00:00What are some of the most common red flags you think women can look for with men?
00:07You know what?
00:08Contrary to popular belief, a lot of people think that if a guy is like overly sexual,
00:14hypersexual, that's a red flag.
00:16I think that's actually a blessing in disguise because he letting you know upfront what he's
00:20on and you can choose whether or not you're on that too.
00:22But a real red flag when it comes to like deceiving a woman is acting like you know
00:26what he's already emotionally pulled in upfront.
00:29He wants to be with you.
00:30He sees wifey in you.
00:32He's calling you boo and bae, his future queen.
00:35They call that love bombing.
00:37Love bombing?
00:38So essentially what he's trying to do is hook you.
00:40You know, he's trying to find that lovesick woman that was just waiting for that knight
00:44in shiny armor.
00:45She was just waiting for the guy to come and sweep off her feet.
00:47But what I always say this, your patience is going to be your lie detector test.
00:51So when he come with the chariot and the horse and the doves and Brian McKnight singing on the first date,
00:56it's like, alright bro, I appreciate that, but I'm going to let your patterns do the talking.
01:00Because what they're counting on is for you to get that relationship access upfront.
01:04So he can go on and get up out of there and move on to the next.
01:06So sometimes it really can be too good to be true.
01:09It's too good to be true if the patterns haven't spoken for him.
01:13Because we say, you know what, actions speak louder than words.
01:16But I'm like, it's not about what speaks the loudest.
01:18It's about what speaks the truth.
01:20So over time, can he hold that down?
01:22And if he can't, if you prove that he can't, then now you get out.
01:25And I think sometimes, you know, we know as women, in a lot of cases when we're in the dating game,
01:30we outnumber the brothers.
01:31So I feel like when a single woman encounters a dude who's like dying to be in a relationship
01:37and isn't already in one, that can be a red flag.
01:39It's like, wait a minute, why aren't you in a relationship?
01:42I think the antithesis to red flags is listening to your intuition.
01:46Yes.
01:47And the only way that you can listen to your intuition is if you have healed from whatever it is that you've been through.
01:52That's going to let you see things without the rose colored glasses.
01:55Because sometimes, you know, if you see them red flags, you know, he dripped in the later,
01:58them red flags look sexy as hell whenever you're still broken.
02:01But whenever you are listening to your intuition and he come with all that game off top,
02:05you're like, you know what, cool, I'm going to let you prove it over time.
02:08If you're really here for the long haul.
02:10Now, if you want some temporary stuff too, do your thing.
02:12Ain't nobody judging.
02:13Right, then it works for both parties.
02:14Both parties.
02:15And that's why I'm a big fan of just being upfront and honest on the guy's side.
02:18But if we're talking about the red flags that you got to look for,
02:20absolutely look for that guy who seems to be rushing it,
02:23even if he's rushing it emotionally, because guys will do that.
02:27What about a little feedback?
02:28See, because you're giving a good word.
02:30Hey, sound man, I must be stepping on some toes in the sound room.
02:32I know, I was like, uh-oh, that was personal.
02:34I know.
02:35Okay, so speaking of giving feedback.
02:36Okay.
02:37If a woman spots a red flag and she needs to tell the guy right away,
02:41you know, she needs to speak up.
02:42She needs to say, all right, I'm out.
02:44What's the right way to do that just to rip the band-aid, let's say?
02:48You know what?
02:49Not make it too personal.
02:50I'm not a big believer in the dating phase of trying to raise somebody
02:54and groom somebody and hold them to expectations.
02:57In the dating phase, I believe you let somebody do what they want to do
03:00so you can see what they would rather do.
03:02Right.
03:03If you repeat that y'all are not on the same page, not on the same vibe,
03:06it's like, hey, this isn't working out for me.
03:08I think I'm cool on this.
03:09I don't want to waste your time.
03:11Right.
03:12You know what I'm saying?
03:13I think that's something you're doing for them.
03:14And essentially you're doing it for both them and yourself.
03:16Right.
03:17I'm sure.
03:18You know.
03:19You know what I'm saying?
03:20You know.
03:21You know.
03:22I'm really going to take a break.
03:23You know.
03:24You're going to make a break.
03:25You're going to make it.
03:26You know.
03:27And you're going to have, you know, the other side of the inside.
03:29And then you're going to make the break.
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