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00:00Do you see how in the name of correcting a bad situation, we worsen it?
00:05Is that not the story of our life?
00:08My question is related to the upbringing of children.
00:12There is a total world out there who plays an important part in the conditioning of the child.
00:16Like I have a 1.5 years old daughter now.
00:18So if I feel that I should not send her to school because there are teachers, there are other children over there.
00:23How can we save them from getting conditions from the people?
00:26You cannot save her.
00:27Let that hurt you and kill you and only that will save the child.
00:32All these wise things you are speaking of right now, did you not know of them 2 years back?
00:38She goes to the school.
00:41She gains formal knowledge but also gathers a lot of corruption.
00:45You put at her home and the set of troubles is different but deeper.
00:50First thing when you have a kid in front of you, weep.
00:53That's what I do.
00:54I look at extremely stupid parents carrying kids.
00:59What can I do?
00:59I can't pretend I am living in a healthy place.
01:03I can't pretend I can save them.
01:05They can't be saved.
01:06How do I save that kid?
01:07What can we do about it?
01:09Weep.
01:10Cry.
01:11I am already doing.
01:11No, you can't say I made a bad decision.
01:16I want to correct it now.
01:19No, sir, you are not the first one.
01:21The situation is so grim.
01:23If one is not a dimwit, one obviously realizes it's very bad for the kids.
01:28We would be leaving behind for them a world totally distorted by climate change.
01:35Parents claim they want all the goodness for their kids and they destroy the kids.
01:42You want to be of some use to the kid?
01:45Then grow up with the kid.
01:46Pranam Acharji, I am Pratik and I am trying to learn from you from past two years now and
02:00I have been an active participant from more than a quarter now.
02:02So, my question is related to the upbringing of children.
02:07So, time and again, you have emphasized that changing parents themselves is the prime focus
02:14of this aspect and I understand the rationale behind that.
02:19But then there is another fact, Acharji, that it's not only the parents.
02:25There is a total world out there who plays an important part in the conditioning of the
02:29child.
02:30So, particularly with respect to the schooling and the education aspect of it, if I suppose
02:36think that I have a 1.5 year old daughter now, so if I feel that I should not send her
02:44to school because there are teachers, there are other children over there who obviously
02:48are unaware as us and it will play a lot of role in the conditioning of the child.
02:54So, why to send her to school at the first place if you can teach the academic subject
03:00because academic is also very important.
03:01So, if we can teach other academic subjects at home.
03:04But then discipline becomes a very big aspect of it because schools and other education
03:09sports, they have, you know, from age old experience, they have a very designed curriculum and discipline.
03:14So, so my question is like, what can be an alternate measure so that, you know, we can save the child
03:20right from like who are just about to go into, out into the world.
03:24How can we save them from getting conditions from the people and can give them, you know,
03:29that academic knowledge also?
03:31You cannot save her.
03:32Let that hurt you and kill you and only that will save the child.
03:47You are a continuity from your past, right?
03:54All these wise things you are speaking of right now, did you not know of them two years back?
04:02If you know that the child is in grave threat today, you knew of the same thing two years back as well.
04:13So, you brought her into the world so that she would be gravely threatened, right?
04:20Now, we are speaking so eloquently, so wisely, so compassionately.
04:31When we have put the kid in an impossible situation, she goes to the school, she gains formal knowledge but also gathers a lot of corruption.
04:51You put at her home and the set of troubles is different but deeper.
04:58It's a very obvious problem and today you know of it, obviously you knew of this thing two, three years back as well.
05:09And you are a continuity, you are the same person who did that and the person who is talking of this and today you have the belief that remaining who you are, the continuity that you have been, you can still save the kid.
05:28That belief is what would hurt the kid very very deeply.
05:35You have come up with a wise plan, option A, option B. You are already thinking of these things.
05:45Using your own, same continuous self and a deep belief that you know, with a further stretch of that same self, you can do some good.
06:02How?
06:09The self took unwise decisions then.
06:15The self is thinking of some unwise options now.
06:20And the self is confident about the kid's future.
06:27Past, present, future, all being trampled under the ruthless weight of the same continuity, the self.
06:48First thing when you have a kid in front of you, weep.
06:54That's what I do.
06:58I look at animals in the markets.
07:02I look at them getting ready for slaughter.
07:06I look at extremely stupid parents carrying kids.
07:10What can I do?
07:12First thing is, I allow that to hit me hard.
07:17I can't pretend I am in control.
07:20I can't pretend I am living in a healthy place.
07:25I can't pretend I can save them.
07:28They can't be saved.
07:31I can't say I am the wise one who will come up with a management plan and strategic steps to solve a particular problem.
07:43I am not going to be a victim of my own wishful thinking.
07:51How do I save that kid?
07:55I can't.
07:56I can't.
07:58I can't.
07:59But something happened in ignorance like you told that maybe two years also I was aware of these things.
08:16I was but not so deeply.
08:18I mean, you know, knowing the thing from periphery is different.
08:21But then coming to the terms of its reality is something different.
08:25So, if I have done something, what can we do about it like now?
08:32Weep.
08:33Cry.
08:34That we are already doing.
08:35No.
08:36When that happens, that's a thing of total transformation.
08:51When that happens, then you realize that it's not the kid who has to grow up.
08:57The parents have to grow up first thing.
09:04You can't say I am the parent devising plans for the kid.
09:08No.
09:09Devise plans for yourself.
09:13And just as you would repeatedly fail in your plans for yourself, you will also fail in your plans for the kid and there can be no respite from that.
09:23You can't say I made a bad decision.
09:26I want to correct it now.
09:29No.
09:31You will have to live with the utter hurt and the consequences.
