How to be LOVED!

Stefan Molyneux

"Since gene therapy by man is definitionally* witchcraft, is it possible for a geneticist to be pious if he believes it's only by God's will that his work can succeed?"   "What advice can I give my daughters on how to see and pick good men to marry as they get older? "Thank you Stefan Molyneux."   "Was the French Revolution the start of the death of Europe?"   "Do you think the Ukraine War will go nuclear?"   "does art have a function and if so what is it? Can you go into the different theories of art and how the "end goal" is seen differently? Maybe go into the different schools of art more specifically and why they arose and their philosophical differences"   "Thoughts on how to build better habits?"   "Been following you for well over 15 years Stephan. First and foremost, thank you. Second, another thank you for what I believe is your best work to date, the story of your enslavement. Rings true today."  GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND AUDIOBOOK!  https://peacefulparenting.com/  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  Also get the Truth About the French Revolution, the interactive multi-lingual philosophy AI trained on thousands of hours of my material, private livestreams, premium call in shows, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!  See you soon!  https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/UPB2022

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00:00All righty, good evening, a couple more questions from Facebook.

00:07Since gene therapy by man is definitionally witchcraft, is it possible for a geneticist

00:12to be pious if he believes it's only by God's will that his work can succeed?

00:18Well let me tell you something.

00:22So when I got my very first professional programming job making the princely sum of $40,000 a year,

00:31which was all the money in the world back then, at least for me, what I did was I worked

00:38on a tandem terminal, a terminal to a tandem computer, and it worked on COBOL 74.

00:45COBOL 74 had no end if statements, just dots and so on.

00:49And at one point we shifted from COBOL 74 to COBOL 85, which had end if statements,

00:56and I wrote a program to run through code and switch the dots that terminated the if

01:02statements to end if statements, sometimes even to else statements, and it was very cool.

01:08And the code ran perfectly except for one strange thing where there was a hidden carriage

01:11return or something like that.

01:14And I, my code upgraded and made much more readable and maintainable millions of lines

01:22of code from COBOL 74 to COBOL 85, except for that one, and that one was hard to find.

01:30And if you've ever worked managing or upgrading or changing or altering source code, I remember

01:37I was given a program to upgrade, and that didn't just mean translate it from COBOL 74

01:45to COBOL 85, but make some substantial changes to the code.

01:49And it was about 100,000 lines of code.

01:53It was an incredibly complicated program that processed haircuts in trading algorithms.

02:02And boy, I really found that one very hard to work on.

02:08It was all on a terminal, so there were no breakpoints.

02:11You couldn't F8 step through the code like you can in Windows.

02:14You couldn't immediately interrogate all the variables to find out their values.

02:18It was really tough to work on.

02:20And so, the reason I'm talking about this is because do not fuck with the source code

02:31if you can at all avoid it.

02:33In fact, when it comes to DNA, do not fuck with the source code.

02:39And this is just computer code.

02:42We're talking about the elemental and essential building blocks of life itself.

02:49It takes to me a staggering arrogance to think that we can change source code that is developed

02:59for literally billions and billions of years.

03:03That we can just go in, screw around with it, and improve it.

03:08Now, I get if there's some kind of deviation, if there's a bug in the code and we know what

03:13it's supposed to look like, like if there's something missing here or there, we know exactly

03:18what the right one's going to look like and we can use some kind of CRISPR magic to fix it.

03:22Okay, that's a different matter.

03:25That's a different matter.

03:26That's fixing something.

03:28I get that.

03:29That's debugging and fixing something.

03:30Okay.

03:31I mean, when I was neck deep in programming, what I would always do is I would get the

03:38right inputs and outputs and only then would I work to make things more efficient.

03:43So I didn't care if I had to open up 50 record sets and get the code right and then close

03:50them all, which was ridiculously inefficient.

03:53When I was programming back in the day, particularly I programmed code for international databases

03:58databases that crossed all time zones and the amount of data that was available sometimes

04:04across the oceans was like 10K a second.

04:08I mean, it's crazy slow.

04:10So what I did was I would open up all the record sets in the most ridiculously inefficient

04:15way possible, just working locally, and I would get the code to run correctly, knowing

04:23it would be ungodly slow if I put it in production, but at least I knew how it was going to work.

04:29And I knew that it was working correctly.

04:31And then I would work to make it efficient, knowing the input and the output, knowing

04:36the variables as they went along.

