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Masturbation myths (such as the assumption that masturbation decreases sensitivity or kills sex drive) abound, and they're getting in the way of people getting to know and enjoy their bodies. To combat the secrecy that shrouds self-pleasure, we called on seven women to share their thoughts on masturbation — and their own reasons for doing it.

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00:00I'll just go weeks where it wouldn't even really occur to me to like masturbate and then it'll be like
00:04Sunday and I'm like well I have eight hours and then I'll just masturbate the whole day almost. Yeah, which
00:10I understand sounds insane now that I'm saying it out loud but um.
00:13When guys do it, it's to relieve stress or just because they're bored. I don't think it's any different for
00:20girls.
00:21I masturbate because I'm very stressed out. I have a lot of different things going on in my life.
00:27But also if there's like a really great Nicholas Sparks movie and like the hands start to tingle, you have
00:33to just go for it.
00:35Yeah, it feels good. I'm a horny woman and I'm allowed to masturbate so I do.
00:40Like it's totally not gross for a 60 year old to masturbate or for somebody my age to masturbate or
00:46younger. It's just totally normal. Feels great.
00:48Yeah, I guess maybe my, I've been doing it for so long. I'm such an old hand at it that
00:52I'm like oh maybe I'll give it a break.
00:54But if you're just getting into it, you know, feel free to go nuts. That's sort of how I would
00:57think about it.
00:58For females, there's so much talk out there about guys masturbating.
01:07It would be nice for there to be some more discussion about what ladies do and in a way that's
01:16ladies in charge of the conversation.
01:19When I was growing up, nobody talked about it for girls.
01:22It should just be an open conversation. It should be like giving beauty tips.
01:26We should be able to give masturbation tips on the reg, in magazines, on the internet, you know, over Gchat,
01:34email, whatever.
01:36There aren't enough of them. I would like tips. Send me tips.
01:40There are 12-year-old girls out there rubbing up against pillows and the sides of desks who have no
01:47idea that what they're doing is like a natural part of their sexual development and it puts them, it puts
01:53girls at a disadvantage to not talk about masturbation.
01:56You know that expression, you can actually love others if you can love yourself. I think sexuality is the same
02:02way.
02:02So you can help your partner, help you have more fun. It's fun!
02:07I guess the nice thing about masturbation is I feel like when you're younger, you sort of have this idea
02:12like if you like think too much about sex, you have too much sex, you're like a slut.
02:16And then if you don't, if you're not interested or you feel uncomfortable about it, then you're a prude or
02:21you're sort of like something else.
02:22And what's nice about masturbation is no one else has to know what you're doing and there's a lot of
02:26power in that because you don't have to tell anyone if you don't want to.
02:29It's your body and you can do whatever you want.
02:31There's so many reasons why we're made to fear our body and like this is it. This is what we
02:37live in and I don't see a reason to be so afraid of it.
02:40The idea of like nudity and sexuality. Some people end their lives over it because they don't know how to
02:49accept it and they aren't made to feel that they can.
02:52And you can read about it on the internet, you can watch videos, it's just like figuring out your body
02:59and figuring out yourself and what you like and there's nothing to be ashamed of with that.
03:03It's natural, it's fun and it actually does help you to become like a more sexually empowered person which is
03:11an important thing for just living your life.
03:13Just do it. Just masturbate like a human being. You don't have to like take yourself out to dinner. Just
03:19get on it.
03:21So sometimes we are so much in our bubble and things are taboo like that we don't discuss that. But
03:25everybody, most people do it. Or at least play a bit with it. And so if it can demystify that,
03:32I think it's good.
03:33Unfortunately, I know quite a few girls who are uncomfortable with those things. I am not certain that it's directly
03:43related with having been sexually assaulted in their lifetime, but I've noticed that that's quite a trend.
03:49I think that masturbation is a wonderful opportunity for people to take that power back. It's worth exploring for that
04:02self-healing that can happen.
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