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The Real Housewives of Miami - Season 7 - Episode 06: Major Red Flags
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00:03Previously on The Real Housewives of Miami.
00:05I have my two little sons, two brothers.
00:10One is three, one is a year and a half.
00:13How are you feeling?
00:14Confused.
00:15Moving on.
00:16Hello.
00:17Hello.
00:17Goodbye.
00:18I don't want you to feel like you're in a caretaking role
00:23and not see me for what you used to see me as.
00:26My sisters, they haven't touched base with us in like two years.
00:29And I said, I miss you guys.
00:31Like, what's going on?
00:32Tell me.
00:32And then dead silence.
00:34I love him anyway.
00:35From my part, at least, I would like us to move forward.
00:38If somebody will ask me, how did it go, it's between you and I.
00:44I thought it would be great to have like a greeting party.
00:47And I have like somebody that's going to be like talking to us.
00:49He's been helping me a lot.
00:50And I like to share him with you girls.
00:52I'm going to speak to the girls about what it is to have narcissistic traits.
00:56Are you ready for that?
00:57How is everybody doing today?
00:59I'm waiting for you, goddess.
01:01Lisa, do you think your time is more important than all of ours?
01:04Do you think of how rude it is to make everybody wait?
01:07I think you're rude.
01:15Let's just start fresh.
01:18Goddesses have arrived.
01:23Let's do this.
01:26Oh, my God.
01:28Welcome.
01:29Hi, girl.
01:30Are you all like me now?
01:31Hi.
01:32I'm going to...
01:33Welcome, beautiful goddesses.
01:36Thank you for joining us.
01:37This is my friend, Danielle.
01:38He's originally from Melbourne, Australia.
01:41And he is an author.
01:43I got to know him.
01:44And he's helped me along in my own personal journey.
01:46And I hope that today you girls can also learn from him.
01:50I mean, that guy's hot.
01:53If I wasn't with Frenchy, I'm sure we'll be going for Australian tonight.
01:58We have a lot of fun activities planned for you girls.
02:01Ooh, games.
02:01Love that.
02:02They're mental exercises.
02:04And I know you're all really good at that.
02:06You're going to find me down under.
02:08Okay.
02:09All right, let's go.
02:10So anyways, walk this way.
02:14This is so beautiful.
02:15Wow.
02:16I want to get married here.
02:17I don't know who the guy is, but I like the venue.
02:21So as you enter this area, you will see mirrors where you can take a look.
02:25And it's about self-reflection.
02:27Nobody gets angrier than a narcissist being accused of something they did.
02:32You just made us wait two hours waiting on you.
02:34It's like the grand Lisa entrance.
02:36It's very rude.
02:37Okay, you're being very rude right now.
02:38Oh, you want me to say thank you for showing up?
02:40The point of this is for everybody to read the quotes and see if it can resonate with them.
02:44That's very cool.
02:47Let's go to the bar.
02:49Let's go read.
02:50We have the last two reads, guys.
02:52Never try to defend yourself against a narcissist.
02:55They already know you're right.
02:56Is the whole theme narcissism?
02:58This is the whole thing how Todd treated Alexia.
03:02But I don't even want to talk about Todd so much.
03:04We're not here because of Todd.
03:06Alexia, you've been saying how Todd is narcissistic.
03:10You don't think you guys need help?
03:13Like professional help.
03:14And you?
03:14Oh, no, you're Mr. Perfect.
03:15I'm not part of this.
03:18You're Mr. One.
03:26By hiding out downstairs in the gym.
03:28It was tough for me.
03:29But thank you for supporting me.
03:30I appreciate that and understanding.
03:32How is this party not for Todd?
03:34Good people get tired of being good to ungrateful people.
03:37It's true.
03:37I think it's funny that all the girls think it's all about Todd.
03:42But they don't know that the joke's on them, too, because I feel that we're all narcissists.
03:47Can we all agree everyone out here is a narcissist?
03:51I'm not.
03:52I'm confident.
03:53I think self-confidence is the big, it's the best trait.
03:57Problem with being empathetic is that you feel sorry for the people that hurt you.
04:01That's actually, that's a good one.
04:04The fact that this is a narcissist theme party says a lot, obviously, because I think that
04:09we have a lot amongst us.
04:11I look crazy right now.
04:13When we look deeper, we find that sometimes we aren't really angry at them, but more angry
04:17at ourselves for allowing them to treat us that way.
04:20I think I'm a narcissist.
04:22A little bit.
04:23A lot of business people have narcissism.
04:26It's really not that bad.
04:28Do we have to have a party for it?
04:29What are we celebrating?
04:31That's beautiful.
04:32Tell me when you're ready.
04:33Oh, wow.
04:34Oh, wow.
04:35We're such narcissists.
04:36Here we are in the narcissist.
04:37Stop talking.
04:38I'm not getting good pictures.
04:42Lisa being Lisa, she's like oblivious.
04:45She's making it a whole full-blown photo shoot.
04:47It's all about me.
04:49I think I got a lot of good ones.
04:52Lisa, you should be reading the notes on the mirror.
04:55I think some of these notes are replying to you, my friend.
04:57Oh, I'm just swinging away.
