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90 Day Fiance Pillow Talk The Other Way S07E10 (2025)
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00:01Previously on 90 Day Fiancé, The Other Way.
00:04What do you think, like?
00:05Working here is not possible at all, huh?
00:09The cafe has to be successful, because if we're not,
00:12we'll be living with the parents forever.
00:18So when do you think you'll do furniture shopping?
00:20Probably this week.
00:21You might have to keep an eye on it, Dylan.
00:23She's already like, about my finances.
00:26I'm like, the ?
00:29This is exactly what I was worried about.
00:31Obviously, you talked to your mom about the spending habits.
00:34Yes, I had opened up to my mom, and I had told her.
00:37Patia does have a spending problem.
00:39If she wants to come here and have the champagne lifestyle,
00:42unfortunately, that's not going to work.
00:47Let's show you the other bedroom.
00:49I think it'll make an excellent kids' bedroom.
00:50Two little twin beds here.
00:52Twins is on the agenda, then.
00:54I've become really unsure if I want kids,
00:56but I haven't told him yet.
00:59I just don't feel like we're in a place for a house at all.
01:05I have up.
01:07I want to be with you.
01:09It's hard for me to believe you, really.
01:11I can't stop to thinking about he touching a stripper.
01:17I can't give you a chance, but there's no chance to come back together.
01:21It's just one time.
01:23This is broken.
01:25I don't think he'll come back to my mom.
01:27I don't think he'll come back to my mom.
01:55So we're going to cook and make money.
02:00We're going to cook and make money.
02:01We hope so.
02:02I'm going to cook and make money.
02:07It's been a week now,
02:08and things are starting to come together.
02:11The cafe now looks like a cafe.
02:13Construction's done.
02:14Equipment is in,
02:15and today is just final touches.
02:18It's really exciting.
02:20It's really exciting.
02:30Tomorrow, the owner of property is doing a religious ceremony,
02:35also known as Asunder Khan.
02:38So today we're going to prepare the cafe and some food
02:41to show a lot of people that we are opening a new cafe over here.
02:50Make coffee.
02:52Just coffee?
02:54Making coffee is also an art.
02:56Like, if you make good coffee, it can be at the start of our menu.
03:05Since the main customer in our area is students,
03:09we are focusing on home-cooked food like bread roll,
03:12which is basically a bread filled with potatoes.
03:15Along with that, we're going to serve dal, lentil, rice,
03:18potato curries, the things that Indians love to eat on a daily routine.
03:23Coffee machine is here.
03:25Hey!
03:26Yeah.
03:27Mostly people in India drink chai, but coffee is also getting popular.
03:31But people serve instant coffee.
03:33So if we get a machine which will grind the beans and make a fresh coffee,
03:38it will definitely attract a lot of customers.
03:41And that's why we just wanted this big, real-deal coffee machine.
03:46First of all, we got an espresso machine in the entire market.
03:50In the entire market, we didn't get such a machine in the entire area.
03:53Yeah.
03:54Eggs are delivered.
03:56All the stuff, looks like all the stuff is here.
03:59Yeah.
04:00We get a stove, we get fridge, we get another, like, cooking station.
04:06See how crowded it is already? We're not even working yet.
04:09This is such a small space. How are we going to all fit in here?
04:14We need to be, like, making schedule that who will be in and who will be out.
04:19So only, like, two people at a time, those who are cooking.
04:24Oh, we got a logo.
04:26Yay!
04:27Family Cafe!
04:29When I first showed the location to my family, everybody seemed disappointed.
04:34But I want to show them that the location is so good
04:36that we are going to get a good customer over here.
04:39Now I think we should start cleaning the place.
04:42We have a lot to do.
04:43A lot of people will be coming over here.
04:45I'm so nervous.
04:47I'm nervous, too.
04:49The people who are coming tomorrow for the blessing ceremony,
04:53they are the first ones who are going to try the food.
04:55So we really need to make sure that everything is perfect.
04:59Is this preparation for the bread rolls?
05:01Yes.
05:02Yes.
05:11Don't break anything, Jenny.
05:14We need to make a very good impression,
05:16otherwise they're not going to come back.
05:18Yay!
05:19Oh!
05:20Oh!
05:21Look so good!
05:22Oh!
05:23Yay!
05:25Looks so good!
