00:00you've known him and you're gonna be coming up on 20 years together yes and
00:08I'm I'm in my zone of 20 years with my husband Wow so from me to you
00:14congratulations you however however comma pause no no no no no no how how I
00:22mean it's communication it's respect how do you keep it how do you keep the
00:27romance I mean any tips on that well you know for me what I've learned that
00:31makes a happy union you know what I'm saying is you really have to find your
00:41happiness individually hmm you can't expect your partner to make you happy
00:47yes and that that's across the board like you can't expect your partner to make
00:53you feel beautiful make you feel intelligent like all these expectations
00:58right we have in these partnerships I think is what's deteriorating our
01:03partnerships and what I've realized is that you know ultimately being married is
01:09the hardest thing you'll ever do and I realized that when I was willing to just
01:15go to the side and deal with my stuff all my childhood trauma all my daddy issues
01:22that I was trying to bring into this marriage because he's not my father he
01:26is not meant to do that work he is not meant to you know buoy me in a way that I
01:33can't for myself and he had to go and do the same and so when two people can come
01:39back together in their own happiness and just add to that happiness that's how you
01:45get to 20 years
Comments