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00:03I'm nervous.
00:05I'm gonna take it one step at a time.
00:07In a world saturated with sex...
00:10I'm absolutely petrified.
00:12More young adults than ever are living without it.
00:16The thought of having sex with someone...
00:18Scares me. It gives me the ick.
00:20I'm missing out.
00:21Terrified.
00:22Nerve-racking.
00:22Gut-wrenching.
00:23Embarrassing.
00:24All I think about is what I'm gonna get wrong.
00:27Can you point to the outer labia?
00:30Nope.
00:33Now...
00:3512 virgins are getting a crash course in intimacy.
00:39Social media, porn, dating apps.
00:42There are so many negative messages and we can help them blossom.
00:45Use it by stimulating the area.
00:47They'll be guided by experts.
00:50You see yourself as...
00:52Proposal.
00:52To explore all aspects of intimacy.
00:56And maybe even have sex with a trained therapist.
00:59Do you want to put a condom on?
01:03Or each other?
01:04Get a room, guys!
01:07I really do need to change the life.
01:10Who will be ready?
01:11Desperate times call for desperate measures.
01:13To go all the way.
01:23Morning, Ireland!
01:25Over the past few days on Virgin Island...
01:28I'm slutty Stephanie.
01:30Things got steamy in the seductive phase.
01:33That's not how I thought I would feel.
01:35It feels good.
01:36Marianne got to grips with a naked Andre.
01:39I could do this all day.
01:41Can I give you a spank?
01:42Yes.
01:44Bertie found his voice in the bedroom.
01:46Thanks for asking.
01:47And Callum and Katie's connection deepened.
01:55Now, as the group enter the climax phase...
02:00Time is running out to fulfill their island ambitions.
02:05A lot of people think Climax is just about orgasm.
02:09But Climax is actually having a peak sexual experience.
02:13Your partner might be stimulating your palate.
02:15And we want all of them to have their peak sexual experiences in their lives.
02:29After 15 days...
02:31Oh, the last letter.
02:34The group are nearing graduation from Virgin Island.
02:39Let's see what the last phase is.
02:42Prepare for the end of the course as it reaches its climax.
02:48Well, I'm pleased that they took my advice on the pun.
02:53I'm actually quite excited.
02:56This one could be quite a fun one.
02:58A lot of the stuff we've done previously has got me into a confident mood.
03:02Yeah, I'm looking forward to it.
03:04100%.
03:05For me, being on the island, it has had an ending.
03:08It was sex and reaching orgasm.
03:13Twice.
03:14I wonder what we're going to be doing.
03:16Because it's like, have we not?
03:18I mean, I've already Climax.
03:23While some of the group have found what they came for...
03:26The final phase.
03:28Others have yet to reach their goals.
03:30It's going to come to an end soon.
03:32I know.
03:34Today has to be position, sorry.
03:36No.
03:37Climax.
03:38I'm going to get in front of each other and have a wank.
03:44For the final workshop of the retreat...
03:47Callum, are you ready?
03:48Yeah.
03:49So ready.
03:50The experts want the group to realise...
03:52There's actually a literal bet.
03:54...just how far they've come.
03:55Morning, guys.
03:56Morning.
03:56Good morning.
03:57Good morning.
03:59All right.
04:01The final phase of the course.
04:03The Climax.
04:05Climax is really having this peak experience that you can have in your sex life.
04:10And we want to make sure that you get every tool that you need in order to do that.
04:15Now, if you remember, the very first demo we showed you at the start of the course.
04:20Pillow talk.
04:21Mm-hmm.
04:23Most of you were like deer in the headlights.
04:26Oh, my God.
04:27Your eyes are so beautiful.
04:29When they first saw the pillow talk demo, they couldn't even look.
04:34They were extremely intimidated.
04:36It's a bit...
04:37Yeah.
04:39So now, with everything you've discovered, it's time to step up and try it yourself.
04:45Okay.
04:46If anyone's keen.
04:47If anyone's keen.
04:48First up, advanced students Alex and Joy.
04:54You look so nice today.
04:56No, no, no nice.
04:59Beautiful.
05:01Sexy.
05:02Like, not anything that's sweet.
05:04That's great.
