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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 Episode 4 -
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
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00:00:00For the past 21 years, I have been with women only.
00:00:03But Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.
00:00:07I'm terrified to tell him, because a couple of months ago,
00:00:11I told him I had a fling with a woman.
00:00:15And he was disgusted.
00:00:18He's 20 years younger than I am.
00:00:20I think I got hair on my chin older than that.
00:00:24Don't make jokes.
00:00:26He doesn't love you.
00:00:27That's not what love is.
00:00:29He wants a ticket to America.
00:00:31There's an absolute possibility this
00:00:33is going to blow up in my face.
00:00:35But if I'm not willing to take a risk for love,
00:00:39then what am I willing to take a risk for?
00:00:43We can't make more than hugs or kiss and check
00:00:47until we get married.
00:00:49But that's just not what you said.
00:00:51A couple of weeks ago, I realized
00:00:53that he followed thousands of women.
00:00:55And it turns out that he was talking to one of the girls.
00:00:58Good night.
00:00:59Good night.
00:01:01Now, seeing how he's acting in person,
00:01:03it's making me question things.
00:01:10Oh, my goodness.
00:01:12Sheena and I have been waiting seven years
00:01:14to meet up with each other.
00:01:16And I just want everything to go smoothly.
00:01:19But my mom did not take kindly to Sheena
00:01:22lying about the money again.
00:01:29Apology aside, there's still some things
00:01:32that have to be discussed before we can proceed.
00:01:36I'm scared that I'm going to pee all over the floor.
00:01:46Because every time I get nervous, I pee.
00:01:49I'm going to see his face, and it's just going to flow out of me,
00:01:53drip down my legs.
00:01:54And what an impression that's going to be.
00:01:56I am nervous, and I am excited, and I'm scared to death.
00:02:09Because things can be different when he meets you in person.
00:02:13What if he hides?
00:02:14What if he changes his mind once I get there?
00:02:17I don't know what he's going to think about me.
00:02:18I don't know if he's going to be like, wow,
00:02:20she's a lot older than I thought.
00:02:26Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel
00:02:29for the first time.
00:02:31And I am feeling overwhelmed, and excited, and nervous.
00:02:38My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns
00:02:40at dinner the other night.
00:02:41That Daniel could be scamming me, and I'm not ignoring them.
00:02:45But all I can think about is how I just
00:02:47want to touch his face and feel the dimples in his cheeks,
00:02:51and feel his beard.
00:02:52I want to pull him in and just kiss him.
00:02:56These are the wigs I am taking with me.
00:02:59They're brand new.
00:03:01I have three, because they get ruined very fast.
00:03:05I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.
00:03:09My plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.
00:03:12Just needs to go on my carry-on bag.
00:03:16Wearing a wig, it's a process, and it's not fun.
00:03:20It sticks to your hair.
00:03:22It sticks to your skin.
00:03:23You have rashes.
00:03:24You have all kinds of sores.
00:03:27It's going to be stressful to deal with in Nigeria.
00:03:30But it makes him so happy.
00:03:33I want to look beautiful for Daniel.
00:03:35So I will be keeping it on all day and all night.
00:03:37I'm sleeping in my wig.
00:03:42So today, mom is going to Nigeria.
00:03:47Pretty nervous.
00:03:51Not sure how it's going to go.
00:03:54She's horrible with directions.
00:03:56I am hopeful she gets the answers and the relationship
00:04:01she's hoping for.
00:04:03But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.
00:04:08Hi, Faith.
00:04:09I have some toast and coffee for you.
00:04:12Oh, wonderful.
00:04:14Yeah, freshly brewed.
00:04:16That's the first thing I want.
00:04:18I know.
00:04:19All right, listen.
00:04:20Here's something really important.
00:04:22The certified letter is coming for the divorce.
00:04:24Yeah, so you have to go to the post office to mail it.
00:04:28That has to be done.
00:04:30Like immediately?
00:04:31Yes, because the court hearing date
00:04:33that the judge signs the paper is on the 29th,
00:04:36so that the divorce becomes finalized on the 29th.
00:04:40I want to come clean and tell him that not only I was still
00:04:44married, but the divorce is there.
00:04:45And I want to show him the papers of the divorce.
00:04:48If I'm just, mom, you not only lied about the fact
00:04:52that, oh, you didn't just have a fling with a woman.
00:04:55No, you've been married to women several times.
00:05:00But you also told him you're not married.
00:05:05Not only does he not know that I've been with women
00:05:07for the past 21 years, Daniel doesn't
00:05:10know that I am technically still married to a woman.
00:05:13He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started
00:05:20talking to me.
00:05:21And I said, yeah, I'm free to marry.
00:05:23Because in my heart, I have been free to marry.
00:05:25Because my ex-wife and I have been separated
00:05:27for over nine years.
00:05:29We just never got around to signing the divorce papers
00:05:32until now.
00:05:34If that happened to me, I would be devastated.
00:05:37I wouldn't be able to trust that person.
00:05:39Well, I'm going to come clean on this trip
00:05:41and tell him everything.
00:05:43I'm not going to accept the marriage proposal
00:05:44until we have this conversation.
00:05:47He's going to know about it beforehand.
00:05:52Just trust me.
00:05:53I'm just worried.
00:05:54Don't worry.
00:05:55Don't worry.
00:05:56I got this.
00:05:57Let's get going.
00:05:58We need to get to the airport.
00:05:59It is getting late, and we need to get going.
00:06:03I do have a flight.
00:06:05I struggle trusting my mom that she's not going to somehow
00:06:09try and get married in there.
00:06:11Please do not ruin your life for getting
00:06:13married to somebody before you're ready.
00:06:16I need to grab my phone.
00:06:18That's the last thing I need.
00:06:20So if Daniel was asking you to get married with
00:06:25while you're in Nigeria, would you keep your hands to faith?
00:06:28Would I go against faith's wishes?
00:06:34I want to say no.
00:06:38But my heart says, hold on to Daniel and do it.
00:06:43Jump with both feet in.
00:06:44I want to be Mrs. Daniel.
00:06:50I want to be with him.
00:06:52I want to be a part of him.
00:06:54I want to be his wife.
00:06:57So I don't know what I'll do.
00:07:00I really don't know.
00:07:02Will you grab one of the suitcases?
00:07:04Yeah, I can do that.
00:07:06Woo, here we go.
00:07:14Here we go.
00:07:17Oh, 61.
00:07:21What?
00:07:22Oh, 61.
00:07:24I got three.
00:07:25Oh, you've done good.
00:07:27Oh, 70.
00:07:30I met my husband when I was in high school.
00:07:34I was married to a soldier.
00:07:37He lived up the street.
00:07:40My husband and I met in junior college.
00:07:42We loved to skate, so our first date was going skating.
00:07:48The first date, we went to a fair, and I sort of thought,
00:07:55you know, I like him.
00:07:58I didn't want to be with anybody else.
00:08:02That was just, that was it.
00:08:06He said, I wanted you to have a heart ring, and here it is.
00:08:18I'm done waiting, no more hesitating.
00:08:24There is nothing more to once more.
00:08:28You got to feel it, you got to believe it.
00:08:33There's a whole new world you're looking for.
00:08:37Big four.
00:08:40Good afternoon.
00:08:42Lemonade.
00:08:43Oh, boy.
00:08:45My name is Javon.
00:08:46I'm 38 years old, and I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.
00:08:52Who's winning?
00:08:53Who has a bingo?
00:08:54I've got several bingos.
00:08:56Oh, nice.
00:08:57I work at a nursing home, and I like my job.
00:09:04You know, old people, they just say some of the first things
00:09:08that come to their mind, they have no filters,
00:09:10and it's just pure comedy.
00:09:12What did you bring us today?
00:09:14We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.
00:09:18Ooh, look at all that cheese.
00:09:21But it's just a low-paying job.
00:09:23Anybody else need any silverware?
00:09:25I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.
00:09:29American women, they want six-pack, six figures, six inches.
00:09:34I call them three sixes, and it's not me.
00:09:43Mm, that's good.
00:09:45Mm-mm.
00:09:46We hear you're going to the Philippines.
