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00:04I'm nervous.
00:06I'm going to take it one step at a time.
00:08I'm absolutely petrified.
00:10Twelve virgins are travelling to a unique island retreat
00:15that could change their lives forever.
00:18This has made me the strangest day of my life.
00:21Being a virgin at the age of 22 feels very lonely.
00:25I've just sort of given up all hope.
00:28In a world saturated with sex,
00:30more young adults than ever are caught in an intimacy epidemic.
00:35The thought of having sex with someone...
00:37...scares me.
00:38It gives me the ick.
00:39I don't feel confident.
00:40I'm missing out.
00:41Terrified at the thought of it.
00:42Nerve-wracking.
00:43Gut-wrenching.
00:44Embarrassing.
00:45All I think about is what I'm going to get wrong.
00:48Can you point to the outer labia?
00:51Nope.
00:54Now...
00:54Oh, my God!
00:56They're getting a crash course in intimacy.
00:59Social media, porn, dating apps.
01:02There are so many negative messages
01:04and we can help them blossom.
01:06Use it by stimulating the area.
01:08Guided by a team of experts.
01:10You see yourself as...
01:12Propulsive.
01:13They'll confront their insecurities.
01:15I'm hiding how upset I actually feel.
01:18Exploring intimacy...
01:21...in every form.
01:23Yes.
01:24Yes.
01:24Good.
01:26And maybe...
01:27Do you want to put a condom on?
01:29...have sex with a trained therapist.
01:32Desperate times call for desperate measures.
01:34Woo!
01:35...or even one another.
01:36Why are you nervous around me?
01:38I don't know.
01:39It's so good.
01:41I really do need to change my life.
01:43The question is...
01:45Get a room, guys!
01:46...who will finally be ready...
01:49Just, like, get a bit anxious.
01:51...to go all the way...
01:52Touching me here again?
01:54Mm-hm.
01:54...on Virgin Island.
02:02In the first phase of the course...
02:04Shame really interrupts pleasure.
02:08The group confronted their shame.
02:10I've got a lipstick.
02:11Now you're having kids.
02:12Bertie made small steps forward.
02:15What do you think?
02:16Let's go!
02:17But witnessing intimacy...
02:19...stared up Jory's feelings of religious shame.
02:22I literally thought that God cursed me with vaginismus...
02:25...to stop me from having sex.
02:27And Alex revealed the extent of his anxiety.
02:30Penny for your thoughts.
02:32The main overriding thing is still that worry...
02:35...of not getting an erection.
02:37The phase ended.
02:38For me, shame is feeling ugly.
02:42Sorry.
02:43With the group letting their shame...
02:44Let it go!
02:46Let it go!
02:47Go up in flames.
02:49CHEERING
02:51Now, things are set to escalate.
02:53Imagine that your cock is going inside my vagina.
02:56With the second phase of the course...
02:58Good.
03:00...turn-ons.
03:01In society, a lot of people feel ashamed to talk about sex.
03:05It can be very embarrassing.
03:07Take a moment to look at your vulva.
03:09But to have a really fulfilling sex life...
03:11...you have to know what turns you on.
03:21Good morning, morning, morning.
03:24It's the morning of day three on Virgin Island.
03:28Oh, here we go then.
03:31And time for the group to discover what's in store over the next two days.
03:35The next phase is turn-ons.
03:38I think turn-ons might involve a lot of dirty talk.
03:42It is quite a step up from hugging and stroking people's arms.
03:45Talking about, like, what turns you on is a private thing.
03:49But I guess nothing is private on this island.
03:52Morning.
03:53Morning.
03:54I'm feeling nervous and tense over this.
03:59It's going to be a very big challenge.
04:03Turn-ons, guys.
04:04Your aim is to find everyone's turn-ons.
04:08The thing is, I know all my turn-ons.
04:11But talking about it feels quite daunting.
04:14If one of the guys gets a boner, like, they're going to be like,
04:16We're so proud of you.
04:17We're proud.
04:19I'm very nervous.
04:21It just all feels like something I'm not allowed to think about.
04:24Like, oh, my gosh.
04:25No, no, no, no, no, no.
04:31You ready to know your turn-ons?
04:33No.
04:34Do you know your turn-ons?
04:35Harry's sad.
04:37The group may be sexual beginners.
04:40Hi!
04:42But Celeste and Danielle want them to imagine they're experts
04:45and embrace their turn-ons.
04:51People get really confused.
04:53They're like, what turns me on?
04:54Is it positions?
04:55Or do I need to buy a new toy?
04:57But what really turns us on
04:59is the feeling that we get during sex.
05:03We call this our core desires.
05:06This is the cornerstone of the whole course.
05:09Everyone should know their core desires.
05:11If you want to have an amazing sex life,
05:12find out what you want to feel during sex
05:14and tell your partners.
05:15For me, in sex, it's all about feeling very special.
05:20I want to feel powerful.