05:03This is totally for me.
05:05What?
05:06You don't always have to tell your side of the story.
05:09Time will.
05:10Time will.
05:10That actually suits you, too.
05:11It does.
05:12Yeah, me, too.
05:12For different reasons, but yeah.
05:15No, seriously.
05:16What's your reasons?
05:18I'm not going to tell you right now.
05:19Why?
05:20But you like to tell me a lot on the bus.
05:22But now you know what I'm talking about.
05:23Lisa, Lisa.
05:24Lisa, I love you.
05:26I'm sorry.
05:27I just apologize.
05:29And I have no problem apologizing again.
05:30Okay, thank you.
05:30I'm sorry.
05:31That was a nice one.
05:32That was a nice one.
05:33That's all I wanted.
05:34I'm definitely not going to be late with Stephanie again because I don't want to hear that again.
05:40There's no way she's going to do it again, right?
05:42She learned her lesson, no?
05:45Lars, where are you with Lisa?
05:48I've tried to talk to her, communicate with her, so it's like at this point, we're obviously
05:52going to have to have a conversation.
05:54Like Gertie and I, we took time and we had dinner and we talked like to people.
05:58I wouldn't like that dinner way before that to Marisels reception.
06:02Absolutely.
06:03But it didn't happen that way and that's okay.
06:04That was her process.
06:05That was her process.
06:06You know what I mean?
06:06Change the past because that was her beef to have with me and I had to accept whatever
06:10was coming my way.
06:11I was like, what the what's going on?
06:12There was feelings, you know?
06:13That's what I'm saying, but it was your way of handling it.
06:16That's it, you know?
06:18Just keeps talking and talking about it.
06:20I thought we moved forward or at least tried to agree to move forward, but apparently not.
06:25Are you girls ready to play some Greek games?
06:28Let's go.
06:28Yeah, yeah, yeah.
06:29Let's go.
06:34Oh my God.
06:39This is so pretty, Alexia.
06:41Yeah.
06:43Wow, who's sitting in the throne?
06:45Um, how do you want us to sit, Alexia?
06:48I don't need to name names of other narcissistic people in this group, but there will be signs.
06:54Like, we are supposed to be on the same level.
06:56Well, if you feel like you have to be above, then it's not narcissistic.
07:01All right, ladies, we're going to get into exercise two.
07:03This exercise reflects how others might see us.
07:07You're going to get a red flag.
07:09I'm going to read out a statement, put it in the vase that you think the person has that trait
07:13the most.
07:14Oh, okay, I like this.
07:16By the way, you thought I played dirty games?
07:19This is extra dirty.
07:20This game in itself is a red flag.
07:23All right, ladies, are we ready?
07:25Constantly talking about themselves.
07:28Oh, that's easy.
07:31Okay, Marisol, you go because that was easy for you.
07:33You go.
07:41Sorry, monkey.
07:42Sorry.
07:46All right.
07:47I have to agree.
07:49Lisa, it's just the fact.
07:52Lisa.
07:56I'm going to put myself.
07:58Myself?
07:59I think Lisa, yeah.
08:02Lisa!
08:09Monkey by a landslide!
08:22So, ladies, Lisa had an overwhelming number of six.
08:27Monkey for the win!
08:29So, I want to know how you feel about that, Lisa.
08:31Maybe I tell my problems to the wrong people.
08:34This was supposed to be a goddess party.
08:36I expected fun.
08:37I expected to be treated like a goddess.
08:40This isn't a goddess party.
08:42It's a witch hunt.
08:43And I am not a witch.
08:45You're annoying people talking about yourself.
08:47You feel like your problems are the biggest ones in the room.
08:50Well, I also feel that you blame me for not knowing your problems, but you also don't tell me your
08:56problems.
08:56Sometimes we feel that we're not heard, but we're not talking.
09:00I know, but the problem is when you call and the person doesn't answer the phone, you're not going to
09:04be heard.
09:07I also think you should tell the truth and stop saying lies.
09:10You're the light detector test?
09:12I have, like, receipts, so.
09:14Baby girl, I am the receipt.
09:17Is that your Halloween costume for this year?
09:20Try getting a dress in your size.
09:23Ladies?
09:23The whole world know not to mess with Larsa because she's going to come for you.
09:27I didn't hear that.
09:28Can you repeat that?
09:30It is so stupid.
09:31But we're mature.
09:32There's a reason she calls herself the Larsonist.
09:35The next one, quick to take offense.
09:38All right, let's go.
09:42Lisa is quick to take offense.
09:44Larsa is quick to take offense.
09:47Bro.
09:49Marissa.
09:50Sorry, Maddie.
09:51Oh, you pick me?
09:52Yes.
09:52I don't know.
09:53I don't care.
09:55Maybe Alexia.
09:57Oh, Kiki.
09:58Lisa.
10:00Yeah, you pick Lisa?
10:01Yeah.
10:01I pick Lisa, too.
10:02Oh, she's very offended with me.
10:04That one was quick to take offense, and Lisa got the most with three.
10:08I win again.
10:09This is like a whack game with some whack people.
10:13Everybody, by the way, has narcissistic traits.
