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90 Day Fiance The Other Way S07 E14
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00:00Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:03So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:06What the f***?
00:10He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:12What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:16My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:20And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:24I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:30Show me that you can take care of yourself here, please.
00:33All right.
00:34I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:39a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:42Okay.
00:42Okay.
00:48That's mom.
00:49She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:54She calls every day.
00:56It's not normal.
00:58I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:01I know, but baby.
01:01You guys act like best friends.
01:02You're saying, is it resolved?
01:04You're saying, you know what, mom, but he is right.
01:09The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:13I don't think I love you anymore.
01:18We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:48Okay.
01:49You ready?
01:50Yes.
01:55Sorry.
01:56A bit hard.
01:56Okay.
01:58Oh!
02:01Don't worry about the ball.
02:02Okay.
02:03You want me to keep going?
02:04Yeah.
02:04I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:12Ah!
02:13And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:21I've got one for Tia.
02:25Fairly love.
02:27I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:31She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:33I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:38Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:39Okay.
02:40My point.
02:46Party love.
02:48I suck!
02:51Oh, God.
02:51She kicked my ass.
02:52Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:00Just like, ugh.
03:01Are you thirsty?
03:03Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:04Let's go.
03:04Let's have a break.
03:07I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:13And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:16Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:21It's a beautiful place.
03:23Oh, thanks for coming.
03:25Yeah.
03:29To be honest with you, Joe, like the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:37No.
03:37Because I don't want to come office.
03:38I'm very open.
03:39Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:41Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:42Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:54Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:05Did you say that?
04:06I did.
04:07Yeah.
04:08Yeah.
04:08So I was concerned about that.
04:11I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:12That's, I know, that's horrible.
04:14It's how I felt.
04:15Yeah, I know.
04:15I thought it was horrible, too.
04:18That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:21I know.
04:21I want you both to be happy.
04:22No, seriously, I do.
04:24I never, ever resented you.
04:25Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:31Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:32The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:36Well, I stopped spending.
04:40You say you've stopped spending.
04:44You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:45Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:49So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:51He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
04:58Yes, I feel, I feel like he owes me that.
05:01Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:05That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:08But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:11This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:19Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:23First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:25She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:27I really need for her to back off.
05:30I wanted to say something else.
05:33In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:39Like maybe not call Dylan every day.
05:41Three times a day.
05:42So that's still bothering you?
05:44Yes.
05:46Oh my God.
05:47But I thought we got past that.
05:48Yes, we did get past that.
05:49But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:51Yeah, yeah, I want to, yeah, I want to like get past it.
05:55It just makes me mad because Dylan, well like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:00But isn't that a good thing?
06:01Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:04Yes.
06:04Because you're important to him?
06:05Yes, but unless it's an emergency, you know.
06:08I don't know about that.
06:09Yes, I mean unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:13I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:16Oh, you're joking.
06:18No.
06:18Here's the deal.
06:21I'm not needy.
06:22I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:23So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:25So I don't, I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:27I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:34I think that problem lies within her.
06:37I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that though.
06:42Asking me not to call doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:46But I mean, I'll do it.
06:47I know.
06:47That makes you happy and if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:50It will.
06:50But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night and say, what do you want, Dil?
06:53And he wants to chat.
06:54So it's not just me.
06:56It could be yes.
06:56You better get in his ear too.
06:57Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:21Benny's sleeping on grandpa tonight.
07:24You probably sleep all night on their bed since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:27So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:32I have no idea.
07:34My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the goat farm.
07:43So tonight I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:48This is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
07:55But of course, earlier today we had a fight, so I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:02Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:06It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:09That's why tomorrow maybe I can get my nails done.
08:12I can do them for you.
08:13Has your mom got nail polish?
08:14Okay, not a good joke either, but that's fine.
08:18It's not a joke.
08:19It's how you save money.
08:21And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:22No.
08:23Great.
08:24Oh my God.
08:24So what do you want to say about this afternoon?
08:29There's nothing to say.
08:30We're on the same page.
08:32We got it.
08:33We're good.
08:33What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:35Earlier today, when we were down in this like historic part of Marseille, there was this
08:42little shop that had some seashell earrings and she didn't have her purse on her and she
08:48was asking if I had my wallet.
08:50And I said I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
08:55I'm like coming from this like sense of you spend money all the time, there's no money coming
09:00in and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:02And then me being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as
09:10we're leaving the shop to show her and I shouldn't have done that.
09:18I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now
09:22because I have something planned or something like that.
09:25But even $20?
09:27Okay, I know you're saying $30.
09:29It wasn't just $30.
09:30Max a hundred, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you
09:35would have said, can you don't buy them or can you buy just one piece?
