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00:00Countdown's party.
00:01We never broke out!
00:04Ladies, one of you will be going home tonight.
00:08Oh.
00:09You look so pretty.
00:11It's a little distracting, actually.
00:13My connection with Devon has blossomed.
00:15I like it.
00:16Sometimes I just look at you, you know?
00:17I'm like, she look good.
00:19Really?
00:19And that's not a game.
00:20You know what that is?
00:21What?
00:23That's gospel.
00:26I believe our misalignment is Jesus.
00:28There's a stalemate when it comes to religion.
00:31We may not be on one accord with that.
00:34Donna's a no-go.
00:35If you can't take care of me as well as my daddy
00:38take care of my mom for 39 years, I don't want it.
00:41Christina, all you trying to do is get paid.
00:45The person who will be going home is.
00:54No, it took me some time to get to the place
00:57that you wanted me to be, oh, but now I'm ready.
01:03I'm ready to love.
01:14Donna, the guys think you are intelligent, you have a great energy,
01:21but some have concerns that you're not religious.
01:27People just don't know who I am, and they're making assumptions.
01:30So it could be my time to go home.
01:32I don't know.
01:33Christina, you have a great personality,
01:37but some have concerns about the expectations that you have
01:42for the men that you date.
01:44Donna was in the last elimination, and knowing that I have connections
01:48with at least two of the men, I don't think I'll be going anywhere.
01:54So, the fellas have decided.
01:56The person who will be going home is...
02:04Christina.
02:07Christina.
02:08Christina, please say your goodbyes.
02:11I really appreciate getting to know everyone.
02:13And I honestly feel like if my expectations are too much for someone,
02:16then they're not ready to take care of a woman.
02:19It is a little bit shocking, but if I got to chase you, I don't want you.
02:25If you don't want to provide for me, God don't want you for me.
02:27Because if I have to do it on my own, why do I need you?
02:30Y'all have a great night.
02:35It is unfortunate, because there was a lot of different experiences
02:39that we got to enjoy.
02:40Take care, y'all.
02:41All right, all right.
02:43But at the same time, I'm just really grateful
02:45that I'm not wasting your time, and no one's wasting mine.
02:48All right, we are halfway through this journey.
02:51And if feelings deepen, it's time to get real.
02:55If there's anything that you haven't shared yet,
02:57whether it's your past, your fears,
03:00this is the week to lay it all out
03:02and clear those skeletons from the cloud.
03:05Ladies, the power is shifting back to you.
03:09At the end of the week, we will meet to discuss everything you found out
03:13and determine which of these guys is simply not ready to lock.
03:18I had a blast at the Motown party.
03:20And knowing that I'm still in the process,
03:23it will give me the opportunity to have more conversations
03:26with the men who are left.
03:28I appreciate every one of y'all for showing up and showing out.
03:31I'll see y'all soon.
03:32This is where you clap when I leave.
03:33That's what happens.
03:35Yeah, I'll see it, y'all.
03:48This week, Tommy's assignment was to dig deep.
03:50So I set up a group date with myself, Donna, Ashley, Vince, Steve,
03:56and Chris to do hot yoga.
03:59Got stockings, sports shorts, a pink shirt.
04:00Wait, wait, wait.
04:01Why would you call them stockings?
04:02These are compression pants.
04:05I am most looking forward to seeing Vince.
04:08I know I'm going to laugh.
04:09And I know he's going to make any activity feel like a good time.
04:13You're going to draw the first inhale through your nose
04:14as you fill up completely.
04:17Exhale it out with a sigh.
04:20Good.
04:21From there, we're going to the lumbar area.
04:22Bring the hands to the low back.
04:24I feel like I'm tearing up.
04:26Oh, I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm sorry.
04:28Yeah, then exhale, send your butt backwards.
04:30Donna and Nicole, you can tell they do this every week.
04:33It helps if you pull on a breathe out, y'all.
04:35But everyone else, we couldn't get a move down.
04:39You're going to send the feet up.
04:40Bring the hands to the low back.
04:41It's like a Diddy pose.
04:45Chris over here is shaking like a stripper.
04:47Let's take one final inhale together as we fill up.
04:51Exhale it out.
04:54Good job.
04:57All right.
04:58So, what you think?
05:00I broke a little sweat.
05:01Broke a little sweat?
05:03You know what I'm saying?
05:05Chris is not a romantic connection for me.
05:07I think the last time we had a conversation was at the mixer.
05:10So, look.
05:11How?
05:11What?
05:12You spilling the beans?
05:14Or you going to spill the beans?
05:16What beans do I got?
05:17He kind of overpowered the conversation, but I'm still willing to get to know him a little
05:20bit better.