00:09:48Oh, yeah.
00:09:49Yeah, it's a trip way overdue.
00:09:51I'm going to see my wife.
00:09:54And when was the last time you saw her?
00:09:57Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.
00:10:03So this would be actually our first meet.
00:10:09Oh, OK.
00:10:12Really?
00:10:13Yeah.
00:10:15My wife is Anna Lynn.
00:10:17She's 38 years old.
00:10:19And she's from the Philippines, Cavite.
00:10:22Hey, boo, it's your wife.
00:10:24I hope you're having a great day.
00:10:26Must be something in it.
00:10:29Yeah, it must be something in it.
00:10:31We connected online about five years ago,
00:10:34and we've been married for about two years.
00:10:40He said that?
00:10:42No, that's wrong.
00:10:44We have been in a relationship for six years
00:10:46and we have been married for almost three years.
00:10:50OK?
00:10:52Hello, boo-boo.
00:10:54I love you and I appreciate you.
00:10:56Mwah!
00:10:58Boy, the moment I saw him, he's so good to look at.
00:11:03Yummers.
00:11:09Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,
00:11:12we would talk for hours every day
00:11:14and he just made me feel like the happiest
00:11:17that I've ever been.
00:11:21Maybe a year after we started talking online,
00:11:24I wanted to meet Anna Lynn in person.
00:11:27But when COVID hit, I couldn't no longer travel.
00:11:31There were flight restrictions.
00:11:33I was kind of feeling hopeless
00:11:36and I was afraid that I'm going to lose him.
00:11:39And then I was scrolling on social media
00:11:42and I saw these couples getting married online.
00:11:46And I thought if they were married legally,
00:11:48he would be able to enter the Philippine border
00:11:52because they allow family,
00:11:54which means blood or your spouse.
00:11:58When Anna Lynn first brought up online marriages,
00:12:04I was just like, what the hell?
00:12:05I had doubts, of course,
00:12:10because it's unorthodox,
00:12:12but I just had a lot of faith.
00:12:15When you meet the one
00:12:16that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with,
00:12:18you can't even actually put it into words.
00:12:20It's like, that's what they say.
00:12:21When you know, you know.
00:12:22It's kind of like that.
00:12:24All right.
00:12:26Place the rings on your fingers
00:12:28as a symbol of the love that you share
00:12:30and the commitment that you're making.
00:12:32How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.
00:12:37Absolutely not.
00:12:38But it was still the happiest day of my life.
00:12:41It is now my privilege to pronounce you
00:12:43lawfully wed as husband and wife.
00:12:50I finally have my perfect wife.
00:12:53I just need to meet her in person.
00:12:55How could you be married for years
00:12:59and never go to the Philippines to see your wife?
00:13:03The whole thing is very expensive.
00:13:06So, you know, and then I have to save up for it.
00:13:08So that's mostly the reason why.
00:13:12Over the years,
00:13:14me and Anna Lynn have tried to meet up several times,
00:13:17but work and finance has gotten away.
00:13:20And having a marriage online has been challenging,
00:13:26especially because Anna Lynn has changed.
00:13:31When I first met Anna, she was more patient, sweeter.
00:13:36She just had more positive vibes about her.
00:13:39Like, hold on, what's going on here?
00:13:42After a period of time,
00:13:55I had to fight to actually speak, to be heard.
00:13:58Lately, it feels like we're fighting
00:14:00more than we're getting along.
00:14:02I know we're already committed as man and wife,
00:14:04but before I apply for that spousal visa
00:14:07and move Anna Lynn to the U.S.,
00:14:10we need to spend physical time with one another
00:14:13to make sure I made the right choice.
00:14:17I'm going out there because I love her.
00:14:19I'm going to give it everything I got,
00:14:21but I'm worried that our problems
00:14:23are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.
00:14:26And if we can't,
00:14:28I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:14:30Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:14:37Oh, yeah.
00:14:38Oh, yeah.
00:14:39Mm-hmm.
00:14:40You're so handsome, always.
00:14:41I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:14:43I've been waiting seven years
00:14:45to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:14:47I'm not saying I can't blow her socks off,
00:14:49but I'm kind of still nervous
00:14:52about losing my hair to you.
00:14:57I don't like that we were fighting yesterday,
00:14:59but there's something else I wanted to, like,
00:15:01talk to you about
00:15:02that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:15:04What? What is this?
00:15:05What's happening?
00:15:10Emma.
00:15:29I wanted to get out for a bit this morning
00:15:41and clear my mind because my night with Emma was horrible.
00:15:47I want to be her husband,
00:15:59but we need some time to know each others.
00:16:02I hope things better today.
00:16:09I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.
00:16:11Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him,
00:16:13and he would be, like, bringing me coffee in the morning
00:16:15and cuddling with me,
00:16:16and that's not how it went at all.
00:16:19We've actually just been completely separate.
00:16:22Ziyad's behavior last night,
00:16:26it's making me a little suspicious,
00:16:28but I'm trying not to just be in my head
00:16:31and overthink things.
00:16:32I want this to be fun,
00:16:34and I want us to just focus on the positives.
00:16:38I'm really determined to turn things around.
00:16:40Ziyad's behavior last night.
00:17:02Hi.
00:17:04Good morning.
00:17:05Morning.
00:17:06How's your night?
00:17:07This is nice.
00:17:08Really?
00:17:09Yeah.
00:17:11That's it.
00:17:12This is your place.
00:17:13I hope you will like it.
00:17:14Thanks, babe.
00:17:21Hello.
00:17:27She's adorable.
00:17:30My favorite.
00:17:31Eggs.
00:17:33I don't like eggs,
00:17:34but I'll eat it because she cooked it.
00:17:35I know, I know.
00:17:36Do you want to talk about yesterday?
00:17:39What do you want to start for what?
00:17:42I mean, it wasn't really like a good start to my trip.
00:17:45I don't like that we were fighting all day.
00:17:48Yeah.
00:17:49That's not how I expected like my first night to go.
00:17:52Can you pour me some more tea, please?
00:17:55Yeah.
00:17:56Oh, you drink that all quickly?
00:17:58I love the tea here.
00:17:59Okay.
00:18:00Um, but yes, I did want to say sorry to you.
00:18:04I don't hear you.
00:18:05I don't hear you.
00:18:07I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:08Can you repeat?
00:18:09I don't hear what you said.
00:18:10I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:11For what?
00:18:13For running away from your kiss.
00:18:17And?
00:18:18walking away from you when you were talking.
00:18:21I mean, I'm sorry yesterday got like really dramatic,
00:18:26but I think it was just a long day for me
00:18:28because I was traveling for like 20 hours.
00:18:31I know it's difficult.
00:18:32And it was just like a lot going on.
00:18:34There was like a lot in my mind.
00:18:36Actually, there's something else I wanted to like talk to you about
00:18:40that like I didn't tell you yet.
00:18:42What?
00:18:52What is this?
00:18:53What's happening?
00:18:57I was just like upset the past couple of days
00:18:59because you know how much I love my job.
00:19:01Like I've been there for five years and.
00:19:04Yes.
00:19:06Well, I got fired.
00:19:08Really?
00:19:12I don't know if I want to talk about it because I'm going to cry.
00:19:16No, no, you don't need this.
00:19:18Listen, listen.
00:19:22I just need a minute.
00:19:24Emma.
00:19:32Sorry.
00:19:34No, no.
00:19:35Don't you cry.
00:19:36I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:37It's a.
00:19:38I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:39It's all right.
00:19:40It's just a walk.
00:19:41It's perfect.
00:19:43And you don't need to cry for it.
00:19:46So just enjoy your moments.
00:19:48No, don't cry.
00:19:49Don't cry.
00:19:50Okay.
00:19:51Don't cry.
00:19:52Okay.
00:19:59I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:20:01I don't have any like options right now.
00:20:03It's difficult and it's hard, but at the end, there is a lot of jobs.
00:20:08Yeah.
00:20:09You will find another one more better than your last.
00:20:12Right now, I want you to enjoy here in Marrakesh.
00:20:17We are together and everything will be good.
00:20:21I think we definitely started this trip like on the wrong foot.
00:20:29It was like a tornado.
