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00:08:33Without further ado, please welcome Patti James.

00:08:39Hi. Greetings, people of God. We greet you. Greetings. Greetings. Greetings. We greet you in the name of David, Lashana Tova.

00:08:52Okay, it's the Lord's name. And we are yet praising God for his beauty and all those that joined us. What a blessing it was.

00:09:00What a wonderful time we had in our fellowship. I hope you'll meet me at some of the other announcements you've seen.

00:09:06They'll make it a point to get there. Get there so I can see you, so we can have some fellowship, friendship with Jesus, fellowship divine.

00:09:14Blessed, sweet communion, because Jesus is a friend of mine. So I look forward to seeing you there in Jesus' name.

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00:11:23I say greetings to each and every wonderful kingdom citizens that are joining us in this session tonight.

00:11:29Blessings unto you. And thank you for joining us. Welcome, first-time viewers.

00:11:33We're so glad to have you. Thank you for joining us. So much you could look at.

00:11:37But you've come to be with us, and we appreciate your presence in Jesus' mighty name.

00:11:43All right. We're going to go into the Word of God. We've got much to share with you.

00:11:47I told you we're getting up close and personal. It's all good. It'll bless you.

00:11:50And hopefully you can, you know, bless someone else. And yes, okay. He says you're blurring out.

00:11:56Okay. Well, I think that he's fixed the blurring. But let us know. If anything goes, you let us know.

00:12:01Because that's the only way we can fix it. You've got to let us know what's going on.

00:12:04So thank you for that. All right. Let's pray and go right into this Word that God has given us for you.

00:12:11In Jesus' name, Spirit of the living God, we just thank you. We bless your holy name.

00:12:16We give you all the honor, all the glory, and all the praise. Thank you for each and everyone joining us.

00:12:23And I bless them and their household as well. And let this Word, O God, penetrate our hearts and our spirits

00:12:29that we may grow in grace and in the knowledge thereof. In Jesus' name, amen.

00:12:37Excuse me. Amen and amen. I may have to turn the fan because it kind of makes me cough.

00:12:41All right. But we're good. We're good. We're okay. We're good. All right. Chosen. Chosen. Chosen.

00:12:50That's what we're talking about. Chosen. And we're going to pick up from there.

00:13:01Hold on for a minute. Okay. We need you to hold on for one minute. Don't go away.

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00:13:36All right. You still with me? We just need to fix something. Okay. Again, when you let us know if

00:13:52there's blurring or screen freezing and things like that, that helps us so that we can make sure

00:13:57because we need the Word of God to come out clear, loud, and clear. Praise God. We want everyone to be

00:14:03able to receive what the Lord is saying to you. All right. So we pray all is well and that you're

00:14:09seeing and hearing us in Jesus' name. All right. I want to start with scripture. First, Peter.

00:14:15First, Peter. Thank you. Thank you very much. All right. It's all better now. Very good. Very good.

00:14:22That's right. Y'all do the warfare. The devil is a liar. We're going to do exactly what God has given

00:14:26us to do because it's going to bless you. Praise God. And that's how we know it's going to bless

00:14:31because we always got to do the warfare. All right. First, Peter. First, Peter chapter one

00:14:38and verse, I'm sorry, chapter two and verse nine. It's right there in front of you. And again,

00:14:46you've heard it before. You've read it many times, but let's just, again, you are a chosen priesthood.

00:14:53All right. You've been called, you're chosen, holy unto God, a royal priesthood. All right. This is,

00:15:00I wanted to emphasize that because think of what God calls you, how God speaks concerning you.

00:15:07And then you'll understand that, listen, you can't be chosen a royal priesthood.

