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00:00:00Previously on Before the 90 Days.
00:00:03This one is for you, Aviva.
00:00:06The sex good, and the vibe good.
00:00:09Would I breathe, yo, yes I would.
00:00:12So you really like my guy, huh?
00:00:15You're aware of what happened to him in the past, right?
00:00:18Ex-girlfriend from Texas.
00:00:19She wanted to start a family with her, you know?
00:00:23Richie doesn't think you're fully over your ex.
00:00:26Richie was talking crazy.
00:00:28You really are like a one-woman type of guy.
00:00:30Yeah, I could do that.
00:00:33I'm not convinced he's telling me the truth.
00:00:35I haven't been using protection,
00:00:36and I don't want to start a family with a liar.
00:00:40Trust me, baby.
00:00:44Baby.
00:00:49I'm wearing a child.
00:00:50I'm still sick.
00:00:52Daniel and I literally just got engaged, and I'm worried.
00:00:55He's second-guessing everything,
00:00:58and he doesn't want me, and I feel rejected.
00:01:03My ex contacted me, is trying to get me back.
00:01:08And how did you respond?
00:01:10I didn't even respond, Rick.
00:01:12Look.
00:01:14I've been insecure about Trisha's ex-boyfriend,
00:01:17because I know he has a lot of money,
00:01:18and I'm not in a position of these 400 like that.
00:01:22Do you believe me now?
00:01:24I do believe that you're not talking to him anymore.
00:01:27I'm not, Rick.
00:01:28I'm not.
00:01:31Sheena just told me I need her parents' approval to marry her.
00:01:35So now I have to go and get their approval,
00:01:37while I have to tell them that their days are basically numbered
00:01:40with getting money away from their daughter.
00:01:42They have a lot of questions for you.
00:01:44First, it's your career.
00:01:46I'm going to have to tell my parents the truth about Forrest's financial situation.
00:01:51The pressure on my shoulders is quite hard, so I don't know what's going to happen.
00:01:58With my jobless situation and my debts, I am just broke.
00:02:08Did you say your debts?
00:02:10Yeah.
00:02:11How much is it?
00:02:1250K.
00:02:13That's a lot of f***ing money.
00:02:16I'm avoiding telling the entire story.
00:02:21I'm worried if she finds out how I make money sometimes, she could leave me.
00:02:46I'm worried if she finds out how I make money sometimes, she could leave me.
00:02:53That's so beautiful.
00:02:55No.
00:02:56Mm-hmm.
00:02:57Mm-hmm.
00:02:58Mm-hmm.
00:02:59Mm-hmm.
00:03:06You have the nicest ass I have ever seen.
00:03:13I'm blushing.
00:03:18And you know, I always thought your dimples were my favorite thing, but you know what
00:03:22my favorite thing is now?
00:03:24You're not going to...
00:03:27Your belly button.
00:03:29It really is.
00:03:31And it's an Audi.
00:03:32It's not an innie.
00:03:33It's so cute.
00:03:38I feel like I'm on a roller coaster already with Daniel, and it's not even 24 hours yet.
00:03:43I'm engaged.
00:03:45Day one, I'm freaking engaged.
00:03:47I didn't sleep last night.
00:03:49All I could do was stare at his face.
00:03:51He's everything I could have dreamed about, except he doesn't have food.
00:03:57We have to talk about last night.
00:04:02It was awful.
00:04:03Yeah.
00:04:06I was upset with you.
00:04:07Why?
00:04:10Because I expected more than what happened.
00:04:13Last night was uncomfortable, and it was strange.
00:04:23He didn't finish.
00:04:26And I don't think he was full on .
00:04:31And I had so much anticipation, I was very .
00:04:34So it was almost like we didn't have sex.
00:04:37Even though we had sex, it was almost like it wasn't there.
00:04:41So it just deflated me.
00:04:43I felt like, well, maybe I am too old.
00:04:45Maybe I am, you know, not the shape he wants me to be.
00:04:50I was really questioning myself.
00:04:57But it was really awkward for me, because it's been so long since I've been intimate like that.
00:05:03And then you didn't finish.
00:05:06And then it was .
00:05:11I don't know how to talk to you about this on the face.
00:05:16You know, when a man is stressed, he finds it difficult to perform well.
00:05:20So maybe that's what happened.
00:05:24From morning to night, preparing, getting ready to go and wake up on you.
00:05:30I was really tired after everything.
00:05:32It was a trial run.
00:05:33Yes.
00:05:34We have a test.
00:05:36It was a test run.
00:05:37A test at each.
00:05:38It was a test run, wasn't it?
00:05:39Yeah.
00:05:40I'm sorry for the first time.
00:05:43But I gave it to you this morning.
00:05:45You did.
00:05:46Yeah.
00:05:50But you want me to be honest?
00:05:52You're a little bigger than I expected.
00:05:55Really?
00:05:56Really?
00:05:57So it was a little, it was a little painful at first.
00:06:00Is that why you were screaming?
00:06:01At first, it was uncomfortable and painful.
00:06:07Okay.
00:06:08And then it was really sweet and gentle and enjoyable.
00:06:11And I seem to have stretched to fit you just perfectly.
00:06:14And I feel like, I feel like you're, you're made for me.
00:06:18I'm so happy.
00:06:19I'm so happy.
00:06:20I'm happy.
00:06:21I'm so happy.
00:06:26I'm so glad I'm here.
00:06:27And I love you so much.
00:06:29I love you more.
00:06:31And I'm so happy trying to be here.
00:06:35Now that Daniel and I have been physical and I'm engaged to him,
00:06:41I'm even more concerned how he's gonna handle what I have to tell him
00:06:45about being still married and it's a woman
00:06:48and that I've been with women for the past 21 years.
00:06:52I'm already 100% into this relationship physically and emotionally.
00:06:57And it's definitely gonna be harder for me to handle if he can't accept my past.
00:07:02Yeah, I want an Emilio.
00:07:04You keep saying things like that.
00:07:06We're never gonna get out of this bed and get showered.
00:07:10Mmm.
00:07:27Let's go ride on a trike.
00:07:39Oh my goodness.
00:07:41Oh God.
00:07:43Lord.
00:07:44Give me strength.
00:07:46This is worse than the bus.
00:07:49She and I getting into this tricycle is like what a sardine feels like being inside of a can.
00:07:55I would never do this with anybody else but you, Sheen.
00:08:00That's pretty great.
00:08:01I get to, you know, get up nice and close.
00:08:03But she's also crushing me to death.
00:08:06I love those.
00:08:07Woohoo!
00:08:08Oh!
00:08:10I wish they'd give us a nice, you know, extra wide for my American physique.
00:08:15I'm afraid I'm gonna fall off and I don't want two broken legs.
00:08:26Today I'm going to meet Sheena's family for the first time in a province called Covide.
00:08:32So we're almost there though.
00:08:34We'll just have to get along.
00:08:35I'm so nervous, baby.
00:08:37Oh man.
00:08:39Ever since I met Sheena seven years ago, her family has been like these ominous figures.
00:08:45She's told me that they manipulate and exploit her financially.
00:08:48I've always pictured this meeting as me putting my foot down and letting them know that Sheena is going to completely cut them off financially.
00:09:04But now it's turned into something completely and totally different than what I envisioned.
00:09:08You didn't tell me that there was going to be a mountain, treacherous hill to climb.
00:09:14No.
00:09:15Oh man.
00:09:17First she told me that I need her parents' approval to marry her.
00:09:21And then she said that they're going to ask me about my career and how I make money.
00:09:26But the truth is I don't have a job. I don't have a lot of money.
00:09:29I'm just this loser who's on disability.
00:09:33Baby, we can do this.
00:09:35Just be careful, babe.
00:09:36So at this point, I'm concerned that I won't be able to get the blessing for Sheena's family that I apparently need.
00:09:46Oh my gosh, is that them?
00:09:48Yes, my love.
00:09:50Oh my goodness.
00:09:59You must be Forrest.
00:10:00Forrest?
00:10:01Yeah, Forrest.
00:10:02Yeah, my dad.
00:10:03Wow.
00:10:04All right.
00:10:07Hello, sir.
00:10:08Nice to meet you.
00:10:09It's finally nice to meet you after so long.
00:10:11Nice to meet you too.
00:10:12Hello.
00:10:13Hello.
00:10:15Oh, this is my dad.
00:10:16This is my dad.
00:10:17This is my dad.
00:10:18He said it's Katrina.
00:10:19So...
00:10:21Yep.
00:10:22She's just a little bit shy.
00:10:23This is my dad's version though.
00:10:26It's okay.
00:10:27I'm a little shy myself here.