04:38So then what I would do is I would load the record sets into memory locally, and I would

04:45do all the data manipulation that I need, and then I would just push a remote update

04:49statement for just the relevant data so that I only had to send some values in a SQL statement

04:55to get the database to update remotely.

04:59It takes a huge amount of work to optimize, to make things right.

05:06I remember reading a programming article back in the day.

05:10I think it was a Microsoft head programmer who said, there are little clusters of code.

05:16You don't know what they're there for.

05:17And your big idea is to, well, we'll take these out.

05:23We don't know what this is for.

05:24This doesn't seem to be needed.

05:27And then you take it out, and then you find out that the reason that little code snippet

05:30was in there was because if somebody was writing to a floppy disk or a hard disk and the disk

05:36failed, that this is a way of trying to get something that could work.

05:41Now, if somebody pulled out the disk or the disk failed in its write, I mean, one of the

05:47very first programming things that I did when I started taking computer science courses

05:52back in my early teens was learning how to read and write the fat tables on five and

05:56a quarter inch, the file allocation tables on five and a quarter inch floppies.

06:01Don't fuck with the source code, man, unless you have something that you know is right.

06:07So I could optimize my code once I knew the input and outputs were correct.

06:11So once I had a template of what was right, then I could make things more efficient.

06:16This is one of the things that creeped me out about the mRNA vaccines.

06:23Is it possible that they could be screwing with the source code?

06:27You know, we are the most successful species in the known universe, and the idea that we

06:31can tinker around with the source code and make it better without a template of what

06:36works perfectly, or at least what is the norm, oof, man, that is bad, bad, bad idea.

06:44That is a bad, bad, bad idea.

06:46All right.

06:47So no, you cannot screw with the source code and call yourself pious.

06:51All right.

06:52What advice can I give my daughters on how to see and pick good men to marry as they

06:55get older?

06:56Thank you, Stephen Molyneux.

06:58Ah, something that is not entirely theoretical.

07:03Well, the only way to get your daughters to pick good men to marry is to say to those

07:13daughters, the man has to take delight in who you are as a person, and everything else

07:21will flow from that.

07:23The man has to take delight, for a woman, in who you are as a person, and everything

07:30flows from that.

07:32For a man to take delight in who you are as a person, two things need to happen.

07:38Number one, you need to be delightful, right?

07:41And number two, he has to be capable of recognizing how delightful you are, right?

07:48You need to be delightful to have the capacity to delight someone else.

07:53And the other person needs to be capable of seeing how delightful you are.

07:59I mean, to be perceived as a good singer by someone, A, you have to be a good singer,

08:04and B, they have to have ears that work or recognize what good singing is.

08:11Now, as far as how to be delightful, and I love that word, delightful, it's really, really

08:18underused these days.

08:20To be delightful is to bring delight to someone, to bring sunlight into our occasionally tear-stained

08:27and darkened hearts, to bring laughter to sometimes the world hangs weights on our shoulders,

08:34hearts, and minds, and to have the giddy helium balloons that take those all away, to grab

08:41a scrap of immortality in the delight of a well-placed comment, or joke, or thought,

08:47or glance, to have someone run to the door when you come home, to bring delight, to have

08:54a woman laugh in peals of laughter because of your comments, to have enough self-deprecation

09:02that she feels safe around you, but not so much self-deprecation that she loses respect,

09:08to walk that fine line of being challenging without being aggressive, of being assertive

09:12without being abrasive, to bring delight.

09:15You know, one of the proudest things that I ever have in my life is, no matter what

09:21ever happens in my life, you know, everything that I've ever done could get scrubbed from

09:26the universe if they keep provoking Russia, right, but no matter what happens in my life

09:32or what goes forward from my existence, and even if I were to be entirely erased and forgotten

09:40fifty-seven minutes after my death, some men in black pants, gone like he was never here,

09:47I have brought deep delight to my wife and daughter, and that will never be undone.

09:53Though you erase me like a Stalinist henchman from a grainy photo, the delight that I have

10:00brought to people in my life will never be undone.

10:05And if you have that, if you know the deep delight that you have brought to the people

10:12in your life, you can bear almost any and every burden, including death itself.

10:21And this is a very foundational question that you need to answer in your life.

10:27To whom do you bring deep delight?

10:31Who can you make belly laugh?

10:34Who jumps up and down, sometimes with excitement, when you come home?

10:40Who rushes into your arms?

