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Married at First Sight UK S10E08
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00:00:00We're so cute
00:00:02Previously
00:00:04Our newlyweds took the next step into married life
00:00:08But for some domestic harmony
00:00:12I won't be living in this apartment
00:00:14I need some time out
00:00:16Was short lived
00:00:20It was the first dinner party of the experiment
00:00:22Here we are on this mad experiment
00:00:24Seeing things not in our element
00:00:26Sarah shared her unfiltered opinions on Dean
00:00:28Sarah's already entered the zone of being disrespectful
00:00:32And that's something that needs to end
00:00:34And for Julia, Ruth and Devani
00:00:36The spark is definitely there
00:00:38We're literally like yin-yang-yang
00:00:40Conflicting accounts of the honeymoon
00:00:42He said how amazing it was
00:00:44On what planet?
00:00:46Left their marriage hanging by a thread
00:00:48The honeymoon was not easy
00:00:50They've heard a different story
00:00:52It makes no sense
00:00:54It makes no sense
00:00:56It makes no sense
00:00:58I'm so genuine
00:01:02Tonight is the very first commitment ceremony
00:01:06It's time for the couples to face the experts
00:01:08Can't communicate with you
00:01:10And you don't listen
00:01:11You don't back down
00:01:12It's been difficult
00:01:14It's been proper difficult
00:01:15This isn't gonna work
00:01:16Tension builds as two couples clash
00:01:18No emotional connection
00:01:20No communication
00:01:21I thought we could build from the wedding day
00:01:24Just miles apart
00:01:26And Sarah's badmouthing
00:01:29Do you think that you were rude
00:01:31While talking about your partner?
00:01:33Catches up with her
00:01:34This man is talking about how lovely his partner is
00:01:38And you are on the other side of the room
00:01:40Disrespecting him
00:01:42It's not me
00:01:44It's not who I am
00:01:45That was good
00:01:57Right now get the other one in
00:01:59Other one
00:02:01Oh!
00:02:02Nah
00:02:03Right put them down though
00:02:04Cause they're all gonna be f***ing orange juice
00:02:09Can I have this piece of toast?
00:02:11That one's a bit buttery
00:02:13Cholesterol for breakfast
00:02:21Yesterday it was a lot wasn't it?
00:02:23It was a lot yeah
00:02:24Fun no?
00:02:25Yeah we had a really good time
00:02:26I felt really confident with you
00:02:28Even before we saw everybody else
00:02:30But then when we did see everyone else
00:02:31And we saw where they were at
00:02:32I was like oh actually we are super strong
00:02:34Yeah it's a nice feeling isn't it?
00:02:36I loved walking into the dinner party with Bec
00:02:38I loved showing her off
00:02:39And I walked in with a big smile on my face
00:02:41Bailey and I are really good
00:02:42We're happy
00:02:43We have gone from strength to strength everyday
00:02:45We're very tactile
00:02:47Intimacy's great
00:02:48The spot for us is flying
00:02:50So we're going into the commitment ceremony
00:02:52In a really strong position
00:02:57The vibe this morning is a little bit tense
00:02:59After last night's dinner party
00:03:01Giovanni and I spent the night separately
00:03:03We had a argument
00:03:05Compared to other couples I knew that we were struggling
00:03:09It felt like again we were on different pages
00:03:12He was trying to just paint a picture so no one could see what was going on
00:03:16He's saying it's daisies
00:03:18It wasn't the best feeling to know that my wife was upset
00:03:23How I articulated our issues was a little bit sugar-coated
00:03:28I can admit that
00:03:30But that's what I chose to do because obviously we're a team
00:03:33Thank you
00:03:39Thank you
00:03:41Last night was intense, wasn't it?
00:03:44Yeah, I'm sorry about the crying
00:03:46I wasn't planning on doing that
00:03:47I got upset at the dinner party yesterday from the honesty box
00:03:53I feel a little bit embarrassed
00:03:55Nelly, can you see yourself falling for me?
00:03:59It's very hard for me to say
00:04:02Yeah, yeah
00:04:04Why is it so hard for you to talk about falling for somebody?
00:04:08I think I'm so afraid of being so emotionally like open and vulnerable to someone
00:04:15I think they know who I am and think, you know what, I'm not into her
00:04:20And then they break my heart
00:04:23I can't with it anymore, it's too much
00:04:28Just a lot for week one
00:04:29Yeah, of course it is
00:04:30It's like when that honesty box comes out
00:04:32We all know what that sort of entails
00:04:34So very courageous of you to show that emotion and say what you said
00:04:39Steven's doing all the right things
00:04:41But I still keep getting into my own hair thinking, what does he like you?
00:04:43Are you sure about that?
00:04:45I don't want to scare him off or give him the ick
00:04:48And I will convince myself if he doesn't hold my hand for long enough
00:04:51It's because he's not into me
00:04:53Even though the poor guy probably just wants his arm back
00:04:56He's clearly telling me he's being truthful
00:04:58Why can't I believe it?
00:05:01Looking forward to seeing the experts today
00:05:03Do you think you're going to get emotional?
00:05:05Me? I don't get emotional
00:05:06Oh, shut up
00:05:08What if they poke you in all the right places?
00:05:11Well, it hasn't happened for a while, so...
00:05:13Grace and I, I feel, are in a really good place
00:05:18We're quite stable at the moment, so I'm quite happy with where I am
00:05:22Is there anything you're looking to talk to the experts about?
00:05:24I feel like they might, I think it could be confronting
00:05:28I'm scared
00:05:29I wasn't myself on honeymoon
00:05:31It's all been so overwhelming and so hard
00:05:36I don't want to do this, sorry
00:05:37On their wedding day
00:05:39What? That was upsetting you
00:05:43Just... I can't...
00:05:46Grace struggled to find a connection with Ashley
00:05:49I was raised like man of the breadwinners
00:05:52Like old school morals, basically
00:05:55Yeah
00:05:57And the honeymoon brought her walls up even higher
00:06:00Okay, is that enough now?
00:06:02Yikes
00:06:04Oh, I'm not really feeling it
00:06:05I feel like everything I'm doing is wrong
00:06:08And I don't know why
00:06:10In an effort to turn things around
00:06:12Grace finally opened up to Ashley
00:06:14I just want to explain the physical touch thing
00:06:17Because I feel like maybe I'm making it seem like it's you
00:06:19I've been this way since I was a kid
00:06:21It's a sensation that I don't like
00:06:23It's like skin
00:06:25Yeah
00:06:26But it's especially bad when I'm a bit stressed
00:06:28And the people I don't know, they don't need to project it onto you
00:06:31I just hope I don't get upset
00:06:33If you do feel emotional
00:06:34What is it that I'm supposed to do?
00:06:35Because my natural reaction would be to give you a hug if you're emotional
00:06:38But you obviously don't... you're not going to want that
00:06:40So what is it I do?
00:06:41I might want that
00:06:43I don't know, let's just see
00:06:44Let's just cross that bridge
00:06:46I am nervous about seeing the experts
00:06:49Obviously they're going to shine a light on all the things that, you know, sometimes I avoid talking about
00:06:54The touching, the PDA, all of that
00:06:57I'm the problem
00:06:59That's how I feel actually
00:07:00So that's maybe why I'm nervous
00:07:07I'm so sorry you feel sick
00:07:09David is feeling really unwell
00:07:12He's so achy, that poor man has got no energy whatsoever
00:07:16How are you feeling about seeing the experts tonight by yourself?
00:07:20Overall I'm terrified about going by myself and I don't want to go
00:07:23I'm sure you're going to be fine
00:07:25Yeah, I've got a spot but don't worry
00:07:27But drink the honey and lemon ginger tea when it's hot
00:07:30It does nothing, now it's cold
00:07:33A little bit worried about walking into my first ceremony without him
00:07:36But I think we're really strong so it should be fine
00:07:42First commitment ceremony today
00:07:44What do you think they're going to say to us?