00:10:28Yes.
00:10:29I hope you enjoy your stay here.
00:10:32No, I'm so happy that you're allowing me to stay here and I'm finally getting to meet you.
00:10:41Oh man.
00:10:42Oh.
00:10:44Sheena told me that her mom is sick so I won't be meeting her, but her dad and sister seem nice enough.
00:10:50A bit quiet, which I guess is kind of normal, but it's not what I was expecting.
00:10:54You want to take a break from traveling?
00:10:55Yeah, sure.
00:10:56Yeah.
00:10:57To do that, can you show them?
00:10:58Yeah.
00:10:59Follow me.
00:11:00Want to check the gardens?
00:11:01Yeah.
00:11:02Yeah.
00:11:03So this is a place.
00:11:04Yeah.
00:11:05There's small improvements over the years.
00:11:07Wow.
00:11:08Yeah.
00:11:09Yeah.
00:11:10Yeah.
00:11:11This is for the place where we have our...
00:11:14Uh...
00:11:15Wow.
00:11:16Yeah.
00:11:17Yeah.
00:11:18Yeah.
00:11:19This is for the place where we have our...
00:11:22uh...
00:11:24group meals...
00:11:25uh...
00:11:26for guests.
00:11:27Boy.
00:11:28Okay, cool.
00:11:31Sheena told me that her family runs a bed and breakfast out of their family home.
00:11:35And I've heard over and over again that they need the money to fix this roof.
00:11:39Oh, they need the money to do this.
00:11:40Oh, they need money to do this.
00:11:41That's why they're stealing all this money from me.
00:11:43But it turns out that this is a nice, fancy place.
00:11:47Okay.
00:11:48Welcome to our house.
00:11:50Oh, wow.
00:11:51You think you're gonna be on the second master's bedroom?
00:11:54This place is huge.
00:11:56Wow.
00:12:00So, Gary was under the impression that her family might be desolute, or they are gonna starve
00:12:06without her.
00:12:08It doesn't add up.
00:12:12Hey, come on, come on.
00:12:13Thank you very much.
00:12:14And we'll have dinner.
00:12:15Yeah.
00:12:16Yeah, all right.
00:12:17Enjoy and relax.
00:12:18Yeah, all right.
00:12:20Thank you, guys.
00:12:27My mind's just confused.
00:12:28I don't understand.
00:12:29So, you like the place?
00:12:32Yeah.
00:12:33It was way worth the getting crushed in the bus.
00:12:36Yeah.
00:12:38Your dad seems like a really awesome guy.
00:12:43Yeah.
00:12:44They're great people.
00:12:46Okay.
00:12:47Well, I think I wanna clean up my face real quick.
00:12:49Yeah, sure.
00:12:50Take your time.
00:12:51I'm gonna head in the bathroom real quick.
00:12:52Yeah, go quick.
00:12:53Go real quick.
00:12:56Do you think Forrest was expecting something different from what he's seeing at your family's
00:13:01house?
00:13:02Mm-hmm.
00:13:03Yes.
00:13:05Which is probably my fault.
00:13:07Test for the water if it's good.
00:13:09Wash your face around.
00:13:10Wash your hands.
00:13:11Yeah.
00:13:12Yeah.
00:13:13I'm worried about what is going to be said.
00:13:22What Forrest could say.
00:13:24What my family could say.
00:13:27I'm worried that everything could fall apart.
00:13:29Do you think I'm gonna marry you for your money?
00:13:41That's what everybody else thought.
00:13:45I thought he was the man who's going to honor the provide and protect that he sold me on in the beginning.
00:13:52And now I don't know.
00:13:54The debt is a big deal.
00:13:57You excited about my show tonight?
00:14:00Yeah, I am.
00:14:01What songs are you singing at your show?
00:14:03Marriott, Vicky.
00:14:08So who is Vicky?
00:14:10Who is Vicky?
00:14:26You look at that.
00:14:27You can't tell me that's not beautiful.
00:14:29We have like the second most active barrier in the world.
00:14:31Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:14:32I'm so grateful that I live here.
00:14:34It's so pretty.
00:14:35Do you want to jump in?
00:14:36Okay.
00:14:37Come on.
00:14:38Now you know I can't swim.
00:14:39Don't play with me.
00:14:40You know what you need?
00:14:41Hmm.
00:14:42Right?
00:14:43Coconut water.
00:14:44Good for your brains.
00:14:45Good for your soul.
00:14:46That sounds good.
00:14:47What energy?
00:14:48This is Aviva's second full day in Belize and we're here in beautiful San Pedro because I'm going to perform tonight.
00:15:08Yesterday, Aviva was accusing me of not being over my ex from Texas, but in a hotel last night.
00:15:18I do believe that I was able to calm her down.
00:15:21I'm bored.
00:15:22Are you going to be so fine and want to trip?
00:15:24Huh?
00:15:25Stop stressing.
00:15:26I'll try.
00:15:35We had sex three times.
00:15:38No protection again.
00:15:39We're risking it all.
00:15:41We're just going with the flow.
00:15:44How was it?
00:15:45It's good.
00:15:46Mm-hmm. Refreshing.
00:15:47You had this in the States, in Arizona?
00:15:48No, not like this.
00:15:49Oh.
00:15:55You excited about my show tonight?
00:15:58Yeah, I am.
00:16:00What songs are you singing at your show?
00:16:03Marry your dad.
00:16:04Oh.
00:16:05Yo.
00:16:06TMTM.
00:16:09Vicky.
00:16:13I am trying to have this romantic beach moment with Stig, but he mentions the song, Vicky.
00:16:20And I can't help but think of when my Aunt Spring brought up that rumor to me.
00:16:26They actually just did a big concert, like, for Valentine's Day.
00:16:29The first song that was performed was Vicky, and she was at the concert.
00:16:36And they left together.
00:16:37So who is Vicky?
00:16:38The concept of Vicky is a girl I was messing with who had a man, and the man wasn't treating her good. She was married. And I was the little bartender showing her love. You know what I mean? On the side.
00:16:58So, is it someone you still talk to? Is it someone that you have a past with?
00:17:05No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:17:06I had a past with you.
00:17:08Last year is a good one.
00:17:10So, my Aunt Spring, she knows a lot of people here. I've heard a lot of rumors that Vicky went to your last show with you. And you left the show with her. And I just, I'm confused and I'm just hoping that you can clear some things up with me.
00:17:28Aviva's Aunt Spring. I never met her. I only heard about Aunt Spring, but apparently she knows me better than I know myself. She, the Secret Service?
00:17:43I don't, nothing to hide. At the concert I was there, with the bros, trying to make a good set. You know, trying to make sure the staff members...
00:17:55But did you go home with her? No, I did not. I didn't go home with any girl. You don't believe me?
00:18:03Apparently there was some article or you were tagged in something or she was tagged in something of you guys going home together. So, I'm not really sure how I'm supposed to believe you.
00:18:13Police isn't the fake news. Don't let get to your head.
00:18:17I'm definitely going to do my best to not be in my head about it, but you're apparently going to sing it tonight. How do I know she's not going to be there?
00:18:30That's one of my biggest songs in Belize. I can't not sing that.
00:18:33Yeah.
00:18:34You don't want me to sing the song? My biggest, one of my biggest songs?
00:18:38Yeah.
00:18:39Come on, don't do that.
00:18:45All of my exes, they start off saying, I'm not going to be jealous. I got you.
00:18:50But , I thought Aviva was going to be different.
00:18:54And now I am worried how she's going to react when I perform Vicky, when I do perform it.
00:19:01Tonight could the whole thing up. I don't want that.
00:19:07If tonight is a problem, that's going to throw me off. I don't, you know, I don't know if I can deal with that.
00:19:13That's not what I signed up for.
00:19:17I mean, I'll do my best, but I just would feel more comfortable if you didn't perform Vicky.
00:19:22That's all I can say.
00:19:24I had a lot of people before I came here say that you would only want to be with me because you would want a green card and money.
00:19:46And hearing that kind of makes it seem like that's true.
00:19:53Do you think, like, I'm going to marry you for your money?
00:20:08That's what everybody else thought.
00:20:11Did you think that?
00:20:12Well, I don't know right now. I'm literally just hearing about most of this for the first time.
00:20:19Birikhan just told me that he's 50K in debt and that he'd flee the country and flee his debt and just ignore it.
00:20:27I'm frustrated and incredibly concerned because it's making me feel like he's just straight up using me to get out of his debt.
00:20:36You know, that's not who I am, actually. If I was someone like that, I would have lied. I would have never told you about my debt. You know?