09:39I would have not pushed you.
09:42Really?
09:43Yes, really.
09:45Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:48What do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:51You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:54I like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some really
10:02bad and I just don't want to go.
10:04Oh wow.
10:04So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:06Do I have more stuff?
10:06It's like, what about you?
10:08Your apologies?
10:10Huh?
10:10Like we can, this can go on all day of like you, me, you, me.
10:14It can.
10:14I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:20I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything and Manon does not hear how,
10:24you know, she comes across to me.
10:26We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from
10:32LA.
10:32And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:36My family's over there.
10:38My only support system is her and there's none.
10:45I apologized.
10:46I said where I'm coming from.
10:48But.
10:48But like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it, which you did.
10:54I don't invalidate.
10:55You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:03Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the
11:07moment.
11:07And I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies and get on my knees and beg for
11:13your forgiveness.
11:15I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:17You just don't.
11:20You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:23Just like you do.
11:24Because it's how I feel.
11:24I don't like divorcing.
11:25Oh, we're not compatible.
11:26Go find someone that's good for you.
11:28Because you make me feel this way.
11:29Mm-hmm.
11:30Putain.
11:32You just don't care about losing me then.
11:34You just don't care about saving us then.
11:37You just don't care about me.
11:38Period.
11:42When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:45Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:49Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
11:54I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:03But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:04I cannot change for you.
12:06I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:15Today is a big day.
12:16I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:18To legalize your status in Naruba, it'll take approximately five months.
12:22Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:26Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:29Not...
12:30Not at all.
12:31Is it a dog?
12:59Don't tell me.
13:01It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:06Looks like a dog, didn't it?
13:08No.
13:08Oh, thank God.
13:09Relax.
13:12When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:16that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:20this done.
13:20So today is a big day.
13:21We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer, and hopefully you can give me some
13:25really good information and what steps we should take next.
13:28Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:39The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:45I've known people that have done it before.
13:47First thing is partnership papers, and then for the job, we have to find an employer that
13:51wants to hire her and willing to pay for her work permit.
13:54I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
13:57Yes.
13:58We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:05to cost, and we're very interested in a work permit, because without work, I have no money.
14:11So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:16The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:20Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:24Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:27How much would the permits cost?
14:30How long is it going to take?
14:33It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:36Mm-hmm.
14:37When you marry, he can bring you in automatically, and the marriage will cost maybe some legal
14:43dues to marry at the municipal, but it can go very fast.
14:48So the partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:54But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
14:59Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:04to Aruba.
15:05Well, there's the bad news.
15:06I knew that was too good to be true.
15:08If you married, there's no problem.
15:11But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:15Yeah.
15:15How long would it take if we didn't file the partnership papers for me to be able to work?
15:21After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you to get a job.
15:28The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:33Yeah, that's a long time.
15:34That's a long time, I know.
15:35Mm-hmm.
15:36With a marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:39Goes quicker.
15:40But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:42Right.
15:43No, it's not a little step, you know, it's a big step.
15:50I'm shocked.
15:52This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
15:57And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:04In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:10My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to just break my trust again.
16:19So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:22Not at all.
16:24Not in the slightest.
16:25Jonathan and I have talked about getting married, and he's definitely someone that I see myself marrying.
16:48But there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:52But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
16:58When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:02I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:04Maybe we should just go for it.
17:06Be honest.
17:33Be honest, like, truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:40Thank you for being honest.
17:57Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:01Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:03Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:05But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:17And, like, I love you as a person.
18:21And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:24Like, I just, like, I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself that I just, like, need to know about before I can commit to someone.
18:41I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:52It's been three or four days here.
19:02I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:05Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:12Just get somewhere.
19:13Just feel it out.
19:16No commitment.
19:18I think there's something to explore still.
19:21I really do.
19:23But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now, like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:37I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:43I was not being very affectionate.
19:44I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:47I wasn't calling you as much.
19:48I wasn't sharing much about my life, and I've been, like, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decide to see each other in person again, and then, like, then I would know.
20:00We've only seen each other with a camera crew around us.
20:04It doesn't have to do with the camera.
20:07Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:13I just know it in my gut.
20:14Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:16Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:20Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:28Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:35You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:39These things build up over time.
20:41And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:51There is so much life still ahead of us.
20:55Yeah, I know.
20:57I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:05Every single second day.
21:07I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you.
21:33And, like, how we helped each other grow.
21:38And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:43And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:50That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:53When I put that ring on her finger, I never intended to take it back.
22:09Well, what do we do now?
22:10We just move forward.
22:20Our individual ways.
22:25I'm just...