05:21I grew up being extremely romantic.
05:25And when you're being overly romantic, really young, that's really off-putting in girls.
05:29I had, like, keloid skin.
05:31I had a great gap in my teeth.
05:33I had really bad self-esteem issues, so I worked on being a conversationalist to get an edge on the prettier-looking dudes until I got handsome.
05:43Now it's clicking.
05:44Now it's clicking.
05:45Chris has created speaking as a form of healing.
05:50So, this has been very interesting for me to see myself in this life.
05:53It doesn't change that overpowering a conversation can be confusing and irritating, but at least I have the why for Chris now.
06:01It's ingrained.
06:02It's ingrained.
06:03Right.
06:04All right.
06:05Give me a little bit more.
06:06Okay, that's about it.
06:07That's about it.
06:08Go again.
06:09I like this.
06:10I like this.
06:11Is this the stuff we supposed to be prepping?
06:12Y'all doing good.
06:13This is a good connection.
06:14Oh!
06:15Oh, I like Vince.
06:17We held hands during this date, and it might be something sparking between us.
06:24Our assignment from Tommy this week is to reveal something to the other person.
06:29Hmm.
06:30So, do you want to go first?
06:33Okay.
06:34I can go first.
06:35So, I would say so far in this experience, I have always told people that I didn't want
06:40kids, and I am not gonna cry here.
06:45I think I do want kids.
06:48I just am scared of being a bad parent or a bad mother or falling at something.
06:55I will share this with you.
06:57Okay.
06:58Right?
06:59I, of course, have two children.
07:00Yes.
07:01Fourth grade.
07:02I was driving them to school.
07:03I was like, you know how you guys don't know stuff, and you're learning stuff as you're
07:08growing?
07:09Yeah.
07:10I want to let you guys know that I've never been a parent before.
07:13Yeah.
07:14That's why I'm wrong a lot.
07:16What my daughter said, she said, so we're like raising you too.
07:21Mmm.
07:22That's deep.
07:23And I said, yes.
07:24Yeah.
07:25You are.
07:26Yeah.
07:27I had to drop them off before I broke out into tears.
07:29And I just say all that to say, as long as you do everything that you can do, you should
07:35be able to sleep at night and be happy with whatever result you get.
07:40I knew me and Vince could have fun, but this is the first time that I'm starting to see
07:46Vince in a more, like, romantic light.
07:48I know that Ed has been my top connection this entire experience, but Vince has been
07:53moving up and up and up for me.
07:55So I would just advise you to just be you, which is obviously wonderful, and let go.
08:02We're about to catch a blah, blah, blah.
08:07Now it's like, hey, it's the time.
08:09We got to share a little more.
08:10Yeah.
08:11We got to, so.
08:12I mean, I think we had to kind of say it's about, like, the gap that you had of being
08:16single.
08:17Seven years or something.
08:18I'm like, yo.
08:19So, like, how did that occur?
08:21Or, like, why?
08:22Or why did you feel it was necessary?
08:23End of 20s, beginning of 30s, I was in two back-to-back, really poor relationships.
08:29So when I got out of that, I said, all right, nope, we're not doing that again.
08:33Let's get to know myself, maybe even recreate a new version of myself, because the last one
08:38kept up.
08:39So that was when I started my PhD.
08:42So that was six years ago.
08:44And I got a time where I was like, okay, I can start dating again.
08:47Talking with Donna, she's someone who is serious about her love life, which makes me really
08:52focused, like, hey, if you want her, like, you can't play a game.
08:55So I'm interested in knowing if the relationship with your mom and dad has impacted you making
09:01romantic decisions.
09:02My mom has passed.
09:04So I think that, number one, has made a big impact.
09:08I'm like, if my mom was still alive, I would have somebody to bounce ideas off of.
09:13I missed out on that tremendously.
09:15Like, I seek out on the women now probably more than the men in my family for, like, those
09:19conversations.
09:20So I think now in my relationships, like, going forward, I'll be able to just be more willing
09:27to be more, like, wide open.
09:29He got real with me for a second, and I really appreciated that.
09:32So I'm leaving this date wanting to spend a little bit more time with Steven.
09:36I think that's probably the deepest conversation we've had.
09:39So I'm glad to, like, kind of be in that space with you.
09:42It was very good.
09:43Now I know Donna.
09:44I know Donna a lot better than I knew before.
09:47I'm like, whoo!
09:48How'd you like everything?
09:49It was hot.
09:50It was very hot.
09:51It felt just like me.
09:52Ashley is super fine.
09:54We had talked a few times over phone calls, a lot of texts.