00:20:55I know that. But I want to make sure that I'm making a smart decision when it comes to future plans, like getting engaged.
00:21:05I just got to hustle because money is money, you know?
00:21:12You know what? I'm ready to go.
00:21:14OK, let's go. Let's go.
00:21:16What's going through your head right now?
00:21:35I'm pretty frustrated. He told me a lot of things at dinner that were concerning. The debt is a big deal to me because he's talked about nothing but like honesty and pride and respect. And it's really hard to respect someone that's not outright and straightforward with the truth.
00:21:54I thought he was the man who's going to honor the provide and protect that he sold me on in the beginning. And now I don't know. What are you doing?
00:22:09What are you doing?
00:22:11Washing the dishes.
00:22:18Why are you upset?
00:22:20I told you why. I'm frustrated that you let things go the way they did.
00:22:24Why are you mad?
00:22:26Don't be cute. That doesn't fix this.
00:22:30You think I'm cute?
00:22:32I'm not going to answer that right now.
00:22:34You got to ask.
00:22:35No.
00:22:36You got to ask.
00:22:37I do not have to answer that.
00:22:38You got to ask.
00:22:39You think that you can't stop.
00:22:40Why are you mad?
00:22:41You think a couple of kisses will win me over?
00:22:5315,000.
00:22:54Oh.
00:22:56I'm still feeling nervous about what his intentions are.
00:23:00But this is probably all of the fantasies I had had kind of rolled into one in that moment.
00:23:07Having a hot Turkish guy push you up against the wall and make out with you.
00:23:10I don't know what it is.
00:23:13I just can't resist him.
00:23:15You're adorable.
00:23:16I know.
00:23:17That's why you love me.
00:23:22We are here.
00:23:23Oh, baby.
00:23:24Hot outfit.
00:23:25Look, look.
00:23:27Limo.
00:23:28Maybe they should buy me some stuffing.
00:23:31This bougie chick.
00:23:33There ain't nobody sugared at him.
00:23:36I don't know why he act this way.
00:23:39It's like he assumes the worst.
00:23:42I'm already doing things for you.
00:23:44So why are you asking for more?
00:23:46Is that what you want me for?
00:23:48Let's get out of here.
00:23:49Baby, they didn't give me any questions this morning, so give me kids.
00:23:55Uh-uh.
00:23:56Watch out.
00:23:57Okay.
00:23:58Okay.
00:23:59You ready?
00:24:00Yeah, I'm ready.
00:24:01Okay, let's go.
00:24:02Mm-mm, I'm so good.
00:24:03You ready?
00:24:04Okay, let's go.
00:24:05Mmm.
00:24:06So good.
00:24:07You ready?
00:24:08Baby, they didn't give me any questions this morning, so you need kids.
00:24:15Watch out.
00:24:17Baby, I will go...
00:24:19Okay.
00:24:21You ready?
00:24:22Yeah, I'm ready.
00:24:24Okay, let's go.
00:24:31I'm so covered.
00:24:33Why?
00:24:35Because we were packing all night, that's why.
00:24:42Yesterday was tough, but after we had argument about my ex, we went back to the hotel and we did makeup, sex.
00:24:54It was really good.
00:24:56I love sex after argument.
00:24:59Oh, yeah.
00:25:01Woo-hoo!
00:25:05Excited!
00:25:06And it's in the plane!
00:25:08I know that we still have trust issues to work through, but today we are going to a romantic trip that Rick booked for us in Noosie Bay.
00:25:20First flight together, baby.
00:25:22Noosie Bay is a really beautiful island.
00:25:26They do have loomers and a beautiful beach.
00:25:32If you have someone to spend time together, romantic, go there.
00:25:41Okay, we finally get into the walking in Noosie Bay.
00:25:44Look how beautiful it is.
00:25:45I'm sorry.
00:25:46I'm sorry.
00:25:47Look at all things.
00:25:48Yeah.
00:25:49Look at all things.
00:25:50Yeah.
00:25:51Yeah!
00:25:52Yeah!
00:25:53Oh, my God.
00:25:54Yeah!
00:25:55Yeah.
00:25:56All things.
00:25:57Yeah!
00:26:00Yeah!
00:26:01Yeah!
00:26:02Yeah!
00:26:04Yeah!
00:26:05Yeah!
00:26:06Yeah!
00:26:08Yeah!
00:26:09Yeah, here.
00:26:11Oh, that is hot out here.
00:26:13Really hot.
00:26:14Woo!
00:26:19Woo!
00:26:20It's nice and cool.
00:26:21Woo!
00:26:22Finally.
00:26:26Don't touch me.
00:26:27I'm hot.
00:26:28Oh, my God.
00:26:29Baby, are you serious?
00:26:33Okay, I'm going to do you like that.
00:26:39Look, look.
00:26:43Maybe you should buy me some stuffing.
00:26:51And sauce.
00:26:52Here we go.
00:26:53We're going to see.
00:26:55I know you got an expensive taste.
00:27:00You're so cheap.
00:27:04Tastes good.
00:27:05It's cheap.
00:27:06Huh?
00:27:07This bougie chick.
00:27:11You serious?
00:27:13Yeah, I'm serious.
00:27:18There ain't nobody sugar daddy.
00:27:27Ever been, ever will be.
00:27:29I don't know why he called me like that.
00:27:30Like, you are boozy, agora Tricia.
00:27:31I'm not looking for a sugar daddy.
00:27:32And I'm not a sugar baby.
00:27:33I got my own money.
00:27:34I don't know why he act this way.
00:27:35I'm just asking for one thing.
00:27:36And it's like, he assumes the worst.
00:27:38It makes me really angry and hard.
00:27:39I will never ask him for anything.
00:27:43Look.
00:27:44Oh, it's a nice room.
00:27:45Look.
00:27:46Look.
00:27:47See what I set up for you?
00:27:48See what I set up for you?
00:27:50Oh, it's a nice room.
00:27:54See what I set up for you?
00:27:55I don't care.
00:27:56You don't care?
00:27:57Of course.
00:27:58Because the roses aren't made of gold, huh?
00:28:01So what?
00:28:02What?
00:28:03What?
00:28:04See what I set up for you?
00:28:06I don't care.
00:28:08Oh, you don't care?
00:28:10Of course.
00:28:11Because the roses aren't made of gold, huh?
00:28:18So what a lot is this?
00:28:30So what are we here to do, huh?
00:28:34I thought we were here to, you know, have a good time.
00:28:37Yeah, but your answer in the chorus seems like, I don't know.
00:28:42Well, what are you talking about?
00:28:44You were the one that brought up buying you things.
00:28:47Yeah, but I'm just asking for a little things.
00:28:50You just say, oh, you act like a bougie.
00:28:52Oh, you act like I'm not somebody's sugar daddy.
00:28:56Did I say that?
00:28:58You didn't say it, but you were acting like a sugar baby.
00:29:05I'm already doing things for you.
00:29:08Okay, yeah, you did pay my rent.
00:29:11So why are you asking for more?
00:29:14Is that what you want me for?
00:29:17It's not what I want you for.
00:29:19But I'm just asking for a little things.
00:29:21It's not that much.
00:29:22I'm going to get you what you need, but I'm not always going to get you what you want.
00:29:35So make it easy.
00:29:37Keep your money.
00:29:39See, this type of attitude, I could have found this in the States.
00:29:43I didn't have to come all the way to Madagascar to get this.
00:29:45So why did you come?
00:29:46Because I thought you were different.
00:29:48Hmm.
00:29:50So I thought also you were different.
00:29:54Hmm.
00:29:55What did you think I was, like your ex-boyfriend?
00:29:58Because that I'm not.
00:30:03I didn't expect something like this.
00:30:07I'm not with him because of money.
00:30:10I'm just with him for love, but I don't know why he think the opposite.
00:30:15It's crazy.
00:30:19I don't even.
00:30:24What were you expecting from me?
00:30:27You know what I do.
00:30:31So what were you expecting?
00:30:33I know it was not a rich, Rick.
00:30:36I know that well.
00:30:37I feel like this trip is not starting in the right foot.
00:30:49I mean, what happened to just loving me for me?
00:30:53That's what you were saying in the beginning.
00:30:56What happened to that?
00:30:57Oh, I don't know if I'm buying.
00:31:06I just want to look at them.
00:31:07Hello.
00:31:08Hi.
00:31:09Hi, chick, chick, chick, chick, chick, chick.
00:31:11I'm not going to kill a chicken.
00:31:12You don't kill a chicken?
00:31:14I had chickens.
00:31:15They were my pets.
00:31:16They had a little VCR and a TV to watch.
00:31:19Your chicken watch TV?
00:31:20Yes.