22:26I'm sorry.
22:30I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:32I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess.
23:01Greta is always chasing a frill in life.
23:13And I think...
23:15the rollercoaster just ended.
23:17All right.
23:26Grab your bag.
23:28Oh, no.
23:29What the f*** is this?
23:32I was definitely not expecting a...
23:34A sex dungeon.
23:35Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon.
23:37Just there's no windows.
23:39And it's soundproof.
23:41Oh.
23:41I don't want you to change
23:57But it don't feel the same
24:01You say, I don't care about you.
24:04It's complete bulls***.
24:06I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case.
24:11We getting out?
24:19Right on.
24:19I mean, it's been a while
24:21Since we had any alone time
24:24to be intimate
24:25And I was looking forward
24:27to having, like, this nice time
24:29And now we're walking up to the hotel
24:31not in a good headspace
24:32Love room?
24:39Oh, no.
24:40What the f*** is this?
24:52Check it out.
24:55Oh, wow.
24:56That is cool.
24:57Uh-huh.
24:58That's a good f*** jacuzzi, huh?
25:00Uh-huh.
25:01Cool.
25:03Cool.
25:04It's just there's no windows.
25:05That's the thing that's freaking me out right now.
25:07And it's soundproof.
25:08Oh.
25:10When I was asking Antoni
25:13for a sexy, romantic night away
25:17I was definitely not expecting a
25:20How can I put it
25:23without being insensitive?
25:28A sex dungeon.
25:29Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon.
25:31Thank you, exactly.
25:33Well, it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon.
25:36What a love room for you.
25:38Love room.
25:40Oh, okay.
25:41A strip bowl.
25:42Okay.
25:44I get it.
25:45The effort was
25:46it's still better than mine.
25:47So, thank you.
25:49Okay.
25:52So, I have a surprise for you.
25:54Oh, no, no, no.
25:55So, you stay over here
25:56and I'll get that ready.
25:59Okay.
25:59Manon loves the fact
26:03that I was in the military.
26:05I mean, I think
26:06she just loves a uniform.
26:08I'm scared.
26:09So, I decided to dust off
26:11my old army of fatigues.
26:14That will at least
26:16at a minimum
26:16put a smile on her face
26:18which I think is
26:19a stepping stone
26:20to having a better night.
26:22What is he doing?
26:24You ready?
26:25What the f***?
26:32What is it?
26:32It's what you want.
26:34Yeah, but you always said
26:35you will never wear it.
26:36You hate it.
26:38I'm doing it for you
26:39and
26:40opportunity awaits.
26:42With the outfit.
26:43Oh, yeah.
26:43Uh-huh.
26:44Oh, f***.
26:45Let's go.
26:46Come on.
26:47Can it hold my weight?
26:49Oh, pizza.
26:50You ready?
26:51I'm not.
26:52Woo!
26:55Yeah!
26:57Oh, my God.
26:58Ooh, I'm thinking there.
26:59I'm going to break it.
27:01What's the military boy?
27:03You can't look like
27:04going after, like, that pose.
27:05Oh, yeah.
27:06What?
27:06Yeah, that's what you want.
27:08Ooh.
27:09Ooh!
27:13Yeah!
27:16You're a very, very rare breed.
27:19It's just very cute.
27:21It's very sexy.
27:21It's very cute.
27:23Okay, let's go.
27:23Let's go to the hotel.
27:25You're a nice guy.
27:26It's nice.
27:26I love that.
27:27I'm a nice guy.
27:28Yeah, you are.
27:29Yeah.
27:30Anyway, and I'm the bad girl.
27:31We always know that.
27:32I'm the bad girl.
27:33I'm the crazy one.
27:34I'm the loud one.
27:35The big one.
27:36You know, I take space.
27:37We know that.
27:38Dramatic, emotional.
27:39I'm not dramatic.
27:40You are very sexy, my dear soldier.
27:45Yeah, but you are also very sexy.
27:48Yeah, sure.
27:49You are?
27:50Mm-hmm.
27:50Mm-hmm.
27:52You're welcome.
27:52Mm-hmm.
27:53Mm-hmm.
27:53I'm really happy with Anthony doing the effort, and the thing is like, you know, when we
28:03are good, we are good.
28:05It makes me feel good.
28:06He loves me and everything.
28:08It's just made me feel more like, okay, my heart can be full of joy, full of love.
28:13I'm home, which is Anthony.
28:15Anthony is my home.
28:19Je t'aime beaucoup.
28:20Moi aussi, je t'aime beaucoup.
28:22It's just funny when you said beaucoup, he said beaucoup, but he said beautiful ass.