00:15:14Okay. And be a victim and be pitiful and be whining. Okay. That's not who you are. And so the

00:15:21scripture is very clear. And I'll get back to that again, as we continue in this study,

00:15:25we said, we wanted to pick up that we stopped at distractions disguised as desire. Some of you

00:15:34might remember that distractions disguised as desire. You know, why are we dealing with this,

00:15:43this lesson? Even why is the focus of this lesson about relationships? Because the greatest

00:15:50distraction that the adversary will use, if he's coming against you and he knows that there is a

00:15:57call that you are marked of God and the hand of God is on you. He knows that relationship is the

00:16:04number one way to hinder, to stop, to block, to delay. If anything he can use to interfere with what

00:16:14God is doing in your life, I tell you, it is relationships. And we must talk about it. We

00:16:20must deal with the broken relationships, the divorces, the separations, the family breakups,

00:16:28the friendships that fall out, the work situation. All of these are relationships and the enemy that is

00:16:36one of his major strategies. If he's going to come against you, and especially if he knows that the

00:16:44hand of God is upon you, this is why it's so important for me to get this message out, that

00:16:49you know, if you're feeling bad or like it's your fault or something's wrong with you, you know, that

00:16:55you're not in a relationship, that you don't have anybody as our, you know, culture makes it sound,

00:17:01then this, you need to hear this. This message is not just for you, it's about you, so that you can

00:17:08understand it was not your fault. You are not a failure. And again, you know, the pain and the

00:17:14suffering that comes along with it. Yes, we're going to deal with all of that. We know how very real

00:17:19those things are. All right. And, and, and one of the things we got to learn that we, we don't

00:17:26want to just use the religious jargon. You just keep talking religious stuff. The truth inside of you

00:17:32is not, you know, matching what you're saying on the outside. So we want to go in deep and make sure

00:17:39you understand what is going on right now and how God is bringing you into again, his full,

00:17:46the fullness of his purpose. So we stopped at talking about, you know, distractions disguised as

00:17:54desires. For, for one thing, we've got to stop letting people be more important than God's word.

00:18:01You know, that's in our life because we don't even want to say that or deal with it. But the truth is

00:18:07we do, we make people more important than, than even our callings and our purpose and the things

00:18:14that God has called us to. And these things are important that we at least give you the word of

00:18:20God and then secure you in, you know, quote unquote, what happened to you? Why did it happen? You know,

00:18:27we shared with you that the whole business about, you know, why me? And, and the answer in most

00:18:35religious circles is why not you, but that doesn't satisfy because you don't answer a question with a

00:18:42question. And so we want to, again, uh, get some good stability going here in the word of God so that

00:18:51not only it blesses you, but it helps you to bless someone else. So a distraction, understand this.

00:19:00You're not just, you know, falling in love with a person or in a relationship with a person,

00:19:06you're forming a spiritual covenant. And when God's hand is upon you, your relationships are never just

00:19:13physical. Your relationships are physical and spiritual. And the spiritual is weightier than the

00:19:21physical. All right. Spiritual warfare, uh, doesn't always come in the form of, of an enemy, but rather

00:19:29through those you love the most or those who are closest to you. It's real important to see that. And I say

00:19:38that many times when you don't expect, you know, turmoil and things that come in, that's exactly the

00:19:49time when it comes, when you least expect it. So again, your, your spirit, guess what? Your spirit

00:19:57always knew what your heart didn't want to admit. It's in there and you know it, but when we want what

00:20:06we want, we think we know what we want, you know, then we pursue and, and, and the battle rages on

00:20:14because, you know, once that thing falls apart, um, you know, enemies, the enemy knows how hard it hurts

00:20:23and he knows how difficult it is to let go. And again, just being honest in these situations,

00:20:30because you know what, when people are hurting, you have to be honest. You can't, oh, don't worry about

00:20:36it. You know, God is, don't be religious about things. That's why God allowed you to go through

00:20:41it so that you know how to be real. In other words, I'm, I'm playing games here with, this is very real.

00:20:48And I told you real ministry comes from real life and living. And what you learn from, you know,

00:20:55that relationship, that life and living is how you're able, you just began to grow. And that allows you

00:21:03to be used by God to help so many others to get through these very difficult, you know, situations

00:21:12because they are hard, they are difficult. And we need to be honest about that. So the devil uses,

00:21:19he uses all memories, flashbacks, you know, even dreams. Okay. And all sorts of things just to keep

00:21:26the mess going, just to keep you at a place of instability, of hurt and pain and so on and so

00:21:34forth. But just know that if someone is not in your life now, they were not your forever. Okay. In many

00:21:45cases, not only were they not your forever, they were just your fertilizer. It was for you to grow.

