Married at First Sight UK Season 10 Episode 2

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00:00:00oh i don't fancy dean this is a little song a grand musical gesture we'll build a life together

00:00:07you and me mark the end of a difficult day for the bride too much too soon

00:00:13i can't believe we're here tonight this is like dreams as the first set of newlyweds head on

00:00:22honeymoon for david and kia do you want to see a rhino's horn is it the horn you're excited about

00:00:28an innuendo too far everything has to be an innuendo or a joke i need deeper calls their

00:00:34match into question and dean's urged to perform hallelujah no irk's new wife sarah the outbursts

00:00:42of song and rapping really beginning to grate on me ahead of a frank confession have you ever been

00:00:49with anyone bigger or anything like that no it's hard to hear that has left me feeling empty and as

00:00:56two new couples say i do i'm at a point in my life where i am looking for that real thing one bride

00:01:03show-stopping arrival one entrance spells a hopeful start to married life i do fancy him

00:01:12hey in stark contrast i wouldn't say he's my type

00:01:16to the other's wedding day meltdown i can only do it sorry

00:01:32it's the first morning of married life for our newlyweds

00:01:36our first night together was fabulous we held up in bed together

00:01:40we kissed a lot

00:01:47nothing happened i promise you nothing happened

00:01:49it's a lot of energy and he's he's 110 at all times and i love it but i'm at an 80 and he's at the

00:01:54110. oh my god we're going to south africa

00:02:12he has a lot of energy and is is 110 at all times and i love it but i'm at an 80 and he's at the 110.

00:02:19oh my god we're going to south africa

00:02:32i can't believe we're here look at this this is like dream situation absolutely beautiful and

00:02:39here we are this is us let's head in oh my god look at the boom look you can see see the fish i'm mad

00:02:53oh my goodness it's absolutely stunning my biggest hopes this honeymoon is to get to know the real

00:02:59sarah and sarah to get to know the real dean just absolutely beautiful isn't it right step in step in

00:03:05oh it's gonna be there oh no we're in we're in we're in you're in you're in i'd hope to leave it

00:03:09possibly with a kiss and then we'll see where we go from now this is crazy it is amazing isn't it

00:03:17we were in our wedding literally 24 hours ago no no where we're going no and here we are here we are

00:03:22with a space mark we didn't even know each other like two days ago and now we're here sarah entered

00:03:30the experiment aware she had a type my usual type of guy would be referred to by my friends as a

00:03:37walking red flag what's your type sis girl i like a bad boy they look like they've probably just come

00:03:43out of jail fantastic but she was determined to break this cycle in her search for love

00:03:48i am now ready for the nice guy i want to settle down with the nicest guy in the world

00:03:53dean has got so many of the qualities that i am looking for in a partner however i usually go for

00:04:01the tattooed bad boy i just need to look beyond that attraction side and see if it's something that

00:04:07i can work on paradise isn't it absolutely paradise i mean could it get more better than this

00:04:17whilst the newlyweds settle into their honeymoons this is crazy it's absolutely beautiful back in

00:04:29the uk another single is preparing to enter the experiment camera action are we good is this right

00:04:37this looks like you're so awkward this is insane what is happening are you good i feel weird okay so i

00:04:42guess this is it this is marrying a stranger 101 holy shit i would describe myself as extroverted

00:04:52i have no filter i'm tightly strung perhaps you could say i'm nervous for her i'm also nervous

00:04:59for him she's a whirlwind my friends would describe me as hectic wild nuts next huge feminist

00:05:12big into equality we haven't achieved it yet i am a midwife and i chose to go into midwifery because

00:05:20i am a caring person i also want to empower women people often ask you when you're a midwife do you

00:05:27have kids and it's like 2 a.m on a saturday night and i'm there with them delivering their child and

00:05:33i'm like when would i be meeting someone to have a childhood oh she's a princess i am surrounded by

00:05:41strong women they just know me so well and they accept me for who i am who knew you could be so

00:05:48glamorous actually talk about glamorous baby grace is a very loud playful fun character and i think it

00:05:59takes a certain type of person to be able to take it for what it is i'm always trying to find the funny

00:06:06side in everything my life sometimes is quite funny definitely my dating life is hilarious ha ha ha

00:06:13how many boyfriends have you had or situationships you like oh situationships oh countless limitless

00:06:19the limit does not exist do you actually want me to quantify it i definitely can't

00:06:25sometimes it's easier to find the funny side and laugh it off than actually like sit in the feelings of

00:06:30discomfort and like rejection i put myself out there so much i went on dates that were set up

00:06:37by friends i went on dates that were friends of friends i went on dates i went with an old flame

00:06:42i started a new thing with someone that i met on an app like i put myself out there and i was let down

00:06:47i was let down in so many different ways so consistently it's hard and it's hurtful and it's

00:06:54frustrating but every one of these experiences tells you a little something more about what you do want

00:07:01it is hard i know because i i feel like i'm so respectful yeah yeah i've never really seen that

00:07:09you're not getting it back yeah yeah

00:07:12every time i go through a breakup i end up developing a new skill or hobby

00:07:25i actually came to adult gymnastics after a breakup and spinning around a gymnasium

00:07:32launching here jumping there was my idea of just pure heaven i had a little pop at stand-up comedy last

00:07:40year that was the most nerve-wracking thing i'm like to the audience anyone want to get your hopes

00:07:46you know some people use humor as a way of protecting protecting yourself from something

00:07:52have you thought about that for yourself yes i'd say that's maybe how i came

00:07:59to develop a sense of humor but certainly it has come in handy before when i have felt i was in hot

00:08:04water to just crack a joke i don't know if i've ever actually felt reciprocated full whole warm love

00:08:11i do feel i want like extraordinary love i'm not willing to compromise that is what i will have or i

00:08:17will have nothing at all i'm marrying a stranger i feel like i've exhausted all of the other options

00:08:23i've put myself out there i've done what you're supposed to do and it hasn't worked

00:08:27my family will always be like oh he's out there he's looking for you what am i supposed to do just

00:08:34wait in he'll come knocking at the door i'll be here any minute prince charming on his horse

00:08:42i would love to be matched with someone so fun so easy going so sociable someone charismatic someone

00:08:50hard-working motivated very family orientated someone sporty active athletic quite masculine

00:08:59i like a broad shoulder you know just a few descriptors i'll take anything anyone willing i'm joking

00:09:12i'm a bit of a cheeky chappy i'm i'm like very positive i'm that annoying guy that's always smiling

00:09:17i'm not a city boy i'm a country bumpkin i've always been an outdoorsy person my parents live

00:09:23on a farm with 36 acres horses and being up there is is amazing it's a really good lifestyle

00:09:30i think that's quite important with my partner that she is the type of girl that can just chuck

00:09:35on a pair of wellies and put her hair up and just go up and get dirty on the quad and then other times

00:09:41put a pair of stilettos on and come out with me with a cocktail dress

00:09:44good morning morning i work for my father i work for the family company and it's an offshore marine

00:09:53construction company so basically anything to do with steel the ships and rigs i do enjoy it

00:09:59being from south wales rugby is basically religion here but girls don't like rugby boys i think they've

00:10:07got this stereotype about us like lagal out a bit crazy but the majority of the lads that i know that i play

00:10:13rugby with they're all gentlemen i feel like i'm a gentleman and i think i was well i was made to be

00:10:20i'm not by my mother i think she raised me right how are you starting to feel about it all i'm starting

00:10:25to get really excited about it now you deserve somebody nice i grew up around strong women i've

00:10:31got two sisters one older one younger so i i got a bit of feminine energy i want the best for ashley

00:10:38he's kind thoughtful he's got loads of love to give and he just needs somebody there special

00:10:46that feels the same i would say i have high standards in women i used to date a miss universe

00:10:52i'm quite proud of that one but i haven't really had that many girlfriends i've been engaged twice

00:11:00the second time we got engaged because we were having a son you're so clever

00:11:07it was a hard decision to break up with my son's mother but ultimately it was definitely the right

00:11:13decision to make and we're still friends i think i've done my life right i did all the traveling and

00:11:19and parties and things and then i come home i've got my house i've got my son i'm at the stage of my life

00:11:24where the only thing i don't really have is someone to share it with i think i'm ready to be

00:11:30a husband for me i like being the protector like i was brought up old school like i'm the type of guy

00:11:37that'll hold the door i'm the type of guy that will lift you through the puddle i'm looking for

00:11:43someone with a personality that's just up for a laugh and it's true what they say if you marry

00:11:48your best friend it'll work so i'm looking for a best friend somebody that's also going to be

00:11:55like loving and caring to have that deep connection and it feels more important now i still think i'm

00:12:01a catch somebody wants me surely grace is possibly one of the quirkiest brides we've met her offbeat

