00:00Second date update right now, trying to help out Patrick this morning, commercial-free
00:03new country, 99.5 QYK.
00:05We are trying to set him back up on another date with this girl, Tess, that he went on
00:09a date with.
00:10Yeah, they went to Madison Avenue Pizza, and sounds like the date was perfect.
00:15And I asked if she seemed interested in him, and he's like, well, yeah, he goes, unless
00:20I don't know what I'm talking about, but...
00:22Which is always a possibility.
00:25But we do have Tess on hold with us right now.
00:28She's agreed to talk to us, which is awesome.
00:30Tess, you there?
00:32Hey, yeah, I'm here.
00:34Okay, well, you just heard us talking about Patrick and your guys' date and all that.
00:39The other thing that he told us was that he reached out to you since the date and hasn't
00:43heard anything back from you, and is a little confused by that.
00:46Is there a reason you may not be communicating with him?
00:50Yeah, there is.
00:53Okay, what's that?
00:54I don't know what he told you about his living situation.
00:58Or if he did.
01:00But it's definitely weird, especially at our age.
01:05We're the same age.
01:06Is he living with his parents?
01:08He couch surfs.
01:10Like, he literally has...
01:13He said...
01:13Okay, so we started talking about...
01:15We talked about a lot of stuff.
01:16And I said, you know, so where do you live?
01:19Do you rent, own, and, you know, normal first date stuff?
01:22And he says, oh, no, I don't rent or own.
01:26I actually stay with friends.
01:28And I was like, what do you mean?
01:30And he said, well, I just go from friend to friend right now because, you know, that way
01:34I can save up money if I do one day want to own a home.
01:38I'm like, what?
01:39What?
01:40Wait a minute.
01:41You're telling me you don't even have a place of your own to...
01:46I don't know.
01:47This is just weird to me.
01:49We're in our mid-30s.
01:51And it just seemed like there was no drive.
01:55No...
01:56He was content with couch surfing.
01:58So he has no permanent address.
01:59He's just moving around.
02:01Right.
02:01Like, he's cool with coasting.
02:03And I'm just not...
02:04That's not where I'm at anymore in my life.
02:06I need that permanence.
02:08There's...
02:09I need some goals.
02:10You know?
02:11Well, it's funny enough, he said that you guys actually talked about goals on your date.
02:15He said that earlier when we talked to him.
02:17So, obviously, those goals were not aligning with what you were looking for.
02:21I don't remember talking about goals in that sense.
02:24I guess...
02:25I mean, if you really...
02:26He's happy coasting on couches.
02:29So, if that's his goal, I guess...
02:30There was nothing permanent in his life.
02:33Okay.
02:34Well, here's the deal, Tess.
02:35We have Patrick on the phone with us as well.
02:38And...
02:38Oh, man.
02:40Yeah.
02:40I'm sure you kind of saw that coming.
02:42Yeah.
02:43Okay.
02:43So, we want to bring him back on with us and just kind of get his take on this.
02:48Patrick.
02:49Yeah.
02:50Hey.
02:50Hey, man.
02:51So, is that kind of accurate of your living situation?
02:53You're just kind of going friend's house to friend's house?
02:58Well, yeah.
02:58It's kind of awesome.
03:00I mean, you know.
03:01Yeah.
03:02That's what I do now.
03:03Yeah.
03:03It's pretty good.
03:04Do you have no desire to have your own spot?
03:06I mean...
03:07Well, eventually.
03:08You know.
03:08But rents are so high now.
03:10And I got, you know, really great friends.
03:12And they got space.
03:13And it's been working out great.
03:14They don't mind.
03:16You know, I get to hang out and chill with them.
03:18And now I'm saving a ton of money.
03:20And, you know, it's pretty cool.
03:22I don't see really what the problem is.
03:25I got to interrupt here.
03:27Because you say that your friends don't mind.
03:30Right.
03:30I'm telling you they do.
03:31I'm telling you they do.
03:33It is an inconvenience when you're our age.
03:35And we have routines.
03:37We have jobs.
03:38We have things.
03:39And you staying on the couch is an inconvenience.