00:21:53It was to help build you up. I call it a divine disconnection. Divine disconnections are to

00:22:02preserve you for your destiny in Jesus name. Yes. And when God removes, guess what? He also restores,

00:22:14but first restoration begins with you from the inside out. Okay. It begins with you.

00:22:23So divine disconnections are to preserve you for your destiny. That's why God doesn't rip you apart.

00:22:31He doesn't do that. We talked about, remember, we talked about that spiritual surgery, that,

00:22:37that surgical removal that God does. That surgery is very delicate thing. So it doesn't happen just

00:22:44abrupt because God is looking out for your soul and your spirit as well. All right. But as I said,

00:22:50that divine disconnection is to preserve you for your destiny. And when God removes, guess what? He

00:22:58also restores, but restoration has got to begin with you from the inside out is how God begins to build

00:23:07you back, get you back strong, get you back to your, you know, real person from his original intent

00:23:15that he has. So then understanding these distractions, disguise as a desire. I put it this

00:23:24away. When you have a desire, just take a moment, especially if it's a strong desire and you really

00:23:31feel like this is God and, you know, you're supposed to be connected to this person and, and it doesn't

00:23:37matter. I mean, I'm talking about all relationships. So you got to build from where you are talking about

00:23:43all relationships. So does this desire align with who you are becoming? Remember we said everything

00:23:51God puts you through. Don't focus on what you're going through. Don't focus on the, the hurt, the pain,

00:23:58the betrayal, the confrontation. Don't focus on that because that's not your focus. What that is,

00:24:06is to see what are you becoming in the midst of the betrayal, the hurt, the pain, the confrontation,

00:24:12what, what are you becoming? Because it's all about what you're becoming in the midst of, okay,

00:24:20what you're going through. So does the desire align with your becoming? Is it in line with your purpose?

00:24:31Can this person align with your purpose? Can they get with your vision, your desires, the things that

00:24:39are bringing you closer to the Lord? Because God will not send you someone that takes you away from

00:24:45his purpose, that takes you away from his will. He won't do it. And when you see that you're drifting

00:24:52away from the will of God, you got to ask yourself, because see, we're still dealing with the desires.

00:24:57We're dealing with those strong desires. Is this desire drawing you, bringing you closer to the Lord

00:25:05or is it not? Because if the answer is no, then it's a distraction disguised as a desire. You don't

00:25:14really want to be with this person as bad as you think. You don't really want them more than you want

00:25:20God. You can't really understand how to want someone more than you want God. And if that's what's not

00:25:28happening, then you have to understand. And God's no always means he has a better yes. You've got to

00:25:36understand that God is not about punishing you. Okay. He's about actually your purpose in you. And so

00:25:45again, if that answer is no, this is not lining up with my spirit and with my vision, with my

00:25:52calling. And you know, you know, whether someone really, again, we got to be honest. You got to be

00:25:58upfront and honest. You know, my, you know, my little saying, if you got to heal, you got to be real.

00:26:04You got to be real. If you're going to really be healed and we know how we want what we want.

00:26:08And even when we see that this thing is not lining up, then, okay. At that point, you know,

00:26:16it's like I said before, your spirit knows what your, you know, heart and mind is not willing to

00:26:22admit, but your spirit knew it already, but you went on anyway. All right. So then a distraction

00:26:29disguised as a desire, it makes you think you really want something that if the truth be known,

00:26:35you don't really want something that's going to take you away from your relationship with the

00:26:40Lord. Okay. Cause everything here in the earth is temporary. It's, it's temple. It's not even

00:26:45Holly last. Really? You can't even put a timeframe on it. It's temple. It's temporary. You want to make

00:26:52sure that you secure your eternal relationship with the Lord. So removing the things that do not serve

00:27:00your purpose and focus on the things that do is what we're trying to push across, put across to you

00:27:07that, you know, and the thing is you, because you won't, how can I say, you don't have the strength