05:23I want to feel like they're lucky to have me.
05:26And for me, I really like to feel like I'm the queen.
05:31People have many different feelings
05:33that they want to have during sex,
05:34and all of them are beautiful.
05:35We don't shame any of them.
05:38So you can just lie down, relax.
05:42To get them in the mood,
05:44Danielle begins with a visualisation exercise.
05:48I wanted to start thinking about a fantasy
05:52that you might be having.
05:54It can be something that you saw in a movie
05:57or some erotics that you read.
06:02And then start noticing
06:04what is the feeling that you want to feel in that moment.
06:10You might want to feel loved or precious.
06:15You might want to feel masterful, desired.
06:22Whenever you're ready, come back.
06:26Sit at the edge of your mat.
06:29With their core desires in mind...
06:33..the experts want the group to write them down on a stone
06:36and share with each other.
06:39Could just play Noughts and Crosses.
06:55OK, so who feel like they're ready to come up?
07:01I'm going to go...
07:02Great, wonderful.
07:03For Joy, her desires have always been complicated.
07:07When I was in year seven and eight,
07:09I thought it wasn't OK to be gay.
07:13I spoke to a church pastor
07:15when he started going on a rant
07:17about gay people being really sexual
07:19and slutty and promiscuous.
07:21And I realised myself that I was bisexual.
07:26But sex with a woman is like an undiscovered landscape.
07:30I do feel a bit guilty for wanting to explore it.
07:35So I put cherished, revered, lost in the moment,
07:43free and ultimately ravished.
07:46Yay!
07:47That's my girl!
07:51As others step up...
07:53I'll do it.
07:54..some themes emerge.
07:55For me, I think the most important thing is to feel wanted.
07:58Feeling wanted...
07:59I put wanted...
08:01I've mainly put wanted.
08:02..and appreciated are common desires.
08:05I want to feel loved.
08:06Loved. Everyone wants to feel loved.
08:08I've only got pampered on mine.
08:10Special.
08:11Praised.
08:11And then it will feel, like, nice and safe space.
08:14While some want to be dominated...
08:16I want to feel on edge and teased.
08:19Dominated.
08:20I feel like a little bit of a perv telling you this, but, yeah.
08:22We love pervs.
08:23We love pervs.
08:27So far, only 24-year-old Bertie hasn't stepped up.
08:33I do a lot of volunteering work in charity fundraising events.
08:39I'm the one to try and get a lot of rich people
08:42to give money for charity.
08:44We're disappointed in it, but...
08:45But when it comes to discussing, you know, sexual things,
08:50I don't see myself as a confident player.
08:54I think turn-ons, especially from the more sexual aspect,
09:01should not be shared in front of everybody.
09:03It should be kept as a secret between you and your partner,
09:07which is why I wrote,
09:09I have turn-ons, but I'm not sharing them in front of everyone.
09:12It should only be a secret between you and your partner.
09:15That's about it, really.
09:30How are we all feeling?
09:32I really liked it.
09:33Yeah.
09:34I was just like, oh, wow.
09:35This feels a bit different.
09:37Felt something in my nipples, like, as well, you know what I mean?
09:39Oh, yeah.
09:40Like, it felt a bit...
09:44The turn-ons exercise may have worked for some.
09:47When I go home, if I'm ever in a relationship with someone,
09:49I'm just going to put it by their bedside table.
09:51Turn-ons!
09:56But Bertie is just not feeling it.
09:58I was the only person in the group to not do it.
10:01I didn't want to, like, say things in front of everybody, you know?
10:04I do kind of feel like I've been, like,
10:07the odd one out in the group now.
10:08I feel like I've just taken a bit of a setback after that.
10:12It certainly wasn't the most enjoyable workshop, put it that way.
10:15I felt a bit of uncomfortableness,
10:20like, everywhere, really.
10:24To help the group discover their turn-ons...
10:27Who's got the one-to-ones today, mate?
10:29..they'll all have one-on-ones.
10:31You've got Elil.
10:32Elil, OK.
10:34Which one's Elil?
10:35She's a sexological body worker.
10:37Ireland vibes.
10:39Now I know.
10:40Starting with Alex,
10:42who has struggled to get turned on under the pressure of intimacy.
10:46Sex has been a sense of anxiety for me.
10:50Growing up, my dad was quite emotionally repressed himself.
10:53We had sex education in school at Year 5,
10:55and I talked to my dad about it,
10:57and he said,
10:58Oh, that's rude, don't talk about that.
11:01I then became so embarrassed to talk or think about sex.
11:05Whenever sex or relationships or anything came on TV,
11:09I used to leave the room.
11:13It's estimated that half of modern men
11:16have experienced performance anxiety.
11:19To help Alex,
11:20sexological body worker Elil plans to get physical.
11:24I want to work with him on receiving touch for me
11:27and recognising when that performance anxiety kicks in
11:31and letting me know what he needs in order to bring arousal up.
