:28It has to be on solid ground before you introduce them to the public.
07:32Which, this makes it scary for us because you guys, you'll see if we chose somebody if we didn't.
07:39Then your relationship, if you chose somebody, your relationship is scrutinized.
07:44Listen, I, like you said, I want my stuff as private as possible, but, you know, it is what it is.
07:51It is what it is.
07:52You know, there's so much privacy we can see.
07:54We've already made our bed.
07:56Well, you know, for me, I just find like where I am in this big age is that I don't owe anybody any explanation.
08:03I don't owe you the right to a blueprint to my relationship and what's going on every day, any day.
08:11So, you know, I mean, I, if I don't have a problem with, you know, the world knowing who I'm dating or who I'm married to or what I'm doing,
08:17but not, you're not going to get the details about what's happening in my household because it's just simply not your business.
08:23Right.
08:23Right.
08:24Got you.
08:24Nibia, how about you?
08:25I'll wrap up with you.
08:26Oh, the list is too long.
08:29The list is tremendous.
08:30Because I know a lot of what I don't want.
08:33I think this was more so about me identifying and wheeling into my life what I do want.
08:41So, I don't know.
08:42I just learned so much from these men and these two beautiful ladies right here.
08:47I'm still taking in, even though this was with family a few months ago, I'm still taking in the process and the lessons and applying them.
08:55So, the list is long, child.
08:57But I know what I don't want.
08:59I do know what I don't want.
09:00Right.
09:01Yeah.
09:01Long live.
09:02Look.
09:03I love that.
09:04Well, ladies, I've been told I got to go.
09:06So, this has been lovely.
09:07And I'm really excited to check out the series.
09:10Yeah, we are.
09:11Good luck to meet you.
09:12Bye.
09:13I'll be here.
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