05:05It's important communication here.
05:07You look so sexy today.
05:10I love your eyes.
05:12You drive me crazy.
05:14That's real.
05:16Good.
05:19You need your legs on top of me.
05:22I really want to kiss you right now.
05:24Yeah.
05:37It's not just Alex and Joy.
05:39You smell so good.
05:41You're giving me the eyes.
05:42Who are keen to show off their pillow talk prowess.
05:46I can get lost in your eyes.
05:49You can get lost together.
05:50I like that.
05:55Amazing.
05:58But the final exercise will teach the group the ultimate sex tips.
06:03So for your final lesson, we will show you some sex moves.
06:10It's really, really important that they practice with the different sexual positions to be erotically confident.
06:16We've chosen these sex positions because they're the most common.
06:21They're the most common.
06:21Which include one partner on top.
06:25Missionary position.
06:28Also oral sex is really, really important.
06:31And doggy style.
06:34No one's going to be doing wheelbarrow out there.
06:44Do you all want to start?
06:45I'll do it.
06:50After a nervy start.
06:52Put this leg.
06:53Yeah.
06:53Between her legs.
06:55Like this?
06:55Yeah.
06:56Bertie has thrown himself into more and more of the exercises.
06:59Good, good.
07:00Perfect.
07:01And it's paying off.
07:04Good.
07:05Is this all right?
07:05Yeah.
07:06Very smooth.
07:07I want to get out from the retreat as much as I can.
07:12But so many people just do it naturally.
07:15They know what they're doing.
07:17They're confident in themselves.
07:18I just want to be that guy.
07:23Do you want to start?
07:24Always.
07:31I feel really proud.
07:33If you had a strap on, there would be a great position for that.
07:36At first they were all hesitant.
07:38I ashamed.
07:41But they have completely supported each other through the whole process.
07:46Yeah.
07:47Do you want a spine?
07:48I'll have a pat.
07:50It's unprecedented.
07:54And for one couple.
07:55You ready?
07:57Oh, go on then.
07:58Don't act like you haven't been doing this in the day bed anyway.
08:02The bond has intensified.
08:04Naughty.
08:07I've always grown up reading like sexy stories, even when I was a teenager.
08:11The word virgin means you haven't had sex.
08:16But in my head, I know what I like.
08:20Can I take a second to connect?
08:23I don't really want to be intimate with someone I don't know.
08:26When I build a connection up and start laughing with them and have a fun time with them,
08:30that's what I want in the future.
08:31Yeah.
08:32Hold her on top of you.
08:34Ready?
08:34Mm-hmm.
08:35Yes.
08:36There you go.
08:36Perfect.
08:38Change to missionary and connect your purposes together.
08:42Yeah.
08:43There you go.
08:43Perfect.
08:44The next one is going down.
08:51You can flip her into doggy cells.
08:54Yeah.
08:55Exactly.
08:57Congratulations.
09:06How did it feel to do that?
09:08I think, like, doing half these workshops, it just leaves me, like, massively, like, horny all day.
09:13Oh, shit.
09:16Well, that's great.
09:22Bye.
09:28How do we feel that was our last ever workshop?
09:31Didn't expect that.
09:32There were times when people would say, I want to do it, but I'm not comfortable doing it with someone
09:36in the group.
09:37That was practically my catchphrase at one minute.
09:40The sex positions, like, they were a bit awkward, but when you're in the mood with your partner, it'll all
09:46just flow.
09:47Yeah.
09:51For Callum and Katie, as they're near the end of the retreat, their mutual affection…
10:02Oh, you're funny. I like you.
10:03…is on full display.
10:06I'm very excited to see a budding romance in this environment.
10:11It's beautiful. People feel the freedom to use the skills and the tools that they're learning in the retreat.
10:17That's actually my dream.
10:19I can bloody feel you on my stomach.
10:22It's a lot all the time. Don't worry about it.
10:25It's quite a hard life. Literally.
10:29My main focus moving forward is obviously getting closer to Katie because, like, I'm not being funny, I like her.
10:36Stop teasing yourself.
10:42I've never felt this way with a boy before. I've never been close to a boy before, but I don't
10:47think I know my body at all.
10:49And I have literally no experience.
