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00:00Previously on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
00:03You know, you did just in L.A.
00:04Lance said he got a call saying he needed to get back.
00:08He had a baby on the way in labor.
00:10Do you think in the beginning it affected our relationship at all?
00:14Well, hell, it must have for you to sit here next to me.
00:17So you must be feeling some type of way.
00:20I feel like sometimes you two are not transparent.
00:24Okay.
00:25Y'all talk about my family, what's going on with my family, my grandkids.
00:28Yeah, we will.
00:28But when I asked, okay, that's what I'm saying.
00:31I need you to be transparent.
00:32I am transparent.
00:33Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.
00:34Bled has been going around saying Maurice and Marcel told Martel to get chicks to sign NDA.
00:40No, no, no, no.
00:41Okay, you sure he said this?
00:42Martel said, you know, some guy said to get a girl to sign NDA, you don't have to worry about that type stuff.
00:47And I said, you talking lawyer talk, maybe you need to talk to Maurice or Marcel.
00:52Chris, you're welcome.
00:54Let's talk about the NDA.
00:55Put your liquid courage hand over there.
00:59Hey, hey, T, T.
00:59We're supposed to be going somewhere with this friend.
01:02Yeah, yeah, yeah.
01:02Let's walk, let's walk, let's walk.
01:04We keep it moving.
01:09All day, all night.
01:11Yeah.
01:12Ain't no stopping.
01:13Drop that.
01:15We ain't stopping.
01:17You know, you know.
01:19We keep it moving.
01:25All day, all night.
01:27Yeah.
01:27Yeah.
01:28Yeah.
01:28All day, all night.
01:32Yeah.
01:33Ain't no stopping us.
01:37Yeah.
01:37Yeah.
01:37Oh, Jesus.
02:03This boy, he need to, like, plant some flowers.
02:07Hey, hey.
02:09Hey.
02:10What's up, mama?
02:11How you doing?
02:12What are you doing in here?
02:13Waiting on you.
02:14Boy, you need to lean up out there.
02:16Your flowers and stuff.
02:18I know you probably ain't got me no snacks.
02:20You probably ain't got no wine.
02:22You probably ain't got nothing up in here, do you?
02:24Nah, you know, I don't really have time these days.
02:26The last time I came to see you, you ain't had nothing.
02:29What is this you got out here?
02:30My excedrin.
02:31What you going through?
02:32I ain't going through nothing.
02:33Look here.
02:34Headache every now and again.
02:35I can't be over here.
02:37Look at you.
02:38Won't buy nothing.
02:39I always grab it.
02:40I ain't always grab it.
02:42I just want to see them help you out.
02:45So I'm visiting Lance today just to check in on him
02:49to see how he's doing mentally and physically,
02:52being that he's this single dad and he's juggling a lot right now.
02:57So how are you doing?
02:59Um, it's been an adjustment period, right?
03:03Although I have three kids, I'm not used to being, it's like everything is on me.
03:09My mom has been a big help and of course my dad has too.
03:12Early on, um, I, when the baby was born, I was staying with them.
03:16So I decided to go back home and things have been good.
03:19But of course, mom being mom, she's a little concerned about my wellbeing.
03:23When she's up at two in the morning, she wakes up, I'm making the balls.
03:27If her stomach's upset, if I got to go to the ER, whatever the case, that's all on me.
03:32And still knowing that I own a construction company, 6 AM, 7 AM, Lance, you better be up
03:39and on your feet because your employee's calling you.
03:42So, and I think I'm doing good, but mentally and physically, emotionally, I'm drained.
03:47I'm tired.
03:48But as a, as a father, as a parent, you know, you have to make those sacrifices.
03:53And that's what I tell myself each and every night.
03:56Okay, so would it help, like, if we go back to maybe I get her two days on,
04:03to give you two days off?
04:06I think it'll help me, but I don't know if it'll help her, mom.
04:09I think she has gotten so used to being up under me to where it's going to be an adjustment period for her.
04:15And I don't think I, I don't want to do that to her.
04:18How do you think it would work if I just stay here maybe two nights out the week?
04:24That way she's, she's still in the house here.
04:27I would definitely love the help, but I feel like you need to probably mention this to dad first.
04:34You know, just so that he is included in it.
04:38If I cannot, as your mother at my grown ass age, and your dad at his grown ass age,
04:47be separated for two days but been married for 30 years, that's a problem to begin with.
04:53We've overcome bigger than this.
04:56Infidelity, finances.
04:59This here is small.
05:01Two days, it's not the end of the world. He be fine.
05:05I feel like my mom doesn't feel like she needs to have that conversation with my dad simply because I've heard her say with my own ears,
05:11I've been married to this man for 30 some odd years, he better get with the program.
05:14And I believe the program in her eyes is her.
05:17Well, Destiny reached out to me.
05:21She called.
05:22And it was like, you could have told me.
05:26And I'm like, what?
05:27Your, your, your grand baby?
05:29Your new grand baby?
05:30I mean, but that's a bit, like, excessive.
05:33I mean, this is how the conversation went.
05:35And I was like, well, Destiny, I don't feel like I owe you .
05:40And I didn't have to tell you .
05:43Hell, y'all was flirting with?
05:45My God, son.
05:46Torn.
