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90 Day Fiance: The Other Way - Season 7 Episode 14 -
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00:00Since we've been in France, everything's very, very heavy.
00:03So I'm just looking to cheer her up a little bit.
00:06What the f***?
00:10He's taking the jokes way too far.
00:12What is in your mind, Antoni?
00:16My daughter living here, that means I need to put a lot of trust in you.
00:20And I feel like it's too much of a struggle here for her.
00:23I am worried about Chloe being in the hands of someone that had infidelity.
00:29Chloe, show me that you can take care of yourself here, please.
00:33All right.
00:34I think when she feels the difference between having my financial support and not,
00:39a little bit of reality is going to settle in.
00:42Okay.
00:42Okay.
00:48That's mom.
00:49She's constantly invading our relationship.
00:54She calls every day.
00:56It's not normal.
00:59I've sat at the table with you girls.
01:01I know, but baby...
01:01You guys act like best friends.
01:02You're saying, is it resolved?
01:04You're saying, you know what, mom, but she is right.
01:09The honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all.
01:13I don't think I love you anymore.
01:18We'll just have a little warm-up first.
01:48Okay.
01:49You ready?
01:50Yes.
01:55Sorry.
01:56A bit hard.
01:56Okay.
01:58Oh!
02:01Don't worry about the ball.
02:02Okay.
02:03You want me to keep going?
02:04Yeah.
02:04I've been in Tasmania for a few weeks now, and Dylan's mom invited me to go play tennis with her today.
02:12Ah!
02:13And I kind of feel a little nervous about being with her alone because I still have a lot of issues with how close they are.
02:21I've got one for Tia.
02:24Oh!
02:26Fertie love.
02:27I feel like by her calling him every day, she influences him.
02:31She contaminates Dylan's head.
02:33I think she's the reason why we are not married today.
02:38Whoops, that's a bit me.
02:39Okay.
02:40My point.
02:46What do you love?
02:48I suck!
02:49Oh, God.
02:51She kicked my ass at tennis.
02:57Oh, that was embarrassing.
03:00Just like, oh, God.
03:01Are you thirsty?
03:03Yeah, I'm thirsty.
03:04Let's go.
03:04Have a break.
03:05I'm definitely going to take this opportunity to talk to Joe because Dylan does not have my back when it comes to boundaries.
03:13And if he's not going to fix it, I will.
03:17Well, thank you for inviting me out here to play tennis with you today.
03:21It's a beautiful place.
03:23Oh, thanks for coming.
03:25Yeah.
03:25To be honest with you, Joe, like, the other night at dinner, I wanted to say so much, but I'm like, oh, my God, is it too soon to be talking to her about this?
03:36No.
03:37Because I don't want to come off as...
03:38I'm very open.
03:39Listen, I'm very easygoing.
03:41Any other issues, just we bring them up.
03:43Well, how did you feel when you knew that Dylan said, Mom, Patia's going to be moving here, even though you knew I hated you and wanted nothing to do with you?
03:53Yeah, I was excited for him because he was excited about it, but he did say, Mom, Patia doesn't want to live anywhere near your house or Dad's house.
04:05Did you say that?
04:06I did.
04:07Yeah.
04:08Yeah.
04:09So I was concerned about that.
04:11I said, well, how's that going to work?
04:13I know, that's horrible.
04:14It's how I felt.
04:15Yeah, I know.
04:15I thought it was horrible too.
04:18That's just screwy because I don't mean you any harm.
04:21I know.
04:21I want you both to be happy.
04:22No, seriously, I do.
04:24I never, ever resented you.
04:25Oh, I did because I just, you know, the things that I thought you said about me was horrible.
04:31Yeah, no, well, I didn't say it.
04:32The main two things has been your hatred for me and the spending.
04:39Well, I stopped spending.
04:40You say you've stopped spending.
04:44You still haven't paid the debt off.
04:45Well, that's because Dylan asked me to move here.
04:47So it's Dylan's fault again.
04:51He did say you are more than happy for Dylan to sell one of the properties to help you out.