00:07:45I don't really know
00:07:47From here, shit gets deeper, doesn't it?
00:07:49I want the experts to tell us where we're going wrong
00:07:51We're just not there yet in terms of the romantic connection
00:07:54It's more than friends
00:07:56But at the same time, she doesn't want to rip my clothes off
00:07:59I said, you just need to let your wall down a little bit more
00:08:01Like, I'm trying
00:08:03I'm being way more open and vulnerable than I ever would in any situation
00:08:07The thing is, mine's not by choice
00:08:09That vulnerability or like moving to that next stage with you
00:08:11Is just not coming naturally
00:08:13Yeah, yeah, yeah
00:08:14And it's not like something that I'm choosing to do
00:08:16And it sounds so shallow
00:08:17I think this whole narrative of like, oh, you're not my typical type
00:08:21It's like, I'm struggling to fill the romance
00:08:23It's not just about like, you don't have an undercut
00:08:25Do you know what I mean?
00:08:26Me having my walls up isn't by choice
00:08:28Like, it's not something I'm in control of
00:08:30Like, I feel like I'm blocked off
00:08:32And I can't unblock
00:08:34It's just like, how do I let these walls down?
00:08:37But at the same time, I think I'm more willing to try and get the wall down
00:08:42There's a big decision to make today
00:08:45I'm trying to be open and vulnerable
00:08:46But I've had my walls up for so long
00:08:48It's going to be really hard to change and let my guard down
00:08:51I'm trying to like, give it my all and be completely open
00:08:55And initially that attraction wasn't there
00:08:57So I'm intrigued to see what the experts' advice is
00:09:00Or what they think is beneficial for us to do moving forward
00:09:07Are you still feeling shit?
00:09:09Yeah, I feel terrible to be honest
00:09:11I feel like crap
00:09:12Joe is feeling proper poorly
00:09:13So I don't know if he's going to be able to attend the commitment ceremony
00:09:17I'm nervous, you know
00:09:19It's obviously like, it's a commitment ceremony
00:09:21And I hate feelings
00:09:23So I'm guessing we're going to be talking about how we feel about each other
00:09:27Joe's expressing some feelings towards us at the dinner party
00:09:31I feel exactly the same way, I'm just not very good at showing it
00:09:34But I'm obviously going to tell the experts that I really like Joe
00:09:38Because I can't stop smiling when I talk about him
00:09:43Feeling a little bit disappointed
00:09:46I came away from the dinner party feeling the same about Paul as I did going in
00:09:51I agree with Rebecca
00:09:53Saying that Paul and I was one of the weakest couples
00:09:56I'm struggling with the emotional connection
00:09:59Whatever decision I make today is very important
00:10:04I did this experiment to find love
00:10:06So I'd be good to walk away without it
00:10:09I'm 100% needy of the experts
00:10:13I care very much about Anita
00:10:17But opening up about my emotional feelings has always been a struggle for me
00:10:21My coping mechanism is to put a barrier up
00:10:24And I think that's something that Anita's found hard to break down
00:10:27I'm not too empathetic towards her feelings maybe
00:10:33And it's something I need to improve on
00:10:35Anita has compassion and patience
00:10:38I'm hoping she stays around long enough
00:10:41And work together to build the marriage going forward
00:10:44I have no idea where Anita stands
00:10:46I have no idea if she's going to say stay or leave
00:10:47What do you think about Sarah and Dean?
00:10:55He hasn't said much but I know obviously she said bits to you
00:10:59Oh, she did say she got the ick?
00:11:01Did she? About what?
00:11:03The proper ick
00:11:05That's a bit of a sad one to be fair because he's such a nice lad
00:11:07She said there's no physical attraction there for her at all
00:11:10Yeah
00:11:11There's nothing sexual for her
00:11:17Last night it was harder than I thought it was going to be
00:11:22Yeah, definitely
00:11:24It's hard to see everyone as well, like be lovey-dovey
00:11:27Because I'm the guy like, oh, comparison is the thief of joy
00:11:30I'm not going to compare, but yeah
00:11:32It's definitely a feeling, a lot of feelings yesterday
00:11:35You can't help that naturally
00:11:36Yeah, I won't, but yeah
00:11:38I'd obviously said that I probably would compare
00:11:41It obviously would be the attraction thing, which is for me the hardest bit
00:11:45And last night it was emotional at points, so I think, yeah, today will be the same
00:11:50Last night's dinner party has given me a little bit of a wake-up call
00:11:54Mine and Dean's relationship is not where I would have imagined it to be
00:11:57It is quite hard to see other couples being quite all over each other
00:12:00And Dean and I aren't like that
00:12:02And I think that's making me feel very emotional
00:12:06I'm nervous about it as well
00:12:08Because it's kind of putting everything out there, isn't it?
00:12:10And it is so intense
00:12:12It's only going to get intense, though
00:12:14If we're honest, it can kind of only help
00:12:16I like Sarah
00:12:18I'm optimistic she'll say stay
00:12:20There is reasons that we are matched
00:12:21We're both here to kind of try and make it work
00:12:24So, yeah, I'm confident in that she'll stay
00:12:27We're all wanting to get somewhere within this experiment
00:12:30We're both where we are, we're like, yeah, we need help
00:12:32And that's what they're there for, so hopefully
00:12:35I don't know what the experts could do to help get that spark
00:12:40Looking at the other couples and feeling that, like, you know, sexual energy and sexual spark
00:12:46I mean, that was like flying through the room at one point
00:12:48I genuinely just don't know if we're going to get to it
00:13:18Today is the very first commitment ceremony
00:13:28And we are so excited to start your journeys with you
00:13:33This is where the hard work begins
00:13:37It's imperative that all of you commit to being honest and open
00:13:43Honesty is the key to the success of your marriages
00:13:49You're all here to make a very important decision
00:13:53Whether to stay or leave the experiment
00:13:56A couple can only leave the experiment if both write leave
00:14:02If just one person wants to stay, then the couple must stay in the experiment
00:14:07And continue to work on their marriage
00:14:09Now, David and Joe cannot be here today due to illness
00:14:13But for the rest of you, let's all get down to business
00:14:26Our first couple up to the couch tonight is Grace and Ashley
00:14:29Hey!
00:14:34Come and join us you two!
00:14:36Hello!
00:14:38Hello!
00:14:40Why don't you take us back to the wedding day, Grace?
00:14:43How did you feel leading up to the ceremony?
00:14:46I don't really know what I was expecting
00:14:50I certainly didn't expect it to hit me like the ton of bricks that it did
00:14:54I think I just panicked
00:14:55I was like frustrated with myself and like berating myself
00:14:58And I took myself on a downward spiral
00:15:02Later there was talk of Ash's traditional values
00:15:06And being an old school gentleman
00:15:08And I didn't really know what that meant
00:15:09I love being an independent woman
00:15:11And I just thought it's dead in the water before it even starts
00:15:15How did that feel for you, Ashley?
00:15:17It was like a deer at headlights
00:15:19When sort of Grace was feeling the way she was
00:15:21So that kind of made me spiral a little bit
00:15:23Because I said from the very beginning I wanted to be unapologetically me
00:15:27That's really hard to do when you're the reason she's feeling like she is
00:15:32It's about terminology, isn't it?