05:47But you're supposed to be dating Lance?
05:48I was confused.
05:49I ain't no hell if y'all was together, not together.
05:51I, I didn't know.
05:52What has Lance told you about Destiny?
05:54Um, he just said, you know, that, you know, she's a nice lady.
06:00Um, we don't talk about his relationship.
06:03He's like, no, she's, she's a nice lady.
06:05I like hanging out with her.
06:06He calls her lady?
06:07She's, she, she's fun.
06:08She is, because I am one.
06:09She has a lot of energy.
06:10She likes to do fun things.
06:12That's what I know.
06:13Do you feel like you owe her an explanation?
06:15Uh, explanation? No.
06:18Do I feel like I owe her a conversation?
06:20A conversation?
06:21Yes.
06:22I think maybe just a sit down.
06:25Give her the, uh, opportunity to ask me some things.
06:30I guess if, if the shoe was on the other foot,
06:32I'd probably have a few questions.
06:34Being, I don't think I'd be upset, but I think...
06:36You wouldn't be upset?
06:37No.
06:38I wouldn't be upset because, again, Destiny made it very clear
06:41that she, she was not looking for anything serious
06:45and everything was casual.
06:47What is it about Lance that made you want to pursue dating?
06:51Um, Lance had, and I have had this crazy type of chemistry for years.
06:56But do you, do you see yourself being in a relationship with Lance?
06:59Right now I'm dating, and I'm happy with dating.
07:01And the fact that she, I mean, let's just call it for what it is.
07:05Uh, Destiny kind of played in my face a little bit.
07:09So I wouldn't be upset because it's like, I know what it is.
07:12I know what it is.
07:13We're two individuals.
07:15She thinks I'm attractive.
07:16I think she's very attractive, right?
07:18But at the end of the day, I mean, what is that, really?
07:21We spent some time together.
07:23We went on a couple of dates, right?
07:25Casual dating.
07:26Hey.
07:27Hey.
07:28How are you?
07:29This is cute.
07:30Isn't it?
07:31Yeah.
07:32How'd you find this spot?
07:33I went to this coffee shop down here, just walking one day and I'm like, oh.
07:57Well, I like it.
07:58Yeah.
07:59I like it.
08:00What you got cooking?
08:01Nothing.
08:02Well, we need more retail therapy to clear our mind
08:05because we're working on so many different things.
08:07Sometimes you just need a little girlfriend time.
08:09OK.
08:10Musa.
08:11OK.
08:12Yeah.
08:13So today, I invited Kimmy and Destiny to check out
08:16this new boutique here in Hotsfield because at the end of the day,
08:19yeah, I love to shop.
08:20And I love these girls.
08:22So this is a win-win for me, shopping with my favorite girls.
08:26You can get lost in work.
08:27Because Marzo, I've always said to them,
08:29I feel like black is your house.
08:31Like, you're always there.
08:33You eat there.
08:34You work there.
08:35Like, this is his schedule.
08:36He's working at black.
08:37And he's going to check on the different job sites.
08:39And he'll come home, take a shower.
08:40Go back to black.
08:41Go back to black.
08:42Hello.
08:43Oh, hey, girl.
08:44Hey, girl.
08:45Jill, how are you?
08:46That's cute.
08:48You look cute.
08:49Love is in the air.
08:50Look at Jill.
08:51Love is in the air.
08:52Boy, it's been a minute.
08:54Just a little bit.
08:55Well, what you been up to?
08:57You been M.I.A.
08:58Well, you know, sorry I missed your dinner.
09:02That part.
09:03I had my TikTok live.
09:05I saw that part.
09:06Oh, congratulations.
09:08I saw that part.
09:12So I was busy.
09:13Real busy.
09:14A live sales is a television infomercial,
09:15but on the interweb.
09:17Being introduced to this live sales world
09:19has been just a beautiful opportunity for e-commerce
09:22with Madani to grow.
09:23So it worked out like you wanted?
09:25And then too.
09:26And more?
09:27Well, that's dope.
09:28It's either going to eat at Kimmy's
09:29or making some money.
09:30So, hey, um, social events are important
09:33because you want to continue to build
09:34and keep your relationships going.
09:35But making money as a single mom
09:37is number one on my priority list.
09:39Here's the thing.
09:40Oh, yeah.
09:41I think that we need to start hanging out
09:43more with everybody.
09:44Yes.
09:45And that was what the dinner was about.
09:46Oh.
09:47My dinner was literally...
09:48Well, I know them have it,
09:49so I don't need to see them.
09:50Oh, well, you know Nell better than me.
09:52That was damn near your mom-in-law.
09:54So I guess...
09:55Oh, yeah, it was.
09:57At Trisha's party, Nell said
09:59that when we were at dinner,
10:01she asked Tisha about the video,
10:04the podcast thing,
10:05and Tisha didn't want to answer the question.
10:07What podcast thing?
10:08Her and Marceau.
10:10Kimmy and Leticia.
10:12Mm-hmm.
10:13So how do you two ladies feel about
10:15what Markel said about your husbands?
10:17Man, my husband did a live,
10:19so if you want to know how I feel about
10:20I'm gonna go watch the live.
10:22She was saying that when she asked the question,
10:25she wanted Tisha to talk about it right then.
10:27Oh, yeah.