09:57So being able to have one-on-one time with her was really cool.
10:00How's everything been going for you this week?
10:02I'm hanging in there, but it's definitely becoming a little challenging.
10:06I actually was really struggling.
10:08The party?
10:09Yeah, I was like, I'm not having a good time.
10:11It's been really heavy on me that, like, what if I don't find my person here?
10:16You know, I went through a situation, um, probably about four or five months ago
10:20where I actually fell in love with somebody really, really fast.
10:23Mm-hmm.
10:24And they just ghosted me.
10:26It was like...
10:27But you felt like that was love at first sight.
10:29Oh, yeah.
10:30And it was just like, damn.
10:32When Chris told me he fell in love with that woman, I definitely listened.
10:36But I cannot stand a man with a bruised ego.
10:39At the end of the day, this whole thing, you're forced to have to communicate
10:43and have these relationships to people that are not interested in you, right?
10:47Mm-hmm.
10:48But then the whole perspective is, well, you should be trying to deal with people
10:51that you typically don't deal with.
10:52So...
10:53Yes.
10:54It's like, I don't know what to do with my hands.
10:56I can see why, and maybe there's a wall up.
10:58But if you can be vulnerable and do all those things with that woman outside of this,
11:03just give us the same grace.
11:05I feel like I only have a certain amount of time.
11:07Why would I waste time with individuals that I'm not interested in?
11:11I can't deal with that.
11:13You look nice.
11:15I invited Bello out to tour the Detroit River with me on this tiki boat.
11:34I've always been like, wow, he's super attractive.
11:36I like this outfit.
11:39So, what I hope to establish by the end of this date is whether we're going to be a romantic
11:44connection or if he's just better off in the friend zone.
11:47Maybe I should get, like, a bartender name or something.
11:50Luscious Lauren.
11:51Luscious?
11:52Luscious Lauren.
11:53Ooh, I was checking her out.
11:56Lauren, her hair is on point, her outfit.
11:59I like your nails.
12:01That's nice.
12:02Lauren is somebody that I have interest in because I like her energy.
12:07She's down to earth.
12:08So, I'm excited to uncover what we got going on.
12:12Yeah, come and then catch my vibe.
12:15Come and then catch my vibe.
12:16Come and then catch my vibe.
12:18Well, look at the Detroit skyline.
12:21Yeah.
12:22Yeah, that is beautiful.
12:23And we should definitely take a photo.
12:25Absolutely.
12:26I'll give you a hug.
12:27Okay.
12:28Cute.
12:29Oh, gorgeous.
12:30This is nice.
12:33So, obviously, you're a good-looking guy.
12:36You just seem like every time I'm in person with you, it seems very, like, gentleman, good guy.
12:43What's really going on, you know?
12:45Are you secretly married or...?
12:46No, no, no rings.
12:48I'm not secretly married.
12:50Okay.
12:51But I have a one-year-old daughter.
12:53Oh, wow.
12:54I would never guess.
12:55She's in Miami.
12:56I'm out here, so...
12:57Mm.
12:58And it's so new.
12:59I have one child.
13:00Her name's Nava.
13:02It was a surprise.
13:03I found out, like, four or five months ago, but I'm in my daughter's life to try and see
13:07her as frequent as possible.
13:09I had my first child at 37.
13:12Was that intentional?
13:14My accident.
13:15I had a one-night stand.
13:17Then she calls me in May, and then she's like, I'm pregnant.
13:20Really?
13:21Oh, my God.
13:23I'm just...
13:24You're not going to run away now?
13:25That's scary, what?
13:26No, I'm just processing.
13:27Have you physically...
13:28Yes.
13:29Oh, my God.
13:30Yeah, I've seen her twice.
13:31So, what was that, like, the first time you...
13:32Did you look at her and say, that's my...
13:34Oh, my God.
13:35Ah, you know what?
13:36It was weird, because I went there to do the paternity test.
13:39Oh.
13:40So, when I went there, I'm touching her, I'm grabbing her, I'm looking at her, I'm like,
13:43is this mine?
13:44Is she mine?
13:45And then I didn't get the paternity test until after I left.
13:47Would you work things out with the mother?
13:49It's a strict co-parenting.
13:51Strict co-parenting.
13:52This was something that wasn't part of the game plan, but I got to step up, because I
13:58want to be involved in my child's life, period, full stop.
14:01And I feel like parenting is very important.
14:05I'm glad that they're so open about things.
14:08Like, if you ask him, he's going to tell you.
14:10100%.
14:11It's not a secret, and I'm glad we were able to kind of clear some things up about having
14:16a child, and just how you found out and everything.
14:19Yeah.
