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90 Day Fiance: Before the 90 Days - Season 8 Episode 4 -
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Ride
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00:00:00It's so embarrassing. I'm sorry. This is my first time I'm buying condoms.
00:00:05For the past 21 years, I have been with women only, but Daniel has no idea about this aspect of my life.
00:00:12I'm terrified to tell him because a couple of months ago, I told him I had a fling with a woman and he was disgusted.
00:00:23He's 20 years younger than I am.
00:00:25I think I got hair on my chin older than that.
00:00:29Don't make jokes. He doesn't love you. That's not what love is. He wants a ticket to America.
00:00:36There's an absolute possibility this is going to blow up in my face, but if I'm not willing to take a risk for love, then what am I willing to take a risk for?
00:00:48We can't make more than hugs or kiss and check until we get married.
00:00:53But that's just not what you said. A couple weeks ago, I realized that he followed thousands of women, and it turns out that he was talking to one of the girls.
00:01:04Good night.
00:01:04Good night.
00:01:05Now, seeing how he's acting in person, it's making me question things.
00:01:14Oh, my goodness.
00:01:17Sheena and I have been waiting seven years to meet up with each other, and I just want everything to go smoothly.
00:01:24But my mom did not take kindly to Sheena lying about the money again.
00:01:28Apology aside, there's still some things that have to be discussed before we can proceed.
00:01:41I'm scared that I'm going to pee all over the floor, because every time I get nervous, I pee.
00:01:56I'm going to see his face, and it's just going to flow out of me, drip down my legs, and what an impression that's going to be.
00:02:01I am nervous, and I am excited, and I'm scared to death, because things can be different when he meets you in person.
00:02:18What if he hides? What if he changes his mind once I get there?
00:02:21I don't know what he's going to think about me.
00:02:23I don't know if he's going to be like, wow, she's a lot older than I thought.
00:02:31Today, I'm leaving for Nigeria to go see Daniel for the first time, and I'm feeling overwhelmed and excited and nervous.
00:02:42My daughter, Faith, brought up some serious concerns at dinner the other night, that Daniel could be scamming me, and I'm not ignoring them.
00:02:50But all I can think about is how I just want to touch his face and feel the dimples in his cheeks and feel his beard.
00:02:57I want to pull him in and just kiss him.
00:03:01These are the wigs I am taking with me. They're brand new.
00:03:06I have three, because they get ruined very fast.
00:03:10I will not be wearing the wig on the plane.
00:03:14My plan is to put it on in the bathroom once I land.
00:03:17It just needs to go on my carry-on bag.
00:03:21Wearing a wig, it's a process, and it's not fun.
00:03:24It sticks to your hair, it sticks to your skin, you have rashes, you have all kinds of sores.
00:03:32It's going to be stressful to deal with in Nigeria, but it makes him so happy.
00:03:38I want to look beautiful for Daniel, so I will be keeping it on all day and all night.
00:03:42I'm sleeping in my wig.
00:03:43So today, Mom is going to Nigeria.
00:03:51I'm pretty nervous.
00:03:55Not sure how it's going to go.
00:03:58She's horrible with directions.
00:04:00I am hopeful she gets the answers and the relationship she's hoping for.
00:04:08But honestly, there's still a lot of concerns for me.
00:04:12Hi, Faith.
00:04:14I have some toast and coffee for you.
00:04:17Oh, wonderful. Thank you.
00:04:19Yeah, freshly brewed.
00:04:21Thank you. That's the first thing I want.
00:04:23I know.
00:04:24All right, listen. Here's something really important.
00:04:27The certified letter is coming for the divorce.
00:04:29Yeah.
00:04:30So you have to go to the post office to mail it.
00:04:33That has to be done.
00:04:35Like immediately?
00:04:36Yes.
00:04:37Because the court hearing date that the judge signs the paper is on the 29th,
00:04:41so that the divorce becomes finalized on the 29th.
00:04:44I want to come clean and tell him that not only I was still married, but the divorce is there.
00:04:50And I want to show him the papers of the divorce.
00:04:52If I'm just, Mom, you not only lied about the fact that, oh, you didn't just have a fling with a woman.
00:05:00No, you've been married to women several times.
00:05:03But you also told him, you're not married.
00:05:07Not only does he not know that I've been with women for the past 21 years,
00:05:14Daniel doesn't know that I am technically still married to a woman.
00:05:18He asked me if I was free to marry when he first started talking to me.
00:05:26And I said, yeah, I'm free to marry.
00:05:28Because in my heart, I have been free to marry.
00:05:30Because my ex-wife and I have been separated for over nine years.
00:05:34We just never got around to signing the divorce papers until now.
00:05:38If that happened to me, I would be devastated.
00:05:42I wouldn't be able to trust that person.
00:05:44Well, I'm going to come clean on this trip and tell him everything.
00:05:48I'm not going to accept the marriage proposal until we have this conversation.
00:05:51He's going to know about it beforehand.
00:05:57Just trust me.
00:05:58I'm just worried.
00:05:59Don't worry.
00:06:00Don't worry.
00:06:01I got this.
00:06:02Let's get going.
00:06:03We need to get to the airport.
00:06:05It is getting late.
00:06:06And we don't have a flight to get to.
00:06:08I do have a flight.
00:06:10I struggle trusting my mom that she's not going to somehow try and get married in there.
00:06:16Please do not ruin your life for getting married to somebody before you're ready.
00:06:21I need to grab my phone.
00:06:23That's the last thing I need.
00:06:28So if Danny was asking you to get married while you're in that area, would you keep your hands to faith?
00:06:32Would I go against faith's wishes?
00:06:36I want to say no.
00:06:43But my heart says, hold on to Daniel and do it.
00:06:48Jump with both feet in.
00:06:52I want to be Mrs. Daniel.
00:06:55I want to be with him.
00:06:57I want to be a part of him.
00:06:58Um, I want to be his wife.
00:07:02So I don't know what I'll do.
00:07:04I really don't know.
00:07:07Will you grab one of the suitcases?
00:07:09Yeah, I can do that.
00:07:11Woo, here we go.
00:07:12Here we go.
00:07:24Oh, 61.
00:07:28What?
00:07:29Oh, 61.
00:07:31I got three.
00:07:32Oh, you done good.
00:07:33Oh, 70.
00:07:37I met my husband when I was in high school.
00:07:40I was married to a soldier.
00:07:43He, uh, lived up the street.
00:07:46My husband and I met in junior college.
00:07:49We loved to skate.
00:07:50So our first date was going skating.
00:07:54The first date, we went to a fair.
00:07:57And, uh, I sort of thought, you know, I like him.
00:08:05I didn't want to be with anybody else.
00:08:09That was just, that was it.
00:08:11He said, I wanted you to have a heart ring.
00:08:19And here it is.
00:08:24I've done waiting.
00:08:27No more hesitating.
00:08:30There ain't nothing more to once more.
00:08:34You got to feel it.
00:08:36You got to believe it.
00:08:38There's a whole new world you're looking for.
00:08:43Big four.
00:08:45Good afternoon.
00:08:48Lemonade.
00:08:49Oh, boy.
00:08:50My name is Javon.
00:08:52I'm 38 years old.
00:08:53And I grew up in Jacksonville, Alabama.
00:08:57Who's winning?
00:08:58Who has a bingo?
00:08:59I've got several bingos.
00:09:01Oh, nice.
00:09:03I work in a nursing home.
00:09:05And I like my job.
00:09:07Thank you, Emma.
00:09:09You know, old people, they just say some of the first things that come to their mind.
00:09:14They have no filters.
00:09:15And it's just pure comedy.
00:09:17What did you bring us today?
00:09:19We have grapes, crackers, cheese, salami.
00:09:23Ooh, look at all that cheese.
00:09:26But it's just a low-paying job.
00:09:28Anybody else need any silverware?
00:09:30I think that's where I fall short when it comes to women.
00:09:34American women, they want six-pack, six figures, six inches.
00:09:40I call them three sixes.
00:09:43And it's not me.
00:09:48That's good.
00:09:49We hear you're going to the Philippines.
00:09:53Oh, yeah.
00:09:55Yeah, it's a trip way overdue.
00:09:56I'm going to see my wife.
00:09:59When was the last time you saw her?
00:10:03Uh, actually, I've never even met my wife yet.
00:10:09So this would be actually our first meet.
00:10:12Oh, okay.
00:10:17Really?
00:10:18Yeah.
00:10:20My wife is Anna Lynn.
00:10:23She's 38 years old.
00:10:25And she's from the Philippines, Cavite.
00:10:28Hey, boo, it's your wife.
00:10:30I hope you're having a great day.
00:10:37We connected online about five years ago.
00:10:40And we've been married for about two years.
00:10:45He said that?
00:10:47No, that's wrong.
00:10:49We have been in a relationship for six years.
00:10:51And we have been married for almost three years.