00:31:21Oh, my gosh.
00:31:25Sheena's family, they seem pretty laid back, normal, caring people.
00:31:31What were you expecting when you go here?
00:31:34Oh, this is going to be mind shattering here.
00:31:38Well, I was expecting that I might be walking into a scam.
00:31:44I'll open the door for them, okay?
00:32:00Okay.
00:32:05Oh.
00:32:07I'm getting used to you opening my door.
00:32:10You're such a gentleman.
00:32:12You treat me like a queen.
00:32:23So that is a taxi.
00:32:26Yeah, moolue.
00:32:27Moolue.
00:32:28Moolue.
00:32:29Moolue?
00:32:30Yes.
00:32:32And that means what?
00:32:34It's taxi.
00:32:35Oh.
00:32:36Is this where we're going?
00:32:42Yes.
00:32:43The market?
00:32:44I have always wanted to go to a market.
00:32:46I can't wait to get out and see everything.
00:32:48Yes.
00:32:52This is my first time out of the country.
00:32:55This is nothing like the farmer's markets that I have been to.
00:33:00No one thinks the same.
00:33:06Let's go from here.
00:33:08Okay.
00:33:09It kind of reminds me of a flea market, but a flea market with food.
00:33:14And it's little tiny stalls right on top of each other.
00:33:19You can buy anything and everything.
00:33:21There are live poultry.
00:33:23There is dried fish, smoked fish.
00:33:26Hello.
00:33:27There are women doing hair right there in the middle of the market.
00:33:31It looks so beautiful.
00:33:34Oh, I don't know if I'm buying.
00:33:37I just want to look at them.
00:33:38Oh, my goodness.
00:33:42Be careful.
00:33:43Like this.
00:33:45Hello.
00:33:46Hi.
00:33:46Hi, chick, chick, chick, chick, chick, chick.
00:33:49She handed me the chicken as if I was going to eat the chicken.
00:33:51I eat chicken.
00:33:53No, no, I'm not going to kill a chicken.
00:33:54You don't kill a chicken?
00:33:56I had chickens.
00:33:57They were my pets.
00:33:58My chickens were spoiled.
00:34:00They had a little VCR and a TV to watch.
00:34:03Your chicken watch TV?
00:34:04Yes.
00:34:06Really?
00:34:08Oh, my God.
00:34:12Bye, chicken.
00:34:15Okay.
00:34:15Let's go.
00:34:16Okay.
00:34:18I have to take you to the stars.
00:34:21I love fabric.
00:34:24Hello.
00:34:25Good afternoon.
00:34:25Good afternoon.
00:34:26They're beautiful.
00:34:27You're welcome.
00:34:29I would like you to check the one that will fit you.
00:34:32Because, you know, my uncle came yesterday to wake up with you.
00:34:34He was there.
00:34:35You saw him.
00:34:36My uncle.
00:34:39I hear you.
00:34:39I hear you.
00:34:40I hear you.
00:34:43Smur, we have to pay him a visit.
00:34:46Why?
00:34:47Yeah, because, you know, my uncle have to approve.
00:34:50You know, he doesn't know you that much.
00:34:53So he will ask you some questions.
00:34:54I'm confused.
00:34:58What has he not given us approval for?
00:35:00He was very happy at the engagement.
00:35:03Yes, but he has not given us the blessing to marry.
00:35:08The blessing we are getting from my uncle is very important.
00:35:12In my culture, you get blessing from your parents.
00:35:15But my dad is not well.
00:35:17So my uncle will have to call my father and report back.
00:35:20But I thought everything was said and done.
00:35:22I thought we were ready to start planning a wedding.
00:35:24I didn't realize there was going to be more to it.
00:35:26That is just a proposal.
00:35:28In America, you have to get blessings before you give the ring.
00:35:31This is Nigeria.
00:35:33I know.
00:35:33We have different cultures.
00:35:34We have different ways of life.
00:35:36But you didn't warn me about that.
00:35:38You have to see you dress in a traditional attire.
00:35:44Maybe one of the wrapper here.
00:35:48This one here.
00:35:49This one.
00:35:51You know, my uncle love her.
00:35:55He likes good things.
00:35:57And this is colorful.
00:35:58Yes.
00:35:58This is a hair tie.
00:36:00You have to tie this one on your head.
00:36:03Okay.
00:36:03Yes, on the head.
00:36:06I'm confused.
00:36:08Yes, I'm confused.
00:36:09Yes, I'm confused.
00:36:13Okay, so it gets wrapped around.
00:36:15Yeah.
00:36:18And then it gets tied.
00:36:19Yeah.
00:36:20Just giving you the clue on how to tie it.
00:36:24I can't hear you.
00:36:26It's very loud.
00:36:30Oh, my gosh.
00:36:31How am I going to do this?
00:36:33I have no clue how this wrapping thing works.
00:36:35I have to do this myself when I meet his uncle.
00:36:39And there's no way I'm going to remember how to do everything.
00:36:42Yeah.
00:36:43I don't want to look like a fool.
00:36:45I don't want to look stupid in front of his uncle.
00:36:48Very easy.
00:36:49Very easy.
00:36:51Yeah.
00:36:51It's nice.
00:36:52It looks so smooth.
00:36:57What should I expect?
00:36:59Like, how will this be wrapped?
00:37:02We have to cut it.
00:37:03Okay.
00:37:04Yeah.
00:37:04We have to give it to a tailor.
00:37:05Oh, yes.
00:37:07I can cut.
00:37:08But I don't know because we are a bit fat.
00:37:12The wrapper.
00:37:14If I cut it, it may not go round.
00:37:18Because I'm too fat.
00:37:19Yeah.
00:37:20Let me cut you.
00:37:21I'm coming.
00:37:22All right.
00:37:24I'm too fat.
00:37:26Baby, you're not fat.
00:37:28You're serious fat.
00:37:29Yeah.
00:37:29Yeah.
00:37:30You're fat.
00:37:30I'm feeling awful, and I'm kind of taken aback.
00:37:35I have to meet his uncle, and I have to wrap myself up in two layers of this wrap, this big
00:37:42headdress, and I'm going to look fat.
00:37:46Okay.
00:37:46Make your wrap, please.
00:37:51I have to try to impress his uncle, but what exactly happens to get his uncle's blessing?
00:37:58What kind of questions are going to be asked?
00:38:00I'm worried that I may have to reveal things that I'm not ready to reveal.
00:38:07This whole thing could be a disaster for me.
00:38:11So I'm scared.
00:38:15You're welcome.
00:38:19What is that?
00:38:22Nikki.
00:38:23I'm trying to be supportive, but he's dancing and flirting with some random girl on stage
00:38:32right in front of me.
00:38:33What the fuck is Aviva doing?
00:38:38See, I'm outside in San Pedro on the main street walking, holding hands.
00:38:57I have to let the whole world know about my baby.
00:39:01You can't question my love for you or anything at this point.
00:39:08How you feeling, we good?
00:39:13I'm nervous.
00:39:14Don't be overthinking, enjoy the show, enjoy the entertainment.
00:39:19Okay.
00:39:20I'm an entertainer, all right?
00:39:21All right.
00:39:22We good?
00:39:23Yes.
00:39:24All right.
00:39:26I'm a little frustrated with Aviva still for not wanting me to perform my hit song, but
00:39:31listen, I'm still gonna go and peace stick the artist and hype this place up.
00:39:35I don't want anything to throw me off my game.
00:39:38Ready?
00:39:39Semi-ready.
00:39:40Ready.
00:39:41I have to say it like me.
00:39:42No, you can't say ready.
00:39:43You can't say ready.
00:39:44Ready.
00:39:45Mmm.
00:39:46Come on.
00:39:47Yeah!
00:39:48That's good, brother.
00:39:49Trouble, man.
00:39:50Retire, mother .
00:39:51Bye.
00:39:52Aviva!
00:39:53Aviva!
00:39:54Aviva!
00:39:55Aviva!
00:39:56Aviva!
00:39:57Aviva!
00:39:58Aviva!
00:39:59Aviva!
00:40:01Aviva!
00:40:02Aviva!
00:40:03Aviva!
00:40:04Aviva!
00:40:05Aviva!
00:40:06Aviva!
00:40:07Aviva!
00:40:08Aviva!
00:40:09Aviva!
00:40:10Aviva!
00:40:11Aviva!
00:40:12Aviva!
00:40:13Aviva!
00:40:14Aviva!
00:40:15Aviva!
00:40:16Aviva!
00:40:17Aviva!
00:40:18Aviva!
00:40:19Aviva!
00:40:20Aviva!
00:40:21Aviva!
