00:00And some of the reasons why we are not honest in our relationships, in fact, the reasons why we may
00:05be dishonest, why we may deceive, why we may lie or give a false impression, is number one, because
00:12we want to avoid the pain that it may cause if the truth comes out. So in essence, what we're
00:18trying to do is to protect our partner from further hurt and pain. So if I tell you how I really feel,
00:24if I truly give you my opinion, if I truly tell you how I think about this situation,
00:29it may cause more hurt, and I want to avoid any future hurt that it may cause you. So I'd rather
00:34hold on to the truth and not share it at all. Sometimes we're not honest with our partner
00:39because we're trying to avoid the consequences of what may happen if the truth comes out.
00:44See, because if I tell the truth, there may be a consequence that I may lose you,
00:48that we may lose our connection, that everything that we built may be over. And so I can't tell you
00:53the truth. The third reason why we may not be honest and tell the truth is because some of
00:58us are just compulsive liars, and we lie about everything. But the reality is most people don't
01:03fit into that third category. They fit into the first two. Either they're lying to protect you
01:08from further hurt and pain, or they're lying or deceiving to avoid consequences that may come.
01:14But what we've realized is that when you stand on truth and share truth, statistics have suggested,
01:20surveys have suggested, that no matter what it is, no matter how painful that truth may be,
01:26spouses appreciate the fact that you've shared that truth
01:30because the fact is the truth hurts, but the truth also heals.
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