00:10:55Okay?
00:10:58Hello, boo-boo.
00:10:59I love you.
00:11:00And I appreciate you.
00:11:03Boy, the moment I saw him, he's so good to look at.
00:11:08Yummers.
00:11:10Even though we were on the opposite sides of the world,
00:11:17we would talk for hours every day.
00:11:19And he just made me feel like the happiest that I've ever been.
00:11:25Maybe a year after we started talking online,
00:11:29I wanted to meet Anna Lynn in person.
00:11:31But when COVID hit, I couldn't no longer travel.
00:11:36There were flight restrictions.
00:11:37I was kind of feeling hopeless.
00:11:41And I was afraid that I'm going to lose him.
00:11:44And then I was scrolling on social media,
00:11:47and I saw these couples getting married online.
00:11:51And I thought if we were married legally,
00:11:54he would be able to enter the Philippine border
00:11:57because they allow family, which means blood or your spouse.
00:12:02When Anna Lynn first brought up online marriages,
00:12:08I was just like, what the hell?
00:12:11I had doubts, of course, because it's unorthodox,
00:12:18but I just had a lot of faith.
00:12:20When you meet the one that you're supposed to spend the rest of your life with,
00:12:24you can't even actually put it into words.
00:12:25It's like, that's what they say.
00:12:27When you know you know, it's kind of like that.
00:12:31All right.
00:12:32Place the rings on your fingers
00:12:34as a symbol of the love that you share
00:12:36and the commitment that you're making.
00:12:38How I envisioned my wedding was not a Zoom call.
00:12:43Absolutely not.
00:12:44But it was still the happiest day of my life.
00:12:47It is now my privilege to pronounce you
00:12:49lawfully wed as husband and wife.
00:12:54I finally have my perfect wife.
00:13:00I just need to meet her in person.
00:13:03How could you be married for years
00:13:05and never go to the Philippines to see your wife?
00:13:10The whole thing is very expensive,
00:13:12so, you know, and then I have to save up for it.
00:13:14So that's mostly the reason why.
00:13:18Over the years, me and Anna Lynn
00:13:20have tried to meet up several times,
00:13:22but work and finance has gotten away.
00:13:26And having a marriage online has been challenging.
00:13:31Especially because Anna Lynn has changed
00:13:34when I first met Anna,
00:13:37she was more patient, sweeter.
00:13:41She just had more positive vibes about her.
00:13:44Like, hold on, what's going on here?
00:13:47I've always been feisty.
00:13:50She knows that.
00:13:52And I'm not the typical Filipina.
00:13:54I don't like being told what to do.
00:13:56I don't like being controlled.
00:13:59After a period of time,
00:14:00I had to fight to actually speak,
00:14:03to be heard.
00:14:04Lately, it feels like we're fighting
00:14:06more than we're getting along.
00:14:08I know we're already committed as man and wife,
00:14:10but before I apply for that spousal visa
00:14:13and move Anna Lynn to the U.S.,
00:14:16we need to spend physical time with one another
00:14:18to make sure I made the right choice.
00:14:21I'm going out there because I love her.
00:14:25I'm going to give it everything I got,
00:14:27but I'm worried that our problems
00:14:29are maybe a little bit too big to resolve.
00:14:32And if we can't,
00:14:34I don't know how this marriage is going to work.
00:14:36I don't like that we were fighting yesterday,
00:15:04but there's something else
00:15:05I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:15:07that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:15:09What? What is this? What's happening?
00:15:15Emma.
00:15:35I wanted to get out for a bit this morning
00:15:46and clear my mind because my night with Emma was horrible.
00:16:01I want to be her husband,
00:16:04but we need some time to know each other.
00:16:07I hope things better today.
00:16:08I pictured my first morning here a lot differently.
00:16:16Like, I thought I'd be waking up next to him
00:16:19and he would be, like, bringing me coffee in the morning
00:16:21and cuddling with me,
00:16:22and that's not how it went at all.
00:16:25We've actually just been completely separate.
00:16:30Zia's behavior last night,
00:16:31it's making me a little suspicious,
00:16:33but I'm trying not to just be in my head
00:16:37and overthink things.
00:16:38I want this to be fun
00:16:39and I want us to just focus on
00:16:42the positives.
00:16:44I'm really determined to turn things around.
00:16:46I want this to be fun.
00:17:16That's it.
00:17:17This is your place.
00:17:18I hope you will like it.
00:17:19Thanks, babe.
00:17:26Hello.
00:17:32She's adorable.
00:17:35My favorite.
00:17:36Eggs.
00:17:38I don't like eggs, but I'll eat it
00:17:40because she cooked it.
00:17:42Do you want to talk about yesterday?
00:17:43What do you want to start for what?
00:17:47I mean, it wasn't really, like,
00:17:48a good start to my trip.
00:17:51I don't like that we were fighting all day.
00:17:53Yeah.
00:17:54That's not how I expected, like,
00:17:55my first night to go.
00:17:58Can you pour me some more tea, please?
00:18:01Yeah.
00:18:01Oh, you drink that all quickly?
00:18:03I love the tea here.
00:18:05Okay.
00:18:05Um, but yes, I did want to say sorry
00:18:08to you.
00:18:09I don't hear you.
00:18:11I don't hear you.
00:18:12I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:13Can you repeat I don't hear what you said?
00:18:15I wanted to say sorry.
00:18:16For what?
00:18:18For running away from your kiss.
00:18:22And?
00:18:24Walking away from you
00:18:26when you were talking.
00:18:26I mean, I'm sorry.
00:18:30Yesterday got, like, really dramatic,
00:18:31but I think it was just a long day for me
00:18:33because I was traveling for, like, 20 hours.
00:18:36I know it's difficult.
00:18:38And it was just, like, a lot going on.
00:18:39There was, like, a lot in my mind.
00:18:42Actually, there's something else
00:18:44I wanted to, like, talk to you about
00:18:45that, like, I didn't tell you yet.
00:18:47I was just, like, upset the past couple days
00:19:04because you know how much I love my job.
00:19:07Like, I've been there for five years.
00:19:09And.
00:19:11Well, I got fired.
00:19:12Really?
00:19:19I don't know if I want to talk about it
00:19:20because I'm going to cry.
00:19:21No, no, you don't need this.
00:19:24Listen, listen.
00:19:27I just need a minute.
00:19:30Emma.
00:19:38Sorry.
00:19:39No, no.
00:19:40Don't cry.
00:19:42It's, uh...
00:19:43I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:19:44It's all right.
00:19:45It's just a walk.
00:19:47It's perfect.
00:19:49And you don't need to cry for it.
00:19:52So just enjoy your moments.
00:19:54No, don't cry.
00:19:55Don't cry.
00:19:55Okay.
00:19:56Don't cry.
00:19:57Okay.
00:20:04I don't know what I'm going to do.
00:20:06I don't have any, like, options right now.
00:20:09It's difficult and it's hard.
00:20:11But at the end, there is a lot of jobs.
00:20:13Yeah.
00:20:14You will find another one more better than you last.
00:20:18Right now, I want you to enjoy here in Marrakesh.
00:20:22We are together and everything will be good.
00:20:26I think we definitely started this trip, like, on the wrong foot.
00:20:35It was like a tornado.
00:20:37But right now, he is showing me that he cares about what I'm going through.
00:20:41I love you, babe.
00:20:42Yeah, it is.
00:20:42I love you, ma.
00:20:44But what's the mean tornado?
00:20:46Like an earthquake.
00:20:48Like a natural disaster.
00:20:49So, like, when I got off the plane, what happened between us was, like, an earthquake.
00:20:54Yeah, yeah.
00:20:54That's an amazing example.
00:20:55I get it.
00:20:56Yeah, really.
00:21:00My future hubby.
00:21:02Oh.
00:21:03Do you know what that means?
00:21:05No.
00:21:05In your space?
00:21:06What's the mean?
00:21:07It's short for husband.
00:21:08Really?
00:21:09Yeah.
00:21:10Where is it?
00:21:10Hubby.
00:21:12Uh, wifey.
00:21:13Yeah.
00:21:15Exactly.
00:21:16Exactly.
00:21:16Exactly.
00:21:16Exactly.
00:21:19I can't believe the trees, how beautiful they are.
00:21:42I gotta believe how hot it is.
00:21:43I'm probably gonna...
00:21:43I can't believe how hot it is.
00:21:45I'm gonna have a sunburn in about 10 seconds.
00:21:47All right, see you later, Deb.
00:21:57See you later.
00:22:00I just arrived in the Philippines with my parents and finally met the girl of my dreams after
00:22:08seven years.
00:22:09Just being able to touch and hold her hand, it was so amazing.
00:22:14Did a little more than hold hands, I'd say.
00:22:17Waka waka.
00:22:19Yeah.
00:22:23Oh, this is incredible.