10:52So, I think I'm just scared for, like, not knowing what to do.
11:03As Callum and Katie get closer than ever, the experts want to make sure they're properly prepared.
11:10Katie, she has this budding romance with Callum, which is very sweet.
11:14And I also feel like there's so much more for her to learn around her own body and pleasure.
11:19Yeah, I want this session to be about her starting to step into her womanhood, building some kind of a
11:26relationship with her genitals.
11:29Kat, you're going to be seeing Callum today, and this is your last session with him.
11:33Yes, we're going to be doing Close Off Erotic Touch, and I feel like it's a good place stopping him
11:39here because he has the skills to go forth and enjoy with Katie.
11:47I have no sexual history at all. I haven't done anything. I haven't ever had an orgasm.
11:53When I was younger, I thought I would have been married and had kids by now, multiple kids.
12:00Hello, beautiful.
12:01And I feel disappointed in myself that I haven't been able to achieve anything that I wanted to.
12:07So, have you explored your vagina in any way?
12:09I haven't.
12:10With time at the retreat running out.
12:12So, what could be motivating about getting to, you know, your genitals?
12:16So, I'm able to tell them exactly what I like already.
12:21Yeah.
12:21Kate is meeting sexological body worker Elil to learn more about pleasure.
12:27Something that can feel really nice is if you have your finger in, or your partner has, and you kind
12:32of might be stimulating your clit at the same time.
12:36Mm.
12:37I mean, just doing that could feel really nice.
12:40I never went to, like, sex ed at school or anything, so this is, like, totally new to me.
12:45I don't know why I get so uncomfortable over my own body.
12:48Exactly.
12:49While Katie has her very own sex ed lesson...
12:52How's it going?
12:53Me and Katie, we've hit it off a lot.
12:55How's that feeling? Awesome.
12:56Callum is responding well to hands-on therapy with surrogate partner Kat.
13:01What do you feel like you want to do with Katie?
13:03I just want to experience everything that I can in the right way.
13:07I have never touched anyone intimately, so when it comes to it, the fear is not knowing anything about it
13:13and what to do.
13:13Okay, so we'll start. I'll let you kind of leave.
13:16It's a lot of pressure and, you know, you don't want to have sex with someone if you don't know
13:19how to have sex.
13:20Sex should be something that should be cherished, not something that should just be a quick form of just getting
13:25off.
13:26While you're holding my hand down, start to touch me.
13:31Yeah.
13:34Go slowly up and down.
13:37How does that feel, me touching you?
13:39Great.
13:48I think I need more boy knowledge.
13:50Okay. Do you want to explore some dicks?
13:52Let's do it.
13:54So it really changes from a person to a person, but usually the parts that have the most pleasure is
13:59like the head.
14:01So you can kind of like go around.
14:03A little softer.
14:09The balls can feel really nice. For some it's very sensitive and for some you can really squeeze them.
14:18Yeah, I like that.
14:22You're welcome.
14:23This has been so good.
14:27It's quite scary because it's just very unknown, but I know what to explore, so it's going to be fun.
14:34I felt you like really present and like following things.
14:39Genuinely, I can't explain how much you've helped me.
14:42I never thought I'd be at this point ever.
14:44That's amazing.
14:45Like just to do this alone is unbelievable.
14:48You really have all of the tools you need.
14:51It's crazy how much I've changed the person I've actually got culture with Katie.
14:55The heart wants what the heart wants.
15:06It's afternoon on Virgin Island.
15:09This is really good.
15:10It's good?
15:12While Callum and Katie's chemistry is impossible to miss.
15:16Is it fun, Callum?
15:18Yeah, it is.
15:23Marianne has been steadily exploring her own connection with surrogate partner Andre.
15:28What I love about Andre is he has a way of making people feel calm and relaxed and he reads
15:33you very well.
15:34You arrive with boundaries in terms of, I'm just too scared to try something, but now it's more just about
15:40having fun exploring.
15:43Marianne, she's really embracing her sexiness.
15:46She really is glowing and you're going to be having a session with her, Andre, today.
15:52She's a very curious individual. She wants to learn about herself.
15:56She's very interested to see if she wants to go even further.
