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We got a confession from a woman who feels that her boyfriend is less of a provider when he asks for her half of the rent. Some understand while others scream entitlement is REAL in these 2025 streets.
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00:00confession on wild 94.1 all right your morning confession in the middle of the snowstorm that
00:09we're going through this morning snowy outside it's snowy outside yes it's a wide christmas
00:15all right anyway uh dear freak show enjoy your show listen every morning and need an honest
00:21perspective on my situation i've been with my boyfriend for three years and every single month
00:28he asks me for rent i make money and can take full care of myself so this isn't about needing help
00:36financially but for me it's about security and partnership when it comes to a man who wants to
00:42provide and take care of his woman i've always believed in being independent but i also value a
00:51man who steps up as a provider not because i can't but because it shows love it shows leadership
00:58and stability asking me for rent every month makes me feel more like a roommate than a partner
01:05and it just hurts i feel like i might have missed the mark by not set setting the expectation earlier
01:13and what point is it fair to express that you want and need a provider not a paycheck but a man who
01:22takes pride in taking care of his partner his princess i've mentioned it and gotten the response are you
01:29paying the rent or not he's not giving me the leader i need or want in my life type of vibe and it's
01:37becoming a huge issue what do i do in my situation you know most independent women and maybe she's
01:46realizing this a little bit too late they you know we may become independent out of want we become
01:51independent out of need and most independent women refuse to settle for little boy attention and
01:57they're waiting for an actual man to step up and that's why a lot of them and us put up a lot of
02:02boundaries most refuse to like accept hand out kind of love and affection or attention in their life
02:08from a man that's not willing to like bust through the wall and stand up and show what it's like to be a
02:14leader so that's what makes me a man paying bills no there's a lot of different aspects honesty self
02:19control integrity emotional security emotional maturity and he's just not showing that he's not
02:25showing the leadership and she wants to have a provider and wants to get married and have kids
02:31and stuff like that it doesn't sound like he's giving that leadership roles it kind of sounds like
02:36you just want to be taken care of she has she can take care of herself but she's saying it she's
02:41you want somebody i don't like she's coming across and she's saying like oh i don't know about my
02:45love my man this my man that but it's like if he's doing everything in the love aspect like he loves
02:51you and all this stuff but he's asking you for rent i don't think it's fair for it to be like oh my
02:56man don't love me because we we can't write it but it's all about finance they didn't mention how
03:02great the relationship is and all that other stuff but calling him a little boy because there's a
03:07financial agreement like you came in here and joined me and we have shared bills like i mean
03:14the guy is handling business because he's like guess what i know you're hearing talking about
03:18feelings but you're gonna pay the rent or what because the rent has to be paid and she said it's
03:23not even a financial issue she just wants to be kept and it's like i mean it just i i love you but
03:30your answer that you gave hurts she never hurts me and the guy she never said she wanted to be kept
03:38she can take care of herself she said she's like i've always believed in being independent but i also
03:43value a man who steps up as a provider not because i can't but because it shows love leadership and
03:50stability that means that i value you taking care of me and being a provider but you're my girlfriend
03:57i i i totally i gotta be a boy because it because you're you're giving a boy you're giving
04:05you're not not a full grown man it just doesn't it gives me the ick like you're where where's my man
04:11where's the guy that's gonna hold me up when things go down if a noise is happening in the house guess
04:17who gonna go check on it me because i'm the man if some dude messes with you at the bar guess what
04:23i'm gonna step up and protect you because i'm the man it's funny that you say like this is an
04:28independent woman but it's also sounds like because she wants him to pay the bills it doesn't sound
04:34like she's very independent well or the fact when you said i mean most women don't want to be
04:38independent by out of choice they out of need and i'm like yo there's some women out there who grew up
04:44like hey i want to be my own i'll stand up on my own too so some man can't take advantage of me
04:50right like so my man can put me in some sort of box where you know where at least where i am
04:55and then i expect i expect my partner to build and be higher at least i'm building because you
05:02paying half the rent so i'm building i'm like i'm able to save now i understand what you expect but
05:07we also don't know the conversation before when it was like oh you want to move in with me are you
