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00:00Welcome to the After Show. Today, what are we going to do when Pebbles dies?
00:06Oh my god.
00:07I know, it sounds morbid.
00:09Why are we just talking about just my death?
00:11I think we need to talk about all of ours.
00:13No!
00:15I know, I don't want to talk about my death.
00:18I might, after what Pebbles said, it made me think about myself a little bit, but I really don't want to talk about it right now, but what you're saying makes sense.
00:28Well, so I went to, yesterday I went to my Aunt Dot's funeral, and I've been to a lot of funerals, like, over the past several years.
00:41It's just been a lot.
00:42And so I've observed the ways that people are honored when they pass.
00:47And so, yesterday, for some reason, it just really hit me where I said, I really would like to be very active in planning what happens when I die.
00:59Yeah.
01:00And you don't trust anybody?
01:01Huh?
01:01Because you don't trust anybody?
01:03No, it's not that I don't trust, but I know it's, okay, this comparison is going to be weird for a lot of people.
01:11But, you ever go to a wedding, and you see people do certain things at weddings, and you're like, oh, if I get married, I'd like to do it this way.
01:22So, I kind of am taking that with when it comes to funerals.
01:27Like, I've been to funerals, I've seen this done this way.
01:31I wouldn't mind doing that at mine.
01:34Just goes to show that no matter what the situation is, people always turn it around and make it about themselves.
01:38That's right, and you always make fun of me for doing it.
01:41Alyssa, I apologize.
01:43We all do it.
01:44Pebbles' old, elderly aunt passes away, and Pebbles is like, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me.
01:48No, no, that is not what happened.
01:51So, let's take a look here.
01:52Let's do a deep dive.
01:53Okay.
01:54What are some of the things that you would like to be implemented at your funeral?
01:58Pull up the list.
01:59Yes.
02:00Pull up the list.
02:01She told me earlier, I'm like, Jesus, you really thought about this.
02:04Let's hear it.
02:05Well, let me tell you, the reason I came to this was because,
02:08so yesterday at the, not the actual service, I think I'm less concerned about the service.
02:15I'm more concerned about like, you know, when they do what's called the repass.
02:19Let's call it the after party.
02:20So, I want my after party to be a certain way.
02:26So, there, they showed, she was 96 when she died.
02:29So, they had like, several tables of basically her life laid out in front of you.
02:36So, they had like, in her handwriting, they had framed like recipes.
02:43She was known for cooking.
02:44They had like, some of her knitting stuff there.
02:49They had banana bread that one of her grandchildren made with her recipe.
02:55I was about to say, tell me you're a grandma without telling me you're a grandma.
02:58Yeah, no, but that's cool though, because it's kind of like telling her story.
03:02Yes, exactly.
03:03I like that.
03:04I don't think I've ever been to a funeral.
03:06Funeral, typically when I go to funerals, it's just, you see pictures.
03:10Right.
03:10That's kind of all, and then music playing maybe, like, you know, something they like.
03:14And sometimes it's shitty pictures.
03:16Yay.
03:17We went to a funeral for a friend of mine, his parents died, and the whole time my dad's
03:20looking at the pictures and roasting them.
03:22Oh, no.
03:23Yeah, he's like, he's like, look, he goes, look, they were fighting in that picture, you
03:27can tell.
03:28Oh, yeah.
03:28Oh, my God.
03:29They must have just, because think about it.
03:31What she's saying makes sense, because when somebody passes, you know, 99% of the time
03:39they go, okay, let's get the person who this affected the most emotionally.
03:44You, help us set up the stuff in, like, three days.
03:47It's, yeah.
03:48So now they're just grabbing pictures.
03:50They're not going like, this is a good picture.
03:51They're like, this is a picture.
03:52There, boom.
03:53Oh.
03:54Yeah.
03:54It's hard, yeah.
03:55That process is really hard.
03:56When you're going through the grief, and you are in it, and you have to, like, plan.
04:01So that part, I would like to take off the table for people.
04:06And then they had, she was very much into, like, gardening, and they, you know, in her
04:10eulogy, and when people were talking about their reflections of her, they talked about
04:15her having, you know, how she made things out of nothing.
04:20Like, she was always growing things.
04:22Like, you went over to her house, and there were, like, avocados with, like, no, not wheat,
04:26like, with toothpicks in it hanging in the window.