15:59So we'll check in, but there's that potential.
16:04Everyone expects a virgin to be like this horrible, ugly thing that hides and has no confidence.
16:10But I'm a very sexual person.
16:15I read a lot of books and I have one fantasy which it's recurring one.
16:20I love the idea of spanking and maybe having that dominance, but I still feel as if I have my
16:27autonomy.
16:27I'm good and I'm safe.
16:32Hello.
16:34Hello.
16:35Though making good progress, Marianne is still setting her own pace with Andre.
16:41How are you doing today?
16:42Doing well. You?
16:43I'm good today, yeah.
16:46Surrogate partner therapy is structured around consent and it's all about their full body understanding that this is their time
16:56and they get to choose.
16:57So today, was there anything that you came in with wanting to try?
17:04Can we try the mutual massage?
17:07Mm-hmm.
17:08And then possibly spanking.
17:12Okay.
17:13So I was like, that's, yeah, I love, I love that.
17:15How did you learn about it? You said, you know, kind of books.
17:18Books.
17:18Read a lot of books.
17:19Yeah.
17:19And just to take my inspiration from that, I'm like, cool.
17:22Very cool.
17:22Noted.
17:23You deserve to be happy, you deserve to feel pleasure and sometimes that can also allow the building in of
17:29trust and safety to other intimate connection that we could potentially share.
17:35To get things started, Andre performs a sensual massage.
17:43It feels so lovely.
17:45Mm-hmm.
17:47I'm glad you're enjoying it.
17:48Mm-hmm.
17:57Next.
17:58Can we do the spanking?
17:59Okay.
18:01Marianne has some ideas of her own.
18:03Put your body over.
18:06Like this?
18:06Mm-hmm.
18:07Yeah.
18:07If you want, you can even lean on it. How does that feel?
18:10Mm, feels nice.
18:11Okay, good.
18:13Mm-hmm.
18:15I like starting slowly to just feel your skin, you feel my hand, getting familiar with my touch, waking up
18:23the skin.
18:26And I usually like working on a number scale so I get to know how hard you want to be
18:31spanked.
18:32So, from zero to five, zero being I didn't feel that at all, five being that's the hardest hit I
18:41can take.
18:42What is that?
18:43Is that zero?
18:44Okay.
18:48How about that?
18:49Mm, tube.
18:50It's a tube.
18:52It's a tube.
18:52So we'll stay with the tube.
18:53Mm-hmm.
19:02How does that feel?
19:05Really good.
19:06Really good.
19:06Mm-hmm.
19:13What would feel good to receive in the way of care?
19:18Tuddles.
19:18Mm-hmm.
19:20Okay, let's do that.
19:26Thank you for the spanks.
19:28Oh.
19:30Why don't we go ahead and get dressed?
19:37You're welcome, dear.
19:40That was so fun and super fucking hot.
19:46It was nice because I felt really in it and really safe and horny.
19:51Very, very horny.
19:54When I first came, everything seemed so far away and now it made me confident in what I'm
20:00feeling, how I can communicate it and asking for what I want as well.
20:09Hi.
20:10Hi, Marianne.
20:11Welcome back.
20:12Oh, you guys are back on the bed.
20:14Marianne, you've missed so much, brother.
20:16What happened?
20:16Oh, my God.
20:17Why did you think Katie and Calvin have gone?
20:19Yay.
20:20On a date?
20:20They're having a special nap.
20:22Swear in your life.
20:23Genuinely, they are.
20:25With their relationship, the talk of the island.
20:27I'm really excited for this connection.
20:30Yeah?
20:30Yep.
20:31Callum and Katie are keen to spend some time alone together.
20:34In order to make sure that everyone feels safe, I wanted to check a little bit about
20:38your readiness, anything that you feel like it's hard for you to share with each other
20:42and you want to use me to support you in sharing that.
20:45I think I've pretty much told you everything, like my worries and stuff.
20:48Mm-hmm.
20:48Obviously, I had a lot before coming here, but I've gone through the entire experience.
20:52All them worries and everything that I felt have gone.
20:57Consent is essential to everything we do at the retreat.
21:02One of the most powerful things is that we teach people to speak their boundaries.
21:07So, when they actually consent, they mean it.