10:28And so Tisha's reply was,
10:30I said it all on the podcast.
10:32Like...
10:33What do I need to say?
10:35I think being transparent
10:36is being forthright with information
10:38that you're not asked.
10:40I have no idea what Nell is referring to
10:43when she said we're not being transparent.
10:45Maybe Nell should lead by example.
10:47Maybe she should tell us all the tea on her and Chris
10:53and be transparent about that.
10:55Chris said something about maybe Marceau and Maurice
10:58get people to sign NDAs.
11:00Oh, yeah.
11:01At Trish's birthday party,
11:02we was like, what was that about?
11:04And so Nell was like,
11:05well, y'all can go talk to Chris about it.
11:07And so she said I was in his face.
11:09Oh.
11:10She said I got in his face.
11:11Oh, she in his face.
11:12She was...
11:16She was headed that direction.
11:18She went...
11:21She was headed that direction.
11:22Okay, since Chris is out here
11:24trying to throw rocks at our house,
11:26let me just toss something over there
11:28at their glass house.
11:29Like, why are you saying stuff about us
11:31when you know your house is easily breakable?
11:35Let's just stop playing around with people's marriages
11:37because that is something that...
11:39It's not a joke.
11:40It's not something to play around with.
11:41If you want to go for somebody
11:43and go below the belt,
11:44like, let's not do the kids and marriages.
11:46Let's just stop that.
11:47Never been my thing.
11:48That's a good point.
11:49As adults...
11:50You got to say that.
11:52Why do we have to have this conversation?
11:53You seem like that's not something you have to say.
11:55Right!
11:56Like, I have to say to you, like,
11:57mm, let's not talk about that.
11:58It's crazy that we have to do that.
11:59Mm, let's not do that.
12:00This is the thing that you can't with adults
12:03is expect them to be you.
12:06At the end of the day,
12:07if you've conveyed what you wanted to convey
12:08and they don't move forward,
12:11that's something that we can't control.
12:12You got to do your part.
12:13And change behavior.
12:14Like, people can apologize for stuff and then...
12:16Man, I had that conversation with Martel.
12:18It's my cue to go look for a dress.
12:21This is gonna be your energy
12:22every time we talk about people in a group
12:24that you don't like.
12:25Probably.
12:26Oops.
12:29Coming up on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
12:32It was quite interesting seeing you and Tisha
12:34go back and forth after the conversation
12:36we just had with you ladies.
12:38Don't judge me.
12:40She's the one all up in my husband's face.
12:43If we're there every single time something happens,
12:47when will you ever be able to take or handle
12:51the real responsibilities of an adult?
12:54And change behavior.
12:58Like, people can apologize for stuff
12:59and then continue to do the same thing.
13:01Man, I had that conversation with Martel.
13:03It's my cue to go look for a dress.
13:05Is this gonna be your energy
13:06every time we talk about people in a group
13:08that you don't like?
13:09Probably.
13:10Probably.
13:11Well, um...
13:13How do we move forward?
13:14I don't know.
13:15Like, say the tables would turn.
13:18And say Tisha said,
13:19well, I just don't want you hanging out with him
13:21because he's really disrespected me at this point.
13:23Like, how would that look?
13:25Because being the middle person in the middle of that,
13:28how does that look at the end of the day?
13:31Well, I'm not in the middle.
13:34I'm an individual.
13:35Hardest part is that I wouldn't know either of y'all
13:37if it wasn't for Martel.
13:38That's true. I don't disagree with that.
13:40That's the hardest part.
13:41I've always had a stance on his behavior
13:45with whomever it may be.
13:47So it is a hard place that I've always seemed to be stuck in.
13:50And honestly, I don't speak on what he got going on with them
13:55or what they have going on with him.
13:57And that's the best thing that I could do at this point.
13:58That is.
13:59And me holding him accountable if he comes to me with something dumb,
14:03which is all the time.
14:04Like, he was telling me about now he's moving forward with Arion
14:09and he was saying all this stuff about Lance and...
14:13Have y'all talked?
14:14You and Lance.
14:15We have not.
14:16No?
14:17Still?
14:18No.
14:19What is the deal with that?
14:20I don't know.
14:21I ran into him and he would not even make eye contact.
14:24I ran into Lance and he couldn't even make eye contact with me.
14:28And I'm thinking, put your big boy pants on and say what it is.
14:34Like, he was, like, scared.
14:36Well, maybe he feels so bad that he's like, damn,
14:39I don't know what to say.
14:41It seems like the least that he could have done
14:44is have a conversation.
14:45Because, honestly, Lance and I have been friends for years.
14:49Tell me that's what's going on.
14:51Or at least that you think that you're about to have a kid.
14:54I don't know. I'm not for sure.
14:55But, honestly, he started moving weird.
14:58Now I understand why he was moving weird.
15:01I talked to Chris and they were, like,
15:03they were equally as surprised.
15:05Nailed.
15:06Well, she said they found out when we was in L.A., right?
15:08That's when they found out about the baby.
15:09That's right. They did leave early when we were in L.A.
15:11Yeah.
15:12Were y'all still actively dating at that time?
15:15Because, in all fairness, by the time we got to the vow renewal,
15:19y'all kind of didn't seem like the same...