00:12:15humor and quick wit are qualities which ashley will enjoy as a fun personality is top of his wish

00:12:20list i love grace's humor too but i feel sometimes she can use it as a way of masking her emotions

00:12:27it feels to me like a self-protection mode which could prove challenging to break through for a new

00:12:32partner yeah i think ashley has the patience and determination to push past that raised in a home

00:12:38of strong women he wants a confident outgoing partner he takes pride in his upbringing and says

00:12:44he's been raised to be a gentleman respectful and caring yeah i mean grace told us she's sick

00:12:50of the relentless unreliability of modern dating as someone loyal and dependable ashley is the perfect

00:12:56antidote to that yeah they're both intelligent and driven in their careers but also hugely sociable

00:13:03and enjoying active lifestyle and a strong family bond i think you're right if they can start their

00:13:08marriage on a foundation of mutual trust and friendship grace and ashley have real potential

00:13:14absolutely our next match grace and ashley

00:13:20i'm so excited about this next match i really hope we see a lasting connection

00:13:27a guy that i went on date with literally said like your hard work and i was like define

00:13:30fucking hard work i think it's called sanderton now i don't know who the hell you've been dating but

00:13:33eight people like me then go and get me some champagne and he did when i first meet a guy

00:13:40obviously i want him to be completely obsessed with me i just think well why is it taking me three

00:13:44hours to reply to a text like what are you doing it's not bad i'm nalima but everyone calls me nelly

00:13:52just because it's easier pop your head back for me i'm just gonna pop this in i am really career

00:13:57driven mainly because i just want to make my parents proud i'm so lucky i love you guys so

00:14:04my mom and dad met through a gorgeous arranged marriage not only am i doing what they did i've

00:14:09got one up on them you had the privilege of actually meeting each other once before you

00:14:14once once just once and was she a perfect lady she is perfect lady for me and if it worked for my

00:14:20parents hopefully it worked for me too i'm probably one of the luckiest people in the entire world with

00:14:25the family that i've been blessed with wasn't it two years that you lived here or three years the

00:14:30two best years of your life when it felt like a millennium my sister is the ideal perfect indian

00:14:37daughter met a lovely indian man they got married they had the twins when they were 30 and that is

00:14:44what my parents wanted for me and obviously it's not the case hands up if you like massy's cooking

00:14:52double hands my sister and brother-in-law have got the most beautiful twins i just love them so much

00:14:58did you guys have a good day at school yeah what did you do right yeah what did my luna get

00:15:07yeah of course she did i do really want to have kids in the future but i don't want to compromise

00:15:14that and have them with the wrong person i've been in three relationships in total and sadly each one

00:15:21ended up the same way and they were all unfaithful i do feel a little bit insecure of course i do

00:15:29it can change your confidence i just kept thinking well what did i do wrong what what didn't i do

00:15:35why did he have to you know find whatever he needed to find in somebody else

00:15:42i think the way that all my relationships ended sort of gave me a really negative view on

00:15:48relationships in general i just feel that whoever i end up with i won't be with them forever because

00:15:55at some point they will be unfaithful and i i really hate that i think that's how it will always end

00:16:01i don't and i just hope it doesn't obviously

00:16:09sorry guys

00:16:12when you look at the breakdown of each relationship did it make you question yourself yeah massively

00:16:19it's always how can i protect myself yeah yeah yeah self-protection is always important but it can

00:16:26coexist with hope yeah and i think in order to get into a good positive healthy relationship you've

00:16:33got to allow that and that means opening up a little bit letting some hope in and being a little

00:16:38bit vulnerable yeah i'm excited to work on it right should i pop open absolutely i've had people mention

00:16:48that before that they think i do self-sabotage and i can be extremely needy i think a lot of it comes

00:16:54down to a fear of rejection i want to change that about me i just need to just take a chill pill you

00:17:00do get yourself in a bit of a flap i know i try not to show it but obviously you guys can see it

00:17:06nelly is a very bubbly person but i think underneath she's so terrified of rejection

00:17:12i think you just need to have more confidence in yourself yeah yeah amazing she has so much to

00:17:19offer she's an incredible person and she just needs to meet an incredible person she does yeah my perfect

00:17:26husband is open is honest is fun pretty chilled out someone who is just gonna make me feel really

00:17:36secure my type is a tall man i just love a man that can tower over me the taller the better let me

00:17:43climb that man like a tree obviously i want him to be completely obsessed with me he's a missing piece

00:17:49of the puzzle like i'm just ready for it now i'm ready to meet mr wright what are you doing get here already

00:17:55despite the accent i'm not actually an essex boy i'm a geordie so i'm from newcastle i'll always be

00:18:07a geordie at heart i'm newcastle forever i'm a newcastle united fan i bleed black and white and how

00:18:12weird are lads i'm an investment banking manager currently but i've been working in finance for the

00:18:21last 13 years suppose the general misconceptions of people working with finances they're slightly

00:18:27obnoxious they're know-it-alls they're up themselves it's not the case before i started my

00:18:34career in finance i was a professional footballer i loved every minute of it traveling up and down

00:18:39the country every other weekend being with a group of lads all working towards the same goal

00:18:44football was everything i definitely wanted to get to the highest level but my football career came

00:18:50to an end when i was attacked outside of a nightclub by nine guys i had a shattered nose which was

00:18:56reconstructed i'd fracture my right cheekbone my teeth come out of place so i needed to get my teeth

00:19:02sorted and i got a scar on my chin which went down to my bone which required 17 stitches inside and 14

00:19:08outside so it destroyed my confidence it made me step away from the professional game i wasn't in the best

00:19:15headspace i'd say i was in a rut for about three years it took my family to get out of that rut

00:19:23family mean everything to me without them i wouldn't be who i am i'm the youngest of five so

00:19:28i have my sister and three other brothers it's good having a close-knit family i couldn't imagine a

00:19:35world where i'm not talking to my brothers and my sister on a daily basis do you remember when you

00:19:39were two and you used to strip off naked and run around the estate well you know i just wanted to

00:19:43be a free spirit after i mean like i'm confident in myself even at two years of age i'm a father of

00:19:50two kids my daughter piper is nine and my boy reggie's five and he does have autism and sensory disorder

00:19:59he doesn't speak he can't tell us what it actually is he's thinking what's that he's never been able to

00:20:05tell us what he wants from an early age high five yeah you know obviously you're a package deal

00:20:13you've got two kiddos how important is it that this new woman can fit within there and have great

00:20:20relationships with your kids if i link it to some of my dating in the past a lot of people have told

00:20:25me that they've actually understood that i've got kids but further down the line they actually

00:20:30realized that i don't understand that you've got kids and if they have to understand that look not

00:20:36when you have kids but one of them has his own challenges that he deals with and i'm not expecting

00:20:41anyone to just walk in and play stepmom or be that kind of figure

00:20:48i'd say i am where i want to be at 34 but i think the biggest thing that's missing for me is

00:20:52is a wife i need someone to do life with i'm looking for someone strong-willed very independent

00:21:01and with a massive personality very family orientated with a nice beam and smile i want to

00:21:08meet my person i'm ready to find the one hopefully i can give my best to someone and they can actually

00:21:13embrace it as a dad of two steven needs a partner he'll embrace and happily take on his ready-made

00:21:24family nellie's maternal instincts and love for her own family suggest that this won't be a problem

00:21:31what's clear is nellie's been cheated on in lots of past relationships yeah yeah so reassurance is

00:21:37key for her to feel safe and secure yeah you know also steven told us that he's never been

00:21:43unfaithful and his calm and stable nature should provide the security that nellie needs they're

00:21:49both high achievers and have all aspects of their lives sorted apart from love yeah i mean steven is

00:21:56hoping for a strong woman with a big personality and vivacious nellie is a perfect example of this

00:22:04well that's right this is a match where the personalities really complement each other

00:22:09nellie's high energy and the first to admit that she likes the princess treatment there's a calmness

00:22:14to steven that i think could be really grounding for her exactly her maturity and emotional depths

00:22:19will encourage him to open up i cannot wait to see their relationship grow in this process nellie and steven

00:22:37it's all got very very real my stomach keeps dropping every time i think about it it's not affecting your

00:22:50ironing clearly mate it's my eyes never been good to be fair i'm cheating it i cannot believe i'm getting

00:22:58married to a complete stranger today you're nervous you know me and you know me like i don't get nervous

00:23:05but i'm yeah i'm bad this is fun but there's that background noise of like wait a minute

00:23:13who is he i am feeling a little overwhelmed a dry mouth there's a racing heart all of these things

00:23:20oh i'm so excited to see what he's like yeah i would obviously like to be with someone attractive

00:23:27probably make things a bit easier maybe if i was just fancy the pants off them from the way go