04:58Yes.
04:58I feel like he owes me that.
05:00Well, I think that's terrible that you have that expectation that he's to sell one of the properties.
05:05That's obviously for the both of you to sort out.
05:08But I really would advise him against selling the property.
05:14This is what I'm talking about when he shares too much information with his mom about us.
05:19Now she's going to tell him to not sell one of his properties.
05:23First of all, it's like none of her business.
05:25She shouldn't be putting her two cents in.
05:27I really need for her to back off.
05:30I wanted to say something else.
05:33In order for me to feel comfortable here, I need to set boundaries.
05:39Like maybe not call Dylan every day, three times a day.
05:42So that's still bothering you?
05:44Yes.
05:46Oh, my God.
05:47But I thought we got past that.
05:48Yes, we did get past that.
05:49But we haven't if you're still onto it.
05:51Yeah.
05:51Yeah.
05:52I want to get past it.
05:55It just makes me mad because Dylan will like stop everything just to talk to you.
06:00But isn't that a good thing?
06:01Because wouldn't you want him to stop everything to talk to you?
06:04Yes.
06:04Because you're important to him?
06:05Yes.
06:06But unless it's an emergency, you know?
06:08I don't know about that.
06:09Yes.
06:09I mean, unless it's an emergency, I just feel like he can wait till we get home and talk to you.
06:13I feel like you're a needy mother, Jo.
06:16Oh, you're joking.
06:17No.
06:20Here's the deal.
06:21I'm not needy.
06:22I'm not needy in any relationship.
06:23So I'm actually quite strong and quite capable.
06:25So I'm not going to be classed as needy.
06:29I don't think that Patia has a right to tell me what my relationship with Dylan should be like.
06:34I think that problem lies within her.
06:37I might back off a little bit, but I don't think Dylan's going to be in agreeance with that, though.
06:41Asking me not to call.
06:44Doesn't seem normal or natural.
06:46But I mean, I'll do it.
06:47I know.
06:47That makes you happy.
06:48And if you think that's going to help the relationship, I'll do it.
06:50It will.
06:50But sometimes he'll phone me at half past nine at night.
06:52I'll say, what do you want, Dil?
06:53And he wants to chat.
06:54So it's not just me.
06:56It could be yes.
06:56You better get in his ear, too.
07:19Grandpa sent me a picture.
07:21Benny's sleeping on Grandpa tonight.
07:23You can probably sleep all night on their bed, since it's probably a lot more comfortable than I am.
07:27Yeah.
07:29So I have no idea where we are going or what we are doing.
07:32I have no idea.
07:34My last couple of attempts have really failed at giving this, like, grand gesture of love to Manon with being a mine and the goat farm.
07:43So tonight, I have a romantic getaway plan.
07:47But this is definitely more along the lines of what's something I know she likes, which is really going to a nice hotel.
07:55But, of course, earlier today, we had a fight.
07:59So I don't know how this is going to be received.
08:02Here, the Terrace du Port, it's open seven days a week.
08:06It's the only stores that are open on Sundays.
08:09That's why tomorrow, maybe I can get my nails done.
08:12I can do them for you.
08:13Has your mom got nail polish?
08:15Okay, not a good joke either.
08:17But that's fine.
08:18It's not a joke.
08:19It's how you save money.
08:21And that, I cannot do it now anymore?
08:22No.
08:23Great.
08:24Oh, my God.
08:24So what do you want to say about this afternoon?
08:29There's nothing to say.
08:30We're on the same page.
08:32We got it.
08:32We're good.
08:33What do you mean we are on the same page?
08:37Earlier today, when we were down in this, like, historic part of Marseille, there was this little shop that had some seashell earrings.
08:45And she didn't have her purse on her, and she was asking if I had my wallet.
08:50And I said I didn't have my wallet so that she would not buy anything.
08:55I'm, like, coming from this, like, sense of you spend money all the time, there's no money coming in, and we're looking to purchase a house.
