00:00 I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex and that does not sum up polyamory.
00:05 It's so much more than that. We're just kind of a big crazy family.
00:08 So we're in a polyamorous quad. That polyamory in general, meaning we have multiple partners,
00:20 our quad is closed. So Sean is my husband and then Tyler is my partner as well. And then
00:27 Tyler and Alicia are married and Alicia is Sean's partner as well.
00:31 For Tay and I, we've been married since 2017. Had a really great marriage. Everything was going
00:36 great. Just felt the need to explore and have a little fun. Wasn't looking for anything
00:41 relationship-wise. Just wanted to explore certain things from a physical standpoint with other
00:46 people. Alicia and I were married since 2012 and we were just kind of seeking out some
00:51 extra-curricular fun. Like Sean said, it was just meant to be a physical thing for us to
00:56 kind of casual. Happened to match with these guys on a digital app. We had talked online for
01:01 you know a little while. Decided to meet at an event in Portland. Hung out and had pretty good
01:07 chemistry. It was pretty easy, pretty comfortable to be around each other. I think it was a lot of
01:12 what-if conversations in the beginning. Like what if there was feelings and then what if we wanted
01:16 to spend more time together and then what if we wanted to live together and those what-ifs just
01:20 turned into real life conversations really quickly. It was a really beautiful thing to
01:24 realize that it doesn't take away from our own relationship to have the other experimental
01:28 person just ask you. I mean I'd never heard the term polyamory before we were in a polyamorous
01:33 relationship. So the idea that you could love more than one person had never crossed my mind before.
01:37 Tyler and I had two previous children together before we met Sean and Taya and then after we
01:43 have been together I birthed Barrett and then Taya gave birth to Carver. So the little boys are only
01:49 seven months apart. From a biological standpoint you know the older two kids don't want to rain
01:53 out. We know that I'm the biological father. The younger two boys biologically, I'm not sure
02:00 because we didn't really make an effort to regulate that and determine beforehand who was
02:03 going to father the child. But moving on from that I would say that our children all have two fathers.
02:08 Not knowing the biology of the two younger kids is not important to us because we parent together.
02:14 It doesn't matter to us. It's never mattered to us. The kids see us all as parents and so it's
02:19 never been a, as of right now, has never been a thing. Not to say that it won't be when the kids
02:23 are older and we would never hide that from anyone. Most of the time that we spend together
02:27 is as a quad. All kids are in bed by about eight o'clock at night so it gives one hour for all the
02:32 adults to kind of unwind and watch a show together, the four of us as a quad. And then at nine we go
02:39 to our own separate bedrooms. So one night Tyler and I will be together, Sean and Taya will be
02:44 together, and then the next night Sean and I will be together and Taya and Tyler will be together.
02:48 It's been really fun to share our family and our family photos and honestly just how normal we are.
02:57 We're just kind of a big crazy family and I think a lot of people equate polyamory to sex and
03:02 it's not. That does not sum up polyamory. It's so much more than that and our relationships
03:09 physically aren't unlike anybody else's except for the fact that we have one additional partner
03:15 than most people do.
03:18 [silence]
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