10:16For God's sake, Larsa has a Larsa light.
10:18And I guarantee you, her phone is filled with 99% selfies.
10:26More of just her.
10:28Her.
10:31Oh, there's one with the family, but that's an ad.
10:34The next one is lack of accountability.
10:37Oh, jeez.
10:40It's going to get ugly.
10:45Larsa.
10:47Larsa.
10:48Uh-huh.
10:49Guess who is Larsa speaking now?
10:52Pizza.
10:53Of course.
10:54Wow.
10:55Petty Pippin in the house.
10:59Well, that's how I feel.
11:01You gotta go.
11:02I'll go Marty again.
11:04She keeps picking me.
11:06All right.
11:06Let's go.
11:06You want to move forward?
11:09Okay, just understand that this is an exercise for everybody to grow and evolve.
11:14It's not about attacking each other.
11:16Can I please ask you a question?
11:17Yes.
11:17Like, if somebody tells you something very painful and hurtful that hurts you deep in the heart.
11:22Yeah.
11:23What is your recommendation?
11:25How to move forward and how to move past?
11:28And did they apologize?
11:30Partially, yes.
11:32Partially.
11:32Oh, I don't think partially is good enough.
11:33Part of it.
11:33All right, so who are you talking about in that situation?
11:37I was talking about my friend Gertie, who hurt me very, very much when somebody calls you horrible names.
11:45Oh.
11:45And it's kind of stick in your head, but you want to move past it.
11:49How do you forget it?
11:50One of them is time, because I believe time is the only thing that heals.
11:53Yeah.
11:53And a willingness to want to rekindle a relationship that you once had with Gertie.
11:58Yeah.
11:58So this is after that I've been physically assaulted.
12:01And there's too much context to discuss this.
12:03Okay.
12:04And there is a lot of context, but I will say that if you have a willingness to reconnect with
12:08her.
12:09Absolutely.
12:10I have to forgive this physical assault too.
12:12Yeah.
12:13What is this going to solve by bringing this up to the group?
12:15She is breaking the pact.
12:18I see you for who you are.
12:20Stupid mean.
12:21All right, so the last one is playing the victim.
12:28I'm sorry, sorry.
12:32Lisa.
12:33Oh boy.
12:35Well, you guys aren't moving forward tonight, that's for sure.
12:37I mean, you keep saying that, but you were talking about a photo from four months ago that I wasn't
12:44involved with.
12:45Guys, guys, this is not about, this is not about, can we?
12:48Excuse me, I'm going to talk right now.
12:50Okay, can you take control, Daniel, please?
12:53Ladies, ladies.
12:54You are mad about a photo my boyfriend took with your ex four months ago.
12:59I am not mad at that, we're playing a game.
13:01Yes, it's not a game.
13:02You are a narcissist, Larsa.
13:04You've got to move forward, guys.
13:05You're not apologetic about anything you've done.
13:08You think everything's okay.
13:09I apologize.
13:10When I was in Toronto, you text me after you knew my dad was dying and then dead.
13:15I never text you.
13:15I think we're lies, I'm praying for you.
13:17I never text you anything.
13:18And then you're talking about, not about my dad, about my boyfriend.
13:21Lisa.
13:22Your boyfriend shouldn't yell at women.
13:24No, he didn't.
13:24You're a liar.
13:25I'm not used to a man yelling at me.
13:27Lisa.
13:27You're a liar about him being cheap.
13:29He's so cheap.
13:30Oh my God, Larsa.
13:32Larsa's going on and on and all I'm really thinking about is work.
13:35How many emails am I getting?
13:37What Zooms do I have?
13:39I'm thinking about making money.
13:41I have so much I can say about you and I don't say it.
13:44Go ahead.
13:45You are very lucky.
13:46I am not lucky, honey, say it.
13:47You told me Marcus doesn't have it like that.
13:49You don't want your tits to be down to your knees before you guys get married.
13:53You told me that.
13:55I what?
13:56Why don't you talk about the tits to the floor?
13:58I'm getting dark.
13:59I'm getting dark.
14:00Tits to the floor.
14:01Maybe Lisa should stop worrying about my boobs and start worrying more about how everyone
14:05in this group thinks she's a narcissist.
14:07Lisa.
14:09Lisa.
14:10And P.S.
14:11My boobs are sky high, so I don't know what she's talking about.
14:14You know what I told you?
14:15I don't need a man.
14:16You know what I told you?
14:17I'm independent.
14:18You know what I told you?
14:18I'm teaching my kids to be independent.
14:20I don't know what you're doing.
14:20I know what I'm doing.
14:21Don.
14:22I know what you're doing.
14:22Let's count the flags.
14:23You can throw it, but you can't take it.
14:26Count the flags.
14:27I'm good.
14:27We are better than this.
14:29The overwhelming score for the trade of playing the victim was Lisa with five.
14:34Who picked Lisa?
14:36So did you raise your hand for Lisa?
14:37I did.
14:38Okay, so let's explain.
14:39I can relate to Lisa.
14:40I'm also going through a very difficult time in my life, but I choose not to play victim.
14:45I'm not playing a victim.
14:46I'm not playing a victim.
14:48I have a few people that are my safe space.
