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00:04I'm nervous I'm gonna take it one step at a time I'm absolutely petrified 12 virgins are
00:12traveling to a unique island retreat that could change their lives forever this is
00:19maybe the strangest day of my life being a virgin at the age of 22 feels very lonely
00:24I've just sort of given up all hope in a world saturated with sex more young adults than ever
00:32are caught in an intimacy epidemic the thought of having sex with someone scares me it gives me
00:38the ick I don't feel confident I'm missing out terrified of a thought of it nerve-wracking
00:43gut-wrenching embarrassing all I think about is what I'm gonna get wrong can you point to the
00:49outer labia nope now they're getting a crash course in intimacy social media porn dating apps there are
01:03so many negative messages and we can help them blossom use it by stimulating the area guided by
01:09a team of experts you see yourself as propulsive they'll confront their insecurities I'm hiding
01:16how upset actually feel exploring intimacy in every farm yes and maybe have sex with a trained
01:30therapist desperate times call for desperate measures or even one another why are you nervous
01:37around me I don't know I really do need to change my life the question is
01:44get a room guys who will finally be ready just like get a bit anxious to go all the way
01:52touching the hooker mm-hmm on virgin island
02:04it is such a beautiful day to show up on the island perfect for the next three weeks
02:10hi hi this groundbreaking retreat will be home to 12 young people would you like a hug yeah go on
02:20from all over the UK who need help well I didn't fall in the sea so I've done better than
02:28I thought I was gonna do
02:30I've never kissed anyone I've never dated anyone I've never had sex with anyone I am a grade A virgin
02:37my life just can't go on like this I just need to take your phone yes of course the retreats
02:42rules include a full break from the pressures of technology
02:45so you can just like dive in yeah yeah you see sex everywhere sex sells is the old cliche be
02:53it from
02:54social media porn but always thing on my mind is that I can't get an erection being a virgin at
03:00the
03:00age of 28 I feel almost a failure in many ways the group will live on the island for three
03:09weeks oh this
03:11is the recommendation totally cut off from the distractions of modern life go ahead and get
03:17settled okay there's clothes there thank you including the pressures of their appearance oh
03:23wow they're giving off jungle vibes I've always hated my body and I've got badly bullied over it in the
03:30past
03:30I'm terrified to be naked in front of someone it does make me cry when I think about it yeah
03:38it makes me really upset
03:46before the course begins the group have a chance to get to know each other at the hangout
03:52hello Colin I'm Katie hi nice to meet you where are you from Blackpool from Peterborough Peterborough yeah
04:05I literally don't do anything other than sit on my computer 24 7 I'm definitely addicted to gaming
04:13I don't really interact with any girls makes me feel alone where are you from oh sorry born in the
04:22UK
04:22but raised in South Africa but live in the UK I instantly don't trust men Alex it makes me a
04:31bit
04:31sad and I don't really know what to do about it to be honest so how old are you I'm
04:3828 you're 28 I'm 23
04:40I'm 22 26 I'm quite robotic with with women I've had no girlfriends that's a bit sad isn't it we've
04:50got
04:50another person hi hi with sexual intimacy I feel a little bit broken I can't have sex I have a
05:00condition called vaginismus if somebody tried to touch my vagina it would be pain and it would be
05:05discomfort and I'm living life in fear the way that you're seen as a woman who can't physically
05:13have sex is like what's the point one of the reasons that people are not having sex is there's
05:20just a lot more self-consciousness everybody's being watched all the time you know by their
05:25parents by social media by their friends so we're seeing a lot more people just not getting out there
05:31and connecting there's lots of fear around being cancelled and they're terrified of failing but we
05:38got amazing results last time and I have really high hopes for this new group of virgins hi everyone
05:45I'm Ellen nice to meet you all how old are you um 35 only just I don't want to get
05:55to 40 and still be
05:58the virgin the expectation of you're married you've got kids and at 35 I haven't got those things I feel
06:06like a freak really and like I've you know let let people down yeah so is anyone else in the
06:15lgbtq plus
06:17community obviously yeah you can't be the only gay on the island trust me or not I grew up in
06:23a very
06:24traditional town there wasn't a lot of open queer people when I knew I was bi I didn't tell my
