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  • 25/09/2023
A "teacher's pet" married her favourite schoolteacher after the pair fell in love despite a 25-year age gap.

Monica Foster, 32, first met and her now-wife, Michelle, 57, in 2004 when she was her science teacher.

Sixteen years later, Monica, a self-confessed "teacher's pet", searched on Facebook to see how her former favourite teacher was doing.

Michelle had been in a relationship with a woman in the past, and Monica had just come out as gay too.

The pair met up and became close friends before a developing a romantic connection - despite being mistaken for mother and daughter "several times every day".

Ignoring daily online abuse from trolls, the couple got engaged in autumn 2022.

They tied the knot earlier this year and say they're happier than ever after a "perfect day" with a private beachfront wedding.

Michelle, a now-retired teacher, from Big Rapids, Michigan, US, said: "When Monica first reached out, I was always willing to be supportive of former students, so I was very happy reconnect.

"As we grew close, I was worried about the age gap and I was worried about how we first met, but I had to let it all go.

"Our wedding was a beach wedding on a stunning day - and it was just perfect.

"It's amazing how fast the year has flown by since our engagement - it's kind of bewildering.

"It's amazing and very surreal - after everything, we know we've got this."

Monica, a school bus driver, said: "Our wedding day was so significant to me - I don't care what people think because they're not living my life, I am.

"It just felt so special."

Michelle had been Monica's favourite teacher in seventh grade - when Monica, then 13, had been "the goody goody student".

While their relationship remained professional back then, Michelle left such a mark that Monica decided to find her on Facebook 17 years later, in April 2020.

Monica had just gone through a tough situation and recalled Michelle's supportive classroom being a "safe place" for her when she was younger and got in touch.

They began speaking online before eventually meeting again for the first time in 17 years in August 2021.

Over lunch they chatted about their lives and over time they grew to be close friends.

Monica said: "We were both in really dark places at that time, and finding someone you can relate to and be vulnerable with felt safe."

They ended their previous relationships to be together in May 2022, with Michelle and her wife filing for a divorce.

Ever since then, the couple - who both have children from previous marriages - have been living together.

Monica said despite the 25-year age gap, they have a lot in common, having bonded over music, camping, outdoor activities and hunting down locally brewed beer.

While Monica "didn't really have concerns" about the age gap, Michelle initially struggled with it because of people's assumptions.

She said: "People ask 'is that your mum' or even 'is that your grandma' all the time.

"We learned to laugh or brush it off, but if you see me kissing her, why would you ask if she's my mum?"

"Another question I get asked is whether I loved her when I was 13 - obviously not.

"At the time, we didn’t have any relationship besides her being a good teacher."

The couple got engaged in autumn 2022, after organising separate proposals for each other so they both had a chance to propose.

Their big day rolled around, and the pair had a tiny beach wedding on June 17 at Suttons Bay, on the shore of Lake Michigan, and they said their vows in a tiny nearby cottage with just a handful of their nearest and dearest.

Afterwards they had a singalong to 'Good As Hell' by Lizzo on the waterfront before they "cracked a beer in the forest".

Two nights earlier they had had a separate 'mini wedding' with Monica's children Zeke, seven, and Charlie, five, so they could enjoy the experience too.

Monica said: "They still talk about it - Charlie asks to wear her 'wedding dress'.

"Zeke was wearing a rainbow bowtie."

After enjoying a relaxing honeymoon in Traverse City, now the newlyweds are back home and ready to relax as wife and wife.

Michelle said: "This year has flown fast - we travelled so much this past year.

"We're just ready to be home together - I'm ready for some boring."

Monica added: "It's time to settle down."