14:51You, Adriana.
14:52You?
14:53No, I'm sorry.
14:54Look, I don't think they're saying you.
14:56Oh, my God.
14:56Do you guys know I haven't talked about a thing since Kiki went Lenny, Lenny, Lenny, Lenny?
15:02I've stopped talking about Lenny already.
15:05Like, it's so much Lenny, Lenny, Lenny, Lenny, Lenny, Lenny.
15:07It's becoming a song.
15:08I haven't brought up Lenny, Lenny, Lenny at all, even though I'm still dealing with it.
15:13I wish somebody else had more problems than I had.
15:16We do have more problems than you, Lisa.
15:18I'm talking and you're interrupting me again.
15:21Everybody has problems.
15:22I'm very compassionate, and I know what you've been going through, but sometimes you have,
15:26like, a lack of accountability.
15:30But it's not an attack, Lisa.
15:32This is feeling like a gang up again.
15:35Everybody's having that narcissistic moment right now because none of you are taking into
15:40consideration the fact this girl just lost her father.
15:43So where is the empathy?
15:44This shit.
15:45I am leaving this bullshit, stupid party.
15:49Oh, let's make Lisa the punching bag all the fucking time.
15:54Bullshit.
16:06I am leaving this bullshit, stupid party.
16:10Oh, let's make Lisa the punching bag all the fucking time.
16:15Bullshit.
16:21Larsa, you really need to make up with her at some point.
16:23Babe, I literally was playing the game.
16:25I was not the only one that felt like that.
16:27We all felt the same thing.
16:28When we actually tell the truth and tell how we feel, we get punished for this.
16:33How is that fair?
16:33Like, I'm sorry, but Larsa has done fuck up shit to all of you guys at one point or another.
16:39You should go turn up.
16:40I can't.
16:41I can't.
16:41This is stupid.
16:42I'm, like, done.
16:43You have a choice to behave the way you have, and you have to take control of your emotions.
16:48I don't know.
16:49Did everybody have such a problem with the game?
16:51I'm going to the bathroom.
16:52I think it was a beautiful game.
16:54She's in the bathroom.
16:55She's upset.
16:59I think she's extremely upset.
17:01She got all the flags at every game.
17:04Lisa, are you there?
17:06Sorry, babe.
17:07Excuse me when I'm crying too.
17:08I hate these people.
17:10Like, I don't want to be, I don't even really enjoy hanging out with this group.
17:14That's how people perceive her.
17:16And sometimes it's hard, like, when it's only by yourself.
17:18You know, it feels like we're ganging up on her.
17:21It was a lot.
17:21It was rough.
17:22But if you guys all said that, maybe when I went home, I would be like, maybe they're
17:25right.
17:26Larsa has no clue.
17:28Lisa says, leave me the alone and leave my boyfriend alone.
17:31Stop talking about my family.
17:33She doesn't know about it.
17:33How does everyone conveniently forget all the things that Larsa did to them?
17:39I heard crazy things about you.
17:41I heard you hooked up with every doctor in the hospital.
17:44I swear to God.
17:45I swear to God.
17:47Someone called me a week ago and told me you were making out with a man.
17:52Someone that was at your wedding said a few of the girls at your wedding were doing
17:55things at your wedding.
17:57What kind of thing?
17:59I went to meet with Gertie.
18:01She's like, I have breast cancer.
18:03What?
18:04Who the hell do you think you are to talk about my news to tell people?
18:08Who are you?
18:10Larsa can totally bash you one by one, like, but I'm being called a narcissist because I
18:19talk about myself too much.
18:20I thought we were here to talk about our problems as friends.
18:25I just want to thank you all for participating today.
18:27I think the exercises will be positive in the end and you did a great job.
18:31And thank you, Alexia.
18:33No, thank you.
18:34This is a hocus-pocus tiktoker.
18:38I'm okay.
18:39Um, I'll be right back.
18:41Thanks.
18:42As I'm having my issues with Julia, all I wanted to have is someone to say, you know
18:49what, I have empathy and let me help you make it right with the other.
18:52I need you to find a way to rise above it.
18:56Someone's got to rise above it.
18:57So I'm going to apply it to other people and say, hey, guys, I want you guys to just
19:00to be better.
19:01Where are you coming?
19:01You're coming from a place of peace, right?
19:02Okay, peace.
19:03Peace.
19:04Okay, peace.
19:05One second.
19:06One second.
19:06Okay, Joanna, can you stand up?
19:08Please.
19:08Okay.
19:09Just the two of you and listen to each other.
19:13Listen.
19:19I wasn't trying to get back with you today.
19:21I know you and I have to talk.
19:23This has been going on since summer.
19:24No, we're not going to say.
19:26I'm sitting right here.
19:26I'm a moderator.
19:27I feel like I've been a really good friend to you.
19:29She stops with that.
19:30It never goes well.
19:31I know.
19:31I'm out of here.
19:32You've admitted that.
19:33You've told everyone I have been a very good friend to you.
19:36Am I wrong?
19:37Am I wrong?
19:38Have I not been a good friend to you?
19:39Larsa, not lately, no.
19:40Okay.
19:41Have I not been a very good friend?