00:27:16to do it because you're too emotionally, um, you know, driven. And when people are to the doors that

00:27:23you won't close because you're too emotionally driven, then God steps in because again, he's

00:27:30preserving your purpose. Your destiny is more important to him. I, you know, I shared my testimony

00:27:36many times and, you know, I continue to say, God has got to be first no matter what. And he allows you

00:27:44to learn these lessons so that you can realize that no one should ever, you don't put anyone before

00:27:50God, no matter what. So, so don't be swayed by temporary pleasures. Your purpose demands consistency

00:28:00and a commitment. And that's where you want to really begin to understand how, you know, this whole

00:28:08chosen thing begins to work on your life. There is a misconception in our society and in this culture

00:28:18that to be single, to, to not have somebody that, that, you know, there's gotta be something wrong,

00:28:26especially if you're single for a long time. Okay. A long, any amount of time, something must be wrong

00:28:31with you. Believe me, I've been there, done that. Okay. I'm going on over 30 years now and I, you name it,

00:28:38I've heard it all. And it's really, it gets funny at first. It's very difficult because people are actually

00:28:46making you feel like there's something wrong with you when they really don't, you know, understand

00:28:51what God is doing in your life. So there, there's this indication that, you know, that you're incomplete,

00:28:59so to speak. Okay. Or, or if you're, especially if you're a woman, your time clock is ticking,

00:29:06you know, your time is running out, foolish things like that. You know, this pressure causes

00:29:11too many people to believe they must settle. Okay. Settle before it's too late, you know,

00:29:20get somebody, have somebody. That's the problem. It's just somebody. It's just anybody. You know,

00:29:26your standards need to be a part of your non-negotiables. I have seen people lower their

00:29:33standards and not even realize that that continues. That lowering, it doesn't stop. Once you lower,

00:29:40it just keeps going down, down, down, and you don't even realize it because it's very, very subtle.

00:29:46All right. And, and so when someone tells me why I think your standards are too high, good. I like

00:29:52that. That's a compliment to me. Thank you very much. All right. The truth is singleness is not a

00:29:59problem to be solved, but a season to be embraced. Can I say that again? Singleness is not a problem to

00:30:07be solved. It's a season to be embraced. All right. Don't fall under the pressure of our society,

00:30:16of our culture, of family, of friends, people who try and pressure you into something that they don't

00:30:24even know what they're talking about. They haven't even identified the fact that the hand of God is

00:30:29upon you because they're so busy trying to make you be like everybody else or even like them. So to

00:30:36speak, you are not waiting for someone to choose you. You have already been chosen. You are not

00:30:44incomplete. Okay. You are whole because of Christ in your life. Okay. And I put emphasis on that.

00:30:52Being single for a long time is not a punishment. It's a preparation, people of God. You're being,

00:31:01you know, supposedly overlooked. No, you're not being overlooked. You're being refined by God himself.

00:31:10He's doing what no man, no woman can do. Diamonds are formed. Okay. In a, in a deep, dark place,

00:31:21not on the surface. They are under pressure over time to emerge as something that's becoming

00:31:28priceless. And that's how you need to see yourself that under the very pressure of what God is doing

00:31:35in your life. You are in a process of becoming glory to God. You are becoming, and that causes you to

00:31:44emerge as priceless. We have got to learn our value and see how well God is grooming and making us for

00:31:54something so much better than what anybody, you know, who's sitting on the sidelines of your life

00:32:00trying to tell you what they think you should do and what you are. So the worst mistake a person can make

00:32:08is to rush into a relationship simply to escape loneliness or to appease those who are around.

