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00:00I am not financially independent. I am having psychosomatic problems.

00:05Due to conflict with my husband, I noticed my daughter is also getting affected.

00:09So how should I come out of it?

00:11From what I hear, the only problem or the biggest problem is that you are not financially independent.

00:18You have to pick up your battles very wisely, right?

00:21And once you pick it up, then you have to fight absolutely fiercely.

00:24How will you get a job? How will you start a career?

00:27If your energy and time are being distracted in these narrow domestic quarrels.

00:34Is it too late now to start now, after 30?

00:37Depends on you. But if you keep wasting time, it is definitely too late.

00:40Focus on what is important and forget the rest.

00:48Pranam Achai Reju.

00:51I am 30-year-old mom of a 3-year-old daughter

00:56and currently doing master's.

00:58And I am not financially independent.

01:02So, I am worried about getting a job.

01:07And sometimes, due to conflict with my husband,

01:11I am having psychosomatic problems.

01:17So, when we fight, because of our fights,

01:20I notice my daughter is also getting affected.

01:23So, should I just refrain from fighting in front of her

01:29and go to bed without solving?

01:36Like, my husband is not bothered to resolve this on the same night,

01:41which leaves me sleepless.

01:44And this has been, like, from a year I am having insomnia

01:47because of these kind of problems.

01:49So, how should I come out of it?

01:51From what I hear, the only problem

01:55or the biggest problem

01:58is that you are not financially independent.

02:03So, why will your husband quarrel with you over this one?

02:08If this is your biggest problem,

02:10why are you investing yourself in other little micro-problems?

02:14Why are you fighting over petty things?

02:17Do you have the energy?

02:18Can you afford this?

02:19Or should you rather reserve yourself

02:23to fight the central problem?

02:27How will you get a job?

02:29How will you start a career

02:30if your energy and time

02:33are being distracted,

02:37dissipated

02:38in these narrow domestic quarrels?

02:452 out of 5,

02:47out of 10,

02:49out of 7 to 8 times

02:50I remain quiet

02:51and neglect the matter.

02:53But then sometimes...

02:53I am not asking you to remain quiet.

02:56I am asking whether

02:56there is some matter at all.

03:00If there indeed is a matter,

03:02then the Gita says,

03:03get up and fight.

03:05When there

03:06is something the matter,

03:09when there is something material,

03:11and by material,

03:11I mean real,

03:12when there is something real at stake,

03:15then Gita says,

03:17get up and fight.

03:18My question is,

03:19do you realize

03:20what really is at stake?

03:23Your opening statement was,

03:25I am a mother,

03:26I have this daughter,

03:27and I am 30 years old,

03:28I am pursuing this degree.

03:29I am not financially independent.

03:32Now that's the war.

03:34Fight that war.

03:35You cannot fight

03:36on 5

03:37disjoint fronts.

03:44Imagine,

03:45Arjun has

03:47some little grudge

03:48against Bhim.

03:49And in the course

03:53of the Mahabharat war,

03:55he is also trading abuses

03:56with Bhim.

03:59Fighting this side

04:00with Karna.

04:01And at the same time,

04:02you have to,

04:09you have to pick up

04:10your battles

04:11very wisely.

04:12Right?

04:13And once you pick it up,

04:14then you have to fight

04:15absolutely fiercely.

04:19And the good thing

04:24with you is

04:25that you have identified

04:25the right battle

04:26to fight.

04:29Right?

04:30And having identified it,

04:32why do you give space

04:33to these,

04:34these petty

04:35kind of tiffs?

04:38The food is not good.

04:41You smell bad.

04:43You don't

04:44flush properly.

04:47You are overspending

04:49on this thing.

04:49No,

04:50I will not watch

04:50that movie.

04:53That's the stuff

04:54of your usual

04:55domestic.

05:02What else

05:03do you fight over?

05:05Whether or not

05:06Trump should interfere

05:08in Ukraine?

05:09Is that what

05:10husbands and wives

05:10fight over?