09:02And then me, being the juvenile sense of humor that I have, kind of flashed my wallet as we're leaving the shop to show her, and I shouldn't have done that.
09:18I could have gone about it a different way and said, hey, maybe don't spend right now because I have something planned.
09:24Voilà .
09:24Or something like that.
09:25But even $20?
09:27Okay.
09:27I know you're saying $30.
09:28$100.
09:29It wasn't just $30.
09:30Max $100, do you think I would have spent like crazy in a small, tiny boutique if you would have said, can you don't buy them, or can you buy just one piece?
09:39I would have not pushed you.
09:42Really?
09:43Yes, really.
09:45Stop assuming that I'm a bitch.
09:48Why do you assume that I am such a monster?
09:51You're sabotaging me all the time and sabotaging us.
09:57Hmm?
09:57I, like, I really don't feel like going down this road because it could lead into some really bad and I just don't want to go.
10:04Oh, wow.
10:04So you have more stuff to say to me?
10:06Do I have more stuff?
10:06It's like, what about you?
10:08Your apologies?
10:10Huh?
10:10Like, we can, this can go on all day of like, you, me, you, me.
10:14It can.
10:17I don't like feeling like the bad guy.
10:19I just, you know, I'm trying to be smart about everything and Manon does not hear how, you know, she comes across to me.
10:26We tried to move away from these problems moving here and they've just followed us from L.A.
10:32And I don't have a support system anymore.
10:36My family's over there.
10:38My only support system is her and there's none.
10:45I apologized.
10:46I said where I'm coming from.
10:48But.
10:48But like I said, you would invalidate the way I felt about it.
10:52Which you did.
10:54I don't invalidate.
10:57You are invalidating your own apology by always saying a but, a but, a but.
11:03Then I guess I'll just never say where I'm, where like my mind was coming from in the moment.
11:07And I'll just say, I'm so sorry, my wife, my apologies.
11:11And get on my knees and beg for your forgiveness.
11:15I feel you just don't want this to work out.
11:17You just don't.
11:20You always like have to throw that on me too.
11:23Just like you do.
11:24Because it's how I feel.
11:25Like divorcing.
11:25Oh, we're not compatible.
11:26Go find someone that's good for you.
11:27Because you make me feel this way.
11:29Mm-hmm.
11:30Putain.
11:32You just don't care about losing me then.
11:34You just don't care about saving us then.
11:36You just don't care about me.
11:38Period.
11:42When we talk about money, it's a fight.
11:45Our core beliefs are so freaking different.
11:49Is it even possible for us to be happy long term if we are that different?
11:52I'm telling you, I feel like I need to be a whole different person for you.
12:03But I'm sorry, Antoni.
12:04I cannot change for you.
12:06I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
12:15Today is a big day.
12:16I'm going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
12:18To legalize your status in Naruba, it'll take approximately five months.
12:22Part of that five months, you need to stay in the States.
12:26Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
12:29Not...
12:30Not at all.
12:31Is it a dog?
12:59Don't tell me.
13:01It's a piece of leaf of a coconut tree.
13:06Looks like a dog, didn't it?
13:08No.
13:08Oh, thank God.
13:09Relax.
13:10When Chloe's mom was here, you know, the pressure that she put on us for the papers and stuff
13:16that I feel like really put both of us in a place like, hey, you know, you got to get
13:19this done.
13:20So today is a big day.
13:22We're going to go meet up with the immigration lawyer.
13:24And hopefully you can give me some really good information and what steps we should take
13:28next.
13:28Don't touch it, Chloe.
13:39The goal for me and Chloe right now is to apply for domestic partnership papers.
13:45I've known people that have done it before.
13:47First thing is partnership papers.
13:49And then for the job, we have to find an employer that wants to hire her and willing to pay for
13:53her work permit.
13:53I heard that you have some plans to immigrate to Naruba.
13:57Yes.
13:58We're kind of just looking to see what the process would be as far as how much it's going
14:05to cost.
14:06And we're very interested in a work permit because without work, I have no money.
14:11So I have to somehow find a legal way to do all of those things.
