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90 Day Fiance: The Other Way - Season 7 Episode 14 -
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00:00Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:03So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:06What the f***?
00:10He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:12What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:16My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:20And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:23I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:29Chloe, show me that you can take care of yourself here, please.
00:33All right.
00:34I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:39a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:42Okay.
00:42Okay.
00:48That's mom.
00:49She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:54She calls every day.
00:56It's not normal.
00:59I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:01I know, but baby...
01:01You guys act like best friends.
01:02You're saying, is it resolved?
01:04You're saying, you know what, mom, but she is right.
01:09The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:13I don't think I love you anymore.
01:18We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:48Okay.
01:49You ready?
01:50Yes.
01:55Sorry.
01:56A bit hard.
01:56Okay.
01:58Oh!
02:01Don't worry about the ball.
02:02Okay.
02:03You want me to keep going?
02:04Yeah.
02:04I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:12Ah!
02:13And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:21I've got one for Tia.
02:24Oh!
02:26Fertie love.
02:27I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:31She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:33I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:38Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:39Okay.
02:40My point.
02:46What do you love?
02:48I suck!
02:49Oh, God.
02:51She kicked my ass at tennis.
02:57Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:00Just like, oh, God.
03:01Are you thirsty?
03:03Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:04Let's go.
03:04Have a break.
03:05I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:13And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:17Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:21It's a beautiful place.
03:23Oh, thanks for coming.
03:25Yeah.
03:25To be honest with you, Joe, like, the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:36No.
03:37Because I don't want to come off as...
03:38I'm very open.
03:39Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:41Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:43Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:53Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:05Did you say that?
04:06I did.
04:07Yeah.
04:08Yeah.
04:09So I was concerned about that.
04:11I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:13I know, that's horrible.
04:14It's how I felt.
04:15Yeah, I know.
04:15I thought it was horrible too.
04:18That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:21I know.
04:21I want you both to be happy.
04:22No, seriously, I do.
04:24I never, ever resented you.
04:25Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:31Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:32The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:39Well, I stopped spending.
04:40You say you've stopped spending.
04:44You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:45Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:47So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:51He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
04:58Yes.
04:58I feel like he owes me that.
05:00Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:05That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:08But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:14This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:19Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:23First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:25She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:27I really need for her to back off.
05:30I wanted to say something else.
05:33In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:39Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:42So that's still bothering you?
05:44Yes.
05:46Oh, my God.
05:47But I thought we got past that.
05:48Yes, we did get past that.
05:49But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:51Yeah.
05:51Yeah.
05:52I want to get past it.
05:55It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:00But isn't that a good thing?
06:01Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:04Yes.
06:04Because you're important to him?
06:05Yes.
06:06But unless it's an emergency, you know?
06:08I don't know about that.
06:09Yes.
06:09I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:13I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:16Oh, you're joking.
06:17No.
06:20Here's the deal.
06:21I'm not needy.
06:22I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:23So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:25So I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:29I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:34I think that problem lies within her.
06:37I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that, though.
06:41Asking me not to call.
06:44Doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:46But I mean, I'll do it.
06:47I know.
06:47That makes you happy.
06:48And if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:50It will.
06:50But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night.
06:52I'll say, what do you want, Dil?
06:53And he wants to chat.
06:54So it's not just me.
06:56It could be yes.
06:56You better get in his ear, too.
07:19Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:21Benny's sleeping on Grandpa tonight.
07:23You can probably sleep all night on their bed, since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:27Yeah.
07:29So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:32I have no idea.
07:34My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this, like, grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the goat farm.
07:43So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:47But this is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
07:55But, of course, earlier today, we had a fight.
07:59So I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:02Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:06It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:09That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:12I can do them for you.
08:13Has your mom got nail polish?
08:15Okay, not a good joke either.
08:17But that's fine.
08:18It's not a joke.
08:19It's how you save money.
08:21And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:22No.
08:23Great.
08:24Oh, my God.
08:24So what do you want to say about this afternoon?
08:29There's nothing to say.
08:30We're on the same page.
08:32We got it.
08:32We're good.
08:33What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:37Earlier today, when we were down in this, like, historic part of Marseille, there was this little shop that had some seashell earrings.
08:45And she didn't have her purse on her, and she was asking if I had my wallet.
08:50And I said I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
08:55I'm, like, coming from this, like, sense of you spend money all the time, there's no money coming in, and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:02And then me, being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as we're leaving the shop to show her, and I shouldn't have done that.
09:18I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now because I have something planned.
09:24Voilà .
09:24Or something like that.
09:25But even $20?
09:27Okay.
