00:00When you are trying to convey that, then you are the one who's being given statements like
00:07that the way you are,
00:08the way you are, you will not live in the world, who will love you.
00:11You will lose all of this.
00:14You cannot pinpoint all of your own journey.
00:17You give yourself attention. What is the difference between you?
00:21So it's been a constant conflict.
00:23If you don't have love for the first thing, or the first one,
00:28how can you have love for all the others you are related to?
00:40Everything is fine. You don't need to ask, are you in love? Do you love me? Do you like me?
00:45All these are needless questions.
00:46It depends on you, how much love you have.
00:48If you don't have enough love, then you will choose to be a politician in a relationship.
00:52But if you have love enough, you will choose to be the prophet in a relationship.
00:55Love not really for this one, the one you are related to.
00:58Love for that.
00:59Don't see whether that person loves you.
01:01See whether that person loves the truth.
01:03Never ask, do you love me?
01:06See whether the person loves the...
01:08Namaskar Acharya Ji, and we are very grateful you're here.
01:16You've come all the way.
01:18So who am I? That's irrelevant.
01:20We're just very grateful that you're here.
01:22Thank you very much for your presence.
01:24My question is more of a conflict, and I'm in a constant conflict.
01:28And what is the thin line between being polite and kind, or what you say, sugar-coated or politically correct,
01:38versus blatantly truthful, which can also be a kind of compassion when you witness your loved ones or close ones constantly being in a victim state and putting it on to others and more circumstantial.
01:56When you know that it's more perceptional and self-induced, but when you are trying to convey that,
02:02then you are the one who's being given statements like, that the way you are,
02:10you're not going to live in the world that you're going to love, and you're going to lose all of this.
02:17Everyone is on your journey.
02:18You cannot pinpoint.
02:20You take care of yourself.
02:21What's the difference between you?
02:22So, it's been a constant conflict, that where is that thin line?
02:30I would be, I think, I manifested you here.
02:33So, I did.
02:36Thin line for whom?
02:39It depends on who you are.
02:41It depends on what you are choosing to be.
02:48Politically correct, you said in the beginning.
02:52See, in your daily life, in your relationships,
03:04you can choose to be the politician or the preceptor.
03:13The politician has a purpose, an ambition.
03:19Right?
03:19The politician wants to become something and stay there.
03:28And therefore, he will have to compromise with the truth.
03:32We are talking of the relationships that we have, right?
03:36We are not talking of politicians of the kind that we have in assemblies and parliaments,
03:41because that's not the question here.
03:45So, if you are acting politically correct,
03:50you must know that you have a personal stake somewhere.
03:59No politician can ever speak truth absolute to his audience.
04:08He'll have to dilute the truth.
04:13He'll have to compromise there.
04:16Because there is something that he wants in return from the audience.
04:20Right?
04:20He cannot afford to antagonize the audience.
04:23And if the audience is not ready to take the truth,
04:28the politician will not come up with the truth,
04:31even if he has it.
04:32Assuming he has it.
04:34That's the politician.
04:36And you can be the politician in your relationships.
04:38I want something from you.
04:40So, I'm not going to run the risk of truth.
04:43I want something from you.
04:47So, I'll bring to you what you desire.
04:49What not what you need.
04:53I need something from you.
04:55So, I'll bring that to you which pleases.
05:00Not that which elevates.
05:03I'll bring something pleasing to you rather than something elevating.
05:11That's the politician in relationships.
05:14And then there is the preceptor in relationships.
05:18Preceptor is teacher.
05:21I could have said teacher, you know, just to make P and P sound cute.
05:27I did this.
05:28I don't need to do this.
05:30Fine.
05:30The teacher.
05:38Or you could be the teacher in relationships.
05:40But that sounds so uncool.
05:42The teacher in relationships.
05:45What else do I say?
05:46I mean,
05:47teacher, preceptor, sage, real friend, friend, friend.
05:55My friend is fine.
05:56Friend is fine.
05:57Or you could be the friend.
05:59The friend does not have anything at stake.
06:03The first commitment
06:05of this one,
06:07the sagely friend,
06:09is towards the truth
06:11rather than the person he or she is related to.
06:15So, this one is not going to compromise.
06:17Not going to compromise.
06:21Now,
06:21in the short run,
06:24it would
06:24appear
06:25as if the politician does better.
06:32The relationships
06:33of the politician
06:35would appear to be better
06:37in the short run.
06:38And most of us
06:39are concerned only with
06:40the short term.
06:42So, there the politician
06:46looks like prevailing
06:47and that's why
06:48most of us
06:48prefer to be politicians
06:50in our relationships.
06:53But in the long term,
06:54it's the preceptor
06:56that wins.
06:58the politician
07:00seems to care
07:03too much
07:04about
07:05the other,
07:06the one he is related to.
07:08So, he says,
07:08I don't want to hurt your feelings.
07:10I want to be polite.
07:12I don't want to be
07:13too straight
07:14in your face,
07:15too rude.
07:17I'll say things
07:18in a way
07:18that don't displease you.
07:21In fact,
07:21I'll not say
07:22the right thing at all.
07:25I'll keep you
07:27enclosed
07:27in the kind of
07:29illusions
07:30that you prefer.
07:33In the short term,
07:34this seems to work.
07:37In the long term,
07:38it's the way
07:39of the
07:40teacher,
07:41the friend,
07:42the preceptor
07:42or the prophet
07:43that seems to work.
07:47It depends on you
07:49how much love you have.
07:51If you don't have
07:52enough love,
07:53then you will choose
07:55to be a politician
07:55in a relationship.
07:57But if you have
07:58love enough,
07:59you will choose
08:00to be the prophet
08:00in a relationship.
08:03It depends on
08:04how much love you have.
08:06Love not really
08:07for this,
08:08this one,
08:08the one you are related to.
08:10Love for that.
08:11Love for this.
08:13If you don't have
08:14love
08:15for the
08:15first thing
08:16or the first one,
08:18how can you
08:19have love
08:20for all the
08:20others you are
08:21related to?
08:23In fact,
08:24if you want to
08:24judge the
08:25person you are
08:26related to,
08:28that's the way
08:29to judge.
08:31Don't see
08:32whether that
08:34person loves you.
08:36See whether
08:36that person
08:37loves the truth.
08:40Never ask
08:41you love me.
08:43See whether
08:44the person
08:45loves the
08:45truth.
08:48If the person
08:48loves the truth,
08:49everything is fine.
08:50You don't need to ask,
08:51are you in love?
08:52Do you love me?
08:53Do you like me?
08:55All these are
08:55needless questions.
08:58The only question
08:58to be asked is,
08:59do you love the truth?
09:02Truth,
09:03the first thing,
09:03the first one.
09:04If that is loved,
09:06all will be in place.
09:08And if that
09:09first thing
09:10itself is missing,
09:11then you might
09:13keep professing
09:14love or
09:15commitment or
09:16loyalty or
09:16whatever.
09:18The fact is that
09:19your relationship
09:19will remain
09:21self-serving
09:22and violent.
09:29Are you getting it?
09:30Huh?
09:38You're getting it?
09:41There you are.
09:42You
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