Men and Women NEED EACH OTHER!

Stefan Molyneux

Philosopher Stefan Molyneux talks about why men and women need each other. They cover each other's blind spots at home, but that same split falls apart with the state, welfare and today's dating scene.  0:00:00 Marriability and Gender Balance 0:02:55 Home and Household Roles 0:05:12 Truth, Disagreement, and Marriage 0:08:27 Merit and Redistribution 0:12:07 Family Versus Strangers 0:16:33 How Roles Reinforce Each Other 0:20:43 Division of Labor 0:21:46 Meritocracy and Cooperation 0:24:09 Farming and Long-Term Selection 0:26:42 Skills Across Ages 0:29:39 Development Versus Performance 0:31:34 Family Incentives 0:35:04 The State Distorts Balance 0:39:01 No Internal Cap 0:41:07 Sex and Limits 0:43:42 External Limits Shape Behavior 0:45:09 Redistribution Without Restraint 0:48:38 Hypergamy and Status 0:50:23 Aiming Too High 0:55:59 The Cost of Overreaching 1:00:32 Limits of Hypergamy 1:04:12 Coercion Without Balance  JOIN ME IN NASHVILLE SEPTEMBER 12! https://wordwardebate.com/  Use code STEFAN for 10% off!  GET FREEDOMAIN MERCH! https://shop.freedomain.com/  SUBSCRIBE TO ME ON X! https://x.com/StefanMolyneux  Follow me on Youtube! https://www.youtube.com/@freedomain1  GET MY NEW BOOK 'PEACEFUL PARENTING', THE INTERACTIVE PEACEFUL PARENTING AI, AND THE FULL AUDIOBOOK! https://peacefulparenting.com/  Join the PREMIUM philosophy community on the web for free!  Subscribers get 12 HOURS on the "Truth About the French Revolution," multiple interactive multi-lingual philosophy AIs trained on thousands of hours of my material - as well as AIs for Real-Time Relationships, Bitcoin, Peaceful Parenting, and Call-In Shows!  You also receive private livestreams, HUNDREDS of exclusive premium shows, early release podcasts, the 22 Part History of Philosophers series and much more!  See you soon! https://freedomain.locals.com/support/promo/FREEDOMAIN2026

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00:00:00All right. So, Lindsay Clancy and associated ills and problems and challenges. So,

00:00:12there's something that pearly things, Pearl Davis said recently, that like only one to two percent

00:00:18of women are marriable, marriageable. And I would say what? I married three percent of the women I

00:00:28dated or something like that. Maybe two percent. So, maybe she's not far off. And, you know,

00:00:36whether that's more of a modern phenomenon or not is sort of an interesting question. But

00:00:43it is hard for men to process why women do what they do, why they have the approaches that they

00:00:51do.

00:00:52It is hard for men to understand the degree of hive mind, of Borg, so to speak, that women are

00:01:02susceptible to and manifest. It's hard for us to understand. Particularly high testosterone men,

00:01:10or men who are physically strong, which is sort of two sides of the same coin. But as a whole,

00:01:15it's very hard for men to understand this. So, there was a study that came out recently

00:01:22that over 60 percent of male psychology professors said that the truth was important and even more

00:01:28important than social equity or things like that. And a little over 40 percent of women felt the same

00:01:37way or were willing to report the same way. And that is, of course, a little shocking to men.

00:01:45In that, for women to say social equality, racial or ethnic or, we can't even say gender equality

00:01:55because women don't mind that when women are overrepresented. But that equality is more

00:02:02important than truth. It's hard for men to understand that. Now, the balance between male and female

00:02:09is that men should definitely be more sensitive to the effects of inequality on others, for sure.

00:02:17I mean, let's take an example of a man who has the bad habit of being an obnoxious or abrasive

00:02:26winner.

00:02:27So, let's say the man is playing golf or tennis or squash. And, you know, every time he wins, he's

00:02:35like,

00:02:35suck it, loser! You know, he just gets really obnoxious and annoying when he wins. Then his girlfriend

00:02:43or his wife or his mother or sister would probably say something like, you know, that's a little obnoxious.

00:02:48Like, don't do that. That's just going to cause annoyance and blowback. It's kind of rude.

00:02:55And so, that sensitivity is important. That sensitivity is important. Men and women have

00:03:03carved off aspects of a well-rounded personality and given it to each other.

00:03:10My wife is concerned about things that I'm not particularly concerned about, but that I accept

00:03:17as important. So, I mean, a sort of typical example is men just want furniture that's comfortable

00:03:27and not necessarily immediately dangerous. You know, it doesn't have like rat's nests in it or something

00:03:32like that. And women don't really want that as much, right? So, when I was a bachelor, I had,

00:03:43you know, tables that were being thrown out by other people or discarded by other people.

00:03:47I had a futon for my student days. You know, just a wide variety of things. I didn't really care

00:03:53whether they hung together or anything like that. And so, I was happy with all of that and that was

00:04:00fine. That was fine. My wife cares about things looking good and hanging together and she's willing

00:04:09to spend more money to end up with, you know, good furniture that is pleasing and nice and all this

00:04:17that and the other. And that makes, you know, kind of sense. That makes sense to me as a whole.

00:04:21That's a

00:04:22good idea. Sure. It's not that important to me until she gets her way, so to speak. And then it's

00:04:30like, yeah, this is nicer. And so, sort of local aesthetics and things that are pleasing to the eye

00:04:39and so on are important. Having a nice home that is calming and soothing and pleasant is a positive

00:04:49thing. So, I don't particularly care about it, but she's right to push for it. So, that is

00:04:59a way in which the completeness of my mind is offloaded to my wife and together we make

00:05:12a pleasant home. So, for instance, in my business career and, of course, also, as you know, in my

00:05:18social media career, such as it is, I have to be willing to be disagreeable, unpopular. I have to be

00:05:27willing to laugh in the face of outrage and so on, which not that many women are comfortable with.

00:05:37So, my wife likes people to get along. She likes a comfortable, nice and pleasant home, which is a

00:05:45good thing. And one of the ways that we pay for that is by me being willing to be disagreeable

00:05:53and to provoke rage or anger or hostility, not provoke it, but that's sort of a natural consequence

00:05:59of telling the truth, is that, you know, when you tell the truth, well, obviously, liars get angry and

00:06:05frustrated and upset. You know, there was a guy many years ago who had some balloon ride that was

00:06:14supposed to be sort of terrible or bad or negative or something like that. And then his son blurted out

00:06:20that it was kind of all staged and planned in an interview. And, of course, the dad was

00:06:25quite upset and angry at him in the same way that if there's a killer in the house and his

00:06:31wife

00:06:33tells a policeman who's over where the bodies are buried, he's going to be angry at her. So,

00:06:38you know, when people are doing wrong things, they don't like it when people tell the truth,

00:06:42obviously, about those wrong things. So, I am willing, as a whole, in some instances,

00:06:47but, you know, these are general patterns. I'm willing to be more disagreeable than my wife,

