00:00the kind of the most mind-blowing thing in your book uh is learning that you were a virgin till
00:05you were 26 that's the most mind-blowing thing i would say no i think you take away take away
00:11fame and fortune you're a good looking guy stop it you stop flirting intelligent you went to
00:17university right you have a lot to offer thank you this sounds like the wind up to a joke and
00:22it isn't well yeah but i think it's very good to talk about this because i think there's there is
00:26a lot of pressure on young men to lose their virginity and feel like they're it's that weird
00:32thing at the moment where the world is um harems and peepholes it's a very small percentage of men
00:40getting all the girls and everyone else is hopelessly addicted to porn and i think it's
00:44very good to be open about it and say not everyone develops at the same time i had a you know it was
00:49enmeshed with my mother and maybe that was you know part of it i'm sure that's what a
00:54a psychotherapist would say and you go you don't find the person till you find the person you don't
00:59feel you don't love yourself you don't like who you are particularly what does that mean enmeshed
01:04yeah i think you're emotionally kind of unavailable right i don't think you're very attractive when
01:09you're in your early 20s to women because really if you if you had to sort of summarize what women
01:15find attractive it's competence being good at something guys get attractive around 30 because
01:20they start to get good at something it seems like it's shallow but i don't think it is i think
01:24it's but i feel that when we were growing up it seemed i mean i like this is tmi i'm sure i lost
01:30my virginity when i was 17 which felt quite late you know in my peer group you there was that guy was
01:36like oh i lost mine at 14 i'm really 16 and then like i was like 17 got it in finally i was the lucky
01:43guy thank you there you go there's a joke um yeah but that thing of going okay it's it's but it is what
01:49it is i did have some intimate relationships yeah i had some intimate relationship but i just didn't
01:54have was christian you were a committed christian was that part of it yeah i think that was part of
01:58it yeah i want to make it forever were you like one of the i think that kind of that was a part of
02:02it certainly it's almost like unrecognizable now to look back because that thing that i was saying
02:08earlier about when you're kind of 25 and you feel like you're suddenly yourself there's kind of a
02:12waking up mid-20s and i feel like i was quite a religious guy growing up i was christian and then i had a
02:18close relationship with my mother you know this is not you're not a qualified therapist why am i
02:22telling you this um but that thing of like going it's okay it's like happens at different times
02:26it's not a race
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