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00:02Do you ever feel like you're running a race you can never win? A never-ending race.
00:08where every goal seems to get further and further away? A race to make everyone happy,
00:14where every smile you receive seems to cost you a piece of yourself. This is the world
00:19exhausting of those who try to please others, where the effort is not only physical,
00:24but also emotional. You say yes when you want to say no, you accept requests that weigh on you just so you don't
00:31Disappointing anyone. You agree with opinions you don't share, just to avoid conflict or to feel
00:38excluded. And you put the needs of others before your own, forgetting that you too have limits and
00:44desires. It seems kind, but it's a hidden trap that drains your energy and your
00:51spirit, leaving you empty and dissatisfied. You become so busy being what others
00:57They want you to forget who you are, losing touch with your true needs. We learn this.
01:03early, seeking the approval of parents, teachers and friends, hoping to be accepted
01:10and loved. For some, this need for approval becomes stronger over time, to the point of shaping
01:18our identity and our choices. We begin to believe that our value depends on the fact
01:25that others appreciate us, as if we were invisible without their consent. The desire
01:31To please is not wrong, it comes from wanting a connection, from the human desire to feel part of
01:37of something. But when it takes over, we lose our voice, and our authenticity.
01:44It slowly dissolves. We live for the applause, but we feel empty when the curtain falls,
01:51As if something were always missing. Pleasing others means sacrificing your own happiness.
01:57for their approval, putting aside your dreams and needs. It's a form of self-abandonment,
02:03hoping for a love that you are not giving yourself, and that no one else will ever truly be able to fill.
02:09It's time to see this pattern for what it is, and recognize the value of listening.
02:13yourself. You deserve a life that is authentic and true to yourself, where your happiness
02:19it no longer depends only on others, but comes from within you.
02:25Where does this need to please come from? It often begins in childhood. Perhaps love...
02:33It seemed conditional, given only when you were good. You learned to live up to expectations.
02:39others to feel worthy. In school, you wanted honors, so you followed the rules and hid
02:46your true self, to fit in. Fear of rejection drove you to conform. At work,
02:53the pattern deepens, accepting too much, avoiding conflict, fearing that boundaries
03:00will cost you. This need for approval is rooted in the fear of rejection and
03:06The belief that one must earn love. It's a childhood survival strategy.
03:13that now limits your adult life. Recognizing these roots is the first step to change.
03:20You can free yourself.
03:24Pleasing others comes at a high cost, chronic stress, and anxiety. You're always on edge,
03:32preoccupied with other people's opinions and replaying conversations. This mental tension is exhausting.
03:39and it can harm your health. You lose touch with your identity, burying your desires.
03:47under obligations. Relationships suffer too. True intimacy fades when you hide behind
03:53a mask. Resentment grows and you feel taken for granted. Every yes to others is a no to yourself.
04:01yourself, your time, your dreams, your joy. Pleasing others leads to regrets and a life
04:09lived for others. You deserve more. Choose your authentic and joyful life.
04:18Pleasing others creeps into daily life in small ways. Say yes to the request.
04:24of a friend, even when you need rest, fearing to appear selfish. At work you accept
04:31extra projects, sacrificing family time to avoid appearing useless. In social contexts
04:38You conform to the group, hiding your true preferences. You change your opinions to fit in,
04:45sacrificing your integrity for acceptance. These small acts of self-betrayal add up,
04:53Teaching your brain that your needs don't matter. Every moment is a choice. Honor yourself.
05:00or please others. Recognizing these choices is the first step to change.
05:08You can start making different decisions. Your preferences matter.
05:16Saying no is a skill, one that takes practice. Start small and be kind to yourself.
05:23Honesty is kindness. Thank you, but I can't. No, it's a complete sentence. Take your time before you...
05:32answer. Let me check and pull contact. This pause interrupts the automatic yes and you
05:39It allows you to assess your needs. Offer alternatives only if you sincerely want to help.
