00:00We went on our first date, that was March 5th, and then shelter-in-place started March 17th,
00:06so we've only been on like five dates before we decided to move in together.
00:14At one point, we were all strangers, and then we became roommates.
00:18We went from being literally on other parts of the country to being in a 500-square-foot,
00:25one-bedroom apartment overnight, basically.
00:27We got engaged on the first day of quarantine.
00:30We wanted a big, beautiful wedding.
00:32Tomorrow, actually, is our anniversary.
00:34We're going to go out for a nice dinner.
00:36Yeah, we're going to go out for a nice dinner down the hall.
00:39We've been together for eight years.
00:42Six years.
00:44We've been married. This year will be 30, no, 35 years.
00:50I know you want to make it longer. I don't blame you.
00:52We're currently quarantined in Paris, France.
00:54We're quarantining here in South East City, Utah.
00:56We are joining you from Wolfboro, New Hampshire.
01:03We did the virtual dating thing for about a week, and I think on day two is when Zahna was
01:09like,
01:09you know what, we should just quarantine together. This would be way easier.
01:12It was getting a little bit too much.
01:14We both work totally full-time.
01:16He's 18 months old, so as you can see, he's being great, but he's a lot.
01:20So we really just needed help.
01:22For quarantine, I was in Seattle working on a solo show.
01:27And then I went to visit Raja to see his show in Seattle, and then things got crazy.
01:33Charlotte was supposed to be visiting me for her spring break from school when everything got shut down,
01:39and so she decided it wasn't a good idea to fly back to Florida.
01:48The best part about being with your family while you're quarantined is being with your family while you're quarantined.
02:03Just to have somebody who understands you, who shares a sense of humor, who shares similar interests,
02:10and who just loves you for who you are, to have them around during a time like this is the
02:15best thing.
02:17I suppose the worst thing is sometimes when you're too close, there can be more functional issues like temperature.
02:23I am actually sleeping separately in a camp bed, let's say one out of three or four nights,
02:28because someone gets too warm, and so we have to turn the fan on.
02:34I don't even know if this is necessarily a bad thing.
02:37I don't get to miss her during the day.
02:39The worst part is that we have to work.
02:43The best parts about being quarantined together, I would say Patrick's a really good cook.
02:47We've been cooking so much.
02:48Now, like that I'm home and I don't have a lot to do, when I throw down in the kitchen,
02:53I'm like,
02:53yes, I'm so excited I get to like serve you food to provide for one another during this time
02:58in a space that we've created. It's really exciting.
03:04I hope your parents don't watch this video.
03:07When you say keep it fresh.
03:10This dress actually.
03:11Like, I wore this dress one day and I was like, let's go.
03:15We downloaded this, like, app that is like a sex exploration app.
03:20I did a lot of exercises about, like, exploring your body or just having conversations.
03:25Be unreliable.
03:26Don't do the same thing twice.
03:28That is a lesson I teach in theater and in dance,
03:31and I just have to say it also relates to the relationship.
03:39Communication is like, it's so much easier for us now.
03:42It's really nice to be able to actually build, like, you carve out lifetime memories together
03:48and not have to ask about the other's life.
03:51I think that was one of the big concerns early on. It's just, it doesn't matter who I'm with for
03:57this amount of time.
03:58They're probably going to hate me and I'm probably going to hate them.
04:02Luckily, we haven't gotten there yet, but I think one of the reasons why is because we are giving each
04:08other enough space.
04:09We're learning more about the other person's perspective and kind of just, like, coming to a middle ground
04:14and just, like, conflict resolution. That feels pretty healthy.
04:17I know that if I come into the room and she, like, might look at me and smile, I know,
04:22like, okay, she's working.
04:23I'm not going to, like, start up a convo.
04:25Just going to get my seltzer and carry on. Sorry.
04:30Using words the way that they're meant to be used is very important to me
04:34and something that we talk about a lot, and I will challenge you on how you're communicating with me
04:40if you want me to actually understand what you're saying.
04:43Yeah.
04:44I'm awful to be with, obviously.
04:50It's rare in any scenario that you spend more than a week with your in-laws at a beach house
04:58or, you know, away for a winter vacation.
05:01It's nice. I honestly have been pleasantly surprised.
05:04And I'm not pinching him or anything.
05:06Yeah.
05:06I'm only holding this wooden thing.
05:08When you have someone who loves you in a really uncomplicated way,
05:15having that foundational support of, like, trust and love and kindness,
05:21it just makes the rest of your life possible.
05:24Patrick always feels like the best days are still ahead, no matter what.
05:29Like, he just doesn't get bogged down.
05:32And so I think I have just learned how strong that sense of optimism about the future, I guess,
05:38how strong that is, even when it feels like the world is crumbling down.
05:43I think, like, one thing that we've done a super nice job of is just, like, being open-minded
05:48and, like, taking things a day at a time and, like, really enjoying the moment.
05:51If it feels right and things are going well, then, like, lean into that
05:53and don't think about too much else, you know?
05:55Yeah.
05:56And then, like, what's the worst that can happen?
05:58Like, worst-case scenario, you've tried something and you will have a funny story
06:02to tell your friends, but, like, worst-case scenario, Ubers will be there.
06:07You just leave.
06:09So, just taking a risk can pay off.
06:12So, I would definitely suggest whoever is considering it, just try it.