15:22Oh, it was a little issue with the vow renewal.
15:24I mean, I'm just saying, well, the issue came from Kimmy.
15:27No, it wasn't darling.
15:29Yes, it was, darling.
15:30I'm darling.
15:31No.
15:32How you doing?
15:33He just met you up, son. He's so handsome.
15:34Yeah, he's tall. He didn't get that from dad.
15:36He's cute. He got that from dad.
15:38Oh, yeah? You think so?
15:40I think you think a lot of people here are cute.
15:42Uh-oh.
15:43Do I?
15:44Yeah.
15:46You think Nell told him about what Kimmy said,
15:49the googly eyes at your face?
15:51Nell was sitting there.
15:52Kimmy always starts .
15:53That's Nell telling her son that ain't got nothing to do with me.
15:56But you made it a moment, Missy.
15:58The googly eyes statement had him in his feelings.
16:02The googly eyes had him in his feelings.
16:04Well, no, but the googly eyes was called out by who?
16:07Were you there?
16:08Well, who did the...
16:09Were you there?
16:10Who did the googly eyes?
16:11My eyes are always googly.
16:12No, no, ma'am.
16:13No, no.
16:14No, no, no.
16:15We saw the googly eyes.
16:16Listen.
16:17We saw the googly eyes.
16:18Can I ask you a question?
16:19You have eyes.
16:20You saw that man.
16:21And?
16:22And he's fine.
16:23I didn't bat my eyes at him.
16:24I didn't bat my eyes at him either.
16:26You perceived that to be the case.
16:28And I promise you that wasn't the energy that I was given.
16:31When we're talking and we're sitting in the moment,
16:34and someone says,
16:35Girl, why are you batting your eyes at that man?
16:37And you say,
16:39She don't feel no kind of way because I wasn't batting my eyes at him, Kimmy.
16:42Shut her down. Shut her down is what you said.
16:43Right.
16:44That's what you say when you didn't do it.
16:45What did I say?
16:46You said,
16:47What you talking about, Kimmy?
16:48I'm just dating.
16:49I'm dating.
16:50I can do what I want to do.
16:51I can do what I want to do.
16:52I can do what I want to do.
16:53That's not what I said.
16:55That's not what I said.
16:56100%.
16:57Whatever.
16:58If you want to know, six months later, if you would like to say, Kimmy, Kimmy, Kimmy,
17:03I didn't bat my eyes at the guy, then I hear you.
17:06But in the moment, Destiny, Tisha, and I have come a long way in this wonderful friendship
17:12that we have.
17:13We've gotten to know each other very well.
17:16It takes a good group of girls to be able to get past some of the hiccups we've had in
17:20the past.
17:21In that moment, I was not making googly eyes.
17:23And if I was, I'm a single woman and was single then.
17:26And that's what you said.
17:28And that was my stance.
17:29And that's what you said.
17:30That's still my stance.
17:31And me being single.
17:32If that tall tree wanted to take me out, I'll go.
17:38Coming up on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
17:41I had no idea she was going to get her ass up and go over there and do the most.
17:46But you still got to try.
17:48Because I ain't got to be .
17:50I got some really great news.
17:53I ended up getting a, uh, a very lucrative job offer.
18:13Hi, gorgeous.
18:14Hey, boo-hoo-hoo.
18:16Oh, good to see you.
18:20I had so much fun at your birthday party.
18:24I wanted to ride that bull.
18:26Me too, but I could never find the attendant.
18:28Trish, you didn't want to ride that bull.
18:30I've done it before.
18:32Can't.
18:33No, I'm just kidding.
18:34No, I've done it right now.
18:35I'm saying.
18:36That's a lot of goddamn bull.
18:39So today I'm going to catch up with Trish.
18:42I'm so glad she invited me out with everything I have going on between work and the grandbabies
18:48and the hubby.
18:50So I can't wait to catch up with Trish.
18:52And that was my first time in Entice.
18:54Oh, no.
18:55I love Entice.
18:56Yes, that was my first time.
18:58The booth, like, everything you could, like, see throughout the whole club.
19:02Yeah.
19:03Oh, I love Entice.
19:04It's a vibe.
19:05I definitely want to go back.
19:06Let me, you, Fletch, and Ken go back.
19:07Yes, we should.
19:08Yes.
19:09But I'm glad you enjoyed it, even though I know you had some moments.
19:12Yeah.
19:13It was quite interesting seeing you and Tisha go back and forth after the conversation
19:17we just had with you ladies at the dinner.
19:20Child, I don't know where she got all that big D in trouble.
19:23No!
19:26I love it!
19:30Not the big D energy!
19:32I guess she longed it for destiny.
19:35Boy, the child, she did it.
19:37Yes, she did the most.
19:40She did the most, but I ain't having it.
19:43I'm not having it.
19:44As you should not.
19:45This ain't what she want.
19:46I'm telling you.
19:47As you should not.
19:48Mm-mm.
19:49She keeps repetitively doing to me.
19:52She ought to comment on everything.
19:54But when you say something about her, it's, oh, no.
19:59I don't know what you're talking about.
20:01I mean.
20:02Your whole description is perfect.
20:04It started last year with my birthday party.
20:06I'm feisty.
20:07Nell likes to get up in people's face.
20:09These girls are feisty, especially Nell.