14:23Speaking on Bello's situation with the baby, like, he is mature enough to understand,
14:28you just want to speak and get some stuff off, you want clarification, and I can give
14:32that to you.
14:33And that, that was big for me.
14:34So this date, I believe, has drawn us closer.
14:37You see that ship?
14:38It says La Bello.
14:39Ain't that cool?
14:40You need a boat.
14:41You need a boat.
14:42Ha, ha.
14:46Let's go!
14:48What up, what up?
14:49Hi.
14:50Looking amazing.
14:51Hi.
14:52You look nice.
14:53You smell good.
14:54Yeah, you always smell great.
14:56This week, I've decided to take Cardi out on a date, and we're doing trivia.
15:00I'll give you some trivia slips here.
15:02Just need your team name across the top.
15:04My connection with Dello at this point is fabulous.
15:07But Cardi, we talked when we went into the second mixer.
15:11It's, um...
15:12Oh, you put your arm around me, you know?
15:13I like you.
15:14Oh, it's all good.
15:15We good.
15:16We good.
15:17We outside.
15:18We inside.
15:19So, I was interested in spending some time with him, just some one-on-one.
15:22What's our name going to be?
15:24Well, we want to do like...
15:25Cardam.
15:26Cardam is actually dope.
15:27Cardam.
15:28That Dominique, she looks beautiful.
15:30A smiley face with a fro.
15:32The women are in power this week.
15:34I know I have to make an impression, so it's time to show up for the glow up.
15:38All right, the next game of trivia.
15:41Here's your first question on the Backstreet Boys.
15:45Which two Backstreet Boys members are first cousins?
15:50I'm gonna just say Jake and Josh.
15:52I don't even know if they in here.
15:54I don't even either.
15:56The Backstreet Boys were named after the open-air Backstreet Market in what city?
16:01I don't know where Backstreet Boys is from.
16:04I have no idea.
16:06Ciao.
16:08They asked us all about Backstreet, and I don't know no facts.
16:12I don't even know the lyrics.
16:13Name the two albums that followed Backstreet's back.
16:16I don't know.
16:17Bro, they're gonna ask me some questions about Michael Jackson.
16:21I feel we got set up.
16:22Should've been some Motown flair, personally, but...
16:24I mean, you can't win them all, right?
16:26Cardam sucks right now.
16:27Yeah.
16:28But anyway, I wanted us to have some one-on-one time.
16:31I appreciate it.
16:32I appreciate it.
16:33I wanted to dive a little deeper.
16:35I know that you have a daughter.
16:37Mm-hmm.
16:38She'll be three.
16:39And what does that look like with the mother?
16:41Um, we co-parent.
16:42I think it's important to make sure that we do right for our daughter.
16:45And we've kind of done it since, like, since she was born.
16:47Okay.
16:48So, your last relationship was how long ago?
16:51About 18 months ago.
16:52You see yourself, like, being married again?
16:55Absolutely.
16:56When I first got divorced, I didn't want to be a wife again
16:58because I was afraid of something breaking.
17:01And it's like, sometimes things are meant to be broken
17:03and put back together.
17:04Mm.
17:05I have wife qualities.
17:07You're playing it.
17:08That's who I know.
17:09I can kind of like, from looking in your eyes, I can see.
17:12You know, there we go.
17:13Like, you can get lost in your eyes, you know?
17:15Mine?
17:16Yeah, yours.
17:19In that moment, I was anticipating and hoping for a kiss.
17:22That's, that's...
17:23I ain't got lost in this moment.
17:24Lost in love.
17:26But that's just nothing that I personally want to rush.
17:30So, there's always next time.
17:32Cardam did not win.
17:34Cardam did not win.
17:35But we did win tonight.
17:36We did.
17:37I had a great time with Cardi.
17:40I had lots of laughs.
17:41And he was intentional getting to know me on a deeper level.
17:44These boots.
17:45Oh, I'm in bad boots.
17:47Do I think that Cardam is going to go past trivia?
17:52Hmm.
17:53I guess we'll all have to watch and see.
17:55I like Bello a lot.
17:57But, you know, may the best man win.
17:59You win the wrong place.
18:06I don't care who's around, baby, come a little closer.
18:11We have your table right here for you.
18:13Okay, thank you.
18:14The ladies are in power this week.
18:16So, I invited Shannon, Devon, and Darius to a really cool little speech-easy spot.
18:22Wow.
18:23Got it good for you.
18:25Check it out.
18:26Really?
18:28How did you know?
18:29My favorite.
18:30I remember you explained it to me.
18:31Oh, my God.
18:32Most definitely.