09:27I know you're saying $30.
09:28$100.
09:29It wasn't just $30.
09:30Max $100, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you would have said, can you don't buy them, or can you buy just one piece?
09:39I would have not pushed you.
09:42Really?
09:43Yes, really.
09:45Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:48Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:51You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:57Hmm?
09:57I, like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some really bad and I just don't want to go.
10:04Oh, wow.
10:04So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:06Do I have more stuff?
10:06It's like, what about you?
10:08Your apologies?
10:10Huh?
10:10Like, we can, this can go on all day of like, you, me, you, me.
10:14It can.
10:17I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:19I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything and Manon does not hear how, you know, she comes across to me.
10:26We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from L.A.
10:32And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:36My family's over there.
10:38My only support system is her and there's none.
10:45I apologized.
10:46I said where I'm coming from.
10:48But.
10:48But like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it.
10:52Which you did.
10:54I don't invalidate.
10:57You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:03Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the moment.
11:07And I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies.
11:11And get on my knees and beg for your forgiveness.
11:15I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:17You just don't.
11:20You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:23Just like you do.
11:24Because it's how I feel.
11:25Like divorcing.
11:25Oh, we're not compatible.
11:26Go find someone that's good for you.
11:27Because you make me feel this way.
11:29Mm-hmm.
11:30Putain.
11:32You just don't care about losing me then.
11:34You just don't care about saving us then.
11:36You just don't care about me.
11:38Period.
11:42When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:45Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:49Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
11:52I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:03But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:04I cannot change for you.
12:06I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:15Today is a big day.
12:16I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:18To legalize your status in Naruba, it'll take approximately five months.
12:22Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:26Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:29Not...
12:30Not at all.
12:31Is it a dog?
12:59Don't tell me.
13:01It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:06Looks like a dog, didn't it?
13:08No.
13:08Oh, thank God.
13:09Relax.
13:10When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:16that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:19this done.
13:20So today is a big day.
13:22We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
13:24And hopefully you can give me some really good information and what steps we should take
13:28next.
13:28Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:39The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:45I've known people that have done it before.
13:47First thing is partnership papers.
13:49And then for the job, we have to find an employer that wants to hire her and willing to pay for
13:53her work permit.
13:53I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
13:57Yes.
13:58We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:05to cost.
14:06And we're very interested in a work permit because without work, I have no money.
14:11So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:15The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:20Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:24Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:27How much would the permits cost?
14:30How long is it going to take?
14:33It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:37When you marry, he can bring you in automatically.
14:41And the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal, but it can go very
14:47fast.
14:48The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:54But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
14:59Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:04to Aruba.
15:05Well, there's the bad news.
15:06I knew that was too good to be true.
15:09If you married, there's no problem.
15:11But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:14Yeah, how long would it take if we did file the partnership papers for me to be able to
15:20work?
15:21After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you to
15:27get a job.
15:28The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:33That's a long time.
15:34That's a long time.
15:35I know.
15:36With a marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:40But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:42Right.
15:43No, it's not a little step.
15:45You know, it's a big step.
15:50I'm shocked.
15:52This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
15:58And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:03In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:10My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to
16:16just break my trust again.
16:19So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:22Not at all.
16:24Not in the slightest.
16:25Jonathan and I have talked about getting married and he's definitely someone that I
16:46see myself marrying, but there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:52But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
16:58When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:02I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:04Maybe we should just go for it.
17:22The honest truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:40Thank you for being honest.
17:57Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:01Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:03Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:05But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:17And, like, I love you as a person.
18:21And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:24I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself that I just, like, need to know
18:38about before I can commit to someone.
18:41I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:52It's been three or four days here.
19:02I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:06Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:12Just get somewhere.
19:13Just feel it out.
19:16No commitment.
19:17But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:28Like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:37I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:42I was not being very affectionate.
19:44I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:47I wasn't calling you as much.
19:48I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:50And I've been, like, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decided to see each other
19:56in person again and then, like, then I would know.
20:00We've only seen each other with a camera.
20:04It doesn't have to do with the cameras.
20:07Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:10I just know it in my gut.
20:14Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:16Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:20Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:28Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:32You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:39These things build up over time.
20:44And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:48There is so much life still ahead of us.
20:55Yeah, I know.
20:57I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:05Every single second.
21:07I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you
21:33and how we helped each other grow.
21:38And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:42And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:45That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:56When I put that ring on her finger,
22:00I never intended to take it back.
22:09Well, what do we do now?
22:10We just move forward.
22:20Our individual ways.
22:25I'm just...
22:26I'm sorry.