00:06:51and my wife focuses on making the home pleasant. And obviously, these are just two examples. It's

00:06:59not the sum total, but these are sort of two examples. And I didn't care if plates matched,

00:07:06right? I mean, if you're a man, you know, does it keep the toasted cheese from burning my

00:07:13testicles? That's really the major plan for plates. And plates that don't match are willing to do that,

00:07:20no problem. And that's totally fine, right? So then what I have to do when I get married is I

00:07:26have

00:07:26to get rid of all my bachelor stuff. And we have to have plates that match and cutlery that matches,

00:07:32not just stuff that you picked up along the way that you have no idea about. And again,

00:07:37totally fine. No problem with it. It's a good thing. So, when I'd have people over for a dinner

00:07:46party, we'd all sit around a plastic table on mismatched plates and mismatched cups. And now,

00:07:53when we have a dinner party, it's beautiful. Like, honestly, it is absolutely lovely. I never in

00:07:59my wildest dreams would imagine that having a dining room table that seats 10 people

00:08:06was a good investment when I could buy yet another computer or microphone or headset or something

00:08:13like that. I never in a million years would imagine that's a good investment. However,

00:08:17when we do have people over for a dinner party or something like that, it is beautiful. What my wife

00:08:24does is, and she's an amazing hostess. So, what's happened in nature is that where things can be

00:08:34outsourced than they are. And what that means, though, is that men and women need each other to become

00:08:43whole. Male nature without female restraint is fascism. Female nature without male restraint is heavy

00:08:54socialism or communism, another form of egalitarian totalitarianism. So, on the far right with fascism,

00:09:04it is excessive competition and no empathy and eugenics and all other kinds of terrible evil

00:09:10government programs because it is raw meritocracy combined with the power of the state, combined

00:09:16with male nature, unmitigated by female sympathies and a desire for egalitarianism. I mean, if you can

00:09:24imagine, you know, there are kids, you know, six, four, and two years old, and there's a man who just

00:09:32lays out some food and says, go for it. May the best kid win, right? Okay. So, that would not

00:09:39be

00:09:39very fair to the two-year-old, right? So, the mother would say, no, we can't do it that way,

00:09:46right? That means the six-year-old is going to get more food, the four-year-old is going to

00:09:49get less

00:09:50food, and the two-year-old is not going to get much food at all. And, you know, at least

00:09:55within

00:09:55reasonable bounds, the two-year-old needs the food more than the four-year-old because they're growing

00:09:59more, and the four-year-old needs the food even more than the six-year-old, though not in equal

00:10:03portions. And so, the egalitarianism would be to say, you know, we have a 2,000 calories,

00:10:11we have 2,000 calories, and we should share them equally between the 15-year-old boy and the 10

00:10:21-year-old

00:10:21girl, right? But this 10-year-old girl needs far fewer calories. If you talk to parents of teenage

00:10:26boys, you know, the teenage boys are like, can I get a slice of pizza? It's like, well, dinner's in

00:10:31half an hour, but I'm hungry, right? It's just like throwing, it's like firing groceries into space or

00:10:38taking an entire deponeur and throwing it down a well. The calorie requirements for growing boys

00:10:44are prodigious. I remember this from being hungry as a teenager. So, excessive egalitarianism,

00:10:51right, which is the communist, everyone has to end up equal, is also destructive. What is a good

00:10:58combination is the meritocracy of the free market combined with charity. And you can see this, of

00:11:04course, with very wealthy divorcees, like Mackenzie Bezos and Melinda Gates and so on, that their husbands

00:11:15made a lot of money through raw meritocracy. And then the women, when they get a hold of the money,

00:11:22what do they want to do? Well, they want to diminish inequality by taking the money made by their

00:11:29husbands and applying it to those who are less fortunate, so that those who are less fortunate

00:11:36become slightly more fortunate, and those who are more fortunate, such as themselves, become less

00:11:40fortunate, and so on. So, the men make the money with raw meritocracy, and then the women disperse

00:11:48the money according to the ideals of egalitarian charity. And what that means is that the price of

00:11:58the goods their husbands made were overpriced, because now there's so much money for the women to

00:12:03give a bunch away to charity, which is not what the customers would have wanted. The customers

00:12:08would rather have kept their own money, rather than give the money to Jeff Bezos, who then has to

00:12:14give it to Mackenzie Bezos, who then gives it to a bunch of usually hyper left-wing causes that

00:12:19plot the destruction of everything that the customers treasure, right? You wouldn't want that.

00:12:26Like, if there was a little checkmark, right? If there was a little checkmark on Amazon or some

00:12:32other places that said, you can pay 5% or 10% more, and this will be automatically donated to

00:12:40the Communist Party, and I'm not saying that Mackenzie Bezos donates to the Communist Party,

00:12:45I'm just using an extraneous hyperbolic example to sort of like, if there was a little checkbox

00:12:50that said, oh, this thing is $30, hit this checkbox so that you can pay an extra $3 that will

00:12:58then

00:12:59go into the coffers of hyper leftist organizations, or whatever charity, right? Then people would say,

00:13:07well, no, I would rather donate to my own charity or keep my money for my own kids or my

00:13:10own family

00:13:10or something like that. So anyway, this is just kind of how it works out. So men making money in

00:13:16the

00:13:16free market, and then women distributing the profits of the man's income through either, you know,

00:13:24pleading, nagging, or gaining access to the resources in divorce. For men to make the money

00:13:30in a meritocracy is the equivalent of hunting or farming, and then they give their resources

00:13:36to their wives, and their wives then use those resources to reduce inequality between the children.

00:13:44All right, so the man goes out and hunts five rabbits, and then he gives the five rabbits to

00:13:51his wife, who then makes a meal and makes sure that each child gets an appropriate amount of food,

00:13:59right? That's pretty clear, right? An appropriate amount of food. And that's natural. Men go out and

00:14:06produce through meritocracy. And then what women do, of course, is the women end up taking those

00:14:13resources and reducing inequality through force, right? Through force. If you have an older child

00:14:20who's really hungry and a younger child who's too small to get his or her own food, right? Let's say

00:14:27you've got a 10-year-old boy who's really hungry and a four-year-old girl who's hungry, then according

00:14:34to

00:14:35just force doctrine, like according to sort of the facts of force, the eldest, like the child,

00:14:41the older child, can absolutely take as much food as he wants from the four-year-old girl.

