00:00What have you learned from past relationships, period, that has helped you grow to where you are now?
00:07Because you seem really clear about what you're looking for, what you want, and where you want to go.
00:11And we like that. Ladies like that, right, ladies?
00:14We like that clarity.
00:15You said what I learned from past relationships.
00:16Past relationships, to get you this clear.
00:19I just realized that I still had boys that I was trying to fill, you know, and that I still had a lot more self-love work to do.
00:26And vice versa, you know, I felt like I realized that in my partner as well.
00:32And once I realized it, I started seeing it everywhere.
00:35You know, I just realized we expect so much from each other.
00:39And, you know, again, it's a cultural thing, you know.
00:42It's like this idea that, you know, somebody is going to either be able to feel those, like, your happiness depends on them.
00:52Or, like, you know, they can make you mad.
00:55Or it's a control thing or it's a projection where you have an idea of how they should be or you see this potential.
01:02It's just all these projections, all these things going on.
01:05And sometimes we ignore what's right in front of us.
01:08But at the end, what I realized is, like, it happens over time because, like, usually the best time in a relationship is those beginning moments.
01:15And then the more information you get about each other, the more you start to use that to create these, you know, like mental, you know, narratives.
01:23And you start projecting and, like, you know, it just gets bad.
01:27It's like it's just a ticking time.
01:28And it's like I wish it wasn't so cliche, but it's like, I mean, I feel like we all could relate.
01:33So it's like for me right now, I just realize, like, A, I'm not going to be in a relationship unless I'm really able to commit, you know.
01:41And before I'm able to commit, like, I have to show myself that I can commit to myself and really, like, get those and become the man that I want to be.
01:50You know, and when I say that, I mean on a discipline level, on a mental level, on a spiritual level, on a resource level.
01:57Like, if I have a kid and if I have a woman, like, I want to be able to take care of them.
02:02I want to be able to give them the space they need to, you know, to develop and unfold the way God, you know, intends.
02:07But that's important in this society.
02:10Like, no, you need space to figure it out.
02:12You know what I'm saying?
02:13When you got a bunch of going on, it's hard to, like, you know, deal with what's important, which is a part of the deception.
02:19It's a distraction, but, like, I think it's the same with love.
02:22Like, you need space to really, you know, be with each other, but sometimes you need space to not be with each other.
02:28And it's like, that's not normal, you know, in our constructs.
02:32So it's like, I'm just, I'm doing me right now because I'm like, I know, I know I want kids.
02:37I know I want a woman.
02:38I know I want property.
02:40I know I want to build a family.
02:41And I don't, I don't, there's no point of playing in between.
02:45Nah, like, there's things I need to do that I need to develop.
02:48And if I do those things, then I just, then I'll have my wife and I'll have my family.
02:52Like, period.
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