28:26Well, also that.
28:27Je t'aime beaucoup, beaucoup.
28:29Oh, my gosh.
28:33Are you ready to get married?
28:35I mean, I'm hesitating.
28:39Is this something really she wants, you know?
28:42I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
29:02Hungry.
29:03I'm actually starving.
29:05If I could make a witch, if it would be for this, only you and me.
29:16I want my sweet potato fries.
29:18What are you going to eat with that?
29:19Oh, the Caesar salad with shrimp.
29:21Okay.
29:22So what did you think about the law firm today?
29:25I think we got really useful information out of it.
29:28Yeah.
29:28Earlier today, we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working
29:37and be legal here if we just got married.
29:41Well, I don't know how my mom would react when we tell her, like, it could be potentially eight months before I can work.
29:47It definitely probably would be a I told you so moment.
29:49We definitely did not see that one coming.
29:51Oh, God.
29:53You know, what is that going to look like for us in the meantime if I can't work?
29:59You know, I don't want to put it on you.
30:02The eight, nine months is not a problem of me taking care of you.
30:06The problem I have is the lifestyle that you like to live.
30:10You like to go out, have drinks, go to dinners and stuff like that.
30:14I can't support that aspect.
30:17No, I understand.
30:18Everything else I can help you with.
30:20But you would have to be patient.
30:22Oh, I understand that.
30:24I think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point.
30:28Regardless, we're going to be waiting around.
30:30Yeah, but if I marry you, it's in two weeks.
30:35Well, are you ready to get married?
30:41Yeah, I am.
30:42Who hesitated?
30:43I'm already at an age that I'm ready to get married.
30:45It's not about age, it's about me.
30:47Like, you can marry anyone at any age.
30:48No, but I'm looking for someone to marry.
30:52And I really, really love you, so I would expect you to be the person I want to marry.
30:58But I don't know if you're ready for that.
31:00Because you're very young.
31:02Why?
31:03You're nine years younger than you told me.
31:06I don't know if you still want to live life and party and all that, you know?
31:10I wouldn't say that I'm not ready.
31:13I think we just have some work to do, you know?
31:19You know, of course, the marriage is a much easier option.
31:25But, you know, is this something really she wants, you know?
31:28Because partnership papers is one thing, you know?
31:30If it goes bad, hey, you know, we go separate ways.
31:33But if you marry somebody, it's much easier to get married than to get divorced.
31:39I think you're very concerned about, like, you're so young and you shouldn't settle down and this.
31:43But I think the way I grew up and, like, how blessed I was to travel and do all the things that I have,
31:48like, I feel so comfortable with the life that I have lived.
31:51And I've never felt like how I feel with you with anyone else.
31:55So why would I want to, like, put this on the back burner and not go all in?
32:00Like, I'm already where I want to be.
32:02Like, I'm still going to have martini nights, obviously.
32:04But I would like to have a martini night and then come home, like, to you.
32:10I just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into.
32:15I'm going to tell you right now, it's not going to be easy.
32:17And I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
32:23Because I've been through that situation before.
32:25And I'm not trying to compare you to anybody.
32:28But, you know, like, I was in a relationship for a very, very long time.
32:30And I gave that person everything.
32:32And that person, at the end of the day, left me for something easier.
32:37So don't think it's only you risking everything.
32:38I'm also risking life.
32:39I think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that I'm not ready to get married
32:48because he doesn't actually know how I feel.
32:51In my eyes, I mean, I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs.
32:56And I feel that I'm ready to get married.
32:59I think if I thought in my head this isn't going to work, I would have already left.
33:03And I'm telling you that I'm more than okay with it.
33:06So don't have this, you know...
33:07Second doubt.
33:10Of me, exactly, of me.
33:11If every day you show me that you love me and you care for me,
33:14then I won't have that doubt in my mind.
33:18I already gave up my entire life and moved to another country.
33:21So there's nothing else I could really give up to prove to him how much I do love him.
33:27I know it's fast and we definitely have our issues.
33:29But to me, this feels right.
33:32Well, I think at the end of the day, it's something to think about
33:35so we can be together in the end.
33:38We'll figure it out.
33:43Every day you have to talk to your mom.
33:46It's ridiculous.
33:48You're just trying to destroy everything.
33:49I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
33:53You better start picking your battles
33:54because you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead.
33:57You better start picking your battles.
34:11You better start picking your battles.