09:40And probably that is the only way out.
09:42Ostensibly all parents at least claim that they want welfare of their kids.
10:01That doesn't happen.
10:05It's not going to happen.
10:06You are not the first one.
10:07You are not the last one.
10:09You are not unique in any sense.
10:11Nobody is unique in any sense.
10:12Are you talking about neighbour's kids?
10:25Are you talking about all the kids in the world?
10:28Are you talking about all the species in the world?
10:31No.
10:32You can't.
10:33And since all can't be saved therefore, it would be really impossible to save just one.
10:50Even before she goes out in the world, her fate is determined like, even if I want to save her from conditioning and I want to change myself too.
10:59Now, this is the best statement you have made so far.
11:03Not a statement of hope.
11:05Not a declaration of plans.
11:08But an appreciation of the horror of the situation.
11:14But we are trained to be actors, no?
11:19We are trained to say, yes, yes, I know the situation, now let's act.
11:25The fact is all your acting is just a convenient escape from acknowledgement of the situation.
11:34Once you know what the situation is, the right action will anyway happen on its own.
11:41Action doesn't have to be planned or organized.
11:46Action will happen.
11:48What is needed is appreciation, a holistic realization of what the situation is like.
11:59And then the right action happens for the parents, for the kid, for the entire world.
12:11Sir, you are not the first one.
12:23The situation is so grim.
12:27If one is not a dim wit, one obviously realizes, it's very bad for the kids.
12:34We would be leaving behind for them a world totally distorted by climate change.
12:51We know that.
12:52We know what we have done.
12:54And you can't stop that.
12:56We know what we are releasing, continuously releasing into the atmosphere.
13:03And I cannot stop that.
13:04You cannot stop that.
13:06First thing is to be vulnerable to the suffering.
13:19Because that is the reality.
13:23You are feeling the gravity of it.
13:28But as you said, things seems like they are already out of hand.
13:32So that's become very, you know, the anxiety increases because of this.
13:42That might actually be a good beginning.
13:47It is not anxiety or any other state that is ever a problem.
13:54It is the centre of the state that matters.
13:57We know the sages have said, yes, fear is good.
14:01Even greed is good from the right centre.
14:10So please do be anxious.
14:14But not just for your limited interests and little family.
14:22And then you will see that you are able to act rightly.
14:27And right action is no prescription.
14:30By right action, I do not mean to give you hope.
14:36I am not saying right action will save you or your kid.
14:40No.
14:41Not quite likely.
14:46But at least right action will happen.
14:51Irrespective of the result.
14:57I am taking a little bit.
15:07Do you see how in the name of correcting a bad situation, we worsen it?
15:14Is that not the story of our life?
15:22Yes.
15:25I spoiled it.
15:27Now, I will clean it up.
15:32Because we are not holistic in our understanding ever.
15:35Yes, and because we have so much confidence in the doer.
15:42If I could do it wrong, I can also do it right.
15:51I made a mess of it, I will set it right.
15:55No sir, it's a continuity.
15:58Remaining the same person who created the mess.
16:05You will only further the mess in the name of setting it right.
16:11You will only make it worse.
16:14Because you are the same self.
16:17The same doer.
16:20So, parents claim they want all the goodness for their kids.
16:25And they destroy the kids.
16:30And when there is some evidence that the kid is actually being destroyed.
16:39In their wisdom, they take the next step to correct the situation.
16:45Instead of remedy, it brings more ruin.
16:51Because it's a continuity, the actor is the same.
16:57You know, it's not going to be right.
17:04When the patient starts playing the doctor, we need to grow up.
17:19And having a kid in that sense is an opportunity.
17:25You want to be of some use to the kid, then grow up with the kid.
17:37There's a built-in 하기-sterolem.
17:38You want to be the man in that sense, but the kid is OK.
17:39The job is to be of somege-sterolem.
17:40The mother is so quiere up with the one-looking.
17:41You want to be the man in that sense, but the culture is perfect.
17:43So, the state is very important.
17:44We need to take a look at the parede.
17:45So, we need to get quite a bit more.
17:46The other day in the day, we need to go for a bit longer.
17:47It will break anyway.
17:48So, it will be like an example of our status.
17:49Anything else?
17:51Anything else?
17:52No.
17:53Anything else?
17:54Anything else?
17:55No.
17:56Hey!
17:57Back into the image.
17:58Anything else?
17:59Anything else?
18:00Anything else?
18:01No.
18:05My name is Savan and I am from West Bengal and I have been connected with Achareji since
18:21almost two years now.
18:24Since childhood I have been an introvert kind of person and I have always been very much
18:30unclear about a lot of things in life.
18:35So I have always listened to a lot of people especially in spiritual sense but never have
18:42I got such clarity and such kind of answers as I have got after listening to Achareji.
18:49This has made a tremendous amount of difference in my life.
18:53So the real change has only happened after I have started listening to Achareji.
18:58Before that whoever I have listened to they have been a kind of sweet pills that it is
19:06good to listen to them but for the moment but never the real change happens and real change
19:12in the sense I mean is you know it is suffering, it is the suffering that we have in our life
19:23in the form of fear, in the form of anxiety, in the form of the mental clutter that goes
19:30on each and every moment of our lives.
19:33Now after two years I feel that the mind is a lot you know free, it is a lot relaxed now
19:40because the sessions and the teachings are so wonderful that it has to happen for each
19:50and every one of the participants who are in the Gita community, a lot of them have benefited
19:56and in the same way I have also benefited.
19:59So I just thank enough, I have no words to thank Achareji.
20:02I can say it is a rebirth and so everyone should join this community, everyone should listen
20:10to Achareji.
20:12That is all I want to say, thank you.
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