21:12You're both adults.
21:14I always feel like you can say no and say yes.
21:18I'm really proud of seeing both of you really blooming and I'm excited for your developing connection.
21:26You're so cute.
21:30I would love to have a partner.
21:32I would love to have a boyfriend.
21:34I have kindness and patience to offer to someone.
21:40I want to do that and I can't wait to do that one day.
21:45I feel like a genuine connection comes from, you know, meeting someone in person.
21:50I want to see if I can really actually let it happen.
21:56Ooh, fancy.
22:01You ready?
22:03Mm-hm.
22:03Take your tuck off.
22:04You take it off.
22:06What begins as foreplay...
22:08That tickles!
22:10...eventually evolves.
22:12You're right.
22:15Ready?
22:17As Callum and Katie take a significant step together...
22:25...eventually evolves.
22:26Okay, okay, okay.
22:29Okay.
22:30Mm-hm.
22:35Reposition.
22:37Get back.
22:39Oh.
22:43Oh.
22:47It's good.
22:49We're on the back.
22:52Oh.
22:53Oh.
22:53Oh.
22:53Oh.
22:54Oh.
23:05Oh, my God.
23:13I'm pretty hot.
23:15Mm-hmm.
23:17I'm going to have to get dressed.
23:18Mm-hmm.
23:22When I first arrived on this island, I was scared and I was shy and so insecure.
23:30I didn't expect to lose my virginity at all, but I think it was really a natural thing
23:36because I trust Callum so much and it was really good.
23:40I'm just so excited to go back and show everyone this new version of me.
23:46Such a good nap.
23:47Yeah, yeah, sorry.
23:49Very, very good nap, yeah.
23:51We made the experience ours.
23:53We both helped each other a lot and what a perfect way to end it.
24:08It's the start of the final day on Virgin Island.
24:12Morning, guys.
24:13Good morning.
24:14Good morning.
24:16Oh, mushrooms.
24:17Oh, I like mushrooms.
24:19Do you sleep well, Callum?
24:20Mm-hmm.
24:21Bet you did.
24:22Got a lot of muscle pain today.
24:27Melly, do you think you'll fit my suitcase?
24:30If you give me a little bit of room to breathe...
24:35How are you feeling, Bertie, about the end?
24:36It'll be nice to go back and see my friends and family, but at the same time, I'm going to
24:41miss this.
24:42It's going to be weird just not being horny every day.
24:44Who says you're not going to be horny every day?
24:46Yeah, that's true.
24:48Ahead of this evening's graduation ceremony, the experts have set the group one final exercise.
24:55Read this out to us, Tegan.
24:57Now you're at the end of the course, we want you to write a letter to your past self to
25:03read out in front of the group at this graduation ceremony.
25:08That's what I've got to think of a bloody speech to say.
25:11I think mine will be quite short, actually.
25:14It's the climax thing.
25:18Realising how far you've come is really emotional.
25:22It's a moment to reflect and help them cement the journey of their progress and development.
25:29Having made real progress in his previous session,
25:34Bertie's due to meet surrogate partner Kat for the final time.
25:38Bertie was like the real sleeper.
25:39When I first saw him, it felt like he was going to talk himself out of everything,
25:43and then he talked himself into everything, and I think he has so much sensuality.
25:48As soon as he gets aroused, he really surprised me.
25:52He's been so fun to work with, so we're going to see what he wants to do today to feel,
25:57like, really complete.
26:02I'm not getting any younger in terms of the dating game.
26:08I just want to try my very best to do all the things that I want to push myself to
26:15do
26:15and to come back telling people how much of a different person I am
26:20and being able to just feel free.
26:28For the first time, Kat feels Bertie's ready for the bedroom
26:33and the next step in his sexual education.
26:37So, would you want to try oral?
26:44Um...
26:44It's the nervous excitement, but, uh, yeah.
26:49So...
26:50So...
26:51So...
26:51I'm going to let you practice leading.
26:53Um, OK.
27:04Will you take off my shirt?
27:06I thought you never asked.
27:11OK, so I want you to just relax
27:13and just notice the sensations, OK?
27:17Yeah, OK.
27:30Do you want to try switching?