34:12hi babe hi how are you how's the game we had a ball didn't we yes we did she did she kicked my ass
34:26oh not really we're both we're both winners on the day yeah she's really good okay guys i've
34:32got to be somewhere we'll catch up another day okay yes okay see ya bye it's good to see you
34:38after tennis i feel a lot better i finally got all the issues off my chest other side remember
34:50we're in australia huh of course where you going oh okay i'm sorry i'm still trying to get used to the
34:59the side she did point out that dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much
35:04so maybe it's not all on her but i'm glad we talked about it and hopefully things can be
35:11different moving forward we had a good tennis match she kicked my ass it's been a long time since i
35:18played she might have to get some frustration out yeah at least she didn't hit me with the ball
35:24i was expecting her to hit me with the ball a couple of times do you feel like all the issues
35:32are resolved with my mother i feel like it's resolved i just said you know like maybe she
35:36not calls so much twice a week twice a week but not every day three times a day that's too much
35:46what do you think about that if you feel like you're i feel like you're bothered by that a little bit
35:51it's your great idea it's not a great idea for me okay it's like we enjoy having a chat here and
35:56there yeah but if it bothers your partner yeah but is that it shouldn't bother you that much
36:10if it's a problem for me then you should you know you should why should you you should respect how
36:15i would you stop why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them
36:20happy listen i'm not stop no yes you are babe every day you have to talk to your mom it's ridiculous
36:27i don't talk to you every day yes you talk to her three times a day and it's been an issue with us
36:32for 12 years can't you just work on like getting over that can't you work on like helping me set
36:38boundaries and respecting my feelings
36:44since i was a little kid mom and i have always been close and
36:47patia has never really been close to her mom so she doesn't understand that that closeness
36:54i think patia feels fearful that my mom is going to influence me in some way or take me away from
37:03patia in some way but if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem then
37:09i don't really know what to say i mean if i'm asking if i'm saying hey babe you're talking to your
37:15mom too freaking much you should be like well and what if she what if she dies how would you feel
37:20stopping me she's not going to die she's she's pushing 70. babe she plays tennis every day are you
37:26kidding she's freaking healthy i don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my
37:32mother i think that's really like that's that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over
37:37all things in life you're worried about that why don't you worry about your 20 000 debt that you have
37:45you you got me into it i've already told you about yes you did it's funny that you blame me for
37:49everything that's gone wrong in your whole life i get the blame for yes you caused me a lot of
37:53money no i didn't cause you anything i saved you money i i taught you you did not save me money
37:59are you kidding me you've got lots of issues big big big spending excuse me mr controlling you have
38:06a lot of issues you're very controlling you're always like trying to tell me what to do it's
38:11always like my way or the highway just all right i know you know what i think that's the pot call
38:15in the kettle black because you're the most controlling one of us all you love controlling
38:21absolutely you're always like trying to tell me what to do and that's why you don't like me talking to
38:24my mother because you like to manipulate influence and control me and when i speak to her you feel
38:29like she's you know taking that away from you you're just trying to destroy everything i think you're
38:36worried that i'm going to abandon you no but i'm gonna abandon you you don't freaking respect my my wishes
38:44dylan tells me i'm controlling i'm like what how am i controlling you're the controlling one
38:50honestly sometimes i think dylan is a narcissist it's always about him you know it's my way or the
38:57highway it's so annoying whether dylan wants to admit it or not his relationship with his mother
39:04is affecting our relationship i don't know how much longer i can take this it's not that hard
39:11you keep fighting me on it which makes it worse obviously my relationship with my mom's not going to
39:16change so you better start picking your battles because you're just picking this battle and you're
39:22just going to be nagging me till we're both dead and we're going to have a miserable life
39:28things are clearly not going well and there's something that i need to talk
39:33to dylan about and i think it might make it worse
39:39next time on 90 day fiance the other way let me get you some change
39:44how much money you have given back oh you've given them all the change i've given to you you
39:51haven't charged anybody she's saying i don't know how any money works it's a basic man if you uh buy
39:56something for 60 if somebody pay you 100 it's easy give them 40 back i don't understand the change
40:05so i guess we didn't make any money on that sale did we
40:08i do feel alone and it's like starting to hit me that i am alone the last thing i want is for you
40:17and gretta to split up some things that we're fighting for they are upset with gretta but i really
40:23want them to work out i think you should have a talk with her
40:28when i met with dorian we already started working together on the skincare brand and
40:38we need to invest money we're trying to buy a home and i feel like this is gonna set a lot of things
40:45back you working and living at your parents how much time before you crack
40:52what's wrong i feel so dizzy you okay no this is not the way i want to start my weekend wearing
41:13i say no no no i don't pregnant i don't pregnant
41:17are you telling me that you're pregnant right now i told you so many times we even be careful
41:22when we have sex
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