00:15:34Yeah
00:15:35Grace, he's old school gent and she thinks
00:15:38I'm not a trad wife
00:15:40I had no idea it would even be taken that way
00:15:43So it completely kind of wiped me off my feet
00:15:45Because I just wasn't expecting it
00:15:47It sounds like that was quite difficult for you
00:15:50And then you went on honeymoon
00:15:53On the honeymoon, okay, so for the first couple of days
00:15:56I'm feeling upset
00:15:58Everything made me on the brink of tears
00:16:00I'm not the most touchy-feely person
00:16:03And in this moment, when I was feeling so overwhelmed
00:16:07And so stressed and so anxious, so vulnerable
00:16:09That not wanting to be touchy-feely
00:16:12It became a huge deal
00:16:15And Ash, in wanting to make me feel better
00:16:17It's like, you okay? You all right?
00:16:21And I was like, it was making me like more and more and more inside myself
00:16:25I was struggling
00:16:28Ash, how was that experience for you?
00:16:32If someone's feeling down, I try and make it better
00:16:33Because the way I flirt, if someone likes you, they're touching you more
00:16:39So I always thought touch was good and let them know that you like them
00:16:43But that wasn't what she wanted or needed
00:16:46And I was kind of making it worse
00:16:48Grace, are you able to direct your own insight back to yourself here on this one
00:16:53And see where that lack of comfort with all the touching comes from?
00:16:58I don't know anyone else like me
00:17:00I don't know anyone else that doesn't really like the feeling of like skin on skin
00:17:04But I do function as an adult, like I'm a midwife
00:17:07I rub people's backs, I hold people's hands
00:17:11But this experiment
00:17:13Okay
00:17:14You're doing great
00:17:19You're doing really good
00:17:21It is confronting
00:17:23Because for me it's normal
00:17:24I've always been this way
00:17:26But then, like looking at everyone else, finding it so easy, so natural
00:17:31You do start to feel like they're the freak
00:17:33You're like, and it's made me question
00:17:36What was I thinking?
00:17:38Why did I think I could come into this?
00:17:41What was, why did I, like it makes me think like
00:17:44What a bizarre thing to do
00:17:46Or maybe it's a brave thing to do
00:17:48Yeah, okay, thanks Paul
00:17:50And also, yeah
00:17:53You know, we all have different levels of comfort with touch
00:17:56And I think what's important here is the two of you can start talking about what those boundaries are
00:18:02On this point, when you both sat here on the couch
00:18:06You, Grace, you were feeling emotional
00:18:08Yeah
00:18:09So Ashley, literally, I just saw him put his hand out like this
00:18:12And he went to touch you and he was like, uh oh, I better not do this
00:18:16I better not do this here
00:18:17And then he goes, it was one of those, oh yeah, cool
00:18:20And I felt for you in that moment
00:18:24Yeah
00:18:25And it's also important for you, Ashley, to be able to say, you know, I'm here for you in this moment
00:18:30Right?
00:18:31That's right, to do it verbally
00:18:32To do it verbally
00:18:34Yeah
00:18:35I'm very verbal as a person anyway
00:18:37If I feel a certain way or I'm upset with something, I just come straight out and say it
00:18:41So hopefully we can sort of just keep going like that
00:18:43So where would you say you guys ended up at the end of the honeymoon compared with where you started?
00:18:50Full 180
00:18:52Tell us about that
00:18:54We just agreed that we couldn't just be strangers and then husband and wife, I guess, had to be friendship first
00:18:59Then it was fun, I was cracking up, I was laughing so much
00:19:02I made a conscious effort when I did feel in a good place to, like, to try and be more affectionate
00:19:09And then I can see that she's making a big effort and I really appreciate it
00:19:13And hopefully she sees the same with the way I'm saying things and sort of that
00:19:18It's quite remarkable, I think, how much progress the two of you have made
00:19:23Ashley, you're showing such patience with this woman you've just met
00:19:27Who's showing behaviours that you don't quite understand
00:19:29And for you, Grace, you are showing incredible bravery
00:19:32Yeah
00:19:33Because you're doing things so differently from how you've done them before
00:19:36So I think it's brilliant that the two of you have come so far already
00:19:42I think we're going to go to a decision
00:19:45Let's start with you first, Ashley
00:19:48So, I honestly feel like we've come so, so far
00:19:52And I can't wait to see how far we can take this
00:19:54And I'm really excited to do the rest of this experiment and see where we go
00:19:58So, I voted to stay
00:20:01Brilliant
00:20:05Good job
00:20:06And to you, Grace
00:20:08I feel really lucky that I got partnered with someone so patient
00:20:12So tolerant, so willing to learn, so open-minded
00:20:16I'm happy to be here and I'm glad that it's with you
00:20:18So yeah, I'm gonna...
00:20:21Okay
00:20:23Yay!
00:20:27Thank you so much
00:20:29This is a really positive journey that you've taken so far
00:20:32Keep doing what you're doing, guys
00:20:33You're off to a good start
00:20:35Thank you so much
00:20:36Thanks, guys
00:20:37Take a seat
00:20:38All right, next up to the couch
00:20:54If we can have Julia Ruth and Devani, come on up
00:21:02Welcome
00:21:04Hello
00:21:05Welcome, how are we doing?
00:21:06Good
00:21:07It is so good for you both to be here
00:21:10Because I have so many questions
00:21:13Can we start with the wedding?
00:21:15Oh my God
00:21:17Magical
00:21:18It was wild
00:21:19Best wedding ever
00:21:20Best wedding ever
00:21:21The vibes were up there
00:21:22So much fun
00:21:23It was just like
00:21:25Damn, this person actually exists
00:21:27I was stupid excited
00:21:28I'm so excited
00:21:30Just the true beauty that I saw in her at the beginning
00:21:32Threw me off
00:21:34That's big
00:21:35And then I'm laughing and I'm snorting and I'm giggling
00:21:37It was a lot of emotions
00:21:38It was really great
00:21:39The energy was so good
00:21:40We were vibing
00:21:41It started
00:21:42All right, next day we go on honeymoon
00:21:44Yes
00:21:45Honeymoon was?
00:21:47Started off great
00:21:48Yes
00:21:49Started off good
00:21:50I think that we arrived in Morocco and that was when it hit me
00:21:58Okay, I'm married
00:21:59So I did like kind of feel overwhelmed
00:22:03And I'm trying to find some joyous moments for us to build some sort of like emotional connection
00:22:09Can you explain that?
00:22:10The physical didn't come naturally
00:22:12So I'm like let's build the we're having so much fun and we're laughing that maybe that comes that way
00:22:19But everything is really heavy and deep
00:22:22It's always intense
00:22:24Can you give an example?
00:22:26Yeah
00:22:27For us
00:22:28So we were on the camels and I asked you what is your like biggest fear?
00:22:34And then you spiraled into the deepest conversation I've ever had in my life which was shocking
00:22:41You went on and you were like it's always just been me always end up in these situations
00:22:45No one's ever gonna love me
00:22:46It's always gonna be me by myself
00:22:47It's all this dark stuff and I'm sitting there and I'm like bro like
00:22:51Can I ask you a question though?
00:22:52Yeah
00:22:53You've just asked about his deepest fear
00:22:57Fears are dark
00:22:59I know that fear is a big word but I'm feeling overwhelmed by the amount of information that is being dumped onto me continuously
00:23:07It feels like trauma dumping
00:23:11We talk about deep stuff so much, there's inappropriate times where I just feel like I want to have fun with you
00:23:17Devani, in that moment, how did you interpret what was happening?
00:23:23Answering that question was very personal to me for sure
00:23:26But it was just me opening up at that moment
00:23:29And I just expressed myself the way I needed to express myself
00:23:34Devani, do you feel clear when the right time is to talk in a deep way and when to kind of have a bit of fun?
00:23:42Do you feel clear in terms of what Julia Roof wants from you?