00:23:32husband husband husband doesn't really roll off the tongue i just hope he's got a cracking personality

00:23:39because you need someone that you can like bounce off but yeah and that he's not threatened yeah

00:23:44the fact that you're funny and you're this super independent strong woman yeah there's only room

00:23:49for one sheriff in this time we're not getting competition who's the silliest billy

00:23:52what i call it the silliest billy he's hilarious what are you gonna do oh yeah what if he's funny

00:23:57cancel the wedding if he's hilarious how dare he presume to be funny no it would obviously be great

00:24:02if he's funny i'll take it back soon over to you take the mic i feel like i have a nervous energy

00:24:06about me today and i would not be surprised if i walked down the aisle and went mute and was like

00:24:10hello nice to meet you because that's just gonna be as i am i'm all i'm all or nothing

00:24:24as if we're seeing the day nearly is getting married i didn't think that would ever ever happen

00:24:28i know who'd have thought who would have thought i've always dreamt to this day and i can't believe

00:24:33it's here not only am i getting married which i didn't think would happen i'm literally marrying a

00:24:38stranger how are you feeling nils i think one thing i am nervous about me liking him and him

00:24:44not being into me i mean it is obviously a bit terrifying because being cheated on by all three

00:24:51of my past partners makes you think that there's something wrong with you i know what i deserve i know

00:24:59how i should be treated i don't think i'm asking for anything extra than just being treated with kindness

00:25:04and like a nice human being but that's how you would treat someone so you just want it back

00:25:08no one likes the feeling of getting rejected but i've just got to trust the process and be open and

00:25:14be vulnerable be open be vulnerable be open be vulnerable be over it could be amazing we could

00:25:20really really just click and really fancy each other i'm probably the most nervous about a future

00:25:26brother-in-law not finding her as attractive as she'd want she wants somebody to be really obsessed with

00:25:32her just be infatuated with her and that that would maybe break my heart a little bit if he just

00:25:37wasn't that interested she's got so much love to give so to get it back would just be really incredible

00:25:45i actually can't believe i'm getting married today i'm going to facetime the kids this morning

00:25:49if i can see their face it will just calm me down entirely hello oh yeah one of the biggest

00:25:56thing i've asked was someone being understanding of that kids will always be number one it is so

00:26:00important to me that they spend a wedding day with me even if they're not here in person

00:26:05you got any advice for daddy for the wedding don't say anything stupid all right well i'll see you

00:26:13see you soon

00:26:24i'm in hello oh my god oh you're handsome

00:26:32my parents have been married for nearly 40 years so they're doing something right i mean something

00:26:37like that to me is what i'm striving for when i have thought about it i've thought like oh i hope

00:26:42i like her i hope she's this hope she's that but the other side i hope she likes me yeah absolutely

00:26:46and i hope she's i hope she's the type of person to show that soon find out not long i know

00:26:52no one deserves to find love more than grace she is the kindest most intelligent woman but grace

00:27:08can have quite high walls and i think it depends how the first meet goes and you know grace is the

00:27:15kind of person who might bolt at the first smell that something might be a bit fishy i keep thinking

00:27:20like when is it gone too far is it now he's a lucky guy he's a lucky guy

00:27:37beautiful isn't it hi hello

00:27:44i think he's kind of

00:27:45nice

00:27:58i'm at a point in my life where i am looking for that real thing

00:28:04i'm really nervous i would be gutted if it didn't work out

00:28:08there's so much that's gone into it so i'll give it everything i got

00:28:11i do hope that this is the first day of something beautiful

00:28:24i can see it

00:28:50okay

00:29:15i am worried that like i've maybe taken this too far like

00:29:18like even for me i'm starting to think this is a bit too much is it do you think

00:29:23grace you are gonna nail this

00:29:25every time i take another step towards like the actual wedding i'm like oh god i'm taking it too far

00:29:30i'm breaking it really nervous sweaty hands feels like a deer in headlights

00:29:49the worst case scenario is that she just doesn't like me

00:29:55the worst case scenario is that she just doesn't like me

00:30:07the worst case scenario is that she doesn't like me

00:30:21i'm sure

00:30:23that's it

00:30:25Hi, are you all right?

00:30:37Hey, how are you?

00:30:40You look amazing.

00:30:41Thank you, so do you.

00:30:42It's nice to meet you.

00:30:45How are you feeling?

00:30:47Oh, you know, all in a day, just your average Monday.

00:30:51How are you?

00:30:52Yeah, I feel pretty much the same.

00:30:53Nice to meet you guys.

00:30:54I'm Grace, by the way.

00:30:56Ashley, nice to meet you, yeah.

00:30:58You're Walsh.

00:30:59I am.

00:31:00What, give it away?

00:31:01The one by the answer.

00:31:04All right, all right, all right, all right.

00:31:07Anyone ever done this before?

00:31:09Anybody got any prompts?

00:31:10I'm normally more talkative, I'll be honest.

00:31:13You're a prompt for your money now.

00:31:15Get your own out.

00:31:17When she's nervous, she is like joke after joke after joke after joke.

00:31:22I don't necessarily think that's a good thing.

00:31:24Hopefully, it's not too awkward.

00:31:26Yeah.

00:31:27Who's everyone?

00:31:28Dad, mum, sister.

00:31:29You guys are great.

00:31:30A million bucks.

00:31:32Showing up my life.

00:31:38Nice to meet you.

00:31:39Yeah.

00:31:40Like, she's got personality, and that's everything I've kind of asked for.

00:31:44The attraction is there.

00:31:45I'm a happy man.

00:31:47100% I fancy her.

00:31:49Wow, you look amazing.

00:31:52So do you.

00:31:52I wouldn't say he's my type.

00:32:05I'm feeling no instant spark.

00:32:08We're gathered here on this beautiful day to witness the union of Grace and Ashley, who have decided to take a chance on love.

00:32:26Grace, what are your vows?

00:32:31There once were two strangers at the altar.

00:32:35They'd tried normal dating.

00:32:37Their souls simply weren't mating.

00:32:39So they married, and their fates, they did alter.

00:32:42They vowed to have a great experience.

00:32:46They hoped love would make an appearance.

00:32:49They had great respect for what the experiment expects.

00:32:53And in hard times, they promised perseverance.

00:32:56To hell with convention.

00:32:59Rules were made to be bent.

00:33:00Let's make time together, time well spent.

00:33:04You're a badass, Ashley.

00:33:08Today, I stand here not just to make a promise, but to begin a journey.

00:33:12With someone who is in so many ways still a mystery to me.

00:33:16Yet in this moment, I'm certain of one thing.

00:33:19I choose you, and I choose us, wherever this past may take us.

00:33:22I vow to be loyal to you, to honor you, and to show up every day for this commitment we're making together.

00:33:27I promise to be a wrong one like this.

00:33:28I don't know.

00:33:29Your biggest fan when life feels light.

00:33:31Maybe I did hope that it would be more of an initial spark.

00:33:35Maybe I just hoped it would be there and more.

00:33:38You can show me that you're truly all in, and take this leap with me.

00:33:41I promise to try and give you the world and more.

00:33:44To dream with you, to build with you, and to never stop enjoying the memories you'll create.

00:33:48One day at a time.

00:33:52With this ring, I join my life with yours.

00:33:54So, Grace and Ashley, would you now like to celebrate your union with your very first kiss?

00:34:07I can offer a shake.

00:34:22Yeah.

00:34:22How do you know?

00:34:24Yay!

00:34:32Well done, experts, is all I can say.

00:34:34Hey, I think they've done amazing.

00:34:37Brinning like a Cheshire cat.

00:34:39It gives me great pleasure to present to you our wonderful, happy couple, Grace and Ashley.

00:34:44I'm just, I like the fact that she didn't want to kiss straight away that shows she's got more old.

00:34:57I respect that quite a lot.

00:34:59Now it's just to find out if I'm what she's asked for.

00:35:02I'm not really sure why I've, I'm being quite as wobbly as I am right now.

00:35:19I can't put my finger on it.

00:35:22Honestly, I just don't know how I feel.

00:35:26I don't want to do this, sorry.

00:35:27What's, I was upsetting you.

00:35:40It's absolutely fine.

00:35:41It's, it's just more like a man.

00:35:44I don't know what to say.

00:35:46It's, it's a lot.

00:35:47Yeah.

00:35:51Sorry.

00:35:53You think I'm just in like a negative headspace about it?

00:35:55I don't know.

00:35:56I don't know.

00:35:57Sorry.

00:36:01I don't know.

00:36:02Sorry.

00:36:03Just.

00:36:04I can't.

00:36:25Stop.

00:36:26Stop.

00:36:29This is amazing.

00:36:30We have hearts.

00:36:31We have hearts.

