00:08Nobody asked
00:15I gave advice nobody asked for
00:20At a dinner I should've just eaten that
00:23Watched myself do it in real time
00:27And couldn't stop
00:30There's a version of care that's actually controlled
00:36And I've been working out which one I practice
00:40The answer's not always comfortable
00:46I think I fix things because I'm afraid
00:50That if I just sit with someone in it
00:53I won't be enough without a solution
00:57Like my values in the answer, not the presence
01:00And that's a terrible way to love someone
01:06Nobody asked me to fix it
01:09They just wanted me there
01:13I need to learn the difference between helping and needing to be needed
01:22Nobody asked, but I showed up with answers
01:26Nobody asked, and that says something about me
01:30I'm learning how to sit in it, I'm learning how to just be there
01:34Nobody asked, and that's okay
01:37I'm learning, it's not about being useful
01:45It's about being present
01:49Those aren't the same thing
01:52And I'm learning
01:54I called a check on you last week
01:57I called a check on you last week
01:58Then spent the whole call talking
02:01I noticed on the drive home
02:05Didn't feel good about it
02:09I'm working on it
02:14I'm genuinely working on it
02:24Nobody asked, but I'm showing up differently
02:32Nobody asked
02:34And I'm listening now
02:38Just listening
02:41Just listening
03:08Just listening
03:11Hey
03:13Hey