06:31parents
06:31I was actually quite scared I identify as bisexual but I'm quite a late bloom at school it was a
06:39discussion about masturbation I thought it was a game show I thought it was mastermind hello hello my
06:48name's Ed what's he wouldn't know first what's your star sign I feel like an outsider a lot of the
06:58time the big part of that is my disability I was born that a right pectoral restricted movement in my
07:04wrist and my arm it has impacted the way I am I wouldn't have the confidence to talk skills I
07:11find
07:14it really hard hey you're the last one oh my nose will I've just turned 30 I'm a virgin being
07:21a virgin
07:22it's not something I'm proud of something I experienced when I was younger is premature
07:26ejaculation fear that may still be an issue now so I think when I have sex for the first time
07:30it's
07:31gonna be really quick the idea of like having sex is like crazy it's a far away dream for me
07:38yeah yeah
07:39they had a girlfriend ever same yeah one of the nicknames I have is posh Bertie I'm a very
07:46well-spoken individual I've not told anyone that I'm a virgin but I think people would guess yeah
07:54he's a virgin to me definitely feel one step behind everyone yeah the group knows the weeks ahead won't
08:04be easy but they have a determination to change their lives breathe into your own body this unique
08:13course has been created by pioneering sex therapists Celeste and Danielle let it out the ethos at the
08:23retreat is very supportive there's so much for them to learn we have new exercises new experts and some
08:32special surprises supported by a team of sex therapists from across the globe trained in a
08:41range of touch base therapies which finger would you like to enter me with they'll address the group's
08:47anxieties she is terrified of lowering the mask and push them to their limits hidden away on the island a
08:58dedicated therapy spaces and private bedrooms where they'll begin to explore intimacy I'm hoping that
09:07everybody gets to find out who they are as a sexual being regardless of being a virgin but it is
09:13going to be a
09:14huge challenge each phase of the course will challenge the group like never before
09:25as they take their first steps towards sexual connection
09:39and it all starts here oh my god
09:43I'm so nervous yeah oh welcome by confronting one of the biggest barriers to intimacy
09:54shame
09:57welcome to virgin island we're so excited to have you here this phase is all about shame
10:05shame really interrupts pleasure and so we are shame warriors we want wiping away the shame that gets in
10:16your way if I could shake off the shame of being a virgin I'd feel a lot happier in myself
10:22I feel judged and it's not
10:26something that I would talk about really first Celeste and Danielle will perform an intimate
10:34demonstration designed to reveal the group's level of awkwardness and shame so this demo is called pillow talk
10:43there's a bed oh my god it's like a little bit sick yeah terrified we want to find out who's
10:50comfortable
10:50watching intimacy and the different kinds of talk and touch that come with romance
10:55that come with passion that come with erotic energy
10:59mmm
11:01oh my god your eyes are so beautiful and sexy and
11:08the way you hold yourself turns me on so much I think I'm gonna have to smell you
11:19I feel so lucky
11:21mmm to be able to touch you
11:39any feelings watching it
11:47like we're having to watch it with other people it's a bit yeah I think I just feel like a
11:52little
11:52bit guilty I think like the idea of watching this and then being asked to like do that that's like
12:02sinful growing up as a Christian you kind of feel you you should be one way which is usually a
12:08very
12:08good way I have to be kind I have to be soft but I have a sexual side to myself
12:15it kind of brings on
12:16these feelings of shame and and fear because you feel you're doing something sinful for wanting to
12:22experience pleasure and I don't see a light at the end of the tunnel right now we all have ideas
12:30and
12:30judgment and what we think we should be and all those interventions frees us up the best way to work
12:38your way out of shame is to start to get a different reaction to shame to help the group do
12:46that you are
12:48going to get your scratch on no Celeste and Danielle start with a series I am folding my arm of
13:00deliberately uncomfortable exercises now gonna be choo-choo train I see myself as very socially awkward and
13:15and sometimes weird shake it shake it shake it I was diagnosed with autism I get nervous I get stressed
13:24my eye contact goes all over the place being a virgin you just feel very isolated and you feel very
13:30ashamed of yourself
13:34after the warm-up Celeste and Danielle raise the stakes with a more challenging physical exercise
