00:00 I'm Legend. I'm Cheetah. I'm Maya. And we're the Rebel. Are you guys ready for a book?
00:08 How do you know what someone wants to be called? We ask. What are your pronouns? They. They? That's pretty fair.
00:17 Our children have three parents. Who write our first name. Legend, she's like a super diva. She's super girly.
00:29 She's a cat. Aries, she's like more calm and laid back. She's super empathetic. She's super empathetic.
00:37 How old are you? Ten. If you put their names together it's Legend Aries. Yeah. Alright. Good job.
00:45 The twins refer to me as Mommy Maya. The twins refer to me as Mommy Cheetah. The twins refer to me as Daddy.
00:54 First it started off as a joke. Their moms call me Daddy. Usually if kids hear you say somebody's name a lot.
00:59 Yeah. They're gonna be like, "Hey Daddy." So we kept it. How many sides? Five. I think the girls love the dynamic
01:08 simply because they have so much love. Good job. The reason that we chose to homeschool them, one, because there's a lot
01:15 going on in the schools right now. Yeah. And two, I feel like there's a lot that they're missing in schools that they could be
01:24 taught at home. When Maya and I first met, she slid in my DMs. Now we're together nine years later. We first decided to open
01:37 our marriage about four years before Chena came along. Fun fact, I've known her longer. Yeah. Yeah. Me and her were
01:45 friends for years before we started dating. And she knew us when I started dating Maya. So I think we had stopped talking
01:55 for about six years. She went away to school. Yeah. Lived her life. Dated ugly girls. And then she ended up seeing us on
02:03 Instagram. And she slid in the DMs and was like, "Hey, how are you guys? You're Polly now." And I was like, "Yes, I am."
02:11 The twins were one and a half when I came in. I met them in May of 2020. I was not familiarized with polyamory at all. I was
02:22 very monogamous. When I got married to Chena, it was not only out of love, but it was for a very legal reason. It's so that she
02:29 could have step-parent rights to our kids. So that if anything ever happened to me and Maya, that she would not have to fight
02:35 the court system. When they got married, I was the witness. I'm the one that was there when the papers were signed and the
02:42 words were said.
02:43 I feel like we started having a big online presence during COVID. We were all locked in the house. Everyone was locked in the
02:56 house. What are we going to do? And it kind of grew us on TikTok. Three lesbians, one man, one girl.
03:02 We get a lot of responses to our content. The hate around the kids is a big one. That our children are going to grow up gay,
03:11 right? They're like, "What is the kid? You're making the kids gay. You're confusing the kids." And I was like, "These kids are
03:18 not confused. They're highly intelligent children."
03:20 Someone on this comment that's judging my family, who knows nothing about how smart and beautiful and loving my kids are.
03:27 When people say, "Oh, you're just going to make your kids gay." I said, "That's okay. Because it's okay to be gay."
03:32 It's nothing wrong.
03:34 Yeah, that's you. They want to be gay.
03:35 Like, "Oh!" Like, there's nothing wrong with being gay. And there's nothing wrong with being straight. There's nothing wrong
03:39 with being bi or pan. Whatever my kids want to be, at the end of the day, no one can make you do anything.
03:45 And how we can even have kids. So that one's still...
03:48 Yeah, someone said they're lesbians. How can they be mothers?
03:51 Like, that one's still... I'm like, "Google it."
03:53 What?
03:54 I think you Google it.
03:55 We have experienced judgment with our relationship dynamic. Just because they disagree with it, they feel like they have to say
04:02 something negative.
04:04 We don't see too many people of color that are in polyamorous relationships. It's like a very cultural stigma around it.
04:11 I think it also circles back around to a lot of black women that are competing with each other, too.
04:17 Oh, yeah.
04:19 People are like, "Did you assist the wives?" I was like, "Please don't call them that."
04:22 It's not just one solid person at the top with multiple wives. Their relationship is just as important as our relationship or
04:29 me and Maya's relationship. So it's like four little relationships in a big bubble. And then we still got to maintain a
04:34 relationship with our kids.
04:35 Exactly.
04:37 The positive comments and the positive DMs and how you're changing other people's lives, it kind of outweighs the bad.
04:47 Goals. It's beautiful how you love each other.
04:51 Even though we do get a lot of hate, people also love to see us all together.
04:55 When we're out in public, it's a lot of strange reactions.
04:58 Or like when people think that you're like cheating or something.
05:02 It had to happen where a lady in a grocery store, I gave Maya a kiss and then Maya went to go grab something.
05:07 And then she walked up and I gave her a kiss. And this lady was like, "How dare you? You need to be ashamed of
05:12 yourself. You, ma'am, you need to find someone else because she's cheating on you."
05:16 One of the key things to make this family work is patience. A lot of talking. A lot of talking. I also feel like being
05:28 open minded is also another key factor of being in a polyamorous relationship.
05:33 All right, guys, it's time to go.
05:35 Okay, we're coming.
05:37 Legend, Aries.
05:38 You guys need to eat. You guys need to eat.
05:41 Hold the baby, sir.
05:42 We have the keys, baby.
05:44 Okay.
05:44 Okay.
05:44 Today I have an appointment at the fertility clinic because we are trying to have another baby.
05:53 The doctor will go through results and tell me everything I need to know and give me a schedule, a timeline.
05:59 Good, how are you?
06:00 I'm super excited.
06:02 Yeah, something we've been wanting to do for a while. Like the girls are almost five and we tried to do it sooner.
06:08 And it was unsuccessful. So we're hoping that this time we can have more family, right?
06:13 We've all had a conversation about it. Maya carried the girls and I never got to carry a child. So we decided that I
06:21 would carry this time. And it's something that would be great, you know, to experience. I've always wanted to do it.
06:26 I want her to experience what I experienced because I know how she feels about wanting to have babies because I felt
06:37 the same way.
06:38 The immediate next steps that we're going to undertake, you're going to start concentrating on the diet changes, then
06:45 the process of IVF is going to get started.
06:47 Okay.
06:47 We're really excited to expand our family. And I love Dr. Littman. She produced these lovely baby girls right here. So I
06:55 know that it will be great.
06:56 Here are all of your prescriptions.
06:58 Okay. See you in a couple weeks.
07:00 All right.
07:01 Hey, girls. How was your nap?
07:08 Guess what tonight is? The Pride Parade. You want to go to the parade? Yeah. Okay, we got to get dressed.
07:16 The buttons go on the back. Okay, thank you for telling me.
07:19 It's important for us to take the girls to the Pride Parade, just so that they can see more inclusion, seeing families
07:31 that may look like us, and just be open minded overall.
07:35 Some of the best things about being in this sort of dynamic is always having someone to talk to.
07:44 Yeah, like constantly supported.
07:47 I feel like the best part is that you're always learning something new every day. Every day.
07:54 We got trolls out there saying that we're making our children gay.
08:03 [laughter]
08:05 Is that me?
08:08 [silence]
08:10 [silence]
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