00:22:25Yeah, there's a lot to take in here.
00:22:28Crazy.
00:22:29This is definitely controlled chaos.
00:22:31If I could describe the Philippines in one word, it'd be hectic.
00:22:38It's got people, like, almost running into each other or running each other over constantly.
00:22:43Oh, man.
00:22:45Glad I'm not driving.
00:22:47But it's got its own, like, charm to it.
00:22:51Look at that.
00:22:51That thing is pretty good.
00:22:52Yes, this is the jeepney.
00:22:54This is locally here in my country.
00:22:56They have converted old jeepneys from the World War II who have been left with Americans,
00:23:00so they can for, like, taxis.
00:23:03Incredible.
00:23:05You can see the big building there.
00:23:07That's the condo we're gonna stay.
00:23:10I wish I could have to stay at your place.
00:23:12Yeah.
00:23:13Sheena's parents own her apartment in Manila,
00:23:16but we're not staying there because her parents said we had to pay for it if we did stay.
00:23:23When Sheena told me that, it made me really upset because I'm planning on marrying their daughter,
00:23:28and I would be their son, and to charge family to come stay at their house is just absurd,
00:23:35especially because we have been saving for the last seven years just to afford the plane ticket
00:23:39to actually just meet her.
00:23:42Sheena said,
00:23:42I know it doesn't make sense, but it's what my parents want.
00:23:45It's their wishes.
00:23:45I can't really go around that, but I'm not paying them money.
00:23:53This is the place.
00:23:54All right.
00:23:55All right, we are here.
00:24:00Here you go, Molly.
00:24:01That's it.
00:24:02The jackpot.
00:24:03I got it.
00:24:04All right, charge.
00:24:08Sheena is an extreme foodie,
00:24:10and she likes to make sure that I'm well fed.
00:24:14Well, that's a cultural thing in my country.
00:24:17Whoa!
00:24:18I'd like to open him up and see what he's about.
00:24:20Oh, my goodness.
00:24:21I can definitely smell him.
00:24:23Oh.
00:24:23Yeah, you know.
00:24:25Yeah, he's a little excited at the top.
00:24:27Don't go for that.
00:24:28Yeah, okay.
00:24:29So, sorry, baby.
00:24:34This is all I could get for you guys.
00:24:37You can see that we have two bedrooms here.
00:24:40It's like a simple home, but comfy, so.
00:24:44The place is nice.
00:24:45It's pretty.
00:24:46But it could have been a little bit bigger.
00:24:49I state this claim in the name of Forrest.
00:24:54It feels good.
00:24:56You're big, too.
00:24:57Here, I'll throw these in here for you.
00:24:59It's not exactly the ideal place to be sharing with my parents.
00:25:03If me and Sheena, you know, decide to get down,
00:25:05I really just hope my parents don't hear us.
00:25:11Sheena.
00:25:12What?
00:25:12This feels more than online right now.
00:25:17Oh.
00:25:17You know, it's making me more nervous.
00:25:21Oh, you don't have to be.
00:25:22I'm here right with you.
00:25:23Oh, I know.
00:25:24I can see.
00:25:25Yeah, you're so excited, huh?
00:25:27Oh, yeah.
00:25:27Oh, yeah.
00:25:28Because I got some good stuff here.
00:25:32Excuse me, baby.
00:25:34Boom.
00:25:35What is that?
00:25:36This is something amazing,
00:25:38and I want you to try it on for me if you want.
00:25:43Wow, what's that thing?
00:25:46I think it is a cloth
00:25:48that goes on your body
00:25:50and accentuates your sexuality.
00:25:56Oh, that's nice.
00:25:57I love the color.
00:25:59Oh, yeah.
00:26:00That's cool.
00:26:00I guess, guess what?
00:26:01There's even more.
00:26:03What?
00:26:03You have more?
00:26:04I have more.
00:26:06Oh, wow.
00:26:07I got you a pretty thong.
00:26:10Wow.
00:26:12To be honest,
00:26:13I feel quite nervous
00:26:15because I am a virgin.
00:26:18But Forrest makes me feel confident
00:26:21of my body.
00:26:22This is another one for you
00:26:23in case you want to.
00:26:25Oh, it's pretty.
00:26:26It's cool.
00:26:27It's beautiful.
00:26:27Oh, okay.
00:26:30All right, okay.
00:26:37You're so handsome, always.
00:26:38I'm going to go brush my teeth.
00:26:40Okay.
00:26:40Go for it, my love.
00:26:41Deep brush.
00:26:42All right.
00:26:43Do everything, my love.
00:26:46You know,
00:26:47when I was making, like,
00:26:49sexy talk with her,
00:26:49I was really just trying
00:26:50to, like, put her at ease,
00:26:52make her laugh,
00:26:53you know,
00:26:54just calm the mood.
00:26:57I've been waiting seven years
00:26:58to be alone with Sheena like this.
00:27:01But to be honest,
00:27:03I'm actually kind of still nervous
00:27:04about what is my heart to do.
00:27:08I mean,
00:27:09I'm not saying I can't pull her socks off,
00:27:11but having sex with Sheena,
00:27:14I feel like it's an important thing
00:27:17for the both of us
00:27:18to be in the right mindset.
00:27:22It's just a big deal.
00:27:24I love you.
00:27:25I love you.
00:27:26Do you want the lights on or off?
00:27:27Well, turn off the lights, babe.
00:27:35It's absolutely wild
00:27:36that I'm finally on the ground here.
00:27:40I still have flaws and imperfections,
00:27:43and so I am nervous
00:27:44that BeerCon won't be
00:27:47as attracted to me in person.
00:27:49Oh, my God.
00:27:50Here we go.
00:27:56We're in the process of landing,
00:27:58and I don't know
00:27:59if it was the cheese sandwich
00:28:01or BeerCon,
00:28:02but I'm excited.
00:28:03So this is the most important day,
00:28:16actually,
00:28:17in my life.
00:28:18I'm trying to look good,
00:28:20you know,
00:28:20for our big meeting,
00:28:22for the first time.
00:28:24Everything has to go perfect,
00:28:26so I will iron it
00:28:28until it's perfect
00:28:29or it's burned.
00:28:32Laura is arriving
00:28:33to the kids' day,
00:28:34and today might be
00:28:37the first day
00:28:38of my rest of my life.
00:28:40Laura rented
00:28:41this Airbnb for us.
00:28:44because I never saw
00:28:45this big of a place.
00:28:49It just chills me.
00:28:53Right now,
00:28:54I'm staying with
00:28:55different friends,
00:28:57sometimes Izmir,
00:28:58sometimes Istanbul.
00:29:00That's why Laura
00:29:01couldn't stay with me.
00:29:04But the privacy
00:29:05of our place
00:29:06is going to be nice
00:29:07because we have
00:29:09a lot of things
00:29:10to discuss face-to-face.
00:29:11It's absolutely wild
00:29:24that I'm finally
00:29:26on the ground here.
00:29:27I'm so excited now.
00:29:30I just want to run
00:29:31out of this airport
00:29:31and leave all my luggage here.
00:29:39Oh.
00:29:41Oh, my God.
00:29:44She come early.
00:29:54It's slightly cold
00:29:55that I am having
00:29:56a heart attack
00:29:57or I am excited.
00:29:59Yeah, we will see.
00:30:02I am going to wear a dress
00:30:04to meet this man.
00:30:06I think that will be
00:30:07a lot cuter
00:30:07than the hot mist
00:30:09that I'm currently wearing.
00:30:12I'm really proud
00:30:13of the progress
00:30:14that I've made
00:30:15over the last 14 months,
00:30:16but I still have flaws
00:30:19and imperfections,
00:30:20and so I am nervous
00:30:22that BeerCon won't be
00:30:25as attracted to me
00:30:26in person.
00:30:27And I think
00:30:28that's a cute dress.
00:30:30All right.
00:30:31The woman I love
00:30:37is coming,
00:30:38so I'm thrilled.
00:30:40My hopes are
00:30:41we will get engaged
00:30:42and go to America,
00:30:44live together,
00:30:46and get married.
00:30:47But maybe
00:30:49she will hate me.
00:30:51Nobody knows.
00:30:56This is it?
00:30:57I can't believe
00:30:58I'm about to meet him.
00:31:08Oh, my God.
00:31:09Here we go.
00:31:10She lies in truth
00:31:12Welcome, gorgeous.
00:31:20How are you?
00:31:21Good, how are you?
00:31:22I'm good.
00:31:24How are you doing?
00:31:25It was so long.
00:31:27Yeah, I know.
00:31:28I am still thinking
00:31:29about, oh, my God,
00:31:30America.
00:31:31Yeah.
00:31:38Welcome again.
00:31:39I think everything
00:31:42is perfect
00:31:43right now.
00:31:44Yeah.
00:31:45That's really sweet.