00:20:31But right now, he's showing me that he cares about what I'm going through.
00:20:36I love you, babe.
00:20:37He says, I love you more.
00:20:40But what's mean tornado?
00:20:42Like an earthquake, like a natural disaster.
00:20:45So like when I got off the plane, what happened between us was like an earthquake.
00:20:49Yeah, yeah.
00:20:50That's an amazing example.
00:20:51Yeah, really.
00:20:56My future hubby.
00:20:57Ah.
00:20:58Do you know what that means?
00:21:00No.
00:21:01Can you explain?
00:21:02It's short for husband.
00:21:03Really?
00:21:04Yeah, hubby.
00:21:08One feet.
00:21:09Yeah.
00:21:10Exactly.
00:21:11I can't believe the trees, how beautiful they are.
00:21:23I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:24I'm probably going to.
00:21:24I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:25I'm probably going to.
00:21:26I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:29I'm going to have a sunburn in about 10 seconds.
00:21:45And now my heart is racing out.
00:21:50All right, see you later, Dave.
00:21:53See you later.
00:21:54Okay.
00:21:55I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents and finally met the girl of my dreams after
00:22:03seven years.
00:22:05Just being able to touch and hold her hand, it was so amazing.
00:22:09Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.
00:22:12Waka waka.
00:22:14Yeah.
00:22:18Oh, this is incredible.
00:22:20Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.
00:22:23Crazy.
00:22:24This is definitely controlled chaos.
00:22:27If I could describe the Philippines in one word, it'd be hectic.
00:22:32It's got people, like, almost running into each other or running each other over constantly.
00:22:38Oh, man.
00:22:40Glad I'm not driving.
00:22:42But it's got its own, like, charm to it.
00:22:46Look at that. That thing is pretty good.
00:22:48This is the jeepney. This is locally here in my country.
00:22:51They have converted old jeepneys from the World War II who have been left with Americans,
00:22:55so they converted for, like, taxis.
00:22:58Incredible.
00:22:59You can see the big building there.
00:23:02That's the condo we're going to stay.
00:23:05I wish we could stay at your place.
00:23:07Yeah.
00:23:08Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila,
00:23:11but we're not staying there because her parents said we had to pay for it if we did stay.
00:23:17When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset because I'm planning on marrying their daughter,
00:23:23and I would be their son, and to charge family to come stay at their house is just absurd,
00:23:30especially because we have been saving for the last seven years just to afford the plane ticket
00:23:34to actually just meet her.
00:23:37Sheena said,
00:23:37I know it doesn't make sense, but it's what my parents want.
00:23:40It's their wishes.
00:23:40I can't really go around that.
00:23:44But I'm not paying them money.
00:23:48This is the place.
00:23:49All right.
00:23:50All right.
00:23:50We are here.
00:23:55Here you go, Molly.
00:23:56Sheena is an extreme foodie, and she likes to make sure that I'm well fed.
00:24:13I'd sure like to open him up and see what he's about.
00:24:16I can definitely smell him.
00:24:18Yeah, he's a little excited at the top.
00:24:22Don't go for that.
00:24:23Yeah, okay.
00:24:26So, sorry, baby.
00:24:29This is all I could get for you guys.
00:24:32You can see that we have two bedrooms here.
00:24:35It's like a simple home, but comfy, so.
00:24:39The place is nice.
00:24:40It's pretty.
00:24:41But it could have been a little bit bigger.
00:24:46I state this claim in the name of Forrest.
00:24:49It feels good.
00:24:51Get your bag, too.
00:24:52Here, I'll throw these in here for you.
00:24:53It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing with my parents.
00:24:58If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down, I really just hope my parents don't hear us.
00:25:06Sheena.
00:25:07What?
00:25:08This feels more than online right now.
00:25:12Oh, it's making me more nervous.
00:25:16Oh, you don't have to be.
00:25:17I'm here right with you.
00:25:18Oh, I know.
00:25:19I can see.
00:25:20Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:25:22Oh, yeah.
00:25:22Oh, yeah.
00:25:23Because I got some good stuff here.
00:25:27Excuse me, baby.
00:25:29Boom.
00:25:29What is that?
00:25:31This is something amazing, and I want you to try it on for me if you want.
00:25:38Whoa, what's that thing?
00:25:41I think it is a cloth that goes on your body and accentuates your sexuality.
00:25:51Oh, that's nice.
00:25:52I love the color.
00:25:54Oh, yeah.
00:25:55That's cool.
00:25:55I guess, guess what?
00:25:56There's even more.
00:25:58What?
00:25:58You have more?
00:25:59I have more.
00:26:01Oh, wow.
00:26:02I got you a pretty thong.
00:26:05Wow.
00:26:07To be honest, I feel quite nervous because I am a virgin.
00:26:13But forest makes me feel confident of my body.
00:26:17This is another one for you, in case you want to, you know.
00:26:21It's cool.
00:26:22It's beautiful.
00:26:23Oh, okay.
00:26:24All right, okay.
00:26:32You're so handsome, always.
00:26:33I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:26:35Okay.
00:26:36Go for it, my love.
00:26:36Debrush.
00:26:37All right.
00:26:38Do everything, my love.
00:26:41You know, when I was making, like, sexy talk with her, I was really just trying to, like,
00:26:46put her at ease, make her laugh, you know, just calm the mood.
00:26:51I've been waiting seven years to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:26:56But to be honest, I'm actually kind of still nervous about what is my virginity.
00:27:00I mean, I'm not saying I can't pull her socks off, but having sex with Sheena, I feel like
00:27:11it's an important thing for the both of us to be in the right mindset.
00:27:17It's just a big deal.
00:27:19I love you.
00:27:20I love you.
00:27:21Do you want the lights on or off?
00:27:22Well, turn off the lights, babe.
00:27:30It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:27:33I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that BeerCon won't be as attracted
00:27:43to me in person.
00:27:44Oh, my God.
00:27:45Here we go.
00:27:51We are in the process of landing, and I don't know if it was the cheese sandwich or BeerCon,
00:27:56but I'm excited.
00:28:09So this is the most important day, actually, in my life.
00:28:13I'm trying to look good, you know, for our big meeting for the first time.
00:28:19Everything has to go perfect, so I will iron it until it's perfect or it's burned.
00:28:26Laura is arriving tricky today, and today might be the first day of my rest of my life.
00:28:35Laura rented this Airbnb for us.
00:28:39I never saw this big of a place.
00:28:44It just chills me.
00:28:48Right now, I'm staying with different friends.
00:28:52Sometimes Izmir, sometimes Istanbul.
00:28:54That's why Laura couldn't stay with me.
00:28:59But the privacy of our place is going to be nice, because we have a lot of things to discuss
00:29:05face to face.
00:29:06It's absolutely wild that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:29:23I'm so excited now.
00:29:25I just want to run out of this airport and leave all my luggage here.
00:29:28Oh.
00:29:29Oh.
00:29:30Oh.
00:29:31Oh my God.
00:29:33She come early.
00:29:35It's slightly close that I am having a heart attack or I am excited.
00:29:37Yeah, we will see.
00:29:38I am going to wear a dress to meet this man.
00:29:42I think that will be a lot cuter than the hot mess that I'm currently wearing.
00:29:55I'm really proud of the progress that I've made over the last 14 months.
00:30:11But I still have flaws and imperfections, and so I am nervous that Birkan won't be as attracted
00:30:20to me in person.
00:30:21And I think that's a cute dress.
00:30:22All right.
00:30:23The woman I love is coming, so I'm thrilled.
00:30:28My hopes are we will get engaged and go to America, live together, and get married.
00:30:44But maybe she will hate me.
00:30:46Nobody knows.
00:30:51This is it?
00:30:52I can't believe I'm about to meet him.
00:31:03Oh my God.
00:31:04Here we go.
00:31:05Here we go.
00:31:06Here we go.
00:31:07How are you?
00:31:08How are you?
00:31:09Good, how are you?
00:31:10I am good.
00:31:11How are you doing?
00:31:12That was so long.
00:31:13Yeah, I know.
00:31:14I am still thinking about, oh my God, America, you know?
00:31:15Yeah.