05:45For example, I can't do the whole day, but I can help for an hour. Expect the senses of
05:51It's the fault of the beginning. It's old programming. Remember, you're saying no to a request,
05:58Not to a person. Over time, the guilt fades and self-esteem grows. Your needs
06:05They matter. Choosing yourself takes courage. It's an act of strength and vulnerability at the same time.
06:15It means putting yourself first, even when the world seems to ask you otherwise.
06:21to say going against years of conditioning, habits and expectations that often have you
06:27taught to put others before yourself. Start by listening to your inner voice,
06:33Even if it's just a whisper. Take time to be silent and figure out what you really want,
06:40Without judgment. Trust your intuition, it's your honest guide. It often knows what's best for you,
06:48Even when your mind is confused. Consider your needs valid and essential, not selfish.
06:55Taking care of yourself is an act of respect towards yourself. Make a list of what you need.
07:01You need it to feel happy and healthy, then honor it. Even small steps count and make a difference.
07:08The difference. Surround yourself with people who support the real you. Authentic relationships help you
07:15grow and feel accepted. Some may resist your boundaries, but that reveals who you are.
07:21He truly appreciates you. Not everyone will understand right away, and that's okay. Progress, not perfection, is
07:29the goal. Every step forward, even a small one, is a personal victory. When you slip, notice it with
07:36Compassion and try again. Be kind to yourself. Change takes time and patience. Every little
07:45Choosing to honor yourself strengthens your self-esteem. Over time, these gestures become
07:51your new normal. You are rewriting your story, one day at a time, with courage and
07:57Determination. Step into your power and claim a life that makes you feel good inside. Choose.
08:04yourself is the first step towards authentic freedom. Those who seek to please others often
08:13He fears being seen as selfish, and so he steps aside, sacrificing his own needs for fear of
08:20judgment of others. But self-love isn't selfishness; it's an act of self-respect. Taking care of yourself
08:28of oneself means recognizing one's own value and accepting that one's needs matter too.
08:35Selfishness is taking from others without care, thinking only of one's own interest and ignoring
08:41the feelings of others. Self-love, on the other hand, is taking care of oneself, so that one can
08:48give authentically to others, without exhausting yourself or losing your energy. You cannot pour from
08:56an empty cup. If you don't recharge, you can't offer your best to those around you. When
09:03you are fulfilled and balanced, your giving is genuine and joyful, and your relationships become
09:09deeper and more authentic. Setting clear boundaries teaches others to respect you and shapes the
09:17Self-respect. Saying no when necessary is an act of courage and self-love. Let go
09:24Go away the guilt of taking care of yourself. Taking time for yourself doesn't mean
09:30neglect others, but simply recognize your limits. Every time you rest or say no to that
09:38If it's draining you, you're making a wise choice, not a rude one. It's a way to protect your energy.
09:44and your well-being. Investing in your happiness increases joy for everyone, because when you are
09:51happy, your positive energy reflects on those around you. Self-love is the foundation of a
09:58A fulfilling life and healthy relationships. It all starts with you. Choose to love yourself every day.
10:08You've spent years listening to the voices of others. Now it's time to honor your own. Yours
10:14Intuition is your guide. Start listening to it. Create quiet moments to connect with yourself.
10:22Ask yourself, what do I really want? And wait for the answer. Value your opinions as much as you do.
10:29to those of others. It's okay to disagree and express your perspective respectfully.
10:35People respect authenticity. Pursue your passions. They nourish your soul. You don't have
10:43You need approval to pursue your interests. Honoring your voice means honoring your true self.
10:50self. Letting go of the need to please others means building a new relationship
10:59with yourself. Imagine waking up, free from other people's expectations, able to choose
11:06What brings you joy. This life is possible, starting now. Be patient and compassionate.
11:13As you unlearn old patterns. Celebrate small victories, say no, choose rest, have your say.
11:21truth. Every step is a declaration that you matter. True happiness comes from within.
11:29from the approval of others. When you love and accept yourself, you become your own source of validation.
11:36Take a small step today that honors you. This is your life. Don't live it for someone else.
11:43You deserve to be the protagonist of your own story. The best begins when you choose yourself.
11:48No.
11:49Thank you all
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