00:36:32We have hearts.

00:36:33Uh huh.

00:36:35This is adorable.

00:36:37Come on.

00:36:39Stop it.

00:36:40We are Indiana Jones.

00:36:42The fact that I'm on honeymoon right now with my husband is insane.

00:36:47We look hot.

00:36:47We look great.

00:36:48You know, but I'm finding Kia's energy a lot.

00:36:53He's very loud.

00:36:55It's 110 at all times.

00:36:57This is amazing.

00:36:58Come on.

00:36:58I want to be treated like this every day.

00:37:00Every, I'm not going back to normal life.

00:37:02This is how we live.

00:37:02Yeah.

00:37:03That's it.

00:37:04This is it.

00:37:05So I just want to get to know him.

00:37:08I want us to have that, that deep, meaningful conversations about everything.

00:37:12We're going to have the best time.

00:37:16We are.

00:37:28Running to swing in to sing in.

00:37:30Work it, work it, work it, work it, work it, work it, work it, work it.

00:37:33Me and Dean are big energy.

00:37:35You know, there's no denying that.

00:37:36The thing that's grating on me at the minute is Dean does keep randomly outbursting into

00:37:42raps or songs.

00:37:49When I saw you in that dress today, you did more than take my breath away.

00:37:53On their wedding day, an impromptu rap from Dean.

00:37:56When I say wed, you say ding.

00:37:58Wed.

00:38:00He is just over the top.

00:38:02That's put me right off.

00:38:05Followed by a self-penned serenade at the top table.

00:38:08We'll build a life together.

00:38:10For you and me.

00:38:13Sowed serious seeds of doubt in his new wife's mind.

00:38:16I'm not an over-romantic person at all.

00:38:20And anything over the top does put me off.

00:38:26Got girl Sarah right next to me.

00:38:28In Maldives, living life.

00:38:29Spice Marguerite all the time.

00:38:31Zumba, maybe we'll find out.

00:38:32Read a book, it's going to be so lightly, so damn good.

00:38:34It's going to get so good.

00:38:36It's still quite a lot for me.

00:38:38Swish it, swish it, swish it.

00:38:40Oh, dear.

00:38:48Ready for some Pilates.

00:38:49Ready for some Pilates.

00:38:51Here we go.

00:38:52Right, get your legs up.

00:38:53Legs akimbo.

00:38:54Oh, my God.

00:38:55Oh, I like it.

00:38:58I feel very vulnerable.

00:39:01I guess this is like, is this a girl's view quite a lot of the time?

00:39:04Okay, well, we do the next move.

00:39:06Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:39:07It's coming out with the innuendos, you know.

00:39:10Nice one, Dean.

00:39:10It's all about the heaps.

00:39:20And then you just pull back and then thrust in.

00:39:24That's literally what it is, though, innit?

00:39:29My sexual chakra, no, it's not been opened up just yet.

00:39:32It's still there.

00:39:33It's still ready.

00:39:33It's burning away, but it's not opened up just yet.

00:39:39Take a seat.

00:39:40Let's take a seat.

00:39:41Take some heat off these feet.

00:39:43You love turning things into wraps.

00:39:44Oh, I love wrapping.

00:39:47I'm looking forward to get to know Sarah on a deeper level,

00:39:49because at the moment we're laughing all the time,

00:39:50and it's banner, and the energy's amazing.

00:39:53She will fall for me.

00:39:55Don't worry, trust me, it will happen.

00:39:57I've been here before.

00:39:58We're good.

00:40:01So how long have you been single for, then?

00:40:03About 18 months, coming up to two years.

00:40:04Yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:40:05What about yourself?

00:40:05Yeah, but I'm over two years now.

00:40:07My typical type is a bit of an asshole,

00:40:10which I've always usually gone for.

00:40:12Very toxic and manipulative.

00:40:15Nice guys, trust me.

00:40:16Nice guys are the way to go.

00:40:17I know she wants a nice guy,

00:40:20but I still don't know if I'm the nice guy she wants.

00:40:22Hopefully she can see there's, like, more to me

00:40:25than just probably what met the eye to begin with.

00:40:27I didn't actually start dating until I was, like, 22.

00:40:29Oh, really?

00:40:30So I didn't, like, do anything until I was 22.

00:40:31Yeah, I was like, oh, I need to kind of jump into this.

00:40:34Like, I need to get a girlfriend.

00:40:35I don't want to diverge in.

00:40:37You know, like, you know, those type of things, though.

00:40:38You're like, I don't want that to be me.

00:40:40I did go for a phase where I lost about, like, 10 stones.

00:40:42Did you?

00:40:43I lost, like, loads of weight.

00:40:44I'd weigh, like, fake tan.

00:40:46I'd have guy liner on.

00:40:47Did you wear fake tan?

00:40:47Yeah, fake tan.

00:40:47You were a guy liner?

00:40:49I was a completely different person.

00:40:50Did you?

00:40:51I wasn't the nicest to girls.

00:40:52I would, like, not reply sometimes.

00:40:53And I just wasn't someone my nan would be proud of, innit?

00:40:55I was like, I'm not myself.

00:40:57I just want to be myself.

00:40:58I've always been bigger.

00:40:59And when you're confident and fat, it's cute.

00:41:01You know, it's funny, it's nice.

00:41:02But then when you're confident and, like...

00:41:04A good-looking guy, yeah.

00:41:06I'm still good-looking.

00:41:07I didn't mean that.

00:41:09I didn't mean that.

00:41:10I know you don't mean that.

00:41:12Sorry.

00:41:15It was really nice of Dean to open up about him losing the weight

00:41:18and also how that changed him as a person,

00:41:20which I was quite surprised at.

00:41:23Turned into basically a bit of an asshole.

00:41:25I was shocked, you know?

00:41:27I did not expect that at all.

00:41:30It would be really weird to see Dean as a bad boy.

00:41:34Yeah, definitely.

00:41:35I just can't imagine it at all.

00:41:37Oh, wow.

00:41:59Oh, my God.

00:42:01Oh, look at the view.

00:42:03I always wanted to see her in a wedding dress yes he looks absolutely stunning

00:42:17she's so gorgeous my little baby they're absolutely beautiful thanks dad you make

00:42:26proud he does yeah I'm gonna be coming down the aisle in the dolly when they put it down can

00:42:34you get me out of it and take me to my husband that would be proudest moment of my life I mean

00:42:42it's like giving away my heart it means a world to me that my dad's gonna be able to like give me

00:42:48away I'm such a lucky girl to have family like that I'm sure he's gonna love it I know I hope

00:42:54so I just don't know how he's gonna react it's not the normal that's okay yeah I want him to be

00:43:01obsessed with me he might be a little bit shocked because it's very different yeah which is fine

00:43:06because it's so probably not what he's expecting and not what he's been envisioning for however long

00:43:10yeah like I just hope he doesn't think I'm some sort of diva coming down I'm so terrified of him

00:43:17being like yeah I'm not really that into her no one wants to face rejection and if he isn't

00:43:23completely showing that he's obsessed with me you'll be thinking but why I've been up since

00:43:27five o'clock getting ready for you babe yeah Steve I think you're struggling without a tie

00:43:33you might need help I'm going back to old school ways you know we're you know with everything that

00:43:38he's gone through in life to where we are now Stephen's ready for this he fully deserves it

00:43:42having watched us get married have children have a settled life Stephen wants that the same as we've

00:43:48had it so how do you feel about the kids scenario you feel you're gonna let her know that straight

00:43:53away I'll sort of delay it a little bit it's a tough one that's been rattling through my mind I don't

00:43:58think I'll say it at the altar straight away going oh by the way I've got kids because I think that

00:44:02would just scare her at first kids are the kids they're always going to be there you know she's got

00:44:08to respect that I think it'll be tough to tell her that I've got kids today again if I think if it

00:44:13comes up that then absolutely I will when there's a right moment in time we're the bro we're the

00:44:29brothers two brothers he's a brother good-looking as you guys nearly at my level just a little bit below

00:44:36it's important that my future wife can't set my children because my children are my entire world

00:44:48and then I'll be all and end all so it's massively important to me

00:44:53nervous everyone yeah I need my specs to see you properly stories to teach them up line

00:45:19job tall very confident I think he is Nelly's like I think he probably is yeah definitely a hundred

00:45:29percent today is the biggest day of my life given up a lot to be here and I'm just really

00:45:41really hoping that this is it and this is the one if he doesn't react well to my entrance I'd be

00:45:56devastated it would ruin the magic of it all this whole shebang me in the red is he gonna think I'm

00:46:07some diva and some princess I'm putting my heart on the line and I just really really hope it doesn't

00:46:15get squished to little pieces because I don't know how I'm going to come back from it if it does

00:46:37get echoes

00:46:40and I've also got my daughter strong hold this before being held in for theJa運 the clock

00:46:41but not even if I can I can say I need my daughter kind of double Turn it up

00:46:51I believe I don't think I'm going to admit I had the glitches

00:46:54this morning I know how I got out of my marriage

00:46:58but I've everybody has the glitches

00:46:59this morning but I'll see what happens

00:47:00which is then that when you can see?

