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00:00I want something from you, so I'll bring to you what you desire, what not, what you need.
00:14You can choose to be the politician or the preceptor.
00:19So if you are acting politically correct, you must know that you have a personal stake somewhere.
00:26I want something from you, so I'm not going to run the risk of truth.
00:32And then there is the preceptor in relationships.
00:36Don't see whether that person loves you.
00:38See whether that person loves the truth.
00:40There must be people in your life, right?
00:42You think you know them really well?
00:44No.
00:44You do not know people really well.
00:46How will anybody know you really well?
00:51Namaskar Acharya Ji.
00:52And we are very grateful you are here.
00:55You've come all the way.
00:56So who am I?
00:57That's irrelevant.
00:59We're just very grateful that you're here.
01:01Thank you very much for your presence.
01:03My question is more of a conflict, and I'm in a constant conflict.
01:07What is the thin line between being polite and kind, or what you say, sugar-coated or politically correct, versus blatantly truthful,
01:20which can also be a kind of compassion when you witness your loved ones or close ones, constantly being in a victim state and putting it onto others and more circumstantial when you know that it's more perceptional and self-induced.
01:37But when you are trying to convey that, then you are the one who's being given statements like that the way you are,
01:48So it's been a constant conflict that where is that thin line?
02:07In line, I would be, I think, I manifested you here.
02:13I did.
02:15In line for whom?
02:18It depends on who you are.
02:20It depends on what you are choosing to be.
02:27Politically correct, you said in the beginning.
02:30See, in your daily life, in your relationships, you can choose to be the politician or the preceptor.
02:52The politician has a purpose, an ambition.
02:57Right?
02:58The politician wants to become something and stay there.
03:07And therefore, he will have to compromise with the truth.
03:11We are talking of the relationships that we have, right?
03:15We are not talking of politicians of the kind that we have in assemblies and parliaments.
03:21Because that's not the question here.
03:22So if you are acting politically correct, you must know that you have a personal stake somewhere.
03:36No politician can ever speak truth absolute to his audience.
03:46He'll have to dilute the truth.
03:52He'll have to compromise there.
03:55Because there is something that he wants in return from the audience.
03:59Right?
03:59He cannot afford to antagonize the audience.
04:02And if the audience is not ready to take the truth, the politician will not come up with the truth.
04:09Even if he has it.
04:11Assuming he has it.
04:13That's the politician.
04:14And you can be the politician in your relationships.
04:17I want something from you.
04:19So I'm not going to run the risk of truth.
04:22I want something from you.
04:26So I'll bring to you what you desire.
04:28And what not what you need.
04:32I need something from you.
04:34So I'll bring that to you which pleases.
04:39Not that which elevates.
04:45I'll bring something pleasing to you.
04:48Rather than something elevating.
04:50That's the politician in relationships.
04:52And then there is the preceptor in relationships.
04:57Preceptor is?
04:59Teacher.
05:02I could have said teacher.
05:03You know, just to make P and P sound cute.
05:06I did this.
05:07I don't need to do this.
05:08Fine.
05:09The teacher.
05:17Or you could be the teacher in relationships.
05:19But that sounds so uncool.
05:20The teacher in relation to one.
05:23Teacher.
05:24What else do I say?
05:30Teacher, preceptor, sage, real friend.
05:33Friend.
05:33Friend.
05:33Friend is fine.
05:34Friend is fine.
05:36Or you could be the friend.
05:38The friend does not have anything at stake.
05:40The first commitment of this one, the sagely friend, is towards the truth rather than the person he or she is related to.
05:54So this one is not going to compromise.
05:58Not going to compromise.
05:59Now, in the short run, it would appear as if the politician does better.
06:10The relationships of the politician would appear to be better in the short run.
06:16And most of us are concerned only with the short term.
06:23So there, the politician looks like prevailing and that's why most of us prefer to be politicians in our relationships.
06:30But in the long term, it's the preceptor that wins.
06:38The politician seems to care too much about the other, the one he is related to.
06:46So he says, I don't want to hurt your feelings.
06:48I want to be polite.
06:51I don't want to be too straight, in your face, too rude.
06:56I'll say things in a way that don't displease you.
06:59In fact, I'll not say the right thing at all.
07:04I'll keep you enclosed in the kind of illusions that you prefer.