14:15The main thing right now is trying to legalize your status in Naruba.
14:20Once you are here in Naruba, the work will follow automatically.
14:24Maybe it will take some time, but it can happen.
14:27How much would the permits cost?
14:30How long is it going to take?
14:33It all depends if it is a partnership agreement or a marriage.
14:37When you marry, he can bring you in automatically.
14:41And the marriage will cost maybe some legal dues to marry at the municipal, but it can go very
14:47fast.
14:48The partnership agreement, maybe $600, $700.
14:54But the thing is, that process will take approximately five months.
14:59Maybe part of that five months, you need to stay in the States to wait for you to come
15:04to Aruba.
15:05Well, there's the bad news.
15:06I knew that was too good to be true.
15:09If you married, there's no problem.
15:11But with partnership, you need to wait abroad.
15:14Yeah, how long would it take if we did file the partnership papers for me to be able to
15:20work?
15:21After you're legal in Naruba, it will take approximately another three months for you to
15:27get a job.
15:28The whole process is approximately, I think, eight to seven months.
15:33That's a long time.
15:34That's a long time.
15:35I know.
15:36With a marriage thing, everything goes quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:39Moves quicker.
15:40But you have to be ready for that, of course.
15:42Right.
15:43No, it's not a little step.
15:45You know, it's a big step.
15:50I'm shocked.
15:52This partnership paper is not this easy, sign your cute little signature on a dotted line.
15:58And it's even more shocking that for a part of this, I might actually have to be home.
16:03In the past, when Jonathan and I have done long distance, he broke my trust once.
16:10My anxiety then is through the roof every day because I'm so nervous that he's going to
16:16just break my trust again.
16:19So Jonathan and I definitely would not survive long distance.
16:22Not at all.
16:24Not in the slightest.
16:25Jonathan and I have talked about getting married and he's definitely someone that I
16:46see myself marrying, but there is no way that it was going to be as soon as tomorrow.
16:52But it would solve a lot of our issues with me being able to stay here legally.
16:58When you're ready, just give me a call.
17:02I mean, the plan's always been to get married.
17:04Maybe we should just go for it.
17:22The honest truth is that I don't think I love you anymore.
17:40Thank you for being honest.
17:57Relationship isn't always 50-50.
18:01Sometimes it's 70-30.
18:03Sometimes it's 90-10.
18:05But, like, I can't, like, force myself to love you.
18:17And, like, I love you as a person.
18:21And I, like, really, like, only want happiness for you.
18:24I just feel like there's just, like, so much about myself that I just, like, need to know
18:38about before I can commit to someone.
18:41I just, like, don't think it's, like, a good idea to, like, move forward in this relationship.
18:52It's been three or four days here.
19:02I think we just need to spend a little bit of time together again.
19:06Not worry about getting married or kids or necessarily even where to live.
19:12Just get somewhere.
19:13Just feel it out.
19:16No commitment.
19:17But, like, I just, like, know what I need right now.
19:28Like, is to be alone.
19:34It's just all so sudden.
19:37I feel like I was pulling back the past six months.
19:42I was not being very affectionate.
19:44I was not reciprocating your feelings.
19:47I wasn't calling you as much.
19:48I wasn't sharing much about my life.
19:50And I've been, like, like, spiraling about it and wondering if we decided to see each other
19:56in person again and then, like, then I would know.
20:00We've only seen each other with a camera.
20:04It doesn't have to do with the cameras.
20:07Like, like, no, it doesn't.
20:10I just know it in my gut.
20:14Like, I have to listen to my gut.
20:16Like, and it's not fair for me to string you along when I already know it's over.
20:20Like, this is not fair for you either.
20:28Nothing in the world could have prepared me for those words.
20:32You don't just suddenly not love someone.
20:39These things build up over time.
20:44And I had no idea it was building up all this time.
20:48There is so much life still ahead of us.
20:55Yeah, I know.
20:57I was prepared to spend it all with you.
21:05Every single second.