00:47:04Amazing. Hi. You all right?

00:47:06Nervous? Nice to meet you. Nice to meet you.

00:47:08Don't be nervous at all.

00:47:10Thank you, sir.

00:47:12What an entrance.

00:47:14What an entrance that is.

00:47:16I'm glad you liked it.

00:47:18I think from first initial attraction

00:47:20and looking a little cheeky smile she gave,

00:47:22it was definitely something I'm like, I'm feeling this.

00:47:24She accepts what you're standing in a red dress.

00:47:26Yeah, definitely.

00:47:28Ticks a lot of boxes.

00:47:30My neck has to go back to look at him.

00:47:34Tick, tick, tick.

00:47:38It's very traditional.

00:47:40Yeah, I'm not very...

00:47:42I'm not normally very traditional, but...

00:47:46He just doesn't seem intimidated

00:47:48by anything in the slightest.

00:47:50He's just taken it all in his stride and I think that's really admirable.

00:47:52I feel like I need to keep my call

00:47:54because I don't want him to think I'm a giddy schoolgirl

00:47:56because I'm not.

00:48:00With our friends and family both here,

00:48:02witnessing us meet for the very first time,

00:48:04I couldn't be more excited to meet a beautiful stranger

00:48:06and share an adventure that we'd only need to do once in our lifetimes.

00:48:10Today, we have taken a risk,

00:48:12but sometimes, without risk,

00:48:14there is no reward.

00:48:16And standing here today in front of me,

00:48:18all I see is a reward.

00:48:20Let's embrace this journey fully.

00:48:22Let's be a team.

00:48:24And conquer anything that comes our way.

00:48:26Here's to us.

00:48:28I stand here today,

00:48:30hoping to find someone who will see and love me for who I truly am.

00:48:34Strong, independent,

00:48:36but also deeply ready to share my life with the right person.

00:48:38I'm far from perfect,

00:48:40but I'm willing to be vulnerable,

00:48:42to put my heart on the line,

00:48:44and give my all to this process.

00:48:46Now, before we go any further,

00:48:48let's address the fact that I'm wearing red today.

00:48:50And no, it's not because I'm a walking red flag.

00:48:54Although, a red dress does come with a little extra sass, doesn't it?

00:48:58Love it.

00:48:59And if you're the one,

00:49:00I promise to bring all my love and commitment to our journey.

00:49:02I can't wait to see what this process brings for us both.

00:49:04Absolutely.

00:49:06Blowing mine out of water there, isn't it?

00:49:08Good, isn't it?

00:49:09That's unbelievable.

00:49:11Unbelievable.

00:49:12I'm going to pop this.

00:49:13Sorry, I'm tall.

00:49:14That's okay.

00:49:15I'm not complaining.

00:49:16No.

00:49:17That's not a complaint for me.

00:49:18You sure?

00:49:19Yeah.

00:49:21Don't mess the hell with me.

00:49:23With this ring,

00:49:25I promise to stand beside you,

00:49:26to grow with you,

00:49:28and to see where this adventure takes us.

00:49:35With this ring,

00:49:36I promise to stand beside you,

00:49:38to grow with you,

00:49:39and see where this adventure takes us.

00:49:42You may seal this moment with a kiss, if you wish.

00:49:47Go for it.

00:49:48Sorry, Dad.

00:49:49Let's go.

00:49:50Woo!

00:49:51Woo!

00:49:52Woo!

00:49:53Woo!

00:49:54Woo!

00:49:55Woo!

00:49:56Woo!

00:49:57Woo!

00:49:58Woo!

00:49:59100% fancier.

00:50:01Absolutely stunning.

00:50:04His confidence is really, really sexy.

00:50:06He's just kind of gone with the flow

00:50:08and just doesn't seem intimidated at all.

00:50:10And, yes, I do fancy him.

00:50:13Let's move on.

00:50:14Woo!

00:50:15Woo!

00:50:16Woo!

00:50:17Woo!

00:50:19Woo!

00:50:20Woo!

00:50:21Woo!

00:50:22Woo!

00:50:24Woo!

00:50:28Sorry.

00:50:31Sigh.

00:50:32I just don't want to get upset.

00:51:00This waiting round bit is intense.

00:51:02It is a bit awkward but I'm just I'm really looking forward to just getting to know her.

00:51:23If you come a little bit closer maybe just hold hands.

00:51:26If you hold hands and that's really awkward.

00:51:30What do you do?

00:51:35I'm a manager of an offshore marine construction company so I build ships and rigs.

00:51:39Oh nice.

00:51:40It's not as exciting as it sounds.

00:51:42It was a ship in Scotland that the Royal Yacht Battalion owned.

00:51:46I'm feeling overwhelmed and trying not to focus on any negatives.

00:51:52What is it you do?

00:51:54I'm a midwife.

00:51:56Okay.

00:51:56I thought I was smiling but already it's got my back up.

00:52:08And if you're comfortable would you like to have a little kiss maybe?

00:52:11I was literally just about to say I wouldn't be the most PDA person.

00:52:14I wouldn't be one for her.

00:52:16What about a cheek?

00:52:18We can do a cheek if you're okay with that.

00:52:20Yeah.

00:52:22It's so awkward.

00:52:23Yeah it's fine.

00:52:24Maybe like let's not.

00:52:25Is that fine?

00:52:26Okay.

00:52:30So you're not you're not PDA kind of in life?

00:52:32I'm like the opposite.

00:52:33Okay.

00:52:33Not being PDA that's a little bit disappointing.

00:52:38It feels a little bit of a knockback because I like someone who is kind of affectionate.

00:52:44Standing a bit closer together.

00:52:48I'm feeling so awkward, so uncomfortable.

00:52:53So much pressure and finding flaws just panicking like a reason to bolt.

00:52:58Just frustrated that I feel negative when I really wanted to force

00:53:04like to feel positive.

00:53:09I don't honestly I don't know.

00:53:19It's probably in a while.

00:53:34I feel like David Attenborough.

00:53:36It's day two of honeymoons and whilst David and Kia head off on safari.

00:53:42What's the collective noun for zebras?

00:53:45It's called a dazzle of zebras.

00:53:48Game.

00:53:48Yeah.

00:53:51In the Maldives Sarah and Dean are having pre-dinner drinks.

00:53:55I think it's been such a good day today.

00:53:57Like I've really enjoyed it.

00:53:58And you know because it's been an intense few days.

00:54:00And like yeah a hundred percent.

00:54:01I was like there's no one I'd rather have like been married to.

00:54:03You know like it's genuinely been so nice.

00:54:05Like just like straight off the bat like we're in the most romantic

00:54:08place in the world.

00:54:08Yeah.

00:54:09Yeah.

00:54:14So is there anything about me that is annoying you?

00:54:18At the moment there's genuinely nothing majorly.

00:54:21And you do look nice.

00:54:22So yeah.

00:54:27Being in the Maldives right now with Dean we are getting along really well.

00:54:30I just can't get past that attraction that I don't have towards him.

00:54:35Shake, shake, shake.

00:54:37And the outbursts of song and rapping really beginning to grate on me.

00:54:42So I just want to address that but I don't know how he's going to take it.

00:54:49So is there anything that's kind of annoying you?

00:54:51I think it probably would be

00:55:07the occasional outbursts of like songs and raps.

00:55:14I do do that.

00:55:15Do you think it's a nervous thing or no?

00:55:18How I'm probably I guess I'm never I'm always a happy person

00:55:21than it in general usually.

00:55:22And whenever I've got sadness out I write songs in it.

00:55:24That's how I get my sadness out.

00:55:26And like if I'm feeling a certain way if you listen to the song I'm singing

00:55:29it will usually tell you how I'm feeling but without saying it.

00:55:31Aw.

00:55:33Sarah bringing up the rapping and the singing being a bit annoying.

00:55:36It's not the first person to bring it up and it wouldn't have been the last so she's

00:55:40not trying to change me she's just trying to not make me irritate her.

00:55:43So if you were sad you would just start singing?

00:55:46I'd be like yeah I'd sing all by myself or something you know but you wouldn't realize

00:55:49and no one would realize but that kind of gets the emotion like out of me.

00:55:52The biggest thing I'm taking away from tonight is learning to be open and honest

00:55:57and talk about whatever's bothering us and hopefully that should move us along as a couple.

00:56:01Maybe now that we're married you could tell me your emotion rather than singing it.