00:23:45Sometimes when I communicate, it can go on and on and on and on
00:23:50It's just finding that balance of just choosing a pot of information
00:23:54And then maybe I can pick it up and then feed it another time
00:23:57Right, right, alright
00:23:59Vital information missed
00:24:01Obviously had the argument after the camels and it erupted
00:24:05Devani's heightened and jittery and upset
00:24:09And I don't like how you handled that situation
00:24:10You don't back down, you get more intense
00:24:15And you're going at me
00:24:17And you did that last night after the dinner party too
00:24:19And I'm like, whoa, like okay, this isn't gonna work
00:24:24I needed to get things off my chest
00:24:26But you agree though, it was explosive
00:24:28It was a bit explosive, yeah
00:24:29Okay, so that is a major detail
00:24:33So we have two issues of poor communication that happens on the honeymoon
00:24:39And Julia Roof, what you're telling me is that there's many of these
00:24:43So, honeymoon, not so good
00:24:46You come back, you move into the apartment
00:24:49How did you feel about your marriage when you walked into the dinner party?
00:24:53We sat down and had a conversation and we said we're gonna be on the same page at the dinner party
00:24:59So, like if we're getting asked the questions by people
00:25:03How has your, like, time been?
00:25:05The wedding was great, it's been good
00:25:07And it's been really bad
00:25:09But I sit down and talk to people
00:25:11And then when I tell them how the relationship's going
00:25:13They were like, oh, like, that's not what I've heard
00:25:16And I'm like, what do you mean that's not what you've heard?
00:25:18It's been, you've been really good, like, smooth sailing
00:25:20That's why I was very confused, because I go around looking like a dickhead
00:25:24Saying that our relationship's been turbulent
00:25:27And he's saying it's been a hiccup flying
00:25:30Okay
00:25:32That's not even remotely close to what's been going on in our relationship
00:25:37I know that obviously we went through our shit
00:25:40But I was going into the dinner party hopeful
00:25:43You know, I'm curious, you mentioned there was an argument last night
00:25:47What happened after the dinner party?
00:25:48Coming back to the apartment, I did confront that, and I was just getting things off my chest
00:25:54You always say you're getting things off your chest, and it's not fun because you attack me
00:25:57I want us to have the space so we don't yell at each other
00:26:01And that's why I say, go and breathe and come back to me when you can talk to me like a person
00:26:06You don't talk to me like a person, you go at me
00:26:09You don't listen to me, I'm like, should I go to another room?
00:26:13And you're going at me
00:26:14Okay, well then I'm going to go to another room
00:26:17And you get more intense, and more intense, and more intense
00:26:21You get so heightened, and I can't communicate with you
00:26:25I don't like that
00:26:26I don't like that
00:26:41You get more intense, and more intense, and more intense
00:26:44You get so heightened, and I can't communicate with you
00:26:47I don't like that
00:26:54You know what's so interesting about you two?
00:26:57You're the most hot and cold couple in this experiment
00:27:02Wedding, oh my gosh, 10-10 wedding, I can't believe it
00:27:06By the next day, it's like, I don't even know if I want to be with this person, right?
00:27:09So what do you want from this relationship?
00:27:12So what do you want from this relationship?
00:27:16So what I want is a companion, someone that's very supportive, someone that understands me in the whole entirety
00:27:22Obviously having fun, that's what I'm looking for
00:27:25Okay, and you still want that in Julia Ruth?
00:27:29Yes
00:27:30Okay, Julia Ruth, what do you want?
00:27:32I want someone who's gonna go 50-50 or 60-40 at different times with me in terms of energy
00:27:40I don't mind being there for you, I don't mind you unloading to me
00:27:43If anyone, I feel like I've got you
00:27:47Let's also enjoy each other
00:27:49I want to have that feeling of like, we're laughing so hard that the physical intimacy kicks off
00:27:53We don't have that
00:27:55And that's what I said, like, coming back to the apartment
00:27:57I'm very excited because then I can take you out on dates and actually have those memorable moments of actually having fun
00:28:04That's why coming and moving into the apartments was a thrill
00:28:08The other thing, Giovanni, too, is I think what's very important, and I hear Julia Ruth wanting as well, is for you to listen
00:28:15Sometimes listening means, I'm going to take a cool off period
00:28:18Yeah
00:28:19And then during that period, reflecting upon what your partner said, what your partner feels, what their emotion is
00:28:26So therefore, you're coming back in a position where you can actually resolve the conflict
00:28:34You know, I have hope
00:28:36Ultimately, you know what you both said?
00:28:38You want to have someone who will support you
00:28:40And I think that's the place to remain focused on
00:28:43Be each other's support, okay?
00:28:44Can we go to a decision?
00:28:49Devani, why don't you take us away?
00:28:52Julia Ruth, it's been difficult
00:28:54It's been proper difficult throughout this honeymoon
00:28:57But obviously, I'm here for a reason
00:29:02And I do believe in us
00:29:04So my actual decision
00:29:06Is for me to stay
00:29:08Need to stay
00:29:18Um...
00:29:21For me, it's tricky
00:29:24The vibes on the wedding day were unreal
00:29:28I just haven't seen you let your hair loose and just have a fun lighthearted conversation and just have giggles with me and create fun memories
00:29:38I don't need everything to be picked apart and to be deep
00:29:46We do have some good moments and I don't like spending time away from you because I miss you
00:29:50So, I think I have chosen to stay
00:29:53So, I think I have chosen to stay
00:30:03Alright, done, done
00:30:05Thank you, thank you
00:30:06Thank you
00:30:12I think it's going to take a lot of work for Devani and I to fix and restart or mend our relationship
00:30:18I hold on to so dearly the moments from the wedding
00:30:21I want to stay because I'm fighting for those moments
00:30:24I've shared how I felt and I think it's now up to him how he processes the information
00:30:29Next up to the couch
00:30:34Rebecca and Bailey
00:30:39Hello
00:30:45Hello
00:30:47Good to see the two of you
00:30:48Thank you
00:30:50Looking extremely comfortable with one another
00:30:53I'm absolutely loving this
00:30:55Okay, so I'm super keen to hear about your wedding
00:30:59Kind of a roller coaster
00:31:01Okay
00:31:02Initial reaction turning around, stunning, absolutely gorgeous
00:31:05I feel like the only thing, I just couldn't catch a vibe I feel like
00:31:09I was a bit thrown by it
00:31:11Yeah
00:31:12And then throughout the day he kind of just followed on that path for me
00:31:14Just up and down like a yo-yo
00:31:16So it sounds like you were trying to work out, what is she feeling?
00:31:20Yeah
00:31:21And Rebecca, what was the experience like for you?
00:31:24I think I had in my mind I would get to the end of the aisle
00:31:28And there would be massive sparks flying
00:31:31Because that's what I'm used to, like that initial big attraction
00:31:35And we didn't have that
00:31:37I know that for you it's really important to have someone that is very much an alpha male
00:31:43Yeah
00:31:44And that was something that was quite difficult for you
00:31:46On the wedding day I struggled with that because I couldn't see like the real Bailey
00:31:49And I was like, oh my god, is he, you know, am I going to eat him alive?
00:31:53And that made me go into my shell
00:31:57I was crying through the vows, I was very overwhelmed
00:32:00Take me to the honeymoon, did that get any better?
00:32:03It changed everything
00:32:06We really, really got on
00:32:08Yeah, I started talking, laughing, tables started turning
00:32:11I saw him for who he was and I thought, wow, like I can really connect with this person
00:32:16You call me a golden retriever
00:32:18Yeah, he's got golden retriever energy, I've got black cat energy
00:32:21Yeah, we match so well in that way
00:32:23Yeah, so we started to have a little bit of a giggle, like, yeah, a little bit of laugh
00:32:26Which like, I like, I can connect over
00:32:28Bailey is who he is through and through, he doesn't put on a show or anything like that
00:32:33Is there a definition of an alpha man?