00:31:20Welcome again.
00:31:26Welcome.
00:31:27I think everything's perfect right now.
00:31:39Yeah.
00:31:40That's really sweet.
00:31:41Yeah, it was.
00:31:42I know.
00:31:43I know.
00:31:44Yeah.
00:31:47So let's go this way.
00:31:50Okay.
00:31:51These bumps are a pain with suitcases.
00:31:53He looks amazing.
00:31:54Exactly the aesthetic that I've been describing,
00:31:58which is that dark romance male main character.
00:32:02When you look at her, what do you think?
00:32:03She's perfect.
00:32:04I don't need to look at her.
00:32:06I don't need, because I feel it, you know?
00:32:09I'm complete, so we don't need to see.
00:32:11That's probably the best answer ever.
00:32:18That was like the best flight I've ever taken.
00:32:21Yeah.
00:32:21Seriously.
00:32:23I'm glad.
00:32:24I'm really glad.
00:32:26Yeah.
00:32:41It's good to see you.
00:32:42You too.
00:32:48I don't know what's happening.
00:32:49It's very awkward right now.
00:32:56I really wasn't expecting that, because, you know, it was, like, great when we first met.
00:33:01He hugged me.
00:33:01He kissed me.
00:33:02And then we sit on this train, and it's like he doesn't know who I am.
00:33:06And I don't know who he is.
00:33:08I think we're close.
00:33:13I'm hoping that as time moves forward, that this will turn around, and it will feel more like
00:33:24it did when we were online, but right now, something is off, and it's freaking me out.
00:33:31Anna called me like it were, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:33:43I know that Anna is 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit.
00:33:48She was just talking about that woman.
00:33:53Uh, yeah.
00:33:55Who is the woman?
00:33:56Hey, yo, I'm ready to roll.
00:34:06Fully loaded, yo, I'm ready for whoa.
00:34:09Straight up out of the bunker, might jump ya.
00:34:12Zombies out here to hunt ya.
00:34:14This is nice.
00:34:17Really?
00:34:18This is screaming, I failed a pottery class.
00:34:22No, but she doesn't like how you dress, so you gotta do something else.
00:34:24Ah.
00:34:37I think you got some good purchases.
00:34:38Ah, yeah, I don't have a lot of faith in that shirt.
00:34:42It'll be fine.
00:34:44It's gonna be fine.
00:34:46I'm running some last minute errands with my sister Ashley, because I'm flying to the
00:34:50Philippines in a couple of days to meet my wife for the first time in person.
00:34:56I'm excited and I'm super nervous because we've been married for three years.
00:35:01But we've never been in the same room or even the same continent with each other.
00:35:05So, are you all packed up?
00:35:10You ready?
00:35:10Uh, I think I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be.
00:35:15And you know, me and Anna's relationship, it's just been this spiraling, like, up and down,
00:35:20loopy loop, rollercoaster ride.
00:35:22But when things are good, I'm like really happy to be in a relationship.
00:35:25I think Anna's very funny.
00:35:27Yeah.
00:35:27Like, Anna seems like she's a good time.
00:35:31She's just a lot.
00:35:35Javon, marrying somebody online was actually wild to me.
00:35:40I do think they love each other, but I don't know, like, I wouldn't just call this like
00:35:45a normal marriage.
00:35:46This is something I've never seen or heard of before.
00:35:51You know, like, Anna actually called me.
00:35:55You spoke to her?
00:35:56Mm-hmm.
00:35:59She called me, like, at work.
00:36:01I'm working.
00:36:02I'm with customers.
00:36:04And she's just, you know, talking about your brother, your brother.
00:36:07I don't know what to do with him.
00:36:08Rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah, rah.
00:36:12And I was like, can't even get her off the phone.
00:36:14Yeah.
00:36:15She was just talking about that woman.
00:36:22Uh, yeah.
00:36:23So who, who is the woman?
00:36:27So, the woman is just, like, a friend of mine that I've, that I've known for a long
00:36:39time.
00:36:41We communicate so well, and we can stay on the phone for hours.
00:36:45Whereas, I think because we're both having problems in our, you know, relationship, it's, it's, it's, it's definitely more easygoing and it's more positive.
00:36:56So, but what is it that, that Anna's so, like, threatened and bothered by her?
00:37:02Like, what, what, what is it?
00:37:04Because I feel like I'm missing something.
00:37:08Yeah, I mean, there used to be this, this, this, this, this small thing between us, but we're back.
00:37:15Also, that, so, so, Javon, that's not okay.
00:37:20That is no good.
00:37:21I, I know, you know, and I'm not.
00:37:23So, so that's why she's so upset then.
00:37:25Yeah.
00:37:27Me and my friend, we never officially dated, but there was feelings for one another.
00:37:33We lost touch for a while, but I reached out to her because I was going through a rough time in my marriage, and I needed someone that knew me and that understood me.
00:37:46I wasn't trying to hide anything.
00:37:49So, I just came out and told Annalena I was talking to this other person.
00:37:53I don't think it's a big deal, but obviously she does, because she's extremely pissed off and upset.
00:38:02I'm not saying she don't have a valid reason to be upset, but it's just completely platonic, you know, and she don't have to worry about that.
00:38:12Have you tried to call her?
00:38:15I have, but, you know, she, she blocked me.
00:38:20For real?
00:38:23She gets so aggressive.
00:38:25See, this is the problem.
00:38:26Like, this is how, this is why I had to go outside of our marriage to talk to somebody else about our marriage, and it shouldn't be that way.
00:38:36Obviously, Annalena feels disrespected, and I do get that.
00:38:43I know that she's 1,000% unhinged, like, kind of off her rocker a little bit, but I do feel like he presses her buttons.
00:38:51Javon just needs to say sorry and try and talk to her, and if they don't know how to talk, then they don't need to be married.
00:38:57You're about to see your wife for the first time.
00:39:01You all don't need to be in the middle of a fight.
00:39:05I don't know what the to do.
00:39:07I don't know what to do.
00:39:08I heard some interesting things from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:39:18Did you guys do the old knockin' knockin'?
00:39:22I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:39:27Now, now you're kind of, now you're kind of being really disrespectful.
00:39:46Game up!
00:39:51Hello, sweetheart.
00:39:52Hey, guys, we're going to go down and have some coffee by the pool, so, uh, we'll be up in a little while.
00:40:02Talk to you in a bit.
00:40:04Later.
00:40:07Mmm.
00:40:11Staring content.
00:40:14Cause she looks so worried in my childhood, childhood.
00:40:18I tried to quit her like I had you.
00:40:21Oh, you're crazy.
00:40:25I'm crazy, don't you?
00:40:27Oh, ah!
00:40:30I arrived in the Philippines yesterday,
00:40:31and the first night with the woman of my dream, Sheena, was amazing.
00:40:37Oh, man, you're strong.
00:40:39I've got to walk in the room.
00:40:39Oh, yeah?
00:40:40Let's try some weirdos.
00:40:41Oh, God.
00:40:42Oh, God.
00:40:43Oh, God.
00:40:45Oh, God.
00:40:46I'm going to tickle you crazy, baby.
00:40:48There's a lot of new and fun things on finding out being with Sheena physically.
00:40:54I found out there's a night, Sheena.
00:40:56What?
00:40:57And, uh, she's kind of grabby.
00:40:59Oh, really?
00:41:00I'm not.
00:41:01You're very, uh, into being physical.
00:41:03Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:04Night, Sheena.
00:41:05Oh, no, I'm not.
00:41:07You know, just finally being able to hold you and be with you and kiss you, it just felt
00:41:14awesome.
00:41:16And I know that I talked of a big game last night about sex and everything like that.
00:41:22But I really believe that we should, um, wait, you know, till we know each other a bit more,
00:41:29you know, in person.
00:41:30I understand my love.
00:41:35I really feel like after seven years, me coming here to the Philippines and just having sex
00:41:41with Sheena straight up, it's not what I want to do.
00:41:44Yeah, I agree to that.
00:41:46I just want to get to know you much better.
00:41:49We all know when the time is right.
00:41:51I agree to that.
00:41:53Also probably when my mom's not around.
