00:00When we met I was 56 years old and she was just 18
00:05My husband is 38 years older than me. Yeah, I actually lied about my age
00:10I felt is this someone I'm gonna be able to trust. Let's call this what it is
00:15legalized
00:16sick mind
00:18People judge us because they assume that I'm with Gary because of his money. We did not marry for a green card
00:25I've already done that twice before
00:27Hi Andrew, how are you? Actually, I could look at you and think that you're a father and daughter
00:33It's actually lunchtime. So I'm gonna prepare our lunch. What are you making today? I'm gonna make some vegetable soup
00:40We've been together now for almost six years. I'm a housewife and stay at home mom also doing YouTube
00:47I'm not retired yet. I'm still working. Yeah, we want to show people that it's possible for an older man in you
00:55Filipina could actually fall in love when we first met. I was just a young 56 year old and you were an old
01:03Yeah, I was 18 when I met Gary. But yeah, I did lie about my age. We met using a dating app
01:09She actually reached out to me first. I send you the wing first
01:13I had a chopper on with me the first meeting we have and I was scared
01:18that was my reaction because I never date a foreigner and very shy also and he was so big like
01:24I am for 11. I think in here 6 3 I bring chopper with me because my mom was concerned
01:30I was happy that you respect that so that was a good sign. I was
01:34Physically attracted to even now I was attracted to your innocence
01:39You hadn't been corrupted by the city you hadn't been with other foreigners
01:43I could just see in you this was the kind of person I was looking for because I wanted a
01:47Traditional type Philippine woman that I could really have a real loving relationship with I didn't know you're 18 at the time
01:53I actually lied about my age
01:5718 yeah, but that's a legal in the Philippines. So guys, don't worry
02:02We have a healthy lifestyle living in the Philippines. So I like growing vegetables in our backyard
02:07I like to feed my husband healthy because
02:13I said, oh if I tell them that I am 18, I think there's no way he would consider meeting me
02:19I didn't care whether they were 21 41. I was actually a little disappointed that she had lied to me
02:25I felt is this someone I'm gonna be able to trust but I'd already gotten some feelings for her and
02:31Got to know her a little bit. And so I was willing to forgive her for that after living in Asia for
02:3812 years friends that I I knew they all had young girlfriends. So I kind of got used to
02:45Dating people much younger than me people assume that I'm with him because of his money and when we met I was actually
02:51Literally broke literally going for a bankruptcy
02:58Honey lunch is ready. Let's dig in reading hateful comments is always fun, isn't it?
03:04Am I young enough to be a granddaughter?
03:07Yeah, actually technically
03:10But you look more like my daughter
03:14Yeah, actually I am younger than your son. So that's all you're wrong. Was it six years younger than myself?
03:21Let's call this what it is in legalized
03:27Wow, she was 18 all this foreigner have a sick mind now, why why would they say he has a sick mind?
03:34I mean look at you. You're you're you're an adult. Yeah, I can make my own child
03:39The lady just want money and babies and she will be gone once you get what you want. Yeah, he is
03:47We need a lot a
03:50Lot of judgments saying I'm a gold digger
03:53I'm desperate to get out the poverty some of the people that judged our relationship at the beginning
03:59And now seeking a relationship like what we have because they see from our channel
04:05The beauty
04:08Because you know, we live in the Philippines and it's not unusual to see a man of my age with it with a girl of
04:15your age
04:17People don't understand the cultural differences. They've got the the Western mindset at first I would get
04:24Angry, he's more bothered me. I'm I have a thick skin
04:28The fact is we get way more complimentary things said then we do negative
04:34We did not marry for a green card, I've already done that twice before
04:39I've been married three times my first marriage
04:42I'm not proud of it, but I didn't meet someone and saw an opportunity to get a green card and
04:48residency in America and
04:50Then my second marriage. I was actually in the Philippines and I was having a difficult time
04:56Not making any money and I was concerned. I wouldn't be able to stay in Asia anymore. So
05:02The girl I was with she also had a dream of going to America so it seemed like well, this is a win-win
05:09so two times I have got married with the intent of
05:13Doing it for a green card, and I'm not proud of this. I'm actually
05:18I'm very ashamed actually, but I'd like to think I've changed a lot. And of course now my third marriage and
05:25This one is real
05:27It was purely out of love
05:29I've always been someone that liked to work out especially now. I have a young wife and kids
05:34I think I owe it to them to stay in healthy shape and hopefully live many years
05:45My friend Andrew's coming later Andrew is a pastor. I don't think he understood that we had a real relationship at first
05:53He's very honest man, you'll say whatever we really feel about our relationship
06:01Thanks for coming actually I could look at you and think that you're a father and daughter
06:06They'll see that told daughter-in-law
06:10But you know, I think God created people and they've always been age gap relationships
06:14Even in the Bible the issue that I have is that I'm not a father
06:20Even in the Bible the issue that I had was people who come over and get married to people without falling in love or without
06:27Having any similarities and I would just ask anyone to show me where in the Bible
06:32It says that there's something wrong with people who have a gap of 50 years. There's nothing
06:38But there's nothing wrong with that, there's nothing wrong with that
06:42We don't ever think about it. I never
06:45We're just a couple the reward that you have now, but you have a beautiful family two beautiful kids
07:01Gary is the one for me. There's so many things I like about him and he's very mature
07:06You know being a leader in our household how you deal when it comes to the kids
07:12There's so many things I love about you she makes me feel young and
07:16Just a joyful personality and she's intelligent. I want a great cook
07:23People love to make judgments when they just they don't know you that they just have assumptions all the time
07:30The world is a big place and and there's different cultures that have different kind of ways
07:41You
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