03:42Don't think you're not...
03:44No.
03:45Uh-uh.
03:46Well, can I ask this question, Patrick?
03:48Why have you chosen to do this?
03:50I mean, your finances are none of my business.
03:52But I'm just saying, is that the reason?
03:55Or are you just...
03:56Well, I mean, I'm not rich.
03:58But I'm saving, like, a ton of money.
04:01Do you know how much rents are now?
04:02It's crazy.
04:03And, you know, I'm saving all this money.
04:05And I'm sure eventually I'm, you know, I want to buy a place at some point.
04:08But not today.
04:09And why throw away, I don't know how much for rent,
04:13when I got great friends who were like, you know, you can stay for a while with us.
04:17Yeah, but you...
04:18I mean, you're taking their water bill, their electricity bill.
04:21Are you giving them any money?
04:23Yeah, you know, I chip in for groceries a little bit.
04:26And, you know, I don't know how much.
04:29Sometimes.
04:29Yeah, I...
04:29I don't know.
04:31I got good friends.
04:32I think they'd tell me if it bothered them.
04:34Patrick, if we dated and things started to go well,
04:37and we wanted to, you know, be together,
04:39where would we go?
04:41Not your place.
04:42And I feel like if we started dating,
04:45you all of a sudden would be asking to stay on my couch,
04:48and all of a sudden would be in my house,
04:51and a toothbrush, you know, in my bathroom.
04:53I just...
04:54I'm not...
04:54This is not cool, man.
04:55That's exactly where this is going.
04:57Well, no, no, no, no.
04:59You know, I mean, if we were going to, like,
05:01I don't know, get hot and heavy and stuff,
05:03I guess I'd see if it's cool to come to your place.
05:05But, like, for a stay, I wouldn't want to stay on your...
05:08Until we were close, I wouldn't want to stay on your...
05:11I wouldn't ask to stay on your couch
05:13unless it was, like, you know, appropriate
05:14or we were close or something.
05:16If we were getting really close
05:17and the vibes were there, I might ask,
05:19but that's not where I would go for...
05:20That's not my first thing, for sure.
05:22How are you this disconnected from what we're saying?
05:26Like...
05:27I don't...
05:28I think I got a pretty good thing going,
05:30and my friends are pretty happy with it.
05:31I don't know why it's upsetting everybody.
05:33It needs to be working out.
05:36Well, let's just get to it.
05:37Let's just ask Tess right now, straight up.
05:39Tess, is this a deal-breaker for you?
05:40Is this something that you can look past,
05:42or this is obviously going to be a problem for you?
05:45Yeah, no, this is definitely a deal-breaker for me.
05:48Okay.
05:49All right, gotcha.
05:50Well, Patrick, you heard it from Tess.
05:51I'm sorry, there's not going to be another date for you.
05:53I mean, I hope you find a permanent residence, man.
05:56I feel like that would be a lot better
05:58than what you're doing now,
06:00but, hey, to each their own,
06:01and I wish you luck, man.
06:03I appreciate it.
06:04I will.
06:05You know, it's all good.
06:06Just, you know, go slow, and I'm chill with that.
06:08Okay.
06:09All righty.
06:10Well, Tess, thanks for your time.
06:11Patrick, thanks for your time.
06:12You guys have a great day, okay?
06:13All right, you too.
06:15All right.
06:15Thanks.
06:16That gives me anxiety to think about having to move
06:19or living out of a suitcase,
06:21and every couple days you're going to another person's house,
06:23and then having to ask another person,
06:25hey, is it cool if I stay here?
06:26That has got to wear on his friends.
06:28I mean, who expects their friends to do that for them?
06:32That's the kind of guy he is.
06:35One thing if it was an emergency.
06:36Right.
06:37Yeah, or, hey, I'm going through a rough time
06:38or something like that.
06:39Yeah, you know, or I just broke up with somebody,
06:42but uh-uh.
06:43Yeah, he doesn't care at all.
06:45Freeloader.
06:46That's true.
06:47Well, all right.
06:48If you want to weigh in on this, let's do it.
06:49800-992-1099, 800-992-1099.
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