11:35So, hopefully, the erections will come when he has a lot of pleasure.
11:41Hello.
11:44So, the idea of today is for us to do full body pleasure mapping.
11:50You're going to be guiding the whole thing.
11:52Whenever you feel yourself starting to worry about performance,
11:57you can just say, like, can we slow down?
11:59Come on.
12:01So, take your clothes off.
12:04I think I'd like to keep my boxes on.
12:07Yeah.
12:07OK.
12:08Pleasure mapping is an exercise
12:10where Elil touches Alex all over his body.
12:13So, we can start laying down.
12:16Including his genitals,
12:18so Alex can lie back and concentrate on pleasure.
12:22Is this the touch that you want?
12:23That feels nice, yeah.
12:27I've heard three people that I would describe as a girlfriend.
12:33But I never had sex with anyone.
12:36The first time I tried, I had a panic attack.
12:38I was so nervous I couldn't get an erection.
12:40And I then convinced myself that sex is something, I guess, scary or nerve-wracking.
12:48It's constantly playing on my mind.
12:52Is this the right speed?
12:53Yeah, that's great.
12:57Very erotic.
12:59So, touching close to your underwear line,
13:01it's almost like teasing you.
13:03Yeah.
13:04All right.
13:07What are you noticing?
13:08Getting more turned on.
13:10Mm-hmm.
13:11Really getting, like, excited.
13:13Mm-hmm.
13:15It felt really nice when you were brushing past my genitals.
13:17Would you like me to do that?
13:19Yeah, yeah, yeah.
13:22And I love when you move like that.
13:25It kind of really lets me know that you're enjoying yourself.
13:40Amazing.
13:43Amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing, amazing.
13:46I'm going to take my hand off very slowly.
13:51So, did you feel me fully aroused?
13:54Yeah.
13:55Could you feel you fully aroused?
13:57Yeah, yeah.
13:58Amazing.
14:01Have you ever felt aroused like that with someone?
14:04Not like that.
14:05Not to the point where I'm, like, moving my hips and feeling tingly.
14:09You are very, very erect.
14:11Yeah.
14:11You did so good.
14:13Thank you so much.
14:15Bye-bye.
14:16I don't think I've ever felt that sort of level of eroticism before.
14:20She's just had such a calming presence.
14:22So, yeah, feeling really good and sort of inspires confidence going forward.
14:30Hey, guys.
14:31How did your one-on-one go?
14:32Good.
14:33It went into genital touching.
14:35And, yeah, that felt really good.
14:37I bet.
14:49It was really windy last night.
14:51Yeah.
14:51Like, for a while, I think, like, my tent was going to blow away.
14:54Oh, my God, do a Dorothy.
14:56Go to the yellow brick road.
14:57Celeste and Danielle have turned into a tin man and a scarecrow.
15:01I'll probably be the lion because I'm the cowardly one.
15:06It's the afternoon on Virgin Island.
15:09How does that feel?
15:11Yeah.
15:11Yeah, it feels good.
15:13As the one-on-one sessions continue.
15:15It's good.
15:16You seem more open to me.
15:18Just baby steps.
15:20The turn-on phase of the course is gathering pace.
15:23May I direct you in touching my breasts?
15:27Yeah.
15:27Yes.
15:28And a little more pressure.
15:30OK.
15:31Yeah.
15:33And the group continues to open up to each other.
15:36When I was at school, all the boys, like, would walk past and be like,
15:41oh, you're all lesbians because you go to an all-girls school.
15:43Yeah.
15:44When I was, like, 12, I remember thinking, oh, my gosh,
15:47why has God given me so many gay friends?
15:50I now have to convert all of them.
15:51It took me a couple of years to realise that I was, in fact, one of them.
15:57Years of sexual anxiety have taken a physical toll on Joy.
16:02I have vaginismus.
16:03This physical and psychological problem, it causes pain.
16:07If I can't insert a finger into my vagina, you know, how can I physically have sex?
16:12With guidance from Malil, she'll learn how to relax her body around touch.
16:17We can actually practise towards penetration in a very slow process,
16:24creating an alignment between what the head wants to do
16:27and what the body actually feels comfortable with.
16:31Hello, beautiful.
16:35So our intention for today is if you feel comfortable,
16:39we can explore the opening of your vagina.
16:42Sometimes that's been hard because it all, like, closed up.
16:46Maybe we can see it today.
16:51I want you to just start by maybe putting your hands on your vulva.
16:57Would you like to have a look where you're touching?
17:00Elil encourages Joy to explore her body.
17:03Oh, my gosh, that's so weird.
17:04Can you see?
17:05And in doing so, change the way she feels about it.
17:09Take a moment to look at your vulva.
17:11And connect to her.
17:15She's beautiful.
17:16It's weird because I feel like she looks ugly.
17:19When I was 12, I had this realisation that I had been masturbating.