10:42You know, I mean, I start every day with my wife with a big, deep, passionate, soulful

10:46kiss, bottomless hugs.

10:50It is a beautiful thing.

10:52Do you bring deep delight to at least one person other than yourself?

11:00Because that's what pair bonding is, it's being drawn like a mass to a gravity well

11:05to that which brings you deep delight.

11:07And by deep delight, I don't just mean sort of frivolous, goofy stuff, although that certainly

11:10has its place.

11:12But a deep and foundational joy in the beauty and pleasure of existence.

11:18Who can you make giggle by waking up by blowing raspberries on their neck?

11:23Whatever it is that you're going to be doing that is going to bring you deep delight.

11:27I mean, who do you, which spouse, boyfriend or girlfriend do you have, they come out of

11:33a shower with the towel wrapped around them, do you say, yes, I'm afraid I'm going to need

11:37my towel back right now.

11:41Who do you bring deep?

11:42And it doesn't necessarily have to be some sophisticated sense of humor.

11:46It just is.

11:48You have to bring people joy in order to be loved.

11:52They have to bring you joy as well.

11:54Now, for your daughters, if they bring deep delight to a man, and of course it has to

12:00be reciprocal, right?

12:01We're just talking one side versus the other.

12:03If they bring deep delight to a man, then, you know, when they get older and they're,

12:12I don't know, married and they're sitting in bed and it's like, we could chat or we

12:18could kiss, either one is great.

12:22That's really what you want.

12:24That's really what you want.

12:26We could chat or we could kiss, either one is great.

12:32It doesn't really matter.

12:35Either one is great.

12:37And if you have that, you have everything.

12:41If you have that, you have everything.

12:45So once they have a man in their environment who takes deep delight in their existence,

12:52in their conversation, in their humor, in their joy, in their curiosity, in their wisdom,

12:58in their excitement, in their joy and thrill of living, well, you can't do better than that.

13:07And, you know, say to women, oh, don't settle, don't settle.

13:10Okay, I get all of that, but it is a long life to be absent, unhappy, dour, negative,

13:21ill-tempered.

13:22And, you know, that happens to all of us from time to time.

13:25But if you can have a life that you share with someone who brings you deep delight and

13:30joy, you jump up and run to see them when they come home.

13:35They jump up and run to see you when you get home.

13:38You can't get enough of the kisses and hugs.

13:41Man, there's no upgrade from that.

13:44There's no improvement from that.

13:47Bring delight to someone.

13:50Because if you bring delight to someone, then your life has been worthwhile.

13:56And if they bring delight to you, then their life has been worthwhile.

13:59And if you bring delight to someone, you will automatically figure out the dour, negative,

14:05the hostile, the depressed, the dysfunctional, the sour, the hostile, the angry.

14:12And you will have your life surrounded by people where the only challenge is how happy

14:18you can make each other.

14:20There is no end to that challenge.

14:22There is no summit to that challenge.

14:25And there's nothing greater than living in the face and in the embrace of that most delightful

14:31challenge.

14:32So that would be my suggestion.

14:33I hope that that helps.

14:35All right.

14:36Was the French Revolution the start of the death of Europe?

14:40No, I don't think so.

14:42I don't think so.

14:43I don't think so.

14:44I mean, in a more proximate way, and of course this did happen.

14:48I've got a whole series on the French Revolution available for donors at freedomain.locals.com

14:52or free domain, sorry, subscribestar.com slash freedomain.

14:57So the way that the West has fallen or is in the process of almost completing its fall

15:03is this, that the devil, for want of a better phrase, the devil himself makes you feel frustrated,

15:10fearful, and helpless.

15:12And then because you feel frustrated and fearful and helpless, you reach for power,

15:19political power, in the hopes of saving yourself.

15:22And for a brief time, much like a drug makes you happy, you feel saved.

15:26And then the greed that you have, the break with virtue, the hungering and grabbing of

15:32political power, what that ends up doing is it ends up destroying you utterly.

15:37I mean, of course, in the West, governments gained control.

15:42In particular, in America, America was founded as a WASP nation, right?

15:47Protestant.

15:48And then when large numbers of Italian and Irish Catholics came in, there was a concern

15:54that the Catholic culture was going to break the American culture.

15:57And so, because people felt frightened and overwhelmed by a foreign culture, and a culture

16:03that had been at war with each other for hundreds of years, and the Catholics and the Protestants,

16:08well, the government said, well, we've got a solution.