22:30I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:32Um, I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess.
23:01Yes.
23:06Greta is always chasing a frill in life.
23:13And I think...
23:15No roller coaster just ended.
23:25All right.
23:26Grab your bag.
23:27Oh, no, what is this I was definitely not expecting a sex dungeon
23:35Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon. Just have no windows and it's soundproof
23:54I don't want you to change
23:57You say I don't care about you is complete bullshit. I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case
24:11We getting out
24:19Right on I mean, it's been a while since we had any
24:22Alone time to be intimate and I was looking forward to having like this nice time
24:29And now we're walking up to the hotel not in a good headspace
24:37Love room, oh no
24:40What the is this?
24:52Check it out. Oh, wow. That is cool. Uh-huh
24:58That's a good jacuzzi. Yeah, uh-huh cool
25:03Cool. It's just there's no windows. That's the thing that's freaking me out right now and it's soundproof
25:08Oh
25:12When I was asking Antoni for a
25:15Sexy romantic night away. I was definitely not expecting a
25:22How can I put it without being
25:27Insensitive a sex dungeon. Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon. Thank you exactly
25:32Well, it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon
25:36What a love room for you love room
25:38Oh
25:40Okay, a strip bowl. Okay. I get it. The effort was it's still better than the mine. So thank you
25:48Thank you
25:51Um, so I have a surprise for you. Oh, so you stay over here and I'll
25:57Get that ready. Okay
26:01Manon loves the fact that I was in the military. I mean, I think she just loves the uniform
26:07I'm scared
26:09So I decided to dust off my old army of fatigues
26:14That will at least at a minimum put a smile on her face, which I think is a stepping stone to having a better night
26:22What is he doing?
26:24You ready?
26:32What is it? It's what you want
26:34Yeah, but you always said you would never wear it. You hate it
26:38I'm doing it for you and
26:40Opportunity awaits
26:42Oh, yeah
26:44Let's go. Come on
26:47Can it hold my weight?
26:49Oh pizza
26:50You ready?
26:51I'm not
26:53Oh
26:55Yeah
26:57Oh my god
26:59You're gonna break it
27:01What's the military boy? You can't look like one for like a pole?
27:04Oh, yeah
27:05Yeah, that's what you want
27:07Oh
27:13Yeah
27:15You're a very, very rare breed
27:18It's just very cute. It's very sexy
27:21It's very cute
27:22Okay, let's go
27:23Let's go to the hotel
27:24You're a nice guy
27:25It's nice
27:26I love that
27:27I'm a nice guy
27:27Yeah, you are
27:28Yeah
27:29Anyway, and I'm the bad girl
27:30We always know that
27:31I'm the bad girl
27:32I'm the crazy one
27:33I'm the loud one
27:34The big one
27:35You know, I take space
27:36We know that
27:37Dramatic, emotional
27:38I'm not dramatic
27:39I'm not dramatic
27:42You are very sexy
27:43My new soldier
27:44Yeah, but you are also very sexy
27:47Sure
27:48You are?
27:49Mm-hmm
27:50Thank you
27:51You're welcome
27:52Mm-hmm
27:53I'm really happy with Anthony doing the effort and the thing is like, you know, when we are good, we are good
28:04He makes me feel good, he loves me and everything
28:07It's just made me feel more like, okay, my heart can be full of joy, full of love
28:12I'm home, which is Anthony, Anthony is my home
28:16Mwah
28:18Je t'aime beaucoup
28:20Moi aussi, je t'aime beaucoup
28:21It's just funny when you say beaucoup, you say beaucoup, but it's a beautiful ass
28:25Well, also that
28:26Je t'aime beaucoup, beaucoup
28:28Oh my gosh
28:32Are you ready to get married?
28:36I'm hesitant
28:39Is this something really she wants, you know?
28:41I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave
28:46I'm hungry
29:02I'm just actually starving
29:04If I could make a wish, it would be for this
29:08Only you and me
29:16I want my sweet potato fries
29:17What are you gonna eat with that?
29:18I'll just use your salad with shrimp
29:20Okay
29:21So what did you think about the law firm today?