00:31:46Yeah, it was.
00:31:47I know.
00:31:48I know.
00:31:49Yeah.
00:31:52So let's go this way.
00:31:55Okay.
00:31:56These bumps
00:31:57are a pain
00:31:57with suitcases.
00:31:58He looks amazing.
00:32:00Exactly the aesthetic
00:32:01that I've been describing,
00:32:03which is that
00:32:04dark romance
00:32:05male main character.
00:32:07When you look at her,
00:32:08what do you think?
00:32:08She's perfect.
00:32:09I don't need to look at her.
00:32:11I don't need
00:32:12because I feel it,
00:32:13you know?
00:32:14I'm complete,
00:32:15so we don't need to see.
00:32:16That's probably
00:32:17the best answer ever.
00:32:23That was like
00:32:24the best flight
00:32:25I've ever taken.
00:32:26Yeah.
00:32:26Seriously.
00:32:28I'm glad.
00:32:29I'm really glad.
00:32:31Yeah.
00:32:32Yeah.
00:32:38I don't know what's happening.
00:32:56It's very awkward right now.
00:32:58I really wasn't expecting that
00:33:03because, you know,
00:33:04it was like great
00:33:05when we first met.
00:33:06He hugged me,
00:33:06he kissed me,
00:33:07and then we sit on this train,
00:33:09and it's like
00:33:09he doesn't know who I am,
00:33:11and I don't know who he is.
00:33:13I think we're close.
00:33:22I'm hoping that
00:33:24as time moves forward
00:33:25that this will turn around,
00:33:28and it will feel more like it did
00:33:30when we were online,
00:33:31but right now,
00:33:33something is off,
00:33:34and it's freaking me out.
00:33:36Anna called me like it were,
00:33:46talking about your brother,
00:33:47your brother.
00:33:48I know that Anna is
00:33:491,000% unhinged,
00:33:51like kind of off her rocker
00:33:52a little bit.
00:33:53She was just talking
00:33:54about that woman.
00:33:58Uh, yeah.
00:34:00Who is the woman?
00:34:06Hey, yo, I'm ready to roll.
00:34:11Fully loaded,
00:34:12I'm ready for whoa.
00:34:14Straight up out of the bunker,
00:34:15might jump ya.
00:34:17Zombies out here to hunt ya.
00:34:19This is nice.
00:34:22Really?
00:34:23This is screaming,
00:34:25I failed a pottery class.
00:34:27No, but she doesn't like
00:34:27how you dress,
00:34:28so you gotta do something else.
00:34:29Ugh.
00:34:31Yeah, yeah.
00:34:32Go on to grill,
00:34:33but you are the kill,
00:34:34we are the skill.
00:34:35Adrenaline,
00:34:36I'm brushed in your blood
00:34:37for real.
00:34:37If you can feel that,
00:34:39then you can feel us.
00:34:40Now here comes the rush.
00:34:42I think you got
00:34:42some good purchases.
00:34:43Ugh.
00:34:44Yeah, I don't have
00:34:45a lot of faith in that shirt.
00:34:47It'll be fine.
00:34:49It's gonna be fine.
00:34:51I'm running some
00:34:52last minute errands
00:34:53with my sister Ashley
00:34:54because I'm flying
00:34:55to the Philippines
00:34:56in a couple of days
00:34:57to meet my wife
00:34:58for the first time
00:34:59in person.
00:35:01I'm excited
00:35:02and I'm super nervous
00:35:03because we've been married
00:35:05for three years.
00:35:06But we've never been
00:35:07in the same room
00:35:08or even the same continent
00:35:10with each other.
00:35:12So,
00:35:13are you all packed up?
00:35:15You ready?
00:35:15Uh,
00:35:16I think I'm as ready
00:35:17as I'm ever gonna be.
00:35:20And you know,
00:35:20me and Anna's relationship,
00:35:21it's just been this spiraling,
00:35:24like,
00:35:24up and down,
00:35:25loop-de-loop,
00:35:26rollercoaster ride.
00:35:27But when things are good,
00:35:28I'm like really happy
00:35:29to be in a relationship.
00:35:30I think Anna's very funny.
00:35:32Yeah?
00:35:33Like, Anna seems like
00:35:34she's a good time.
00:35:36She's just a lot.
00:35:37Mm-hmm.
00:35:40Javon,
00:35:41marrying somebody online
00:35:42was actually wild to me.
00:35:45I do think
00:35:45they love each other,
00:35:46but I don't know, like,
00:35:48I wouldn't just call this,
00:35:49like, a normal marriage.
00:35:51This is something
00:35:52I've never seen
00:35:53or heard of before.
00:35:56You know, like,
00:35:56Anna actually called me.
00:36:00You spoke to her?
00:36:02Mm-hmm.
00:36:04She called me,
00:36:05like, at work,
00:36:06I'm working,
00:36:07I'm with customers,
00:36:09and she's just, you know,
00:36:10talking about,
00:36:11your brother,
00:36:12your brother,
00:36:12I don't know
00:36:12what to do with him.
00:36:13Rah, rah, rah.
00:36:15Rah, rah, rah.
00:36:16And I was like,
00:36:17can't even get her
00:36:18off the phone.
00:36:19Yeah.
00:36:20She was just talking
00:36:21about that woman.
00:36:25Uh, yeah.
00:36:30So who,
00:36:32who is the woman?
00:36:38So the woman
00:36:39is just, like,
00:36:41a friend of mine
00:36:42that I've,
00:36:42that I've known
00:36:43for a long time.
00:36:46We communicate so well,
00:36:48and we can stay
00:36:49on the phone for hours.
00:36:50I think because
00:36:51we're both having problems
00:36:52in our, you know,
00:36:53relationship,
00:36:54it's, it's,
00:36:55it's definitely
00:36:55more easygoing
00:36:57and it's more positive.
00:37:01So, but what is it
00:37:03that, that Anna's so,
00:37:04like, threatened
00:37:05and bothered by her?
00:37:07Like, what,
00:37:08what is it?
00:37:09Because I feel like
00:37:10I'm missing something.
00:37:11Yeah, I mean,
00:37:14there used to be
00:37:15this, this, this,
00:37:16this small thing
00:37:17between us,
00:37:18but we're bad.
00:37:20Also, that, so,
00:37:22so, Javon,
00:37:24that's not okay.
00:37:25That is no good.
00:37:26I know, you know,
00:37:27and I'm not-
00:37:28So, so that's why
00:37:29she's so upset then.
00:37:30Yeah.
00:37:30Me and my friend,
00:37:34we never officially dated,
00:37:35but there was feelings
00:37:36for one another.
00:37:38We lost touch
00:37:39for a while,
00:37:40but I reached out
00:37:41to her because
00:37:42I was going through
00:37:44a rough time
00:37:45in my marriage
00:37:46and I needed someone
00:37:48that knew me
00:37:50and that understood me.
00:37:51I wasn't trying
00:37:52to hide anything.
00:37:54So, I just came out
00:37:55and told Anna Lynn
00:37:56I was talking
00:37:57to this other person.
00:37:58I don't think
00:37:59it's a big deal,
00:38:00but obviously she does
00:38:01because she's extremely
00:38:03pissed off and upset.
00:38:07I'm not saying
00:38:08she don't have
00:38:08a valid reason
00:38:09to be upset,
00:38:10but it's just
00:38:12completely platonic,
00:38:13you know,
00:38:14and she don't have
00:38:16to worry about that.
00:38:17Have you tried
00:38:18to call her?
00:38:20I have,
00:38:21but, you know,
00:38:22she blocked me.
00:38:25For real?
00:38:28She gets so aggressive.
00:38:30See, this is the problem.
00:38:31Like, this is how,
00:38:32this is why I had to go
00:38:33outside of our marriage
00:38:36to talk to somebody else
00:38:38about our marriage
00:38:40and it shouldn't be that way.
00:38:43Obviously,
00:38:44Anna feels disrespected
00:38:45and I do get that.
00:38:48I know that she's
00:38:491,000% unhinged,
00:38:51like, kind of off
00:38:52her rocker a little bit,
00:38:54but I do feel like
00:38:55he presses her buttons.
00:38:56Javon just needs
00:38:57to stay sorry
00:38:58and try and talk to her
00:38:59and if they don't know
00:39:00how to talk,
00:39:01then they don't need
00:39:02to be married.
00:39:03You're about to see
00:39:05your wife for the first time.
00:39:06You all don't need
00:39:07to be in the middle
00:39:08of a fight.
00:39:10I don't know
00:39:10what to do.
00:39:12I don't know
00:39:12what to do.
00:39:17I heard some
00:39:18interesting things
00:39:19from your guys'
00:39:20bedroom last night.
00:39:23Did you guys
00:39:24do the old
00:39:25the knockin' knockin'?
00:39:27I just want to prefer,
00:39:29like, a privacy
00:39:30between us, you know?