21:07I will only look back with, like, fond memories of, like, the connection I felt with you
21:33and how we helped each other grow.
21:38And, like, maybe I'm making the worst mistake of my life.
21:42And even if I am, I still feel like I have to make it.
21:45That ring weighed a ton on my hand.
21:56When I put that ring on her finger,
22:00I never intended to take it back.
22:09Well, what do we do now?
22:10We just move forward.
22:20Our individual ways.
22:25I'm just...
22:26I'm sorry.
22:30I'm just a little bit dead inside.
22:32Um, I'm gonna go to a hotel, I guess.
23:01Yeah.
23:06Greta is always chasing a frill in life.
23:14And I think...
23:16the roller coaster just ended.
23:25All right, grab your bag.
23:27Oh, no, what the is this I was definitely not expecting a sex dungeon
23:35Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon just have no windows and it's soundproof
23:54I don't want you to change
23:57But it don't feel the same
24:01You say I don't care about you is complete bull I wouldn't be here in France if that was the case
24:08Are we getting out?
24:18Right on
24:19I mean, it's been a while since we had any alone time to be intimate
24:25And I was looking forward to having like this nice time and now we're walking up to the hotel not in a good headspace
24:32Love room? Oh, no
24:39What the is this?
24:44Check it out
24:55Oh, wow, that is cool
24:56Uh-huh
24:57That's a good jacuzzi, huh?
24:59Uh-huh
25:00Cool
25:01Cool, it's just there's no windows. That's the thing that's freaking me out right now
25:05And it's soundproof
25:06Oh
25:07When I was asking Antoni for a sexy romantic night away, I was definitely not expecting a
25:15Um, how can I put it without, uh, being, uh, um, insensitive?
25:22A sex dungeon
25:24Yeah, I was not expecting a sex dungeon, thank you exactly
25:29Well, it wasn't labeled as a sex dungeon
25:31It's labeled
25:32What a love room for you, love room
25:34Oh, okay
25:35A strip bowl, okay
25:37I get it
25:39The effort was, it's still better than mine
25:41Okay
25:42Um, so, I have a surprise for you
25:54Oh, another one
25:55So, you stay over here, and I'll get that ready
25:58Okay
26:00Manon loves the fact that I was in the military
26:04I mean, I think she just loves a uniform
26:07I'm scared
26:08So I decided to dust off my old army of fatigues that will at least, at a minimum, put a smile
26:17on her face, which I think is a stepping stone to having a better night.
26:22What is he doing?
26:24You ready?
26:31What the f***?
26:32What is it?
26:32It's what you want.
26:34Yes, but you always said you would never wear it.
26:36You hate it.
26:37I'm doing it for you.
26:39And opportunity awaits.
26:42Oh, in the outfit.
26:42Oh, yeah.
26:43Uh-huh.
26:44Oh, f***.
26:45Let's go.
26:46Come on.
26:47Can it hold my weight?
26:49Oh, pizza.
26:50You ready?
26:51I'm not.
26:55Yeah.
26:55Oh, my God.
26:58Ooh, I'm thinking there.
26:59I'm going to break it.
27:00Oh.
27:01Where's the military boy?
27:03You can't look like who I put like a pole?
27:05Oh, yeah.
27:06You're a very, very rare breed.
27:18It's just very cute.
27:21It's very sexy.
27:21It's very cute.
27:22Okay, let's go.
27:23Let's go to the hotel.
27:24You're a nice guy.
27:26It's nice.
27:26I love that.
27:27I'm a nice guy.
27:28Yeah, you are.
27:29Yeah.
27:30Anyway, and I'm the bad girl.
27:31We always know that.
27:32I'm the bad girl.
27:32I'm the crazy one.
27:34I'm the loud one, the big one.
27:36You know, I take space.
27:37We know that.
27:38Dramatic, emotional.
27:39I'm not dramatic.
27:40You are very sexy, my dear soldier.
27:45Yeah, but you are also very sexy.
27:48Sure.
27:49You are?
27:50Mm-hmm.