20:12Because they give you a hard ass time.
20:15But you know what?
20:16At the end of the day, you know, y'all make us better.
20:18Why would you say I'm feisty?
20:20Because you're feisty.
20:21Well, you don't think you feisty?
20:23No, I do not.
20:25Don't judge me.
20:26She's the one all up in my husband's face.
20:29And I feel some type of way about that.
20:31Oh, my God.
20:32Yes.
20:33She was like, why did you say those things about my husband and Marcel and Maurice?
20:39And I'm like, she's doing too much.
20:42And she just started doing this right here in his face.
20:46Don't do that.
20:47She crossed the line.
20:48She went too far.
20:49For the most part, I don't get that from Tisha.
20:52Her delivery can be like, wait a minute now.
20:54Pipe down before both of our delivery go crazy.
20:57But I don't know.
21:00I guess this is the relationship she has with Nell.
21:03Because I really don't get that.
21:05I had no idea she was going to get her ass up and go over there and do the most.
21:10If she had jumped up in Ken's face like that, what would you have done?
21:15Would you say y'all fine?
21:17No.
21:18But are you still going to try to work on building the BGM, the Black Girls Magic, to group together?
21:23I don't know.
21:24I have to see.
21:25You don't know?
21:26No, Nell, you can't say that.
21:27I said I will with Kenny and you.
21:30But you still got to try because that's the Black .
21:34Leticia's not like that.
21:36That's to you.
21:37She's not like that outside.
21:39It's the only one we're getting in a group fed and that she's like that.
21:42She's not like that.
21:43Yeah, we do need to set some boundaries.
21:45Because right now, I feel like I'm talking to my adult children.
21:48And these are grown ass women.
21:51I do understand where Nell is coming from when she says dealing with an adult child.
21:56Although, I do think they misunderstand each other at times too.
22:00So one of them, one of them, one of these days have to be the bigger person.
22:04I would love to see all of us get along.
22:07I really would.
22:10But I have to take a step back all for the way she reacted.
22:14That's where I said we didn't have a hard time.
22:16Coming up on Love and Marriage Huntsville.
22:21I'm tired of you.
22:22You know, I need, I, I, I, family for a reason.
22:25You call your family when you need your family.
22:27Right?
22:28You know, you got to take some responsibility.
22:29You got to be held accountable for yourself.
22:32That's the second time he says something about Marcel that I felt like was not okay.
22:37When was the first time?
22:38Um, when Marcel made him into Georgia and Atlanta to go look at some commercial spot.
22:43So here we go again about this land of .
22:46My God .
22:59We got so much ketchup on for real, for real.
23:01Oh, and I also want you, um, to look at the space that you have too.
23:05Because I still need an office.
23:07Bitch, bye.
23:08Get off my phone.
23:09You know that was supposed to be your space a long time ago, and you drug your feet until
23:14I put somebody in it.
23:18It's uncommon for Jalen to stop by my office.
23:21So something must be brewing.
23:22I'll talk to you soon.
23:24Bye, Destiny.
23:25Jalen said, bye, Destiny.
23:28Bye.
23:30What's up?
23:31Y'all often come through here to visit me.
23:34Nothing at all.
23:36I actually, uh, got some really great news.
23:41I ended up getting a, uh, a very lucrative job offer here in Huntsville.
23:48So one of the interviews here in town.
23:51I went in, uh, yesterday for the actual sit-down interview.
23:56The main thing they wanted to talk about that was on my resume that stuck out to them was
24:01Black.
24:02And me putting on there that I helped, uh, start a business from, from ground up.
24:07So Black is paying off.
24:08Hey, helping me out a little bit.
24:10All them struggles, all them long nights and lonely days.
24:14Helping me out a little bit.
24:15Literally, like, three, four hours later, they called me back.
24:18And they said, uh, we would like to offer you a job.
24:22They said, is this number okay with you?
24:25I was like, yeah, that's okay.
24:28But then I ended up, uh, sending a little counteroffer.
24:32And so I was like...
24:33Well, look at you, negotiating.
24:34Wow.
24:35All right.
24:36What's that mean for Colorado?
24:37Because you had already said you were doing that.
24:40Yeah, nah.
24:41Yeah, I, I can't do that one.
24:45Even though that's still in IT, what I, what I want to do, it wasn't what I wanted to actually
24:51get into.
24:52And so this job is, uh, back in logistics.
24:55So it's a, uh, business job.
24:58I am tickled to death.
25:02Like, I want to holler.
25:04He's taking the one here in Unspell.
25:07That, of course, is just like, it's selfish, I know.
25:12This is news that I am welcome to hear in the middle of the day.
25:16If you stay here, I'm actually with us doing some projects together.
25:21At bare minimum, you and I can do a project together.
25:25Maurice and Monster can do a project together.
25:27Well, speaking of Maurice, I ended up talking with Maurice and, uh, Marceau.
25:34Mm-hmm.
25:35And we were talking about, you know, the family business and, uh, how Monster was treated
25:40compared to me.
25:41Mm-hmm.
25:42And, uh, the conversation was very interesting.
25:45Why?
25:46It was almost like he didn't get it.
25:50So the hierarchy in the family.
25:52Maurice, Kimmy, Mom, Monster, Taylor.