19:42I'm going to...
19:43No.
19:43No.
19:44Sorry.
19:44Mediating.
19:45No, no.
19:46Gertie, we don't need you to...
19:47No, we do.
19:48We do.
19:48You need me to do that all the time.
19:51No, no, no.
19:51Gertie, I need to speak for Lisa alone.
19:53I think it needs to be the other way around for her to tell her what hurt her.
19:57I guess we'll leave the girls here.
19:59We can get going.
19:59I know it's been a long day.
20:01I really thought when we were making progress at your house, I really thought I was like,
20:05we're going to be fine.
20:06But you never spoke to me and said, whatever your issues are, I'm sorry you're going through
20:10this.
20:10I've got your back.
20:11That's all I ever wanted you to do.
20:12All she wanted you to do is just say, hey, I've got your back.
20:17I honestly didn't want to come and have a conversation at all with you at his birthday.
20:21But you did and it hurt her.
20:23So say sorry.
20:25The last thing Lisa and I need right now is a referee.
20:28You were mad at me because Marcus took a selfie with Jody.
20:32Don't let him win.
20:34Who does Gertie think she is?
20:36Dr. Phil?
20:37Let's just get together one-on-one.
20:39We're not in this environment with a bunch of people that have opinions and all that stuff.
20:43A hundred percent.
20:45I just want to have a moment alone with Lisa.
20:48I don't need Gertie or anyone else getting involved in our conversation.
20:51We're going to figure out our issues.
20:53We're going to solve our problems, figure out our issues, but it's not going to be tonight.
20:56Come on.
20:56So much love.
20:57So much love.
20:58Oh, my work is done here.
21:01You're welcome, ladies.
21:12Clinical features of personality disorders.
21:15Yes.
21:16According to the DSM-5, behavior must be pervasive and inflexible.
21:23Are you inflexible, Baski?
21:25Are you inflexible with your peeing on my furniture?
21:31She loves this place so much.
21:34Oh.
21:34Oh.
21:35Oh.
21:35She's like, oh.
21:35Oh, she's ready.
21:36She freaking love you.
21:37Ready?
21:38Stop.
21:39Try again.
21:40Try again.
21:40Our little worm out.
21:41Bravo, Tati.
21:42Stay active so you can go to sleep in two hours.
21:49I love this.
21:51How many squats is this equivalent?
21:52So this is equivalent to 20,000 squats.
21:5520,000 squats.
21:57Yeah.
21:57Turn it all the way up.
21:58All right.
21:59Oh.
22:03You're going to pass me a donut?
22:06Oh.
22:15That's not for you, baby boy.
22:17No.
22:18Back off.
22:19Move your butt.
22:20Move your butt.
22:23Hi.
22:24Welcome.
22:25How are things going?
22:27Oh, I'm slightly sleep deprived.
22:29How are you?
22:29I'm like saying hello to you in a twilight zone.
22:32We are not yet official parents of Jackson and Luca.
22:37The state needs to make sure that we are meeting all the needs of the boys.
22:41So this is our main visit.
22:45Yes.
22:45Yes.
22:46And we'll have one next month.
22:47So we're adoptive parents on the way.
22:50Yes.
22:51We are only a few weeks away from becoming the official parents.
22:55But honestly, like Martina and I, we are already their parents from the day one.
23:01So I would love to know what has been the hardest moment for you bringing the boys home.
23:07I forgot what the diaper situation is, you know?
23:10Oh, no.
23:10And it's like really funny.
23:13Four in the morning, 4.30, he's calling me.
23:16And then we have this deal with Martina.
23:18It's you tonight.
23:19It's you.
23:20It's always me.
23:21It's this and this.
23:22She gets up.
23:23I think now she wants to bond with them more.
23:26It kind of, she feels, you know, she's a second parent.
23:28And she loves doing it.
23:29I like that.
23:30I just cannot stop smiling because Martina is spoiling the boys so much.
23:36They have this incredibly cute relationships.
23:40Martina is good at everything.
23:41Of course she would be a great mom.
23:44I'm a single mom who adopted boys.
23:46Where are you going to have the male role model?
23:50Well, I'm very close with my brother who's 12 years younger than me.
23:54And I FaceTimed with him maybe like, I don't know, three times a week.
23:58So they know my brother, but in the beginning, like maybe 10 days after we had them, we had
24:04some friends come into the house and the boys froze.
24:09And that's one of the reasons why I don't like invite people to my house to see them because
24:14I remember like that reaction, they froze and it reminded me about changing homes.
24:20Oh, yes.
24:21It's probably when they felt safe.
24:23Somebody came in.
24:24Think about it.
24:25They don't know, right?
24:26And they say, you're coming with me.
24:27You're changing.
24:28Who can even as an adult comprehend what that feels like?
24:33Oh, my God.
24:34I was thinking of that.
24:36It makes me so sad.
24:38At times, I feel almost hopeless and helpless.
24:41Like, I don't know what to do, how to help them.
24:45But I know it's just time, patience, and love.
24:49But I feel now it's the time I can introduce them outside to my friends.
24:53You are so nurturing and you have so much nurture to give.
24:57And these boys need all of that.