27:52You're welcome.
27:53Mm-hmm.
27:59I'm really happy with Antoni doing the effort.
28:01And the thing is like, you know, when we are good, we are good.
28:05He makes me feel good.
28:06He loves me and everything.
28:08It's just made me feel more like, OK, my heart can be full of joy,
28:11full of love.
28:13I'm home, which is Antoni.
28:15Antoni is my home.
28:19Je t'aime beaucoup.
28:20Moi aussi, je t'aime beaucoup.
28:22It's just funny when you said beaucoup,
28:23you said beaucoup, but he said beautiful ass.
28:26Well, also that.
28:27Je t'aime beaucoup, beaucoup.
28:29Oh, my gosh.
28:33Are you ready to get married?
28:37Ever.
28:37I'm hesitated.
28:40Is this something really she wants, you know?
28:42I'm afraid that I'm going to get too hard you might leave.
29:02Hungry.
29:03My mom's actually starving.
29:04If I could make a wish, it would be for this.
29:08Only you and me.
29:16I want my sweet potato fries.
29:18What are you going to eat with that?
29:19Oh, the caesarside with shrimp.
29:21OK.
29:22So what did you think about the law firm today?
29:26I think we got really useful information out of it.
29:28Yeah.
29:30Earlier today, we found out that it would be a hell of a lot easier
29:35for me to start working and be legal here if we just got married.
29:42I don't know how my mom will react when we tell her, like,
29:44it could be potentially eight months before I can work.
29:47It definitely probably will be a I told you so moment.
29:51We definitely did not see that one coming.
29:53Oh, God.
29:55You know, what is that going to look like for us in the meantime
29:58if I can't work?
29:59You know, I don't want to put it on you.
30:04The eight, nine months is no problem with me taking care of you.
30:07The problem I have is the lifestyle that you like to live.
30:10You like to go out, have drinks, go to dinners and stuff like that.
30:14I can't support that aspect.
30:17No, I understand that.
30:18Everything else, I can help you with.
30:20But you would have to be patient.
30:23Oh, I understand that.
30:24I think this whole entire situation
30:26is about patience at this point.
30:28Regardless, we're going to be waiting around.
30:30Yeah, but if I marry you, it's in two weeks.
30:35Well, are you ready to get married?
30:41Yeah, I am.
30:42You hesitated?
30:43I'm already at an age that I'm ready to get married.
30:45Well, it's not about age.
30:46It's about me.
30:47Like, you can marry anyone at any age.
30:48No, but I'm looking for someone to marry.
30:52And I really, really love you.
30:53So I would expect you to be the person I want to marry.
30:58But I don't know if you're ready for that.
31:00Because you're very young.
31:02No, I do not know.
31:03You're nine years younger than you told me.
31:05Yeah.
31:06I don't know if you still want to live life and party
31:08and all that, you know?
31:10I wouldn't say that I'm not ready.
31:13I think we just have some work to do, you know?
31:22You know, of course, the marriage is a much easier option.
31:25But you know, is this something really she wants, you know?
31:28Because partnership papers is one thing, you know?
31:30If it goes bad, hey, you know, we go separate ways.
31:34But if you marry somebody, it's much easier to get married
31:37than to get divorced.
31:39I think you're very concerned about, like, you're so young.
31:41You shouldn't settle down and this.
31:43But I think the way I grew up and, like, how blessed I was to travel
31:47and do all the things that I have, like, I feel so comfortable with the life
31:51that I have lived and I've never felt like how I feel with you
31:53with anyone else.
31:55So why would I want to, like, put this on the back burner
31:58and not go all in?
32:00Like, I'm already where I want to be.
32:02Like, I'm still going to have martini nights, obviously.
32:04But I would like to have a martini night and then come home,
32:08like, to you.
32:10I just want you to know for sure what you're putting yourself into.
32:15I'm going to tell you right now, it's not going to be easy.
32:18And I'm afraid that when it gets too hard, you might leave.
32:23Because I've been through that situation before.
32:25And I'm not trying to compare you to anybody.
