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00:29 How to overcome burnout as a parent.
00:32 I am so sorry this video took me so long to film.
00:34 I'm just sort of catching up on everything, so please bear with me.
00:37 First and foremost, and this is probably the hardest one, is to talk about it.
00:41 Oftentimes, there's a lot of shame and guilt in isolation in feeling parental burnout.
00:47 We're not complaining about our kids.
00:48 We're not complaining about being parents.
00:50 We're not regretting our decision, but we're just frankly saying we feel burnt out.
00:54 Yes, we have a group on Shmishbook.
00:57 The shmink is in our shmio.
01:00 We want to facilitate social support.
01:02 We want to have supports that we can lean on, talk to, and to just know that we are
01:06 not alone.
01:07 Number two, re-evaluate and re-appraise.
01:10 Take a look at things day to day and week to week that are sucking your energy, that
01:15 are causing you a lot of stress, any disdain, any anxiety, and take a look at a couple things
01:21 for each of these tasks.
01:22 Are they necessary?
01:23 Are they benefiting you or your family directly?
01:27 And can somebody else step in and do them?
01:29 Keep doing this on the tasks day to day, week to week.
01:33 Re-evaluate, re-appraise.
01:34 I know we hate this one because we want immediate results, but make small changes.
01:38 It took us months or years to get to this point of burnout, and it's not just going
01:43 to go away overnight.
01:45 Delegate one small task to your partner or a friend or a family member.
01:49 Look at the activities that your children or you or your family are doing on a daily
01:53 or weekly basis.
01:54 Is there any room to cut any of those back?
01:56 I'm going to get shit for this one, but you guys lower the bar.
02:00 Stop shooting yourself into burnout.
02:03 Sometimes we need to just strip it back to the basics, and that's okay.
02:06 Work on taking more micro breaks during the day rather than shooting for like a two, three,
02:11 four day weekend away from all of your responsibilities.
02:14 Micro breaks throughout the day are much more attainable and can definitely add up to some
02:18 stress relief over time.
02:20 Re-evaluate your values and make sure that you're living adjacent to those.
02:24 The drudgery of the same day over and over and over again can really get to us, and before
02:29 we know it, we realize how discontented we are with our life, and it's because we're
02:34 not living adjacent to our values.
02:36 We're just getting by.
02:37 Think about the question, "What is most important to you?" or "What moments are you the happiest?"
02:42 and work towards adding more of those into your days or weeks.
02:45 Be non-apologetic about it.
02:47 If what matters to you is sitting in your car and eating Chick-fil-A French fries, which
02:50 is definitely one of mine, then just fucking do it.
02:53 And finally, therapy.
02:55 Come on guys, you knew that I was going to say that one.
02:57 A lot of times, parental burnout can directly be linked to our own upbringing or our own
03:02 past traumas that are kind of starting to creep their way out when we have our own kids.
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