07:12In the short term, this seems to work.
07:14In the long term, it's the way of the teacher, the friend, the preceptor or the prophet that seems to work.
07:26It depends on you, how much love you have.
07:30If you don't have enough love, then you will choose to be a politician in a relationship.
07:36But if you have love enough, you will choose to be the prophet in a relationship.
07:42It depends on how much love you have.
07:45Love not really for this one, the one you are related to.
07:48Love for that.
07:50Love for this.
07:52If you don't have love for the first thing, or the first one,
07:57how can you have love for all the others you are related to?
08:02In fact, if you want to judge the person you are related to,
08:07that's the way to judge.
08:08Don't see whether that person loves you.
08:14See whether that person loves the truth.
08:19Never ask, do you love me?
08:20See whether the person loves the truth.
08:26If the person loves the truth, everything is fine.
08:29You don't need to ask, are you in love?
08:30Do you love me?
08:32Do you like me?
08:34All these are needless questions.
08:36The only question to be asked is, do you love the truth?
08:41Truth, the first thing, the first one.
08:43If that is loved, all will be in place.
08:46And if that first thing itself is missing,
08:50then you might keep professing love or commitment or loyalty or whatever.
08:57The fact is that your relationship will remain self-serving and violent.
09:02Are you getting it?
09:13Hello, sir.
09:15I've been following you for the last five or six years.
09:18I think what I've learned is like in a lot of my aspects of life,
09:25I feel like I'm always chasing validation.
09:27And I have never really understood that certain parts of my life,
09:32I feel like I don't need validation and those are not the good actions.
09:36And there's certain parts where I feel which are the good things,
09:38which I know I should be doing.
09:40I need validation and I get that validation for a certain time.
09:43But then I can't kind of continue that action.
09:46So I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
09:53You can hear my being on this.
09:55I mean, I'm saying something to you that's not coming from any particular textbook
10:02or any pre-validated source.
10:06How do I know whether any of what I say to you makes any sense?
10:15The moment the question arises, there's a problem.
10:21You have to ask yourself, first of all, whether you are brutally honest
10:33in your dealings with the others.
10:38You have to know for yourself that you are giving not just 100%,
10:44but a little more than that to the other.
10:47Now you'll not need to look into the other's eyes and beg for validation.
10:56I'm already doing the maximum possible.
11:01Whether or not it pleases you, there is no way I can do anything extra or more.
11:06So if you say, I am doing well, fine.
11:12And if you say, I am doing poorly, that too is fine.
11:18So I don't need validation then.
11:20But that requires you to be ruthlessly honest with yourself first.
11:25When the inner eye is missing, then the outer eye keeps roving.
11:34Can you please certify that I'm talking sense?
11:39Can you please attest that I'm not an idiot?
11:44Can you please assure me that my decisions are correct?
11:49All that happens when you are not talking a lot to yourself.
11:58Others should not become easy substitutes.
12:02Your first relationship is with your own inner truth.
12:07And it's the most powerful source of validation.
12:14Others, how will they ever know you beyond a point?
12:17There must be people in your life, right?
12:23You think you know them really well?
12:26No.
12:27You do not know people really well.
12:29How will anybody know you really well?
12:32So even if others validate what you are saying or doing,
12:36does that hold any value?
12:39This person does not know me.
12:41But he says, Sir, you are great.
12:43Now this attestation, must it matter to me?
12:48He does not know me anyway at all.
12:50So even if he is certifying that I am wonderful,
12:54why should I be inflated because of that?
13:00The only person who can know me well is
13:05Me.
13:09If I have to ask somebody, I'll ask myself.
13:13If I have to ask, how am I doing?
13:15I'll ask myself.
13:16But that would require you to be impartial, nirmam.
13:20That's the word from Gita.
13:23Nirmam.
13:23That will require a certain detachment from oneself.
13:30A love for truth rather than personal weaknesses.
13:36Doesn't matter even if I have won the race.
13:39I know for myself, I didn't run well.
13:44They might have given me the gold medal.
13:47But I know for myself, I'm not proud of how I run.
13:50Are you getting this?
13:58The problem is not that we go and seek validation from others.
14:02The problem is that we have a broken relationship with ourself.
14:08We keep talking of relationships.
14:11We don't talk of the first, most fundamental, most important relationship.