32:28But you know, like, I was in a relationship
32:29for a very, very long time.
32:30And I gave that person everything.
32:32And that person, at the end of the day,
32:33left me for something easier.
32:37So I don't think it's only you risking everything.
32:38I'm also risking life.
32:39I think it's frustrating that he keeps telling me
32:46that I'm not ready to get married,
32:48because he doesn't actually know how I feel.
32:52In my eyes, I mean, I'm pretty in tune with my brain upstairs.
32:56And I feel that I'm ready to get married.
32:59I think if I thought in my head this isn't going to work,
33:02I would have already left.
33:03And I'm telling you that I'm more than OK with it.
33:06So don't have this, you know.
33:08Second doubt.
33:10Of me, exactly, of me.
33:11If every day you show me that you love me
33:13and you care for me, then I won't
33:14have that doubt in my mind.
33:18I already gave up my entire life
33:20and moved to another country.
33:21So there's nothing else I could really give up
33:24to prove to him how much I do love him.
33:27I know it's fast, and we definitely have our issues.
33:29But to me, this feels right.
33:32Well, I think at the end of the day,
33:33it's something to think about so we can be together in the end.
33:38We'll figure it out.
33:43Every day you have to talk to your mom.
33:46It's ridiculous.
33:48You're just trying to destroy everything.
33:49I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
33:53You better start picking your battles,
33:54because you're just going to be nagging me
33:56two or two, we're both dead.
33:59Hi babe. Hi. How are you? How was the game? We had a ball didn't we? Yes we did. She did. She kicked my ass. Oh not really. We're both winners on the day.
34:29Yeah. She's really good. Okay guys I've got to be somewhere. We'll catch up another day. Yes. See ya. Bye. It's good to see you. You too. And thank you. We'll do it again. After tennis I feel a lot better. I finally got all the issues off my chest. Other side. Remember we're in Australia. Huh? Backwards. Where are you going? Oh wait. I'm sorry I'm still trying to get used to this.
34:59The side. She did point out that Dylan is part of the reason why they talk so much. So maybe it's not all on her. But I'm glad we talked about it and hopefully things can be different moving forward.
35:12We had a good tennis match. She kicked my ass. It's been a long time since I played. She might have had to get some frustration out. Yeah. At least she didn't hit me with the ball. I was expecting her to hit me with the ball. A couple of times.
35:29Do you feel like all the issues are resolved with my mother?
35:33I feel like it's resolved.
35:35I just said you know like maybe she not calls so much. Twice a week.
35:39Twice a week?
35:40But not every day. Three times a day. That's too much.
35:46What do you think about that? I feel like you're bothered by that a little bit.
35:50It's your great idea. It's not a great idea for me.
35:54Okay.
35:54It's like we enjoy having a chat here and there.
35:56Yeah but if it bothers your partner.
35:59Yeah but it shouldn't.
36:00But is that it. How is that enjoyable?
36:01It shouldn't bother you that much.
36:03If it's a problem for me then you should you know you should you should respect how I feel.
36:15Why would you stop the person that you love from doing something that makes them happy?
36:20Listen I'm not stopped no.
36:21Yes you are.
36:23Babe every day you have to talk to your mom. It's ridiculous.
36:27I don't talk to her every day.
36:28It's just three times a day. Yes you talk to her three times a day and it's been an issue with us for 12 years.
36:34Can't you just work on like getting over that?
36:36Can't you work on like helping me set boundaries and respecting my feelings?
36:44Since I was a little kid mum and I have always been close and Patia has never really been close to her mum.
36:50So she doesn't understand that that closeness.
36:53I think Patia feels fearful that my mum is going to influence me in some way or take me away from Patia in some way.
37:04But if respecting the woman that brought you into this world is a problem then I don't really know what to say.
37:11I mean if I'm asking if I'm saying hey babe you're talking to your mum too freaking much you should be like what what.
37:18And then what if she what if she dies like how would you feel stopping me from talking.
37:21She's not going to die.
37:22She's freaking healthy.