00:32:35A hundred percent
00:32:37He knows how to look after me, whilst allowing me to just completely be myself
00:32:42I go to the gym, I can carry my bags, I can do things for myself
00:32:46Bailey takes away anything that he can do, while still making me feel that I'm capable
00:32:53I do like to do the little things, like going at the bar, getting you a drink, carrying your bags
00:32:57Little, just little things, they're only small
00:32:59But because she was like, super independent, I could do everything on my own
00:33:02It kind of felt better when she putting that trust into me and kind of relinquishing a little bit of that independence that she has was nice
00:33:08Well, you say that they're small things, but it sounds like they're small things with a big meaning
00:33:13Yeah, and it's not just, like, little acts of service like that
00:33:17It's like the little glance across the room, or like, the, are you okay?
00:33:21And the, I do it back to him, like, there is a real connection there
00:33:24Yeah
00:33:26Well, I think that helps me to kind of neatly go on to the next question around intimacy
00:33:29So how are things going in the intimacy department?
00:33:33Really?
00:33:35Um, yeah, all good, yeah, really good, yeah
00:33:39Very well matched in that department
00:33:41So, no complaints, I can't stop, yeah
00:33:45Rebecca, do you want to help from here?
00:33:47No
00:33:49No, everything's good on that front, yeah, great
00:33:52Well, I am so excited with this union, and it's just so nice to see the physical affection between the two of you, the way you have each other's back
00:34:01Yeah, we're constantly laughing and joking at home, loads of fun, I mean, I asked for, like, a little bestie, and that's just what I've got
00:34:08Yeah, it's a good feeling, it's, it feels secure
00:34:11So, let's go to the decisions, if we can start with you, Rebecca
00:34:15Yeah
00:34:17From our wedding day, this is, I never ever expected to be in this position now
00:34:23I think more than anything, I just love how you make me feel
00:34:26Yeah
00:34:28So, it's an easy one for me, it's a stay
00:34:32Thank you, Rebecca
00:34:34And Bailey, what's your decision?
00:34:35I'm really enjoying just getting to know you, I love just spending time with you at home, and I'm looking forward to that carrying on
00:34:43So, I've decided to, I'm upside down, but stay
00:34:52So, Rebecca and Bailey, the couple to watch, I'm excited, look forward to seeing you next week
00:34:57Cheers, really appreciate it
00:34:58Cheers
00:35:06Next up to the couch
00:35:11Sarah and Dean
00:35:18Hello, hello
00:35:20Oh there, oh there
00:35:22So, how are we both?
00:35:24Nervous
00:35:25I'm nervous
00:35:26I'm nervous, are you?
00:35:27Yeah, I'm good, no, I'm good
00:35:28Oh, are you good? Oh, that's good
00:35:29Yeah, no, good
00:35:30Okay, so, can we go to the wedding?
00:35:32Mm-hmm
00:35:33So, the moment you saw Sarah, what did you think?
00:35:37Seeing that, I thought, the energy's here, and I was like, she's a beautiful girl as well
00:35:42And I was like, yeah, this is good
00:35:44You would say, physically attractive, check?
00:35:46Yeah, yeah, definitely
00:35:47Sexually attractive?
00:35:48Yeah, I guess, I thought, I could have sex with her
00:35:51Okay
00:35:54But it's important to know, because there is a distinction between the two
00:35:58Yeah, yeah
00:35:59So, okay, Sarah, how did you feel going in to the wedding?
00:36:04I was very nervous, and I think I had envisioned in my head of who was going to be at the end of the aisle
00:36:10And what was that vision?
00:36:11Okay, so, I'll be honest, yeah, um, tall, I love tattoos, so covered in tattoos, probably look like they've just come out of jail, I'm not gonna lie
00:36:27Because that was your quote unquote type
00:36:31Okay, what else?
00:36:32I mean, I do also like a guy that's, like, into fitness and gym
00:36:38So, yeah, I mean, maybe
00:36:42Physical as well
00:36:45It wasn't what I thought it was gonna be
00:36:48Okay
00:36:51I don't wanna hurt your feelings, I'm really sorry
00:36:53Yeah, it's gotta be honest, I promise, you're not gonna hurt my feelings
00:36:55Dean, are you okay?
00:36:57You're literally fine, it's so good, it's so good
00:36:58It's so good, it's so good
00:37:00Okay
00:37:01It was an honest start, we appreciate that
00:37:04So, let's move to the honeymoon
00:37:07Yeah, it was hard, I had a, like, a wobble
00:37:11Because I sing a lot, and, um, you're like, it can get a little bit greater, innit?
00:37:15You're like, yeah, it's a bit
00:37:17Yeah, it was just a lot of random outbursts of singing
00:37:21It was getting just a little bit, I was like, I'm getting, I'm getting irritated by this
00:37:25Okay
00:37:26Because I don't really like sharing my emotions too much
00:37:29But if you listen to the song I'm singing, that's how I'm feeling
00:37:32So I'll be singing, like, a sad song, and if you listen to the words, like, that's how I'm feeling
00:37:36So, are you saying that you were sad during the honeymoon?
00:37:39Uh, yeah, well, I was at a point
00:37:41We had a meal, and we was talking, and I reverted back to, like, the little fat kid at school who's trying to fit in, you know
00:37:47I've not been that so long, because I've built myself up so much, I guess doubts, you know, started coming, and then I was like, oh man, I don't, I don't like this
00:37:57And that was a real low, and that's when I spoke to Sarah about it
00:38:01That's when I was like, let's just enjoy getting to know each other
00:38:06You know what's interesting? I think when there are painful moments, we try to go past them quickly
00:38:11Yeah, probably not
00:38:13You just said something that touches upon a moment in childhood
00:38:17Yeah, yeah
00:38:18Let's give that respect
00:38:19I felt like what?
00:38:21The fat kid, like, back at school
00:38:24And what made you feel that way?
00:38:27Probably feeling like, in all honesty, like a bit of rejection
00:38:31You know, and not feeling like I was enough
00:38:34And what was it that made you feel like you were rejected and not enough?
00:38:40The physical attraction thing is something that kind of, I guess, hits me more than I think it does
00:38:45Yeah, it put my defenses up
00:38:48You know, like, that, I didn't like it
00:38:51Yeah
00:38:53So when you both leave the honeymoon, are you at all optimistic about your marriage?
00:39:00I was super, because like, we get on so well, we're always having a great time
00:39:05And there's no one else I'd rather be with in this
00:39:08For me, I was like, yeah, this could be, like, this could be something
00:39:11Yeah, yeah, 100%, yeah, 100%
00:39:12So were you optimistic at all, Sarah?
00:39:20I was optimistic
00:39:21We have been matched for a reason, and I can see why
00:39:24I think my problem is, people I've dated or been with, I've always had that initial attraction
00:39:29I've always wanted to rip their clothes off and just eat them
00:39:33Just, you know what, that feeling, and I'm really struggling because I don't have that with Dean
00:39:38But then I've got everything else
00:39:39You wanted someone who was going to be funny, you wanted someone who could be a support system for you
00:39:45So Sarah, you feel as if Dean is everything that you need
00:39:50Oh, that's what I said, I said I'm the husband you need, not the one you want
00:39:52And I don't want him to change the sort of, like, I, you know, the singing and the rapping, it did irritate me, it did
00:39:59I mean, the raps and the songs sort of stopped
00:40:01So he's receptive to modifying his behaviour
00:40:05Yeah
00:40:06So what behaviour are you modifying?
00:40:11Is there any modification that you think that you need?
00:40:16I don't know
00:40:18You feel like you're good, you're doing everything appropriately
00:40:21I feel like I'm doing everything okay
00:40:22I think the communication's great, I think the honesty's great as well
00:40:25You're giving it everything, and that's all I wanted
00:40:29Dean, what we've seen here is you kind of rescuing Sarah in this
00:40:33That says a lot about you in terms of the kind-hearted person that you are
00:40:37But I think at the moment, it feels a little bit like, Dean, you're willing to modify behaviour
00:40:43Yeah
00:40:44You're willing to reel in the singing a little bit and the rapping
00:40:47But what we're asking Sarah is, is what are you willing to do?