00:14:47And that, of course, women's instincts rail against that for, you know, like entirely rational

00:14:53and sensible and evolutionarily important reasons. The mom cannot allow the 10-year-old to just grab

00:15:00whatever food he wants at the expense of the four-year-old, because that means that the four-year-old

00:15:05children will be undernourished. And being undernourished is very bad in general, but it's

00:15:11certainly very bad throughout most of our evolution when kids continually got sick and they needed

00:15:16energy for their immune system to fight bacteria, viruses, infections, and so on. And so the difference

00:15:24between a certain amount of calories and fewer calories was very often the difference between

00:15:29life and death, right? So now a child deficient in calories to be really harmed would have to get

00:15:35close to starvation or starve to death. But in the past, when there were no antibiotics and no hand

00:15:40washing stations and no soap, then an infection, if you just had a few fewer calories, it could be the

00:15:48difference between life and death with regards to fighting an infection. So men's meritocracy

00:15:55and women's egalitarian charity through force, right? Through force, you have to physically

00:16:02overpower the 10-year-old boy and take the food by force from his clutches, from his hand,

00:16:12and then you must give it to the four-year-old girl. It always reminds me of this memory scene

00:16:20from

00:16:20Winston Smith, that there was a rare bar of chocolate, and he ran to eat it on his own rather

00:16:26than share it with his, I think it was his sister. And this haunted him with guilt. So what I'm

00:16:35trying

00:16:35to point out is that these two, independent of each other, are interwoven and inflame the other. In other

00:16:44words, men can be hyper-competitive specifically because women are hyper-egalitarian. And women

00:16:56can be hyper-egalitarian because men are hyper-competitive. So let me give you an example.

00:17:05So let's say two men go out to hunt. They part in the forest, they go hunt, and then they

00:17:12meet up

00:17:12when they're coming back to their huts or teepees or whatever. And one man has five rabbits, and one

00:17:19man has no rabbits. Let's make it six rabbits. They don't have the gross image of half a rabbit.

00:17:26Demi-bunny. So does the woman want her man who has six rabbits to give three rabbits to the other

00:17:36man?

00:17:37Assuming that her family needs five rabbits a day or something like that. She got one extra rabbit.

00:17:41Maybe she'd say, oh, give him an extra rabbit. We can make do or whatever, right? But will a woman

00:17:48want her husband to give food to another family, and thus she and her children go hungry, as does

00:17:56her husband? Goes hungry, which means he's less effective at hunting the next day because he

00:18:02didn't get enough calories, right? So if you need to hunt, you need 2,500 calories to hunt. Let's say

00:18:07he

00:18:07only gets 1,000 calories. Then he's going to have less energy for hunting the next day,

00:18:13and this can really produce a death spiral. Going hungry is a problem because it produces

00:18:17a literal death spiral wherein the man doesn't have enough food to eat, and therefore he has less

00:18:26energy for hunting, less energy to chase, to hunt. He's less alert. His stomach growls and warns off the

00:18:32prey or something like that. And then as a result, he gets fewer rabbits, which means he has even less

00:18:40energy for the next day. So the rabbits go 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, 1, 0, and then everyone dies.

00:18:45I mean,

00:18:45sort of in an extreme case, right? So if the woman were to say, give half the rabbits to the

00:18:52other

00:18:53family, and that way we're both hungry, but they're doing better, the man will say, no,

00:19:01these are for my kids. I'll give him the rabbit. So at least he has some food, but I can't

00:19:07keep

00:19:08giving my rabbits away so that my family starves to death, and his family starves to death. We both

00:19:16die if I give all my rabbits away. If I give him maybe a little bit of excess, he'll have

00:19:20more

00:19:21energy for hunting, maybe have better luck tomorrow. But if he's consistently bad at hunting,

00:19:25then he needs to go and do something else or work for someone else or be a slave or a

00:19:29serf or

00:19:29something. Or maybe I'll teach him on how to be hunting better or whatever, right? So the woman

00:19:36can be egalitarian within her family, but being egalitarian to, obviously, to a stranger's family

00:19:42or even an enemy's family would be unthinkable. Maybe if it's her sister's family who needs,

00:19:48then, you know, it's still there's some genetics to share a little bit more or something like that.

00:19:52But if her husband comes home with six rabbits and then some stranger family comes knocking on

00:19:58the door and asks for three rabbits, she's probably going to say no because she cares more about her

00:20:02own children than the children of a stranger and so on, right? So she is able to be egalitarian

00:20:10because the husband is not. And the husband is able to be hyper meritocracy because his wife

00:20:19is not. So because she will do the redistribution, he can focus on just the pure meritocracy aspect,

00:20:27if that makes sense. He can focus just on pure meritocracy, knowing that his wife will be

00:20:32egalitarian. And she can focus on egalitarianism because she knows that her husband will be

00:20:40focused on meritocracy, if that makes sense, right? So I hope this, like when I was a chief technical

00:20:48officer, I focused on tech and the technical aspect of sales because we already had a chief financial

00:20:56officer who would handle the money. I didn't have to do both jobs. And if I had to do both,

00:21:02the taxes and the finances and the tech and this, like then I wouldn't do anything well. So

00:21:09basically what, sorry, what I'm saying is the division of labor, the division of labor. So if

00:21:15somebody is a brewmaster, they could become really good at becoming a brewmaster if they don't also

00:21:20have to become a baker. If someone is a baker and still wants beer, they don't have to focus on

00:21:26becoming a brewmaster. They can just focus on being a baker, of course, right? So the division of labor

00:21:33allows for far greater and deeper specialization. And then men specialize in meritocracy and women

00:21:42specialize in coercive redistribution. And it works really well. Men's disagreeableness is really

00:21:50important in a meritocracy. In a meritocracy, you have to be willing to be really hated and

00:21:56to be disagreeable to others. That's what a meritocracy is. You win, which means other people

00:22:04lose, which means they don't like you, but they don't like you. Whereas for women, cooperation is

00:22:09key. Men are in competition to make sure that the best spear goes to the guy with the best eye

00:22:16and the

00:22:16best throwing arm, right? If you have three spears, you give it to the guy or to the top three

00:22:21guys,

00:22:22let's say. The guy with the best vision has to be out there hunting and looking for a prey.

00:22:28And so giving the scarce resources to the best people is disagreeable to everyone else. Like

00:22:36squinty Bob wants to throw the spear and people say, bro, you can't see your way out of a paper

00:22:41bag.

00:22:41Like we're not giving you the spear and he's mad, upset and blah, blah, blah, right? So for women

00:22:48though, parenting is more egalitarian and win-win. So the spears go to the guy with the best eyes and

00:22:56the best arm, the best coordination, the best throwing, because that's the way to get the most

00:23:00food. So it's win-lose, highly competitive, meritocratic. However, when women get together

00:23:05and watch each other as kids, it's not win-lose. It's win-win, right? It's win-win. The best outcome

00:23:13is not a meritocracy. The women don't compete on who's going to watch each other's children the best

00:23:19and then exclude everyone else. They watch each other's children. They help each other out, right?