00:40:22Aviva!
00:40:23Aviva!
00:40:24Aviva!
00:40:25Aviva!
00:40:26Aviva!
00:40:27Aviva!
00:40:28Aviva!
00:40:29Aviva!
00:40:30Aviva!
00:40:31Aviva!
00:40:32Aviva!
00:40:33Aviva!
00:40:34Aviva!
00:40:35Aviva!
00:40:36Annino,
00:40:39Aviva!
00:40:41what to expect.
00:41:11Can I have your blessings?
00:41:13That would be amazing.
00:41:15I know you think that I'm a bad guy,
00:41:18and I'm gonna break her heart.
00:41:22What is that?
00:41:26Yeah, we're smoking, we're smoking,
00:41:28we're smoking, we're smoking, we're
00:41:31got some rum in my pool, got some hoes on a droop,
00:41:34them motherfucking players and me.
00:41:36Hey!
00:41:37Hey!
00:41:38Hey!
00:41:39I'm trying to enjoy myself, and I'm trying to be supportive,
00:41:51but he started playing Vicky after I asked him not to.
00:42:02Not only that, but he's dancing with some other random girl
00:42:06and flirting with her on stage right in front of me.
00:42:14It's just really hard to watch,
00:42:16and it's making me feel pretty insecure.
00:42:18Hey!
00:42:19Hey!
00:42:20Hey!
00:42:21Hey!
00:42:22Hey!
00:42:23You're too pretty, see ya?
00:42:27You're too pretty
00:42:28I mean, so you're too pretty for that.
00:42:31You're too pretty.
00:42:33You're really too pretty for that.
00:42:36You're too pretty.
00:42:39Watch out.
00:42:42You know that you're pretty.
00:42:44You're brown-skinned, but you're here, no P.K.
00:42:49What the is Aviva doing?
00:42:53I'm seeing a sea of people partying,
00:42:57having the time of their lives,
00:43:00and Aviva head down in her phone while I'm singing.
00:43:05This is not the behavior I want in my future wife,
00:43:08much less my girlfriend right now.
00:43:10Like, come on.
00:43:15Anyway, this is one of my favorite songs on the release.
00:43:18Yeah.
00:43:20You alone, you alone, you alone, you alone, yeah.
00:43:25They want to give you love till you come, baby, just you alone, yeah.
00:43:30Ooh, it feels all right.
00:43:33Do the things you're best.
00:43:36Aviva is still not paying attention.
00:43:39Oh, six for us.
00:43:41Yeah, yeah.
00:43:42One, two, three, four, five.
00:43:46I forgot.
00:43:47All of me because I forgot me.
00:43:50You're distracting me.
00:43:53I am so pissed.
00:43:55I can't even think straight right now.
00:43:57Make this round.
00:43:58Make this round.
00:43:59Make this fufu to be round.
00:44:00How am I supposed to dip it up if it's round?
00:44:01Are you asking me?
00:44:02This is a control thing with Daniel right now.
00:44:03Call it very well.
00:44:04No.
00:44:05No.
00:44:06Stop raising your voice on me.
00:44:07Call it again.
00:44:08He's pushing me really hard, and I'm getting angry.
00:44:10What the hell does Daniel want right now?
00:44:11Can you stand up and walk?
00:44:12Let me see.
00:44:13You want to see me walk?
00:44:14Yes.
00:44:15Are you walking now, ma'am?
00:44:16Watch me walk.
00:44:17Come back.
00:44:18Come back.
00:44:19Come back.
00:44:49I'm fuming right now, by the way.
00:44:58You're angry?
00:44:59I'm still frustrated and angry because she called me fat.
00:45:04Don't you know I got nothing to lose?
00:45:07I got something to prove, ah, ah, ah.
00:45:13No, no.
00:45:14You're not fat, baby.
00:45:15Come on.
00:45:17And I'm stressed.
00:45:19No, I need to smoke my vape.
00:45:21That's how stressed I am right now.
00:45:26Do you remember the promise you gave me?
00:45:28I said I wouldn't smoke.
00:45:31I tried to quit, and I couldn't.
00:45:33And I, ah, I am so frustrated with you.
00:45:38It's not funny.
00:45:41There are a few things Daniel expects of me.
00:45:44He wants my hair a certain way.
00:45:46He wants me to ask permission for things.
00:45:48I have to ask to have a drink of alcohol.
00:45:51He doesn't want me to vape.
00:45:54And I did tell Daniel I would slow down vaping.
00:45:57But I just found out I have to try to impress his uncle for the blessing.
00:46:01And I am feeling so much pressure of who I need to be for Daniel.
00:46:07So I'm stressing out.
00:46:09And I want my vape.
00:46:15You surprised me with the uncle thing.
00:46:18How am I going to learn how to tie a traditional attire?
00:46:22I'm going to look ridiculous.
00:46:23So I'm from Igbo land, so we have to learn.
00:46:28Igbo people, we have tradition.
00:46:31And if Lisa wants to marry me, she have to learn all this.
00:46:39Am I dressed okay for this?
00:46:40Yeah, I look good.
00:46:41I look good.
00:46:42Come on.
00:46:43It's very important for Lisa to learn my language and culture.
00:46:47To impress my uncle.
00:46:53That may be the one.
00:46:57Okay.
00:46:58We have to shake it.
00:47:00After shaking it, you have to drop it on the ground, okay?
00:47:03The ground must test it first.
00:47:06Then pick it up again.
00:47:08Mm-hmm.
00:47:14Can I drink it?
00:47:15Yes, you can test it, but it's very strong.
00:47:19Okay, so don't put too much in my glass.
00:47:23Oh.
00:47:31Yes, sir.
00:47:32It's cassava.
00:47:33Did you pound it?
00:47:34Did you pound it?
00:47:35It's pounding.
00:47:36Oh, okay, pounded one.
00:47:37Okay.
00:47:39Oh.
00:47:41You eat.
00:47:42Okay.
00:47:44You do know that I studied the fufu online.
00:47:46Good.
00:47:48I've done so much research about fufu.
00:47:50It is fermented cassava.
00:47:53I learned how to roll it.
00:47:54I learned you flatten it.
00:47:55I learned you dip it.
00:47:56So I'm prepared and I'm excited to show him I can do this.
00:48:00Throw it.
00:48:01Throw it.
00:48:02Throw it.
00:48:03Throw it.
00:48:04Throw it.
00:48:06Ew.
00:48:09Ew.
00:48:13Did I do it right?
00:48:15You didn't boil the fufu.
00:48:16You have to boil it.
00:48:17You just swallowed it.
00:48:18Boil it again.
00:48:22All right.
00:48:24Dip your hand.
00:48:28Make this round.
00:48:29Make this fufu to be round.
00:48:30How am I supposed to dip it up if it's round?
00:48:32Are you asking me?
00:48:33Yes.
00:48:41This is really good.
00:48:42This is oha soup.
00:48:44I could just eat that.
00:48:45Good.
00:48:46I need a spoon.
00:48:47Use your hand to eat fufu.
00:48:48I'm not going to eat soup with just...
00:48:49That's what the fufu is for.
00:48:50Dip your hand.
00:48:51Dip your hand inside the soup and take...
00:48:52Good.
00:48:53No, baby.
00:48:59I think Daniel is just trying to prove a point to me.
00:49:03But I didn't think he'd be so forceful about it.
00:49:06I am in the nursing field and I work in caregiving.
00:49:11I know what kind of germs get under your fingernails.
00:49:14It's one thing to eat with fufu.
00:49:17Do you?
00:49:18It's another thing to dip your fingers into the soup.
00:49:21Scoop it up.
00:49:22Suck your fingers and lick them dry.
00:49:24That's no.
00:49:25That's just nasty.
00:49:27I think he's being very rude.
00:49:33No.
00:49:35Can you taste it?
00:49:36Test.
00:49:40Go on.
00:49:41Go on.
00:49:42Test.
00:49:43Test.
00:49:46You have to respect this to me.
00:49:48I did.
00:49:49I tasted it.
00:49:55Do you know what we call it in our dialect?
00:49:57No.
00:49:59My uncle.
00:50:00My uncle.
00:50:01Eh?
00:50:02I can't say that.
00:50:03What does it mean?
00:50:04My uncle.
00:50:05My uncle.
00:50:06Oh.
00:50:07Call it very well.
00:50:08My uncle.
00:50:09No.
00:50:10No.
00:50:11You drink it.
00:50:12You respect it.
00:50:13No.
00:50:14Stop raising your voice on me.
00:50:17Call it again.
00:50:18Hey.
00:50:19Hey, don't talk to me that way.
00:50:21Eh?