00:40:51What are you willing to change?
00:40:53I don't know
00:40:55So I've got something for you
00:40:58Oh God, okay
00:41:01You could begin by stopping the disrespect of your husband
00:41:09Let me take you to the dinner party
00:41:10Okay
00:41:12Someone disrespects you
00:41:14What are they doing?
00:41:15Well, they're being rude
00:41:17They're being rude, what else?
00:41:19They're being mean
00:41:21Do you think that you were rude while talking about your partner at the dinner party?
00:41:29Oh, I was gonna get him this
00:41:31I mean, I maybe said you'd given me the ick with some things that you'd said
00:41:36So in other words, you disrespected your husband
00:41:41I get the challenge around physical attraction
00:41:46But where you absolutely lost me is when you went around gossiping about your husband to other people and you were laughing at it
00:41:55Oh, was I?
00:41:57It was a joke
00:41:58I didn't mean to laugh
00:41:59Well, you were
00:42:00Okay
00:42:01And I thought, this man is talking about how lovely his partner is
00:42:05And you are on the other side of the room disrespecting him
00:42:08I don't think I said it that much, did I?
00:42:13You know what? Disrespect
00:42:15I know, I know, I know
00:42:16One iota of disrespect is too much
00:42:17Disrespect is too much
00:42:28You are on the other side of the room disrespecting him
00:42:33I don't think I said it that much, did I?
00:42:36You know what? Disrespect
00:42:37I know, I know, I know
00:42:38One iota of disrespect is too much
00:42:40I'm so sorry
00:42:50I'm sorry
00:42:52These relationships are a two-way street
00:42:55And really what I want you to think about is
00:42:57How can I be considerate to my partner?
00:43:00Yeah, there's no excuse for saying what I said yesterday and I really apologize
00:43:06Dean?
00:43:07Are you okay?
00:43:09It kind of caught me off that
00:43:10Yeah, I know
00:43:12I know, I know, yeah
00:43:16I found yesterday really hard as well, I'm sorry
00:43:20This couch is a very difficult place
00:43:23But it is a place where relationships are broken
00:43:26Or where they grow
00:43:29Now, the physical and sexual attraction
00:43:31It's significant
00:43:33But the best antidote is just to say
00:43:36How can I, every day
00:43:39Work on strengthening my relationship?
00:43:42And as long as you are continuing to make progress
00:43:45Week after week after week
00:43:47Think of where you'll be
00:43:49At the end
00:43:51On that note, I would like to go to a decision
00:43:55Okay
00:43:57And I would love to start with Dean first
00:43:58It's obviously been a proper like emotional time like together like hard and like for like how do we get to that next stage?
00:44:13Because how can I make someone fancy me if they don't?
00:44:18But I do think we have got a good base
00:44:21And I'm hoping it will come now
00:44:23I'm still optimistic
00:44:25I think this could be something special, you know
00:44:27Something different
00:44:29So it is a
00:44:31Stay
00:44:32Thank you so much
00:44:33Sarah
00:44:34This journey has just been so up and down
00:44:48I can see all of the reasons why we've been matched
00:44:50And I really wanted the nice guy and I've got him and I just really want it to work because you're such a nice guy
00:45:03So I have decided to stay
00:45:06Stay
00:45:07Stay, okay
00:45:13We applaud that you're staying and what I would encourage you to do is think about how every day you can develop something that is strengthening your relationship
00:45:25Thank you
00:45:26See you guys, thank you guys
00:45:27Thank you
00:45:43I'm okay
00:45:44I'm okay
00:45:46We're gonna be okay
00:45:48It was really hard to hear what Paul had to say and I apologise and yeah I'm sorry, it's not me. It's not who I am
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00:52:08Lee, what you're tìm ra là
00:52:10Vì vậy, tôi đã tìm ra được tìm ra
00:52:12Vì vậy, tôi đã tìm ra được tìm ra
00:52:14Và tôi đang tìm ra được tìm ra
00:52:16Vì vậy, tôi đang tìm ra được tìm ra
00:52:18Vì vậy
00:52:20Vì vậy, but now
00:52:22The work that you need to do
00:52:24Is how do you
00:52:26Establish a stronger
00:52:28Emotional connection
00:52:30And I think the beauty is that
00:52:32The result is going to be positive no matter what
00:52:34Like it's going to lead to a better understanding
00:52:36Of self, and maybe it just leads to
00:52:38You know what, I'm now
00:52:40Willing to open the door all the way
00:52:42But no matter what, it's going to be
00:52:44A win
00:52:46I think the worry is
00:52:48Like how do we get to the next step
00:52:50This is a popular question
00:52:52How do you get out of the friendzone
00:52:54I find one of the most productive strategies
00:52:56Is to think about
00:52:58How you would behave
00:53:00Outside of the friendzone
00:53:02And just behave like that
00:53:04That's what I've actually been trying to do
00:53:06Like I'm a little bit more
00:53:07Okay, I need to be vulnerable
00:53:08I need to be open
00:53:09I don't even feel like you're necessarily
00:53:10Like going through these paces though
00:53:12Because you are just being
00:53:14Open and vulnerable
00:53:15Yeah
00:53:16But I'm still trying
00:53:17Like I'm trying to be like that
00:53:19If I'm honest
00:53:20I feel like who's more willing to make this work
00:53:22100% me, yeah
00:53:23In my opinion
00:53:24You are making more of an effort
00:53:27Yeah
00:53:28You are being tactile
00:53:29You are doing all of these things
00:53:30And I'm not able to get there
00:53:33Leah, if you were not in the friendzone
00:53:35Mm-hmm
00:53:36What would your relationship look like?
00:53:38I think being more tactile with one other
00:53:41Maybe more flirty with one another
00:53:43Having a snog now and again
00:53:44Okay
00:53:45Okay
00:53:46Everything that you've said that you would need
00:53:49Is what I would be
00:53:50If those natural feelings were there
00:53:53But I've just had a block there
00:53:55It's stopping me from doing it
00:53:57Because I've never wanted to feel like
00:53:58I'm leading Leah on
00:53:59I just don't see it that deep
00:54:01I can have a flare and have a snog now
00:54:03And again, I don't see it that deep
00:54:04Yeah
00:54:05Like, and it's never going to lead me on
00:54:06I overthink it a bit
00:54:07She overthinks, I'm not an overthinker
00:54:10At the end of the day
00:54:12I would encourage you to experiment
00:54:14With what the behavior is
00:54:17To be out of the friendzone
00:54:19Whatever that is, practice that
00:54:22So, let's go to the decision
00:54:24Leah, you'll go first
00:54:28I feel like it has been a tough week for me this week
00:54:32But I'm optimistic
00:54:33And I'm very hopeful
00:54:35I see why we've been matched in so many different ways
00:54:39And I'm happy and grateful of being matched with us
00:54:42So I vote stay
00:54:44I know that I've been a little bit difficult to deal with
00:54:54Because my head's been a little bit all over the place
00:54:59You've been so patient
00:55:01And still thrown yourself into it 100%
00:55:04And been completely vulnerable with me
00:55:06Even when I haven't been able to give that back to you
00:55:08And so that I'm really grateful for
00:55:15Yeah, and I am hopeful to see where it goes
00:55:17So for that reason, I vote to stay
00:55:19Well done to both of you
00:55:27Stop overthinking everything
00:55:29I'm gonna try
00:55:30Right, just be in the moment
00:55:31Thank you so much
00:55:32Thank you
00:55:33Thank you
00:55:34Thank you
00:55:35Thank you
00:55:46Next up to the couch if we can have Anita and Paul
00:55:48I love that
00:55:49Oof
00:55:53Hey guys
00:55:57Hi
00:55:58Hey, hey
00:55:59How are you both?