27:32Yeah.
27:35Where's...
27:35Where do you like to be?
27:37Um, I would say, first, just explore.
27:39Just, like, it's new, it's weird.
27:41So, see what it feels like for you
27:43and if you even like it.
27:47It's quite salty, actually.
27:51I'm not sure if, um...
27:53Oralwood's going to be for me, but, uh...
27:56Would you like to pivot to do what is for you?
27:59Yeah.
27:59Yeah, let's do that.
28:01Oral experiment over.
28:03What would feel good?
28:04Maybe you can keep doing that.
28:06Bertie leads the way.
28:08I can touch you like this.
28:11Yeah, that's it.
28:13It feels really good.
28:14Yeah.
28:18It's good, good, yeah, but...
28:21This is so nice.
28:26So fucking sexy.
28:39You didn't go in your hair this time.
28:40I'm very happy.
28:42So that's some progress made.
28:46How are you feeling?
28:47I'm feeling super good.
28:49How are you feeling?
28:49I'm feeling amazing.
28:51You've been so good to me on...
28:53We've done our sessions and...
28:55Some of the things that I've done
28:56I never thought I'd do in a million years
28:58and then you came along
28:59and you honestly mean so much.
29:02You've been so amazing to spend time with.
29:05One more kiss and then get dressed.
29:10Thank you for everything.
29:18This experience that I've had has been
29:20nothing short of surreal, fantastic.
29:26I never thought that in such quick succession
29:29I'd be able to have my first kiss,
29:33touch my first vagina,
29:36make a woman orgasm.
29:39I will never forget Kat
29:41and never forget the ups and downs
29:44that I've had here.
29:45It's been nothing short of phenomenal.
29:52Fuck me sideways, that was amazing.
29:54That was a great experience.
29:59As Bertie reaches the end
30:00of his surrogate partner therapy,
30:03ahead of her final session with Andre,
30:06Marianne meets with clinical therapist, Abby.
30:09Hi.
30:09Hi, Abby.
30:10Come on in.
30:12To reflect on how far she's come
30:15and how far she wants to go.
30:18How's everything been?
30:20It's been good.
30:21Yeah, I just wanted to like check in,
30:23see how your work is going with Andre.
30:25I think everything's been going really well,
30:27which has surprised me.
30:29Yeah?
30:29I feel like before when I came in,
30:30I was like, there's no possible way.
30:32I could see myself like maybe having sex,
30:36all these blocks and stuff,
30:37but I could see myself doing that like comfortably.
30:40Yeah.
30:41I still got my one-on-one session today.
30:43And noticing where you're finding your flexibility,
30:47like saying, I know how to check in,
30:49I know how to use my voice.
30:51I'm not, yeah, I'm not feeling panicked about anything.
30:53I'm feeling very supported.
30:55Take all of that in
30:56because you really do deserve everything
30:58that you're doing for you.
31:00Marianne is a superstar
31:03and a straight A-plus student.
31:06She's really learning in a somatic way
31:09how to trust her body.
31:15Being a virgin at 26,
31:17I think about six every day.
31:19It's just nagging in my ear.
31:21And I think that's because I haven't done it.
31:26Hello.
31:27I want to lose my virginity
31:29because I could just get on with my life.
31:31I could just not think about it all the time.
31:36I'm just going to lay out
31:37all the possibilities for today.
31:42Continued escalation of kissing,
31:44kissing, mutual erotic touch,
31:47touching breasts, touching genitals,
31:50oral pleasure.
31:52It'll sound good, yeah.
31:54And if there is a desire
31:57and you feel comfort
31:58and you're in your full yes,
32:00penetration.
32:09In a final session...
32:11Allowing yourself just a moment.
32:13Think about being able to be
32:15in a vulnerable state
32:16with someone else.
32:18Marianne has reached a defining moment
32:20in the Surrogate Partner Program.
32:22You can feel nervous.
32:23You can feel orgasmic.
32:26I'm going to kiss you.
32:45I'm going to lay you down.
32:46Can I be on top?
32:48Mmm.
32:56Can we try it?
32:58Me being inside you?
33:00Yes, we can.
33:03I'm going to try it.
33:05I'm going to try it.
33:05Yeah.