00:32:16That is a huge mistake. The, the need for validation, uh, to be, to, that can be a trap

00:32:24that leads to relationships that take and never give. And the funny thing is, is if you're a giver,

00:32:35you, I've said it over and over again, you have to be more careful because takers don't hang around

00:32:41with takers. Takers are looking for givers and givers have to learn their limits. I say that

00:32:47because takers have not, they have no limits. All right. And so love is never about

00:32:56being desperate or desperation. It's about destiny. Anything connected to your destiny

00:33:04cannot be rushed. And I urge you to trust your loving heavenly father. Singleness is not about

00:33:12waiting. It's about becoming, I can't emphasize that enough, becoming stronger, wiser, as much of your

00:33:22true identity, as much as you can come into being who you really are. Many have lost their identity

00:33:30in someone else, trying to be with someone else, being controlled and manipulated and changed

00:33:37from their original, the, you know, the truth of a person or the quote unquote, right person

00:33:45is not, not attracted. A real person that God said, they're not attracted to neediness.

00:33:55They're going to be attracted to wholeness. Someone who is secure in who they are. Someone

00:34:01who is strong in their faith and in their relationship with God. If that's what you want,

00:34:07guess what? That's what you first have to be. Glory to God. You don't prepare for a relationship

00:34:16by looking for love. You just don't. But by what? Growing in your purpose, your own self-respect

00:34:29and confidence in who God is making you to be. When you walk in purpose, the right partner will

00:34:40recognize and align with your presence. Again, I emphasize your presence because we have not

00:34:49understood the power of our presence and God is going to have me to continue to talk about that

00:34:55as, as much as he needs to, because God's people, uh, again, boast of being endowed with power from

00:35:04unhiding, filled with the Holy Spirit. And yet we don't understand what kind of presence that creates

00:35:12in us to have the power and presence of the only true and living God dwelling with us, tabernacling

00:35:21in us and not understand our presence. That has to be taught and emphasized until people get the

00:35:28revelation of what it is. We are actually showing you what God is saying because that religious

00:35:34conversation becomes so common till you, you don't even hear it anymore. But God wants me to continue

00:35:41to emphasize this, put emphasis on it so that people can hear it and get the revelation of their

00:35:47presence. And I will continue to do that as God continues to lead me to do so. So again, understanding

00:35:55this, there is a reason for your prolonged singleness. And, and, and guess what? Don't think just because

00:36:03you're a married or have a partner, you're not single that the wholeness of a person is their

00:36:10singleness and they should not lose that or don't lose that when they become married or have a

00:36:16relationship or come into a partnership. They should not lose their singleness because that's their

00:36:21wholeness. That's their completeness. But anyway, there is a reason for prolonged singleness.

00:36:27There is a divine process, okay, behind your purpose and your becoming. Don't be intimidated by

00:36:35time. Don't let people do that to you and be, don't be forced into a relationship with the wrong

00:36:42person because of time, so to speak. It's better to walk alone in your purpose than to lose yourself

00:36:51in the wrong person. Come on now with someone who cannot see your value, who cannot appreciate

00:36:57you're constantly giving. And all they're doing is taking these things. This is why so many of us

00:37:02had to live that because it needs to be taught. Okay. I know you're hurting and you're suffering,

00:37:07but God's going to turn that pain into power. And that power is going to become purpose. And it's

00:37:13going to bless the life of many, many people in Jesus name. I just decree and declare that over you.

00:37:19So the person, the man or the woman who has built themselves in singleness is a person who cannot

00:37:26be broken in marriage. When you have allowed yourself to become whole and receive the fullness

00:37:33and the completion of your relationship with the Lord first, then nothing, there is no relationship

00:37:40that can break you, that can cause you despair. And as some first say, devastated. I mean,

00:37:46really, anytime someone can cause you to be in a state of devastation, you have put too much into the

00:37:55wrong person. Glory to God. This person who understands God will enter love, not out of fear or loneliness

00:38:07or desperation, but out of the overflow of the strength and joy and truth that they're already living,

00:38:14that they're in the fullness of who they are. When the time is right, you will not have to chase

00:38:19love. It will find you and honor you and cherish you in the manner that you should have always been.

00:38:26You have been conditioned from childhood to believe that the ultimate goal in life is to find a mate,

00:38:35have somebody. You got to be with somebody. And that's what most get is somebody, a mate,

00:38:42not the mate, not the one, but somebody. And unfortunately, it does not work out because

00:38:51believe it or not, God is very concerned. He won't fight you for what you go because God doesn't

00:38:58control your mind like that, but he will again allow it. It becomes what? A classroom. Some of you

00:39:04don't realize it, but you've got an entire curriculum on relationships. You've already lived it.