14:15All your life, you have to live basically with yourself.
14:22Even when you are with others, have you not experienced loneliness?
14:26You might be surrounded.
14:28You might be in a crowd.
14:30And still there is loneliness.
14:32Not experience that?
14:33Because you have to live with yourself.
14:36So maintain that relationship.
14:38Do well there.
14:39And the word there is honesty.
14:43Honesty.
14:44No trick, no magic, no formula can be a substitute for that.
14:51Honesty.
14:52Honesty.
14:55All wisdom literature, all spiritual practices, all philosophy stops at that point.
15:03Honesty.
15:04That little thing.
15:05Because there can be no proof if you say, you know, I'm a fearless man.
15:12How can it be proven to you that you are not fearless?
15:16That's something internal.
15:18And in absence of honesty, you can continue nourishing your illusions.
15:23And keep telling yourself, I'm fearless, I'm fearless, I'm fearless.
15:27If you say you don't have fever, the doctor here can prove to you that you have fever, right?
15:33But if you say you don't have fear, how will I prove to you that you have fear?
15:38Maybe.
15:40Maybe.
15:41I can display that you are afraid in some situation.
15:44But you can come up with an argument.
15:47And say, no, no, no.
15:48This I was doing just to please you, just to humor you.
15:52I was not actually afraid.
15:55I was afraid by mistake.
15:57And even if I'm afraid, that's not my fault.
16:02I've been taught to be afraid.
16:03So that means I'm not afraid.
16:05I've been taught to be afraid.
16:06You can come up with any kinds of smart or cunning arguments.
16:12Therefore, what you need is honesty.
16:14Otherwise, there can be all kinds of devices and pretenses.
16:17And we are masters at it.
16:22Try telling somebody the truth and the kind of resistance you get is bewildering.
16:30Anything can be accepted.
16:31But truth is greeted with colossal resistance.
16:36And such arguments, you will be confounded.
16:39I mean, you might start thinking maybe there is a point there.
16:43The fellow might be an idiot.
16:46But when it comes to defending his falsenesses,
16:50he becomes the wisest, the smartest man possible.
16:57Want to awaken somebody's potential?
17:01Make them resist the truth.
17:03And they'll give it everything they have.
17:11Be with yourself.
17:13Just, just, just honestly, just honestly, just honestly.
17:19And, and to be inspired to do that.
17:23And to believe that it can be done.
17:26Read about people who live that way.
17:30Or if you are very lucky, live with people who live that way.
17:35Usually we are not that lucky.
17:37So read about such people.
17:39Therefore, great literature is very important.
17:41Be alright with yourself.
17:49Be alright with yourself.
17:50I'm not saying you must not take others' opinions or feedbacks.
17:53That's alright.
17:54But the, the primary judge must sit within.
17:59You need not look at yourself through others' eyes.
18:03The inner eye must be one's own.
18:05And that's all.
18:06Yeah, hi, hello everyone.
18:12My name is Richa Sharma.
18:14I'm from Ghasipal, Uttir Pradesh.
18:16And I have been a part of this family from past five months, five and six months.
18:21And in my journey, like, I am listening to Acharya Ji, Acharya Prashant Ji, from past, like, from 2020, I believe, after or during the COVID period.
18:30And now I'm a part of the community as well.
18:34So I think that was, like, my wholesome experience was totally, like, every single one of you.
18:41How we all started with some sort of catastrophic repercussions in our life because of our social conditioning and, you know, the unanswered why's in our life.
18:50So this particular education and these particular sessions are helping me to change me for my betterment, regulated by me only.
18:59So I think this is the best part of it.
19:01And that's how the more you are able to find your own problems within you with the help of Acharya Ji.
19:06Because he never asked, he never gave any personal advice in sessions.
19:10He always gives you the gyan, the knowledge and, you know, the explanations of Gita, Shlokas and everything.
19:16And now you have to figure out yourself where you are lacking.
19:19I think that is the best part that where you will be understanding all the rich eye of Ved's Gita.
19:27And along with you, you will be able to figure out what is wrong with you.
19:30So I think that is pretty much from my end.
19:33And I really, really want to thank you, Ashari Prachandji and all the team members for this incredible, incredible efforts.
19:39And we are always here for him.
19:41And thank you so much.
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