17:24I went to Christian camp and there was this call to come to the front for prayer for sexual sin.
17:31I felt convicted.
17:33Like, oh, my gosh, they're speaking about me.
17:34I've sinned.
17:35And I told my youth pastor and then she staged an intervention.
17:41Yeah, it's stuck with me.
17:43It's been hard to get that out of my head.
17:45And now, I want to be free to explore a sexual side to myself.
17:50I want to enjoy my life and accept myself.
17:54So, what part are you curious about?
17:58I think I want to just touch the outer labia.
18:01Awesome.
18:02You can do like that.
18:04You can, like, bring a little bit of vibration.
18:08That's right.
18:09That's quite nice.
18:10Bit of rousing.
18:11Yeah.
18:12Yeah.
18:13Do you want to try it with oil?
18:14Yeah.
18:17Put it all over your vulva.
18:22It does feel totally different.
18:24Yeah.
18:25Can you see your opening?
18:27You can see a tiny dot there?
18:28Yeah.
18:29So, that's your clit.
18:31Oh, that's so interesting.
18:32The clit is like a miniature penis.
18:34You will feel it is like a shaft.
18:37See if you can feel the shaft.
18:38OK.
18:41Sexological bodywork includes one-way touch.
18:44Can I?
18:45Yeah.
18:46Here.
18:47Oh.
18:49Allowing a lil with consent to help joy discover pleasure.
18:54So, how does it feel?
18:55It feels really good.
18:57I can feel arousal.
18:59That's new.
19:06Awesome.
19:08Thank you very much for giving me this experience.
19:11It's such a precious feeling.
19:13It feels really special.
19:17It's like she's safe.
19:20She's safe.
19:21She's good.
19:23You got her.
19:24Yeah.
19:25And I know what she looks like now as well.
19:35How was your thingy?
19:37Um, it was really good.
19:40Was it?
19:40Yeah, it was really good.
19:41She was like, you need to focus on what feels good for you.
19:44Yeah.
19:44The thing is just like, really?
19:46Right.
19:46I'm allowed.
19:48I feel really good.
19:50I feel really good, yeah.
19:51I just keep learning all these things about myself.
19:53So proud to really connect with my body and so pleased that I felt like we just had this breakthrough.
20:01Joy has leapt forwards, but not everyone is riding high.
20:05Bertie, would you like to join us slash would you like a blanket?
20:08Um, go on then.
20:11What, go on then to the blanket or go on then to joining us?
20:13I'll see what I'll do.
20:15I'll see how you feel.
20:16Yeah.
20:16I think it's quite a chill convert at the moment.
20:18Yeah, I'll see what I can do.
20:19Lovely to talk to you.
20:21Nice to talk to you.
20:22I can socialise, don't worry.
20:23I know you can.
20:24I'm just inviting you to.
20:26I'll see.
20:42Hey, look like birds.
20:44It's late afternoon.
20:46This questionnaire is multiple choice.
20:48Please choose all that apply.
20:50To help the group explore the type of person that turns them on.
20:54I've got boobs so far.
20:56The experts have handed out a list of questions.
21:00Body hair.
21:01I like my girls with a full beard, mate.
21:05Face shape.
21:06I've never thought about this.
21:07What's mine?
21:10Are you calling me a squid?
21:13I don't think the colour of hair or the colour of eyes matter as long as the hair looks presentable.
21:22Great hygiene.
21:23Yeah.
21:24Clean hands.
21:25Clean nails.
21:26And they've got to have...
21:28I'm going to put banter.
21:31You know, you put banter.
21:34For Marianne, the questionnaire proves revealing.
21:38Ideal first date setting.
21:41I just want to go hiking and then have a picnic somewhere, but then I don't really necessarily want to
21:46be alone with a guy hiking on the first date.
21:48Yeah.
21:49It depends on how safe I feel, you know.
21:53A lot goes on in my head all the time because I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was about
21:59four and there's just a lot of emotions.
22:02Like, I'm never not thinking about safety.
22:04Like, when people do one-night stands in my head, I'm like, X, Y, Z could go wrong.
22:08How are you going to an unknown place where this is...
22:10My brain goes sort of into overdrive.
22:14I don't trust men.
22:16All right.
22:17We're done, dusted.
22:18High five.
22:20Cool.
22:21Yeah, I know it is me, but I don't know how to move forward.
22:28Marianne is very much in her head.
22:32She's trying to manage her boundaries so she won't get hurt.
22:37And in that way, she's holding herself back from fully experiencing life.
22:44Good to see you.
22:46Danielle wants to try and help Marianne confront her barriers.
22:51What do you want for yourself in the retreat?
22:54When it comes to sort of entity, I always just have...
22:57I'm just...
22:57My first thought is just safety.
22:59So a lot of what you're trying to do now is really, like, keep yourself in check.
23:07If, like, it just feels like I'm all alone and I have to put up a guard.