00:39:11It's just a matter of time before you're teaching it. We have been conditioned to believe as if being

00:39:16single is a state of deficiency. Singleness is not a curse. It's a gift. Okay. It's not a disease.

00:39:25Glory to God. It's really you're in covenant with God. The gift of a season of life that allows

00:39:32for self-discovery. That's what I see singleness as. It's a time for growth, a time to learn how to

00:39:41love yourself first. Okay. It's a time for preparation, a time of focus and dealing with

00:39:48coming to know who you are. You see, distractions and compromise are a daily challenge to everybody.

00:39:56When it comes to understanding yourself and your purpose, we get so distracted by others. It's

00:40:03always someone else. And then we make them more important. We give them all unlimited access to

00:40:14our life, not even knowing who this person is that we have given such open access.

00:40:21When singleness is seen as a burden, it's rushed through and becomes desperate to escape what is

00:40:31looked upon as so supposedly something's wrong with you. You can't get nobody. You still alone.

00:40:39You still ain't married. I listened to all those things for years. And at one point I thought that

00:40:46there really was something wrong with me, but you know what, when you take that stuff to God,

00:40:50he sets the record straight for you. And it makes it very clear that you're listening to the wrong

00:40:55people. Glory to God. All right. Loneliness is not the absence of people. It is the absence of purpose.

00:41:04Can I say that again? Loneliness is not the absence of people. It is the absence of purpose.

00:41:12You haven't learned. You haven't learned. You don't come to know your purpose through people.

00:41:16You come to know your purpose through God, through your relationship and being in presence of the

00:41:22Lord is how you come to learn what you're even here on this earth for. I'll say it again. It is not

00:41:28loneliness is not the absence of people. It is the absence of purpose. When singleness is embraced,

00:41:35you realize it's not about waiting for someone to complete you, but becoming complete in yourself.

00:41:47Season of singleness provides an opportunity to build your emotional and spiritual and personal

00:41:56strength, which are vital for any relationship. So yes, it hurt. It fell apart. The divorce,

00:42:05the separation, the confrontations, the breakup, their hurt, the pain, the betrayal, the anger,

00:42:12the animosity, all those things begin to, I mean, it builds in you like a volcano about to erupt

00:42:21and it feels horrible. It's terrible. Okay. But just hold fast because God is going to reveal to you

00:42:31something that you really didn't know. You thought you knew, and that's our problem. We think we know,

00:42:37but I'm so grateful that I know God knows. He don't have to think. He knows, and he knows for us

00:42:46what is best, and he will absolutely reveal and let the eyes of your understanding be enlightened

00:42:54in the situation that you're in. Again, it provides the singleness is providing something so vital that

00:43:02you may not appreciate it now, but I assure you from experience, you will come to be so grateful

00:43:09and so thankful to God. See, relationships cannot fill an internal void. And, and, and, you know,

00:43:18expecting that from a person, okay, what can only be filled by God is that's foolish thinking from the

00:43:26beginning. No one can fill what only God can fill. And those are areas that are causing many, many problems

00:43:36in relationships because we're expecting things from a person that can only come from God himself.

00:43:44All right. And so it's, it's really a lot of the disappointment and frustration that's taking place

00:43:51in relationships right now. Guess what? What is frustration? Quick definition. Frustration is

00:43:57investing in what you can give and never have, get a return. Investing in what you give and never having

00:44:06a return. As simple as that. You keep investing, you keep pouring in, and there's never return. That is the

00:44:11definition of frustration. Okay. A deep sense of identity does not depend on external validation.