00:56:09I've never done it.

00:56:12So I don't know like I genuinely don't know because I've never done it.

00:56:15You could try.

00:56:18Right Dean let's practice right now okay?

00:56:20Yeah.

00:56:20Okay ready right so tell me how you're feeling right now.

00:56:23Yeah happy.

00:56:24See?

00:56:26See hallelujah.

00:56:27No.

00:56:29No don't do that.

00:56:30I think maybe you are right and I'll take it on board and I'll compromise because yeah

00:56:35that's the whole reason we're here.

00:56:36All I can do is try.

00:56:37I was really nervous telling Dean how I felt about outbursting into raps or songs

00:56:46and that it was beginning to irritate me.

00:56:48I think I've made it quite clear now.

00:56:52So yeah fingers crossed.

00:57:05There is a giraffe.

00:57:16A lot of these animals they rely heavily on their sense of hearing.

00:57:19So it's very important to restrain ourselves from shouting and screaming too loud.

00:57:30This is amazing the bush is absolutely wild.

00:57:35I just want to stroke him.

00:57:48All I want to do is scream and point and touch everything.

00:57:53And I can do none of those things.

00:57:55Hello.

00:58:01There is an elephant also walking right towards us.

00:58:03There is a lion.

00:58:04What do you mean?

00:58:04Shh.

00:58:09Have you met my husband?

00:58:11He's a lot.

00:58:11He's only 110 90 percent of the time.

00:58:14Look.

00:58:14I am far enough away and I'm whispering.

00:58:18I keep having to like cover his mouth or tell him.

00:58:21He's like shh and be quiet.

00:58:23Cheers.

00:58:25This is so lovely.

00:58:26How are you feeling?

00:58:32Like I'm like I'm on honeymoon.

00:58:34It's fabulous.

00:58:35No, it's great, isn't it?

00:58:36Mm-hmm.

00:58:36It's a great day out.

00:58:37Honestly, not screaming has been the most difficult thing.

00:58:40We know.

00:58:45We know we have that like really cute connection that we do have.

00:58:48We have no problems like kissing, like being physical with each other.

00:58:53But we are trying kind of waiting for intimacy.

00:58:56How do you feel about it?

00:58:58I think waiting for that step I'm completely on board with.

00:59:02And I think it's just it's just building the tension.

00:59:04It's just going to be better when we get there.

00:59:07What do you want?

00:59:07Do you want to see a rhino's horn?

00:59:08Is it the horn you're excited about?

00:59:10Stop it.

00:59:11Kia.

00:59:13Kia.

00:59:15He uses comedy just to deflect out of a very deep conversation.

00:59:20I want to get to know him a bit more.

00:59:21I want to know how he's feeling.

00:59:25On their wedding day.

00:59:26He will open up to you.

00:59:27Yeah, I'm not going to hurt him.

00:59:28But it will take time.

00:59:30Kia's mum gave David an insight into his new husband's character.

00:59:34He's spent his whole life thinking that he has to perform for everyone.

00:59:38Because that's what they expect.

00:59:39Oh, Kia's a good laugh.

00:59:40You know, Kia's the life and soul of the party.

00:59:44Do you find talking about this type of stuff hard?

00:59:48That's why you deflect to like comedy.

00:59:51Yeah, I think talking about...

00:59:52No, do you know, I don't find talking about sex hard.

00:59:56It's just...

00:59:58Is it the face mechanism?

00:59:59You do that.

00:59:59Yeah, 100%.

01:00:01If I feel slightly uncomfortable or things are getting a little bit too serious, I make a hard joke.

01:00:06Yeah.

01:00:07You deflect.

01:00:10Yeah.

01:00:11I don't know how I feel about that.

01:00:13I think we're going to have to work on that a little bit.

01:00:14We'll work on that.

01:00:16Yeah.

01:00:16If I am like being vulnerable and like talking and stuff like that,

01:00:19I want you to like be on the same level.

01:00:21That's all.

01:00:21Yeah.

01:00:21Not everything has to be an indoor or a joke.

01:00:27I just don't need it to be all the time.

01:00:31I need Deepal.

01:00:32I just need Deepal.

01:00:42How are you, uh, what's, you know, how are you doing?

01:00:53Um, yeah.

01:00:56Yes.

01:00:57Yeah.

01:00:58I mean, obviously, not much to go off, but...

01:01:00Yeah.

01:01:00Right.

01:01:01How did it all go on your side of things?

01:01:03I mean, I'm really happy.

01:01:07Were you kind of...

01:01:08Was I what you asked for, or...?

01:01:09Yeah.

01:01:10Yeah.

01:01:11I think so.

01:01:12Well, it's, you know...

01:01:12What did you ask for?

01:01:13I asked for someone, like,

01:01:15different, charismatic,

01:01:17someone respectful, actually.

01:01:18Yeah.

01:01:18I was quite big on respect.

01:01:19Yeah.

01:01:20My father's very old school.

01:01:22Old school in what way?

01:01:24I was raised, like,

01:01:26men are the breadwinners,

01:01:28so I was kind of raised that way.

01:01:35Why is it that you feel the man has to be the breadwinner at a bit?

01:01:39Yeah.

01:01:41Like, old school morals, basically.

01:01:43Yeah.

01:01:48God, here we go.

01:01:51It's 20... 25, Ashley.

01:01:54Men don't have to be a moneymaker, and the woman stays home.

01:01:59Stephen, do you want to put your hand around your wife?

01:02:12Don't be scared.

01:02:13I'm never scared.

01:02:13There you go, lovely.

01:02:15And just look this way.

01:02:16Um...

01:02:17How old are you?

01:02:1834, already.

01:02:20Are you?

01:02:20Yeah.

01:02:21You look younger.

01:02:22Oh, stop it, now you're just playing with me.

01:02:24In your dreams.

01:02:25Well, hopefully, yeah.

01:02:26I mean...

01:02:26Yeah, I know, sorry.

01:02:27As if you didn't.

01:02:28I know.

01:02:29Your teeth are nice.

01:02:30Yes, they are.

01:02:31They got done.

01:02:32Composite?

01:02:33Yeah.

01:02:34I'm a dentist, which is why I clopped the teeth.

01:02:37Yeah, they look good.

01:02:39So, you're all natural.

01:02:40Thanks.

01:02:40And I've got to say, the red dress.

01:02:43Great.

01:02:44Do you like a sassy sister?

01:02:46A sassy sister?

01:02:47Yeah, I like that.

01:02:48I like someone who's going to give me a little bit to get it back.

01:02:50Okay, perfect.

01:02:51So, yeah, you're all for that.

01:02:52No tip.

01:02:52Absolutely.

01:02:54I didn't really get to see your family.

01:02:56I think I was just really nervous.

01:02:57So, my brother and my sister were there.

01:02:58We're all three older brothers.

01:02:59Oh, wow.

01:03:00Are you?

01:03:01Yeah, I've got one sister just above me.

01:03:03So, there's five of you.

01:03:04I love a big, busy house.

01:03:06It's crazy.

01:03:07Yeah.

01:03:08All the niece and nephews and stuff as well.

01:03:09It's amazing, though, isn't it?

01:03:11It is.

01:03:11Are you close to them, your niece and nephews?

01:03:13Yeah.

01:03:13Are they, like, your world?

01:03:14Yeah.

01:03:15Fantastic.

01:03:16It is nerve-wracking telling anyone, especially who I've just met, that I've got kids.

01:03:25It doesn't feel like the right time to be telling Nellie to shit.

01:03:28I've just met the girl.

01:03:33I feel like just nothing really phases him, which is great.

01:03:37I'm excited.

01:03:38Let's get the party started.

01:03:39I can't wait.

01:03:46So, Grace, this is my dad.

01:03:49Hello, Jolton.

01:03:50How are you?

01:03:51Nice to meet you, Carla and Laura.

01:03:52Hello, Laura.

01:03:53Ashley, nice to meet you.

01:03:54It's nice to meet you.

01:03:55Are you okay?

01:03:55I'm sorry, have a seat.

01:03:56We've got so many questions.

01:03:57Yeah, we're going to fire away.

01:03:59Fire away.

01:04:00Is she everything that you were hoping would be at the end of the aisle?

01:04:04I think, other than, like, the affection bit, but then something like that, I wouldn't expect.

01:04:08So, are you not really, like, making out straight away?

01:04:11No, no, 100%.

01:04:12If anything, at the ceremony, her not letting me kiss her,

01:04:15Yeah.

01:04:16Gained massive respect for her as well, like, she's a lady.

01:04:21Like, I was brought up with old school morals, so I kind of feel like it's the man's job

01:04:25to turn the woman around, if that makes sense.

01:04:27Yeah.

