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On this episode of Truth Told, we hear a woman's story about discovering the truth about her biological father. She found out that she was conceived via fertility fraud. Watch this week's Truth Told to understand the scary reality of fertility legislation!

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Transcript
00:02So my mother's fertility doctor decided to use his own sperm instead of the sperm
00:11donor that my parents selected and did this without their consent and without their knowledge.
00:22I'm from a really small town in East Texas called Center. It's about 5,000 people in
00:28population, so it's really, really tiny. My parents struggled with infertility. So at
00:34the direction of my parents' fertility doctor, Dr. Kim McMorries, they looked into
00:40artificial reproductive technologies, specifically artificial insemination by an
00:44anonymous sperm donor. Dr. McMorries handed them a sheet of paper from California
00:51Cryobank in which they selected sperm donor 106. So after many inseminations with
00:58donor 106, I was finally conceived. When I was seven years old, that father, Doug,
01:08passed away from cardiomyopathy, which is a heart disease. When I was 16, I was very
01:15nosy and curious, and I had a habit of going through my mom's emails. And I came
01:22across the communication that she had with California Cryobank. And that's how I found
01:26out that I was donor conceived. When I was 18, I was eligible to submit my mother's
01:35insemination records in order to gain more information on donor 106. After about a year,
01:41they finally got ahold of Steve, donor 106, and they told him that he had an offspring.
01:46We got really close, and that's been our story for the last 13 years.
01:54Eww, play-doh!
01:57Can you start when we get it started?
02:00How many eggs?
02:02Let's do three.
02:04And crack them.
02:07My son Hutton was struggling with some pretty significant medical health issues. Last year, at the direction of his doctors,
02:15we decided to gather more genetic variations on him. And the way that they
02:20wanted us to do that was through 23andMe plus health. When we got those results back,
02:26we found out that he had celiac disease, that I had a celiac variant, and I was not
02:32reporting this to his doctors because I was reporting medical history from sperm donor 106.
02:40Hey Hutton, are you ready?
02:44Here, jump.
02:50Yum, yum, yum!
02:53Once we finally got him okay and his allergies sorted out and his, you know, food therapies
02:59and speech therapies, I really started to become more curious about connections. So I was looking
03:05at Ancestry and 23andMe on the DNA portion. And I was immediately connected to two half-brothers.
03:12So I talked to them. They both know that they're donor-conceived and this is a part of their story.
03:18And then there was a third one. So I contacted who I assumed was a third half-brother. He was
03:26very adamant that he was not donor-conceived.
03:29So we went back. We looked a little bit, you know, deeper into it. And I said,
03:34well, you know, we could be first cousins according to this. So why don't you tell me about your uncles?
03:39And he said, I have one uncle and he's actually from your area in Nacogdoches and his name is Kim
03:47McMorries.
03:49My exact reaction was, oh shit, that is my mom's fertility doctor.
03:57Being donor-conceived is really lonely. And then to find out that you're actually not donor-conceived
04:03and you're the product of your mom's fertility doctor, it's even lonelier.
04:07When I discovered this, I had to be the one to go tell my mom.
04:11And I had to be the one to call Steve, donor-106, who I've called dad for the last 13
04:18years,
04:19who my kids call Papa, the man who officiated my wedding,
04:23and tell him that he wasn't my biological father.
04:30These are all of our letters and emails and all of the communication that I had with the doctor.
04:41We had multiple communications over the course of five or six weeks.
04:46With those letters, he kept changing his story. He wasn't consistent in his story.
04:51I asked him if he ever discussed mixing the sperm or inseminating with his own sperm,
04:56and then told him that my mom was very overwhelmed and insisted she did not consent or acknowledge this.
05:02He says that there was only one to two pregnancies that were successful, but now we have four illegitimate children.
05:12It's shocking to me that this is a $5.4 billion industry that is essentially self-regulated.
05:21So the next thing that I did is I called a friend who's a lawyer.
05:25And I was just in complete shock to learn that this is not a crime in the state of Texas
05:30or anywhere else.
05:34I really wanted to make this about changes, not about charges against Dr. McMorries.
05:40And I wanted him to be a part of my legacy. I didn't want to be a part of his
05:44legacy.
05:53So at that point, you know, I really recognized that the only healing to take place with this whole tragedy
06:00was to make it bigger than myself and to protect the future of vulnerable people
06:05who are using artificial reproductive technologies.
06:09This is the drive that I made every single week, once a week, to come to Austin for four months.
06:18When I started coming, it was so emotionally exhausting because I would tell my story over and over again.
06:25But it was also very therapeutic because it was like I was putting, you know, like a purpose to my
06:32pain.
06:33And then it became really empowering.
06:40Okay, so this is the lobbyist group that I worked with, and they're the ones that championed this bill for
06:45me.
06:46So the first time Eve came down to Austin to meet with me was January 31st.
06:52So we were already 22 days into the legislative session.
06:55We didn't have a champion. We didn't have an author in the House or an author in the Senate.
07:02From that point on, Eve came down to Austin one day a week, every week for the session, and we
07:09just wore out the Capitol Halls with meetings.
07:14All of our meetings were good, with one exception.
07:17The meeting with the local state representative that represents Nacogdoches and knows he's Dr. Daddy did not go well.
07:26We kept trying to talk, and he kept interrupting.
07:29And then finally, at the end, he turned to Eve and said,
07:34I don't know why you're all upset anyway because it looks like it all turned out well for you.
07:38That was really marginalizing for me because here I am struggling with this and feeling like they didn't think that
07:47my genetic identity was important or I shouldn't be doing this.
07:52This man was my mother's doctor. He was not her donor. Thank you.
08:03It's very clear to me that it should be a violation of the law.
08:07And I would expect this bill to be reported out to the full Senate.
08:11In the future, we'll be able to hold people accountable.
08:15I really want to continue this Erin Brockovich approach to this because I am only one person.
08:21But I have the ability to share my story and raise awareness to show people that fertility frauds are out
08:29there and that this is an important issue.
08:32You are not protected.
08:51Being educated, people have no ability to sell it too much anymore.
08:58Well저, I am very happy, because …
08:58there are people watching and be more fearful of everything and escaping because it's deeply insUspy.
08:58You should also see thoseция games and veners who all these people sleeping.
09:04I could see them as a whole other person doing to live.
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