00:41:55Yeah.
00:42:02We'll see you later.
00:42:04I don't need a coat, that's for sure.
00:42:07Ooh, nice and cool in here.
00:42:10I'm excited.
00:42:14So where exactly are you taking us again?
00:42:22So, it's a Chinatown here in Manila.
00:42:25Actually, one of the oldest Chinatown here in the whole world because Chinese people had been trading with the Filipinos before Spanish people arrived.
00:42:36Wow.
00:42:37So there's a lot of historical sites around and good foods.
00:42:40I'm ready to eat it all.
00:42:44So, I got a little curiosity question to ask you guys.
00:42:52Uh, I heard some interesting things, you know, coming from your guys' bedroom last night, the little giggles.
00:43:00So, uh, did, uh, you guys, uh, do the old, uh, knockin' knockin'?
00:43:06No.
00:43:07No.
00:43:08No.
00:43:09No.
00:43:10No.
00:43:11No.
00:43:12No.
00:43:13So, what, why, why didn't you guys?
00:43:19Well, it just wasn't the right time or place to do that.
00:43:22Oh, okay.
00:43:24Well, you guys can always come and talk to us if you have questions.
00:43:30It's not an embarrassing subject to me.
00:43:32It's interest.
00:43:33It's life.
00:43:34Yup, and it takes practice to be good at it.
00:43:38Yup.
00:43:41My parents are just, it's a little too much.
00:43:46It's a little bit rude and awkward for me.
00:43:48I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:43:53I respect you guys for waiting, and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:43:57There are other things that you can do if you guys didn't want to do the nookie-nookie.
00:44:04There's oral sex. There's fondling.
00:44:07Now you're kind of being really disrespectful here, Mom.
00:44:11I get it. You're trying to be helpful, but you're pushing too far.
00:44:15You know, if we want to talk about sex with you, we'll come up and ask about it.
00:44:21Okay. Excuse me.
00:44:27I thought it was nice that he was defending her honor. That's admirable.
00:44:32But I was very shocked by Forrest's reaction.
00:44:37Thank you very much.
00:44:39Well, Forrest, why is this a, you know, a total of 180 from our normal discussions,
00:44:44where you're right in there using the same language, the same talk, saying,
00:44:47yeah, I'm going to get into that, do that?
00:44:49It's drastic night and day.
00:44:52I see where this is headed.
00:44:54Oh, my God. I miss this place.
00:44:56She was at home.
00:44:57Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.
00:45:02Let's not forget, she was lying to him for years, giving all of her money to her parents
00:45:07instead of saving for their future.
00:45:09And I don't know if Forrest will actually hold her accountable.
00:45:12But we need to get some answers.
00:45:23You don't need to talk about your past.
00:45:27I know, I know everything about your life.
00:45:29You don't know everything.
00:45:30I really want to tell the end about my last engagement because I think it's the only way
00:45:36that we could move forward.
00:45:37Oh, look at the mirrors.
00:45:55Wait, I want to check my outfit.
00:45:57Here, hold that.
00:46:00We look cute.
00:46:03I can see you.
00:46:04Can you see yourself?
00:46:05I can see you.
00:46:07I'm excited to go shopping.
00:46:20It's always crowded.
00:46:22Yeah, yeah.
00:46:23This is an easy place to get lost.
00:46:26Yeah.
00:46:26Today, I wanted to take Emma to Old Medina.
00:46:30I feel so bad because Emma, she loves her job.
00:46:33I want to make her feel so better.
00:46:35And she loves shopping, so.
00:46:38Oh, look at those bags.
00:46:41Those are cute.
00:46:42The marketplace in the Medina, they have a thousand stores there.
00:46:47Oh, my gosh.
00:46:47I love all of these clothes.
00:46:49You can find anything you want.
00:46:52Oh, look at these rugs.
00:46:54Those are nice.
00:46:56Yes.
00:46:57Oh, wait, there's bags.
00:46:58Let's go look at the bags.
00:47:00Let's see what you want.
00:47:04Oh, this is so cute.
00:47:05Can you hold this?
00:47:06I want to look at everything.
00:47:07Yeah, look for anything you want.
00:47:09I think I like these little wallets.
00:47:12These are cute.
00:47:13I think I'm going to buy these three.
00:47:17Not you, me.
00:47:18You're going to get them?
00:47:19Yeah.
00:47:19Hey.
00:47:20It's like my gift to you.
00:47:23Can I give you a kiss?
00:47:24Not hair.
00:47:25Hair kiss?
00:47:26Maybe.
00:47:27Is that okay?
00:47:28Yeah, that's okay.
00:47:29Can I do that from now on?
00:47:30Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:47:30I'll just give you air kisses whenever I want to kiss you?
00:47:32Yeah.
00:47:32It's really nice to have Ziad offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me.
00:47:41That was so romantic because that's never something I've had in the past.
00:47:46It's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than I was feeling yesterday.
00:47:50Where are you taking me, babe?
00:47:53This is popular here in Marrakesh.
00:47:57What is this?
00:47:57What is that?
00:48:04What do we call them in English?
00:48:05Snails.
00:48:07Snails.
00:48:07I like don't want that.
00:48:08Really?
00:48:09No.
00:48:10It's like traditional.
00:48:12I'm not trying it.
00:48:12Tisted.
00:48:12Tisted.
00:48:13No.
00:48:14I literally would throw up.
00:48:20It's so delicious.
00:48:21That is the grossest thing I've ever seen in my whole life.
00:48:24It's a slimy snail.
00:48:26And you just sucked it down.
00:48:29For me, it's delicious.
00:48:34That's like really gross.
00:48:36What's like the weirdest food you've ever tried?
00:48:39Like snails would be weird.
00:48:41For you, for me, no.
00:48:43So for me, sushi, for example.
00:48:45I love sushi.
00:48:46Yeah, it's, we are different.
00:48:49Are we compatible?
00:48:53Mm-hmm.
00:48:59Can you hold my other bag, actually?
00:49:00Uh-huh.
00:49:01What else can we do, like, while we're here?
00:49:03Do you like horses?
00:49:05I love horses.
00:49:07I think we have to choose this one.
00:49:09I like the white ones.
00:49:10Go ahead.
00:49:13Just one by one.
00:49:15One by one.
00:49:18Oh, my God.
00:49:18This is so romantic.
00:49:20Yeah.
00:49:20This is, like, a romantic love ride.
00:49:30This is three kisses.
00:49:31You kiss me today.
00:49:33Okay.
00:49:35I'm happy that we had a better day today.
00:49:38Yeah, me too.
00:49:38It was a big difference between this day and last day.
00:49:42Yesterday was, like, really hard for me.
00:49:46It, like, brought up old feelings.
00:49:49Because, you know, I've, like, been lied to a lot.
00:49:52Like, in my past, like, with past boyfriends.
00:49:54So when you kind of lied to me, it was, like, a trigger for me.
00:49:58Yeah, so you don't need to talk about your past, your bad experience.
00:50:03Do you not care about my past?
00:50:05No.
00:50:06I know you right now, not in past.
00:50:08So...
00:50:08Yeah, but don't you want to know about my life?
00:50:11Just, like, things I've been through.
00:50:12It's, like, don't you want to know about me?
00:50:14Yeah, I know.
00:50:15I know everything about your life.
00:50:16You don't know everything.
00:50:19No, I know everything.
00:50:20I know your family.
00:50:21I know where you live.
00:50:23I know, but there are things that, like, that have happened in my life that you don't know about.
00:50:31Like, I thought.
00:50:32We can leave the impasse.
00:50:33Something impasse is impasse.
00:50:39I want to be vulnerable.
00:50:40I want to share, you know, details about who I am and my past.
00:50:44And I really want to be able to tell Zied about my last engagement because I think it's the only way that we can move forward.
00:50:53But for him to shut me down, it does make me wonder if Zied just doesn't want to talk about the past because maybe he has something that he's hiding or that he doesn't want to tell me.
00:51:07Since I've gotten to Morocco, I've just felt really rejected by him.
00:51:12And so now I'm just feeling a little concerned about everything.
00:51:14I need you to be able to look me in the eye.
00:51:24Why have you lied to us all along?
