00:00One of the things I love most in this book is you talk about you cannot hit a moving
00:11target and you quote yourself in your book because it's so good.
00:16In the book you identify the four categories where we can be clear about generating abundance.
00:21So can you highlight those four areas so we can hit that target?
00:25Absolutely.
00:26So first you cannot hit a moving goal ambiguous goals create ambiguous results.
00:32So when you say someday or one day you can't circle either one of those days on the calendar.
00:38So you might as well say and my wishful thinking says because that's not a real goal goals are
00:43clear and concise they're powerful and goals have accountability attached to them.
00:50So one of the biggest distinctions between an abundant thinker and an average thinker and
00:55in the book I really point out how abundant thinkers think differently because that was
00:59a big thing I had to learn is how do abundant thinkers think differently because I started
01:03studying abundant thinkers and oh by the way they didn't look anything like me.
01:07They scared me initially.
01:09We didn't hang out in the same places we didn't dance the same way we didn't have but I was
01:14willing to make myself mildly to moderately to significantly uncomfortable for my own breakthrough.
01:21See a lot of people want to stay comfortable while they have a breakthrough.
01:25And you heard me say at a recent book signing that your conviction and your convenience don't
01:33live on the same block.
01:34As a matter of fact they don't live in the same zip code that you want to have a conviction
01:38and a passion and a goal but you're still trying to stay convenient.
01:42No, you got to be willing to be made mildly to moderately to significantly uncomfortable
01:47for that thing that you say you want and that comes with being held accountable.
01:52So when I look at the areas of what matters, what makes a difference, I describe them in
01:59the book as engagement, work engagement, so looking at your work, enchantment, having relationship
02:07enchantment, enrichment, the enrichment is your spirituality and yourself and your health
02:14and having endowment.
02:15You know, we don't talk about endowments in our culture as African American women.
02:19Our endowments are the relationship with family, the ability to make a great sweet potato pie
02:26and that's very important.
02:27My grandmother's traditions keep my family together.
02:31We don't live in an either or world, we live in an and, God is a God of abundance, truly
02:36abundance and we get to leave a financial endowment as well.
02:40So there are some times where it is about the money and that's okay and not making a conversation
02:46about money dirty the conversation about spirituality or dirty the conversation about service because
02:52I love the fact that I have the wealth to give more, serve more, love more.
02:58You know, yesterday I created a URL called joinlisafree.com, keyword, free, joinlisafree.com.
03:10If anyone's ever followed me, I'm okay with the fact that I charge a fee to come to my trainings
03:14because I'm going to exceed whatever you pay, but I'm excited that in my abundance, in my
03:20prosperity, you can go to joinlisafree.com and joinlisafree.com.
03:24That's because I was fiscally responsible over here.
03:28That allows me to bless more over here.
03:32So when I look at the quadrants of your life, there are four key quadrants and abundance,
03:39360 abundance is mining all four quadrants.
03:43And the way it looks, in the book it breaks it down a little more, but the way it looks
03:47is relationships.
03:49Relationships are the first.
03:51So can I spend a little time on relationships?
03:52We would love that.
03:54Relationships are the thing you measure the quality of your life around.
03:58You measure the quality of your life around the quality of your relationships.
04:02You don't know it.
04:03You don't do it consciously.
04:04But the two areas that we talk most about are relationships and money.
04:08And as women, we'll throw in health and weight, but we don't really spend a lot of time there.
04:11We just say, girl, I'm over it.
04:14Laurie, I need to do something about it, right?
04:15But relationships is what we can spend hours on.
04:19And finances is what we spend hours in our mind about.
04:24We spend our time dreaming about or worrying about.
04:28And so relationships are the thing that we can uplevel them.
04:34We can enhance them.
04:35We can heal them.
04:37We can generate more.
04:39Like so many areas in relationships that matter to the quality of your life.
04:44But the first relationship is the relationship with self.
04:48How are you relating to you?
04:51How are you loving on you, honoring you, celebrating you?
04:55And then how do you transfer that to your sister friend?
04:58So in relationships, it's owning your yeses.
05:02Say yes to more.
05:03Say yes to love.
05:04Say yes to friendship.
05:05And also owning your no.
05:08My grandmother says no is a complete sentence.
05:12It requires no explanation.
05:14And when you own your no, the value of your yes becomes more powerful.
05:19And then also it's the ability to set clear lines.
05:23People talk about someone always crossing your boundaries.
05:26I say if someone's crossing your boundary or crossing your line,
05:29it's because your line isn't clear enough in the sand.
05:31And you've heard me say that before.
05:33So relationships are about navigating through the terrain of a relay.
05:38Relationship is a relay between two people that creates an experience that we either love,
05:44we need to give some more attention to, or we need to complete this relationship.
05:48And knowing where you are in that.
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