16:12You give us control over the education of children, and we will maintain your culture,

16:19and we will make sure that this new and alien culture has a very limited impact on your

16:24life.

16:25We will save your culture.

16:26Just give us your children to educate.

16:28And for a short amount of time, that seemed like a fairly decent deal, just as the devil

16:32gives you money, success, talent, and power, and it seems pretty great for a short amount

16:37of time.

16:38And then, inevitably, those utterly opposed to European and Western traditions ended up

16:45taking over the government schools, and are using it to dismantle the mindset of European

16:51culture.

16:52So, do you think the Ukraine war will go nuclear?

16:54I don't, really, unless it's some very limited tactical thing.

16:58I don't think it will go nuclear.

17:02I think that the purpose of the provocation of the conflicts in Eastern Europe, and with

17:08Russia in particular, are there to allow the elites to reduce people's standard of living

17:17without there being as much complaint.

17:19So, in a time of peace, it's very hard for government to cut back on spending, because

17:22people are soft and weak and greedy, and all that kind of stuff, but the moment that you

17:28provoke a conflict, and in some ways, of course, COVID was a dress rehearsal for this,

17:35but when you provoke conflict, then what you can do is you can put people on rations, you

17:40can have people, you can cut welfare, you can do a lot of things to cause a lower standard

17:47of living, at least temporarily, for people.

17:50And rather than rioting in the streets, you'll say, well, it's an emergency, we all have

17:53to pull together, our very way of life is under threat, and enemies are at the gates,

17:56and terrorism is happening.

17:58I think there'll be terrorist stuff for sure, whether it's real or not, or whether it's

18:02self or other, it's something that history will sort out over time, as it usually does.

18:07But no, the escalation of conflict is there to frighten and shock the population into

18:14accepting lower standards of living, because, I mean, I've talked about this, of course,

18:19as have many other people for decades, that one of the problems with a greedy and thoughtless

18:25population is that they vote for more and more stuff they don't want to pay for, the

18:28government gets into debt, and when the government runs out of money, it goes to war.

18:34Well, it goes to war now before it runs out of money.

18:36So I think it's just there, it's not there to lay waste to the planet and so on, because

18:40all the greedy people and all the power mongers still want to be in power and get stuff, and

18:45they can't get that in a radioactive fallout wasteland.

18:48So it's there to get you to accept a lower standard of living.

18:52And we can see this, right?

18:53I mean, the amount of rights that were stripped out of people in the West as a result of COVID,

18:58it's an emergency.

19:00And people were just willing, seemed quite eager to line up and rat on their neighbours

19:05and strip people of their rights for private medical decisions.

19:07Nuremberg Code, be damned, right?

19:10All right.

19:11Does art have a function?

19:13And if so, what is it?

19:15Can you go into the different theories of art and how the end goal is seen differently?

19:19Yes, we go into the different schools of art, more specifically, and why they arose.

19:23And their philosophical differences.

19:25Yes, I'll just, I'll get right on that.

19:28I think that's delightful.

19:31Oh, I think that's delightful.

19:33I'm sorry.

19:34That is just, that is such a wild question.

19:36Yes, let me get into all the schools of thought across the world, examine their philosophical

19:40roots and tell you what the purpose is for all of them.

19:43Sorry, don't mean to laugh, but that is some pretty, pretty wild stuff.

19:49I mean, I just, the purpose of art is to push a moral agenda, which can be positive or negative,

19:58right?

19:59It can push a moral agenda.

20:00That moral agenda could be the destruction of morality.

20:03It's an evil, an anti-moral agenda and so on.

20:06And we have not had art in the West, really, since the 60s.

20:12Since the 1960s, there has been no functional art in the West.

20:15It's all propaganda.

20:17It's all pushing collectivism.

20:19It's all pushing various forms of leftism.

20:23And it is all about making women frightened of men so that they stay single and dependent

20:28on the state.

20:29It's all about opposing Western traditions.

20:32It's just nonstop propaganda.

20:35It's like journalism or so-called journalism, right?

20:37It has to conform to a particular propaganda purpose.

20:40It has not been free.

20:42And this is another thing, too, which is that artists who cannot be successful in the

20:47free market run to the government, and the government says, well, we have to support

20:51our artists, don't you know?

20:53And then the artists start taking all this government money.

20:56And then with the government money comes a political agenda, right?