23:12I'm just saying sort of no to everything.
23:14And I think my yourself feels quite sad that I'm still stuck with that feeling.
23:28I feel like I had a lot of issues growing up in South Africa.
23:32In school, I was one of three mixed-race girls and we didn't really know how to fit in.
23:37Because we weren't, like, black enough for the black guys, white enough for the white guys.
23:41I get viewed as this exotic thing.
23:45Sweetheart.
23:46So keep it with my hand on my hair.
23:49It has been sort of like a competition of guys.
23:51They would never be in a relationship with us, but they just want to, like, get our clothes off.
23:55And so it's really, really hard for me to, like, trust men.
24:01I just feel...
24:03Yeah.
24:04...that I'm missing out on things and I can't differentiate, like, what's actual fear and what's just, like...
24:10Protection.
24:11Yeah.
24:13Can I please have a hug?
24:15Oh, I would love to.
24:17Oh.
24:19Oh, I would love to.
24:20Marianne needs to learn to trust that men don't necessarily want to take advantage of her.
24:27And working with the men to deal with all those issues, that's her biggest challenge on the island.
24:42Thank you so much.
24:44My pleasure.
24:47I knew I was going to be emotional, but everything sort of hit me.
24:58It was nice to have this session,
25:00because I can just think more clearly about what's to come.
25:05But that's quite daunting.
25:21Morning. Morning. Morning. Morning, Marianne.
25:25Another day begins on Virgin Island.
25:28Oh, I've got hot dog down my boot.
25:31That'll be a treat for someone later.
25:35And it's the turn-ons phase of the course.
25:38Another knock-a-pood cover.
25:40This phase is pretty intimidating.
25:42I always thought of myself as dead playful, dead flirty,
25:47but I started being really sheltered.
25:49So I do feel like I've got a lot to learn.
25:54I personally feel a bit deflated.
25:57A bit dejected.
25:58I'm lacking behind.
26:00I know it's a marathon and not a sprint,
26:02but some people are running.
26:05I'm trudging.
26:08The phase is exposing deep-seated fears.
26:14When it comes to younger people,
26:16around intimacy and touch,
26:18there's just a lot more self-consciousness.
26:20A lot of people are afraid, you know,
26:21oh, maybe I'm going to get cancelled or cross a boundary.
26:25Nowadays, there is a lot of risk in saying the wrong thing.
26:28Like, if I make a weird, stupid mistake talking to a girl,
26:32that's done, isn't it?
26:33I don't want to do something wrong.
26:34I don't want to do things too fast or too slow.
26:38If I do come across as a creep in any way, shape or form,
26:40I don't mean to.
26:42I'm so scared of the thought of that happening.
26:44What do you think we're going to do?
26:46I have no idea.
26:49Having already worked on discovering their turn-ons...
26:52Oh, this is so scary.
26:55Celeste and Danielle now want the group to feel it in their bodies.
26:59This is a really safe place that we can practice touching all over each other's bodies.
27:04This exercise can definitely get people aroused.
27:07And frankly, I hope it does.
27:13Okay.
27:14One of the things that really gets in the way of us feeling our turn-ons is inhibition.
27:20And today's workshop is all about letting out your inner animal.
27:30So we're going to do a little demo, and then you'll get a chance to practice with each other.
27:35Sex doesn't have to be this thing that is very curated.
27:39It can be animalistic and fun.
27:41Animal game, you don't need much to be good at it.
27:44It's more about connecting with your own impulses and unleashing your inner animal.
27:52There's another animal just next to you.
27:58And you can smell...
28:01And you can smell...
28:04...
28:05...
28:13...
28:15...
28:16...
28:16...
28:18...
28:18...
28:47I'm looking for a brave
28:54volunteer
28:55I've got an injured foot
28:57I know it sounds like a lame excuse but with like
28:59my foot and everything
29:01okay anyone else
29:05I'm going to go with Marianne
29:06great wonderful
29:10Joy takes the opportunity
29:12to practice with a woman
29:15so just take some nice
29:17deep breaths
29:19in and out
29:22when you feel ready
29:24start exploring each other with your
29:26hands
29:32good I love the way
29:34you're staying with the sensation
29:35and with your own bodies
29:51and how was that for you?
29:54Marianne made me feel very safe
29:56same it was very fun
30:00as more of the group
30:02step up
30:03follow what your body wants to do
30:07their animal instincts
30:09start to emerge
30:13touching
30:14and sensing
30:24anyone else
30:28fuck it
30:29yes
30:31up until now
30:33Bertie keeps holding back
30:35if I don't do it now I'll regret it later
30:38I think this is the worst time
30:40to be a young adult
30:42because if you're someone like me
30:45who struggles with
30:46approaching and
30:48talking to women
30:49it's near impossible
30:51right
30:51I constantly think about
30:54what I could do wrong
30:55rather than
30:57what I could do right
30:58but
30:59I have to do this
31:00because I want to improve my life
31:05start noticing
31:06that there's an animal
31:08inside you
31:10and you can rub against them
31:15you can hold
31:17are you okay?