05:27It looks so good.
05:57I can't believe my eyes.
06:08This is unfiltered water.
06:10The area is next to the toilet.
06:12It's not hygienic at all.
06:14I don't know what makes him think
06:16that he can take water from the bathroom
06:18and use it for the kitchen.
06:20That's not going to happen in my kitchen.
06:22It's not going to happen.
06:24It's not going to happen.
06:25Why?
06:26The water is coming from the toilet.
06:28It's not going to happen in my kitchen.
06:30It's not going to happen there.
06:32It's not going to happen there.
06:34It's not going to happen there.
06:36What happened?
06:40What happened?
06:41They filled the water from the bathroom
06:43and used it for cooking.
06:45This is a very basic thing.
06:47It's a very basic thing.
06:49It's a very basic thing.
06:51Why are you doing our business?
06:55I asked the workers to use water from the bathroom.
07:00They use water from the bathroom.
07:02They use water from the bathroom.
07:04They're taking water from the bathroom.
07:05I thought that this is the source of water.
07:08There's no water system in this cafe.
07:11You have to open the cafe.
07:13It's very necessary for water.
07:15You have to do everything.
07:16You have to do everything.
07:17You have to do everything.
07:18You have to do everything.
07:19You have to do everything.
07:20You have to do everything.
07:22I think my parents are right.
07:24It's my failure.
07:25It's not just theirs.
07:26All the hard work is gone.
07:29We are planning to do opening tomorrow.
07:31And if we can't even prepare the food,
07:34I don't know how we will even be able to run the cafe.
07:37So what now?
07:38What are we going to do?
07:39What happens now?
07:40I don't know.
07:41We're going to prepare again everything to market.
07:46Maybe this is why people get sick a lot when they eat in India.
07:56Aw, thanks.
07:57I feel so special.
07:58You are.
07:59Here we go.
08:00I've finished shopping.
08:01I've finished shopping.
08:02I've finished shopping.
08:03Oh, wow.
08:04Oh, my God.
08:05This is super comfortable.
08:06Oh, it is, isn't it?
08:07Oh, that suits you.
08:08Oh, yeah.
08:09They're comfortable.
08:10It's not too bad.
08:11oh wow oh my god this is super comfortable oh yeah they comfortable it's not too bad how about
08:28that one okay babe oh yeah just sit in there please you love bossing me around don't you
08:34no i'm not bossing around do you like that one versus that one this one's become more comfortable
08:40yeah thank you oh here it is that's what i like you really like that one it looks like a movie
08:46theater thing it does when i'm shopping for furniture i look for quality i look for comfort
08:52and i look for durability and if it fits that category it's perfect you do need to look at
08:58the price tag also that does come into it my love you can't just ignore it you have to at least just
09:06graze your eyes across it it'd help it if i have expensive taste
09:11so this is like two thousand six ninety nine and this one is two thousand ninety nine
09:18what do you think i'd say a thousand bucks is cheap for a couch wouldn't it be better to get something
09:24more cost effective and then we can put the rest of the money towards your debt we did have the
09:29conversation about budgeting and slowing down the spending oh my gosh we're furniture shopping you
09:36have to really talk about this now i know love but it's important you still have this debt looming
09:42over you and this credit card interest is accumulating every month
09:49patir's relationship with money is reckless she would have these big spending sprees in vegas where
09:55she'd drop five to ten thousand dollars she'd walk into these clothing stores and the shop assistants
10:01would just absolutely love her throwing clothes at her she'd buy one of every color if she's got money
10:07she's going to spend it all of it and once we get married our finances are going to be intertwined
10:14so it's a it's a big issue i want you to be 100 honest with me how much debt
10:26what's the actual number 20 20. so like how many credit cards in total have you maxed out five all of
10:37them why is there five credit cards maxed out how does that happen i had no debt when we went to thailand
10:47and then when i came back i accumulated the debt again because i had to start all over okay this is
10:55your fault i had no debt when i moved to thailand with you when i met dylan i was in a lot of debt but
11:03i worked really hard myself and was able to pay it off but then we moved to thailand and we broke up
11:0911 months later i had to move back to the united states and start from scratch i hadn't been working
11:16in thailand i had zero savings i felt like i was at the lowest of my lowest so i have a lot of resentment
11:24regarding my financial situation because i sacrificed a lot for dylan
11:29i understand that some of it was possibly my fault but that was four years ago and you've been dancing
11:37for the last four years making pretty good money it just seems like the same problem just keeps occurring
11:47uh your spending habits going to change yes i'm not the same i've learned from my mistakes
11:54that's why i'm asking you to sell that house to help me with the stack
12:02i'm scared that if i do sell one of my properties that there's going to be something else and