00:50:22Relax.
00:50:24I'm done talking to you.
00:50:26I hope you're not drunk.
00:50:30What is that?
00:50:31I thought you're drunk.
00:50:32I took one sip.
00:50:33It doesn't matter.
00:50:34Just a drunk can make you change the system.
00:50:36No, I'm not.
00:50:37You're the one who's changing.
00:50:39Look at you.
00:50:40Put it down and talk nicely.
00:50:43This is a control thing with Daniel right now.
00:50:46I understand that he's pushing me really hard to do things a proper etiquette way.
00:50:52But he's being rude to me.
00:50:54What the hell does Daniel want right now?
00:50:56Can you stand up and walk?
00:50:58Let me see.
00:50:59Let me see.
00:51:00You want to see me walk?
00:51:01Yes.
00:51:02Are you walking normal?
00:51:03Watch me walk.
00:51:04You're walking normal.
00:51:05Oh, come back.
00:51:06Come back.
00:51:07Come back.
00:51:08Watch me walk.
00:51:09Come back.
00:51:10Oh.
00:51:22For the last seven years, I've been hearing that Sheena's family has been treating her awfully.
00:51:26But all I know is I need to get their blessing to marry Sheena.
00:51:30I don't recall that.
00:51:31What's your job?
00:51:32The importance, you have pants, you know, to help her.
00:51:38Well, it's always.
00:51:41You ready to go?
00:51:42Yeah.
00:51:43It's already late.
00:51:44I think the boat is waiting for us.
00:52:09I think that's the boat right there.
00:52:21We better hurry up before they leave us.
00:52:24Last night was really rough.
00:52:26We got in this big argument.
00:52:30I just thought it was kind of bold of her to just tell me that, you know, she wants me
00:52:35to buy her stuff.
00:52:37I'm not here for that.
00:52:40We couldn't really come to an agreement.
00:52:43So eventually, we decided to put a pin in it and enjoy our evening together.
00:52:48Oh, my God.
00:52:51But I still feel concerned about whether or not I can fulfill her needs.
00:52:57Slow, slow, slow, slow.
00:53:00Ooh, thank you.
00:53:01You're welcome.
00:53:02Wow, baby.
00:53:12So beautiful.
00:53:13Today, we took a boat to an island called Nosy Oranja.
00:53:18This place looks like paradise.
00:53:20I see crystal blue waters, a sandbar that separates two islands that you can actually walk across.
00:53:29It's the perfect place for us to have a really romantic time.
00:53:33And we sat, you know, take some strolls along the beach.
00:53:41I'd be afraid to swing that thing.
00:53:43Thank you so much.
00:53:46Do you know how to put this on your head?
00:53:51Oh, I know.
00:53:54Seriously?
00:53:55No.
00:53:56I wouldn't have learned a skill like that.
00:53:58We put it there.
00:54:00Like this.
00:54:01Oh, man.
00:54:02That's cool.
00:54:03Oh, what?
00:54:04It's not going to fall?
00:54:06No.
00:54:07That's because you got all that hair up there.
00:54:09You got like a nest up there.
00:54:11No.
00:54:12You can do it.
00:54:13All right.
00:54:14Here we go.
00:54:15Here we go, baby.
00:54:19I'm here to find my future wife.
00:54:22And I'm serious about Trish being that one.
00:54:26Let's go.
00:54:27She just has a presence that's so captivating.
00:54:31It just makes me want to be close to her.
00:54:34Yeah, I'm doing it.
00:54:35Let me see.
00:54:37Me?
00:54:38But at the same time, we need to work
00:54:40through issues that we have in order for us
00:54:43to have a future.
00:54:45Oh, my God.
00:54:46It's hot.
00:54:47I want to sit down.
00:54:50Man, baby.
00:54:51What?
00:54:52This is beautiful.
00:54:54Mm-hmm.
00:54:56So glad that we're here.
00:54:58That was a rough night last night.
00:55:00Yeah.
00:55:03I want to apologize for what happened yesterday.
00:55:06I just want you to know, like, I know that you are not rich.
00:55:18So I'm not asking a lot.
00:55:22Just you too, man.
00:55:23You're going to doctorate.
00:55:28I think when you were asking me for things,
00:55:32then that, you know, kind of triggered some things
00:55:35that I've gone through in the past.
00:55:37What's your name?
00:55:40Just past relationships.
00:55:42And I felt like, you know, once I wasn't giving enough,
00:55:48you know, they didn't want to be with me anymore.
00:55:51I just need to make sure that, you know,
00:55:53that won't happen again.
00:55:55Money has been an issue in previous relationships.
00:56:04I was married to Samson and Frederick's mom, Cheney,
00:56:07for seven years.
00:56:08Cheney is from Nigeria,
00:56:11and I brought her over on a K-1 visa.
00:56:14I think Cheney had higher expectations
00:56:17than what I could realistically provide.
00:56:20And it caused a lot of issues between us.
00:56:23That's why I've tried to be really straightforward
00:56:26with Trish about my financial situation.
00:56:30You run without money.
00:56:33I'm not going to leave you
00:56:36if you don't buy me anything.
00:56:38But I just want to make sure
00:56:40if you buy all my needs, that's it.
00:56:43That's what I'm asking.
00:56:46You know when you bring me to your country,
00:56:50I have to let everything in here.
00:56:53My life, my job.
00:56:56Yes, I know that.
00:56:57Yeah, so I just want to make sure
00:57:00that you will take care of me when I'm there.
00:57:03That's the promise that I'm making to you.
00:57:06A promise that I'm going to take care of all your needs.
00:57:09I may not be able to give you everything you want,
00:57:12like your ex.
00:57:14Everything you need, you don't have to worry about.
00:57:19My ex did a lot for me, but I was not happy.
00:57:24With you, it's different.
00:57:29The way you talk, the way you give me a picture.
00:57:33I love that.
00:57:38You think that I'm enough for you?
00:57:40Yeah, yes you are.
00:57:41You are enough.
00:57:45That means a lot to me.
00:57:47And I love you.
00:57:48That's why I want our relationship worth.
00:57:53This is what I want too, baby.
00:57:58You ready to go have some fun?
00:58:00Yeah, I want to get in the water.
00:58:02Yeah, let's go.
00:58:05I'm starting to feel better that Trish
00:58:07is reassuring me that I'm enough for her.
00:58:11That's what I need to feel.
00:58:15Because I think that being insecure
00:58:17has caused me to make mistakes in my relationship.
00:58:23I really do care about Trish and want this to work.
00:58:26But it's hard because I still haven't told her
00:58:30what happened between me and my ex in Columbia.
00:58:36We're finally getting into a good place,
00:58:39but everything always feels so fragile between us.
00:58:43I really don't know how to tell her,
00:58:45but eventually it needs to come out.
00:58:48Do you love me?
00:58:53Of course, baby.
00:58:55The fruit is ready.
00:58:58Just in time, just in time for dinner.
00:58:59Yeah, thanks.
00:59:00Good stuff.
00:59:01We hope you enjoy this.
00:59:02The fruit is ready.
00:59:13Ah, just in time, just in time for dinner.
00:59:19Just in time.
00:59:20Perfect.
00:59:21Yeah, thanks.
00:59:22Good stuff.
00:59:23We hope you enjoy this.
00:59:24This is our native food.
00:59:26Grilled chicken, grilled squid, and pork, and our natural tropical fruits.
00:59:31That sounds awesome.
00:59:33Oh.
00:59:35Dinner is served.
00:59:46See how it works in America, or in my culture?
00:59:49We normally start with the oldest, and we go down the line.
00:59:51Oh, OK.
00:59:52We do it first.
00:59:53Since you're the biggest, you start.
00:59:55Oh, I am the biggest.
00:59:57We go by size here.
00:59:59OK.
01:00:01I just met Sheena's family.
01:00:03And so far, they're definitely not the evil dragons I was expecting.
01:00:08For the last seven years, I've been hearing that they're manipulating her
01:00:11and just treating her awfully.
01:00:13And now I'm hearing that they are decent people.
01:00:18I feel confused, but all I know is I need to get their blessing to marry Sheena, and then
01:00:26go from there.
01:00:27So, how's your travel here from America?
01:00:33It was long and it was hard, but I got to see my Sheen for the first time.
01:00:43Finally, yes.
01:00:44Finally.
01:00:45I'm curious, though.
01:00:46What were you expecting when you go here?
01:00:49I was expecting, well, I was expecting, it's kind of hard to say, you know, my mom's under
01:01:07the impression that I might be walking into a scam.
01:01:16Every, you know, there's, in every place, there are scammers.
01:01:20A lot of scammers.