00:23:25And of course, there's something that men do that are coordinated, like, you know, raising a barn and

00:23:29so on. But even still, if you have to lift something heavy, you pick the three strongest guys,

00:23:34not the three weakest guys. So there's still a meritocracy in all of that. But for women,

00:23:41you know, watch each other's kids and so on. And also the hunter-gathering, like the gathering part,

00:23:48you know, if you're just going out and you're, you know, gathering some berries and stuff like that,

00:23:51it's not exactly a brutal competition, so to speak. I mean, maybe there's something,

00:23:56if you have a good eye for finding these kinds of things and all of that, that can be helpful,

00:24:02but it's not. It's a sort of brutal competition that goes on in the same way that war and hunting

00:24:08is and so on, right? And some meritocracy, some of the raw meritocracy elements do diminish when it

00:24:15comes to farming, but not in the long run. So in the long run, you want the farmer with the

00:24:21greenest

00:24:22thumb to be in control of the most land, right? People who can just coax an extra 10,000 calories

00:24:29out of an acre every year, you want to give them the most land. And that's what sort of what

00:24:33the

00:24:33free market did over time was it allowed those able to bid the most for land because they could

00:24:38produce the most value from land to end up with the most land. So in the short run, you know,

00:24:43you just go out and planting stuff and harvesting stuff. I mean, some guys are better with the scythe

00:24:48and so on, but it's not quite the same as hunting because it's communal, right? So you got to go

00:24:53and

00:24:53plant a bunch of stuff and maybe someone's better, you know, 10%, 20% better at planting stuff and so

00:24:58on.

00:24:58But you don't then say, well, you plant everything and everyone else can't be allowed to plant at all,

00:25:03right? So there's less meritocracy in the short run in farming, right? So you've got the three

00:25:08spears, you can only allow the three best shots to throw the spears, you can't let anyone else do it.

00:25:13It's not quite the same with planting and harvesting. Some people may be more efficient,

00:25:16but everyone needs to pitch in because it's not binary, right? If you throw the spear, either the spear

00:25:22brings down the deer, at least immediately, or you can chase it or it misses completely. So it's binary.

00:25:28So you don't get a do-over. But planting and harvesting are not binary. It's not like one guy

00:25:37can plant the entire field perfectly and the other guy won't plant anything, right? It's just a matter

00:25:43of, it's a difference of degree, not of kind, right? If you throw the spear, either you get the

00:25:48animal or you don't. It's kind of binary. And of course, the animal has, what, 50,000 calories in it

00:25:53or whatever it is, right? Farming is incremental, not binary. You can be faster at it. And so the

00:25:59guy who's better at scything will scythe better than the guy who's not as good, but they'll both

00:26:07still be able to scythe. So it's, but in the long run, the civilizations or cultures that allow land

00:26:14to end up in the possession of those best able to maximize its productivity would win in the long

00:26:20run, right? So the relatively free market of land in Rome triumphed over other more collective.

00:26:27And, you know, one of the reasons that England was able to conquer the world was because it had a

00:26:33free

00:26:33market more or less, certainly more than other cultures and countries and thus had much more

00:26:41productivity. So males develop characteristics precisely because women balance them. If you

00:26:51can imagine women saying, well, Squinty Bob hasn't thrown the spear for like a week, it's definitely

00:26:59his turn. Well, the men would say, no, that's a bad idea. Squinty Bob shouldn't get the spear because

00:27:05he misses every time he throws. And that, of course, is because women, by focusing on children,

00:27:11are looking at the development of skills, whereas men out hunting are looking at the actualization or

00:27:18the manifestation of skills, right? Women will say, I need to make sure my child has more food than they

00:27:27immediately need because they're growing. Whereas an adult male will say about an adult male, he doesn't

00:27:33need any more food because he's finished growing. In the same way, a woman will say to a boy who's

00:27:39bad at

00:27:40throwing a ball, you should get more turns at throwing the ball so that you can figure out how

00:27:45to get better at it. You should practice. Whereas an adult who's looking to get someone to be part of

00:27:53a baseball team will say, you know, of a 20-year-old guy or a 22-year-old guy, if

00:27:59you don't throw the ball

00:28:00well, you can't be on the team because you've had plenty of time to develop the ability to throw the

00:28:07ball and you haven't. Therefore, you are bad at throwing the ball, right? So, for women, the kid

00:28:14who's bad at throwing the ball should get more chances to throw the ball to develop his skills.

00:28:20For males, as an adult, if you're bad at throwing a spear and you're 25, you don't get to throw

00:28:27the

00:28:27spear because more practice won't help because a man knows that the women have been encouraging the

00:28:33boy to throw the spear or maybe his father did if he's still bad at 25. Like, I used to

00:28:38play baseball

00:28:39and soccer every Sunday with friends. Saturday was baseball, Sunday was soccer. And there was a

00:28:47fellow, we'll call him Bob, who was very uncoordinated. You know, he ran like it was some

00:28:54epileptic geppetto with strings attached to his wrists and ankles. And he was just bad. And he was,

00:29:01at that point, he was 19 or 20. Now, if you're highly uncoordinated at 19 or 20,

00:29:08then either you're just naturally uncoordinated or you don't really care enough to practice and get

00:29:14better. And either way, it doesn't really matter. I mean, that's who you are, right? Whereas, of course,

00:29:19when you or I or anyone was a little kid and we're catching and throwing, we are uncoordinated.

00:29:26We are uncoordinated. I mean, I still remember countless hours I spent learning how to play

00:29:30tennis as a kid. And I was, of course, bad at tennis at the beginning. I mean, that makes sense,

00:29:36right? It's a tough, tough game to master. It's frustrating. So women are in the development of

00:29:42skills, which means those who are less able should get more access to resources. And it diminishes over

00:29:48time. In the same way that if you're in a relay race, you're going to give more coaching to the

00:29:53slowest

00:29:54person. So women, if someone's bad at something, they should get more resources. And of course,

00:30:01fundamentally, if you let the four-year-old girl compete with the 10-year-old boy for food,

00:30:05she's going to get far fewer resources. So you need to coercively intervene to make sure she gets

00:30:09enough food. And the best way to do that, of course, is to bully and morally shame the boy for

00:30:15being

00:30:15selfish and all that kind of stuff. So, you know, which may work or may provoke resentment or something

00:30:20like that. So women have an instinct which says, if you are performing poorly, you need more resources

00:30:28because they're dealing with children who are growing, which is fine and is fair and is good

00:30:33and is right. But adult males dealing usually with adult males in a meritocracy say, if you are bad at

00:30:41something, you should get few or no resources. If you're bad at throwing the spears, you don't get

00:30:46any spears. Whereas, you know, the mother, if she's got a five-year-old boy and a 10-year-old

00:30:52boy,

00:30:53and the 10-year-old boy is pretty good at throwing a spear, both either the father or the mother

00:30:57or

00:30:57someone is going to say, we should give more time to the five-year-old to get him to throw

00:31:02spears

00:31:02better. Right? So he's worse. So he gets more resources and more access to the spears. Whereas

00:31:08if he's 25 and he's throwing spears badly, he gets no access to spears or very few or whatever.

00:31:14Now, of course, what he can do is if he's 25 and he's bad at throwing spears, what he can

00:31:20do is he

00:31:21can practice all night. He can, you know, do whatever. Right? But maybe it's just an eyesight

00:31:25thing or maybe it is just, you know, coordination thing. Some people have bad coordination and

00:31:30reflexes as a whole. It's just whatever. Right? So men can be meritocratic because women are

00:31:36egalitarian and women can be egalitarian because men are meritocratic and these things feed on each

00:31:43other. Because men are meritocratic, women have more to distribute. Right? So the hunting party

00:31:50goes out, they get the animal because of raw meritocracy, and therefore the women have more

00:31:56to distribute. So women letting men be meritocratic gives women more resources to distribute. Right?