12:08something else and something else i own a couple of properties in launceston and they generate some
12:15income but i don't think selling one of those properties to pay off her debt is the right financial
12:21choice because it just feels like she's not taking any accountability for her spending habits
12:27and it's rubbish that she's in debt just because she moved to thailand she's been spending this way
12:32her whole life when i first met patia i thought she was you know rich or something i thought you
12:38know she's a stripper she's got heaps of money but then i found out she was 60k in debt
12:44so this is a pattern and i mean i love patia and i want to be with her but i don't want to
12:51have to be always cleaning up her mess you keep asking me for a ring the main reason you haven't
12:59got that ring and i haven't proposed yet is because of the spending issues that you've had
13:05my fear is that this spending thing is never going to stop
13:12i'm hoping there's going to be lots and lots of little babies and children
13:16i didn't plan on opening up to matthew's family but it all just kind of came out
13:22i've been having like a lot of anxiety about having children lately
13:25me and madeleine got into it a couple times she called off the wedding
13:36you're completely just manipulated and controlled all the time
13:40wake up you don't have to go through with this
13:55so
14:09Since I've arrived in England things have been up and down it feels like Matthew and I are on
14:29different pages about everything like money and where we're gonna live and the future it's been
14:36a bumpy start what type of tea is this Matthew is working today so Matthew's mother has invited
14:52me to tea with her Matthew's grandma and also Matthew's brothers fiance
14:59Matthew and I did English afternoon tea once before I just loved it I felt very posh as English would say
15:25it you drink tea together and you normally have a tray of little sandwiches and pastries set in the
15:33middle of the table which is why in those old English TV shows when people are trying to speak
15:38to each other and they have to like look over the little rack of food this is vegan cheese yeah vegan
15:45cheese I think I'm gonna have sorry Greta you're all right with me eating this I figured no worries
15:53Greta I just want you to know how welcome you are in our family and how much it means to have you with
15:59others if you stay in our house for three weeks or three months or even perhaps not quite three
16:04especially in such a small house yeah but you know you are most welcome and thank you so much thank
16:15you I've said to Matthew I think you're his soulmate you were pulled together from across the world it
16:23was meant to happen wasn't it it was fate yeah I mean it really it like it really means the world to
16:32be so accepted in this family like yeah I like don't know what that's like really we have last two
16:39years we've had some wonderful Christmases haven't we yeah yeah they really have I know you said that
16:44that's not what you have done in the past with your family yeah and like holidays are especially
16:50really challenging because I have my mother and my sister and I we made a homemade ornaments for
16:57the tree and the first time we were integrating the tree after she had passed my father was in a new
17:06relationship and I was like so excited to hang up the ornaments on the tree and this this person that
17:14my father was in a relationship basically said like the ornaments were really ugly and that she
17:20didn't want to hang on the tree yeah and so like one of my first memories was like me like trying
17:28to hide some of the ornaments in the tree and so like we can store you shouldn't have to have you
17:33still got them no because she she she threw them out oh my god that's awful that's dreadful oh Greta
17:43I tell you what we've got lots of family traditions and we will have some Christmas family traditions and
17:55you can be part of those traditions and your babies we'll hang ornaments we'll make them in fact we've
18:04got lots of Christmas ornaments and we will buy some new ones and you can make some ornaments yeah we
18:11will be able to do that with your children yes you will I'm hoping there's gonna be lots and lots of
18:17little babies and children I've been manifesting twin since I was like 16 years old excellent yeah I
18:25mean I think like when we first met we both wanted children like a lot but I've been having like a lot of
18:34anxiety about having children lately and I can't tell if it's like a phase or not like if I'll want them
18:44more later like if we have house together and I can like feel it more I mean I know he wants children
18:56and I think he should have children like I and I like I think he's he's the type of person who would
19:03be a really amazing dad and I don't want to take that from him it's hard as well because your upbringing
19:11in your childhood and not having your mother to see as a role model that means being a mother
19:19yourself must be quite a big thing I loved having babies myself and I've always looked forward to the
19:28day when perhaps they would go on and have children of their own so I would be disappointed if I didn't