25:00And these boys need all of that.
25:22Thank you so much you want a glass of wine you're getting a margarita yeah okay
25:41But it was very scary anything that has to do with my parents worries me
25:52If they have the migraine I worry if a hurricane is coming I am devastated
25:56Oh this is nice thank you so much I installed their nest and ring cameras in their house
26:03And haven't told them that I can see them in their house
26:06Is that weird I think that might be criminal it's not criminal right
26:11If it's your parents what if they fall I want to know
26:14I'm turning 40 this year and my parents are going to be together
26:21They are turning 50 years together
26:30And you guys are the best parents
26:34I love you
26:35I love you
26:37When I decided to introduce my parents to Massoud I planned a dinner my dad didn't say a word
26:42He was shocked he was so close in age to my dad
26:50And then the second time they hit it off and ever since then they FaceTime each other during work hours
26:55And they always always hang out
26:58Massoud is a son my parents never had
27:00But that is if my dad would have Massoud when he was one
27:04The way that you raised
27:07Tata
27:07Tata
27:08Tata
27:09She's tough as nail in the office
27:12She does better job than I do
27:15But I feel like a lot of what I am as a businesswoman comes from my dad
27:19It really does
27:20I was literally raised like a boy
27:22Es verdad
27:23Muy estricto
27:25Muy rigido
27:26Learn to ride the bike
27:27Don't cry
27:28You can do it
27:30You're not quitting
27:31Keep going
27:32Asi era
27:32And he told me weak people will never survive
27:36Una frase mÃa
27:37Pongas el cuchillo en la boca y vamos pa delante
27:39I'm not sensitive
27:41My sisters
27:42They are very, very sensitive
27:45A lot
27:46A lot
27:47A lot
27:47My sister's tense relationship with my parents had nothing to do with my fallout with them
27:51However, my fallout with them made their relationship even worse
27:55Pareciera que estuviéramos en otro planeta
27:58They can't talk for two minutes, it's literally like war
28:01Es una guerra
28:02Ya me van a hacer de orar
28:04No, no llore
28:05No llore
28:06No llore
28:08No llore
28:08And no hable con ellos
28:09No contesta
28:10No, muy poco
28:12Muy poco machudo
28:14No, mami
28:17I want to mend the relationship with my sisters because
28:21I truly, truly miss them
28:23The day my sisters signed the employment papers at Shoma
28:26It's almost like if they signed our relationship away
28:33Tata, necesitamos que entonces tú que tienes la intención arregle la situación
28:38No, I want to fix it
28:40Okay
28:40But it's very hard
28:42But one day we will all be a complete family
29:03I feel like my pants are wrinkled
29:05Does it look wrinkled?
29:06Thank you
29:07No
29:09Hey
29:10Hello
29:10Hi
29:10How are you?
29:11I'm Russell
29:12Hello, hello
29:13How are you?
29:14How are you?
29:16Good
29:16Good
29:16Oh my goodness, so nice meeting you
29:19Good to see you in person
29:19Very cozy
29:21Thank you
29:21Have a seat
29:22Oh my gosh, that's fine
29:24Either one of you have been in couples therapy before?
29:27No, not
29:28This is a first
29:29A first for everything here
29:31Yes
29:31Talk to me about how y'all met
29:33So we were in high school, 10th grade
29:36Okay
29:37We met
29:38She fell in love with me at that point
29:40And then, the end, right?
29:42That's it
29:43Boy, bye
29:44Okay
29:44So fast forward, you're married
29:47Yes
29:47Two sons
29:49Yep
29:49Okay
29:50And then I got cancer
29:53It's been over a year and a half since my cancer diagnosis
29:56And now we have to live with the post-cancer trauma
30:00You have had a major disruption in your marriage
30:05We went through the cancer together and Russell was by my side through the whole thing
30:09But I don't want him to see me as like my caretaker because we need to now turn the page
30:13and move forward as to being a couple again
30:17So Russell, I want to hear your wife, this phenomenal woman in a very vulnerable time of her life
30:25Talk to me about what that was doing to you
30:32That, that was hard
30:35Okay
30:44Love me
30:46Be strong
30:47Okay
30:49Everything will be okay
30:50Okay
30:51You know, when I, when I was at my lowest, like when I was just like in the bed, like
30:54just
30:54Wanted to, I, I, I actually told him I wanted to get, like I didn't want anymore, pick chemo
30:58I want, I don't care what happens, maybe it's my time to go
31:05Take a moment
31:07Breathe
31:11And there was one time that I did that
31:14And he said, you cannot
31:18You can't do this to me and the kids
31:20And then he said, I need you
31:26Then I just fought, completely switched off and never talked about it again
31:30You see someone that's so powerful, um, has so much energy, has so much life, shut down for, you know,
31:42a time, you know, luckily we're, we're able to get over that
31:46But sometimes she, she feels self-conscious
31:49He doesn't play into the emotional side that I need him to play into so that I, I don't, so
31:55that I don't feel like a patient
31:57Okay
31:57So Russell, for you, what do we need to do to turn off that first responder?