25:55Why would it be Monster above you when I literally said Monster's last on the totem pole?
25:59Well, he's last with knowledge.
26:01He's not last with favor and love.
26:04You feel like that?
26:06Yeah.
26:07You're exactly just like Monster to me.
26:10That's how I feel inside my heart.
26:12Mm-hmm.
26:13Okay?
26:14I was just like, sounds a little deflecting.
26:16I think he has a hard time accepting that, um, like his part in it.
26:23Because I feel like when we have a conversation, he's the same way.
26:27And I talk to Marceau, Marceau feels the same way.
26:30But the thing is, I think...
26:32Maybe there's a little area of payoff in Maurice's approach.
26:38It paid off.
26:39He was mentoring me.
26:40He just, it didn't feel like, uh, fatherhood, I guess.
26:46I don't really know what fatherhood feels like.
26:49So maybe it was fatherhood.
26:50You know, it felt more like a mentorship.
26:53And he was, uh, grooming me into being a man.
26:56And I've said that to him.
26:58I said I felt like it, uh, it worked.
27:01Having me figure it out on my own, the harsher treatment.
27:05I felt like it, it worked.
27:08It really does appear that, you know, some of that Maurice tough love has paid off in
27:15the relationship and the building of Jalen.
27:18That doesn't mean that, you know, some things could have been a little different then,
27:23a little different now, and a little different going forward.
27:28Well, I'm proud of you.
27:30And I'm very happy for you.
27:32And I like that you're happy.
27:33I think that, like, all that time you spent putting in those applications,
27:37being frustrated, um, I like the payoff.
27:42Oh, I love the payoff.
27:46Coming up on Love & Married Huntsville.
27:48I don't remember being on the 100, but I didn't.
27:50I felt like he was on the 100.
27:51Okay, that's fine.
27:52You're entitled to your feelings.
27:53It doesn't matter who started it now.
27:55It doesn't matter who long is to you.
27:56You don't have to get out of it.
27:57You don't tell me what I gotta do.
27:58That's that I'm talking about right there.
28:02Do you want to have a concert tonight?
28:03Do you want to have one?
28:04Oh, Jesus.
28:05Ain't no cap, ain't no cap.
28:09Got a couple bars I don't even rap.
28:12In a party.
28:13Pull up at a party.
28:14Up and up the crowd.
28:15Look, I'm a damn party.
28:16He's with the 40s.
28:17I came with the barbies.
28:18I got money on me, baby, my Jamega Stormy.
28:21Yeah.
28:22I got in class.
28:23You look up the class.
28:24I got in class.
28:25You look up the class.
28:26I got in class.
28:27You look up the class.
28:28I got in class.
28:29I got in class.
28:30I got in class.
28:31Lance, Lance.
28:32Yo.
28:33Yes, sir.
28:34I'm in here.
28:35Looking nice.
28:36Looking nice.
28:37Looking nice.
28:38Man, trying to get some stuff going, man.
28:41What's going on, man?
28:42I'm awesome.
28:43It's been a hell of a couple of months.
28:45New babies.
28:46Grown-ass kids in and out of the house.
28:48And it's been very interesting in the Fletcher's household.
28:53So I thought today I might just go by Green Spaces
28:56and holler at my son, Lance.
28:57I have a few things on my mind I think I want to run by him
29:00and talk to him about and see how he's doing.
29:03What's going on, man?
29:04How you been?
29:05Not much, son.
29:06What you got going on?
29:07Yeah, Friday, man.
29:08He knows payroll.
29:09So I'm trying to get these guys payroll.
29:10You got to tell me about that.
29:12Oh, yeah.
29:13Definitely got to make that payroll.
29:14How's the baby doing?
29:15She good?
29:16She's great.
29:17I think she's moving into the teething stage, right?
29:20So it's a lot of drooling, a lot of slobbering.
29:22I give her a bath at night.
29:24I'm switching pajamas two and three times.
29:26She's two or three hours, you know, little catnaps.
29:30Yeah.
29:31So I'm just adjusting to that.
29:32I was going to ask you.
29:34I was going to try and talk to you about that.
29:35So mom came over to the house the other day.
29:38We were kind of recapping on the fact that when she was first born, you know, you know,
29:43I spent a lot of time at the house, right?
29:45Right.
29:46And, you know.
29:47You spent a lot of time at our house.
29:48At your house.
29:49Yes, at y'all's house, right?
29:50Yes.
29:51It's an adjustment period for everybody, right?
29:52Me adjusting to being away from home.
29:54You and mom adjusting to me being there.
29:56I tried to say that.
29:57I tried to say that to her, too.
29:59And she just got, like, all bent out of shape.
30:02Because I'm like, you know, it's a change.
30:04We haven't had an infant in the house in damn 28 years.
30:08She was like, well, you know, you look tired and you look exhausted.
30:11I can tell.
30:12And, you know, your voice and your appearance and this and that and other.
30:15And I was like, well, of course.
30:16I mean, I got a newborn.
30:17I'm tired.
30:18I'm tired as hell.
30:19And she offered to come stay at the house two or three nights throughout the week.
30:24I will be honest.
30:25I could use a day or two or even three just to get some good sleep to where I can perform
30:31at my best capacity at my job or what I'm doing, right?