00:44:21When you begin to grow in the identity of who you are, the God's original intent for you. Okay. Then

00:44:30you are no longer dependent for someone else to validate you. Self-investment. Oh my goodness. I could

00:44:38spend a whole month teaching on self, how to invest in yourself, how to become self-accessible. We allow

00:44:47everyone access to ourselves, yet we have no excess or self-access to our own life and our own way we feel

00:44:58and our thoughts and so on and so forth. All right. So again, when you realize your self-investment

00:45:06will yield a far greater return, then you just pouring into what really becomes a taker. Singleness

00:45:15is to be lived fully, not endured. The person who is whole in their singleness brings strength

00:45:25and completeness into any relationship. And I'll say that again, that's whether it's marriage and,

00:45:34you know, whether it's a family situation, friendships, even a work situation. Listen,

00:45:41it's all about you, again, being whole in Christ Jesus and not expecting things from people.

00:45:50Glory to God. That the truth of the matter is two incomplete people will never make one whole person,

00:45:58but you just simply have two halves. You'll never have a whole because you'll always be trying to get

00:46:05from each other what only comes from God. You don't have it. They don't have it. No one ever gets it.

00:46:11We have frustration. Personal growth and self-awareness fulfills.

00:46:20It's so fulfilled. It's what life is really for. Okay. You can't go through life expecting what people

00:46:30don't have to give you. Two incompletes coming together. Do not create completeness. But again,

00:46:41dependency, frustration, emotional instability is what you're going to have.

00:46:48True togetherness is not about completing each other. What a lie that was from the very beginning.

00:46:54Oh, you complete me. That is such a, if you're not complete in Christ, I assure you, you knew it will

00:47:00not come from anybody else. Okay. True togetherness is not about completing each other. It's rather

00:47:06completing within yourself. Okay. And, and when you come together with true, you know, completeness within

00:47:16yourself, what then you compliment each other. That's a real whole that, that makes a wholeness.

00:47:23Wholeness is knowing who you are, understanding your worth, aligning with your purpose and content,

00:47:32confident in your identity and security in your relationship with God. First, always seeking

00:47:41validation and love from someone will not heal your insecurities. What's internal must come from the

00:47:49external, the eternal one, the one and only true living God. He, and he alone can heal, can build,

00:47:59can grow, can develop, can make you exactly what you need to be. And all of that comes before. Again,

00:48:08if you want that kind of a person, that's who you have to be. Why would God give the full,

00:48:14secure, spiritual powerhouse to someone who is incomplete, who's whiny, who's needy, who's desperate?

00:48:24God doesn't do that. It doesn't work like that. You have to be that and be it fully. And to the point

00:48:30to where you're so content with the Lord, it'll be like Adam, God has to say, it's not good. He had to

00:48:36say, Adam was complete. God never, you know, Adam didn't ask for nobody. Okay. He was complete in

00:48:42who God had made him to be. God said that, okay, you know, you need somebody. God will be the one

00:48:49to say, this is what you need now in your life, because you're not dependent on someone to do

00:48:55anything for you. You're not looking for them to fulfill you. You are, you have the ultimate

00:49:00fulfillment, fulfillment, glory to God, the ultimate fulfillment. So when your inner work

00:49:05is not healed and not complete, you will be so easily manipulated and, and into someone else's

00:49:16expectation used, you'll be easily used and easily, you know, controlled and, and you'll lose sight of

00:49:25your purpose and you'll lose sight of your very self. And this is how so many people get lost in

00:49:32their identity because they're so busy trying to identify themselves through someone else. And that

00:49:38person doesn't have a clue. They don't know you like that. They don't even know themselves like that.

00:49:45Thanks. This is something that God wants for his people. It's probably has to continue to be taught.

00:49:53And like I said, I don't like to see people hurt, especially when you've been there, done that

00:49:59and know what that feels like, but I can look on this side of it and I can assure you that God's no

00:50:07always has a better yes. And you have to persevere until you get there. When two whole individuals come

00:50:16together, love becomes an addition, not a necessity. Oh, you don't love me. And I love it. It's not even

00:50:26about that. And I know this sounds rough because most people want to act like love is the entire

00:50:33glue. Sometimes love ain't even enough. Some people are so messed up. Love is not even enough. And so you

00:50:40can holler about love, love, love, love, but Proverbs does not even say that love is the ingredient. It

00:50:46says the house is built by wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. And those are the three things,