00:32:05This is the goose that lays the golden egg kind of thing. Or it's the free market that produces all

00:32:10these resources that women like to redistribute, which again is fine at a sort of voluntary family

00:32:18level. That's totally fine. But of course, if women end up applying their egalitarian, coercive

00:32:29egalitarian principles to the meritocracy of men, then productivity goes down. And in the long run,

00:32:35you end up like in the short run, you get more to redistribute. But in the long run, you are

00:32:42killing

00:32:42the goose that lays the golden egg, which is why, you know, there's this national debt and permanent

00:32:46underclass and so on. Right? So on the other hand, men focus more on meritocracy because women

00:32:58redistribute. So a man who has to provide for his family and doesn't want to go home to his hungry

00:33:03wife

00:33:03and children empty handed, like with no deer or rabbits or anything. So the man says, I can't afford

00:33:12to give Squinty Bob the spear because I need food for my family. And having his children flourish is

00:33:21important for his commitment to meritocracy. So women have more to redistribute if they focus on

00:33:28redistribution and let men be meritocratic. And men are more effective and meritocratic when they're

00:33:37providing resources for their women to redistribute among their children. Right? So not to belabor the

00:33:44point, but I also want to make this really clear that a woman who doesn't redistribute resources is going

00:33:51to end up with, you know, starving and dying younger children because the older children are going to

00:33:57get all the food in the scarce environment. And then that's depressing for the man and it makes

00:34:02it feel like it's all kind of pointless and that's no good. And, you know, I can't even guarantee my

00:34:06children are going to survive and it's all terrible and so on. Right? And so, and then his wife is

00:34:11depressed because her children are dying. So the man has much less incentive to pursue excellence and

00:34:17efficiency if his family is kind of falling apart and children are dying or starving or there's

00:34:22constant conflict and fighting and crying and right. So the redistribution of the woman provides a

00:34:28massive incentive for the meritocracy focus and productivity of the man. I mean, how hard would you

00:34:38be willing to work as a man if your wife just bought a bunch of crap on Amazon and then

00:34:44got addicted to

00:34:45online gambling in blue at all? You'd be like, well, what am I, what am I working for? So the

00:34:50woman's

00:34:50efficiency has a huge effect on the man's motivation and his commitment to meritocracy. And this is a

00:34:58beautiful thing. This is a lovely, beautiful, wonderful, amazing, lovely thing. The problem, of course,

00:35:06in the modern world is that male and female through the power of the state and voting, male and female

00:35:14are no longer balance each other out. Women, their egalitarian principles were limited

00:35:23by two things. One, men saying no. And two, men being demotivated. So let's say the husband is

00:35:34out hunting and he goes hunting for like 12 or 14 hours. You know, he's tired, he's exhausted,

00:35:41and he comes home with six rabbits. And then his wife just gives all those rabbits to the neighbors.

00:35:48Well, his motivation collapses. And of course, we can see this like even in places like Canada where,

00:35:54or other socialized medicine, when doctors hit their billing cap for the year, they just take the

00:36:00month off. Like the Beatles, right? When they were taxed at 95%, right? That's one for you, 19 for me.

00:36:06Oh, yeah, the tax, man. And so if the woman is too egalitarian, then men lose their motivation to be

00:36:16efficient. And they're like, I don't want to go hunting. So if the woman redistributes too much,

00:36:22the man, well, first of all, he'll say no. And even if she bypasses him and just waits until he

00:36:29goes out

00:36:29hunting again, and then just gives away all his rabbits, and then his children are hungry,

00:36:33then he just is not motivated to go hunting. So women need to restrain their coercive

00:36:41egalitarianism generally to within the family, right? To within the family, to the man's kids and

00:36:49him. Because if she goes too far in egalitarianism, then first of all, he'll say no. And secondly,

00:36:57even if she bypasses that and still gives away most or all of his gains, he's just like, well,

00:37:04forget it. I'm not going hunting anymore. I'm not going hunting for you to just give all the rabbits

00:37:07to everyone else. And then that puts her survival, her flourishing, and of course, her children's

00:37:14survival and her children's flourishing at risk. So again, I'm trying not to labor the point too much,

00:37:20to really understand. Men get to be hyper-meritocratic because women are coercively

00:37:28egalitarian, and women get to be coercively egalitarian because men are hyper-meritocratic.

00:37:35And what's happened, of course, is that by running to the state and by money printing and debt and

00:37:41borrowing, sorry, debt and, I mean, in a sense, printing money through treasuries and so on,

00:37:46then what's happened is the cap on coercive egalitarianism has been lifted. And now women

00:37:56are focused on and addicted to coercive egalitarianism. And there's no limit because the men

00:38:06are demotivated to work. And you can see this happening in the sort of the quiet quitting and the

00:38:11failure to launch and the young men who, I mean, just aren't really working hard or anything like

00:38:18that. So the men are demotivated. Like, why would I work super hard to have my money taken from me

00:38:26and given to strangers? Could be a different culture, different religion, different ethnicity,

00:38:32whatever it is, right? These are all just additional factors, perhaps, for some, right?

00:38:36And it is exceedingly demotivating for men to have half their income taken from them and given

00:38:46to strangers. And so the cap on this in the past was that if the men get too demotivated,

00:38:55then there's nothing left to redistribute because they don't want to bother going hunting or anything

00:39:00like that. But now that the government is printing and borrowing money, there is no cap on women's

00:39:09hyper-egalitarianism. And that which is stopped from outside does not have a cap inside. This is

00:39:20really important. That which is stopped from outside does not have a cap inside. So an internal cap would

00:39:27be something like, I'm tired, so I should sleep. That's an internal, right? I'm full, so I should

00:39:32stop eating. I'm thirsty, so I should drink. I've drank too much, I should stop drinking. So those

00:39:37are internal, right? And that's because sometimes there are more calories available than we need.

00:39:46And this is particularly true, and we evolved largely in the hunt together and stuff, but this is

00:39:50particularly true when it comes to like, you have a deer, right? Which is, I don't know, 50,000 calories

00:39:56or

00:39:56100,000. I think a human being is 100,000. I can't remember why I looked that up once, but

00:40:00I did.