01:01:21A lot of scammers.
01:01:22She, uh, she'll be meeting us tomorrow.
01:01:25Prove her wrong.
01:01:26Prove her wrong.
01:01:27That's the rest thing.
01:01:28That's, that's, that's it.
01:01:32How'd you guys feel, uh, when you guys heard I was actually here?
01:01:41Yeah, I, I thought, finally, because it's so long, um, we're not really, we're not really
01:01:47sure if we're gonna meet you in person.
01:01:50Yeah.
01:01:51I, I have to say, uh, a lot of it, what had to do with, uh, finances, I don't make
01:01:56that much money, unfortunately.
01:02:02Just eat, babe.
01:02:03Enjoy your meal.
01:02:03Okay.
01:02:05Um.
01:02:08But, uh, question is, uh, I, I, I don't recall it.
01:02:11What's your job?
01:02:15Yeah.
01:02:17So, this is kind of going to be mine.
01:02:21It's kind of a, I mean, shattering here.
01:02:24I'm unemployed right now.
01:02:30I, I'm actually, uh, receiving disability.
01:02:33Disability for, for what?
01:02:34So, I have, uh, autism.
01:02:36I have problems talking with, with others.
01:02:39Like, right now, I'm having a terrible, awful time.
01:02:47So that's enough for you for your daily life?
01:02:51It covers everything in my life right now.
01:02:54But I realize I'm not making enough to support a family right now.
01:03:01But I believe I'll be able to get a full-time job.
01:03:07I just want the world for your daughter.
01:03:09And I was hoping I could get your blessing.
01:03:13Well, Forrest, of course, the importance, you have pants, you know?
01:03:25So without any funding, how will you survive, you know?
01:03:36The only way to survive is to get a job.
01:03:39Yeah.
01:03:39Proper job.
01:03:40I have the energy, I have the drive.
01:03:43I just want to make sure you guys know I'm completely and totally serious.
01:03:46I'm going to be working full-time.
01:03:48And, yeah, be support for her.
01:03:50I prefer that Sheena has a boyfriend that is capable because it's the guy's obligation to support a wife.
01:04:05And Sheena also is, you know, she's very helpful, you know?
01:04:11There, you know, so talagang hindi mawawala sa akin yan.
01:04:14Okay, you have my blessing.
01:04:26But you're going to help her.
01:04:30She's been helping us also.
01:04:32Oh.
01:04:35How has she been doing that?
01:04:37Sometimes if we lack funds for her, you know, she would help us, you know, pay like that, you know?
01:04:44Oh.
01:04:45I understand.
01:04:48Yeah.
01:04:49Yeah, I'm really looking forward to meeting your parents tomorrow.
01:04:55My mom and dad, they definitely have a lot to kind of talk about tomorrow with you guys.
01:05:03We're looking forward to it.
01:05:05It's going to be a blast.
01:05:07I should be happy that I got their blessing, but I feel like Sheena hasn't been 100% honest with me.
01:05:14What I've seen, it's not the same as what I've been hearing for the last seven years.
01:05:21The way she described her family, the way they live, the whole money situation, the stories are not adding up.
01:05:27And I'm really worried that tomorrow my mother is going to come in and going to think everything has been a lie this entire time.
01:05:39She's going to basically flip out.
01:05:42Michael, I want you to cut him out of your life.
01:05:57So you're basically giving me the ultimatum of you or him.
01:06:03Yes, you heard me right.
01:06:06This kind of changes my thinking a little bit.
01:06:09And I'm in a...
01:06:10About him?
01:06:10No.
01:06:12No.
01:06:13No.
01:06:14No.
01:06:15No.
01:06:16No.
01:06:17No.
01:06:18No.
01:06:19No.
01:06:20No.
01:06:21No.
01:06:22No.
01:06:23No.
01:06:24No.
01:06:25No.
01:06:26No.
01:06:27No.
01:06:28No.
01:06:29No.
01:06:30No.
01:06:31No.
01:06:32No.
01:06:33No.
01:06:34No.
01:06:35No.
01:06:36No.
01:06:37No.
01:06:38No.
01:06:39No.
01:06:40No.
01:06:41No.
01:06:42No.
01:06:43No.
01:06:44No.
01:06:45No.
01:06:46No.
01:06:47No.
01:06:48No.
01:06:49No.
01:06:50No.
01:06:51No.
01:06:52No.
01:06:53I'm so tired it's been such a long night yeah we're just getting back to the hotel from Stig's
01:07:01performance and I felt a little uncomfortable but I think I did well I knew I had to hold it
01:07:11together and just push my feelings to the side my feet are killing me you want to give me a foot massage
01:07:20maybe maybe I had a good time I thought you did really well thank you so did I handle it okay like
01:07:38yes you guys what'd I do how does this girl think that she handles this well like how
01:07:53you're mad at me Aviva made me feel like she wasn't interested in my performance
01:08:01she's on her phone texting while I'm performing I'm boiling inside and she she she thinks everything
01:08:10is fine and dandy what please tell me what I did wrong when you're on your phone texting
01:08:20oh no it wasn't like that like actually hurt my feelings being on my phone yes not the right time
01:08:35for that you were even watching you were yes I'm literally performing singing to you
01:08:42I wasn't trying to be disrespectful it wasn't intentional but he was dancing with another
01:08:53woman in front of me and he played Vicky even though I asked him not to so it's a little annoying that he
01:09:00couldn't have just skipped the song it wasn't even a big event I just feel like it's not fair
01:09:04sorry I don't have anybody out here like you have to understand that there is all these girls on
01:09:18stage with you so I'm gonna talk to my people I'm gonna text my friends I can do that do what you want
01:09:24for me you're supposed to be on on my team a part of my team that you did not hide me up kind of kill
01:09:36my vibe actually that's why I feel like I forgot my lyrics I was just distracted you keep talking
01:09:43about these other girls this these other girls having fun hyping me up and my girl is there just
01:09:48on her phone it's my first time in a situation like this there's lots of beautiful girls around I
01:09:56just I felt awkward I didn't feel confident and I just wanted you really think that's the best way
01:10:02to handle it anyway yes I'm disappointed maybe I didn't mean to make you feel a certain way but okay
01:10:15I'm kind of at a loss because I am trying my best to not get super jealous not overreact but
01:10:36apparently I didn't do a very good job I am worried that if he thinks I'm too jealous and crazy
01:10:45he might just break up with me I don't want to scare him off but part of me is terrified that I already have
01:10:53we are in middle of nowhere there is dog I don't like that why they beat me or bark me bark at you bark at me
01:11:22okay no you're fine my English your English is perfect
01:11:27reboot reboot
01:11:29last night I found out that beer con has an immense amount of debt
01:11:44and I was worried that he really just does want a green card but I have put a lot into this
01:11:52relationship so maybe I just need to give it a little bit more time to see how red the red flags
01:11:59actually are
01:12:00maybe they're just a little pink I don't know
01:12:05there's lots of evil eyes yeah I like that tree full of them
01:12:15I wanted to show her different areas and different villages and also it is the place that makes evil eye
01:12:29be it's there
01:12:30it's like something bad but it is not it is for good luck
01:12:45when people see you if they get jealous about you house about you the evil eye consume
01:13:01pet talks and protects you
01:13:03perfect
01:13:09oh you did it
01:13:11I got one
01:13:12I know that
01:13:13I'll get out of the room
01:13:14yes
01:13:16so soon
01:13:16in Turkey everybody believes that superstition because you know people needs to believe something
01:13:22not me
01:13:24I'm into reality actually
01:13:26but I know that Laura she loves crafting so she would enjoy
01:13:31oh that's cool it's not perfectly round but that looks good
01:13:41no you don't
01:13:46yeah I am check at this
01:13:47I have no talent
01:13:48no it's good now you just roll it
01:13:50it has a tail
01:13:51and it just broke
01:13:56apparently I suck at evil eye beets
01:14:02yeah he does
01:14:03it just makes me angry
01:14:05I can't even get it out
01:14:07but this is part of life you know
01:14:09sometimes I can suck
01:14:11okay
01:14:13enjoy the moment
01:14:15all of the evil eye stuff
01:14:22is this something like that's common in Turkey like you're taught as a kid is that something that your family taught you your parents
01:14:29yeah yeah yeah yeah they taught me
01:14:30yeah yeah yeah yeah they taught me
01:14:31okay
01:14:33we hardly ever talk about your family
01:14:35yeah
01:14:36usually we kind of dance around that topic and I'd like to know
01:14:40more about them
01:14:43we never had a good relationship
01:14:47do you see them very often
01:14:49no actually my parents are not so happy because I'm with you
01:15:03Birkan has been a little evasive about the relationship with his parents
01:15:08we haven't talked about it in a lot of detail
01:15:12so hearing that Birkan's parents don't approve of me is really upsetting
01:15:19my family already doesn't approve of this
01:15:22and it's just kind of frustrating to have a relationship where I feel like everything is against us
01:15:29do you think that there's a point where I would ever meet your parents
01:15:37I don't know
01:15:38but I do feel like meeting someone's family is a good way to get to know
01:15:45yeah
01:15:46more information about a person
01:15:49my family is my friends
01:15:53I understand that
01:15:55for me that's how I feel about my friend Michael you know
01:15:59Michael
01:16:07I don't want you to be too close with him
01:16:10because I don't trust him
01:16:14also I don't like him
01:16:16well he is very important in my life
01:16:21we literally do everything together all the time
01:16:25I will give you a solution
01:16:28I want you to cut him out of your life
01:16:35so you're basically giving me the ultimatum of you or him
01:16:41no actually it's not an ultimatum you know
01:16:45what is it then?