01:04:27It's the man's job to turn the woman around.

01:04:30Like, to make the effort.

01:04:32Yeah, I would say, yeah, I would say Grace is big on kind of partnership and equal power dynamics

01:04:37and everyone pulling their weight, and, like, I think that's really important to her, right?

01:04:41Yeah.

01:04:42100%.

01:04:42Hannah's a bit of a guerrilla, though, isn't she?

01:04:47No, not a guerrilla, a guerrilla, as in, like, she grilled me.

01:04:52It's nice, though, that she feels that passionate about her friend and who I am and what's been picked for her.

01:04:58Would you describe yourself as a feminist?

01:05:06100% no.

01:05:10Grace is all about women's rights and empowering women.

01:05:13100% no?

01:05:14I wouldn't say, not 100% no, that's the wrong thing to say.

01:05:16I would say I do have old school and I was raised that the man was the breadwinner and things like that.

01:05:21I do have old school and I was raised that the man was the breadwinner and things like that.

01:05:34I do have old school and I was raised that the man was the breadwinner and things like that.

01:05:48A man that isn't a feminist probably isn't a person for grace.

01:05:58I'm not looking for, like, a washerwoman.

01:06:01I am an old school gent so I will always treat her with the utmost respect.

01:06:04I don't think being an old school gent goes head to head with being a person that believes in equal

01:06:11partnership, an equal power.

01:06:13But I would never see myself as anything other than equal to her.

01:06:18I think it is a partnership.

01:06:19In which case, I would describe him as a feminist, so that's good.

01:06:22Everyone's learned something today and that's amazing.

01:06:26Yes, I'm a feminist.

01:06:30Like, I'm not going to go around burning my bra or not, do you know what I mean?

01:06:32And that's what I thought a feminist was.

01:06:37My advice would be she wants to know you respect her and she wants to like you as a person.

01:06:43When I explained to him what a feminist is, he came right around to it.

01:06:47It turns out that he just didn't understand the question.

01:06:49And he said he's just quite respectful of women and he wants someone to feel cared for.

01:06:53And I think Grace can really warm to that.

01:07:02And I think it's just a person.

01:07:07My husband, oh God, it feels so weird saying that, is being really actually really attentive,

01:07:13just like I wanted.

01:07:14Like, he's making sure he pulls out the chair for me.

01:07:16Like, it's great.

01:07:17When he turned around and he saw his face, his smile gave it away instantly.

01:07:23He's honestly like her ideal person.

01:07:26He's also someone who's going to have a good time and like, take her sense of humour and like...

01:07:29Good teeth.

01:07:30Yeah.

01:07:32We're getting all the gossip.

01:07:33Fantastic.

01:07:34Thank you, detectives.

01:07:38Erm, does Stephen have any children?

01:07:39So, I had a man.

01:07:42Sorry.

01:07:42Oh, sorry.

01:07:47Caught.

01:07:48Stephen has two children.

01:07:49Ooh.

01:07:50Two children.

01:07:54Kind of hoping it wouldn't come up.

01:07:56Not for anything.

01:07:57We just, we'd rather him...

01:07:58Yeah, no.

01:08:00I get that.

01:08:04So, have you all got kids then?

01:08:06Erm...

01:08:07I've got two boys.

01:08:12Oh, lovely.

01:08:13Peter's got two boys and a girl.

01:08:14Yeah.

01:08:15Paul's got two boys.

01:08:17Jordan hasn't.

01:08:19So, yeah, we are a big extended family as well.

01:08:22Nice.

01:08:22That's where there's the five of us already.

01:08:24Yeah.

01:08:26His family remind me of my family, and I think that's what makes me feel a lot more comfortable and more safe.

01:08:32See you in a bit.

01:08:32Bye.

01:08:33And I think, well, you've got such a great family,

01:08:35so surely you must be such, like, a great guy.

01:08:40You've done an accident.

01:08:41Did you drop the kid bomb?

01:08:43We were asked.

01:08:45Have you said it?

01:08:46Yes.

01:08:49We had to.

01:08:50I could immediately see, like, you guys having, like, kind of a vibe.

01:08:55Yeah.

01:08:55Like, he was chatty, you were chatty.

01:08:57Yeah, he seems like a proper family guy.

01:08:58Mm, yeah.

01:09:01He's got, like, nieces and nephews.

01:09:04I've not asked him if he's got any kids yet, actually, but he's not mentioned it.

01:09:06I think it's difficult because you can't just be like, oh, we know that he's got, like, children.

01:09:19I think it's something he should say to her.

01:09:21It's going to be kind of awkward, but, you know, you just need to tell her.

01:09:24I think, I think you might have to just drop it.

01:09:26Yeah, but it's just, like, you're trying to work that into a natural conversation.

01:09:38Hi.

01:09:39Hey, guys.

01:09:40How are you doing?

01:09:42I'm desperate to speak to you.

01:09:44As soon as she kind of entered and she was like, pop, it was like, that's what I asked for.

01:09:49In personality ways, that's what I asked for.

01:09:51She is a lady.

01:09:52Yeah.

01:09:52Lovely.

01:09:52Yeah.

01:09:53You take the boxes there.

01:09:54100%.

01:09:56Okay, so.

01:10:00Full disclosure, I had, like, a huge wobble.

01:10:03Oh, God.

01:10:04Yeah.

01:10:05I think maybe I was more reliant on, like, an initial spot.

01:10:08I think I just was a bit, like.

01:10:09Yeah.

01:10:10Just such a massive build-up.

01:10:12Yeah.

01:10:13In, like, photography.

01:10:14Mm-hmm.

01:10:15I was trying not to cry.

01:10:17It was, like, a smile.

01:10:18And I was like, oh.

01:10:20You know, like a man telling you to smile.

01:10:23It's just that fundamental thing that, like, women don't want to do.

01:10:26I get that.

01:10:27And, like, the breadwinner thing.

01:10:28And he's like, I am traditional.

01:10:30I like to be the breadwinner.

01:10:31And I'm like, mm-hmm.

01:10:34He did say when we were sitting over there, I said, would you describe yourself as a feminist?

01:10:39Because I know that's super important.

01:10:40Yeah.

01:10:41Yeah.

01:10:41Full start.

01:10:42And he said, no.

01:10:47But then when I said, why don't you believe in, like, equality and that you're going to have,

01:10:53like, an equal partnership with someone?

01:10:55And he said, yeah.

01:10:55And so we said, yeah.

01:10:57Okay, so you're a feminist.

01:10:57He said, yeah.

01:10:58Okay.

01:10:59I said, you've learned something today.

01:11:00You're a feminist.

01:11:01And he said, okay.

01:11:01Yeah.

01:11:02Okay.

01:11:02But then it's that, like, teaching thing, isn't it?

01:11:04It's like, oh, God, I'm going to have to bring you up to speed with, like, really basic issues.

01:11:08The thing is, though, Graves, when he said, I'm going to be the breadwinner and all that stuff.

01:11:14Yeah.

01:11:14Although it made us all go a bit like this.

01:11:16It can be nuanced a little bit.

01:11:18And although it makes you initially recoil, he is really lovely.

01:11:27Yeah.

01:11:28No, this is really overwhelming.

01:11:29Of course you are.

01:11:30Can I tuck you into my arms?

01:11:32I just thought I wanted it to be really easy.

01:11:34I just thought it was really easy.

01:11:35It's not easy.

01:11:37Today has been so much.

01:11:39I'm going to give you a big hug.

01:11:40No, you don't like to.

01:11:41I'm sorry.

01:11:49This is a hard thing to do.

01:11:51You've had a really emotional, good day.

01:11:53Oh, girl.

01:11:59I love Africa.

01:12:16It's beautiful, beautiful.

01:12:18Or just, just like you.

01:12:21See?

01:12:22Not hot.

01:12:22You can't make me blush.

01:12:24No.

01:12:26Stop.

01:12:27During the safari, Daveed mentioned that I deflect and use humour.

01:12:32I haven't been open and vulnerable with Daveed to explain to him why I do that.

01:12:40I want to share with him that side to give him context as to why I sometimes use humour to deflect.

01:12:45So, um, let me just, sorry, let me just preface with this with, I will probably make, uh, I'm going to try not to make inappropriate jokes, um, or to deflect, but, um,

01:13:04I, my mum comes from a military background, we're a military family, and that's kind of just how we deal with our trauma.

01:13:12We make jokes and, like, and make lighthearted because it's better to make people laugh, um, and to just kind of get through it.

01:13:21But, yeah, so my, my brother was, um, very disabled.

01:13:26He had a cerebral palsy, um, so when he was born, he was only meant to live until he was one.

01:13:34Um, thankfully he lived until he was nine, just turning ten, um, so it was a, it was a lot to deal with.