30:34I expressed to her I want to know from you, from dad, knowing that is it, are you good
30:40with that?
30:41Are you good with her?
30:42To answer, answer, just straight up answer your question?
30:44Hell no, I ain't good with it.
30:46Who the hell would be good with their wife being gone two or three nights out of the week?
30:50Right.
30:51How would you feel if your woman was out of the house two or three days earlier?
30:56Right.
30:57Nell and I, we will always, you know, make sure that our grandchildren are taken care of.
31:03The responsibilities that our grown adult children have is a big deal.
31:09And as parents, we want to make sure that, you know, we're doing all that we can to help
31:15them where we can.
31:16But at the same time, we have to adhere to our boundaries.
31:19Nell and I, we got to get a hold of this thing.
31:22You know, you got to take some responsibility.
31:24You got to be held accountable for yourself.
31:28Here's the thing.
31:29When it first initially hit, you know, that was like, that, I mean, that was major, you
31:36know, to come in and say, hey, mom, dad, I got another baby.
31:40You know what I mean?
31:41Right.
31:42Then it was almost like, okay, the newborn moved in, but Lance moved in too.
31:45That was more like an earthquake move, you know, shook.
31:50And when the room shakes, all out of place.
31:55Your mom and I kind of got shook.
31:59You know what I mean?
32:00Yes, sir.
32:01We kind of get stuck in the middle of a situation of, you know, grandparenting and parenting
32:06at the same time.
32:07But at the same time, the boundaries get really thrown out of the window.
32:14We had a conversation in the kitchen, us as a family, I don't know, some time ago.
32:21We set some boundaries for you guys and girls.
32:24We need to set some boundaries.
32:26We got things we want to do.
32:29Do not freaking call me if it's not an emergency.
32:35It's just always something.
32:36If we constantly doing all those things, then y'all setting us back.
32:42How do you think y'all doing on the boundaries?
32:45The boundaries are out the window, man.
32:47I mean, it's almost like, what boundaries?
32:50It made some major adjustments in our household, in our relationship.
32:56So my parents have done a lot for us as kids.
32:58And it is time for us to really stand on those boundaries and make sure that we have
33:03our parents back.
33:04As I've been trying to tell your mom over the years, establishing these boundaries
33:09like that, you've got to let them tough it out sometimes.
33:12Right.
33:13If we're there every single time something happens, when will you ever be able to take
33:19or handle the real responsibilities of an adult?
33:22You all have blown those boundaries out of the water.
33:27It doesn't matter.
33:28I mean, if I had to be honest, probably, and we always say this, probably Kayla's the only
33:33one that hasn't crossed any of these boundaries.
33:36But she can get it too, you know.
33:39That's just, your mom and I, that's just something we have to figure out.
33:46But it is life as well, so we understand that.
33:51We set boundaries with all the children, but the way we raise them, the things that we've
33:59been blessed to give them, it really reminds us.
34:04And we just have to figure out, we being me, Nell, and them, the children, have to figure
34:09out how to make this work, how to make these boundaries stable.
34:15Not that I don't care, but we all need help.
34:19You know, even myself, we all need help, so it's always good to reach out to the people
34:25that you know that can, you know, that can help you.
34:28Right.
34:29I don't know, maybe hear from someone else.
34:33Right.
34:34Maybe Martell, as a father, because that time management, I mean, him being in construction
34:42as well, and having his kids, he has them every other week.
34:46I'm sure there's a, he got something working as far as time management.
34:49He's got a, it seems like his system, he's got a nice system in play from, you know, from
34:54what I can tell now.
34:55Yeah.
34:56And, you know, I don't mind.
34:57He might, he might be able to tell you something that I can't.
34:59Right.
35:00You don't want to put your business out there into, you know, too many people, you know,
35:04but at the same time, yeah, I think, I think that's a good idea.
35:08Actually, I think I'll reach out to him soon, sooner rather than later.
35:11Yeah.
35:12Yeah.
35:13Yeah.
35:18Come and get it.
35:19Come out of my head.
35:21Causing problems all over again.
35:24I don't think before I do, I just do what I want, when I want to, when I want to.
35:43So I feel like after talking to Trish about Letitia Scott, I'm kind of like seeing things
35:51a little different.
35:51I'm really not sure, but I do know.
35:54I'm willing, you know, to give her a chance.
35:57I think I'm going to get a caramel macchiata.
35:59Okay.
36:00Anything else?
36:01And I think that's it for now.
36:02Okay.
36:03Yep.
36:03We'll have that right out to you.
36:05How you been?
36:05Um, I've been okay.
36:07Um, I'm just like, I decided to invite you out here to speak about.
36:14Uh-oh.
36:16This girls thing, getting to know each other.
36:19Okay.
36:20And I kind of like.
36:21You're trying to get comfortable.
36:22At the party.
36:25You got in my husband's face.
36:27Chris!
36:27You're on the stage!
36:29Chris, you're the center stage!
36:30Right here, Chris!
36:31I don't report to Letitia.
36:33What do you mean about the NBA?
36:35You said it!
36:36And me and your husband have already talked about it.
36:39I'm like, whoa.
36:41She's really on 100 right now.
36:44I don't remember being on 100.
36:45Well, I felt like he was on 100.
36:47Okay, that's fine.