05:12going to pay half of the bills now if that was an agreement you had beforehand i understand and now
05:17you want to renegotiate especially with financial stuff that's going on but it sounds like she's
05:21like how much longer do i have to you know you know what this is this is just the this is that
05:26fairy tale part this is where you find your partner and y'all do the thing to get together and y'all
05:31decide to stay together and then ladies she's waiting ladies believe that if they give you a good scooby
05:37snack then at some point you're gonna have to stop paying like it's like you know they're like i got it
05:42but i'm giving you this good good so um you should be paying it's just that whole switch but he's like
05:48hey man we share in these expenses that's business that's that's really leadership because it's easy
05:55for him just to cut it himself and then just you know take a short but he's like yo you have some
06:00skin in the game i like i kind of like that part but if you ladies who are just a boyfriend girlfriend
06:07situation how long did you stay financially not provided for is that what you want to call it
06:14we want a responsible provider how long how long did it take him to become the responsible provider
06:19as meredith has worded it texts are popping and everything else meredith you see some people who
06:24speak in your language i see some and then some of the opposite out of the 813 my wife pays the
06:29mortgage and i do everything else that's just how some relationships work i like that that's
06:33partnership right there see everybody's different out of the 813 i didn't choose to be the financial
06:38provider until me and my wife decided to have children and which i had to become the financial
06:43provider while she was out of work and i did so a few years after the kids were born until just
06:49recently there you go so i mean sometimes it transitions i mean or this guy could be stacking
06:54it because when he becomes your husband he gotta have something yeah so you know maybe maybe we just
06:59need to play these roles right let's see i got cat on the line uh let me see if this works here
07:04because this phone system is janky hey hey cat how you doing good how are you guys doing pretty good
07:11now what are we thinking uh in this uh independence dance what what are we thinking i mean i saw where
07:18meredith was coming from but at the end of the day it's a partnership and to me that means equal
07:23and to be honest i have a girlfriend and she is my my little princess and everything and i want to
07:29take care of her but at the end of the day we're equally in it together so until maybe a ring's on
07:35that finger i don't see myself as like the sole provider by any means we're equally in this
07:41relationship have you had that discussion yeah to a degree i mean right now she is also a very
07:49independent person uh i would say pretty much to the max like does not rely on me does not need me
07:55by any means but we stick to while we're renting and everything like that it's going to be equal
08:01split groceries split everything pretty much as best we can after that i mean she's going to more than
08:08likely be the mother so i mean i'm gonna have to step up in places that you know i'm not there at now
08:14there you go but that's that's that partnership thing we was talking about that's it i appreciate
08:18it does that change things like if it's just a boyfriend and if it's a husband like obviously i
08:24i feel like as a husband yes you would want to be a provider but that's does that change it just being
08:29the boyfriend it depends um i mean if you've been together three or four years soon i would be
08:35expecting a ring after so you're kind of like trying out you're pretending to play that role i got
08:41patrick on the line let's see patrick what you thinking man i'm gonna go ahead and give you guys
08:47some wisdom man there we have the means he has the means you both have the means together i've been
08:53on both sides of the fence the woman wants you to provide for her wants you to pay this wants you to
08:58pay that but if you let that uh go on event is you know that's what it's gonna be uh now i got me
09:06someone i've been with for three years she had her own place i got my own place because i ain't
09:11provide for nobody that can provide for themselves if she can't do for you know and she said she could
09:17do for herself so she can be part of that partnership if not kick rocks wow all right are y'all looking at
09:23like you said you got the solo places i mean at some point are y'all gonna merge together and then
09:27that oh no oh no i i went ahead and let her go ahead moving because she's been taking care of us
09:34so we fight over who's gonna take the bill when we go out oh nice nice there you go who paying for
09:41i'm paying for it no i'm paying for it oh man that's love right there you better keep her
09:45yeah ain't too many doing that around that these days everybody reaching for no checks i'll pay for
09:51the movie you can pay for dinner no hell no where are we going we're at the movies no you pay for
09:58you pay for the movie tickets i pay for the newton movie riblets yeah yeah there we go that's a good
10:03deal all right uh let's see i got uh joe on the phone hey joe what up yes i'm holding yes yes
10:09i think i think i think you need to drop this young lady if she doesn't change her mindset