01:13:41And it was the same time as my parents were getting divorced as well, so we were losing our family home and having to move.

01:13:47Um, so I guess the reason why there's so many situations I deflect, because it was a coping mechanism that I always had to

01:13:55get me through, uh, a really difficult period where we obviously lost my brother and, uh, well, the family as we knew it.

01:14:07Um, uh, yeah, it, sorry.

01:14:18Um, and it's really hard for me to open up and be vulnerable,

01:14:23because my natural instinct is to make light and make a joke, to make people smile,

01:14:30and to make people laugh, uh, because sometimes that is easier.

01:14:38Now, I understand, I understand.

01:14:42But I'm trying, I'm trying.

01:14:43I know you are, and I'm really proud of you.

01:14:46Come here.

01:14:46I knew there was something more that he just needed time to feel comfortable to open up to me.

01:15:03This definitely, uh, deepened our emotional connection together.

01:15:06Um, I already liked it.

01:15:10I like him more now.

01:15:12This is what I want to see.

01:15:13I want to see that.

01:15:15Because you have a beautiful heart.

01:15:18You have a beautiful heart, and I wanted to see that.

01:15:20Have you enjoyed today?

01:15:36Mmm.

01:15:38Yeah.

01:15:38It was really fun, right?

01:15:39I, like, think it was okay.

01:15:41Yeah, yeah.

01:15:41Sarah's mentioned the rap singing being a bit annoying,

01:15:44and it's something that I'll definitely take on board tonight,

01:15:46hoping to just continue to get to know each other more and more.

01:15:49Hopefully, progress in our relationship,

01:15:51and step by step, get to that marriage that I think we've both dreamed of.

01:15:56So, how are you finding everything?

01:15:57How are you finding married life?

01:15:59Still a bit surreal, to be honest.

01:16:02Do you think the same?

01:16:03It's such a whirlwind, isn't it?

01:16:04But I feel like we're getting to know each other, like, loads and loads.

01:16:08But it just, yeah, it does feel, yeah, it feels good.

01:16:09It feels comfortable.

01:16:10I think I'm still, like, I'm obviously wanting to work on it and try and see what happens.

01:16:15But yeah, I'm very much, like, I don't want to put pressure on it.

01:16:19I don't want to sort of rush anything.

01:16:20I just want to take each day as it comes and just, yeah, just see what happens.

01:16:24I, myself, I'm a little bit of a slow burner.

01:16:26Mm-hmm.

01:16:27I like to kind of get to know a person and, like, kind of see how it goes then.

01:16:30What are you like, usually?

01:16:32Um, I think it just depends, because I usually would move quite quickly.

01:16:37Usually when I have gone with, like, previous partners, it's probably that been that attraction

01:16:44that I've then been drawn to them and then it's moved quickly.

01:16:47That's the only sort of thing that I would say, you know, it maybe would be usually quicker.

01:16:52Quicker.

01:16:52But it's just because it's not got that initial spark.

01:16:59Just for me, at the moment, it's still friend zone.

01:17:03If I feel that spark, I'm all in.

01:17:12God, sorry, Dean.

01:17:13I was kind of thinking that I would, like, you know, marrying someone and being like,

01:17:22OK, like, this is it.

01:17:23I've got my person.

01:17:24He's going to be here with me 24-7.

01:17:25And I'm like, no, that's not what I want.

01:17:26So, you know, I think it's, yeah.

01:17:30So what was your, like, first initial reaction?

01:17:33What you thought when, like, obviously, I turned around and you was walking down?

01:17:36Um.

01:17:36You know, you weren't sort of looks-wise what I was expecting.

01:17:46So I think initially, I was a bit like, OK, um.

01:17:50Have you ever been with anyone bigger or anything?

01:17:52I'll push your usual type and stuff like that.

01:17:53Have I been with anyone?

01:17:54Anyone who's, like, bigger or anything like that, yeah.

01:17:56No, I have to admit that, no.

01:17:58Mm-mm.

01:18:01If you hear that you're not someone's type, that has it after me.

01:18:04feeling deflated, all of a sudden, you're not going to put yourself out there as much

01:18:08because you don't want to get hurt.

01:18:10Like, you don't want to be rejected.

01:18:12Have you ever been friends with somebody that's turned into a romantic relationship?

01:18:18No.

01:18:21It's hard to hear, and I'm starting to feel rejected.

01:18:24Like, no one wants to be rejected, and it does feel like you're just friends.

01:18:28I genuinely don't know how I'm going to get past the fact that there isn't the attraction,

01:18:36there isn't the spark.

01:18:39You know, it's not friend at first sight.

01:18:41I want to meet the love of my life.

01:18:43I have to be honest, I just envisioned something completely different.

01:19:04It's lovely, yes, isn't it?

01:19:14Oh!

01:19:15Honestly, I met you and I thought, why?

01:19:18As you put me straight at ease, it's freaking me out.

01:19:21You've made me just feel really, really comfortable,

01:19:24and I just want you to know that you can always be honest with me.

01:19:27So, obviously, we're both family orientated.

01:19:31Yeah.

01:19:32What I need is to tell you, I wanted to bring it up sooner.

01:19:36I need to find the right moment.

01:19:39Be alone time.

01:19:42Away from sort of families, me and you.

01:19:46So, I'm a dad.

01:19:51Got two kids.

01:19:52I'm glad that you could share that with me.

01:19:57Obviously, they are sort of my world kind of thing.

01:20:04So, how are you feeling now?

01:20:08I'm chill about it.

01:20:12That's the way of why as well?

01:20:13Yeah.

01:20:13Because when you go into the process, you know,

01:20:16how's she going to take that?

01:20:17I've got kids, like...

01:20:17Yeah.

01:20:19You know, having the conversation of being open and honest.

01:20:21I don't know why, but if I find myself, like, liking someone,

01:20:27I have the tendency to...

01:20:30I'm so afraid of getting hurt again,

01:20:33that I'll put my walls straight up and I'll start self-sabotaging.

01:20:36Although I'm really, really trying to be aware of it,

01:20:39because I don't want to put my walls up,

01:20:41and I want to be able to explore a connection,

01:20:44because that's literally why we're here, right?

01:20:46Yeah, we've all got past relationship trauma.

01:20:48Yeah.

01:20:48That's what makes us who we are today, right?

01:20:50So...

01:20:50Yes.

01:20:50So, maybe we just actually just really need to be honest with each other.

01:20:53100%.

01:20:53And just have each other's back.

01:20:54And, yeah, just pick each other up.

01:20:56That's the thing.

01:20:57OK, I think you promised.

01:20:57I think you promised for that.

01:20:58OK.

01:21:03This is the first time that I've opened up to somebody.

01:21:07Stephen makes me feel really comfortable and safe.

01:21:09So, I think, so far, I'm much made in heaven.

01:21:19I cannot believe I got married today.

01:21:21It's something I've always dreamed of.

01:21:23I think the day's exceeded expectations.

01:21:27I feel very excited about Nelly and I's journey ahead.

01:21:31I've always dreamt to this day,

01:21:34and I just feel like I might have been matched with someone

01:21:36who actually will just like me for me,

01:21:38and I don't have to pretend to be who I'm not.

01:21:43Like, it takes a lot to, um...

01:21:46Oh, God, what's wrong with me?

01:21:52Like, it takes a lot to open up to somebody.

01:21:57And I really just want to...

01:21:59I want to give it my all.

01:22:00God, this is...

01:22:02I said I wouldn't do this, and it's day one.

01:22:03Oh, God.

01:22:12I think I'm ready to receive and give love,

01:22:14if that's on the cards.

01:22:16Next time...

01:22:25Right now, he's not putting a foot wrong.

01:22:26Nelly and Stephen go from strength to strength.

01:22:29Exactly what I wanted from a honeymoon.

01:22:31While Ashley's comments continue to trouble Grace.

01:22:34I said I want a tomboy Barbie.

01:22:36Like, what?

01:22:37Oh, fuck.

01:22:38Every now and then he just says something,

01:22:39and I think, like, do you know how that sounds?

01:22:42Sarah's forthright take on how to ignite a spark with Dean...

01:22:46Get some tattoos and lose some weight.

01:22:49Combined with demands for honesty...

01:22:50Would it be any different if I wasn't as big?

01:22:53Um...

01:22:53Further test the couple's marriage.

01:22:55Probably.

01:22:56..and as two more brave singles...

01:23:01I'm scared, but I'm definitely ready.

01:23:03..enter the experiment...

01:23:05Oh, my!

01:23:07..one of the brides has serious second thoughts.

01:23:10Should we do a cheek?

01:23:11I don't know if she can't see me now.

01:23:14Fuck!

01:23:15I made a mistake.

01:23:16Shit.

01:23:26Shit.

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