13:41so I want a brave volunteer somatic therapy is not just focusing on the brain it's helping people in a
13:48more physical experiential way I'll do it for 28 year old graduate Alex going first is a chance to face
13:59his
13:59fears anxiety has played a massive part in my life going to private school I put myself under a lot
14:05of
14:05pressure that if I didn't perform my best I thought I'd let people down and never really knew how bad
14:10it
14:10was until I tried to have sex and was too nervous to do it anything less than perfect is is
14:16not good enough
14:16for me so I'm gonna start by touching you for my pleasure and then you're gonna touch me for your
14:23pleasure I'm starting by connecting with myself and feeling my body
14:49I'm gonna try yeah sure
15:07was okay really feeling it in your body that's what we're going for after Alex's attempt others step
15:15up to give it a try you might do it a bit harder harder while some get to grips with
15:27the exercise
15:29how's that feel feel nice yeah others can't even bear to watch
15:55I'll stop bleed if you want
16:07anyone else want to give it a try
16:13counting one counting two counting three
16:22oh my god personally that was a little bit creepy I need to be able to be confident in myself
16:29to do the
16:30whole touching exercise I believe the cool kids call it riz I need to have good riz at the start
16:37like when they was doing all the work you know yeah I thought we'd have to do that to each
16:42other I was
16:47to throw yourself in as much as possible to experience like all these cringe things and
16:50embarrassing things was a struggle joy if you don't mind me asking why um was it so hard for
16:56you the whole touching thing why do you get a like a better reaction to it yeah no worries that
17:05workshop
17:05was such an emotionally intense experience to come on the island day one and be expected to have some
17:11kind of erotic energy there's a really hard thing for me I didn't realize how uncomfortable that might
17:17make me feel next time I would walk out so beautiful yeah isn't it oh come here come here Lizzie
17:36oh my god I've
17:38never seen Elizabeth before oh I don't like it come out at night and nibble you might have to tuck
17:44my
17:45trousers into my socks in case it pulls up my leg and he's gone it's halfway through day one on
17:52Virgin Island I don't want to name exact figures but I think it was like one in eight people
17:57virgins at 25 so in a room this big it's like one and a bit people well I think in
18:01this in this room
18:02it'd be on an island on a Virgin Island every day the experts gather to evaluate progress and work out
18:13which therapies will be most effective it's very interesting to see how they reacted to different
18:19exercises oh they've got a one-on-one sessions here guys oh my god afternoons are dedicated to
18:26individual therapy sessions for those working through specific intimacy issues I don't know if
18:33I feel more calm or more stressed yeah everybody has this fear like oh my god it's gonna be so
18:40scary
18:40or uncomfortable but you have to completely rewire your brain in order for change to really happen
18:46hi there all right how do you feel kind of on edge I guess mm-hmm the more you can
18:54be honest and drop
18:55into your truth without too much humor yeah I can't promise you that that is gonna allow us to go
19:00somewhere oh I don't like this I don't like crying I feel like I just can't relax I'm still really
19:06scared
19:06I'm not sure why out of all the reactions from this morning the experts were most struck by joys when
19:16Will and Marianne were touching I could see her some tears came out she really struggled with that
19:28some came up for you today in the workshop well I feel like I have this weight on my shoulders
19:32of
19:33like I'm a Christian you have to be good yeah and experiencing sexual pleasure for like for fun
19:38mm-hmm how is that good yeah but it isn't just feelings of religious shame that are holding joy back
19:45I know I have a sexual side to me mm-hmm but I have vaginismus vaginismus is a condition related
19:54to your
19:54pelvic floor and also has a psychological fear component around the idea of insertion or entry
20:00the moment I realized that I had vaginismus it was like this whole idea of a sector of my life
20:06that
20:06could be just closed up I can't wear a tampon I can't do a pap smear and I definitely can't
20:12have sex
20:13it's just it's so hard at one point like I literally thought that God cursed me with vaginismus I thought
20:20he like I thought he did it to me to stop me from having sex and I feel like that
20:25it's hard to like undo
20:27that feeling maybe that first piece is about pleasure being good I feel like I'm like no it's