00:40:00Nothing personal. But you do look tasty. But if you live by a stream, you can drink as much as

00:40:08you

00:40:08want, like assuming the stream is clean and all that, right? So you have to have a cap. So you

00:40:13don't

00:40:13just drink until you drown or something. Oh, I've had enough to drink. I'm good, right? I remember when I

00:40:18was thirsty, my brother and I found a spring in the woods in Don Mills that we used to go

00:40:25to to get

00:40:25drinks because we were thirsty. I remember also when I was really thirsty, I would fill. I'm sure

00:40:32a lot of people do this. I would fill a sink with water and then put my whole head in

00:40:36it or put my

00:40:37whole face in it and just gulp. It was really nice. It felt very primal. And so you have to

00:40:42have a cap

00:40:43inside because there's no external cap. And so you have an external cap called pain. Like if you do

00:40:52things that are dangerous and you trip and fall and you jump from too high a thing and you twist

00:40:55your ankle or something, then there's an external cap. So that which has no internal cap is capped by

00:41:05external things. So if you look at the difference between sexual access for straight men versus sexual

00:41:13access for gay men, and of course, this is just general trends. Sexual access for straight men is

00:41:19quite limited. Sexual access for gay men is quite unlimited, which is why some gay men have, you know,

00:41:28100 partners a year or 50 partners a year or something like that. So in general, men seek maximum sex.

00:41:35And the cap that is put on is women saying no. I've heard of this. Never experienced myself directly,

00:41:42but I hear tales of such things. Right? So there's no particular cap on male lust. I mean,

00:41:50obviously there's refractory periods and so on. You pass out after sex, you know, like that thumpy

00:41:56hipped bunny who just rolls over and dies, so to speak, after sex. But there's no external practical

00:42:04limit to male sexuality. Now there is, of course, there is, of course, practical limits on female

00:42:12sexuality, which is women say no. And of course, it's a much higher cost for women to have sex when

00:42:17there's no birth control than for men to have sex and so on. Right? So men generally, when offered sex

00:42:23and they're single and there's no other sort of confounding factors, will often, not always,

00:42:28right? Could be monks or low sex drive men or whatever, right? But would generally say yes.

00:42:31If an attractive woman offers sex, men will generally say yes. When an attractive man offers

00:42:36sex, women will not say yes to nearly as high a degree. So that makes sense. Like if you are

00:42:45eating Thanksgiving, right? Thanksgiving dinner, in general, a big problem is that what happens is you

00:42:52eat too much and then you loosen your belt and you lean back, you pat your belly, say, yep, that'll

00:42:57do it.

00:42:59And then you're probably hopefully not hungry for, you know, 12 hours. Right? So that is the way that

00:43:08that works. And it may be even longer, right? So that's what happens with that. But generally,

00:43:16if a woman says yes to a man for sex, he doesn't sit there and say, oh, that was great.

00:43:24I'm good for a

00:43:25week. Right? So, I mean, in general, the man, I mean, lots of men, especially when they're young,

00:43:29would have like sex every day or sometimes twice a day and so on. Right? So the cap is women

00:43:34and

00:43:35indiscriminate sex. I'm not just talking about like sex within a marriage or whatever it is because

00:43:38the honeymoon, right? People generally go at it like rabbits. So where there is no, or where there

00:43:46is an external limit, there's no point having an internal limit. I mean, an external limit would

00:43:56be something like as tall as you're going to grow, right? So as tall as you're going to grow

00:44:02is basically genetic, right? I think genetics, again, all other things be equal. It's 100%

00:44:08of your height is genetic, again, assuming you get enough food and so on, right? So 100% of your

00:44:14height is genetic. And so you're going to grow as tall as you're going to grow, and then your height

00:44:21is going to stop. And so you don't have an internal limit because there's an external limit. So there's

00:44:30not something that's built into your system that says, oh, I should, yeah, I should probably stop

00:44:36growing, right? I mean, most people within reason would want to be, would want to be taller as a

00:44:40whole, and they will just work to be, I mean, eat or whatever and try to be as tall as

00:44:45possible. I

00:44:46remember Tom Woods talking about how one of the reasons he ended up slightly heavy was because he

00:44:51felt maybe kind of short, and he thought he'd be bigger if he looked bigger or be more intimidating,

00:44:54or not intimidating, because Lord knows his intellect is already intimidating enough. But there's,

00:45:00there's no internal drive or limit on height, because it's an, I mean, you could say it's external,

00:45:07it's external to will, right? It's external to will. And so if women have evolved with hard limits

00:45:17on coercive egalitarianism or coercive redistribution, if women have evolved with hard limits on that,

00:45:23which is the limits, it's tripartite, right? The limits of just, there aren't enough resources,

00:45:27you can't get 50 rabbits a day. Number one. Number two, men say no to their redistribution.

00:45:33And number three, men losing motivation of women to give away too much of their hard-earned

00:45:40resources. A man is not going to work very hard to plant and grow crops if his wife just gives

00:45:47them

00:45:47all away, right? It's just, it's going to harm her survival. So because there have been external limits

00:45:54limits on women's coercive egalitarianism, forced redistribution, whatever you want to call it,

00:46:02because there have been external limits, internal limits have not evolved for women when it comes

00:46:08to redistribution. They will always find something else to redistribute to. Because women evolve for

00:46:16maximum redistribution because it was limited by male motivation, resource availability, and men just

00:46:25saying no. So you do the maximum of what you can get away with. In the same way, male sexuality

00:46:31has

00:46:32evolved in general to get the maximum sex and to some degree, the maximum variety, because men had to

00:46:40repopulate during a time of war and things like that. When a lot of men got killed, men would have

00:46:44to

00:46:45repopulate and therefore variety would not be, men who were averse to variety could not repopulate the

00:46:50tribe after a decline in the number of men. So men have evolved for maximum sex. We're all man whores

00:46:58at heart, right? So men have evolved for maximum sex because the limitation has been externalized

00:47:03to women saying no. And so when women say no to sex until you're married, then the maximum sex a

00:47:10man can

00:47:11get is through marriage and therefore men will commit to marriage. If men can get variety in sexual access

00:47:16without marriage, well, we can see what happens, right? We can see what happens. So when you use the

00:47:24power of the state to take away any male limitation on coercive redistribution for women, women will just,

00:47:31it's like a tumor, right? Not women are like a tumor, but this particular drive or desire. A tumor is

00:47:37cells that grow without rational restraint or productive restraint. And women's desire for

00:47:45coercive redistribution is an addiction because all of the caps have been removed. Women can redistribute

00:47:53to strangers, to Africa, to anybody who's poor. They can redistribute anywhere and everywhere,

00:48:03and no internal cap has been developed for that because what's the point of developing an internal

00:48:09cap when an external cap is continually deployed? In other words, you will aim for the maximum possible

00:48:18redistribution until your husband says no or you run out of resources or his motivation collapses because

00:48:25you're giving away too much, in which case you pull it back and, right? So women will strive for

00:48:32maximum redistribution. And when the caps are removed, it looks crazy, but it's not. It's not.