00:39:32Now you're kind of
00:39:33being really disrespectful.
00:39:34to be in the middle of a fight.
00:39:53Hey guys, we're gonna go down and have some coffee by the pool, so we'll be up in a little
00:40:07while, we'll talk to you in a bit. Later.
00:40:12Mmm.
00:40:16Staring content.
00:40:19Ah, Lucy, you're crazy, I'm crazy, do you?
00:40:35I arrived in the Philippines yesterday, and the first night with the woman of my dream,
00:40:40Sheena, was amazing.
00:40:42You're crazy.
00:40:43Oh man, you're strong, I gotta walk you down.
00:40:44Oh yeah?
00:40:45I'm a strong beard.
00:40:46Okay.
00:40:47I'm gonna tickle you crazy, baby.
00:40:55There's a lot of new and fun things on finding out being with Sheena physically.
00:41:00I found out there's a night Sheena.
00:41:02What?
00:41:03She's kind of grabby.
00:41:04Oh really?
00:41:05I'm not.
00:41:06You're very into being physical.
00:41:08Oh no, I'm not.
00:41:09Night Sheena.
00:41:10Rawr, rawr, rawr.
00:41:13You know, just finally being able to hold you and be with you and kiss you, it just felt
00:41:19awesome.
00:41:20And I know that I talked of a big game last night about sex and everything like that,
00:41:27but I really believe that we should wait until we know each other a bit more in person.
00:41:37I understand my love.
00:41:40I really feel like after seven years, me coming here to the Philippines and just having sex
00:41:45with Sheena straight up, it's not what I want to do.
00:41:49Yeah, I agree to that.
00:41:50I just want to get to know you much better.
00:41:53We all know when the time is right.
00:41:55I agree to that.
00:41:57Also, probably when my mom's not around.
00:41:59Yeah.
00:42:00We'll see you later.
00:42:06I don't need a coat, that's for sure.
00:42:11Ooh, nice and cool in here.
00:42:14I'm excited.
00:42:19So where exactly are you taking us again?
00:42:26So it's a Chinatown here in Manila.
00:42:30Actually, one of the oldest Chinatown here in the whole world because Chinese people
00:42:36have been trading with the Filipinos before Spanish people arrived.
00:42:40Wow.
00:42:41Spaniards.
00:42:42So there's a lot of historical sites around and good foods.
00:42:45I'm ready to eat it all.
00:42:51So I got a little curiosity question to ask you guys.
00:42:55Uh, I heard some interesting things, you know, coming from your guys' bedroom last night.
00:43:02The little giggles.
00:43:04So, uh, did, uh, you guys, uh, do the old, uh, knockin' knockin'?
00:43:11No.
00:43:12No.
00:43:13No.
00:43:14No.
00:43:15No.
00:43:16No.
00:43:17No.
00:43:19So why, why didn't you guys?
00:43:24Well, just wasn't the right time or a place to do that.
00:43:27Oh, okay well.
00:43:31You guys can always come and talk to us
00:43:34if you have questions.
00:43:35It's not an embarrassing subject to me.
00:43:37It's interesting.
00:43:38It's life.
00:43:39It takes practice to be good at it.
00:43:43Yeah.
00:43:46My parents are just, it's a little too much.
00:43:51It's a little bit rude and awkward for me.
00:43:53I just want to prefer, like, a privacy between us, you know?
00:43:58I respect you guys for waiting.
00:44:01And there's nothing wrong with that.
00:44:02There are other things that you can do
00:44:05if you guys didn't want to do the nookie nookie.
00:44:09There's oral sex.
00:44:11There's fondling.
00:44:12Yeah.
00:44:13Now you're kind of being really disrespectful here, Mom.
00:44:16I get it.
00:44:16You're trying to be helpful, but you're pushing too far.
00:44:21You know, if we want to talk about sex with you,
00:44:23we'll come up and ask about it.
00:44:26OK.
00:44:28Excuse me.
00:44:31I thought it was nice that he was defending her honor.
00:44:36That's admirable.
00:44:38But I was very shocked by Forrest's reaction.
00:44:42Thank you very much.
00:44:44Well, Forrest, why is this a, you know, a total 180 from our normal discussions, where you're
00:44:49right in there using the same language, the same talk, saying, yeah, I'm going to get into that, do that.
00:44:55It's drastic night and day.
00:44:57I see where this is headed.
00:44:59Oh, my God.
00:44:59I miss this place.
00:45:01She was at home.
00:45:03Sheena already has that control, that thumb on him.
00:45:07Let's not forget, she was lying to him for years, giving all of her money to her parents instead of saving for their future.
00:45:14And I don't know if Forrest will actually hold her accountable, but we need to get some answers.
00:45:19You don't need to talk about your past.
00:45:31I know, I know everything about your life.
00:45:33You don't know everything.
00:45:35I really want to tell the end about my last engagement, because I think it's the only way that we could move forward.
00:45:57Ooh, look at the mirrors.
00:45:59Wait, I want to check my outfit.
00:46:01Here, hold that.
00:46:03Hold that.
00:46:05We look cute.
00:46:07I can see you.
00:46:09Can you see yourself?
00:46:23I'm excited to go shopping.
00:46:25It's always crowded.
00:46:27Yeah, yeah.
00:46:29This is an easy place to get lost.
00:46:31Today, I want to take Emma to Old Medina.
00:46:35I feel so bad because Emma, she loves her job.
00:46:39I want to make her feel so better, and she loves shopping, so.
00:46:43Oh, look at those bags.
00:46:45Those are cute.
00:46:47Oh my gosh.
00:46:49Oh my gosh, I love all of these clothes.
00:46:51You can find anything you want.
00:46:53Ooh, look at these rugs.
00:46:55Those are nice.
00:46:57Yes.
00:46:58Oh wait, there's bags.
00:46:59Let's go look at the bags.
00:47:01Let's see what you want.
00:47:02Oh, this is so cute.
00:47:03Can you hold this?
00:47:04I want to look at everything.
00:47:05Yeah, look for anything you want.
00:47:06I think I like these little wallets.
00:47:07These are cute.
00:47:08I think I'm gonna buy these three.
00:47:09Not you, me.
00:47:10You're gonna get them?
00:47:11Yeah.
00:47:12Hey.
00:47:13Hey.
00:47:14It's like my gift to you.
00:47:15Can I give you a kiss?
00:47:16Not hair.
00:47:17Hair kiss?
00:47:18Maybe.
00:47:19Is that okay?
00:47:20Yeah, that's okay.
00:47:21Can I do that from now on?
00:47:22Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:47:23I'll just give you air kisses whenever I want to kiss you?
00:47:24Yeah.
00:47:25Yeah.
00:47:26It's really nice to have Ziad offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me.
00:47:32That was so romantic because that's never something I've had in the past.
00:47:38It's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than I was feeling yesterday.
00:47:42It's really nice to have Ziad offer to buy me things and buy gifts for me.
00:47:46That was so romantic because that's never something I've had in the past.
00:47:51It's making me feel a little bit more hopeful than I was feeling yesterday.
00:47:55Where are you taking me, babe?
00:47:57This?
00:47:58It's popular here in Marrakesh.
00:48:00What is this?
00:48:06What is that?
00:48:08What do we call them in English?
00:48:10Snails?
00:48:11Snails.
00:48:12I like don't want that.
00:48:13Really?
00:48:14No.
00:48:15It's like traditional.
00:48:16I'm not trying.
00:48:17No.
00:48:18I literally would throw up.
00:48:20It's so delicious.
00:48:21That is the grossest thing I've ever seen in my whole life.
00:48:23It's a slimy snail.
00:48:24And you just stuck it down.
00:48:25For me, it's delicious.
00:48:26That's like really gross.
00:48:27What's like the weirdest food you've ever tried?
00:48:28Like snails would be weird.
00:48:29For you, for me, no.
00:48:30So for me, sushi, for example.
00:48:31What's like the weirdest food you've ever tried?
00:48:32Like snails would be weird.
00:48:33For you, for me, no.
00:48:34So for me, sushi, for example.
00:48:35I love sushi.
00:48:36Yeah, it's...
00:48:37We are different.
00:48:38It's some...
00:48:39Are we compatible?
00:48:40Mm-hmm.
00:48:43Can you hold my other bag, actually?
00:48:44What else can we do, like, while we're here?
00:48:46I love horses.
00:48:52I like horses.
00:48:54I like the white one.
00:48:56Do you love horses?
00:48:58I love horses.
00:49:02Thank you. Can you hold my other bag, actually?
00:49:06What else can we do, like, while we're here?
00:49:08Do you like horses?
00:49:10I love horses.
00:49:12I think we have to choose this one.
00:49:14I like the white one.
00:49:18Just one by one.
00:49:20One by one.
00:49:22Oh, my God, this is so romantic.