04:29Or she would take the seeds from, like, peppers and make her own plants.
04:34Things like that.
04:35So they gave out, like, as, I don't want to call them gift bags.
04:40Party favors?
04:41Party favors.
04:43Like, little, like, seeds.
04:45Like, bell pepper seeds with, like, a little bit.
04:47You know, it was nice.
04:48That's nice.
04:49And they had, she had made comments about something, like, giving a toast.
04:53So they wrote that out.
04:55And then they had, she didn't drink, so they had, like, cider and, like, cranberries and
05:00put them so you could, we all, like, gathered around and did a toast.
05:03Like, her artwork.
05:04And like you said, Melissa, it's really just, everyone doesn't know everyone's life.
05:11And when you've lived that long, you don't know all of them.
05:15And so to be able to have people come in and see, like, this is who Auntie Dot was, I just
05:23thought that that was amazing.
05:25You didn't answer my question.
05:26What?
05:26What would you like to be at your funeral?
05:30Well, before you say that, I like the idea, too, of you doing it now because I'm sure,
05:36I mean, it sounded like there was a lot to your auntie already, but she was in her 90s.
05:40I'm sure there was a lot that she was into in her 20s and 30s and whatever that they
05:45didn't, if she, like, prepared earlier, like you're doing, it was like, oh, I want this
05:50and then this, people would probably be like, oh, crap, I didn't know she was into motorcycles.
05:54You know what I'm saying?
05:55Yes.
05:55So you doing it now is smart because if you, let's say you live to the ripe old age of
05:5996 or whatever it is, you know, it might be like.
06:02I got them good, good genes in my family.
06:04Yeah, the stuff that people will prepare would be a lot different than you saying, hey, let's
06:09start this right now.
06:10Right, and it's from someone else's perspective.
06:12I mean, and I, while I would like to definitely have other people's perspectives involved,
06:18like my goddaughters and my niece, you know, and just like my other nieces and nephews, like
06:24I want them to put who they thought I was out there, too.
06:27But I want to be able to put who I am because there are a lot of things that they may not
06:32know.
06:33So, for example, Melissa, you asked.
06:35Yes, here we go.
06:36Like, I think travel has been, especially solo travel, has been a huge part.
06:41So to put like my passport, because I keep all my passport, to put them there and to like
06:46be able to open my passport and see like the stamps of the places that I've been.
06:51I have a set of books, like one of my favorite books in the world is The Fault in Our Stars
06:57by John Green.
06:57So every time I go to a different country, I get that book that was printed in that
07:02language.
07:03Oh, wow.
07:05So I would want, you know, to put those out.
07:09Think about like what Romero just said, though.
07:11Like when you were in your 20s or 30s, think about what would describe you in that era.
07:17Because I feel like when we get to certain decades of our lives, things change about us
07:21and we become interested in different things and different things represent us.
07:25What would represent you, you think, in like your 20s and 30s?
07:29Like my college cheerleading?
07:32There it is.
07:33There it is.
07:34Because I think like a lot of the, like my goddaughters, I don't think they've ever
07:38seen a picture of me like cheerleading and, you know, just my call, like pictures of
07:44me in college.
07:45I'm doing a split.
07:46Right, right.
07:47Yeah.
07:47See?
07:48What would you have representing your radio career?
07:52Picture of me like this.
07:54They'll be like, oh, that poor guy died?
08:01Stop it.
08:04Yeah, definitely.
08:04I mean, like things that we, you know, I don't know.
08:10I hadn't thought about that.
08:11But I mean, there's awards.
08:13Yeah.
08:13I could get some of those there.
08:15Um, I hadn't, I, I like, like I said, this happened yesterday.
08:20So I haven't completely thought through everything that I want to be there, but I'm going to
08:25start.
08:25It sounds like you need to have your funeral at a museum and where they do like in the
08:32areas where, you know, when they bring in, um, I don't know, maybe this can't explain
08:37it well and I have, please forgive me, but like a place where people can experience your
08:42life while paying homage to you.
08:44I would like to do maybe a library.
08:47Okay.
08:47Like maybe at a library in one of their like community rooms, like, you know, bring in
08:53some food and stuff like that.
08:55Now.