36:48You're entitled to your feelings.
36:49Yeah.
36:50I don't remember getting into Chris' face like that, but I don't like the way she's talking
36:56to me right now.
36:58I mean, wow.
36:59I didn't expect for Nell to just get into it right here, but okay, let's go.
37:05I don't remember being on 100, but I do remember the conversation.
37:08Because I remember Marcel was like, oh, well, we cleared it up.
37:10He said it was something, miss, something, whatever.
37:13And I was like, that makes sense to me.
37:16I don't feel like it's okay what he said, how he said things.
37:18And that's the second time he said something about Marcel that I felt like was not okay.
37:22When was the first day?
37:23Um, when Marcel met him in Georgia, in Atlanta, to go look at some commercial spot.
37:28So here we go again about the Atlanta.
37:30Like, God.
37:33Well, Marcel brought my husband's name up first.
37:35So maybe if he hadn't brought my husband's name up, then nothing would have been said about
37:39him.
37:40It's not about bringing a name up.
37:41Yes, it is.
37:42Well, I think Marcel said Chris actually took a selfie with him to prove to you that he
37:47was where he said he was.
37:47That's not true.
37:48I was with him.
37:49I was with him.
37:50You was with him when Marcel had their meeting?
37:52No.
37:52Yeah, you was in Atlanta and he said, Chris says, let's take a selfie because he had
37:56to prove to you that he was with Marcel.
37:59This all started on the count of Marcel.
38:04They went to Atlanta Fish Market, got food.
38:07He brought me food back.
38:08I'm not with the making up bull .
38:10Now, what he did after that, I don't know.
38:13That's between him and her.
38:16I know what I was doing and what my husband was doing, period.
38:20You guys have to take ownership.
38:22You have to take ownership.
38:23You have to take ownership.
38:23I'm taking ownership.
38:24No, you're not.
38:25You're not taking ownership.
38:26Why don't I take ownership, bro?
38:26Marcel brought up his name first.
38:28I said, I don't know who brought who name on first.
38:29Marcel said, you asked your husband where he was.
38:32He said, I was with Chris Fletcher.
38:35OK.
38:36Yes, I went to Atlanta.
38:38And yes, I went there with a friend.
38:40Well, I met a friend there.
38:43Me and this friend went out to dinner.
38:45Who was we?
38:46Me and Chris Fletcher.
38:51So for him to say, and he paused first,
38:55but you said, this is not the first time
38:57my husband brought up your husband's name.
38:59And I said, I didn't like what he said about Marcel.
39:02But you said, this is not the first time.
39:04And then you brought up the Atlanta situation.
39:06Marcel started that.
39:08Mm-hmm.
39:09That came from Marcel.
39:10OK, it doesn't matter who started it there.
39:11It doesn't matter who long it's to you.
39:13You don't have to give salary.
39:13You can tell me what I got to do.
39:16That's that I'm talking about right there
39:18that she liked to do.
39:21She liked to make you question yourself.
39:23Like, am I raising my voice?
39:25When I know I'm really not,
39:27I'm not doing no more than what she is.
39:30OK, so if you're not going to be respectful,
39:31then this conversation is going to end.
39:33I'm not your children, OK?
39:35And I'm not your child either.
39:36You're absolutely correct.
39:38Do you want to have a conversation or not?
39:39Do you want to have one?
39:40Oh, Jesus.
39:42That's how it is.
39:43I gave a tequila for this.
39:44Coffee, I go dribble it.
39:45That's how I felt the other night.
39:46No, if you want to have a conversation,
39:48if you want to have a conversation, we can talk.
39:50But if you're going to get loud with me,
39:52it'd be disrespectful.
39:53I'm not going to have this conversation with you.
39:55You've been disrespectful.
39:56You was disrespectful when you got in my husband's face.
39:57OK, OK, so I'm not having this conversation.
40:00Well, you're ready to talk to me.
40:01Hit me back up, girl.
40:02Oh, girl, we ain't got to talk.
40:03OK.
40:03Yeah, I'm definitely not about to have
40:06a yelling match in here with you.
40:07Like, this is a place that I have meetings
40:09at with parents of my kids' school.
40:12So this is not the place for us to be yelling
40:14back and forth at each other.
40:16So I'm done with this.
40:21Hey, that was going to be a good coffee date.
40:23Next, on Loving Maritonsville.
40:29Like, Martel has just, like, lost itself.
40:31Martel acting out because he's upset is not new.
40:36He is the one putting the fuel on the fire.
40:40While I was with Lance, destiny came up.
40:43Oh, Lord, here we go.
40:45She's claimed she ain't never gave him none.
40:48He is a damn man.
40:49And y'all have needs, right?
40:51So somebody else met him.
40:53I met up with Nell.
40:55And she was like, I'm not your child.
40:57Is this how mentor is supposed to act?
40:59She said she is, like, certified.
41:01Certified crazy.
41:03I don't like the negativity, though.
41:05But I felt that, damn, they keep coming at me.
41:08I think that you've played the villain so long
41:10until you've become the villain.
41:11So I had a conversation with Martel.
41:15I'm genuinely concerned about his mental health.
41:18Yeah, his mental health.
41:20When he's the nice guy, he's the nice guy.
41:22And when he's not, he's not.
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