00:56:00Okay, yeah
00:56:01Yeah, yeah
00:56:02Okay, alright
00:56:03Yeah
00:56:04Let's go to the wedding
00:56:05Anita, what were your thoughts?
00:56:07There was a fun element straight away
00:56:09We kind of laughed nearly all day, didn't we?
00:56:11Yeah
00:56:12Yeah
00:56:13It was a good day
00:56:14Alright
00:56:15Paul, how was the day for you?
00:56:17A bit of excitement
00:56:18Then laughter
00:56:20Conversation was very easy
00:56:22After talking for a while
00:56:24I thought there was potential to build
00:56:26I thought, okay
00:56:28Now it begins
00:56:30Now it begins
00:56:31Alright
00:56:32So you're looking forward to the honeymoon?
00:56:34Yeah
00:56:35I thought we could build from the wedding day
00:56:38Anita
00:56:39Are you looking forward to the honeymoon?
00:56:41Yeah, because he is a fun guy to be around
00:56:44He did make me laugh nearly all day
00:56:46So yeah, going forward
00:56:48I knew we could have a good time
00:56:50So as we go into the honeymoon
00:56:52You begin to investigate shared values
00:56:55Shared outlook on life
00:56:56What did you notice that the two of you shared?
00:56:59So much
00:57:00So much
00:57:01Okay, like what?
00:57:02Got the same values
00:57:03Same values?
00:57:04Yeah, family orientated
00:57:05Okay
00:57:06Same morals
00:57:07Alright
00:57:08It feels like things are good
00:57:10The outside stuff matched us perfectly
00:57:14But when it comes to the inner deep stuff
00:57:16The emotional and the attraction
00:57:18We couldn't be so far apart on the scale
00:57:21Paul's a good talker
00:57:24But when you pin him down to talk
00:57:27He deviates around the relationship side
00:57:30So are you really saying Paul wasn't emotionally connecting with you?
00:57:37No connection, no emotional connection
00:57:41No communication
00:57:42Yeah, just miles apart
00:57:45Okay, okay
00:57:46Okay, okay
00:57:47To be fair, I didn't really give Anita anything emotional to grip onto
00:57:51All my other barriers are down
00:57:52Right
00:57:53All my cards are on the table
00:57:54And I think Anita knows that she saw them
00:57:57I struggle to open up emotionally
00:57:59It's hard for me
00:58:01Paul, when you and I met on a one-to-one
00:58:04I felt like you were quite open
00:58:06So I'm wondering
00:58:07Was there something that you needed in this interaction
00:58:11To have made you feel a little bit more able to open up?
00:58:16I can interact all day
00:58:17I can talk to you all day
00:58:19When it comes to affairs of the heart
00:58:21With the opposite sex in our relationship
00:58:23I'm a different beast
00:58:24That's when he feels a bit difficult to do
00:58:26To open up
00:58:27If he was extremely awkward and difficult, yeah
00:58:29It sounds like on the honeymoon, Anita
00:58:33You were observing Paul in terms of his emotional availability
00:58:37You have placed him in this box
00:58:40But it sounds like you've permanently placed him in the box
00:58:43Because everyone can become emotionally available
00:58:48Did you feel like because he's not bringing that to the table now
00:58:53I want nothing to do with him?
00:58:56No
00:58:57I put him in that box because
00:58:59He said he wasn't in that head space
00:59:02To be available
00:59:04He's on a self-discovery journey
00:59:06And I'm on a love journey
00:59:07So until he's discovered himself
00:59:10And found out what he actually really needs in his life
00:59:12Are those two mutually exclusive?
00:59:14They're on different paths
00:59:16Are they, Anita?
00:59:20I have no idea
00:59:21What we're saying is that the two can exist together
00:59:25So you can be on a journey to find love
00:59:28And you can also find yourself on that journey as well
00:59:31Go ahead
00:59:32Okay, alright
00:59:33Honeymoon is done
00:59:35Yep
00:59:36You move into the apartments
00:59:37Ish
00:59:38Ish
00:59:39Ish
00:59:40For about ten minutes
00:59:41What happened?
00:59:42Went into the apartments
00:59:44And I just thought
00:59:46I just don't know if I can do this
00:59:48The thing that tipped me over the edge
00:59:50It was like a make or break thing in my head
00:59:52It was just like
00:59:53Paul, what's the name of my two children?
00:59:55And he just went
00:59:58That was the communication thing
01:00:00And the lack of interest in me
01:00:02Was kind of like, well...
01:00:04And was that because Paul hadn't asked you the names of your children?
01:00:10I've spoke about my children
01:00:11I've actually said the names
01:00:12Right
01:00:13The grandchildren as well
01:00:14I've spoke about them
01:00:15So you felt like Paul just wasn't listening to you
01:00:18And because he wasn't listening, he wasn't truly interested in you
01:00:21Yeah
01:00:22Okay
01:00:23In my brain
01:00:25There's no real point of pursuing it
01:00:27Okay
01:00:28That's interesting
01:00:29So Paul, what's your take?
01:00:30I have my children's tattoos, names and dates of birth on my arm for a reason
01:00:34So I can't remember nothing
01:00:36I talk constantly
01:00:37And I put all my cards on the table
01:00:39Because that's how I operate
01:00:41I volunteer the information
01:00:43How Anita operates is she likes to be asked the information
01:00:51So
01:00:52At the end of the day
01:00:54Why are you here?
01:00:55To find love
01:00:57But what does that mean to you?
01:00:59A partner in crime
01:01:02Somebody to walk alongside us
01:01:04Still be holding hands when we're 80
01:01:06Somebody who's there for you
01:01:10Now Paul
01:01:11What do you want?
01:01:17Invariably I want to find a partner
01:01:19I want to find love
01:01:20I want to cry with somebody to laugh at someone
01:01:24So how is what you just said Paul
01:01:27And what you just said Anita different?
01:01:30In terms of what you're looking for?
01:01:32Or is it the same?
01:01:34I want love
01:01:35Is what you described what Paul just described?
01:01:39Yeah
01:01:40Okay, so what's the problem?
01:01:43Ultimately you both said you want to have someone who will support you
01:01:47And I think that's the place to remain focused on
01:01:50Is be each other's support
01:01:55Can we go to a decision?
01:01:56Need it?
01:01:57Poor the lovely man
01:02:01He's the gentleman I asked for
01:02:02He really is attentive
01:02:03I'm totally saying why
01:02:04You matched us all
01:02:05But I still feel that I'm missing something
01:02:06So for that reason
01:02:11I won't leave
01:02:12I won't leave
01:02:13I won't leave
01:02:14I won't leave
01:02:16I can't get you
01:02:17I can't get you
01:02:18I can't get you
01:02:22I can't get you
01:02:23I think that's it
01:02:24I wish I could get you
01:02:25But I still feel that I'm missing something
01:02:26Tại vì thế này, tôi sẽ quay lại.
01:02:45Tôi sẽ quay lại.
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01:08:58And then,
01:08:59y look at yourself and you say,
01:09:00you know what, I'm not worthy
01:09:01to have a great relationship.
01:09:03And we also place people on pedestals.
01:09:06And that's what you're doing.
01:09:07You're saying,
01:09:08I'm not worthy to be
01:09:09with someone that perfect.
01:09:14You need to love on yourself more.
01:09:16Oh.
01:09:17You do.
01:09:19Oh.
01:09:24What do you do
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01:12:26Để không bicker, nó đã bị dễ dàng rất là.
01:12:29Chúng ta đã rất nhiều.