31:20I'm good yeah
31:20you sure?
31:22yeah I'm fine
31:22you're getting comfy position
31:24yeah
31:31that's okay
31:32yeah
31:33let yourself feel
31:35how good it feels
31:47I think we're done
31:49yeah
31:49me too
31:50yeah
31:53amazing
31:54you want to share a little bit
31:56I was a bit apprehensive
31:57about doing it at first
31:58I mean I thought you were doing a good job
31:59it just all felt natural
32:00and not like really nice
32:01you've got nice hair to touch as well
32:03all that wax has come in handy
32:05that's what it is
32:10there we go
32:11well done to you
32:12thank you
32:19so
32:20how was that?
32:23I was still in that like
32:24oh
32:25like frisky mood
32:26let's say
32:26and I was like
32:27okay
32:27so I'm going to just have to calm myself back down
32:29and start from Bertie's level
32:32all right Bertie
32:33hello
32:34how did you find it?
32:35good
32:35good
32:36you had the right amount of pressure on me
32:37that I like
32:38it felt so natural
32:39and I was like
32:40this is
32:41yeah
32:42oh
32:43like to say
32:43this is one of the bravest things I've done
32:45would be the understatement
32:46of the millennium
32:48this isn't peer pressure
32:49or anything like that
32:50I just feel like
32:52I kind of have to participate
32:54because if I am going on this island
32:57to be the same old person
32:59that I was for all my life
33:01what am I doing here?
33:05as the course is going on
33:07I can see people learning and changing
33:09everybody's trying new things
33:11but for some people
33:12therapy is very slow
33:14and totally goes at the pace of the client
33:22Bertie may be working things out
33:24but discovering turn-ons for some
33:26is slow progress
33:28guys
33:28do you like hairy vaginas?
33:31I actually don't care
33:33yeah
33:33each to their own
33:34and it starts coming out of their nickel line
33:36and you're like
33:37oh god
33:38you need to shave
33:39oh no
33:40I don't really look after myself very much
33:42but
33:42no one's seeing it
33:44so
33:45after this that won't be true
33:50intimacy is challenging
33:52for everyone on the island
33:53but for 21 year old Callum
33:56it's also linked to tragedy
33:57my dad passed away
33:59two years ago
34:00he was an alcoholic
34:06I don't really know
34:08how to respond to it
34:10I'm living on my own
34:12in his house
34:12where he used to live
34:13and probably spend
34:15oh
34:16it's probably about 16 hours a day
34:18gaming
34:19erm
34:19I suppose it is
34:21a way to escape
34:22everything in the world
34:24I struggle to meet people in person
34:26makes me feel
34:29alone
34:33the experts want Callum
34:34to tackle his grief
34:37hi
34:37hello
34:38with clinical therapist
34:40Abby
34:44are there times in your life
34:45where you felt
34:46uncomfortable
34:47talking about these things
34:48yeah I think so
34:49I'm never really honest
34:51or open
34:52I think it was
34:53when my dad passed
34:54that I really started to notice
34:55a lot of the stuff
34:56about myself
34:56talk to me a little bit
34:58about that
35:01I really punished myself
35:02about everything
35:04yeah
35:05he got admitted to hospital
35:06because he'd fallen
35:07he was on the floor
35:08for two days
35:09and he couldn't get up
35:10he couldn't reach his phone
35:11to tell anyone
35:12yeah
35:12and the next day
35:14being told that
35:15you know
35:16he's not got long
35:16left to live
35:17so
35:19he died within two weeks
35:20yeah
35:20he got
35:22ugh
35:22it's okay
35:25liver cirrhosis
35:26talk about the feeling
35:27that comes up
35:27around that
35:28I still feel like
35:29I failed him
35:31that's not
35:32it's not for you
35:33to take on
35:38is it reasonable
35:39for you to take
35:40responsibility of that
35:41maybe not
35:44what are the thoughts
35:45running in your head
35:49regret
35:50yeah
35:55I just want to
35:57make him proud
35:58and not
35:59flatten his name
36:02you're making him proud
36:11really emotional
36:12because
36:13a lot of it
36:14is shit
36:14basically
36:15that
36:15I hate dealing with
36:17but
36:17I've never really had
36:18that emotional response
36:20and spoke properly
36:21with someone
36:22who understands it
36:23and it's
36:24kind of a fuzzy feeling
36:26I just feel
36:27I feel like
36:28I'm going to let off steam
36:29I want to run around
36:36hello
36:36hello
36:38how did it go
36:39very emotional
36:40looking at shit
36:41from a different angle
36:42I suppose
36:43do you feel
36:44good that it's been
36:45light off your chest
36:47tell you what though