37:23She's pushing 70.
37:24Babe she plays tennis every day. Are you kidding? She's freaking healthy.
37:28I don't think it's fair that you're asking me to stop speaking to my mother.
37:31I think that's really like I think that's really sad that you'd be concentrating on that over all things in life.
37:38You're worried about that. Why don't you worry about your $20,000 debt that you have.
37:45You got me into it. I've already talked to you about it.
37:47No I didn't.
37:47Yes you did.
37:48It's funny that you blame me for everything that's gone wrong in your whole life I get the blame for.
37:51Yes you caused me a lot of the money issues.
37:53No I didn't cause you anything.
37:54I should write it first.
37:55I saved you money.
37:56I taught you.
37:57Oh you did not save me money.
37:59Are you kidding me?
38:00You've got lots of issues.
38:02Big big big spending issues.
38:04Excuse me Mr. Controlling.
38:05You have a lot of issues.
38:07You're very controlling.
38:09You're always like trying to tell me what to do.
38:11It's always like my way or the highway.
38:13You know what?
38:14I think that's the pot cool and the kettle black because you're the most controlling one of us all.
38:18You love controlling me.
38:20Absolutely.
38:21You're always like trying to tell me what to do.
38:23And that's why you don't like me talking to my mother because you like to manipulate, influence and control me.
38:27And when I speak to her you feel like she's you know taking that away from you.
38:32You're just trying to destroy everything.
38:35I think you're worried that I'm going to abandon you.
38:38No but I'm going to abandon you.
38:40You know freaking respect my wishes.
38:43Dylan tells me I'm controlling.
38:45I'm like what?
38:47How am I controlling?
38:48You're the controlling one.
38:50Honestly, sometimes I think Dylan is a narcissist.
38:53It's always about him.
38:55You know, it's my way or the highway.
38:57It's so annoying.
38:59Whether Dylan wants to admit it or not, his relationship with his mother is affecting our relationship.
39:05I don't know how much longer I can take this.
39:08It's not that hard.
39:10You keep fighting me on it which makes it worse.
39:13Well, it's like obviously my relationship with my mom is not going to change.
39:16So, you better start picking your battles because you're just picking this battle and you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead.
39:24And we're going to have a miserable life.
39:27Things are clearly not going well.
39:30And there's something that I need to talk to Dylan about.
39:33And I think it might make it worse.
39:39Next time on 90 Day Fiance The Other Way.
39:42Let me get you some change.
39:44How much money you have given back?
39:46All?
39:47You've given them all the change I've given to you.
39:50You haven't charged anybody.
39:52She's saying I don't know how any money works.
39:54It's a basic man.
39:55If you are buying something for 60, if somebody pay you 100, it's easy.
39:59Give them 40 back.
40:01I don't understand the change.
40:05So, I guess we didn't make any money on that sale, did we?
40:11I do feel alone and it's like starting to hit me that I am alone.
40:15The last thing I want is for you and Greta to split up some things that we're fighting for.
40:20I am upset with Greta, but I really want them to work out.
40:24I think you should have a talk with her.
40:30When I met with Dorian, we already started working together on the skincare brand.
40:36And we need to invest money.
40:40We're trying to buy a home and I feel like this is going to set a lot of things back.
40:45You working and living at your parents.
40:49How much time before you crack?
40:55What's wrong?
40:57I feel so dizzy.
40:59You okay?
41:00No.
41:01This is not the way I want to start my weekend wearing.
41:13I say no, no, no. I don't pregnant. I don't pregnant.
41:17Are you telling me that you're pregnant right now?
41:19I told you so many times we even be careful when we have sex.
41:23I don't pregnant, I don't ruh feeling so much.
41:26You are a you다는 time.
41:30I'm the one hour and I'm the guy.
41:31I don't remember.
41:33I haven't already done that problem.
41:35I, I do how often.
41:37It's going to be a kid and I will help people down but only felt a bit more comfortable that people do.
41:43Our pain is missing.
41:45The night we look for everything.
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