00:48:39Now, this also applies to hypergamy. Hypergamy, which is women's desire to trade up. Women's desire to get

00:48:47the maximum quality man that she can get, which I have no problem with hypergamy. It's one of the

00:48:53reasons my brain is big, your brain is big, and so on. It's because women constantly wanted more

00:48:59intelligent men, more productive men, more successful men. And so hypergamy is a beautiful

00:49:06thing, and women have not developed an internal cap to hypergamy because the cap in general was

00:49:13external. So during the very short dating phase from like 16 to 18, again, it's just whatever,

00:49:22right? I mean, it could be any, but generally it was a six month, maybe six to 12 months you

00:49:25had to

00:49:26choose a guy. And I've sort of mentioned this before, so I'll keep it brief, of course. But

00:49:32women, you know, there's a woman who's a six. And of course, all the women want the 10. But because

00:49:38we

00:49:38have monogamy, the women can't get the 10. And the reason that we have monogamy is that harem

00:49:46style Genghis Khan, you know, one alpha and then 20 females or 10 females is unstable because the 19 men

00:49:55who are there with no access to a mate have every incentive to kill off the alpha or to side

00:50:03with

00:50:04invaders and so on, right? Which is why, you know, putting all of these unmarried and largely

00:50:09unmarriable men into societies is obviously, I mean, it's destabilizing, not by accident, but by design.

00:50:16So women aim for the maximum, of course, right? However, there is a cap on the maximum. So let's

00:50:24say there's a six and she wants a 10. But the man who's a 10 wants a woman who's a

00:50:2810. And let's say

00:50:30that you have to marry the woman in order to get sex, which is, you know, throughout most of Western

00:50:34history, that's kind of what the way that it was. So in order to get sex, you have to marry

00:50:41the woman.

00:50:41The 10 man does not want to marry the six woman. And I'm not just talking looks. It's a variety

00:50:47of

00:50:47things. Intelligence, status, poise, elegance, musical ability, and social skills, conversational

00:50:54skills, whatever, right? It could be the quality of a family, whether she's wealthy or poor, you know,

00:50:59all kinds of things, right? So I'm just talking generally desirability or quality. So a man who's a

00:51:0510 doesn't want a six. And if the six goes for the 10, she's going to fail. And she's also

00:51:15going

00:51:16to look foolish. She's going to look foolish, because she cannot judge herself. Like if somebody

00:51:23says, oh, I'm a fantastic singer, and you go to karaoke, and they sound like a cat being dragged

00:51:28ass backwards through a thorny bush, then, you know, they look foolish, they look unwise, and,

00:51:35you know, would probably not be, I mean, if they can't even judge the quality of their own singing

00:51:39voice, then they are not going to judge things too well as a whole. They lack humility, they lack

00:51:46realism, and so on. So if a six goes for a 10, then she's going to look foolish. And the

00:51:53six men

00:51:54won't want her as much. Because A, she looks foolish, she's making bad decisions, she doesn't

00:51:58understand where she stands in the hierarchy. And also, they recognize that if the six woman

00:52:05goes for the 10 man, then she's going to view herself as regretfully, pitifully, sadly, dejectedly

00:52:12settling for a mere six, even though she's a six. Right? If the fat woman thinks she can get

00:52:18the athletic man, then another overweight man who might be a good partner for her will realize

00:52:26that she will be very sad and unhappy to condescend to marry an overweight man, even though she's

00:52:35obese. So if the six goes for the 10, she probably can't get a six anymore. And also, of course,

00:52:43the sixes are pairing off with each other. So if she goes for the 10, she might be able to

00:52:50get

00:52:51a three or a four. So if you aim too high, you end up with less. And that's the limit

00:52:57on hypergamy.

00:52:59And of course, before birth control, and with monogamy, women, like, desperately needed men

00:53:06to be their providers, because, you know, they had three or four kids, and, you know, they didn't have

00:53:11all of the labor-saving devices. And so women desperately needed men to be providers, which

00:53:17is why women cheated less, or at least kept it under wraps. So women desperately need men to be

00:53:23providers, and a woman who gambles and aims too high and ends up with less is doing a disservice to

00:53:30her bloodline. Because a woman who's a five, let's say, sorry, let's go back to a woman who's a six,

00:53:35you know, cute. Not pretty, not gorgeous, but cute. So a woman who's a six is a six because

00:53:43her ancestors' looks matched. Now, if a woman aims for a 10 but gets a four, her child will be

00:53:51a five.

00:53:51And so the bloodline has gone from five to four because of her greed. And I'm not saying that

00:53:56people chart this out. It's kind of an instinct, if that makes sense. And she doesn't want to take

00:54:02her entire bloodline and go from a historical six, which has been the result of thousands and

00:54:09thousands of years of reasonably good decisions, to maintain the six. She doesn't want to take it

00:54:15down by marrying a four and producing children who are fives. Now, of course, every woman has the

00:54:22fantasy that she's ordinary, but the 10 is completely infatuated by her. Right? This is the Bridget Jones

00:54:30fantasy. This is the Anastasia Steele. Was that the cheesy name from Fifty Shades of Grey? This is

00:54:37the fantasy that the 10, the man who's a 10, is going to become obsessed with her, although she's a

00:54:45five. And then she's going to have kids who are eights or nines. If some of the stuff can be

00:54:53transferred, right? If it's just looks, it's going to be genetic. If it's just intelligence, it's going to

00:54:56be genetic to a large degree. But if it's money, the money can be inherited. So every woman has

00:55:03this fantasy and it is a very toxic fantasy. It is a very dangerous fantasy in the same way that,

00:55:10you know, men have the sexy librarian fantasy, like the woman who's just not that attractive,

00:55:14but boy, she takes off her glasses and puts her hair down and dresses nicely. And she's a stunning

00:55:19goddess of whatever it is, right? It's a great line from Stanley Kowalski in A Streetcar Named Desire.

00:55:25I never, I never got into complimenting women on their looks. I mean, I never met a woman yet who

00:55:32didn't know exactly how attractive she was. And I'm telling you, man, some women give themselves

00:55:36credit for way more than they've got. It's a powerful, powerful line. I mean, Tennessee Williams,

00:55:43the writer, was floridly gay. I even talked about golden showers at a book later on. He was floridly gay.

00:55:51And he said, Blanche Dubois is me. I read his biography many years ago. So hypergamy used to

00:56:01be limited by aim high, but don't aim too high, because if you aim too high, you get less.

00:56:10Like if you completely low ball a house offer, let's say a house is on sale for half a million

00:56:16dollars and you offer $200,000, they're not going to deal with you anymore. You're not going to get

00:56:23the house. And then they're going to deal with people who offer $475,000 or $450,000 or whatever

00:56:28it is, right? Or maybe if there's a bidding war, somebody who offers $550,000 or $600,000.

00:56:32And so if you low ball, they're not going to take you seriously. They're not going to deal with you.

00:56:36And you're not going to get the house, most likely. And you're certainly not going to get the house

00:56:39for $200,000 or $250,000 or even $3,000. So if you completely low ball, you don't get the

00:56:46house.

00:56:47I mean, could it conceivably happen? Sure. But I mean, it's not what you'd ever bet on.

00:56:52I guess theoretically could happen, right? I mean, it would be like me entering some elite

00:56:58golf tournament. It's like, could I win? I'm not a golfer, mini golfer, but not a golfer.