29:25I think we got really useful information out of it
29:27Yeah
29:28Earlier today we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier for me to start working and be legal here
29:38If we just got married
29:40I don't know how my mom will react when we tell her like it could be potentially eight months before I can work
29:46It definitely probably will be a I told you so moment
29:49We definitely did not see that one coming
29:51Oh God
29:53You know what is that gonna look like
29:57For us in the meantime if I can't work, you know
30:00I don't want to put it on you
30:02The eight nine months is not probably taking care of you
30:06The problem I have is that the lifestyle that you like to live
30:09You like to go out, have drinks, go to dinners and stuff like that
30:13I can't support that aspect
30:15No, I understand that
30:17Everything else I can help you with
30:19But you would have to be patient
30:22No, I understand that
30:23I think this whole entire situation is about patience at this point
30:27Regardless we're gonna be waiting around
30:29Yeah, but if I marry you it's in two weeks
30:34Well, are you ready to get married?
30:40Yeah, I am
30:41You hesitated?
30:42I'm already at an age that I'm ready to get married
30:45It's not about age, it's about me
30:46Like you can marry anyone at any age
30:48No, but like I'm looking for someone to marry
30:51And I really, really love you
30:53So I would expect you to be the person that I want to marry
30:57But I don't know if you're ready for that
30:59Because you're very young
31:02Why?
31:03You're nine years younger than me, darling
31:05I don't know if you still want to live life and party and all that, you know
31:09I wouldn't say that I'm not ready
31:13I think we just have some work to do, you know
31:21You know, of course, the marriage is a much easier option
31:25But you know, is this something really she wants, you know
31:28Because partnership papers is one thing, you know
31:30If it goes bad, hey, you know, we go separate ways
31:32But if you marry somebody, it's much easier to get married than to get divorced
31:38I think you're very concerned about like you're so young, you shouldn't settle down and this
31:42But I think the way I grew up and like how blessed I was to travel and do all the things that I have
31:47Like I feel so comfortable with the life that I have lived
31:50And I've never felt like how I feel with you with anyone else
31:53So why would I want to like put this on the back burner and not go all in?
31:59Like I'm already where I want to be
32:02Like I'm still going to have martini nights, obviously
32:04But I would like to have a martini night and then come home
32:07Like to you
32:09I just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into
32:14I'm going to tell you right now, it's not going to be easy
32:16And I'm afraid that when it gets too hard you might leave
32:22Because I've been through that situation before
32:24And I'm not trying to compare you to anybody
32:27But you know like I was in a relationship for a very, very long time
32:29And I gave that person everything
32:31And that person at the end of the day left me for something easier
32:35So I don't think it's only you risking everything, I'm also risking life
32:39I think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me that I'm not ready to get married
32:48Because he doesn't actually know how I feel
32:51In my eyes, I mean I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs
32:55And I feel that I'm ready to get married
32:58I think if I thought in my head this isn't going to work
33:01I would have already left
33:03And I'm telling you that I'm more than okay with it
33:05So don't have this, you know
33:07Second doubt
33:10Exactly, of me
33:12Every day you show me that you love me and you care for me
33:14Then I won't have that doubt in my mind
33:18I already gave up my entire life and moved to another country
33:21So there's nothing else I could really give up to prove to him
33:25How much I do love him
33:27I know it's fast and we definitely have our issues
33:29But to me this feels right
33:32Well I think at the end of the day
33:34It's something to think about so we can be together in the end
33:38We'll figure it out
33:43Every day you have to talk to your mom, it's ridiculous
33:47You're just trying to destroy everything
33:49I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you
33:52You better start picking your battles
33:54Because you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead
33:56You're just dead
33:57I think you're just dead
33:58Hi babe. Hi. How are you? How was the game? We had a ball didn't we? Yes we did. She did, she kicked my ass.
34:26Not really. We're both winners on the day. She's really good. Okay guys, I've got to be somewhere. We'll catch up another day? Yes. See ya. Bye. It's good to see you. You too. And thank you. We'll do it again. After tennis, I feel a lot better. I finally got all the issues off my chest. Other side. Remember, we're in Australia. Huh? Backwards. Where are you going? Oh wait. I'm sorry.
34:56I'm still trying to get used to the side. She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much. So maybe it's not all on her. But I'm glad we talked about it. And hopefully things can be different moving forward.
35:12We had a good tennis match. She kicked my ass. It's been a long time since I played. She might have had to get some frustration out. Yeah. At least she didn't hit me with the ball. I was expecting her to hit me with the ball. A couple of times.
35:29Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother? I feel like it's resolved.
35:35I just said, you know, like maybe she not calls so much. Twice a week. Twice a week? But not every day. Three times a day. That's too much.
35:46What do you think about that? I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit.
35:50It's your great idea. It's not a great idea for me.
35:54Okay.
35:54It's like we enjoy having a chat here and there.
35:56Yeah, but if it bothers your partner, then how is that enjoyable?
36:00But is that enjoyable?