36:48it's so hot in the teepee
36:49I sweated it all out
36:52it wasn't tears
36:53it was just sweat
36:53coming at your eyes
36:54yeah yeah
36:54it went tears
36:56no
37:06are you going to
37:07bomb it in
37:07yeah yeah yeah
37:09it's late afternoon
37:10we just like
37:12glided in
37:13and many of the group
37:15are embracing
37:16island life
37:16to be a man
37:18hey
37:18get your hair wet
37:19and just like
37:20come out and be fine
37:21yeah yeah
37:21no need to moisturise
37:23not need to like
37:24shower
37:25well I think men
37:26need showers
37:27I hope
37:28I hope they shower
37:30as some take a dip
37:32the experts have decided
37:34it's time for others
37:35to immerse themselves
37:36in the retreat's
37:37most advanced therapy
37:38undertaken by
37:40three specialists
37:42surrogate partner
37:43therapy works with
37:44the surrogate partner
37:45and the client
37:46practising with
37:47everything from
37:48different kinds of
37:48touch
37:49through genital touching
37:50oral sex
37:51or even intercourse
37:52so that people can
37:53practice the full range
37:55of sexual experiences
37:56first is 35 year old
37:59Ellen
38:00hello
38:01hello
38:03while all surrogate
38:04partner therapy
38:05is supported by
38:06clinical therapist
38:07Abby
38:07what I do
38:08is therapeutic
38:09emotional discussion
38:11Kat will be
38:12Ellen's surrogate
38:13partner therapist
38:14so I do the
38:15relationship side
38:16doing touch work
38:18and relational works
38:19like completely
38:20led by you
38:20okay
38:21and hands are like
38:23really important
38:24in lesbian sex
38:25yeah
38:26meanwhile
38:27Tegan will work
38:28with surrogate
38:29partner therapist
38:30Rizden
38:30and notice the
38:32sensation
38:33of me touching you
38:38how did that feel
38:39it felt good
38:40it felt really nice
38:41okay great
38:42but before Marianne
38:44can consider
38:44a surrogate relationship
38:46she first has to
38:47learn to trust men
38:49it gets to a point
38:50where I need to feel
38:51the energy
38:52you can feel
38:52they want more
38:54and I can't cross
38:55the boundary
38:55just can't
38:56my brain just gets
38:57stuck
38:58I really want to
38:59challenge myself
38:59I want to do it
39:00with a guy
39:00and see how I feel
39:06trust is everything
39:07out of all my friends
39:08I'm the only virgin
39:10and I do feel lonely
39:12but I do want to be
39:14in a relationship
39:14with someone
39:15if I haven't figured
39:16it out by 26 years
39:18then clearly
39:19I do need some help
39:21first step for Marianne
39:23hello
39:25is simply being
39:26comfortable in the
39:27same room as
39:28potential surrogate
39:29partner Andre
39:31how are you feeling
39:32now?
39:33a little bit anxious
39:34in my stomach
39:35and that's just
39:36because just of
39:37unknowns and things
39:39yeah
39:39working with Marianne
39:41it's very important
39:42that we start slowly
39:44to build the trust
39:45in myself
39:46I'm going to be
39:48moving around the room
39:49and you're going to be
39:51noticing how your body
39:53is reacting to where I am
39:55the idea is just to learn
39:56how someone being close to you
39:58can potentially feel
40:00yeah
40:01okay so go ahead
40:03and close your eyes
40:10and so I've moved
40:12you might feel
40:14I am further away
40:19see if there's any
40:21noticeable change
40:23in sensation
40:27growing up
40:28I really never saw
40:31how a relationship
40:32should be
40:33my dad just wasn't there
40:35and
40:36seven eight years ago
40:38I found out I had a new
40:38half-sister
40:39my dad was sort of
40:41collecting
40:41mini families
40:43yeah
40:46just noticing
40:47what's happening
40:48in your body
40:50so anything that reminds me
40:52of my dad
40:52you're instantly vetoed
40:53trust wise
40:54I'm very skeptical
40:59what was like kind of
41:01going on in your head
41:02by the end
41:04I liked it
41:05hmm
41:06it just felt
41:07warm
41:08by the end
41:09I felt
41:10if I'm being honest
41:12more sort of
41:13turned on with the second
41:14one that was there
41:14for some reason
41:15oh yeah
41:16wonderful
41:17okay
41:17great
41:18I feel a lot more
41:20relaxed here
41:21good
41:22after the exercise
41:23what a hug
41:24I would love a hug
41:26Marianne is clearly
41:28calmer
41:29it helps that you smell
41:30like salted caramel
41:31do I really
41:32yeah
41:33it's very like
41:34I like that
41:36I'm feeling a lot more
41:38reassured
41:39working with a guy
41:40he's very lovely
41:41and I felt
41:42very relaxed
41:44it has helped