00:49:26This is like a romantic love ride.
00:49:32This is three kisses you kissed me today.
00:49:38I'm happy that we had a better day today.
00:49:42Yeah, me too.
00:49:44It was a big difference between this day and last day.
00:49:48Yesterday was, like, really hard for me.
00:49:51It, like, brought up old feelings.
00:49:53Because, you know, I've, like, been lied to a lot.
00:49:56Like, in my past, like, with past boyfriends.
00:49:59So, when you kind of lied to me, it was, like, a trigger for me.
00:50:03Yeah.
00:50:04So, you don't need to talk about your past, your bad experience.
00:50:08Do you not care about my past?
00:50:10No.
00:50:11I know you right now, not in past.
00:50:13So...
00:50:14Yeah, but don't you want to know about my life?
00:50:16Just, like, things I've been through, it's like, don't you want to know about me?
00:50:19Yeah.
00:50:20I know, I know everything about your life.
00:50:21You don't know everything.
00:50:22No, I know everything.
00:50:24No, I know everything.
00:50:25I know your family.
00:50:26I know where you live.
00:50:28I know...
00:50:29I know, but there are things that, like, I...
00:50:30That have happened in my life that you don't know about.
00:50:36Like, I thought.
00:50:37I want to leave the impasse.
00:50:38If something passes, it passes.
00:50:44I want to be vulnerable.
00:50:45I want to share, you know, details about who I am and my past.
00:50:48And I really want to be able to tell Ziad about my last engagement,
00:50:53because I think it's the only way that we could move forward.
00:50:58But for him to shut me down, it does make me wonder if Ziad just doesn't want to talk about the past,
00:51:04because maybe he has something that he's hiding or that he doesn't want to tell me.
00:51:12Since I've gone to Morocco, I've just felt really rejected by him.
00:51:17And so now I'm just feeling a little concerned about everything.
00:51:27I need you to be able to look me in the eye.
00:51:29Why have you lied to us all along?
00:51:32I was so fearful of my parents.
00:51:35They would say bad things to me.
00:51:36They would say bad things to other people.
00:51:38OK.
00:51:39And it affects me emotionally, mentally, drains me every day.
00:51:42Uh-uh-uh.
00:51:43No.
00:51:44I need that direct answer as to why you continue to hide it.
00:52:02I'm leaving for the Philippines tomorrow to meet with my wife, Anna, for the first time.
00:52:15But me and Anna, we haven't spoken to each other in about a week.
00:52:16My sister talked to Anna Lynn, and she actually unblocked me.
00:52:20But she's still really upset that I'm back in touch with a friend I once had feelings for.
00:52:25There's so much riding on this trip.
00:52:26Anna being as angry.
00:52:27It's just not good.
00:52:28Hey, boy.
00:52:29What's going on?
00:52:30What's going on?
00:52:31What's going on?
00:52:32Ask yourself what's going on, Javon.
00:52:34I mean, you know, Anna, don't play my friend with your boyfriend.
00:52:35I don't know how you are!
00:52:36I don't know how you're in this regard.
00:52:37So it's hard to work with her.
00:52:38And if I remember a friend with my partner, she's still really upset that I'm back in
00:52:41touch with a friend I once had feelings for.
00:52:44For her, there's so much riding on this trip.
00:52:47Anna being as angry.
00:52:49It's just not good.
00:52:52Hey, boy.
00:52:54What's going on?
00:52:56What's going on?
00:52:57Ask yourself what's going on, Javon.
00:53:00I mean, you know, Anna, don't be so aggressive.
00:53:30I'm dealing with so much over here by myself.
00:53:33I'm dealing with your problems.
00:53:34I'm dealing with my problems.
00:53:36And sometimes I don't feel like I'm
00:53:38being emotionally supported by you.
00:53:41So, you know, I kind of felt like I was just
00:53:44a little bit desperate just to be understood and just heard.
00:54:00I mean, but, like, who could afford therapy right now?
00:54:18She's not taking any accountability
00:54:20that, you know, she played a part in why I reached out to a friend.
00:54:26I need to be able to rely on my wife,
00:54:29but she makes it impossible.
00:54:32Even when I'm, like, at work and you're going through something,
00:54:35I always try to be there for you emotionally, you know?
00:54:38OK, OK.
00:54:39OK, listen.
00:54:40I try, but I don't see you trying for me.
00:54:43When do you show up for me in that way?
00:54:46Oh, God.
00:54:50Like, hello, I've been waiting for you for six years.
00:54:55I have devoted, invested so much love.
00:55:04If you don't feel like that's understanding enough,
00:55:07waiting for you for that long, I don't know what is.
00:55:12I know you've made, you know, some sacrifice by waiting for me
00:55:25for this long.
00:55:26And I do apologize, and I do take accountability
00:55:30for what I've done.
00:55:33OK.
00:55:34OK?
00:55:37So you're going to stop talking to her?
00:55:39I can stop, but can we at least work on our communication?
00:55:46OK.
00:55:48OK.
00:55:49That's all I want, boo.
00:55:51That's it.
00:55:52With Javon coming out to the Philippines,
00:55:55I do feel like I could let go of some negative feelings
00:55:59about this situation.
00:56:01But even though he agreed that he's not going
00:56:04to talk to that woman anymore, do I believe it?
00:56:11No, not really.
00:56:12So I will definitely talk about this again in person.
00:56:24Do you think we can, like, move past it?
00:56:27Like, when we see each other?
00:56:30I don't know, baby.
00:56:49Whoa, look at this place.
00:56:51This was a church.
00:56:52Oh.
00:56:531588.
00:56:54Man, that is old.
00:56:55It's old.
00:56:56Here, we got a celebration here.
00:56:58Dad, what's this, you guys?
00:56:59Let's go.
00:57:00Let's go.
00:57:01Yes.
00:57:06Yeah, it's precision.
00:57:08Oh, my goodness.
00:57:09We call that fiesta.
00:57:10Oh, yes.
00:57:11That's a culture for Catholics here in my country.
00:57:14Goodness.
00:57:15Yes.
00:57:16Oh, my God.
00:57:17Yeah, it's really cool.
00:57:18Look at this.
00:57:23I decided to take Forrest and his family to Chinatown
00:57:26because I'm a Chinese mix.
00:57:28My mom is Chinese descent.
00:57:31So I wanted to show how Chinese culture inter-bonded
00:57:35with Filipino culture.
00:57:38Do you smell that?
00:57:39Oh, that smells so good.
00:57:40Oh, wow.
00:57:41Wow.
00:57:42I love that place.
00:57:43So this is a place to make handmade noodles.
00:57:44I eat that air.
00:57:45Hello.
00:57:46Oh.
00:57:48Yesterday, I was quite a little nervous to meet Forrest's
00:57:51parents, especially Molly.
00:57:53OK.
00:57:56There's been problems between me and Molly.
00:57:59But I'm so glad that she happened to accept me.
00:58:03And I wanted to provide them the best first day here in the Philippines.
00:58:09Yum.
00:58:10Oh, thank you.
00:58:11Slurps up.
00:58:12Slurps up and slurps up, huh?
00:58:14Yeah.
00:58:15Actually, that's here.
00:58:16The culture here, if you want to slurp,
00:58:17it means you're eating the good noodles.
00:58:19So that's a good sign.
00:58:20So the loud are the best, right?
00:58:21Yeah.
00:58:22Yes.
00:58:23Here I go.
00:58:24Yeah.
00:58:25You are the king of slurps, Forrest.
00:58:27I made sure to get on my glasses.
00:58:29That's the key.
00:58:30This is all good.
00:58:31Yeah.
00:58:32Well, Sheena, I wanted to thank you for your apology yesterday.
00:58:39I mean, that really showed a lot to me.
00:58:44But I did want to ask you about a few things.
00:58:52OK?
00:58:53OK, Mom.
00:58:54I'm listening.
00:58:55And I need you to be able to look me in the eye.
00:58:57And I need you to be truthful with me 100%.
00:59:05You lied to us about giving your parents the money.
00:59:10This was supposed to be you saving up money so you could come to America to be a family with us.
00:59:17And these were the plans all of these years.
00:59:20And then for it to just find out now, before we come here, that hasn't been happening.
00:59:27Why have you lied to us all along?
00:59:28That hasn't been happening.
00:59:30Why have you lied to us all along?
00:59:38I really owe you millions and thousands of explanations I need.
00:59:42I hope you could listen to my situation.
00:59:44The reason why that I happen to give my money to my parents is because being a breadwinner, it's a cultural thing in my country that we are obligated to help our parents around.
00:59:57I mean, I completely understand giving your parents money, needing to help your family.
01:00:02That's what family does.
01:00:04But my issue with it is that you lie.
01:00:10To be honest, the reason also, that's the reason I was so scared because my parents, my mom happened to guilt-tripping me from time to time.