00:51:27I was so fearful of my parents.
00:51:30They would say bad things to me.
00:51:32They would say bad things to other people.
00:51:33Okay.
00:51:34And it affects me emotionally, mentally, drives me.
00:51:37No, I need that direct answer as to why you continue to hide it.
00:52:07I'm leaving for the Philippines tomorrow to meet with my wife, Anna, for the first time.
00:52:23But me and Anna, we haven't spoken to each other in about a week.
00:52:29My sister talked to Anna Lynn, and she actually unblocked me.
00:52:33But she's still really upset that I'm back in touch with a friend I once had feelings for.
00:52:40There's so much riding on this trip.
00:52:43Anna being as angry is just not good.
00:52:47Hey, what's going on?
00:52:51What's going on?
00:52:52Ask yourself what's going on, Javon.
00:52:56I mean, you know, Anna, don't be so aggressive.
00:53:01Not being aggressive.
00:53:03You told me yourself if we're going to be married, we can't be keeping anyone special from the past.
00:53:13But you're doing it.
00:53:17And I'm not saying that you're cheating on me, but it's like a baby step for any temptation.
00:53:24I'm dealing with so much over here by myself.
00:53:28I'm dealing with your problems.
00:53:29I'm dealing with my problems.
00:53:31And sometimes I don't feel like I'm being emotionally supported by you.
00:53:36So, you know, I kind of felt like I was just a little bit desperate just to be understood and just heard.
00:53:47If you feel like sometimes you can't talk to me, you have siblings, you have a dad, you have a mom.
00:53:56But if you're a big circle, you're still not enough.
00:54:00You're American.
00:54:01Get the therapy.
00:54:02I mean, but, like, who can afford therapy right now?
00:54:13She's not taking any accountability that, you know, she played a part in why I reached out to a friend.
00:54:20I need to be able to rely on my wife, but she makes it impossible.
00:54:26Even when I'm, like, at work and you're going through something, I always try to be there for you emotionally.
00:54:32Okay, okay.
00:54:33You know?
00:54:34Okay, listen.
00:54:35I try, but I don't see you trying for me.
00:54:38When do you show up for me in that way?
00:54:41Oh, God.
00:54:41Like, hello, I've been waiting for you for six years.
00:54:50I have devoted, invested so much love.
00:54:59If you don't feel like that's understanding enough, waiting for you for that love,
00:55:05I don't know what is.
00:55:11I know you've made, you know, some sacrifice by waiting for me for this long,
00:55:21and I do apologize, and I do take accountability for what I've done.
00:55:29Okay.
00:55:30Okay.
00:55:33So you're going to stop talking to her?
00:55:35I can stop, but can we at least work on our communication?
00:55:44Okay.
00:55:46Okay.
00:55:47That's all I want, boo.
00:55:48That's it.
00:55:51With Javon coming out of the Philippines,
00:55:53I do feel like I could let go of some negative feelings about this situation,
00:56:00but even though he agreed that he's not going to talk to that woman anymore,
00:56:06do I believe it?
00:56:11No, not really.
00:56:12So I will definitely talk about this again in person.
00:56:19Do you think we can, like, move past it?
00:56:22Like, when we see each other?
00:56:24I don't know.
00:56:26Maybe.
00:56:26Maybe.
00:56:30Maybe.
00:56:32No.
00:56:36Oh!
00:56:41Wow, look at this place!
00:56:47This was a church.
00:56:47Oh!
00:56:481588!
00:56:48Man, that is old.
00:56:51Here, we got a celebration here.
00:56:53Dad, want some fish, you guys!
00:56:56Yes!
00:56:57Yes!
00:57:02Yeah, it's precision.
00:57:04Oh, my goodness!
00:57:06We call that fiesta.
00:57:07Oh, yes!
00:57:08That's a culture for Catholics here in my country.
00:57:10Goodness!
00:57:12Yes! Oh, my God!
00:57:14Yeah, it's really cool.
00:57:15Look at this!
00:57:19I decided to take Boris and his family to Chinatown
00:57:22because I'm a Chinese mix.
00:57:25My mom is Chinese descent,
00:57:27so I wanted to show how Chinese culture
00:57:30inter-bonded with Filipino culture.
00:57:34Smell that?
00:57:35Oh, that smells so good!
00:57:37So this is a place to make handmade noodles.
00:57:40I eat that air!
00:57:42Hello! Oh!
00:57:44Yesterday, I was quite a little nervous
00:57:46to meet Boris's parents, especially Molly.
00:57:50Okay, thank you! Thank you!
00:57:52There's been problems between me and Molly,
00:57:55but I'm so glad that she happened to accept me.
00:57:58And I wanted to provide them the best first day
00:58:02here in the Philippines.
00:58:04Yum!
00:58:05Oh, thank you!
00:58:07Slurps up!
00:58:08Slurps up and slurps up, huh?
00:58:09Yeah, actually, that's here.
00:58:11The culture here, you want to slurp,
00:58:12it means you're eating the good noodles,
00:58:14so that's a good sign.
00:58:15So the loud are the best, right?
00:58:16Yeah, yes.
00:58:17Here I go.
00:58:20Yeah, you are the king of slurps.
00:58:22I made sure to get on my glasses.
00:58:24That's the key.
00:58:25This is so good.
00:58:26Yeah.
00:58:27Well, Sheena,
00:58:29I wanted to thank you for your apology yesterday.
00:58:35I mean, that really showed a lot to me.
00:58:39But I did want to ask you about a few things.
00:58:48Okay?
00:58:49Okay, Mom.
00:58:50I'm listening.
00:58:51I want you to be able to look me in the eye,
00:58:53and I need you to be truthful with me 100%.
00:59:01You lied to us about giving your parents the money.
00:59:06This was supposed to be you saving up money
00:59:09so you could come to America to be a family with us.
00:59:13These were the plans all of these years.
00:59:16And then for it to just find out now,
00:59:20before we come here,
00:59:22that hasn't been happening.
00:59:26Why have you lied to us all along?
00:59:33I really owe you millions and thousands of explanations.
00:59:37I hope you can listen to my situation.
00:59:39Why is it you have?
00:59:41The reason why that I happen to give my money to my parents
00:59:45is because being a breadwinner,
00:59:48it's a cultural thing in my country
00:59:50that we are obligated to help our parents around.
00:59:54I mean, I completely understand giving your parents money,
00:59:57needing to help your family.
00:59:58That's what family does.
01:00:00But my issue with it is that you lie.
01:00:06To be honest, the reason also,
01:00:12that's the other reason that I was so scared,
01:00:15because my parents, my mom happened to guilt-tripping me
01:00:20from time to time.
01:00:22If I don't give them money,
01:00:24she makes me feel that I'm such a selfish person
01:00:27and it hurts me a lot.
01:00:29Okay, but if I'm asking you a direct question,
01:00:32I need that direct answer.
01:00:34And even now, you haven't given me a direct answer
01:00:38as to why you continue to hide it.
01:00:45Watching Sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful.
01:00:50I'm wanting to step in and defend her and protect Sheena,
01:00:54but at the same time, I don't understand
01:00:57what fears she had of telling me.
01:01:00I was so fearful of my parents.
01:01:04They would say bad things to me.
01:01:06They would say bad things to other people.
01:01:07Okay.
01:01:08And it affects me emotionally, mentally,
01:01:10it drains me everything.
01:01:11Uh-uh. No.
01:01:12And it makes me feel so bad.
01:01:14No. No.
01:01:15Sheena, I'm not asking you that.
01:01:17I'm asking you why you did not tell us.
01:01:23I couldn't handle myself anymore.
01:01:28Sheena, I can't understand what you're saying.
01:01:32I am sorry.
01:01:33Oh, my God.
01:01:34See, there's your manipulation.
01:01:36With the tears.
01:01:37Please put your tissue down.
01:01:41I'm trying to have Sheena acknowledge actions
01:01:44that she did that weren't acceptable.
01:01:48So even if she did have good reason
01:01:50to give it all to her parents.
01:01:52What's the motivation for hiding it?
01:01:54We gotta get answers.
01:01:55Oh, my God.