32:05Well, I feel like we're getting to that point where I've, I've turned it off, that aspect
32:14Okay
32:14You know, we're going through these ups and downs
32:16But, you know, you joke about it, oh, you always say I'm traumatized
32:21I'm not traumatized, I'm amazed, I'm proud of you
32:25I'm like, that's my wife
32:27My God, I, wow
32:29Okay
32:30Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you
32:31I, I, I, I never heard you say it like this at all
32:34Wow
32:35I would encourage you both, since this is your first time in therapy, consider individual
32:41I've always wanted her to go on her own
32:44Because she has issues in the past, like traumatic events that pop up all the time
32:52The way I came to this country, you know, there's a sense of, um, isolation and abandonment
32:58I'm one of seven kids, and then my father decides to come to Miami to start with the church, um,
33:03career
33:04So, I came here at the age of nine
33:07He took only me and my brother
33:08All the other siblings got to stay in France
33:11When I get triggered, when somebody, like, excludes me from something in a mean way
33:15Let me tell you what happened on the cruise
33:17Julia clearly used me as a seat filler
33:20When I brought that up, I said, why didn't you have her seat with you for dinner?
33:24And she said, because Sandy had given the seat to somebody else when she realized Martina wasn't coming
33:31Who would say, no, you can't bring her, when she knows me?
33:34I get triggered by my new little thing
33:38To be brought to the U.S., not speaking English, dropped off at some cousin's house
33:43And told, we'll be right back, we're gonna get the other siblings, we'll be back
33:48And not seeing my parents for three months
33:50I had no control, and I think that could maybe be the reason why
33:55Wow, I just, that could maybe be the reason why I am the way I am right now, oh my
33:59god
34:01It's part of the traumatic experience
34:02I would highly encourage that you speak to your own therapist
34:22Welcome
34:22Hi
34:23Hi
34:23What's going on? How are you?
34:26Good, how are you?
34:27I'm okay
34:28Thank you
34:29You just said your hair looks good
34:31I feel like we, um, color-coordinated neutrals
34:33Oh, does that mean it's a good sign?
34:36I hope so
34:36There's no reason why Lisa and I should have been fighting for this long
34:41Like, we were best friends
34:42Can I do Casa Amigos Reposado with Soda?
34:45I'll do the same
34:46Same one
34:46I'm hoping that Lisa comes today with an open mind and heart
34:51And accepts some responsibility
34:54So
34:55Yeah
34:56Um
34:57Excuse me ladies, Reposado over here
34:59Thank you
35:00Thank you so much
35:01Thank you
35:02Thank you ladies
35:03I wasn't actually looking forward to this
35:07So we're not?
35:08No
35:08With Larissa, I need to figure out where her mind is at
35:13Either resolve our issues or just be done with her
35:17How long can it be before we like sit down? Like honestly
35:20Like
35:20There's a lot
35:21There's a lot to dive into
35:23You know what?
35:24We've been having these like crazy like issues since summer
35:28I've never been thrown out of anyone's house
35:29The whole world knows what you are
35:31Get out
35:31Get out
35:33And I've never been swore at like that in my house
35:36Jodi and I left a real party for your fake breakup
35:39You're a fake bitch to say that
35:40Things kind of like snowballed after that
35:43I was really hurt when I left Milan just so you know
35:45The last night of Milan Jodi gets so crazy
35:49He doesn't want us to talk anymore yelling over us
35:52What?
35:52You got heated because of Marcus it's a touchy subject
35:55No he said to me
35:56You're the one that had the paparazzi take the photo of him in the south of France
35:59And I said me?
36:01What am I the CIA?
36:02And that's what started it all
36:03Well the paparazzi guy told us that
36:05Okay well you're full of
36:09Why are you saying I'm full of
36:11Okay that's not what happened your boyfriend lies
36:13I don't want to like escalate this we're trying to
36:15I'm trying to deescalate
36:16Okay I'm just a better friend
36:20Do you hear yourself?
36:21Yeah you're running low on friends
36:23I'm the only friend that literally would take time to meet you for lunch
36:26You change friends like I change underwear
36:28You need to learn how to be a better friend
36:30You be a better friend
36:31I'm not the only one
36:32Because you saw when you got all the red flags
36:34Oh right
36:35Constantly talking about themselves
36:38Sorry monkey
36:39I think Lisa yeah
36:41Lisa
36:42Quick to take offense
36:44Lisa is quick to take offense
36:46Lisa
36:47Lisa
36:48Playing the victim
36:50Lisa
36:51Lisa
36:52Lisa
36:53Lisa
36:54Oh boy
36:55Do I regret putting all those flags in Lisa's face?
36:59No
37:00Do I regret making her feel bad?
37:03Yes I do
37:04That was a complete dogpile
37:07You're a narcissist
37:08Stupid game
37:08Are you
37:08I'm a narcissist
37:10You're a larsisist
37:11Okay everyone is against you
37:12All the girls in our group
37:14It's just the truth
37:14Why do you have a hard time dealing with the truth?
37:18You have a hard time dealing with the truth
37:20He's in the bathroom
37:22He's insane
37:23We're not getting anywhere with this
37:40Okay everyone is against you
37:41All the girls in our group
37:42It's just the truth
37:43Why do you have a hard time dealing with the truth?