10:15no she doesn't talk about all the things that he does well she didn't mention a lot of that
10:21she just mentioned the rent all right chances are this man is sharing the household chores
10:27cooking probably rubbing her feet okay you know laying the pipe and she's crying about not wanting
10:33to pay her share of rent she need to get real and get right i i love how we're just assuming that he's
10:39cooking and cleaning and doing all that kind of sounded good to me exactly sounded good to me
10:43that's right so so if she doesn't change hey drop her and find the lady who's more deserving
10:49there you go that's it that's where i'm at that's big only advice right there you got to get a better
10:53it works for me and mine we've been married for 36 years now 36 years wow 36 years wow you said it
11:01works for me and mine y'all y'all split the rep hey it it works for us we're we're okay i celebrate our
11:0836th anniversary on the fourth of this month we're fine man that's awesome see there don't listen to
11:14rich don't listen to rich i was over here you notice how that good man answered hey it works
11:21for me and mine now you're not about to break me into that no but i the reason why i asked because
11:26this guy said it works for me it works for him so that's why i asked but he's saying the advice
11:30is what he has gotten him 36 years so i mean they might not be at that point now but they created it
11:36that way and matriculated up to almost 40 years together i want to read this this comes out of
11:42georgia it says you do what works for you and your household not what society or the internet
11:47thinks or says i totally you're the one that has to live with the outcome not them yeah um we got
11:53somebody on the front line i think this is darren it says darren yeah it looks like darren all right
11:58hey darren what's happening hey what's up freaks it's cold enough out there for y'all this morning
12:02bro it feels like we had chris kringle up in this thing it's crazy
12:06you all right out there so yeah i'm chilling i'm chilling i'm chilling hey but hey but this
12:13little heifer um i i don't know i don't know what society done did to help mom but at the end of the
12:19day the society is this economy is messed up right and that's why i love my wife because my wife never
12:25looked for me to be the sole sole provider like i pay most of the rent we share the rest of the bills
12:32i cook uh i help clean so it's like it works out for us like that's why i love my wife you
12:39know what i'm saying she she never never never looked for that i i want to do it but at the end
12:44of the day it's a 50 50 thing you know what i'm saying we've been married for three years almost
12:48four years now we've been together seven so it's like that pressure that pressure not just on your
12:55shoulders it's a shared pressure on both of y'all's shoulders exactly because she understands you know
13:00what i'm saying and it's not like i can't do it but it's it comes to a point where okay you want me
13:07to take care of you but what if i go to work and get hurt or what if i'm in a car actually i can't
13:11work no more now it's a possibility you're going up and leave because i can't take care of you no
13:16more you know what i'm saying yeah so it's time to play it's hand to hand right meredith i'm here
13:21talking about life insurance i'm not dead i'm not dead man if you don't shut up
13:26she trying to push you in front of a truck
13:31hey man appreciate you dude i mean listen i like that part because somebody who has a shared
13:39skin in the game with you it's it's not just on my shoulders i guess she feels the brunt because
13:44the people who are provided for they don't feel that brunt so the guy has a weight on his shoulder
13:50knows that he has to build money you show up like hey we need to take a cruise and you ain't offering
13:54nothing to the thing it's more weight on his shoulder but like in that situation i get it it's
13:59shared she's feeling it too she's like well we ain't we really spent a little bit too much last month
14:03so i'm not gonna ask that we do this unless we come up with a plan maybe we'll do it next year
14:08she's got some skin in the game yeah i get it and i understand that my relationship is very much 50 50
14:13we both give where we can out of the 813 this says women value security the problem is this man
14:19is not even having a conversation about it to see if he'd ever be willing to do it they've been
14:24together for three years and she's just thinking long term that's that's where i guess my point of
14:29view is it's like if there is something are you going to or is that what what's the goal here what
14:36are we going to do because we can keep things 50 50 but is there ever going to be like if i have kids
14:41are you going to be able to hold down the family i need to know and feel secure well all right well
14:45listen hopefully a part two will make it that far because right now she's losing so don't be
14:50expected to be having rent just disappear because the love and the 36 years and all that that we
14:56just gave you is a great just perceptual study for you so make sure you keep keep some skin in the
15:02game okay orlando and the freak show thank you so much for watching we really appreciate you guys
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