01:00:27If I don't give them money, she makes me feel that I'm such a selfish person and it hurts me a lot.
01:00:33Okay, but if I'm asking you a direct question, I need that direct answer.
01:00:39And even now, you haven't given me a direct answer as to why you continue to hide it.
01:00:49Watching Sheena under my mom's pressure is just awful.
01:00:54I'm wanting to step in and defend her and protect Sheena, but at the same time, I don't understand what fears she had of telling me.
01:01:05I was so fearful of my parents.
01:01:08They would say bad things to me.
01:01:10They would say bad things to other people.
01:01:12Okay.
01:01:13And it affects me emotionally, mentally, drains me everything.
01:01:15Uh-uh.
01:01:16No.
01:01:17And it makes me feel so bad.
01:01:18No.
01:01:19No.
01:01:20Sheena, I'm not asking you that.
01:01:22I'm asking you why you did not tell us.
01:01:29I couldn't handle myself anymore.
01:01:32Sheena, I can't understand what you're saying.
01:01:36I am sorry.
01:01:37Oh, my God.
01:01:38I don't want to.
01:01:39Where's your manipulation?
01:01:40Put the tears.
01:01:41Please put your tissue down.
01:01:42I'm trying to have Sheena acknowledge actions that she did that weren't acceptable.
01:01:51So even if she did have good reason to give it all to her parents, what's the motivation for hiding it?
01:01:58They got to get answers.
01:02:00Oh, my God.
01:02:01This is really happening.
01:02:02Oh, my God.
01:02:03Oh, my God.
01:02:04Oh, my God.
01:02:05Oh, my God.
01:02:06Oh, my God.
01:02:07Oh, my God.
01:02:08Oh, my God.
01:02:09Oh, my God.
01:02:10Oh, my God.
01:02:11Oh, my God.
01:02:12I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:02:13I love Lisa, but I am worried about some things.
01:02:17She was physical with a woman.
01:02:19Oh, my God.
01:02:20Oh, my God.
01:02:21Oh, my God.
01:02:22Oh, my God.
01:02:23Oh, my God.
01:02:24Oh, my God.
01:02:25Here he is.
01:02:26Awesome.
01:02:27Here we go.
01:02:28Yeah.
01:02:29Here goes everything.
01:02:31Oh, my gosh.
01:02:32I'm finally on my way to me.
01:02:33Oh, my God.
01:02:34Oh, my God.
01:02:35Oh, my God.
01:02:36Oh, my God.
01:02:37Oh, my God.
01:02:38Oh, my God.
01:02:39Oh, my God.
01:02:40Oh, my God.
01:02:41Oh, my God.
01:02:42Here he is.
01:02:43Awesome.
01:02:44Here we go.
01:02:45Yeah.
01:02:46Here goes everything.
01:02:56Oh, my gosh.
01:02:58I'm finally on my way to meet the love of my life, Daniel,
01:03:01in Nigeria for the very first time.
01:03:04What am I doing?
01:03:06I don't know, Mom.
01:03:07What are you doing?
01:03:08Certainly not what I would be doing.
01:03:11It still feels surreal to me that after 21 years of only being
01:03:15with women, I'm traveling across the world to meet a man,
01:03:19and I love him.
01:03:21I love him.
01:03:23You're going to see when I come home how excited and happy I am.
01:03:26You're going to see when I talk to you there how happy I am,
01:03:29and you're going to be happy for me.
01:03:32I just, I don't want it to ruin your heart.
01:03:42I'm going to pee my pants.
01:03:43Oh, God.
01:03:44Please don't.
01:03:47Here we go.
01:03:48Okay.
01:03:52All right.
01:03:53You remember the rules.
01:03:54Don't get married on the trip even when the divorce comes through.
01:03:57Yes.
01:03:58And I would complain about everything.
01:04:00It will be a foundation.
01:04:01And if you have questions.
01:04:02I will ask them.
01:04:07I love you.
01:04:08I love you, too.
01:04:09I'm going to miss you so much.
01:04:11Stay safe.
01:04:12Stay safe.
01:04:13Oh, God.
01:04:15This is the biggest risk I've ever taken.
01:04:17Flying across the world to another country, to Nigeria, Africa,
01:04:22to be with a man I have never met before.
01:04:24I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:27Oh, my God. This is really happening.
01:04:30Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God.
01:04:33I can't believe I'm doing this.
01:04:36Happy dance.
01:04:37Happy dance.
01:04:39I hope Daniel will accept me for everything that I am and who I am
01:04:44and that he will become my sixth and final spouse.
01:04:50Daniel, we're coming.
01:05:03Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh
01:05:33Please, give me 500 nera pepe.
01:05:45My name is Daniel, I am 39 years old.
01:05:50I am a Christian from the Igbo tribe.
01:05:53We have traditions and we believe in traditions.
01:05:56As an Igbo man, we love competition.
01:05:59We work hard and we have to be honest.
01:06:01I grew up very poor.
01:06:13Sometimes we eat once in a day because there's no food.
01:06:18My family do the best they can do and I am really close to my family.
01:06:23But some years ago, I lost my mom before she died.
01:06:28She told me that during the war, she nearly be killed, that a white woman protected her.
01:06:33And I have to make sure that I get married to a white woman.
01:06:36So I decided I will do it.
01:06:38And that's how I found Lisa.
01:06:40Lisa is 52 years old.
01:06:47She lives in Pennsylvania.
01:06:48She's a beautiful woman.
01:06:50She has a good body structure.
01:06:53She's thick.
01:06:54She has bops.
01:06:55She has what I want.
01:06:59She don't hide anything.
01:07:01She supports me financially.
01:07:03She makes me feel loved.
01:07:04She makes me feel loved.
01:07:05That's why I fell in love with her.
01:07:10She makes me feel loved.
01:07:16She's.
01:07:17She has a good wife.
01:07:20She's a good wife.
01:07:25They come and take good time.
01:07:29It's their own family.
01:07:32They come with us.
01:07:33They come to a place where they ride.
01:07:36They come and get their healthy,
01:07:38and they come.
01:07:39They come will eat.
01:07:45If you get to get busy,
01:07:46you get yourself to have a living.
01:07:49You have to go to where you are at.
01:07:51They're at home.
01:07:54Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano, Biano.
01:07:59In our tribe, we do see spiritual leaders to consult the ancestors.
01:08:08I love this, but I am worried about some things.
01:08:13One, she vip.
01:08:15Two, she told me that she had gotten married twice.
01:08:19And three, she was physical with a woman one time.
01:08:24This is the worst.
01:08:33We don't believe that same sex exists in our culture.
01:08:38Anyone caught in the arts will be banished or killed.
01:08:42So we don't do it, we don't accept it here.
01:08:45She gave me her promise that she have stopped it.
01:08:49But I'm nervous.
01:08:54When I hear about white man one time either.
01:08:56So we aren't talking with a woman, not it's serious.
01:08:59No, I'm nervous Shop Nate's son.
01:09:01I'm nervous είoc Viceไป !
01:09:05That's right.
01:09:06What are you doing?
01:09:08You're doingterm youth?
01:09:10How, how?
01:09:11So I am제�ry.
01:09:12Every one.
01:09:13How are you doing there?
01:09:14What're you doing?
01:09:15Now that the ancestors are approved, I want you to move forward on this relationship.
01:09:28I'm planning a big surprise for Lisa when I meet her at the airport.
01:09:34I've been talking to God Almighty to take me away from Nigeria.
01:09:39If I marry Lisa to make me change the story of my family, and if I should make it to America,
01:09:45this will change my life to good.
01:09:48Today it will.
01:10:00I feel so bad you're dragging my suitcases.
01:10:03Yes.
01:10:05It feels like it got colder.
01:10:07It gets cold or gets hot.
01:10:10No straight weather.
01:10:15Wow.
01:10:24Here we are.
01:10:26Oh, we're here?
01:10:29Here you go.
01:10:30I will take this.
01:10:32You're welcome.
01:10:32After all of this excitement, anticipation, and buildup of coming to Turkey and meeting
01:10:39Birkan face to face, it's starting off a little bit awkward.
01:10:44But I'm still so happy to be finally standing here with him.
01:10:49It just feels so right.
01:10:52I'm excited to see this.
01:10:54Oh, you want me to go first?
01:10:58Yeah, of course.
01:10:59Okay.
01:11:01Oh my God, this is huge.
01:11:04Oh yeah.
01:11:05This is way bigger than it looked in pictures.
01:11:09This is amazing.
01:11:10This kitchen is bigger than almost my every house, so.
01:11:17This is incredible.
01:11:20You like this?
01:11:21Oh my God, I love this.
01:11:23I'm going to move here.
01:11:25You can see the sea.
01:11:28Everything?
01:11:29Oh my God.
01:11:31Wow.
01:11:31This is amazing.
01:11:35I'm so excited to finally be here and to finally be doing this.