19:34have any grandchildren but it's quite a big decision whether you're going to have children or not it is
19:40the sort of thing that could break up a relationship if one desperately wants children and one doesn't
19:45relationships if they last the long haul they don't go easy those tricky times and you have to get through
19:54them together I didn't plan on opening up to Matthew's family but it all just kind of came out I didn't
20:03want to ruin this perfect image they had of the future but they're so excited for me to be here and
20:10they love me so much and they've been so accepting I don't want to get their hopes up about something that
20:17may never happen Matthew he loves you daily and he wants the best for you so you'll have to navigate
20:27that decision together and and hopefully you know reach a compromise the last time Matthew and I talked
20:37about kids was almost six months ago and Matthew and I talked about it and agreed that we would want
20:43kids together but when I've really started to picture it recently like house marriage kids I feel
20:51really conflicted I feel nervous that I'm going to now have to bring this news to Matthew because it
21:00could really determine the course of our relationship I accumulated this debt because of you
21:12every time there's a problem it's like it's my fault it's almost like he wants to see me suffer through
21:19the debt like let's watch you squirm he needs to move past this because if he doesn't propose I'm done
21:42what's up man how you doing good start without me let me grab a let me grab beer I'll be right back
21:57Brian is one of my closest friends we met in Colombia he was married to one of Madeleine's friends but
22:06Madeleine and Brian hate each other Madeleine started a rumor that I was unfaithful to my ex-wife
22:16just to get back at me telling Luke what happens when he's not there it's Madeleine's world and we're
22:23just living in it like she says jump and Luke says how high she says bark and Luke barks
22:28here you go man thank you cheers Madeline does not want me to see Brian but to be honest I think
22:39that we should be able to talk and I could use it just about now how you been man good how's it going
22:48so you've been here for a couple days now right yeah it's been dramatic man me and Madeleine got into
22:53it a couple times you see called off the wedding I mean it's been stressful man you know but trying
23:00to work through it yeah it sounds real healthy Luke sounds like you're really making progress yeah I
23:07mean I you have a point dude I feel like yeah like Stockholm syndrome you know what's that when someone
23:15like kidnaps somebody and takes them hostage then the hostage starts to fall in love with the captive
23:23we've been through a lot you know I mean maybe there's a little bit of a drama bond there like
23:27I've kind of been at like my my lowest low in life you know like financially unstable but you've been
23:35saying this since the moment you met her so you're everything you're telling nothing's changed it's bad bro
23:41you're completely just manipulated and controlled all the time what is it about her like why do you want to be
23:51with her sell her to me please really like me seeing you and and your life I wanted to move
23:59here I wanted to be in a different country as an entrepreneur living the life I just wanted to live
24:06the dream and not have to work how I did it sell me her not the dream sell me her I think ultimately I'm a
24:16little bit scared of being alone and she has been there is she there for you because last time I talked
24:22you're like oh sometimes she ignores me for days that's someone that's there for you I'm telling you to
24:28sell me her you haven't said one nice thing about her and you're getting married like what about this
24:35sounds like a good idea you don't have to go through with this did I want to be going through
24:44this stuff like the weeks before my marriage no you know am I happy right now no I feel like I'm
24:52walking on eggshells but the way she makes me feel when I'm with her makes me forget a lot of the stress
25:01a lot of the things that I'm going through I see my future and I I want to be happy I want to be
25:08happy with her I I just I want it so bad it's just I felt like I haven't been myself in a really long
25:15time because really like I can't hit home on the financial stress that I'm going through so where's the
25:24root of your financial problems how much money did you spend on Madeline in a year a lot any woman
25:38will love you if you send your whole paycheck to them that doesn't mean it's true love a real woman
25:45knowing that you're in financial ruin won't push the limits of what you can or cannot give her it's hard
25:52to be your friend when you keep making the same mistakes with the same girl wake up
26:00Brian is saying some pretty nasty but there's some truth in that I've bought her cars I've bought in
26:11her her beauty studio I pay her rent I pay her food I pay everything it's been horrible since I've moved
26:20here and it's not how I want my future to be it's not the relationship that I had envisioned I don't
26:28know I don't know what to do you keep asking me for a ring but my fear is that this spending thing is