01:12:30Chúng ta đã rất là một sự thật sự thật.
01:12:32Chúng ta có thể dành, có một sự thật sự thật,
01:12:35chúng ta có rất giữ với nhau.
01:12:38Chúng ta đã chẳng hạn.
01:12:41Nhưng tôi luôn nghĩ,
01:12:43chứ, khi nào có chuyện gì đó đi ra?
01:12:47Chúng ta có thể là một part của bạn
01:12:49nghĩ rằng đó là một sự thật sự thật.
01:12:51Chúng ta có thể thật.
01:12:53Chúng ta đang chẳng hạn để điều đó hả,
01:12:54And then it freaks me out a little bit that it hasn't.
01:12:58Why aren't we arguing?
01:12:59Why haven't you irritated me?
01:13:01Why haven't I irritated you?
01:13:03I end up trying to look for something.
01:13:06So for example,
01:13:08I love how affectionate you were on our honeymoon.
01:13:12And then I'd come back to the apartment
01:13:14and I would kind of think,
01:13:16he's not giving me a kiss this morning.
01:13:18And then I'd get in my head and think,
01:13:19yeah, it's because he doesn't like you.
01:13:20And then he will give me a kiss and I'll think, oh that was nice, he does like me.
01:13:26And it's just constant.
01:13:28And I even feel, saying this now, I'm thinking, oh my God, this is going to give him the ick and it's going to push him away.
01:13:48It's just constant.
01:13:49And I even feel, saying this now, I'm thinking, oh my God, this is going to give him the ick and it's going to push him away.
01:14:01Do you know why you do that?
01:14:02No.
01:14:03Your last three relationships, how did those end?
01:14:09They all cheated on me.
01:14:10Right.
01:14:12So they betrayed your trust.
01:14:15Whenever our trust is betrayed over and over again, we develop what's called a hypervigilance for red flags.
01:14:26Because you have to learn to protect yourself.
01:14:28Okay.
01:14:28So you now are in this mode of self-protection.
01:14:33But you know what the problem is when you're just looking for red flags?
01:14:36I don't see the green ones.
01:14:37Miss all the beautiful green ones.
01:14:39Yeah.
01:14:39And so the best advice I can give on this is become hypervigilant about green flags.
01:14:48Okay.
01:14:49Retrain your brain.
01:14:51And that's how you do it.
01:14:53Obviously on the reassurance piece, it comes out a little bit harder for me.
01:14:55I get frustrated myself because I know I should give a lot more.
01:14:58Exactly.
01:14:59Yeah.
01:14:59I was going to say this.
01:15:00You have to actually say it.
01:15:03And it's very important for you to be consistent.
01:15:05And what you know is that you do have to reassure and you have to do that consistently.
01:15:11Nelly, at the dinner party yesterday, we saw you get quite emotional when it came to the honesty box and you worrying about being too much.
01:15:23I just kind of worry that if I show too much emotion, like in my last relationship, I would be too emotional sometimes.
01:15:30Or if I get tearful, it was, oh, for God's sake, you're crying again.
01:15:33Sometimes I think I shouldn't give those emotions because what if that happens again?
01:15:37And then, yeah, the tears kept leaking from my face.
01:15:40I really applaud the fact that you did that.
01:15:43And I could see that that wasn't an easy thing for you to do.
01:15:46I would like to also say, though, that it is really important for you to be kinder to yourself.
01:15:51And I would encourage you to acknowledge that, actually, it's all right to show emotion if there's a lot more about your ex-partners that they weren't able to hold that.
01:16:03What I'm seeing here is that Stephen can.
01:16:07He can be there for you.
01:16:08And we're seeing that right now.
01:16:09Yeah.
01:16:10I feel it.
01:16:12I do.
01:16:13Thank you.
01:16:14I'm sorry.
01:16:15Tell me.
01:16:15What are you like?
01:16:16Trying to poke in your ass?
01:16:17I don't know.
01:16:19Stephen, how is it for you to hear Nelly be so vulnerable yesterday?
01:16:25In a weird sense, it's pleasing.
01:16:28Obviously, I never want to see the person I'm with cry.
01:16:31It shows that she cares.
01:16:32It shows that she's willing to be vulnerable.
01:16:33But I've kept little memories and little moments to then, on those random days where maybe she's feeling a little bit too much in her head, to be like, well, look, here's what this week's meant to me.
01:16:45Here's our, like, week in a small little bag.
01:16:47The reassurance I'll give, I like to do it through action and not purely through words all the time.
01:16:51She walked in the other day in her head a little bit and, of course, picked her up, gave her a kiss, you know, like, and sort of not wrestling to the ground.
01:16:57Tapping me to the floor, but I loved it.
01:16:58That's what I want.
01:16:59It's fun.
01:17:00It's playful.
01:17:00I want stuff like that.
01:17:02You two sound like you're falling for each other.
01:17:04You can definitely say you're on the path for that because there's been nothing wrong.
01:17:07So you're on the path?
01:17:09Yeah, you're on the path.
01:17:09Yeah, 100%.
01:17:10I am.
01:17:11I'm just going to have to say it.
01:17:12I probably would say I feel like I'm a little bit more ahead of Stephen.
01:17:15And I'll agree to that because she's allowed herself to be vulnerable.
01:17:18So she's taken those extra couple of steps.
01:17:20I haven't yet.
01:17:21Yeah.
01:17:21So until I make that step and jump ahead, then we can start walking like hand in hand again.
01:17:28Can we go to a decision?
01:17:30Well, I am really grateful to have been matched with you in this process.
01:17:36And I love being around you.
01:17:38I am looking forward to doing this journey with you.
01:17:41And I really want to know a little bit more about you.
01:17:45So I'll put stay.
01:17:47Stay.
01:17:48Stay.
01:17:48And Stephen, what's your decision?
01:17:54It's leading the right direction for me.
01:17:56And I'm saying I'm fully committed to opening up a little bit more.
01:17:58But, yeah, I'm fully in.
01:18:01I've been fully in since I see you in that dolly.
01:18:03So, yeah, for me, it's 100% stay with a little smiley face.
01:18:07I put smiley as well.
01:18:08Thank you.
01:18:13I think the two of you just made for each other.
01:18:15I'm so excited to see where this goes.
01:18:18And we wish you all the best for the rest of the week.
01:18:20Thank you.
01:18:20I appreciate it.
01:18:21Yeah, thank you so much.
01:18:22Thank you.
01:18:27I'm really glad that actually Paul highlighted what I'm doing because I knew I was doing it, but I didn't know how to stop it.
01:18:34Thank you.
01:18:35That's fine.
01:18:35100% I'm going to be focusing on the green flags more.
01:18:39I feel better.
01:18:40Yeah, I feel more reassured already.
01:18:41Next time...
01:18:47Hello!
01:18:48..it's Experts Week.
01:18:50Do I have permission to remove your own?
01:18:52..while some couples lean into physical intimacy...
01:18:54Ooh, I hope you know where the key is to that.
01:18:57..Anita's patience with Paul wears even thinner.
01:19:00Surely you should know what you want by now.
01:19:01Are you expecting me to be fully committed after two weeks?
01:19:04I need to know where this relationship's going.
01:19:07No, I'm not hanging around.
01:19:08..and an unwanted interference in one couple's marriage.
01:19:12Other people don't need to know much shit because you'll see a side of me which probably you won't like.
01:19:18I'm not having you told that I was trying to come to a new relationship.
01:19:21I'm not.
01:19:21Couldn't give a flying fuck if I'm completely honest.
01:19:23I'm here for my relationship.
01:19:24..causes two husbands to collide.
01:19:26All the people just, uh, basically just fuck off.
01:19:30You're not part of this relationship, so see yourself out.
01:19:38..ahhh..
01:19:42..so..
01:19:55..aww..
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