01:11:39It's worth it.
01:11:42All the trip.
01:11:44Yeah.
01:11:45I don't know if it's worth it.
01:11:46Yeah, I know.
01:11:48So, how about you change and we will see the cost?
01:11:56That sounds awesome.
01:11:57Let's do that.
01:11:58Let's do that.
01:11:59All right.
01:11:59Okay.
01:12:01This is the best part of Izmir.
01:12:08This is incredible.
01:12:10I would love to live right there with this view every day.
01:12:15Yeah.
01:12:16I like these old buildings.
01:12:17I do too.
01:12:19Yeah.
01:12:21Architecture is the art we live in.
01:12:26I love that.
01:12:27Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:28That's really profound.
01:12:29Yeah, I love that phrase.
01:12:30Birkan has so many like random comments for things and he has a way of taking things that
01:12:37are just very simple and creating this like giant philosophical discussion around it.
01:12:43It's really pretty now that the sun's gone down.
01:12:45When the darkness comes, the light shines out.
01:12:52Sometimes it's a little exhausting because I'm like, oh my God, it's just the sunset.
01:12:56I guess we gotta go this way.
01:12:58Go back this way?
01:12:58Yeah.
01:12:59I feel like a walking zombie right now.
01:13:02Actually, not you.
01:13:03The people are.
01:13:05They have no idea where everything is going.
01:13:09I don't know where he comes up with all of this.
01:13:12I mean, it can feel a little ridiculous sometimes, but ultimately I like it and I wouldn't change
01:13:17it.
01:13:17How was your day?
01:13:23Yeah, it was good.
01:13:25I enjoyed it.
01:13:27How about you?
01:13:28I mean, I'm exhausted.
01:13:29I traveled a ton to get here, but it was really fun to see some of the sights.
01:13:35And I'm exhausted and I have got to get some sleep.
01:13:46Okay.
01:13:47You want to go to bed?
01:13:52Actually, it's just nine o'clock and I have no sleep.
01:13:57So why don't you go some sleep and I will watch some TV and join you after.
01:14:05Have a nice night.
01:14:09Alright, goodnight.
01:14:10Goodnight.
01:14:10Goodnight.
01:14:32Who's texting you?
01:14:33Um, Michael just has been blowing up my phone since I got here.
01:14:39He tracked my flight, texted me like as soon as I landed to say, I saw you landed.
01:14:45And then he just kind of checked up on me.
01:14:48I said, everything's good.
01:14:50And then he was like, your tone is less than excited, my dear.
01:14:56So I think it's interesting that he can pick up on that.
01:15:02But I just have a lot of things to process right now.
01:15:09Him just staying out there watching TV.
01:15:12It's just, I don't know, different maybe than what I was expecting.
01:15:16I feel like it's not this, like, super great magical moment.
01:15:21Just feels off.
01:15:23I don't know how to explain it.
01:15:24Just feels off.
01:15:26It is so ironic and kind of concerning that I'm getting more attention from Michael than I am from the man that I flew halfway around the world to meet.
01:15:38And so I feel like there's something really wrong and I don't know, maybe he's hiding something or maybe he's just not attracted to me in person.
01:15:50But either way, I'm just kind of questioning why I'm even here at this point.
01:16:01Hey, Bear Collins.
01:16:02Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:16:11I can't handle it anymore.
01:16:13It doesn't make any sense to me.
01:16:15Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:16:17I want to end this now.
01:16:19You're acting all hostile.
01:16:20I'm not.
01:16:21Yeah, you are.
01:16:22Forrest?
01:16:22My family had been the one who had been influenced since I was a kid.
01:16:37Forrest, they should be helping me around.
01:16:39They kept always promising to me that they would do anything.
01:16:42We can't understand you.
01:16:45You have to speak.
01:16:46You have to be strong and you got to speak clearly.
01:16:50I need you to really, please, point blank.
01:16:57You were giving your parents money.
01:17:00Why did you feel it was so necessary to not tell us?
01:17:05Because I feel so scared that if I happened not to give them money, they would say bad things.
01:17:22They say so many mean things that I don't want to accept it.
01:17:26Does this story make any sense to you at all?
01:17:33Honestly, when you try to look at it and without the tears and without...
01:17:38I can't handle it anymore.
01:17:40It doesn't make any sense to me at all.
01:17:43The pieces aren't just lining up.
01:17:45I'm sorry, but they're not lining up.
01:17:47It's very concerning because how do I even know that your feelings and plans are actually genuine?
01:18:04Oh, you were scared.
01:18:05Forrest would have come to me and said,
01:18:08Mom, I got to get it on a freaking plane right now.
01:18:11I got to go over there and save her.
01:18:13But it sounds to me you obviously weren't that scared that you couldn't tell him
01:18:17and that you could put up with it all that years and hide it.
01:18:22Forrest, does it make sense to you?
01:18:24A lot of it, yeah.
01:18:33I understand that if you love your parents and you want to have love from them,
01:18:38you would try to do anything to make them love you.
01:18:42Forrest.
01:18:43It's hard to say no to a parent, especially when...
01:18:46That still didn't answer the question as...
01:18:49It's hard for me to say no to you.
01:18:50It's hard for me to stick up for her against you.
01:18:57I believe Sheena's not trying to lie or use things as excuses.
01:19:02I think Sheena honestly doesn't know what to say.
01:19:05And she gets so overwhelmed, all she can get is...
01:19:10You know, diary of the mouth.
01:19:12I wouldn't be being a good boyfriend to Sheena if I just sat there and watched her flounder.
01:19:24Obviously, she knows she did wrong.
01:19:27What's your goal here?
01:19:28Just to sit here and keep beating her down?
01:19:30I think what we have to do is we need to get Sheena away from her parents.
01:19:39Because ultimately, the root of this nasty tree is the parents.
01:19:46Sheena, we need to hear from you that you're ready to move forward and confront your parents
01:19:53about what we're going to do from now on.
01:19:55I'm willing to take the risk to confront my parents.
01:20:01It is the only way to end this kind of problem.
01:20:04Which is what she should have done to set up with you years and years ago.
01:20:09Yeah, and we could sit there and we could talk about the past.
01:20:11And he said, she said he could do that.
01:20:13She cannot do that.
01:20:14It's time to move forward now.
01:20:16Forrest?
01:20:17I want to add this now.
01:20:22I don't even want to talk about the parents anymore.
01:20:24I don't want to talk about anything.
01:20:26You're acting all hostile.
01:20:28I'm not hostile.
01:20:28Yeah, you are.
01:20:30And you're causing Sheena a lot of stress.
01:20:33You're causing me a lot of stress.
01:20:35I tried to have a nice dinner and our nice dinner turned into...
01:20:39Suspense.
01:20:42It's okay, babe.
01:20:43I now see that Forrest is too deep.
01:20:50He's just got the blinders on, only wanting to believe her.
01:20:55Now he sees us as the big, bad, bad nasties that attacked his poor Sheena.
01:21:02But still, I have to always protect Forrest, because I know that he really loves her.
01:21:09And I will not stop trying to find out why she lied.
01:21:13Next time on Before the 90 Days.
01:21:22I'm about to meet my wife for the first time.
01:21:24This is so surreal.
01:21:26Come on.
01:21:28Where are you?
01:21:29This is like ordering something online, and we're just excited to unpack the package.
01:21:37Mommy!
01:21:38Are you nervous?
01:21:40A little bit, yeah, actually.
01:21:42Before I came to Turkey, I did make an appointment with a plastic surgeon.
01:21:47I have some, like, loose skin in places that I am looking to have removed.
01:21:53This part is best as possible.
01:21:55But I'm immediately regretting having Freercom come with me.
01:21:59I will just show you some pictures.
01:22:06I've been looking at your page.
01:22:08Every day, you follow new girls.
01:22:11Just girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls, girls.
01:22:13No, we're not business.
01:22:14Yeah.
01:22:15I downloaded this extension on my laptop, and it shows you who people follow.
01:22:21This morning, I saw that he was still following thousands of women.
01:22:25So since we've been dating, have you talked romantically to any other girls?
01:22:30She and I had a discussion about going by ourselves to meet your parents,
01:22:33and how it's important that I meet them before Mom and Dad meet them.
01:22:38I can't even imagine what her parents would try and do if Forrest went over there by himself.
01:22:42I need to be there with Forrest.
01:22:46Sheena, your parents are going to do the same line that they've used on you all along.
01:22:52Well, my family isn't a bad people.
01:22:54Now the story changes again.
01:22:57I still don't know if this isn't something that you're involved in either.
01:23:03What the heck?
01:23:04I love him with everything I am, but he doesn't know that I've been married five times,
01:23:16and I'm still married to a woman.
01:23:18What are you doing?
01:23:21What are you doing, right?
01:23:22What are you doing, right?
01:23:22What are you doing, right?
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