37:45He doesn't
37:46He has a
37:46He has an
37:47He has an
37:48He has an
37:49He has an
37:50Is she
37:51She goes
37:56Look at the flags
37:57Everybody hates you
37:58or you're not your friend
37:59or whatever
37:59That's no
38:00That's not true
38:01I
38:02I know but
38:03It's really gross
38:04That she saying that
38:05No one is my friend
38:06And everyone thinks I'm terrible
38:08You're alright
38:08You're not
38:10I'm so sorry
38:10babe
38:11I'm telling you
38:12Please don't not believe that
38:13I know, I don't want to believe in that, but like she's throwing all, she's like, she's so terrible.
38:20Any African-American or Hispanic that votes for Kamala, you gotta have your headaches.
38:26I remember saying this sh**, she's so unaligned.
38:29She's always reflecting, always reflecting and making about like something else when it's about me and her.
38:41Sorry.
38:42I believe this is going to be the biggest style trend this November.
38:45I'm not kidding.
38:46We'll be seeing equestrian sheets like never before.
38:48You know how it appears when I have everybody piling up?
38:52I just love my dad.
38:53I mean, it's just so mean and hurtful to think like this group of girls, like what Lars is saying
38:59is true, that no one likes me.
39:02Like, it's so mean.
39:08And she's calling me a narcissist.
39:10It's messed up.
39:11Hi, ma'am.
39:11Hi.
39:12I'm sorry.
39:12Okay.
39:13Oh, I'm sorry.
39:14Oh, yeah, sure, sure.
39:15Yep, yep, yep.
39:16Thank you so much.
39:16Sure, I'm sorry about that.
39:18Sorry.
39:19Yeah.
39:19But I just want you to go out there and tell her.
39:23We're not talking about any other girls right now.
39:25This is between you and I.
39:26Okay, please take a hold of yourself and go out there and do it.
39:30I am to the point, I'm like, until like, until like my last hair.
39:35These girls are going to like fix it.
39:37So, it's like, I'm just like tired of it.
39:40I don't, I don't know.
39:42I don't even know what to say.
39:43Like, I'm really hurt.
39:45And I think maybe you wanted that.
39:47How am I trying to hurt you by telling you to be a better friend?
39:50What have I done to you besides be there for you?
39:52I stay up with you all night whenever we travel.
39:55You always say this, love.
39:55You can call me at any time.
39:56I always answer.
39:58The more of the story is I was looking for you to be a better friend to me.
40:02That's all.
40:03That's where this all stemmed from.
40:04I love you.
40:05I'm sorry I came to Jody's party and called you a bitch.
40:09I'm sorry you lost your dad and felt like I wasn't there for you the way maybe you feel like
40:13I should have been.
40:14Can you accept some responsibility in some of this, too?
40:16Yeah, in hindsight, if I would have known all of the stuff that was happening and I would have known
40:22your true emotions and your feelings, we wouldn't be here today.
40:26So I'm sorry for that, that I didn't know, but I really just didn't know.
40:30I didn't know.
40:31And I wish that I could, like, sometimes pull it out of you, like, to get your feelings, to get
40:36how you feel.
40:37But you have this tough exterior, and it's hard to, like, get in there, you know?
40:42It's hard to, like, get it.
40:44I think we both have to do a better job of, like, communicating and, like, picking up the phone and
40:51not having things go on as long as this situation has lasted.
40:54It's gone on forever.
40:55That's terrible.
40:55I hate it.
40:56I don't like having conflict.
40:57You should always be able to call your friends and know that your friends have your back, and I'll always
41:02have your back.
41:04I know deep down we have love for each other.
41:07Larsa is really there for me, and she would always take my phone calls and listen to me, and, like,
41:12going out and just, we have mutual friends.
41:15I would give anything to go back to that.
41:17I don't want to be fighting with her.
41:18I literally looked at our Instagram, our photos, and I was like, some of my best pictures are with you.
41:24So I was like, we've had so many fun times and fun memories, and I love you, and if we
41:29have problems, Lisa, we can't let it go this long.
41:32I do miss hanging out with Lisa.
41:33We used to laugh about the silliest things together.
41:36You know, I don't want to be in the same room with Lisa where I'm feeling something in the pit
41:40of my stomach instead of being super excited to see her like I used to be.
41:44Can we be with best friends again?
41:46I don't know, we need, like, couples therapy or something.
41:49You know?
41:50I think we should do that.
41:51Like, serious, like, therapy, you know?
41:53Okay, well, I don't want to fight with you.
41:54I love you.
41:55I know, like, you go through things.
41:57I'm going through things.
41:57I don't want to fight with you.
42:00I love you.
42:05Next time on The Real Huswives of Miami.
42:08Hold on, this necklace?
42:09I can smell money, and that's money.
42:11I smell it, too.
42:12My husband smells delicious.
42:14Oh, yeah.
42:15I'm going to shed some clarity on the situation that has cast a cloud on my character.
42:20Oh, my God.
42:22What?
42:24Oh, my God.
42:25Maybe this is your norm because you're married to a crazy guy.
42:28Please, my husband, out of it.
42:30You need to fucking shut the fuck up.
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