33:07I'm going to need your help.
33:08Okay?
33:11Okay.
33:14Just going to go a little bit.
33:17And then pull that a little bit.
33:22Just like...
33:24Do you like me to
33:26make sure I look
33:27further into you slowly?
33:29Yeah.
33:31Yeah.
33:33So...
33:37Oh...
33:49Oh...
33:51Oh...
33:53Oh...
33:54Oh...
33:55Oh...
33:57Oh...
34:06How did that feel?
34:08Right here.
34:10Did it feel like a milestone?
34:14It felt good and really nice and natural.
34:19Thank you so much for trusting me.
34:23For trusting yourself.
34:26Let's get dressed.
34:32How are you feeling?
34:34Kind of a clear head.
34:35Like, ooh, you know, in a good way.
34:38Being happy as well.
34:40Good.
34:41Me too.
34:44Thank you for making me feel safe.
34:47It's such a pleasure.
34:55I knew the possibility of having sex was on the table
34:58and so I'm no longer a virgin.
35:02I felt comfortable in my body and safe in my environment
35:05and Andre was incredible so I wasn't really nervous.
35:09Like, I haven't lost anything.
35:11I've just gained something and I just had pure elation.
35:16So I'm very, very lucky with that.
35:22As a therapeutic part of the course draws to a close,
35:26the sun sets on the retreat for the final time.
35:31Graduation is such an important moment in this group's journey.
35:37It helps them see all the achievements that they've got throughout this process.
35:43All that remains is for everyone to dress up for one last step.
35:47I'm really sad to be saying goodbye.
35:49Yeah, it's hard.
35:52I'm looking forward to graduation.
35:55It'll be a nice way to celebrate all of the weird and wonderful things
35:58we've done on this island.
36:01It's very bittersweet how I'm feeling.
36:03It's been an incredible three weeks.
36:06A few weeks ago, they were complete strangers.
36:09Fire.
36:10Smells nice.
36:11Yeah, they're going to sacrifice us, aren't they?
36:15Hi!
36:17Hi!
36:18Wow!
36:20Look at you!
36:22Now, together, they have reached the climax of their time on Virgin Island.
36:27It's graduation!
36:32You made it!
36:34And we're so proud of you.
36:37Your bravery and your courage is unparalleled.
36:40Earlier today, we asked you to write a letter to your younger self.
36:45And now we want you each to come up and share that.
36:51Who want to start?
36:56Arriving as one of the least confident,
36:58Ellen now has the courage to step forward with pride.
37:03A letter to my younger self.
37:05Don't listen to them.
37:06It will be hard, but what they say isn't true.
37:09It's okay to look and fancy girls.
37:12You're gay.
37:12It's a thing and it's okay.
37:15You get to choose the life you lead.
37:17You do you at your speed.
37:20For goodness sake, go by a vibrator.
37:23Fuck it by two.
37:29And Ellen isn't alone in confronting the way they see themselves.
37:34You may find you like certain things.
37:36Don't be embarrassed.
37:37Don't be afraid to embrace the kinkiest side of life.
37:39Be a sexy Viking, not a whining little bitch.
37:42It's important for you to experience cringe,
37:44and that's okay because there's growth.
37:46Don't worry about being thicker around the body.
37:49It's more to be grabbed and spanked.
37:54Dear my younger self, you are gay, like super gay.
37:59I promise you that you'll end up actually liking the person you are.
38:02FYI, you'll love being held and cuddling,
38:05even if you do deny it to your last breath.
38:10For others, reflection brings a new kindness towards who they are.
38:15Dear baby Alex, you are enough.
38:18You are worthy of love.
38:20Don't ever feel like you never do enough.
38:22You always bring smiles and laughter to everyone around you.
38:25Dear Bertie, in a decade or so's time,
38:29you'll be on an intimacy retreat.
38:31Now believe it or not,
38:32it's there where you will find more confidence.
38:37I know how hard it has been for you to feel truly safe,
38:40appreciated and free.
38:42But trust me, you feel that almost every day now.
38:47Pay no mind to those who try to bring shame into your life.
38:51You will still be a virgin and unmarried at 22.
38:54But you still like boys with brown curly hair.