00:57:03Or could I win? I mean, it's theoretically possible. I could just randomly whack the ball

00:57:09and get a whole bunch of holes in ones. I mean, but it's not anything you'd bet on, right? It's

00:57:14not anything that you would plan on. And it would be a waste of time in general, a waste of

00:57:19everyone

00:57:20else's resources. So what used to be the cap on hypergamy was if you aim too high, you end up

00:57:26with

00:57:26less. In the same way, when your kids, you know, if you've ever gone on one of those walls that

00:57:35goes

00:57:35up and up and up, you know, and then you're like, it becomes cool to see who can jump from

00:57:40the highest

00:57:41and you get more status from jumping from a higher part of the wall. I mean, this is maybe it's

00:57:47a boy,

00:57:47I think it's a boy thing, right? So, and so you can go to the very tallest part of the

00:57:52wall,

00:57:52but you're almost certainly going to break your ankle. So you want the status, but if you aim too

00:57:57high, you get an injury, you get laughed at, you get mocked, jokes are made about it for years,

00:58:05and you actually end up with less status by aiming too high and pain. And so for a woman,

00:58:11if she aims too high, she may end up with a much lower, she probably will end up with a

00:58:17much lower

00:58:17status male or no male at all. And so if you aim too high, right, the six really digs

00:58:22in and aims for the 10 and hangs around him and tries to charm him and sends him flowers and

00:58:26whatever, right? So the six aims for the 10 and then she doesn't get the 10 or a nine or

00:58:35an eight

00:58:36or whatever it is, because she looks kind of ridiculous. And then, you know, the fours and

00:58:43the threes are pairing off and she just may end up like only the ones and twos are left by

00:58:48the time

00:58:48she emerges from this delirium of getting the 10, right?

00:58:52And then she might find it unbearable to get with a, you know, fat, pimply, bald, ugly

00:58:58guy with a squinty eye and a gammy leg, right? Like a limp. She may be just like, you know

00:59:05what?

00:59:05No, absolutely not. And then her, by aiming too high, her entire bloodline ends. Like not,

00:59:13like her bloodline absolutely ends. And she ends up with no protector, no provider.

00:59:18She can't even have sex, you know, because it's too risky. I mean, maybe she become,

00:59:24she ended up as a prostitute or something like that. I mean, sorry, she can't, she can't have

00:59:28sex on a regular basis because she's going to get pregnant, no abortions. So I don't know what,

00:59:33did they use sheep's bladder condoms or, or whatever it was. I don't know what prostitutes

00:59:37did to avoid getting pregnant throughout the history, but, or maybe they were just sterile to begin

00:59:42with, I don't know, but her bloodline is mostly going to end. Or even if, you know, she gets

00:59:47pregnant as a prostitute or as a single woman, her kid's going to be a bastard and rejected by

00:59:52society. So the bloodline ends just one generation removed, right? I know so many single sons of

00:59:58single mothers who never got together with a woman. For a single mother to have a single son

01:00:04is mostly, or highly likely to end the bloodline anyway, just one generation removed. So, because

01:00:12they have to become hypermasculine to balance the overwhelming femininity of the mother,

01:00:17they almost have to become a caricature of masculinity. So hypergamy was limited by women who aimed too high,

01:00:27lost out, or ended their bloodlines. Now, that doesn't mean that you can't aim higher,

01:00:34it doesn't mean that if you're a six, you can't get a seven. But remember, the seven is looking for

01:00:38a seven. And so you have to bring something else to the table as a woman or a man to

01:00:46compensate for

01:00:47the missing point. And of course, since the end of monogamy and the provision of birth control and

01:00:55abortions, neither of which prevent one in four American women from being transmitted, but they like

01:01:01having a permanent, uncurable, incurable, sexually transmitted disease. Usually herpes, or I think

01:01:08half of black women have herpes or something like that. It's kind of gross. Not the black women, but the

01:01:13herpes thing. So, for women, once pair bonding and marriage as a requirement for sex has been removed

01:01:23or lifted, then women can gain access to a more attractive male or a higher status male by offering

01:01:32sex. And they will get sex, they will not get commitments, which is why you get ghosting and

01:01:37situationships and women going crazy with the, he's just not that into you. There was a famous scene in

01:01:43Sex and the City. I think it produced an entire book, which was, you know, maybe he's just not that

01:01:47into you,

01:01:48or he's just not that into you. Right? A man who's into you will fight tooth and nail to spend

01:01:54time

01:01:54with you. Like once I met my wife, we spent pretty much every day together until we got married, and

01:01:59we

01:01:59spent pretty much every day together since, and a lot of time with each other. And it's great. So, I

01:02:06just

01:02:06wanted to mention that hypergamy is another one of these things that does not have an internal cap free

01:02:14of consequences. So, a woman will be interested in a 10. Let's say she's a 6, and she's interested in

01:02:22a

01:02:2210, and things don't, for whatever reason, fall past the classic quarterback, head cheerleader

01:02:30combination. And let's say that she can get a guy several points higher for some particular reason.

01:02:36And the reason could be shallow and, you know, whatever, open to criticism. Let's say he's a guy who's

01:02:43really drawn to a great butt, and let's say that she has a great butt. Right? So, then that would

01:02:48be

01:02:48an example of her being able to go up a point or two just because of physical attributes. Or maybe

01:02:53he absolutely loves music, and she was born with a great singing voice, and, you know, back in the day

01:02:58when you couldn't put records on or things like that. So, she might go up. She might go up. Maybe

01:03:05she's

01:03:05born with a truly even temper and a pleasant demeanor and just soft-voiced and all of that and just

01:03:14really

01:03:15agreeable. Maybe that just has really worked out well in terms of her being able to get a higher

01:03:21quality male. Maybe, you know, all of her sisters who are equally attractive are shrill and loud and

01:03:28aggressive and all of that kind of stuff. And maybe she's just sort of sweet and all of that. So,

01:03:32again, it might be. So, she might be able to go up, not just based on looks. I don't know

01:03:36why I said

01:03:36I'm not just including looks, but let's just say that there are things that could happen that get

01:03:44her up. So, women get her up a notch or two. And so, a woman can absolutely go up. So,

01:03:52she should not

01:03:52be limited in her desire or her drive to go up. That should be totally fine. She should be open

01:03:59to

01:03:59that opportunity, but it's rare. And she should try that. And then, if it doesn't end up working,

01:04:06she should, of course, be humble and all of that kind of stuff and make sure that she doesn't

01:04:10end up in this kind of stuff. So, that's really what's happened in the relations between

01:04:17the sexes and so on. And I think it's a real shame. I think it's quite sad. But it does

01:04:26seem to be

01:04:27what's going on. And, of course, this is just the natural result of coercion between the sexes.

01:04:34That which is coercive has no cap. That which is coercive has no particular cap except other

01:04:41violence. And, of course, men can't exactly fight back against the state and restore the balance.

01:04:45But this is why a free society, a free market society would be fantastic for everyone and produce

01:04:51a life of balance and happiness and love and all of that stuff, which would be great for children

01:04:57because the real cost of all of this is on children.

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