18:33With Darius, I am a fan of his fashion sense.
18:36But I'm really trying to figure out what's real, what's not.
18:40How y'all doing, babe?
18:41Good to see you.
18:42It's good to see you, too.
18:43Devon, he's super consistent.
18:45But our connection started kind of further along in the process.
18:49Ooh.
18:50Look, cute.
18:51Look at those shoes.
18:52So, I'm just curious to see how this is going to go.
18:55Wow, you're always so put together.
18:57Am I?
18:58Yeah, all the little detail.
18:59I'm looking at y'all like...
19:01So, you know, one of the things Tommy wanted us to do this week was to get rid of the surface
19:09level.
19:10Right.
19:11Let's go deep.
19:12So, is there something that you're willing to share?
19:14When I was in my most recent grad program, I ended up fainting and smacking the whole left
19:20side of my head on the wall.
19:22Oh, no.
19:23I had post-concussive syndrome.
19:25And still, even now, it impacts me today.
19:28Wow.
19:29I admire Shannon because she's not afraid to be vulnerable.
19:32It speaks to her ability to communicate in a healthy way.
19:36And that's a trait that I want in my future wife.
19:39So, as a kid, when my mother used to drop me off at school in the morning, all the little
19:44girls was lined up and they would kiss my hand and say,
19:47King Darius.
19:48Oh, goodbye.
19:49My mother used to...
19:50My mother said...
19:51That's what my mother did.
19:52My mother was like, uh-uh, stop.
19:53This has to stop.
19:54Explains a lot.
19:56Nice.
19:57Yummy.
19:58Good story, but I don't know if it was super deep.
20:02My mom and dad had a very terrible relationship.
20:06Right.
20:07And then it just led me down a whole path of that's not what love looks like.
20:12Right.
20:13But now, you know.
20:14Plus, I have son.
20:15And so, when I look at them, I'm like, guys are good until you show me, like, otherwise.
20:20I just seen Lauren as an untouchable individual.
20:24She kind of comes off as perfect to me.
20:27And to learn that she had some experiences that she'd been through.
20:32Wow.
20:33That was very touching.
20:34My parents got divorced when I was six.
20:37They were a lot of times fighting.
20:40My father didn't get along with my mother.
20:42And it taught me a lot.
20:44Making sure that I'm healed.
20:46Breaking generational curses.
20:48I'm bringing peace into my life.
20:49Any partner that I have is coming into something that's already whole.
20:53You know what I mean?
20:54Yeah.
20:55I feel like Devon understood the assignment.
20:57That probably has totally impact how he interacts with partners and relationships.
21:02I'm glad that he felt comfortable sharing that with us.
21:05Well, guys, this has been really fun.
21:07Yeah, most definitely.
21:08I actually have an event I'm gonna have to cut out.
21:11Overall, I thoroughly enjoyed sharing deep moments with Devon and Shannon.
21:17Oh, you smell good.
21:18However, I'm still up in the air about how I feel about Darius.
21:23Bye Shannon.
21:24Bye.
21:25Okay.
21:26See you guys.
21:27Bye.
21:28Bye.
21:29Bye.
21:30It's like yesterday I'm feeling good.
21:31I feel like I'm having trouble.
21:32I'm feeling good.
21:33I'm feeling good.
21:34I'm feeling good.
21:35Bye.
21:36Bye.
21:37Hey.
21:38Hey.
21:39I never fronting.
21:40I know.
21:41Hey.
21:42Hey, I never fronting.
21:43No.
21:44No.
21:45Hey, I never fronting.
21:46No.
21:47We don't want to leave you wanting.
21:48No.
21:49No.
21:50Baby, you're my queen.
21:51We be living our best life.
21:52Hi.
21:53Next!
21:54You're gonna fall in love with me.
21:56It's so good to see you, you smell good.
21:58I took a bath.
21:59I feel like a little kid who has a crush.
22:01I hope he feels the same, I don't really know,
22:03but I am hoping that I find that out during this date.
22:07How you doing?
22:08Good, soft hands.
22:09I ain't been hitting people like you've been hitting people
22:11with the boxing gloves.
22:12So I'm going into the date, I see Nicole,
22:14she looks gorgeous.
22:16I guess this is the salad.
22:17My boy.
22:19It looks good.
22:20You know, I'm already starting to learn more about Nicole.
22:23I'm starting to see a softer side,
22:25but haven't really had any one-on-one time.
22:28So I'm excited to see where this goes.
22:32It's crazy, we've known each other for almost 15 years.
22:34I know.
22:35And we've never been on a date.
22:36You know, we've known each other since undergrad.
22:39And I'm glad we're getting a chance now.