20:59Once you're taking government money, you can't be skeptical of government action.

21:04You can't be skeptical of political power.

21:07And whoever pays the piper calls the tune.

21:10Rather than liberating the artists from the mere concerns of the market, it has instead

21:16enslaved artists to the inevitable marching hammer drums of propaganda.

21:21All right, so.

21:23But yeah, art is there, too.

21:24Art is there to allow you to taste the results in the recipe.

21:29How is this food going to taste, right?

21:31So art is there to show you a moral journey and what happens when you make small decisions

21:35at the beginning of things.

21:36And I'm just working on this novel at the moment.

21:39When you make small decisions at the beginning of things, they turn into large disasters

21:42down the road if you don't know what happens.

21:45So if you think of the woodcuts from the 19th century, it was, you know, hey, you should

21:51try this.

21:52This alcohol is great.

21:53And then the guy ends up a complete, dissolute wastrel.

21:55Or a woman who gets taken in by a cat ends up as a prostitute, clutching her baby to

22:00her chest, right?

22:01So it's a way to have you taste the disaster at the beginning.

22:04It's a way to build up your immune system.

22:07It's sort of an inoculation, like the idea that you have a small amount of dead virus

22:10to activate your immune system so that when the real virus comes along, you're safe.

22:14So art is there to show you how bad decisions lead to a terrible life.

22:20And because of that, you end up making better decisions and avoid the terrible life.

22:25All right.

22:26Been following...

22:27Oh, thoughts on how to build better habits?

22:31Give a man a why.

22:33This is Nietzsche.

22:34Give a man a why.

22:35He can bear almost any how.

22:36So how do you build better habits?

22:38Well, you identify that which needs to improve.

22:42You learn why it needs to improve.

22:44And then you figure out why in your life it hasn't improved yet already.

22:49Why it hasn't improved yet already.

22:51So if you're a guy and you know you need to learn how to talk to girls, well, you've got

22:55to figure out the why of that.

22:56Well, talk to girls, get married, have kids, have a good life, have people by my side in

23:00an increasingly dissolute and desperate time.

23:05So that's the why.

23:06And then you have to figure out why you haven't done it already.

23:11Let's say you're 25 or 30 and you know you need to go talk to girls.

23:15The question is, why have you spent, you know, most guys will learn how to talk to girls

23:19in their early to mid-teens, you know, 13, 14, 15.

23:23So why haven't you done that?

23:24Say you're 25 and you're 10 years behind the curve, 10 to 12 years behind the curve.

23:28Well, why haven't you done that?

23:30Well, the desire to talk to girls for young men, young boys or boys, is so high that it

23:36takes an immense amount of resistance to not do that.

23:41So why do you not talk to girls?

23:44Well, most likely it's because you've got some creepy eatable single mom who wants to

23:48cling you to her bony chest so that you don't leave her alone when she gets older because

23:52she's too old to get much male attention.

23:55So she's just going to hang on to her little Lord Fauntleroy attached angelfish burrowed

24:00in the maternal buried alive in the liver spotted chest.

24:04That is, keep little Johnny close.

24:09And so, you know, there's some reason as to why.

24:12And once you confront that reason, the habits are easier to build, right?

24:19Been following you for well over 15 years, Steph.

24:22You could spell my name right, but that's all right.

24:23I've been following you for well over 15 years, Stefan.

24:26First and foremost, thank you.

24:27Second, another thank you for what I believe is your best work to date.

24:31The story of your enslavement, that's a video from 15 years ago or so, right?

24:36Rings true today.

24:39And I appreciate that.

24:41Yeah, you can find that.

24:42It's still around there.

24:43Let's see here.

24:46How did it feel getting owned by Peter Joseph so many years back?

24:50Oh, that's so sad.

24:54Obviously low-key annoying, right?

24:56Destroyed, owned.

24:58I mean, it's sad.

25:00It's just pick a team and claim to win, right?

25:04You just got owned.

25:05I mean, it's just so funny, right?

25:08And sad.

25:09You know, it's not, no arguments, no thoughts, no ideas, and so on.

25:13Just, well, my team won and I danced in your grave.

25:15You're in the wrong place.

25:16You need to go watch a Mr. Beast video.

25:18All right.

25:19Thank you, everyone, for your thoughts, freedomman.com slash donate.

25:22To help out the show would be enormously appreciated.

25:25Lots of love from up here.

25:26Go delight someone.

25:27Bye.

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