20:43not no it's not no it's not and that clench happens probably all the way into your vagina so I
20:51want you
20:51to feel all of the tightness and the clenchedness and then you can feel the the contrast let's feel
20:57the clench and then like a little shakiness happened in your did you feel it yeah you know what that
21:13is
21:14what that's like a little tiny release of trauma oh wow from all the holding
21:21you deserve to have that circuit of pleasure
21:29shame gets in the way of sexual intimacy and you cannot get to the other side of shame
21:35until you expose it I feel a bit like in shock it was it was quite intense I just hadn't
21:41even realized
21:42all the tension I've been holding in my body it just made me realize like how much I need this
21:47experience for a gold star lesbian my mind's constantly in the gutter what's a gold star
21:56gold star lesbian is someone who has never had sex with a man oh okay the thought of a penis
22:01going near
22:02me scares me in a way that's like ew get away nothing to do with you guys I'm like anything
22:08below their
22:08tummy I'm like no I mean you probably all have amazing penises I'm not saying as the group starts
22:23to bond oh this is really like given hippie vibes isn't it Celeste and Danielle aim to push them
22:29further in the next exercise to help release their shame once and for all all right well as we said
22:39this part of the course is all about shame what we want you to do is write in your notebooks
22:45all the
22:45negative things people say about you and all the self-critical thoughts you keep repeating to yourself
22:52we really need to get them out so that if we can take the power away from them
23:01the group have been sent off in pairs to share their shame words it's difficult yeah I'm not
23:08exactly an open book people see me as fat ugly and as they identify their insecurities I don't like how
23:17I'm not at all that good socially it's why I've never been on a date before really yeah their barriers
23:26come down ugly unattractive to girls have been able to get a date in years my anxiety particularly
23:35around intimacy and interacting with women I worry that I'm just not good enough but 23 year old Katie
23:46bad things people are saying about me is writing more than most I was once labeled the ugliest girl in
23:52school oh my god a whale fat obese ugly a liar monster disappointment and frigid because I've never gone
24:04with anyone before yeah I know how it feels to have something horrible said to me sometimes I look in
24:15the mirror to make myself upset because I need a good cry and it works I don't think there's ever
24:21been a time where I truly have felt good in my looks ever no those things people have actually said
24:31about you to my face or online where I've seen online yeah people that I know in person oh my
24:37my life yeah commented publicly oh my gosh I'm so sorry
24:53figuring out the words though is only half the exercise how did you find that it's quite challenging I was
25:04but this one's for you thank you now the experts want them to write their words down on a t
25:09-shirt to
25:10confront and let go of their self-doubt I'm going to invite you to narrow down from all the things
25:16that
25:16you've written which ones hold the most emotion so that you can create a t-shirt that's a symbol of
25:23all
25:27I'm scared that I'm going to get upset.
25:29Thinking back about all the memories and stuff from school
25:32and all the bad things that I got told,
25:35and I say to myself, it's quite difficult.
25:40But I really do want to be able to get as much out of this as I can.
25:46It's scary, though.
25:53MUSIC
26:03Good morning. Good morning. Good morning.
26:05Good morning.
26:06Hey, you guys, how are we going? Morning.
26:09Ooh, we've got raisins.
26:10Don't tell me you're eating a lemon.
26:12I like lemon.
26:14It's the morning on Virgin Island.
26:18I'm really nervous today.
26:20And the sessions are set to become even more revealing.
26:23As we go through this phase,
26:25I do feel quite a big shame over myself.
26:29So I'm a little bit apprehensive.
26:32I was so nervous at first workshop.
26:33My heart was going.
26:34I didn't realise how nervous I was.
26:36Sex and intimacy are meant to be natural
26:38and experienced by lots of people and enjoyed,
26:40whereas me, I sort of feel scared of them.
26:42Let's go.
26:44I have no idea how far I'm going to go with this.
26:47You know, it's only going to get more intense from here.
26:50PHONE RINGS
26:53Having faced many hard truths...
26:55Hello.
26:57..Celeste and Danielle's next exercise
26:59will challenge the group even further.
27:02Oh, dear, that was a bird.
27:04Oh, God.
27:06..with some exposure therapy, Virgin Island style.
27:10Society gives these negative messages to us
27:13about what it means to be a sexual being.
27:15So it's really important to get comfortable with intimacy.