22:40Yeah, me too.
22:41I can usually meet somebody,
22:45and I see what type of relationship we can have,
22:48like how I can navigate this.
22:49They're like, what?
22:50You and I don't got a clue.
22:52What's something that you feel like you should know
22:54about your person that you don't know about me?
22:58How you show up in relationships today,
23:00like how has past pain and hurt affected who you are
23:03as a person today?
23:04Sure, sure.
23:05I would say...
23:08Or like the most pain you've ever been in
23:10that wasn't physical.
23:12The most pain that I've ever been in
23:14that wasn't physical was...
23:23I have a high tolerance for pain all around.
23:30Ed is someone who has been married before,
23:32so I think that there is some fear.
23:34There is some trust issues he might have.
23:37Like, I like to feel, like, closeness with people.
23:40If we doing good, if we doing bad.
23:41I don't know anything about you.
23:44So do we actually work?
23:45Could I see myself dating him?
23:47I have no clue.
23:48So one of my ultimate deal-breaker in a relationship...
23:51Mm-hmm.
23:53I absolutely cannot date somebody
23:56that will not open up to me.
24:07Ring, ring, call him up.
24:09I'm what you're looking for.
24:11Hey, what's up?
24:12Ring, ring, hit the dial.
24:14Walk this way and flash that smile.
24:16Darius is my top connection,
24:18but Bello is somebody that I could be interested in.
24:21So I invited Bello out on a date just to pick his brain
24:24and get to know him more.
24:26Guess who?
24:27Hey.
24:29He makes everything so calm and comfortable,
24:32so I knew it would be easy for me
24:34to just let Lucie talk to him.
24:36You know, I was actually thinking
24:38about wearing a jean jacket this morning.
24:39Really? Yeah.
24:40But I still like that fit.
24:41I like it.
24:43Ashley looking cute.
24:44She had the jeans with the black on.
24:47Yeah. Yeah.
24:49Guys, how you been?
24:50I've been good.
24:51How was the party?
24:52I got rhythm, but I didn't know any of the words.
24:54So you're doing a hustle?
24:55Yeah, I can do the hustle.
24:57I don't know Ashley yet, but I'm excited to see
25:00what kind of vibe we have together.
25:01So when we were speaking on the phone,
25:03I remember you said you were part native.
25:05I'm Indian, Cherokee, so.
25:07How many siblings you got?
25:08I have a big brother, a big sister, me,
25:10and then three little brothers.
25:11So I'm like the black sheep, you know?
25:13I'm the middle child, too.
25:14Then you're like pretty kind of different from everyone?
25:17Hell yeah.
25:17My sister did med school.
25:19She did her master's.
25:20My mom did accounting.
25:21Did they want you to like go a certain way?
25:24And you kind of?
25:25Oh, I was supposed to go into law.
25:26But I've always been like into entrepreneurship,
25:28selling stuff.
25:29You kind of wanted to just do what you wanted to do.
25:31Yes.
25:32Absolutely.
25:34Bello, he literally follows his own dreams.
25:37And that's kind of like what I did.
25:38I didn't listen to my mom or dad about being a doctor.
25:42I wanted to be a personal trainer.
25:44Well, that looks great.
25:45Right?
25:45And I just like that he's confident in what he wants to do.
25:49So what made you feel that you're ready to get married?
25:54I feel like I did the work.
25:56I went to therapy for three years.
25:57I'm still in therapy now.
25:58I'm actually going on Wednesday to go talk to her.
26:01She helped me grow so much and see so many things about myself
26:04that I didn't know.
26:05What did you learn about yourself?
26:08I learned that I am a very, very strong person.
26:12But sometimes I feel like I'm not.
26:15Sometimes I feel like I am so defeated.
26:17I am so weak right now.
26:18Like, I'm tearing up because it's real.
26:22Wow.
26:23I'm so sorry.
26:23Give me a hat.
26:28Wow.
26:33I want to be Ashley, funny, happy.
26:35I want to just be me.
26:37But I literally went through the darkest thing,
26:39seeing somebody look like they was possessed,
26:41mental illness, schizophrenic, bipolar.
26:45When you see that stuff firsthand with somebody you love,
26:50you're going to look at life totally different.
26:53It was like a real dark time.
26:56Every time I talk about it, I get emotional still to this day,
26:59because that's something that I hold dear to my heart.
27:01And Bella's support meant so much to me in that moment.
27:04That was really touching.
27:05So that's just, I'm sorry to not mean to cry.
27:09I got you.
27:10I got you.
27:11I got you.
27:12A lot of people will just try and tough it out.
27:15And for you to seek that out, that's brave and it's strong.