05:12No.

05:13Only,

05:14only these things.

05:16Why were you

05:17ogling at the neighbor?

05:18focus on what is important

05:29and forget the rest.

05:38And it's not so much

05:39about your daughter.

05:40You said,

05:40should we fight

05:41in front of her?

05:43No,

05:43that's obviously bad

05:44if you are fighting

05:45in front of such a little one.

05:46But even if

05:47she is not present,

05:49you too are still

05:50very little.

05:53Why must you

05:54fight in front of yourself?

05:56Three or thirty,

05:57how does it matter?

06:01You still have to

06:03raise yourself,

06:03right?

06:04Just as you have

06:04to raise the kid.

06:07Not only must you

06:08not fight

06:08when she is there,

06:09you must also

06:10not fight

06:10when you are there.

06:15Focus on your studies

06:16and

06:16hmm.

06:19Yeah,

06:19but if it

06:20lapsed

06:20unresolved,

06:21then that keeps

06:22running in my mind

06:23at night also,

06:24which

06:24because of

06:26then get up

06:27and study.

06:29If some rubbish

06:30is circulating

06:31in the mind,

06:32get up

06:32and read

06:33your reference books,

06:35course books,

06:36vocational material,

06:38professional studies.

06:39I suppose

06:40you have a lot

06:41at hand.

06:44How do you

06:44manage to

06:45keep lying

06:47and thinking

06:48about

06:49trivia?

06:55Hmm?

06:56When I can't

06:57sleep,

06:57I invest

06:58myself properly.

07:01In fact,

07:02I keep

07:02a lot of books

07:03close to my bed

07:04just in case

07:05I find

07:06I can't sleep.

07:09matters have

07:10come

07:11to such a point

07:12that I am

07:13working even

07:13when I am

07:14sleeping.

07:15A lot of

07:16situations,

07:17issues,

07:18problems

07:18that I face

07:20when I am

07:21awake.

07:22I find myself

07:23dealing with them

07:24even when I am

07:24asleep.

07:25And sometimes

07:25I come to

07:26brilliant

07:26conclusions

07:27and insights

07:28while sleeping.

07:30you must

07:35know that

07:36there is a

07:36battle to

07:36fight and

07:37every minute

07:38has to be

07:39invested in

07:39it.

07:40If not

07:41while sleeping,

07:41then at least

07:42while you are

07:43awake,

07:44how do you

07:44afford to

07:45waste time?

07:45anything else?

07:56Let me share

07:57a small

07:57personal thing

07:58with you.

08:00You know,

08:00there is a

08:01trainer here

08:02to assist

08:04us with

08:05the gym.

08:06He comes

08:07here and

08:07all of us

08:10who stay at

08:10both cells

08:11are supposed

08:13to benefit

08:13from him

08:14though not

08:14all do.

08:20When I am

08:21with him,

08:21the days

08:22when I gym,

08:23I spend

08:24around 52

08:25minutes to

08:26an hour

08:26there.

08:27And I

08:28very well

08:28know that

08:29this time

08:30is for the

08:30body.

08:32Right?

08:33So whatever

08:34is to be done

08:35is to be done

08:35by the body.

08:37That's my

08:38personal

08:38calculation.

08:39It might not

08:39be very

08:40valuable or

08:41universally valid.

08:44And the

08:45trainer is

08:45there to

08:46direct my

08:47body to

08:47do what

08:47it has

08:48to do.

08:49My mind

08:50need not be

08:50occupied.

08:51So I spend

08:52that one hour

08:52thinking about

08:53things.

08:54The trainer

08:55will tell the

08:56body,

08:56now this

08:57particular

08:58exercise,

08:58these many

08:59reps.

08:59And I

09:00don't even

09:00try to

09:01remember

09:02which particular

09:03exercise I am

09:04doing.

09:04I just

09:04follow his

09:05instructions.

09:06I let the

09:06body follow

09:07the instructions

09:07and that

09:08one hour

09:08I get to

09:10meditate in

09:11solitude.