26:40never going to stop I haven't seen the changes I need to see those changes before we commit and get
26:54married it's it's an addiction that you have it's a chronic addiction you know it's detrimental love
27:05it's got to stop and serious you brought me to tears with it because it's like when is this woman
27:12going to stop spending now there's been many months where you have not had the money for rent and I've
27:18had to pay it for you what are you talking about that's because you put me in that place you've got a
27:25very deluded view of what has and hasn't happened I didn't know like deep down how you really felt about my
27:36spending issue in the past every time I expressed it you'd get really upset and mad and just told me to
27:42stay out of your business and it would just start a fight and so I just kind of gave up you're right
27:47but I accumulated this debt because of you there's debt that you had when you met me whose fault was that
28:00when I met Dylan I just moved to Vegas and I was in a lot of debt as performers strippers we had to look
28:07the part and it's expensive we had to tan we had to do the nails the hair you have to spin to make it but I
28:15do not spin like I used to babe I've learned from my mistakes but this debt I swear honestly I I feel
28:24like it's your fault you know it's your fault every time there's a problem it's like it's my fault it
28:31just seems it's just easy to blame stuff on me and then just keep spending it makes me mad this last debt
28:40was because of him so bothers you help me help me pay it it's almost like he wants to see me suffer
28:48through the debt like let's watch you squirm and see what you can do you know you're not that same
28:55girl anymore I've gotten better now that we're together it's gonna be your money and I'm not gonna
29:01be doing that I don't know what more I can do or say to say look I'm not that high maintenance girl
29:08like I was back in the days he needs to move past this because if he doesn't propose I'm done I'm moving
29:15on he spread some holy water which was mixed with a cow urine
29:30there we go
30:00that was that was so bad
30:24last night that really sat us back we were up late preparing once again and now we all are tired
30:31cranky and you know it's not a great way to start our first day the blessing ceremony is a big thing
30:38for all the businesses in the market a lot of people are coming and we're gonna hand out a sample
30:44of our food in order to advertise our cafe but like it's not gonna be easy because we all are tired
30:49okay here we are
30:54we have the water jar if you guys need water yeah we have water over here yeah big job
31:02Sunda Khan ceremony is an important time when we ask for the blessings from all the god and goddesses this
31:10particular ceremony become extra special because it's on an auspicious day where the planets and stars
31:17are aligned which helps us to get more blessings from the god
31:24I feel like I need to take a coffee making class I'm here I'll teach you that's not an issue
31:35okay so to make americano single cup single sauce shots this is for double shots double shot press it
31:42your espresso is ready then put the water here and American was ready I was really excited to get this
31:51coffee machine and now I'm looking at it like what the hell temper this and steam that I'm in way over
32:00my head here I'm lost shall I help you yeah yeah you have to be really very fast simple okay I mean what
32:10the hell did I get into my fingers are crossed everything works out we'll see I already forget what to do
32:30before the main ceremony begins the priest come into every individual cafes bless every shop
32:41he spread some holy water which was mixed with a cow urine cow urine is considered very religious and
32:57pure in my culture did you say cow urine yeah you heard it right now is a holy animal above anyone
33:05even like God's because cow gives us milk she's like a mother to us throwing cow urine around while
33:13you're cooking we would never do something like that in America you use holy water we use cow urine
33:19now our cafe's bliss
33:35we're just making a buzz that yes we are here in the market so from tomorrow onwards please do come in
34:04and enjoy more and more different varieties of foods and coffees
34:09end of the day I'm very proud of the work we did like it's it's really good we served a lot of
34:20people hundreds of plates that out of the kitchen it really makes it feel good that we can do it you
34:27guys you know all I saw was foods going out the door and no money coming in I know how important this
34:35was but we made no money when they said we were going to be handing out samples I thought it was going
34:43to be small but they're handing out whole plates of food and there's got to be at least a hundred
34:51people here so at this point we might as well just be throwing money out so there's a lot of people so
34:58I thought this is our chance we are letting people know that look what we are having over here that you
35:04won't find in the neighborhood see we are new today and they are running business for months now so how
35:11will people recognize family cafe take it as investment yes don't worry it will be all fine
35:17are these people delusional am I the only one realizing we didn't make any money today on top of all the