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Transcript
00:00 (upbeat music)
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00:11 (upbeat music)
00:18 (upbeat music)
00:34 (upbeat music)
00:37 - Hey, I've been seeing a lot of comments
00:44 and messages lately in an honor of Oberon release day.
00:48 Here's some vulnerable stuff.
00:50 We've gotten a lot of you to make life look easy.
00:54 You have the perfect life.
00:55 Thank you.
00:57 But let me put it here like this.
00:59 We have a once in a lifetime love.
01:02 We are definitely not perfect by any means,
01:04 but we are perfect for each other.
01:06 And life is definitely not easy.
01:09 Please remember that social media
01:11 captures the highlight real.
01:13 And with that being said,
01:13 I promised myself as a revived creator,
01:17 I would always be authentic and real.
01:19 And what you see is real.
01:21 Sure, we don't document our fights and we fight good
01:25 or our depression files.
01:27 And we don't talk about the meds that we take for our pain
01:29 and we don't wake up free from demons every day,
01:32 but those things are real for us too.
01:35 We both have trauma.
01:36 We both have pain.
01:38 I had a very visible panic attack
01:40 on our TikTok live recently
01:42 because I was triggered by the past
01:45 when a phone call came on my screen
01:47 and Michelle is going through her painful things
01:50 from her divorce.
01:52 And we have deep hurts that we have to work through.
01:55 And I think we all can say that if we're honest.
01:59 So let me remind you beautiful souls
02:02 that we might put our best here.
02:05 We might put our smiles and our best improv
02:09 and we might create things to make you laugh
02:12 or to give you hope.
02:13 But please know, please know that we're real people too.
02:16 And we fight too.
02:17 And we cry too.
02:19 And we feel alone too.
02:20 We are here for each of you the best that we can be
02:25 while still remembering
02:27 that we have to take care of ourselves
02:29 and each other first
02:30 before we can pour into each of you.
02:33 But we are real.
02:35 We are here.
02:36 We are happy.
02:37 We are not perfect.
02:39 And we are okay with that.
02:41 So keep on being authentic.
02:43 Keep on keeping on.
02:44 And know you've got people in your corner, real people.
02:47 Cheers to that baby.
02:48 - Cheers to that.
02:49 Love and light all of you.
02:50 - Love and light.
02:51 Thanks for being here.
02:53 - Choose happy.
02:53 - Happy O'Brien day.
02:55 - Happy O'Brien release day.
02:56 Woo hoo.
02:57 Gotta celebrate Michigan here.
03:00 - Love you.
03:00 - Love you too.
03:02 - Thank you for that.
03:05 Any filmmakers or authors want to pick up our story?
03:08 Michelle and I met in 2004.
03:10 She taught middle school science.
03:12 I was her student.
03:14 Yay, science.
03:16 We didn't see each other for 17 years.
03:19 I came out of the closet
03:20 and I knew Michelle was a safe friend.
03:22 Boom, we met for lunch.
03:24 We spent a lot of time camping, being vulnerable.
03:27 We became really, really close friends.
03:30 One day I told her, I see you.
03:33 Then another day she realized the importance of that.
03:36 She moved into my house.
03:37 She taught me how to make dippy eggs properly.
03:42 ♪ Ah ♪
03:45 We made really hard decisions
03:47 and changed our lives in massive, massive ways.
03:49 We started dating.
03:51 My gosh, that woman is so sexy.
03:55 We recognized our 25 year age gap,
03:57 but we barely noticed it.
03:59 We started using words like forever and always.
04:02 We built a life together.
04:03 We did the hard things.
04:05 We accidentally went viral.
04:08 We took the harassment that came with it.
04:10 We decided we wanted pasties one day
04:12 and drove up across the Mackinac Bridge,
04:14 ate it and turned around because that's how we roll.
04:18 And then one day I got down on one knee
04:22 and asked her to be my wife.
04:23 And then she got down on one knee
04:25 and asked me the same thing.
04:27 And we keep going.
04:29 The kids love their mama, Michelle.
04:31 We stay vulnerable.
04:32 We do the hard things.
04:35 We aren't perfect, but we're perfect for each other.
04:38 We're eloping on a Lake Michigan beach in July.
04:42 ♪ My cougar and I ♪

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