36:01It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:03If it's a problem for me, then you should, you know, you should, you should respect how I feel.
36:15Why would you stop, why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them happy?
36:20Listen, I'm not stopped, no.
36:21Yes, you are.
36:23Babe, every day you have to talk to your mom. It's ridiculous.
36:27I don't talk to her every day.
36:28It's just three times a day. Yes, you talk to her three times a day and it's been an issue with us for 12 years.
36:34Can't you just work on like getting over that?
36:36Can't you work on like helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
36:44Since I was a little kid, mom and I have always been close and Patia has never really been close to her mom.
36:50So she doesn't understand that, that closeness.
36:53I think Patia feels fearful that my mom is going to influence me in some way or take me away from Patia in some way.
37:04But if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem, then I don't really know what to say.
37:11I mean, if I'm asking, if I'm saying, hey, babe, you're talking to your mom too freaking much, you should be like, well, what?
37:18And then what if she, what if she dies? Like, how would you feel? Stopping me from talking?
37:21She's not going to die.
37:23She's freaking healthy.
37:23She's pushing 70.
37:24Babe, she plays tennis every day. Are you kidding? She's freaking healthy.
37:29I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
37:32I think that's really like, that's the thing that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in life.
37:38You're worried about that. Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have?
37:45You got me into it. I've already told you about it.
37:47No, I didn't. Yes, you did.
37:48No, it's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life. I get the blame for it.
37:51Yes, you caused me a lot of the money issues.
37:53No, I didn't cause you anything. I saved you money. I taught you.
37:57Oh, you did not save me money. Are you kidding me?
38:00You've got lots of issues. Big, big, big spending issues.
38:04Excuse me, Mr. Controlling. You have a lot of issues. You're very controlling.
38:09You're always trying to tell me what to do. It's always my way or the highway.
38:13You know what? I think that's the pot call and the kettle black because you're the most controlling one of us all.
38:19You love controlling.
38:21Absolutely.
38:21You're always trying to tell me what to do.
38:23And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother because you like to manipulate, influence, and control me.
38:27And when I speak to her, you feel like she's, you know, taking that away from you.
38:34You're just trying to destroy everything.
38:36I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
38:39No, but I'm going to abandon you. You know, freaking respect my wishes.
38:44Dylan tells me I'm controlling. I'm like, what? How am I controlling? You're the controlling one.
38:50Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist. It's always about him. You know, it's my way or the highway.
38:58It's so annoying. Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not, his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
39:05I don't know how much longer I can take this.
39:09It's not that hard. You keep fighting me on it, which makes it worse.
39:13Well, it's like, obviously my relationship with my mom is not going to change, so.
39:18You better start picking your battles because you're just picking this battle and you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead.
39:24And we're going to have a miserable life.
39:26Things are clearly not going well.
39:30And there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about, and I think it might make it worse.
39:39Next time on 90 Day Fiance, The Other Way.
39:42Let me get you some change.
39:45How much money you have given back?
39:46A hour?
39:47You've given them all the change I've given to you.
39:51You haven't charged anybody?
39:52She's saying, I don't know how Indian money works.
39:54It's a basic man.
39:55If you are buying something for $60, if somebody pays you $100, it's easy.
40:00Give them $40 back.
40:01I don't understand the change.
40:05So I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
40:11I do feel alone, and it's like starting to hit me that I am alone.
40:15The last thing I want is for you and Greta to split up some things that we're fighting for.
40:20I am upset with Greta, but I really want them to work out.
40:24I think you should have a talk with her.
40:30When I met with Dorian, we already started working together on the skincare brand.
40:36And we need to invest money.
40:40We're trying to buy a home, and I feel like this is going to set a lot of things back.
40:46You working and living at your parents, how much time before you crack?
40:52What's wrong?
40:57I feel so dizzy.
41:00You okay?
41:00No.
41:02This is not the way I want to start my weekend wearing.
41:05I say no, no, no, I don't pregnant.
41:16I don't pregnant.
41:17Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
41:19I told you so many times, we even be careful when we have sex.
41:23You're right.
41:23I think you're a part of the show.
41:26We all need you to watch out.
41:27We all need you to sue.
41:28We are wanting you to do.
41:28We accept this.
41:30We love Alex Wax.
41:31We love you.
41:32We love you.
41:32He said le Hillary did.
41:34He said le Hillary did.
41:36I don't break anything.
41:38He loved you.
41:39I didn't say he did.
41:42We love you.
41:43Charlie.
41:44He loved you.
41:45Yeah.
41:47He loved you.
41:48I love you.
41:50He loved you.
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