27:21Today, you're going to be exploring erotic life drawing.
27:25Oh, darling.
27:27You're going to invite our lovely models.
27:30There they are.
27:31Here they are.
27:33The only time that I've seen vagina or boobs
27:36is off like Sticky Vicky when I went to Benidorm.
27:39That is probably the only time I've ever really seen it in real life.
27:43I have seen some images online and I'm like,
27:46oh, actually, penises are a bit ugly.
27:50I know the different parts and the names of the female anatomy,
27:54but do you know, I genuinely don't think I've seen one in person.
27:59I'm the most white meat virgin you could possibly meet.
28:03Don't hide.
28:05Keep your eyes open and be curious.
28:23Oh, my God.
28:25So many naked parts right now.
28:27So I don't want you to worry about showing off your artistic talent.
28:31It's really about looking at a naked body
28:34and letting yourself feel the sensuality of that.
28:37Oh, my gosh.
28:38Oh, my gosh.
28:40Just roll.
28:44Stop this.
28:46Oh, we got this.
28:48We're expecting to see some discomfort, embarrassment,
28:53to be exposed to naked bodies.
28:56We can really see the comfort level.
29:00Stop making me laugh, Jason.
29:04Embarrassing.
29:08I can't tell you what's more.
29:11All I can see is vaginas and boobs.
29:17Whilst the sight of naked bodies has everyone giggling awkwardly...
29:21I really feel uncomfortable.
29:23Ellen is struggling the most.
29:30Growing up, my parents would never talk about sex.
29:34And at the time, there wasn't the internet as there is now.
29:37I'm in my 30s.
29:39I am gay.
29:40And I've not had a relationship and I've not had experience around sexual intimacy.
29:45Sex, it's something that I feel anxious about.
29:53Don't want to do it.
29:55No-one is seeing mine because it is absolutely terrible.
29:58You don't have to show me if you don't want to.
30:01One-second sneak peek.
30:02Done.
30:04Can I have a two-second sneak peek?
30:05No.
30:06So we really want to thank our beautiful models here.
30:13Any thoughts that you want to share?
30:19Yeah.
30:19I was instantly like, oh my gosh, oh my gosh, I shouldn't be watching this.
30:22I felt the discomfort of that.
30:24Yeah.
30:30It felt like you were literally watching, like, a group porno.
30:32I was like, oh, I want to look, but I was like, oh, it feels wrong to look.
30:35Yeah.
30:36Nudity felt a bit too soon for me.
30:40Despite being the oldest of the group.
30:43Can you kiss someone?
30:44Do you do it with your eyes open or your eyes closed?
30:47No.
30:47Please don't be that person.
30:50Ellen's lack of experience is clear to everyone.
30:55She was having a hard time to look at you.
30:57Yeah.
30:58I'm excited to have a session with her to introduce her to the first steps of intimacy.
31:04With a storm approaching, Ellen's feeling a little blustered.
31:09Hello.
31:10It's windy.
31:15Ellen.
31:17You have a sexy smile.
31:20Okay.
31:23Lou had a tiny, tiny little exchange of erotic energy.
31:27Yeah.
31:28Okay.
31:28Did you feel it?
31:29Um, no, but I guess I don't know what that feeling is because I've not experienced it before.
31:37Yeah.
31:44You know what I love?
31:46Awkward silences where you just look at each other.
31:49Okay, yeah.
31:56A lot of times that's what happens right before a kiss.
32:00Yeah.
32:02But I don't...
32:04I don't want that to happen to you.
32:06No, we're not doing that today.
32:07We're just talking in a flirtatious way.
32:12What do you think?
32:13Um, I'm thinking I'm fine as long as you're on that chair and I'm on this chair.
32:17I'm staying over here, don't worry.
32:24Thank you, bye.
32:28How was that, Ellen?
32:28Um, in my head I was like, okay, I'm going to jump in.
32:32And then when I got in there I was like, all of a sudden just like my body closed up.
32:38I don't like the idea of someone coming into my personal space.
32:43That's why I'm here.
32:44Like, I've never been very good at it.
32:46And I feel like a failure.
32:48Yeah.
32:58So, are you into females then?
33:00I am a straight, heterosexual male.
33:04Nice.