01:01:59Oh, my God.
01:02:03This is really happening.
01:02:04Oh, my God.
01:02:05Oh, my God.
01:02:06Oh, my God.
01:02:07Oh, my God.
01:02:08I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:02:09I love this, but I am worried about some things.
01:02:13She was physical with a woman.
01:02:15Oh, my God.
01:02:16Oh, my God.
01:02:17Oh, my God.
01:02:18Oh, my God.
01:02:19Oh, my God.
01:02:20Oh, my God.
01:02:21Here he is.
01:02:22Awesome.
01:02:23Here we go.
01:02:24Here goes everything.
01:02:26Oh, my gosh.
01:02:27I'm finally on the floor.
01:02:28Oh, my God.
01:02:29Oh, my God.
01:02:30Oh, my God.
01:02:31Oh, my God.
01:02:32Oh, my God.
01:02:33Oh, my God.
01:02:34Oh, my God.
01:02:35Oh, my God.
01:02:36Here he is.
01:02:37Awesome.
01:02:38Here we go.
01:02:39Yeah.
01:02:40Here goes everything.
01:02:51Oh, my gosh.
01:02:53I'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life, Daniel,
01:02:57in Nigeria for the very first time.
01:03:00What am I doing?
01:03:01I don't know, Mom.
01:03:02What are you doing?
01:03:03Certainly not what I would be doing.
01:03:07It still feels surreal to me that after 21 years of only being
01:03:11with women, I'm traveling across the world to meet a man,
01:03:15and I love him.
01:03:17I love him.
01:03:19You're going to see when I come home how excited and happy I am.
01:03:22You're going to see when I talk to you there how happy I am,
01:03:25and you're going to be happy for me.
01:03:28I just...
01:03:29I don't want it to ruin your heart.
01:03:38I'm going to pee my pants.
01:03:39Oh, God.
01:03:40Please don't.
01:03:43Here we go.
01:03:44Okay.
01:03:47All right.
01:03:49You remember the rules.
01:03:50Don't get married on the trip even when the divorce comes through.
01:03:53Yes.
01:03:54And I would complain about everything.
01:03:56It will be a foundation.
01:03:57And if you have questions.
01:03:58I will ask them.
01:04:02I love you.
01:04:03I love you, too.
01:04:04I'm going to miss you so much.
01:04:07Stay safe.
01:04:08Oh, God.
01:04:10This is the biggest risk I've ever taken.
01:04:12Flying across the world to another country, to Nigeria, Africa,
01:04:17to be with a man I have never met before.
01:04:19I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:22Oh, my God.
01:04:23This is really happening.
01:04:25Oh, my God.
01:04:26Oh, my God.
01:04:27Oh, my God.
01:04:28Oh, my God.
01:04:29Oh, my God.
01:04:30I have no hope I can do this.
01:04:32Happy dance.
01:04:33Happy dance.
01:04:35I hope Daniel will accept me for everything that I am and who I am
01:04:39and that he will become my sixth and final spouse.
01:04:45Thank you, I'm coming.
01:05:00Oh
01:05:17Yeah, no, I don't know. Yeah, no, I've been a bubble
01:05:30Please give me 500 nera, um, pepe
01:05:38My name is Daniel. I am 39 years old
01:05:42I am a Christian from the Igbo tribe. We have traditions and we believe in traditions
01:05:50As an Igbo man, we love competition. We work hard and we have to be honest
01:05:56I grew up very poor. Sometimes we eat once in a day because there's no food
01:06:11My family do the best they can do. I am really close to my family
01:06:17But some years ago, I lost my mom
01:06:20Before she died. She told me that during the war
01:06:24She nearly be killed that a white woman protected her
01:06:27And I have to make sure that I get married to a white woman
01:06:31So I decided I will do it
01:06:33And that's how I found Lisa
01:06:35It's like fire
01:06:37Burning up
01:06:38Lisa is 52 years old
01:06:41She lives in Pennsylvania
01:06:43She's a beautiful woman
01:06:44She has, um, she has a good body structure
01:06:48She's thick
01:06:48She has boobs
01:06:50She has what I want
01:06:51She doesn't hide anything
01:06:55She supports me financially
01:06:57She makes me feel loved
01:06:59That's why
01:07:01I fell in love with her
01:07:03Like fire
01:07:04She doesn't get meoration
01:07:05I'll keep up
01:07:06So that's why
01:07:07She'll continue mom
01:07:10She'll try to stop
01:07:10ああ
01:07:17Why
01:07:18This woman
01:07:19She can kill
01:07:19Because somebody
01:07:21She lives in and
01:07:22qué
01:07:24And my mama
01:07:26I am
01:07:27I have my
01:07:27I am
01:07:28I have i
01:07:29Like
01:07:30I have
01:07:30She
01:07:31I ו
01:07:31I am
01:07:32In our tribe, we do see spiritual leaders to consult the ancestors.
01:08:02We don't believe that same-sex exists in our culture.
01:08:32Anyone caught in the arts will be banished or killed.
01:08:37So we don't do it, we don't accept it here.
01:08:41She gave me her promise that she have stopped it, but I'm nervous.
01:08:44I'm nervous.
01:08:45I'm nervous.
01:08:46I'm nervous.
01:08:47I'm nervous.
01:08:48I'm nervous.
01:08:49I'm nervous.
01:08:51I'm nervous.
01:08:52I'm nervous.
01:08:53I'm nervous.
01:08:54I'm nervous.
01:08:55I'm nervous.
01:08:56I'm nervous.
01:08:57I'm nervous.
01:08:58I'm nervous.
01:08:59I'm nervous.
01:09:00I'm nervous.
01:09:01Now that the ancestors are approved, I want you to move forward on this relationship.
01:09:23I'm planning a big surprise for Nisa when I meet her at the airport.
01:09:27I've been talking to God Almighty to take me away from Nigeria.
01:09:34If I marry Nisa to make me change the story of my family, and if I should make it to America, this will change my life to good.
01:09:44They will.
01:09:44I feel so bad you're dragging my suitcases.
01:09:58Yes.
01:10:00Oh, it feels like it got colder.
01:10:02It gets cold or gets hot.
01:10:05No straight weather.
01:10:09Wow.
01:10:10Here we are.
01:10:21Oh, we're here?
01:10:24Here you go.
01:10:25I will take this.
01:10:27You're welcome.
01:10:27After all of this excitement, anticipation, and buildup of coming to Turkey and meeting Birkan face to face, it's starting off a little bit awkward.
01:10:39But I'm still so happy to be finally standing here with him.
01:10:44It just feels so right.
01:10:47I'm excited to see this.
01:10:50Here you go.
01:10:51Oh, you want me to go first?
01:10:53Yeah, of course.
01:10:54Okay.
01:10:56Oh my God, this is huge.
01:10:59Oh yeah.
01:11:00This is way bigger than it looked in pictures.
01:11:04This is amazing.
01:11:07This kitchen is bigger than almost my every house.
01:11:12This is incredible.
01:11:15You like this?
01:11:16Oh my God, I love this.
01:11:18I'm going to move here.
01:11:20You can see the sea.
01:11:23Everything?
01:11:24Oh my God.
01:11:26Wow.
01:11:29This is amazing.
01:11:30I'm so excited to finally be here and to finally be doing this.
01:11:34It's worth it.
01:11:36All the trip.
01:11:38Yeah.
01:11:40I don't know if it's worth it.
01:11:41Yeah, I know.
01:11:42So, how about you change and we will see the cost?
01:11:51That sounds awesome.
01:11:52Let's do that.
01:11:53Let's do that.
01:11:54All right.
01:11:54Okay.
01:11:59This is the best part of Izmir.
01:12:03This is incredible.
01:12:05I would love to live right there with this view every day.
01:12:09Yeah, I like these old buildings.
01:12:12I do too.
01:12:14Yeah.
01:12:17Architecture is the art we live in.
01:12:21I love that.
01:12:22Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:23That's like really profound.
01:12:24Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:26Birkan has so many like random comments for things and he has a way of taking things that
01:12:32are just very simple and creating this like giant philosophical discussion around it.
01:12:38It's really pretty now that the sun's gone down.