09:12So the

09:13body is

09:13gymming and

09:14I am

09:14continuously at

09:15work here.

09:17So much so

09:18that I totally

09:19forget which

09:19particular exercise

09:20I am doing.

09:22So he

09:23chooses the

09:23exercise in

09:24pairs.

09:25He says

09:25this one

09:25then this

09:26one.

09:27Right?

09:27So this

09:28and then

09:29let's say

09:30let's press.

09:32Shoulder press

09:33and then

09:33leg press.

09:35So from

09:36shoulder press

09:36he will take

09:37me to the

09:37leg press

09:38machine and

09:39once I am

09:40up from there

09:41I will forget

09:42that I have to

09:42return to

09:42shoulder press

09:43because I don't

09:43remember.

09:44I don't need

09:44to remember.

09:45That's not a

09:46battle I need

09:46to fight.

09:48That's a battle

09:49for the trainer

09:49and this body.

09:50My battle is

09:51different.

09:53In fact I also

09:54forget the

09:55number of reps.

09:56That's what he

09:57is supposed to

09:57count.

09:59So he has

10:00told me fine

10:00proceed with

10:01this.

10:01I am doing

10:02this.

10:02And when

10:03do I have

10:03to stop?

10:05He'll catch

10:06hold of the

10:06rod and

10:06make me

10:07stop because

10:08I'm not

10:09thinking about

10:10the rod or

10:10number of

10:11reps.

10:12I'm thinking

10:12about work.

10:14Let the

10:15body exercise

10:15I'm thinking

10:16about work.

10:18And those

10:1850 minutes

10:19are good

10:20minutes because

10:20nobody is

10:21there to

10:21bother me.

10:24The trainer

10:24is there and

10:25he knows

10:25nothing about

10:25work.

10:27So he'll

10:27not present

10:28any problem.

10:32in getting

10:34it.

10:36You'll not

10:36know when

10:37you'll find

10:40the train

10:43departed.

10:4530 is not

10:47three or

10:47five.

10:50You never

10:51know when

10:52the

10:52how do you

10:58manage to

10:58waste time.

11:01Now tonight

11:02you'll be

11:03afraid of

11:03sleeping because

11:04of death.

11:09No, not

11:10because of

11:10that but

11:11maybe is it

11:11too late now

11:12to start now

11:13after 30.

11:14It is too

11:15late now.

11:16Do you have

11:16an option?

11:17Can you turn

11:1820 now?

11:19If you're

11:2130 and

11:23it is now

11:24that you

11:24realize you

11:24will start

11:25at 30.

11:27You ask

11:28as if in

11:29these matters

11:29there is an

11:30alternative.

11:31Is there

11:32an alternative?

11:35In a match

11:36of cricket

11:36as a

11:37batsman,

11:38I arrive

11:39when five

11:40wickets have

11:41already fallen

11:41and the

11:42asking rate

11:42is 12

11:43per over.

11:46Do I

11:46have an

11:47option?

11:47No, this

11:48is when

11:49I have

11:50taken the

11:50guard

11:51and this

11:52is what

11:53I have

11:53to deal

11:53with.

11:54No, deal

11:55with it

11:55full stop.

11:58What's the

11:59point in

11:59asking can

12:00we still

12:01salvage the

12:02match?

12:02Is it

12:03too late

12:03to rescue

12:04the match?

12:07We don't

12:07know.

12:09We can

12:09only try

12:11make the

12:13utmost effort

12:14asking

12:15questions

12:16that have

12:17no definitive

12:17answer

12:18doesn't help

12:19anybody.

12:22I'm 30,

12:23is it too

12:24late?

12:24I don't

12:25know,

12:25maybe,

12:25maybe not.

12:30Depends

12:31on you.

12:35But if you

12:36keep wasting

12:36time,

12:37it is

12:38definitely

12:38too late.

12:44Don't

12:44love

12:45you.

12:46You

12:47can

12:47see you

12:48again.

12:49.

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