33:04You are...
33:05You're bisexual, aren't you?
33:08Do you know what?
33:09It was so weird.
33:10I had a dream last night of you guys.
33:11Mainly Alex.
33:12Weird.
33:14I can't wait to tell her.
33:16Hello.
33:17Did you know Katie dreamt about you last night?
33:20No, that's not what I did.
33:22Is it what happened in the dream, Kate?
33:25She doesn't really know.
33:26I don't remember at all.
33:29Though Katie was dreaming of Alex, for him yesterday's workshop was a nightmare.
33:35I demoed with him yesterday.
33:38I felt he was really frozen.
33:41He can be a little in his head.
33:43So, I'm curious if we're going through exercises, if he's just going to perform them rather than, like, actually experiencing
33:50sensation and emotions.
33:53Yeah.
33:53What did it feel like when you, like, touched him?
33:56Panicky.
33:57I don't know how calm it looked, or how I looked.
34:00But, yeah, my heart was going, I was shaking a bit.
34:05So, Danielle's decided to dig deeper.
34:08Hello.
34:09Come on in.
34:10Into what's holding him back.
34:12I feel your heart beating all the way to here.
34:16Sex for me has always been quite a nervous thing.
34:19I've always had anxiety, I've always had performance anxiety, sports, homework, whatever.
34:23And so, the first time I tried to have sex, I couldn't get an erection because I was just too
34:27nervous.
34:27Mm-hmm.
34:28Not being able to get an erection, it's constantly playing on my mind.
34:32It feels embarrassing even to say it because it's like, oh, this is something that old people deal with.
34:37But I just feel, like, defeated by it.
34:41You spend a lot of time trying to control your body from your head.
34:45I want to invite you to start to let your body control as opposed to the opposite.
34:49Yeah.
34:49So, what I want us to do now is for you to touch me.
34:53Mm-hmm.
34:53And really let yourself enjoy.
34:56And do what feels good, yeah.
34:57What feels good to you.
34:59This time, Danielle wants to see if Alex can fully immerse himself in his sensations.
35:04Are you okay for me to start?
35:05Yes, please.
35:07Okay, I'm going to start with your arm.
35:28Let me move down to your chest.
35:37Mm-hmm.
35:38Mm-hmm.
35:48Penny for your thoughts.
35:51The main overriding thing is still that worry of not getting an erection.
35:55but this is like the building blocks so I really want us to have soft goals as opposed to hard
36:04because your full body is like a big erection you know like a full body is a pleasure tool
36:12it's not only a cock that's a pleasure tool to get it yeah absolutely yeah yeah
36:25what did you do just your mutual touching really but I think I went into it thinking oh yeah she'll
36:31cure me and I won't feel anxious ever again around women but you're not gonna get cured on the first
36:36session yeah oh are you doing it you do it like that really I thought it was like that whilst
36:46the
36:47others start to embrace island life Bertie's finding it harder to adjust okay a mixture of
36:54all nerves I don't like you sitting by yourself I'm okay I do feel like the weak link and the
37:01odd
37:01one out because I'm not very sociable I'm still cautious I'm still nervous okay Bertie I'm good
37:07you're right yeah I was gonna go brush me gums and do a dance but what on earth am I
37:13gonna be like
37:14in the days to come when it gets more challenging and more intense this whole island is it's it's
37:23not just virgin island it's unpredictability island
37:35you know what most women say is the length they want to have sex for
37:42four and a half minutes four and a half yeah no they want to have sex no sure yeah yeah
37:48they want
37:49sex the actual P and V to be four and a half minutes really what's P and V penis and
37:54vagina oh that's good
38:02it's mid-afternoon on virgin island how are you all right I don't know when everyone's all together
38:09it just gets a bit awkward for me you know I like my oh my god nearly fell off I
38:13like my
38:15my space a bit more just gonna just take it easy for a bit okay I'll see you soon no
38:19worries
38:20in terms of sex I've got no clue which is pretty embarrassing coming from someone who's 24 years old
38:27but I don't want to be alone in my whole life I just want to be able to live normally
38:33and just
38:35find more confidence in in myself hi Celeste aims to start Bertie's route to intimacy by helping him
38:45with connection hello oh hello how do you feel about eye contact uh-huh I knew that was gonna
38:56come out I am terrible at it yeah my eye contact goes all over the place um no matter who
39:01I'm talking
39:01to well I do feel like you you think a lot I am an overthinker so I want to slow
39:07it down a little bit