35:27food we had to throw away yesterday like what the hell now and we're just gonna take us longer to
35:34start making any money and we might be stuck living with the family forever I've been having a lot of
35:47anxiety lately because I've been thinking about something
35:57I don't think I've ever picked apples before really no it's good as a third day here and things still feel unsettled
36:23okay if you don't want to come to us you don't have to we just want to say hello I think we
36:50should go pick some apples for them honey so they trust us more yep let's go get some apples
36:54do apples grow in Oklahoma um I'm sure they do but it's not really a thing in Oklahoma I'm gonna get
37:06some of the apples down here on this low branch yeah they look good oh god you know who'd have thought
37:12that three years after we met on a vegan dating app we would go on this journey together and share
37:19these experiences yeah I'm really grateful that you love animals as well because I've felt like I've
37:27always struggled finding a partner who feels the same way that I do about animals so thank you for
37:34allowing me to have that space I feel exactly the same I thought I'd have to go my whole life being in
37:41relationships with people or probably getting married to someone that I just accepted wasn't
37:47a vegan or doesn't love animals to the same extent as me and it surprised me when I was able to find you
37:56and maybe what I'm trying to say is thank you for being in my life no
38:02Greta moved to a new country she's left her cat behind her friends behind to be with me and although
38:11it hasn't been perfect I just want to reassure her that she's my person and I'm looking forward to a
38:18life with her that's very sweet and I mean you helped me be unapologetically myself but I've been
38:29having a lot of anxiety lately because um I've been thinking about something like really struggling with
38:39it and I didn't talk to you about it because I wanted to know if I was going through a phase or not
38:47but where my head's at now um I feel so unsure if I do want kids anymore
39:02that's a bombshell
39:10yeah I am like really struggling because I think you were meant to be a dad and I think like
39:21you would be an amazing dad
39:23I absolutely want kids and I want those kids with you because you are the one for me
39:32do you think maybe the reason why you feel like you don't want kids is because you had a difficult
39:43childhood
39:44no I think my childhood would actually be one of the reasons why I would want kids because I would
39:54be able to build a family life that I've always dreamed of but never got to experience
39:59this is a complete shock to me me and Greta have spoken together about kids dozens if not hundreds
40:10of times we've even named what all of our kids would be called the hobbies they would have the way we
40:17would raise them all the way down to the kinds of schools we want them to go to I don't know where
40:23this has come from I was really sure about having kids and then I started to really think about what
40:33having a child would mean and like what my life would look like if I had a kid and I think having a
40:40kid and a family life would be a major deterrence to being the type of advocate that I've always wanted to be
40:48I don't think you should see it purely from your impact I think you should see how much of an impact
40:59they could have as well your ability to raise people in the image that you always wanted to be raised in
41:08as a child I think it's such an opportunity for you and if you don't have the time to be a mother
41:16I will be 200% of the father
41:19still to come on 90 day fiance the other way
41:35this is the happiest of saying he since we got here
41:39I have a surprise for you
41:43I feel like our life is really starting here it's giving me anxiety there's no food deliveries no
41:57taxi nothing we are finally moving to our home sweet home it's in the ass of France
42:04there's nothing here Ben I'm not made for this
42:12I've got one for Tia
42:14Dylan's mom is the reason why we are not married today
42:20I feel like you're a needy mother Joe I'm not going to be classed as needy
42:24every day you have to talk to your mom it's ridiculous
42:28you better start picking your battles because you're just going to be nagging me until we're both dead
42:33at the beginning I felt like he was Mr. Darcy and I was Elizabeth
42:43honey I'm home
42:44and that's not how I'm feeling right now
42:47the honest truth is that I don't think I'm being very fair to you at all
42:54what do we do now
42:56I already told you parents we're moving out
43:02we are depending on them right now we cannot move out of there
43:05if you don't want to go with me I guess I'll have to move out by myself
43:09you're going to be marrying my son but it's her
43:14is this really what you want
43:17I still have so many doubts
43:24I don't even know if you're going to marry this guy
43:26these aren't my areas
43:32oh god
43:35I feel like I was in a relationship with a total different person
43:40Chloe
43:42those are not f***ing mine
43:44those are not f***ing mine
43:44those are not f***ing mine
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