27:18You know what I mean?
27:20This is amazing because I feel like what takes six months,
27:23we just did it in like a couple minutes.
27:27With Ashley, she allowed herself to be vulnerable and I feel like she was authentic.
27:36I feel like she has a lot of layers and I want to uncover more of those layers.
27:39I was with Bella today and we just basically impact everything.
27:50Let's go.
27:51I cried.
27:52We talked about mental illness.
27:54It was just a wonderful day and I love that he was so attentive and understood where I was
27:59coming from.
28:00It was just wonderful.
28:01And Bella, you did it with that one, like definitely husband material.
28:09You up in the clouds.
28:26Oh.
28:27Hey.
28:28Hey, Donna.
28:28Hey, girl.
28:29Hey.
28:30So it's time to go back into Tommy's Lounge.
28:31We're about halfway through the process
28:34and the deliberations are getting more intense.
28:36I'm going to pour a little extra today.
28:38hot motions are high and the stakes are higher so this will be interesting to say the least
28:44hey hey hey how y'all doing good how are you all right may i have a seat absolutely thank you thank
28:52you okay did y'all like motown time here this time which one which one a little different
29:00that was crazy all right welcome back to our lounge now this week's assignment was to do a
29:06little grave digging discuss any skeletons you or your partner have been keeping behind those
29:12closet doors so let's talk about the fellas that you are connecting with we're gonna start with
29:19dominique from the second mixer me and cardi had like a little connection so i took him on a trivia
29:26date we called it cardam oh i like that that was our name and we lost but did you at least see a
29:34different side of him oh yeah he opened up like we had a good time it was a good day all right
29:39miss nicole i love vence i just think he's such a great person we did the hot yoga date we were
29:45holding hands and that kind of made me like snap out of the it cloud all right yeah i was on the date
29:53the yoga date as well vence is still my top connection and then steve and i connected that's when he shared
29:58his mother his past already and that he really leans on the other women in his life i like it devon is
30:06a wonderful person he's funny he's kind he and i can talk for a long long time like i hopped in the
30:13shower and kept talking not with the earbud though yeah you're gonna get electrocuted
30:20lauren let me hear it fellow we had a date little tiki boat and he just found out he had a child oh wow i was
30:27kind of shocked so i wanted clarification on how he's going to navigate that and his response he was
30:34very open about everything he's not scared of a challenge i think his heart is in the right place
30:41i like bellow and i ain't judging him for having a kid i have a child it's just his situation is a bit
30:47rocky right now so it'll be interesting to see how his story plays out i actually had a date with bellow
30:52he really went deep about his family he was very intentional and i also got emotional on the day
30:57i cried because we were talking about mental illness and things that's really important to me what made
31:02you cry um i don't want to cry now but that's okay when you see somebody go through mental illness or
31:12bipolar schizophrenic it's it's hard to see somebody you love go through that and you can't do anything
31:19so i just appreciate him listening to me i understand ashley starts to get emotional and
31:27i'm feeling her i can relate with what she's going through and i sympathize with her a hundred percent
31:32i appreciate you being open if you're here to find love these are the parts of our lives that you
31:37share with people and you start touching on those things that really really mean something to you
31:45all right we're gonna keep it moving now who is missing the mark and may not be ready to love
31:52oh my goodness chris it's not a connection and it won't be he will overpower a conversation
31:59nothing has changed with that he just seems a bit insecure about the journey the guys are just
32:04the women are just it's just too sobby for me like man up a little bit you know chris either
32:10you're going to rise to the occasion or you're going to fade away all right anybody else
32:17darius i literally feel like i just called my pastor yeah i can't imagine sleeping with the pastor
32:22amen vince we're going to be butting heads about financials well you're going to be working okay
32:31all the way up to nine months pregnant you're going to be working
32:37who else ed he's just not attentive you are interested right i like for the dialogue to be
32:44like both ways it seemed like he would not speak worse affirmation until his woman i agree and he
32:52is a charmer like he's emotionally unavailable i'm so sad y'all tell me what's wrong i finally had
32:59a date with ed i like him everybody know i like him does he like you maybe she is crushing on this
33:05man since 15 years and you still ain't seen it you agree what ashanta just said that he's emotionally
33:11unavailable because you notice you don't have ed as your top right exactly i'm not ready to let him
33:17go and it will crush me so let me say this yeah over this 15 plus years i think you've painted this
33:26picture and that picture might not really exist the way you think does that make sense it does i do
33:33understand where the women are coming from i could be a little fairy tale with my hopes and there's still
33:37a lot i need to get to know about it so i am just stuck in my own head to try to figure it out all
33:43right sound like some of y'all couldn't pick the lock on that closet door with them skeletons inside