01:12:40When the darkness comes, the light shines out.
01:12:47Sometimes it's a little exhausting because I'm like, oh my God, it's just the sunset.
01:12:51I guess we gotta go this way.
01:12:53Go back this way?
01:12:53Yeah.
01:12:54I feel like a walking zombie right now.
01:12:57Actually, not you.
01:12:58The people are.
01:13:00Not me.
01:13:00I have no idea where I'm going.
01:13:04I don't know where he comes up with all of this.
01:13:07I mean, it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes, but ultimately I like it and I wouldn't change it.
01:13:14How was your day?
01:13:18Yeah, it was good.
01:13:20I enjoyed it.
01:13:22How about you?
01:13:22I mean, I'm exhausted.
01:13:24I traveled a ton to get here, but it was really fun to see some of the sights and...
01:13:37I'm exhausted and I have got to get some sleep.
01:13:40Do you want to go to bed?
01:13:47Actually, it's just nine o'clock and I have no sleep.
01:13:52So why don't you go some sleep and I will watch some TV and join you after.
01:14:03Have a nice night.
01:14:04All right.
01:14:04Good night.
01:14:05Good night.
01:14:05Good night.
01:14:35My flight texted me like as soon as I landed to say, I saw you landed.
01:14:40And then he just kind of checked up on me.
01:14:43I said, everything's good.
01:14:46And then he was like, your tone is less than excited, my dear.
01:14:51So I think it's interesting that he can pick up on that.
01:14:56but I just have a lot of things to process right now.
01:15:04Him just staying out there watching TV,
01:15:07it's just, I don't know, different maybe
01:15:10than what I was expecting.
01:15:12I feel like it's not this like super great magical moment.
01:15:17Just feels off, I don't know how to explain it.
01:15:19Just feels off.
01:15:22It is so ironic and kind of concerning
01:15:26that I'm getting more attention from Michael
01:15:29than I am from the man
01:15:30that I flew halfway around the world to meet.
01:15:35And so I feel like there's something really wrong.
01:15:38And I don't know, maybe he's hiding something
01:15:41or maybe he's just not attracted to me in person.
01:15:46But either way, I'm just kind of questioning
01:15:48why I'm even here at this point.
01:15:56Thank you, Bear Cones.
01:16:03Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:16:06I can't have one of them anymore.
01:16:08No.
01:16:08It doesn't make any sense to me.
01:16:10Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:16:12I want to end this now.
01:16:14You're acting all hostile?
01:16:15I'm not.
01:16:16Yeah, you are.
01:16:17Forrest?
01:16:17My family had been the one who had been influenced
01:16:30since I was a kid.
01:16:32Forrest, they should be helping me around.
01:16:34They kept always promising to me
01:16:36that they would do anything.
01:16:37We can't understand you.
01:16:40You have to speak.
01:16:42You have to be strong.
01:16:42You got to speak clearly.
01:16:44I need you to really, please, point blank.
01:16:52You were giving your parents money.
01:16:55Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?
01:17:00Because I feel so scared
01:17:11that if I happened not to give them money,
01:17:15they would say bad things.
01:17:17They say so many mean things
01:17:19that I don't want to accept it.
01:17:21I was afraid that I was running, running, running.
01:17:25Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:17:28Honestly, when you try to look at it
01:17:30and without the tears and without...
01:17:32I didn't have love anymore.
01:17:35It doesn't make any sense to me at all.
01:17:38The pieces aren't just lining up.
01:17:40I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.
01:17:42It's very concerning because
01:17:52how do I even know
01:17:54that your feelings and plans
01:17:55are actually genuine?
01:17:59Oh, you were scared.
01:18:00Forrest would have come to me
01:18:03and said,
01:18:03Mom, I got to get it on a freaking plane right now.
01:18:06I got to go over there and save her.
01:18:07But it sounds to me
01:18:09you obviously weren't that scared
01:18:11that you couldn't tell him
01:18:12and that you could put up with it
01:18:14and all that years and hide it.
01:18:17Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:18:25A lot of it, yeah.
01:18:27I understand that if you love your parents
01:18:31and you want to have love from them,
01:18:33you would try to do anything
01:18:35to make them love you.
01:18:37Forrest...
01:18:38It's hard to say no to a parent,
01:18:40especially when...
01:18:41That still didn't answer the question as...
01:18:44It's hard for me to say no to you.
01:18:45It's hard for me to take up for her against you.
01:18:50I believe Sheena is not trying to lie
01:18:55or use things as excuses.
01:18:57I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say.
01:19:00And she gets so overwhelmed,
01:19:03all she can get is...
01:19:05You know, diary of the mouth.
01:19:11I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena
01:19:14if I just sat there and watched her flounder.
01:19:17Obviously, she knows she did wrong.
01:19:22What's your goal here?
01:19:23Just to sit here and keep beating her down?
01:19:26I think what we have to do
01:19:28is we need to get Sheena away from her parents
01:19:33because ultimately,
01:19:36the root of this nasty tree
01:19:38is the parents.
01:19:41Sheena, we need to hear from you
01:19:44that you're ready to move forward
01:19:46and confront your parents
01:19:48about what we're going to do from now on.
01:19:52I'm willing to take the risk
01:19:54to confront my parents.
01:19:56It is the only way to end this kind of problem.
01:19:59Which is what she should have done
01:20:01to set up with you...
01:20:02Yeah.
01:20:03...years and years ago.
01:20:04Yeah, and we could sit there
01:20:04and we could talk about the past
01:20:06and he said, she said he could do that.
01:20:08She cannot do that.
01:20:09It's time to move forward now.
01:20:11Forrest?
01:20:12I want to add this now.
01:20:17I don't even want to talk
01:20:18about the parents anymore.
01:20:19I don't want to talk about anything.
01:20:21You're acting all hostile.
01:20:23I'm not hostile.
01:20:23Yeah, you are.
01:20:25And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.
01:20:28You're causing me a lot of stress.
01:20:30We tried to have a nice dinner
01:20:31and our nice dinner turned into...
01:20:34It's okay, babe.
01:20:42I now see that Forrest is too deep.
01:20:45He's just got the blinders on
01:20:47only wanting to believe her.
01:20:51Now he sees us as the big, bad nasties
01:20:54that attacked his poor Sheena.
01:20:56But still, I have to always protect Forrest
01:21:00because I know that he really loves her.
01:21:04And I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.
01:21:14Next time on Before the 90 Days...
01:21:17I'm about to meet my wife for the first time.
01:21:19This is so surreal.
01:21:21Come on.
01:21:23Where are you?
01:21:23This is like ordering something online
01:21:27and we're just excited to unpack the package.
01:21:32Are you nervous?
01:21:35A little bit, yeah, actually.
01:21:37Before I came to Turkey,
01:21:39I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.
01:21:42I have some, like, loose skin in places
01:21:44that I'm looking to have removed.
01:21:48This part is best as possible.
01:21:50But I'm immediately regretting
01:21:52having Freercom come with me.
01:21:54I will just show you some pictures.
01:22:01I've been looking at your page.
01:22:03Every day, you follow new girls.
01:22:06Just girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls.
01:22:08Girls, girls.
01:22:08Yeah.
01:22:09I downloaded this extension on my laptop
01:22:12and it shows you who people follow.
01:22:16This morning, I saw that he was still following thousands of women.
01:22:20So since we've been dating,
01:22:21have you talked romantically to any other girls?
01:22:25She and I had a discussion about going by ourselves
01:22:28to meet your parents
01:22:29and how it's important that I meet them
01:22:30before mom and dad meet them.
01:22:32I can't even imagine
01:22:34what her parents would try and do
01:22:36if Forrest went over there by himself.
01:22:37I need to be there with Forrest.
01:22:41Sheena, your parents are going to do
01:22:43the same line that they've used on you all along.
01:22:47Well, my family isn't a bad people.
01:22:49Now the story changes again.
01:22:52I still don't know if this isn't something
01:22:54that you're involved in either.
01:22:56I love him with everything I am,
01:23:07but he doesn't know that I've been married five times
01:23:11and I'm still married to a woman.
01:23:14What are you doing?
01:23:16What are you doing?
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