41:45my brain
41:45not be as
41:48fearful
41:50I'm really proud
41:51of myself
41:55hi
41:55hi Marianne
41:56welcome back
41:57how did your
41:58one-to-one go
41:59it was
41:59good
42:00hell yeah
42:01nice to you
42:02how many people
42:03can actually fit
42:03in this bed
42:04that's a real question
42:05Bercy
42:05do you want to
42:06come join us
42:06in the bed
42:08actually please do
42:09it's an open invitation
42:10all right no worries
42:14after getting back
42:15on track earlier
42:16the experts don't want
42:18Bertie to lose
42:19momentum again
42:20Bertie jumped up
42:21I thought he was
42:22going to use his foot
42:22as an excuse
42:23but he didn't
42:24and he was so good
42:25he seems so sensual
42:27so like
42:29animalistic
42:30it's really important
42:31that he feels
42:32successful
42:32yeah
42:34when it comes to
42:36dating
42:36and sex
42:38I just want to be able
42:39to be more confident
42:41in myself
42:41and know what I'm doing
42:42because
42:43the thought of
42:45me
42:45approaching a woman
42:47and asking them out
42:48it would make them think
42:49oh god
42:51this is embarrassing
42:51what have I done
42:53to deserve being
42:54asked out by Bertie
42:57to help boost
42:58his confidence
42:59good afternoon
43:01Celeste wants to push
43:03Bertie's boundaries
43:05how was the workshop
43:06for you
43:06I know I got a few
43:07things wrong
43:08but that was the first
43:09time I didn't really
43:10feel uncomfortable
43:11I was super proud
43:13and impressed
43:13and I think we can
43:14use this session
43:15to just do more
43:16kinds of practices
43:17that will be helpful
43:18for you
43:19sounds good
43:19to get more technique
43:20together
43:21good to have
43:21brushed my teeth
43:22then
43:27Celeste starts
43:28to try to
43:29lay me back
43:30like this
43:31yeah exactly
43:33simulating
43:33the missionary position
43:35how am I going to
43:36do this
43:36it'll be awkward
43:37at first
43:37so don't worry
43:38about that
43:39okay
43:40teaching Bertie
43:41the basics
43:42and then you want
43:43to line up
43:44so that your
43:45dick is
43:45connected to my
43:46pussy
43:47oh god
43:48okay
43:51like this
43:52yeah exactly
43:58and you'll need
43:59to hold up
44:00some of your weight
44:00yeah sorry
44:01no it's okay
44:02and if you want
44:03me to show you
44:03what I mean
44:04I'm happy to do that
44:05that's fine
44:05you can
44:05if you want to
44:06if you lie down
44:09okay so if I'm
44:11on top of you
44:11yeah
44:12see how like
44:13I'm not all the
44:14way down
44:14yeah no
44:15it's just a little
44:16too much pressure
44:16on the chest
44:17oh yes
44:23when you thrust
44:24I want you to
44:24imagine that
44:25your cock
44:25is going
44:26inside my
44:27vagina
44:27like
44:28put this
44:28yes exactly
44:29yes
44:30yes
44:33you want to try
44:34doggy
44:34let's try
44:35okay
44:38then you get
44:39between my legs
44:39yeah
44:40and you pull
44:41me up
44:43exactly
44:43you can kind
44:44of be all
44:44the way
44:45up
44:45yes yes
44:47yes
44:48good
44:50yeah like that
44:55thank you very much
44:56I feel lightheaded
44:57oh yes I bet
44:59you are an absolute
45:00miracle worker
45:01I ain't leaving
45:02thank you very much
45:03I'm just going to be
45:04rooting you on
45:05in every moment
45:12oh yeah
45:13oh birdie boy
45:14hello
45:15how was it
45:15good
45:16Celeste
45:17has taught me
45:17how certain
45:19sexual positions
45:20work
45:20wow
45:23so yeah
45:23I feel very happy
45:25at the moment
45:26it's amazing
45:27what a
45:27what a bit of
45:29rolling around
45:30on the floor
45:31doing different
45:31sexual positions
45:32can do
45:33to one's
45:33mentality
45:34but I've made
45:36progress
45:36and I'm proud
45:37of myself
45:38for that
45:38and I'm thankful
45:39for everything
45:40that Celeste
45:41has taught me
45:42oh my
45:43god
45:47all that
45:47thrusting
45:48has made me
45:49hurt my
45:50bollocks
45:51it's because I have
45:52to sleep on my
45:53back tonight
45:54Christ almighty
45:56next time
45:57look at my pussy
45:59I'm definitely
46:00laughing
46:00the dating phase
46:01panics Ellen
46:02I just don't feel
46:03like I'm good enough
46:05Alex ups his game
46:07do you want to see
46:08how hard you are
46:09and things heat up
46:11cheers
46:11with island dates
46:13I'm so nervous
46:14still
46:14why
46:15I think it's
46:15because it's you
46:16I think it's
46:46I think it's
46:46because it's
46:47I think
46:47I feel
46:47I don't know
46:47well
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