01:16:46you're gonna choose me
01:16:48I don't like you
01:16:49I don't like that
01:16:55he's just my friend and he's not trying to make me cut you out
01:17:01he can't
01:17:02this is a relationship
01:17:03this is the one who you get married not some activity buddies
01:17:08I've always known that Birkan doesn't love the fact that Michael and I are friends
01:17:15but when Birkan tells me that I'm gonna have to cut Michael out of my life
01:17:30it absolutely feels like some weird controlling side of him that I haven't seen yet and I really don't like
01:17:39this kind of changes my thinking a little bit
01:17:43about him?
01:17:45no
01:17:46he's not trying to force me to make a decision that I don't want to make
01:17:51hmm
01:17:52so
01:17:53why don't you tinge a little you know
01:17:57I just get some air maybe
01:18:00or some peace
01:18:02I don't know
01:18:04I am shocked that Birkan decides to walk out on me
01:18:12as a way of ending our conversation
01:18:15it's super disrespectful to me
01:18:19especially when I've tried to be very understanding
01:18:24with a massive amount of debt that he revealed to me
01:18:28this doesn't really feel like the man that I thought I knew online
01:18:35I'm mad at the way he talked to me
01:18:41the way he's shaking his hand in front of my face and
01:18:43no
01:18:44no he's not gonna do that
01:18:45and if he doesn't come and apologize I'm getting in the car
01:18:51oh shh
01:19:05I'm mad
01:19:09and he better come and apologize and if he doesn't come and apologize I'm getting in the car
01:19:14I'm mad at the way he talked to me
01:19:16the way he's shaking his hand in front of my face and shh
01:19:19no
01:19:20no he's not gonna do that
01:19:21he's not gonna shake his hand in front of my face
01:19:24let me go
01:19:26let me
01:19:27where is my woman
01:19:30oh shh
01:19:51maybe why are you here
01:19:53why are you talking to me like that
01:19:57you raised your voice
01:19:59you put your hand in my face
01:20:00no I gave you pawine
01:20:02I wanted to know if you had fallen asleep
01:20:04that's why I did like this
01:20:06it makes someone
01:20:07I took two sips
01:20:08I don't wanna
01:20:09I'm not even gonna drink it anymore
01:20:10even a drop can make someone go
01:20:12go
01:20:13then why are you drinking it
01:20:14why did you order it
01:20:15I wanted to let you know that we have traditional drinks in our place
01:20:18ok ok ok ok ok ok and don't get mad at me because I can't pronounce everything
01:20:24I am an American
01:20:25Daniel
01:20:26you can't pronounce everything properly
01:20:27I know
01:20:28you came to Africa
01:20:29you came to Nigeria
01:20:30so what
01:20:31don't raise your voice
01:20:32oh come on
01:20:33how can I raise my voice
01:20:34I'm a beautiful queen
01:20:35come on
01:20:36you are raising your voice on me
01:20:37I'm sorry ok
01:20:38no
01:20:40come and eat
01:20:41are you gonna be nice
01:20:42are you gonna be nice
01:20:44I'll be nice always
01:20:45let's go
01:20:46come and eat your food
01:20:50me
01:20:51my queen
01:20:52actually a little girl
01:20:53no
01:20:54don't put your arm around me
01:20:55don't put your arm around me
01:20:56no
01:20:57the most beautiful queen
01:20:58no
01:20:59hi
01:21:00I am so upset with Daniel right now
01:21:04this is our first full day together and I'm seeing this whole other side to him
01:21:09the way he's behaving is giving off warning signs
01:21:12I don't like it
01:21:13I'm sorry
01:21:16I'm sorry
01:21:17I'm a little nervous
01:21:18my uncle will see you tomorrow
01:21:20I told him that you a Christian
01:21:23I am a Christian
01:21:24good
01:21:25we don't smoke
01:21:27so you're not allowed to smoke as a Christian
01:21:29you're not allowed to
01:21:30I'm trying to quit
01:21:32so should I tell my uncle that you don't think
01:21:34or should I tell him you don't talk about it at all
01:21:38I don't wanna be a liar
01:21:42in my family
01:21:43mhm
01:21:44we don't tell lies
01:21:46we always tell the truth
01:21:47no matter how hard
01:21:50let me ask you this
01:21:51okay
01:21:52if your uncle does not give you the blessing
01:21:54does that mean that we are not getting married
01:21:59that's it
01:22:08you told me you were a man who can make his own decisions
01:22:11yes
01:22:12I came to Nigeria for a reason
01:22:14and now you're telling me without a blessing that you can't marry me
01:22:17yes
01:22:18I'm a grown man
01:22:19but I came from somewhere
01:22:21in my family
01:22:23we have wear of our own
01:22:24the way we do our things
01:22:26and I want everything possible
01:22:28to make sure that my uncle gave us blessing
01:22:31that's my concern
01:22:32and that's
01:22:33and the vaping is the only thing that you're very concerned about
01:22:36that's your biggest concern
01:22:37yeah
01:22:43are you worried?
01:22:44I'm thinking
01:22:45thinking of what?
01:22:47Daniel is so worried about the vape
01:22:50but that seems really small compared to all the other things that Daniel doesn't know about me
01:22:57I'm terrified to tell him my truth
01:23:00I have no idea if he'll be able to forgive me
01:23:03and even if he accepted my past
01:23:05once I reveal my secrets to him
01:23:07is he going to have to tell all of his family
01:23:09that I've only been with women for the past 21 years
01:23:12and that I'm still married
01:23:14if we tell his uncle about that
01:23:16I'm scared I'm not going to get the blessing
01:23:18I don't want to lose Daniel
01:23:22I'm here, huh?
01:23:28next time on Before the 90 Days
01:23:32so cute
01:23:33Maki Maki
01:23:34yeah, the kids will love this
01:23:36yeah
01:23:37it'll be worth it if I can bring a step mommy home
01:23:40but
01:23:41I want to have my own
01:23:43if he decided does not want to have kids
01:23:46I don't know if I could be with him
01:23:49you want what you don't want
01:23:51now that I'm in person with my husband
01:23:56he's giving me trust issues
01:23:58remember what you promised me
01:24:00before you came down here
01:24:02I was going to stop talking to that person
01:24:05so can I see your phone
01:24:08now
01:24:10tell me something interesting about Birkan
01:24:17Birkan'ın bilinmeyen bir anı var
01:24:20ben söyleyeyim
01:24:23Laura is already worried about my finances
01:24:27I don't want to make things bigger
01:24:30sen süreyi uzattıkça onun sana olan tepkisini büyüyecek bence
01:24:33wait
01:24:35what did she say
01:24:36oh yes
01:24:39moment of truth
01:24:42man
01:24:44this is so beautiful here
01:24:46holy
01:24:48well would you look at that
01:24:50Sheena's expecting me to believe
01:24:52that if her parents don't take her money
01:24:55that they're going to starve
01:24:57tonight we'll get the truth for Sheena
01:25:00she told us
01:25:02if she didn't give the money
01:25:04that you would mistreat her
01:25:06did you say that?
01:25:12Uncle
01:25:13you are not an Igbo woman
01:25:17I want to know Igbo more
01:25:19I'm sitting next to the man I love
01:25:21and he doesn't know about me
01:25:23I don't want to lie to his uncle
01:25:25but I want us to have this blessing more than anything in the world
01:25:29are you a practicing person?
01:25:31I have not always been
01:25:32but Daniel makes me into a better woman
01:25:34are you or were you a lesbian?
01:25:38you practice the better
01:25:40you practice the better
01:25:42you
01:25:43you
01:25:45you
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