33:49so i want you to take these guys out on a date and let them know if they are just not ready to love
33:55all right ladies i'm gonna let y'all talk about this and uh call my wine
34:01okay she's talking to me in the shower with her earbud on hello chris how are you the lovely ashantae
34:24who is someone that i've been wanting to go out on a date with for a while now inviting me out
34:29so i was excited finally getting my one-on-one day okay however it is elimination week so i was
34:37kind of like all right well we're gonna see how this rolls how's your day been going my day's been
34:41good you know it's been just you know usual grind trying to not lose my job so right please don't do
34:48that today i have the task of taking it out to let him know how the women are feeling about him
35:02i am a super emotional girl and i have trouble keeping it together so i don't want to have this
35:08conversation but i know that it is something that i have to do
35:15what's the matter well i get a call from nicole we got a second date but as soon as i see nicole
35:22i'm puzzled i'm like what's going on
35:27hi hey so do you feel like you've been um connecting with a lot of the ladies have you been
35:33reaching out i'm gonna give you my top five like top five is crazy when it ain't but six people six
35:39seven currently right now you're at my top dominique's still in there it's a toss-up between nicole and
35:44shannon so you do feel like you're building romantic connections because with the ladies lounge with tommy
35:52a lot of women did not feel that romantic connection being made so we had a ladies lounge today
35:59we think you're a great guy we think you're a fun guy but we wanted you to open up a little bit more
36:06and we wanted to know a little bit more about who you are as a person i mean this is me being open
36:11with limited access we just felt like we needed more from you i came on this journey looking for
36:17love but like are you ready for a girlfriend ready for a wife that was like the question mark that a lot
36:22of the girls had everybody thinks you're extremely smart but some of the women still feel like
36:29you're not listening enough they're just a bit detached i don't really know what that means
36:35exactly they don't necessarily want to put in more effort unless they feel more effort coming from you
36:43it was mentioned that they couldn't tell like who you are or what you wanted you move at a slower
36:51pace and that's kind of how i felt about it um i felt like we had great conversations we were getting
36:59closer it's not like i'm intentionally trying to talk to people i'm genuinely trying to get to know
37:05so many people in a short amount of time it's giving a friend vibe so with that being said
37:11the ladies in the lounge today we had a talk and today in the lounge we came to the conclusion that
37:21this is really hard for me you
37:23you are not ready to love okay i understand i'm not surprised at all i think that their feedback was
37:33extremely accurate i was just spent from like the emotional connection with so many women all at the
37:39same time moving forward i'm gonna definitely uh change up the approach a little bit bring a little
37:44romance it's been a once in a lifetime experience that i would never trade for a million
37:50dollars like well i mean you gave me a million i would trade it for a million dollars but um it was
37:56such a wonderful experience i hope you find love i hope so too job um we didn't get to see like who you
38:08were on the inside and you know how you feel so it's really hard for me to say but um the ladies have
38:16decided that you are not ready for love
38:28it's definitely unexpected it's pretty hurtful i became open i became transparent but some of the
38:35women feel as if i'm not
38:37like i was so kind of devastated a little bit because like i was so happy that you were here
38:46mm-hmm
38:56well i mean the journey it did what it was supposed to do right it connected us it allowed us to have
39:01some great conversations it allowed us to get to know each other better i'm sorry it's okay no no
39:08don't ever apologize it's okay it's a partner tonight
39:14i'm not doing this
39:21seeing nicole become so emotional it was heartbreaking the expectations of spending more time with each
39:27other has just been ripped away i'm so sorry don't apologize
39:37it's okay i think that my connection to him was the most emotional connection that i had here
39:44but even in this moment i have no idea if he is interested in me and i don't want to spend another
39:5215 years like wondering like if something could happen between us this is where my journey ends and
40:08it's devastating but i can take this as a learning lesson continuing looking for love and see how i
40:14move forward from this point
40:27next time on ready to love this week the women are meeting your exes oh okay
40:34you all right i don't know how this feels for you but i know how it feels for me
40:39oh at least one of us does what attracted you to him i feel like we by ourself all the time he feels
40:45like he's going to be my favorite person ever you heard that she said ever i know forever ever
40:51i feel like i have strong connections but not as strong as him
40:56oh wow i got a kiss that was like a turn on like skyrocket for me i hate every single time i see you
41:02talking to another girl oh i hate it you do know we sitting here you want that sexual connection
41:08oh okay that is very important to him i'm not going to sit up here and talk about my coochie with
41:14other people you won't have to talk about your coochie but cardio freak or something no no no no how did this happen
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