00:50:52as I said before, even in the scriptures, that doesn't say, you know, my people are destroyed for

00:50:58sin or for lack of love. It's knowledge. They're destroyed. We don't have, and we don't want the

00:51:05knowledge. We're so inundated from our culture and from the world system that we don't even, we don't,

00:51:12don't even like to hear things like that. But understand that when you are full and in the

00:51:18wholeness of who God has called you to be, and you come together with someone who is whole and full and

00:51:25who God has called them to be, then love is just an addition. It is not a necessity. And some may not

00:51:31like that, but that's what it is. They come together, not out of desperation, but out of

00:51:37choice. Okay. They're not built on neediness. Okay. But mutual respect one to another. They have a

00:51:46shared purpose. They have genuine companionship. Both are looking to the Lord and they understand

00:51:53each one knows that God is first and everything else falls under that. So wholeness is not just

00:51:59preparation, you know, for love, but the foundation of how lasting love is really built. It doesn't

00:52:10come from love for, we trying to put love first. It doesn't work that way. You don't love somebody

00:52:16to marry them. You marry, you know, they say you marry, well, you love who you marry. That's how you

00:52:22learn that. I learned that in the Middle East. They say Americans, Americans, you know, you, you,

00:52:28you marry and you put love first rather than understanding that love does not come first.

00:52:37Learning that person, learning that individual, taking time to know each other. All right. And

00:52:43then you'll learn to love who you marry rather than marry who you love. Wholeness is again, something

00:52:50that we must continue to, to work on and, and understand that the signal, the signal, the solitude

00:52:57is, is, is, is so misunderstood. Being alone and being whole is something that has to be taught.

00:53:05Uh, yeah, solitude is misunderstood in a relationship. Uh, the world, we got a relationship

00:53:12driven world. And if you are content and happy being, you know, yourself and with yourself,

00:53:19all of a sudden there's supposed to be something wrong with that. Okay. Um, but I say you, you need

00:53:25to understand how to maximize your alone time. It is so valuable more than you can know. It is an asset.

00:53:32It is an investment. It is emotionally, uh, building a strong, unbreakable person. And it's so

00:53:41important. So, uh, when we, when we come back, we're going to continue to talk about what's it

00:53:46take, what are you becoming in the midst of your, uh, aloneness of singleness. And again, this is just

00:53:53as much for married people because, you know, I, I counseled so many married people who they say

00:54:00they're so alone. They don't understand that that aloneness is something that's divine and it comes

00:54:06from God and it actually can make you a better companion to your spouse. And so when we come

00:54:13back, we continue, we want to deal with what it looks like to be chosen, that the hand of God is

00:54:20on you. Understand why certain things have to happen. Understand even the warfare that has come

00:54:27against you so that you'll realize that, Oh my God, you know, this is a part of what it takes.

00:54:33You see chosen is not just all this wonderful. Yay. Yippee, you know, teachers and cream. We got

00:54:39to understand the full picture. All right. And then we go back into the, the realm of your divine

00:54:45presence. That's the most important one because it's your presence, believe it or not, that will

00:54:51reveal to you. If we understood our presence, we would have known not to hook up with certain people

00:54:57from the beginning. That's how important this teaching is concerning your presence and understand

00:55:04how you have to be fully present, understand fully who you are and why you're here and your presence

00:55:13will actually expose, reveal and show. And some of you may have already experienced that, but you

00:55:21ignored it or you didn't know or have the knowledge of how to deal with that. So when we come back,

00:55:27that's right, that's right. We will continue. It is necessary because this is the will and the mind

00:55:32of God. Father, I thank you for these, your chosen ones that you have selected them onto yourself

00:55:41and that all the pain and hurt and suffering is turning into such power and purpose that you will

00:55:49be able to use them in ways they have never been able to see, that you will do exceeding abundantly

00:55:56more than they can ask or even think as they continue in this place called chosen. In Jesus' name,

00:56:06God bless you. I look forward to our time together Sunday morning, bright and early, freshly ready at 10 a.m.

00:56:13I need you to join me so that we can continue in this study. In Jesus' name, God bless you. See you then.

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