08:55Leroy's thing sounds a little complicated.
08:57I went to the Auschwitz exhibit.
08:58And who would you have to carry out all of your wishes who, cause it's got to be someone
09:11responsible.
09:12Yes.
09:13Somehow.
09:15I have, I have some cousins who I would probably task that with.
09:20All right.
09:20It's funny.
09:21Cause like my two God daughters, I feel like they'll be, you know, the two jumping in the
09:25casket and the casket, I don't know.
09:29I have to, although one of them, I think I'm going to task with burning my journals.
09:33Nice.
09:34I'm not a hundred percent sure.
09:35She'll read them bitches first too, you know.
09:37I'm not a hundred percent sure she won't read them because she's nosy.
09:41Every now and then with a lighter, people will be like, oh, she's, yeah, she's burning.
09:44I smell smoke.
09:46But don't you, I mean, you all don't, I don't know.
09:49I think we need to change the way we think about death because death really is a part of
09:55life.
09:56And I think when you haven't gone through a whole lot of people, especially people close
10:01to you dying in life, you, it's like really scary.
10:05And I, and I guess it is scary, but maybe people should look at their funerals the way
10:12that you should be looking at wills.
10:14Cause I think a lot of people are afraid to do, to do wills because it's like, oh, this
10:18is so final.
10:19And it's like, oh, and maybe it should be viewed in a similar way.
10:23Yeah.
10:23Took me forever to do will and stuff like that.
10:25My wife, I'm like, no, this is, it's putting it out there.
10:28It's, it's telling final destination to kill us.
10:32Yes.
10:32And another bad comparison, it's kind of like a prenup.
10:35Like people say the word prenup and it's audit.
10:37It's like, no, that's just that you're putting it out there that you're good.
10:40You know, that we're going to break up.
10:42Why should we do it?
10:42You know what I mean?
10:43It's just a negative thing.
10:44And people look at it.
10:46My mother's already like planned.
10:48And she's already has all the plans.
10:50Like every, she's like, do what you want.
10:52Like, I don't care.
10:53She's like, it's for you, not me.
10:55But she's already like gone through, like picking out.
10:59She's like, you can change whatever you want.
11:01But she's picked out like scriptures.
11:03She's picked out like her casket.
11:06Like all of that stuff.
11:08Yeah.
11:08It's just, I mean, my mother's very like, I always say this Romero, you and my mother
11:13are very much alike about like when things happen, it's like, this is what we just, you
11:19know, we handle it and we move on.
11:21And that's what my mother does.
11:22And she's all about like preparation and stuff like that.
11:25That's the closest I'm ever going to get to a, like a solid compliment from Pebbles.
11:28No, can I, I'm like her mom, but no, really.
11:32And I think when I made that realization, it made me appreciate you more Romero because
11:37like, and I always tell my, cause it's like, there are times that I think I'm like, God,
11:43you have no feelings about this or whatever.
11:45Cause I'm like an overfeeler.
11:48I was like, my father was like that.
11:50So it makes me like understand your point of view more because I understand my mother.
11:57Yeah.
11:58My, my favorite phrase is whenever someone's like complaining or crying about something,
12:02I'm like, it sucks.
12:03Feel that.
12:04But do you have a time machine?
12:06No.
12:06Okay.
12:06So we can't go to the past.
12:08This is, this is the new starting line of the race.
12:11Let's go.
12:12What are we doing from here?
12:13Anyway, so we're all going to come up with our stuff.
12:15I already have Melissa's planned out.
12:16There's going to be a chips, potato and casino.
12:20Okay.
12:20Like chips.
12:21And a giant, I don't know, like a giant Facebook freaking just post that we could just go like
12:26this the whole time.
12:27Oh my God.
12:27We have to do a drive by the casino though with like.
12:30Oh gosh.
12:31That place is the death of me.
12:33So you might as well.
12:35You've seen people do.
12:36Seriously.
12:37Where they just sit her up in the casino like.
12:39Oh my God.
12:40On a slot machine?
12:40On a slot machine?
12:41And then just walk away.
12:42Like have my body there?
12:43There are those people.
12:44Okay.
12:45And we'll just like leave her there forever.
12:47All right.
12:48She's still playing?
12:49Shut up.
12:50Goodbye.
12:50Goodbye.
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