38:58Love, joy from the future.
39:00P.S. When you get your own money,
39:01invest in a short pink wig.
39:03Just trust me.
39:09For Katie, this journey meant facing the internal voices
39:13that had been holding her back.
39:15Katie, I'm so sorry for treating you like shit for so many years.
39:19You deserve so much better.
39:21You really went through so much and are truly so strong.
39:26I'm so proud of you and everything you have achieved.
39:28You're beautiful, so kind
39:30and deserve every little bit of love you receive.
39:33Stop letting your anxiety and bullies hold you back in life.
39:36It's so upsetting to see.
39:38Don't let others bring you down or dictate your life.
39:40I love you so much, beautiful girl.
39:42I love you so much.
40:02I love you.
40:07I love you.
40:09we love you so much
40:12and then I will direct my whole attention to Andre
40:19thank you for making me feel safe
40:23and thank you for allowing me to just feel no judgement
40:26and enjoy
40:27so, thank you
40:34after struggling to find his voice
40:36Jason now has the courage to speak
40:39I know for the first week or two
40:41I was very difficult to work with
40:43it took a lot for me to speak more about myself
40:46and be more emotional
40:53thank you Aisha as well
40:59I'm good
40:59you're good
41:07I don't, um, yeah I'm sorry
41:09I'm
41:12honestly I don't really know what's in my head
41:14so it's a bit difficult for someone else to figure it out as well
41:17thank you for everything
41:26one by one
41:27Halil, you probably provided the biggest breakthrough for me
41:31the others take their opportunity to give back
41:33getting over the pressure, performance anxiety of sex
41:36thank you so much for that
41:38Resden, you've got my heart
41:40you showed me how to use a strap on
41:42and that is all I can ask for
41:45thank you
41:47thank you very much
41:48for helping me get over my fears
41:51you've changed my life
41:53the empathy that you lead with in every single session
41:56has just made me feel so safe
41:58and so understood
42:00all I can say is
42:01I'm not a virgin anymore
42:02thank you very much
42:03thank you everyone
42:10taking things at his own pace
42:12is Bertie with the final word
42:15this has been
42:17the most fantastic experience of my entire life
42:22some of the workshop activities I thought I'd never be able to do
42:26but that growth was all thanks to you both
42:29Kat, you are an amazing person
42:32and I will never forget you
42:34I would like to thank all of you
42:37yes, I know that I'm not the most sociable person
42:40but regardless of that
42:41you still made me feel like
42:43that I was part of you
42:46and you still accepted me
42:48for who I was
42:50and that means so
42:53so much more than you could know
42:55if someone said to me
42:57would you do this again
43:00in a fucking heartbeat
43:12the retreat is a huge success
43:15beyond anyone's imagination
43:18makes me emotional
43:21it is really beautiful to see
43:23how much they got here
43:25I'm so proud of them
43:27they are so brave
43:29now that they have all of these tools
43:31they are ready to go out into the world
43:33and create the lives and relationships
43:35they want for themselves
43:36I think to myself
43:39my work here is done
43:41the world is so not ready for me
43:43big bad world
43:44I am coming for you
43:46it's changed me
43:47I'm so much happier as a person
43:49I enjoy life again
43:51and lost my virginity
43:52yay
43:55I've not graduated anything in my life
43:58so to graduate sex camp
44:00is just amazing
44:03I'm excited to go back to the real world
44:06I came here really shy and insecure
44:09I'm leaving really confident
44:11really sure of myself
44:13and no number of virgin
44:15the first time that we started to connect in an erotic way
44:19I was like
44:20holy shit
44:24I feel fantastic
44:25I didn't go into this island with the intention of having any firsts
44:30if they happened, they happened
44:31well, they did bloody happen
44:34what an absolute ride I've been on
44:37you did it
44:38congratulations
44:39congratulations
44:43you're graduating
44:44woo
44:46woo
44:47cheers
44:48cheers
44:48cheers
44:50cheers
44:51we're ready for a group Georgie now
44:53cheers Georgie
44:54yay
44:54yay
44:55yay
44:55yay
44:55yay
44:55yay
44:55yay
45:01yay
45:10yay
45:35yay
45:54yay
45:55yay
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