39:07like let your brain relax a moment and then see what it's like to come back more deliberately and connect
39:14and look at me this is a bit awkward isn't it intimacy is super awkward I know that's not going
39:28to go
39:28away yeah so let's just be awkward together
39:42it's hard to take it seriously it is and you don't have to take it so seriously you can think
39:47we're just having fun together yeah yeah yeah you've got some good sexy eye contact you might
40:00not know it and now you're looking at me so much more I feel connected to you after Bertie perfects
40:10the sexy eyes great so if you want to scooch over a little bit yeah Celeste decides to increase the
40:17intimacy what if I like came in right there for a second I mean that would be weird but okay
40:27yeah
40:32oh that's so nice you just perfectly like invited me and cuddled me Wow
40:43hmm I really like it when you kind of rest your cheek against my head yes it you're very nice
40:50natural feels natural exactly good it's not long before Celeste's technique boosts Bertie's confidence
41:03I'll see them giving you a little kiss on the floor I felt that I love that
41:08what about can I go on yeah
41:14have I got a lipstick now you're having a kiss excellent you're having a great kiss
41:21thank you very much love you bye okay bye
41:26so Celeste was just brilliant and this has happened I feel a lot more relieved and a lot more at
41:36ease with
41:36everything that was a bit of a confidence boost for me hi Bertie hello okay you want to know how
41:42it
41:42went what do you think let's go Bertie's not going to wash his cheek
41:58as the sun sets on the retreat the first phase of the cost draws to a close the first phase
42:06of the course has been really intense getting
42:10rid of shame is foundational to being able to have a pleasurable sex life but
42:14the way that they have taken it on it's unprecedented they all have challenges they
42:19all have traumas but every individual is beautiful and unique and the sky's the
42:24limit in terms of what's possible here to move forward the group must let go of
42:30their negative emotions so the experts have arranged a ceremonial bonfire to
42:40burn away their lifetime of shame we've asked you to face your shame directly you
42:48have talked about it put it on your t-shirts and now it's time to let it go the hope
42:55is
42:56this ritual marks a turning point and the start of the rest of their lives so for
43:01me shame is feeling ugly um sorry um yeah I felt ugly like most of my life and I feel
43:16ashamed of
43:17myself for you know putting on weight so brave are you ready to let it go yeah it's going in
43:25the fire
43:27let it go let it go physical appearance is a common theme I look at everyone else around me and
43:38I think
43:38they're far more attractive never getting matched than dating apps and it's it makes me feel really
43:43craft that myself fat and ugly unlovable and I take up too much room quite literally I actually got
43:51voted ugliest girl in the whole school oh my god and depending on the people I could be too loud
43:56or
43:56to a quiet word so
44:06NGE is not good enough I always feel like I'm falling short of a lot of things
44:11deep-rooted issues around self-worth are also shared across the group I feel as though like I'm
44:18perceived as childish and I'm a bit unambitious I've been told I'm too loud it's good I'm too much for
44:26some people and then that kind of leads on to the second point which is that I'm unlikable and
44:32unlovable I've not had an adult relationship at all I feel terribly unwanted I seriously do
44:40are you ready to let it go I think I've been like carrying with me some feelings about myself
45:07since I was about 12 and I think having these horrible thoughts that I'm a horrible person
45:15and that people don't like me and I'm really dirty and sinful
45:30writing it down on the t-shirt was one thing but to actually speak it out was liberating yeah
45:38I found it really difficult to throw my top in the fire I'm just hoping I can become more at
45:44one with
45:46myself shame is something that I specifically struggle with a lot I feel a lot lighter all my
45:52worst things I think about myself finally like out there and I burned them next time your dick is
46:02connected to my pussy it's the turn-on phase where the group discover their animal instincts there's
46:08another animal next to you oh oh no emotions are laid bare quite sad that I'm still stuck with that
46:17feeling and for some things are on the up felt really nice when you're brushing past my genitals
46:25would you like me to do that yeah
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